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00:03Do you feel a bit rusty, Romance?
00:04Yes, very rustier.
00:06Definitely need a WD for our day.
00:09I need some help.
00:10It's hard out there.
00:12I am very single at the moment.
00:15I've run out of swipes.
00:16I've completed Tinder.
00:19In the heart of Britain's most romantic city.
00:22Aloha.
00:24Fred and his team.
00:25This is Captain Fur Potato.
00:27Are matching hopeful singletons.
00:29We're getting married, Merlin.
00:31In a place where love is always on the menu.
00:35I've got a bit in your finger.
00:36You didn't go that far down the street.
00:40These daters.
00:41You probably think I'm having a poo or something.
00:43Are searching.
00:46For the one.
00:49Would you chase me around the bedroom?
00:50Absolutely.
00:51Get your coat.
00:52I'm in.
00:53For some, stepping into the unknown.
00:57Can lead to surprising sparks.
01:00I work in the adult industry.
01:02Do you have an office for that?
01:03I have a dungeon.
01:05But finding a connection.
01:07A love story is about to begin.
01:10Shut up.
01:11Isn't always easy.
01:13Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
01:19Help me.
01:21In the end, it comes down to one big question.
01:28Would you guys like to see each other again?
01:31This isn't a total crit, is it?
01:32This is the First Dates restaurant.
01:36This is the First Dates restaurant.
02:02So it's up to us to challenge their types.
02:05Too dark and handsome is definitely a bit of me.
02:09My type?
02:10Oh.
02:11Do you want the fancy version or the real version?
02:15What's your type?
02:16My type?
02:17Brunette.
02:18Slightly shorter than me.
02:20Boxing.
02:21Oh.
02:22Oh.
02:22What does boxing mean?
02:24Look it up.
02:25Hi.
02:27Look it up.
02:29Come on, son.
02:31All good.
02:33Ha.
02:34Bosh.
02:36British Army Sergeant Paul is on a special mission to find love.
02:41How many medals have you actually won?
02:44We don't win them.
02:45No, we don't win them.
02:47It's not like the egg and spoon race.
02:51A lot of graft went into them.
02:53It's the British Army.
02:54Don't just hand them out.
02:56So this one here is Northern Ireland, Iraq, Afghanistan.
02:59I went there like twice.
03:01You get deployed here, there, and everywhere, you know.
03:04I think that can then put strain on relationship.
03:09How are you?
03:09Very good.
03:10Yeah, I'm all good.
03:10You're a gentle giant.
03:11Oh, you're even better looking in real life.
03:14Thank you very much.
03:15You've got a tan.
03:16Have you been on holiday?
03:16I'm in the British Army.
03:18So we're out in Jabrot.
03:20And a little bit of a Costa del Sunbed.
03:23So what are you looking for?
03:25Just have that sort of connection, a bit of a spark, you know.
03:28People don't know what they want.
03:29Yeah, yeah, yeah.
03:29What they think they do, and when they're faced with what they want,
03:32it's like they pedal back.
03:33They're not sure anymore.
03:35I feel like a lot of women nowadays,
03:37they sort of say they want like a man's man,
03:39but they don't really want to.
03:40They want someone they can sort of boss about, you know.
03:43I'm going to be a bit cheap here and get two drinks.
03:45Can I get a moretti and can I get a glass of Prosecco?
03:47And a glass of Prosecco.
03:49Yeah, I'll do these little Prosecco chasers.
03:50Double parking.
03:51Yeah, double parking.
03:52So what's your dream girl?
03:53That's the million dollar question.
03:56Someone who's sort of like down to earth, like, um,
03:59don't take themselves like too seriously.
04:02Someone who's not too high maintenance.
04:09Ex-girl band member Natalie wants more than just another groupie.
04:14At 17 years old, I was in a group called Times Four.
04:19That's me.
04:20We were on tour with people like Blue, Liberty X, Atomic Kitten.
04:26I was so thin, I had abs.
04:34Oh, la, la.
04:36You are taking your time to make your entrance, aren't you?
04:39You are milking it.
04:41Trying my best.
04:42You are so beautiful.
04:43To be honest, try not to fall over, Fred.
04:45The best feeling I think you can have is when you walk into a room
04:49and someone's face lights up.
04:51You know, I want to have that effect on somebody
04:53and I want them to do that for me as well.
04:55So your date is at the bar.
04:57Oh, OK.
04:58If you look past my shoulder here...
04:59OK.
05:00He looks like a Viking.
05:01He's just missing an axe.
05:03The thing that I find most sexy is somebody that's tall.
05:08I definitely like to see some beautiful muscles.
05:12I'm really loving Aaron Pierre, who's like Mufasa in The Lion King.
05:20But he's way too young for me.
05:21But an older version of him would be fabulous.
05:24So, yes, please.
05:28Hello, you all right?
05:29Hello there.
05:30You all right?
05:31How are you?
05:31Nice to meet you.
05:32You all right?
05:33Nice to meet you.
05:34Natalie, Paul.
05:35How's it going?
