First Dates (2013) Season 25 Episode 3

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🏘️ First Dates (2013) - Season 25 Episode 3  One restaurant. Many hearts. In Episode 3 "When Nerves Meet Nectar", singles from all walks of life step into the iconic First Dates restaurant hoping to find connection. From awkward icebreakers to unexpected chemistry, watch as hopes, humor, and honesty unfold over dinner. Who will leave with a second date... and who will leave with a story to tell?  🔹 Episode Highlights: • Diverse daters: unique personalities, backgrounds & relationship goals collide • Awkward moments: hilarious missteps that turn into genuine laughter • Surprise connections: unexpected chemistry sparks between unlikely pairs • Waiter wisdom: Fred & the team offer heartfelt advice from the sidelines • Signature First Dates warmth: authenticity, humor & the courage to love  🔹 Series Info: • Format: Dating Reality / Romance Documentary / Feel-Good Serial • Original Network: Channel 4 (UK) / All 4 / International Syndication • Series Launch: 2013 | Season: 25 | Episode: 3 | Title: "When Nerves Meet Nectar" • Setting: First Dates Restaurant, UK | Language: English • Runtime: ~45-50 minutes (full) | Clip/Highlight version: ~10-15 min  🎧 Prefer audio? Listen to dating show recaps & romance podcasts on Spotify, Apple Podcasts.  👉 Enjoying the series? Hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and comment: "Which couple had the best chemistry? 👇" Turn on notifications 🔔 for Episode 4!  #ShowTVMovies #FirstDates #Channel4 #NervesMeetNectar #S25E03 #DatingShow #RomanceTV #FeelGoodTV #BingeWatch #UKReality  ⚠️ Copyright Disclaimer: This video is shared for promotional, review, and informational purposes only. All rights to "First Dates" belong to Channel 4, Twenty Twenty, and associated producers. This upload complies with Fair Use guidelines (Section 107, U.S. Copyright Act). No copyright infringement intended.

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00:03Do you feel a bit rusty? Yes, very rusty. Definitely need a WD for our day. I need some

00:09help. It's hard out there. I am very single at the moment. I've run out of swipes. I've

00:16completed Tinder. In the heart of Britain's most romantic city, Fred and his team,

00:24this is Captain Fur Potato, are matching hopeful singletons. We're getting married, Merlin.

00:31In a place where love is always on the menu. I've got a bit in your finger. You didn't go

00:36that far

00:37down the strip. These daters. You probably think I'm having a poo or something. Are searching

00:46for the one. Would you chase me around the bedroom? Absolutely. Get your coat. I'm in.

00:53For some, stepping into the unknown can lead to surprising sparks. I work in the adult

01:02industry. Do you have an office for that? I have a dungeon. But finding a connection. A

01:08love story is about to begin. Shut up! Isn't always easy. Please tell me you actually last longer

01:15than three minutes. Help me! In the end, it comes down to one big question. Would

01:29you guys like to see each other again? This isn't a total crit, is it? This is the First

01:34Estates restaurants. My first ever date. I asked this girl if she would like to come

01:48up the park and have a picnic. Watch the mountains in her dress. Wow! Where do you see your future?

02:00I see myself in a good few years. I would love to be in the countryside 100%. I love getting

02:07out and about. You know, the fresh air. Really good for the soul. It's really healthy. Bird

02:12watching is just a really peaceful way to get your mind calm, I think. Like, there's a lot

02:18of busyness in the world. I think it's important to have that, like, sense of quiet. Because I'm

02:24crazy. So being in, like, a field with nothing is amazing. And I think when I have my beautiful

02:30organic children, and they're just running around, living their best life on a farm, I'm

02:37happy, definitely. This is Amber. She's looking to inject a breath of fresh air into her love

02:44life. When I was at school, everyone was meant to be a doctor or a lawyer, maybe a brain surgeon.

02:51And I was like, I really want to be a stay-at-home mum.

02:56I'm here to find the love of my life. Hopefully.

03:02Hello! How are you, Amber? I'm good. How are you?

03:05This was like a royal walk. Just the way you enter. With the hair. Yeah, your hair, your coat on

03:10your shoulders.

03:11Such elegance. Thank you. Thank you. Tell me, where do you live? Buckinghamshire.

03:15So you like the countryside? Yes, I love it. Do you? I horse ride. Oh.

03:19I pretend I'm organic. You pretend you're organic? Yeah. I love that.

03:24Being out and dating, I find it interesting seeing how boys approach you. And some, like,

03:30can't look you in the eye. Some get nervous. But I need a man, not a boy.

03:37Would you like a drink? Please can I have a nice red wine? Yes, you can. So what is your

03:42job?