05:35Hi, Paul.
05:36You all right?
05:37Yeah.
05:38How you feeling?
05:39It's quite nerve-wracking, isn't it?
05:41Yeah, yeah, definitely.
05:42What do you do?
05:44I'm in the British Army, which is good.
05:45I'd say it's probably the best job in the world, but, like, I'm probably a bit biased.
05:50So, does that mean that you're away quite a bit, or...?
05:55I've duly got away, but, like, it's not for, like, long, long periods, you know?
06:04I bet you've got some stories.
06:07The acts, it's almost like fast food.
06:11Right?
06:12It's like people flip through, and they flip through, and they flip through, and they want...
06:16You have to fit into the exact box, and I think there's a part where you have to be like,
06:21you know what, you have to figure out that sometimes the person that you have envisioned
06:25in your mind is probably not the person you're going to wind up with.
06:29God, yeah.
06:30Right?
06:30Yeah.
06:37Is that... that's a real animal, isn't it?
06:39This is Captain Fur Potato, or Furpy, who is my hearing dog.
06:46Furpy is here with Kerry, a forensic psychologist,
06:49hoping to find some puppy love.
06:52I've spent 30 years sat in prison cells, eye to eye, with really serious offenders,
07:00murderous serial killers.
07:02But going into the First Aid restaurant,
07:05that is something that is completely out of my comfort zone.
07:09Oh, my God.
07:11He is delicious. How old is he?
07:14He's four now. He's a Pekingese, he's a rescue dog,
07:18so he's all the way from Belarus, so I'm guessing that he barks in a Russian accent.
07:24They say find a man that looks at you in the same way that your dog looks at you,
07:29but Furpy just stares at me with his tongue hanging out,
07:32so I don't think that's going to work.
07:35What's happening with you and dating?
07:38Nothing, really. It's tumbleweed.
07:41Tumbleweed?
07:41Tumbleweed. Oh, come off it.
07:43Well, I am a career girl, but also, the last five years,
07:49I lost my hearing.
07:51I think it's taken me five years to adapt to it.
07:55So you can lip-read?
07:56I lip-read, yeah, but it's always slightly, slightly dodgy.
08:01This will certainly be the first date since I've been a deaf person.
08:05I read that 75% of users of a dating app would swipe left
08:11if the person on the profile was deaf,
08:13so I've got to admit that I do feel anxious about it.
08:18So tell me, what kind of gentleman are you hoping to meet today?
08:22Some hunky yet down-to-earth man who is very comfortable in his masculinity.
08:30I always thought that at this stage in my life I would be married.
08:35It would be nice to have holidays with somebody
08:38or to go dog-walking with somebody.
08:42He's got to love animals and it would be wonderful if he wants to leave the world
08:46in a better state than he found it.
08:52Kerry's date is PC Dan.
08:55He's great at finding the bad guys.
08:57He just can't seem to find love.
08:59I'm a response officer, which means 24-7 policing,
09:07going to 999 calls every day.
09:10When I field the application form at the age of 20 years old,
09:14I wanted to fight crime, I wanted to run after people,
09:16I wanted to climb fences and get burglars.
09:19I'm like a dinosaur on the front line now.
09:21But the adrenaline you get when you blew light into jobs is still there.
09:25You're walking like a strong man.
09:27Are you a strong man? How were you then?
09:29I think so. I've got a strong beard.
09:31There was two sides of me.
09:34Literally, I walked through the door after work and is uniform straight off.
09:39Comfies on, cup of tea, biscuits, massive chocolate fan.
09:43Have you been doing much dating recently?
09:45Yeah. I've done quite a lot of online dating.
09:48I would say I've probably been on over 100 dates in the last six years.
09:54I've been catfished a few times, ghosted a few times, and it's very draining.
09:59And where are you in your life now? What are you looking for?
10:02I'm looking for a partner, a full-life partner, yeah.
10:05Yeah. I want to have someone that can be a best mate.
10:09Hello. Hi. Pleased to meet you.
10:11How are you? Pleased to meet you. Good, thank you.
10:13Kerry. Nice to meet you. Hi.
10:15How are you? Not too bad.
10:16So you've got a dog? I have got a dog, yes.
10:18Wow. What's this one's name?
10:20This one's name is Furpy. And what's your name?
10:24My name's Dan. Hi, Dan.
10:25Sorry. How come you brought your dog along, then?
10:29I brought my dog along because I think that if you don't like my dog, then...
10:36Part of the package. He's like a teddy bear.
10:38He is like a teddy bear, yes. I'm loving it.
10:41Does he go over there? Do you like dogs?
10:43Yeah, I do. Yeah, have you got one?
10:45I haven't. I haven't. I've got kids instead.
10:48Right, OK. They're more expensive and you can't leave them in the back garden, can you?
10:52Yeah, absolutely, yeah. Well, it's pleased to meet you. Nice to meet you.
10:56Nice to meet you, too.
11:05So, yeah. So, fun facts about me, definitely.
11:09Years ago, when I was fresh and young...
11:13Yeah, you are fresh and young still.
11:16Much younger. Um, I used to be in a girl band.
11:20Did you? Yeah, when I was, like,
11:2217? Yeah.
11:23Signed to a record label. Yeah.
11:25And we were off touring around the world.
11:28Was it? Yeah.
11:29Just did that for a few years. Loved it.
11:32My children know that I was in a band and have seen the videos,
11:36but I feel a part of them still doesn't believe it's actually me and it's true.
11:40I met my husband when I was 16.
11:44He went through all my girl band days and probably kept me quite sane.
11:50He was amazing.
11:51But sometimes just things don't work out.
11:54I just wasn't happy and I chose to be honest and tell him that.
12:00It was one of the hardest decisions and one of the hardest conversations that I've ever had to
12:07have with anyone in my whole life.
12:10Now, with my kids, I'm always saying to them, you know,
12:13your relationship with your dad's really important and I always want you to have that.
12:19I think that's why I'm so balanced and happy to this day,
12:22because I made the right decision for me.
12:27I'd love to meet somebody and share my world with them.
12:31Can you sing?
12:31Well, I was in a girl band. I hope I could sing.
12:34Well, actually...
12:35Was it all correct?
12:37I just mimed.
12:39How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
12:41How old do you think I am?
12:42I think that you're younger than I am.
12:44OK.
12:46Mid-40s.
12:47Bang on.
12:48What about without the beard? I'll probably look a bit younger then.
12:52Well, no, I mean, I like the beard.
12:55I think these days it's quite nice to have a beard.
12:57It keeps me nice and warm.
12:58I know, it seems to be... Oh, does it? OK.
13:01Yeah, I feel the same about my leg hair.
13:04That's a joke, by the way.
13:06OK.
13:08Sorry.
13:18Hi.
13:20So, his name's Paul.
13:23He's in the army.
13:25Why is he a total geezer?
13:28He's like, yeah, you're right.
13:31Not my normal type, guys.
13:33I have to say, I did not get Aaron Pierre.
13:37I might see Aaron Pierre.
13:40No.
13:50There's your water.
13:51How are we doing with the menu?
13:52Yeah, I'm ready now.
13:53Yeah, me too.
13:54Can I have the gambas pil-pil, please?
13:57Yes, you can.
13:58And could I be awkward and say,
14:00is there anything that the chef could throw together for Furpy?
14:08I will find out.
14:10I'll just have the Korean fried chicken, please.
14:12Got it.
14:13That's it.
14:14OK.
14:15Thanks so much.
14:18Well, here we are.
14:20I know.
14:21Here's to a first date.
14:24When was the last date you went on?
14:26I've not been on a date for the last...
14:29Certainly not for the last five years.
14:33Yeah.
14:33So, I am the first date you've had within five years?
14:36Yeah, I know.
14:38Oh, that's amazing.
14:40I've just had other priorities, if I'm honest,
14:43and other things that I've been trying to deal with.
14:47Oh, so am I, oh, so am I, oh, so am I from the other...
14:56Something happening?
14:58Someone's singing.
15:00Oh, right, OK.
15:01Right, opera singing.
15:02I couldn't hear anything.
15:05I don't know whether you've noticed.
15:09I'm deaf.
15:12So...
15:13Are you?
15:13Yeah, I'm completely deaf.
15:15What, so you just lip-read?
15:17I'm lip-reading, yeah.
15:18Wow, that's incredible.
15:20Wow, that's incredible.
15:20Yeah.
15:22So are you partially deaf, or...?
15:24No, I'm pretty much completely deaf.
15:26Wow, why did it happen?
15:28I had what I thought was flu,
15:31and within a few weeks, I couldn't hear anything.
15:34It was, it was horrendous.
15:36It was a shock.
15:39Bang.
15:41I've got to be honest, I just thought, well...
15:44..nobody's going to want to date me.
15:48I'm somehow less...
15:52..attractive.
15:53Well, I wouldn't have been able to tell at all that you're deaf.
15:57Yeah.
15:58That's incredible.
15:58Yeah, that's good to know, cos a lot of people, I think,
16:01don't bother to make the effort, and I don't think they realise
16:04that actually it's not as hard as they think.
16:06Well, that's right, yeah.
16:08And that's your proof of that.
16:10The hardest part of losing my hearing was that I was always
16:14a very sociable person.
16:17And so, you know, I would be in restaurants, I would be in bars,
16:21and those environments now are just, oh, you know, hell.
16:25But Furpy, who's my hearing support dog,
16:29he's brilliant for meeting people.
16:31And when people ask me questions about him,
16:35I can lip-read those questions easily,
16:37and I can tune in to them.
16:40Fair play to you, I think you've been through a lot.
16:42Yeah, sometimes at the end of a hard day,
16:44you need a cuddle, don't you?
16:45Yeah, yeah, you do.
16:47So...
16:48Can definitely recommend dogs for that, though.
16:50Yeah.
16:52Yeah, warm, furry, cosy.
16:55Yeah.
16:55Yeah.
16:56Sattling.
17:00So, have you got any children or anything?
17:04Yeah, I've got a daughter.
17:05Yeah.
17:06Um, she's, like, 14.
17:08OK.
17:09So, she's, like...
17:09But she don't live, like, anywhere near me.
17:12Oh, OK.
17:12So, it's, like...
17:15When I was in Afghan the first time...
17:16Yeah.
17:17..I missed my daughter's birth, like I weren't now.
17:19Like, I couldn't come back.
17:21I see.
17:23I see.
17:24Yeah, that must be tough.
17:25How was your partner at the time about that?
17:29I think she really struggled with it.
17:31Really struggled with it, you know?
17:33My dad was in the army as well, you know?
17:35So, um, he was a big guy.
17:37A little bit taller than me, to be fair.
17:38He was, like, six or six, you know?
17:39So, it's, like, um...
17:41HE SIGHS
17:42HE SIGHS
17:43..that, that...
17:43Yeah.
17:46Um...
17:46HE SIGHS
17:47HE SIGHS
17:48My dad died when I was, like, 12.
17:50So, it, like, it's done me in a little bit.
17:54It didn't hit me till, like, later on in life, you know?
17:57I just, sort of, like, blocked it out.
17:59I think it does eat away at you.
18:02And I think you've just got that, like, in-built thing
18:04that you don't, like, showing weakness, if that makes sense, you know?
18:07Like, even though it's still...
18:08..it's still a thing, you know? But, mm.
18:15Right, if this was a couple of years ago...
18:17You wouldn't have been able to do it.
18:17..I wouldn't have even spoke about it.
18:18I think, like, when you don't talk about it,
18:21it just eats away a little bit, and then you just, sort of...
18:24..you don't deal with it.
18:26Yeah, he's just my world a little bit, you know?
18:28So, it's, like, um...
18:30..yeah, my dad was, like, my hero, really.
18:33Just mad, obviously.
18:34I ain't seen him in, like, all that time.
18:36I mean, just go through life.
18:37You just, sort of, think,
18:38Oh, I wish I had my dad there, do you know what I mean?
18:41Yeah, it is hard, cos I think to myself, like,
18:43he's been born a while, 1995.
18:47Yeah, and he's, yeah, yeah, just, er, he does, yeah.
18:51Mm. That sounds so tough.
18:53So tough.
18:54That is huge. That is completely life-changing.
18:57Yeah. Losing a parent, particularly as a male.
19:00Ooh, yeah. Your father is somebody that you need, isn't it?
19:02Yeah, that's it. Do you have any siblings?
19:04No. Right. OK, so it's just you.
19:06Yeah. Mm.
19:13Ooh! It's all right. It's all right.
19:23So...
19:24He's like a real geezer.
19:26Uh-huh.
19:26That wouldn't really be my normal type.
19:28You've got to be open. Yeah.
19:29And you've got to see where life takes you.
19:31If you were just sticking to one type,
19:32you're never going to be successful.
19:34It's never going to work.
19:34100%. And clearly, that's not been working for me.
19:37Right. So...
19:38Time to change the approach.
19:39Change the approach.
19:45I think maybe if I got married,
19:48it would just go and get married on a beach somewhere.
19:52Mm.
19:53Just go and do it.
19:54That would be lovely.
19:55And what were your weddings like?
19:56Both weddings were the full white wedding.
19:59Really? The full package?
20:01Yeah. The full deal?
20:02Wow. Yeah.
20:03How long have you been single for?
20:04So I got divorced about six and a half years ago.
20:08So I've got four daughters.
20:09Four?
20:10Four daughters.
20:11Wow. Okay.
20:12I think it's really important to reflect when you have a breakdown of a marriage.
20:17I think when we were going through hard times with young children, I am disappointed that I didn't try harder.
20:51Yeah.
20:53Yeah.
20:54Yeah.
20:55I don't know, you'd be a toy boy, wouldn't you?
21:53Cheers.
22:20I think that bag looks too feminine, I can't hold it.
22:41I think that bag looks good.
22:51I think that bag looks good.
22:54I think that bag looks good.
22:55I don't know if I can do this.
22:57Absolute nervousness.
22:59I will go in a hot mess because I don't even know if I know what I'm like on a
23:03date.
23:04I mean, it has been over 15 years.
23:07How are you?
23:08You look happy to be here.
23:09It's nice to see.
23:10I'm happy to be here.
23:11How are you?
23:11I could see your smile from all the way down there.
23:13Where are you from?
23:14You're American, right?
23:15Uh, yeah.
23:15Texas.
23:16Texas?
23:16Oh, I love Texas.
23:18You're ready for your date?
23:18I am ready for my date.
23:20Yes.
23:20All right, man.
23:20Do you want me to take your coat or do you want to keep it?
23:22Okay.
23:24Take a seat, man.
23:25All right.
23:25Enjoy your date.
23:28Hello, man.
23:29Hello there.
23:29How are you?
23:30I'm well.
23:31How are you?
23:31What can I get you?
23:32Red wine.
23:33Red wine?
23:34Red, red wine.
23:34Malbec or Cabernet?
23:35Ooh, let's go Cab.
23:37Cab.
23:37Yeah, why not?
23:38And so, right, you're here obviously for a date.
23:40What's your type?
23:41Um, my type is just someone that doesn't let me just settle for being me.
23:46And so I need that little bit of a debate, a little bit of a pushback.
23:50You know, don't just get me my way.
23:51So poke it.
23:52Yeah, that's it.
23:53I need someone who can understand the very fine line between not giving me my way,
24:00but also not depriving me of what I want too much.
24:04And so I need someone that can just keep up with my bad personality.
24:08I need someone that can just keep up with my bad personality.
25:05I need someone who can keep up with my bad personality.
25:08Nice place. It is a nice place. Yeah
25:12Hello. Sorry to drop. Can I get you a drink?
25:14Uh, gin and tonic, please?
25:15Gigi, come on up.
25:17Classic.
25:19I know. 5 o'clock someplace.
25:21I'm not knocking it.
25:27Thank you guys. If it's okay, we'll just leave the bill in the middle.
25:30Okay, thank you.
25:31A little marshmallow on the top for you guys.
25:32Oh, wow.
25:33Thank you so much.
25:34Thank you, thank you.
25:35She seemed very genuine and compassionate.
25:38I don't really talk about things, you know.
25:41I just sort of, like, keep them to myself, really.
25:44If she wasn't that genuine, I probably wouldn't have, like, spoke about certain things.
25:49Punching a couple more drinks and donna kebab ting, innit? Do you know what I mean?
25:54Right, what's this bill saying?
25:55Right, what should we do?
25:57How much? No, I don't win. I'll do it. It's fine.
26:00Fabulous, thank you so much.
26:01No, it's fine. It's fine.
26:06Would you like to see each other again?
26:09I'd probably say yes.
26:11I'd probably see her again, yeah.
26:14Absolutely agree.
26:15Ha, ha, ha.
26:16Come on!
26:17Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.
26:18We're off the kebab ting.
26:19She loves the donna kebab ting.
26:22True gentleman.
26:24That's fine.
26:24We knew that from the start. Yeah, exactly.
26:27That must suck.
26:29You're really open, really honest, particularly about your past and things that have happened.
26:35That's really attractive to me.
26:37You're a right geezer.
26:38Ha, ha, ha.
26:39So, looking forward to getting to know you a little bit more.
26:42That's really nice, you know.
26:45Yeah.
26:46I'd say you come across like a good person, yeah.
26:49That's all right.
26:50That's all right.
26:50Ciao.
26:51See you later.
26:52Thanks a lot.
26:52Bye.
26:53Okay.
26:53I've never dated anybody in the army before.
26:57Really looking forward to seeing the uniform.
27:00That's all I can say about that, really.
27:02What?
27:03Enjoy your drinks and your kebab, yeah?
27:06Thank you so much.
27:08Nice to meet you guys.
27:12No, he's not having that.
27:13Oh, here you go.
27:14Just in time.
27:15Oh, there we go.
27:16He was having a little bit of a patty there.
27:18Oh, there we go.
27:18Are you ready for your dinner?
27:20Here goes your napkin.
27:21Oh, wow.
27:21That looks amazing.
27:23Here you go.
27:27God.
27:27Bless him.
27:30He doesn't like it.
27:34All right.
27:35Are we ready?
27:36Are we ready?
27:37Are you ready?
27:38You go first.
27:39And, um...
27:41I'm going to have the vegan hanging kebab.
27:44Oh, do I need to specify that I want the properly seasoned fries?
27:50If I find them to not be properly seasoned, they will be worked.
27:54My red wine does seem precariously low.
27:58Okay, we can't have that.
27:59I'll be right back.
28:00All right.
28:00Perfect.
28:01Perfect.
28:01You're welcome.
28:03Being single is fine.
28:05It's not the same as coming back and having someone else there.
28:09If you had an absolute shit day, then just hold me for a second.
28:13Yeah.
28:13Not too many seconds.
28:14Because then you get all...
28:15Ew.
28:15Get off me.
28:17Um...
28:18Are you not a hugger?
28:19Like, it's good and cute, but it has a finite time span.
28:24And then three minutes later, Big Spoon's arm is asleep.
28:28Oh, it doesn't just like...
28:30Ugh.
28:30It doesn't work.
28:32Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
28:46It's juicable.
28:48It's juicable.
28:49It's juicable.
28:51It's juicable.
29:05What do you reckon?
29:09You have got a lovely soft coat.
29:12Here she is.
29:14Oh, thank you.
29:16Yeah.
29:16It looks quite at home with you.
29:17We've had a little chat.
29:18Have you?
29:19We have.
29:20What did you say?
29:22Oh, that would be telling.
29:23Oh, really?
29:24It's a secret.
29:25Boys chat.
29:26Okay.
29:27Boys talk.
29:28Boys talk.
29:35So, what's the gay scene like down here, then?
29:39Just you, is it?
29:41Yeah.
29:41This is it.
29:42I mean, I don't really go out at all.
29:44So, how did you get to meet people, then?
29:46I mean, I just, I haven't really done anything.
29:48Okay.
29:49Um, so, um, moved here with my partner.
29:53Um, about seven weeks after we arrived, he passed away.
29:59Um, we were together for 12 years.
30:02Um, it's all quite sudden.
30:07We met on Match.com.
30:09I wrote a very snarky little profile, and, and he thought it was fun.
30:14Um, we came to Bath in September of 2020.
30:19For us, this was sort of a path of, right, okay, we're gonna do something different.
30:22We're gonna leave the States.
30:24Things were great.
30:26And, um, well, it was November 11th.
30:29Uh, it was Remembrance Day.
30:31And he had a thoracic aneurysm.
30:34And, uh, well, I mean, he passed away in my arms.
30:39I'm single because, sorry, I haven't yet figured out how to respond when people say, oh, I'm sorry.
30:48I was thankful he wasn't alone.
30:50But then at the same time, it's an image that never leaves you.
30:54And it's, it's a gut punch.
30:57That was the last picture we took together here in Bath.
31:02It's life, I guess, you know?
31:05My family was not, we were not the sort of people that shared emotions.
31:09Okay.
31:10My partner, he was very affectionate.
31:13I think that people sometimes think I'm a little cold.
31:18But in fact, I don't mean to be.
31:22I'm a little bit introverted.
31:24But Jason got me.
31:26And he was absolutely my biggest supporter.
31:30I miss love.
31:32I want it.
31:33I think it's time to rip the plaster off.
31:36It's time to get back to the idea of letting someone else come back in.
31:42And so that's it.
31:43I'm sort of in a mode of like.
31:45Where do I want to go from?
31:47Yeah, it's about just, it really is about just starting again.
31:51Which is absolutely terrifying.
32:01I've not really struggled to understand what you've said.
32:04Not at all.
32:05I've not been having a completely different conversation, have I?
32:07No, you've been fantastic.
32:13So, would you like to see each other again?
32:16You first.
32:18I think you're an absolute gentleman.
32:20Thanks.
32:20I don't feel that we've got a romantic spark though.
32:24I agree.
32:25Yeah.
32:25That's what I feel.
32:27Yeah, absolutely.
32:28I'm quite happy to split the bill.
32:30No, not at all.
32:31No, I'll get it.
32:33Definitely my treat.
32:35It was a really good way for me to, to, to start dating again.
32:40So thank you for that.
32:41Oh!
32:42Come on then dog.
32:43I think it was lovely to meet you as well, because you're clearly a strong, driven person.
32:48And, er, and that shines through with your positive energy.
32:52And how was your first date with a dog?
32:54It was different, but it was fine.
32:57He didn't eat the food that the restaurant went and got for him.
33:00No, he didn't though.
33:01I think that's because it was actual dog food.
33:03Oh, was it?
33:04Yeah.
33:04He doesn't eat dog food.
33:06He likes human food.
33:08Yeah.
33:08Talk about a diva dog.
33:16What's the press up count now?
33:18Remember that?
33:18Yeah, still the same.
33:19300?
33:19Still the same.
33:20And one.
33:21300 and one.
33:22Every day?
33:22Every day.
33:24I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't see the, there we go.
33:28There we go.
33:35Dave is a world record holding power lifter.
33:41He may know how to pump iron, but his love life is out of shape.
33:45There must be some nice women at the gym.
33:47Of course there are.
33:48I mean, they're all youngsters, of course.
33:5018-year-olds.
33:51Great number, but when they aren't.
33:53He's got the one in the wrong place, let's put it afterwards and then we're all right then.
34:02Hello, Fred.
34:02How are you, Dave?
34:03Very well indeed, mate.
34:04Nice to meet you.
34:06You're in good shape.
34:06I do a lot of power lifting.
34:07Come with me, I'll take you to the bar for it.
34:09Yeah, okay, thanks for having me.
34:11I'm here for fun, love and laughter.
34:13I've got plenty of life in me yet.
34:17So what do you bench?
34:1885 bench and a 150 deadlift.
34:21Wow, you're in top shape.
34:22All right, take a seat.
34:23Money will fix you.
34:24I will.
34:25Indeed.
34:25Thanks, Fred.
34:26How are you, sir?
34:26Very well.
34:27Nice to meet you.
34:28What's your name?
34:29Dave.
34:29Dave.
34:30Welcome, Dave.
34:30And how are you feeling about all of this?
34:32I'm excited.
34:33I don't feel nervous at all.
34:34It's just, it's good fun, isn't it?
34:36I mean, I've been around long enough, haven't I?
34:38Have you done any sort of dating of late?
34:40Nothing serious in that sense.
34:42I've been married and divorced and it's cost me a lot of money.
34:44I mean, this time round, I'm going for a multimillionaire as an infamaniac.
34:49I don't want the money.
34:50Well, I just want to keep what little money got left on my own, you know?
35:00I've been married before.
35:02I've got the ashes of the two husbands stacked up like Jenga.
35:09I put number two on top of number one and said, just be friends.
35:15Hoping to catch Dave's eye and be more than just friends is Claire.
35:22I've got an actual walk-in wardrobe of hats.
35:26How many hats?
35:28Oh, probably about 40.
35:31You've got 40 hats?
35:35Hello, Claire.
35:36Hello, Fred.
35:37You know, this is not the location for Ascot.
35:42You are super elegant.
35:43Well, I don't normally dress up unless I'm going to Ascot.
35:47Wow.
35:47I'm going to give you the hat.
35:49Oh.
35:49You're going to look after that for me, please.
35:51Yes, I will.
35:52Thanks.
35:54So, tell me, what about dating then?
35:56What about men?
35:57I live in the middle of the countryside and there's no option to really meet people.
36:02I would just love to meet somebody who's jolly and fun.
36:06Well, the good thing, you've come to the right place.
36:09Come with me.
36:13I don't believe there's the one.
36:17Having had two.
36:21Well, it does look quite nice.
36:23Hello.
36:24Hello.
36:26You're my date, are you?
36:27Yes.
36:27My name's Claire.
36:28Claire, I'm Dave.
36:29Hello, Dave.
36:32Hello.
36:33Hello.
36:33Can I get you a drink?
36:34Yes, I was going to have a caipirinha.
36:37I can do you a caipirinha.
36:38Can you do that, Dave?
36:38It's a great drink.
36:40Obviously, you're not married now.
36:41I mean, you're divorced or...
36:42Widowed.
36:43Oh, widowed.
36:44Oh, okay.
36:45What are you?
36:45I've been married and divorced three times.
36:48Oh, for goodness sake.
37:02So, do you get to go back home often then?
37:06Ah, I have only gone back twice.
37:09Kind of like me, you know, when I go home to Ireland.
37:12So, I go on a farm.
37:14Nearest town is about three miles away.
37:17Okay.
37:17So, by about day three, I'm like, yep, time to go back to England again.
37:21I am one of ten.
37:24So, I have four brothers and five sisters.
37:26I was outed by my sister when I was 21.
37:31She put two and two together and went back and told everyone.
37:35So, yeah, she ripped off the bandage.
37:40Oh.
37:41Yeah.
37:41I think parents are pretty good at figuring it out.
37:44My mother made the comment to me.
37:45We sort of had suspicions.
37:48No one else redecorates a room that often.
37:52Enjoy.
37:55Awesome.
37:57Would you like any other drinks?
37:58I'm definitely going to have some wine.
38:00Small, medium or large?
38:02Huge.
38:03A pint.
38:05A pint then.
38:06Two larges?
38:07Good one.
38:08Yeah, we might as well have a bottle.
38:10Yeah, one.
38:11Awesome.
38:14So, how have you managed to get through three wives?
38:21Yes.
38:21When I got married for this time, I was a teenager.
38:24You were young.
38:24Yes.
38:25I got pregnant and we got married.
38:27That's what you did in those days.
38:28Definitely.
38:29And then you took on roles.
38:30The husband role was to create financial stability for the wife and the family.
38:35I didn't think I'd get married and I'd get divorced.
38:38For me, as far as I was concerned, it was for life.
38:41Every time, I got it wrong.
38:44In business, it's factual and you either achieve it or you don't.
38:47But with a marriage, it's emotional.
38:52I didn't spend enough time on looking after my wives in an emotional sense.
38:59I got a balance wrong, basically.
39:02I've learned from that now.
39:03Can I ask you how old you are?
39:0582.
39:07You're never.
39:08Golly, you look brilliant.
39:09Thank you very much indeed.
39:12I know physically I am the age I am, but mentally I'm still 20.
39:15You know what I mean?
39:16When you're retired, you've got to find something else to fill that gap.
39:21Went to the gym to keep fit and regularly.
39:22All well done.
39:25So, yes, that's what I did.
39:26And then powerlifting and one thing or another and just kept going and kept me fit.
39:31When I was 70, I got two world records and the European record.
39:45You should have come in wearing a tight T-shirt.
39:56I'm reminiscing on those things. I like the old films.
39:59Well, they did proper films in those days with a start, a middle and an end.
40:03Nowadays, you have no idea.
40:05Last time I went to the picture, I stood up for the Queen.
40:08Of course.
40:09You've got the boyfriend you just wanted to snuggle next to.
40:12Oh, I know.
40:13Because, of course, you never had anywhere to go.
40:16Go in the backseat and have a kiss and a cuddle.
40:20I've booked a trip to Croatia.
40:21It will be my first holiday solo.
40:26Oh, wow.
40:27Proper holiday.
40:28I've never done an actual solo holiday.
40:30Yeah, in my mind, there's that fear of, like, once you go on a holiday by yourself,
40:34I feel like you're sort of committing to being the old person on the cruise ship.
40:39It's always alone.
40:41Just because you go on, like, a holiday by yourself doesn't mean that you're going to die alone.
40:47You are what you want you to be, if that makes sense.
40:55Do you go to a pub?
40:58Not particularly, no.
41:00My husband and I always went to the pub.
41:02How long have you been already there?
41:04Well, it's about three years.
41:06I've been married before, and he died from cancer, which was very sad.
41:12And then Alistair, who I met skiing, and we just hit it off very well.
41:17And we've been very happy.
41:19But he had dementia.
41:20Oh.
41:21And you do lose them a little bit earlier on, you know.
41:24It's just the saddest thing on earth.
41:26I can't explain.
41:28You're so looking forward to doing things, and then it's just stolen from you.
41:33When you lose a loved one, you never actually get over it, do you?
41:35You just learn to live with it, in some respects, of course.
41:38That is totally true.
41:39There's so many things that remind you, if you're going shopping, and I see...
41:43He used to like Eccles Cakes.
41:45Sometimes, if I'm in Tesco's, I have to literally walk away.
41:49Cos it just...it just makes me too sad.
41:52But I just want things to do.
41:54I mean, sometimes I would absolutely talk to nobody except my chickens.
42:05I hope it's been fantastic.
42:07It has, thank you very much.
42:08Has it been fantastic?
42:08Okay, great.
42:09Thank you very much.
42:12Hello.
42:14Here we go.
42:16Ah, let's make tracks.
42:18You think you want to see Sean again?
42:23Oh, come on, go first.
42:24Oh no, you go first.
42:25Age, age first, you know.
42:27Wow, age before beauty.
42:28Age before beauty.
42:29That's what you were going to say.
42:30Age before beauty.
42:31Wow.
42:32I held back though.
42:32Thanks.
42:33I appreciate that.
42:35I feel like it was a great friendship.
42:38There was great friendly rapport.
42:40Yeah.
42:40I felt like that as well.
42:42Yeah.
42:42Yeah.
42:43Thank you very much.
42:45Thank you for today.
42:46This was a big first step for me.
42:48And I did feel very safe.
42:51So thank you.
42:52You're welcome.
42:52And I'm glad that I was able to provide the safeness for you to come back into the dating world.
42:58This is nice.
43:00It is.
43:01Give me a cuddle.
43:02I don't want a cuddle.
43:03It won't last three minutes.
43:05It's a cuddle.
43:06It's a hug.
43:07We'll go for a hug.
43:09That's three seconds.
43:10My arm got tired.
43:11Not surprised.
43:14This was about taking the first step.
43:16And when I take the second step, I don't know.
43:19But what I do know is that I didn't fall.
43:26Do you have a type?
43:28If you can make me laugh and make me smile, you won me over.
43:32Right.
43:33Here.
43:34Here.
43:36What are you looking for?
43:38This time round, I'm looking for a millionaire's new for Maggie.
43:41That's what I want.
43:41I said, I'll set off for one out of the two.
43:48He's not my usual type.
43:50He said he wanted a millionaire nymphomaniac.
43:54And I said, well, you'll be halfway there in one of them.
43:58And I said, look, I don't know about the other.
44:04Which one is it?
44:05Well, I've got a few quid, but...
44:09I'll come back to get your bill in a bit.
44:10No, after all it says, hokey-dokey.
44:13You're a darling.
44:14Thank you very much.
44:15Well, as far as I'm concerned, that's what you do.
44:18I wouldn't want any other way.
44:20Well, you've passed the test.
44:24That's the way it goes, isn't it?
44:26Do you think they gave us cushions, cos we're old people?
44:29Say that again.
44:30Cushions?
44:31Oh, cushions.
44:31Do you wear ear trumpets?
44:33No, no.
44:34No, no, just didn't catch what you said, that's right.
44:36No, don't.
44:38I really was quite surprised he'd had three wives.
44:41I would have thought any of them could have held on to him,
44:44cos he was just quite good fun.
44:46You're very fit for your age.
44:54Hello.
44:55Hello, Claire.
44:57Mind a step.
44:59Yeah, mind a step, got that.
45:00Do you think you'd like to see Tim again?
45:02Well, you're going to say ladies first, aren't you?
45:05That's a normal way, but I don't mind if you'd prefer me to say it first.
45:07I don't have a problem.
45:08Yes, you can say it first.
45:09OK.
45:10Yeah, I'll see you.
45:11I'll see you Claire again.
45:13Yes, I'd very much like to see him again.
45:20I haven't had anybody hold my hand in.
45:22Well, there we are.
45:23I'll hold your hand again.
45:24How about that?
45:24Give me your hand.
45:25There we are.
45:26Lovely.
45:30It had to be you.
45:32I know nothing about weights.
45:34No, don't we?
45:35But the waiter was well impressed.
45:38I lie a lot.
45:38I weigh about it.
45:39I finally found somebody who could make me be true, could make me be blue, or even be glad just
45:56to be sad thinking of you.
46:11Had to be you.
46:13Had to be you.
46:32I'll tell you later because I'm gonna get you.
46:39Bye.
46:41Bye.
46:42Bye.
46:44Bye.
46:45Bye.
46:46Bye.
46:47Bye.
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