03:43I was a nanny. You're a nanny? And I left my nanny family. Right. So sad. With three babies. And

03:50now I am jobless.

03:52No more changing nappies. Until my own babies come. Yeah. And so what is your type? Tall, dark, handsome.

04:02If this was a famous person, who would it be? Robert Pattinson. I love Robert Pattinson.

04:08People say, I think, you look like somebody famous. I've had Robert Pattinson a few times. I don't really agree

04:14with it.

04:14I think Robert Pattinson's way better looking than me.

04:18Looking to sink his teeth into love is 26-year-old James.

04:24I remember, like, when I was a little kid and thinking,

04:27oh, yeah, girls are this, you know, mysterious kind of creature and, you know...

04:32And then you get a bit older and you kind of get some, you know, more experienced things.

04:36Then it brings you back to that feeling of being 16, 15, and it's quite nice.

04:41Can't meet you, can you? No, it's great.

04:44Here we go.

04:46Time for a new change, new horizons, getting out there.

04:49This was not on my bingo card, but that's what life's for, man.

04:53Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too.

04:55Is that him? Oh, my God.

04:57How are you feeling about today? Yeah, I'm okay. I'm okay.

04:59Are you? Yeah, yeah, yeah. A little bit nervous, but, you know, why not?

05:03What are you searching for?

05:04Someone who is up for being active, someone down for a bit of a laugh,

05:09that can kind of hold their own and being able to kind of give it back is quite important.

05:14Please.

05:17Hello. Hello, I'm Amber. Nice to meet you.

05:20Amber, James, how are you? I'm good. How are you?

05:22Yeah, I'm all right, thanks. I'm all right. How was your day?

05:24Are you getting a drink? Absolutely. I'll get a beer or something.

05:28A beer?

05:28Hello, buddy. Hello, mate. Can I get a beer, please?

05:31A pint or a bottle? A pint, please.

05:32Pint. That'd be great. So where are you from?

05:35I'm from Buckinghamshire. Buckinghamshire, okay.

05:38I like more country. A bit more of a country girl.

05:40But I can get, yeah, I can get into London, like, if I need to.

05:43Oh, happy days. And do you work in London, or...?

05:44No, no, but I actually start a new job tomorrow.

05:46But I was a nanny. I've been a nanny and a PA... No way!

05:50..for, like, five, six years with a few families.

05:53Are you ready for... Yeah.

05:55..for a bit of something to eat? Yep. Let's do it.

05:57This way. Thank you.

06:02That's good. That's good.

06:04That's good. I think it's a bit too fruity for me, though.

06:05Yeah.

06:06I want to see... I want to feel it hit the back of my throat.

06:09I'm going, like...

06:09He! He! He! He!

06:11He! He!

06:13I can feel it. Like love.

06:15I can feel it!

06:16It's very good!

06:17Hitching face!

06:18Nice!

06:19How do you describe this up?

06:21I'm like a firm apple.

06:23Like a Granny Smith.

06:26A little bit of that kind of sourness.

06:28It's like, oh, that's some sass.

06:30Like there's some resistance when you sink your teeth into it.

06:35That... that kind of apple.

06:40This is artist Sana from Finland.

06:44She's looking to be drawn to her perfect muse.

06:48I'm a creative artist peacock.

06:51Wonder freak.

06:54I see my face as a canvas.

06:56When I do my makeup, I do full-on, like, impressions of people.

07:00Here is one that's Johnny Depp inspired.

07:05I mean, I have my kooky ideas, but the right person would find me absolutely alluring.

07:12Like an adventure.

07:14Like sitting on a magic carpet ride.

07:18Hello!

07:18How are you?

07:19Hi!

07:20Tell me, what's dating been like for you recently?

07:23Um...

07:23Uneventful.

07:24Really?

07:25Yeah.

07:26There's no men in Finland, so I wasn't dating for three years.

07:29So when I moved to London ten years ago, I probably went on 50 dates that first year.

07:35And then that didn't work out.

07:37So I'm obviously here to meet a man.

07:40Hey, so come on, tell me.

07:42What are you looking for, Sana?

07:43I am looking for a curious spirit.

07:46And I run on all six cylinders, so it would be great for somebody to...

07:50Wow.

07:50If they're not running on all six, then they can handle me at my six.

07:56Joie de vivre!

07:57Sparkle.

07:57Yeah!

07:58So my type, I am really weak for brown eyes, broad shoulders, someone who smells good.

08:05And piratey, bohemian, rock and roll, creative look, like Johnny Depp.

08:13Why is the rum always gone?

08:20We need the eye makeup and the bandana.

08:25Hoping his pirate looks can work a bit of magic on his date tonight is Clint.

08:30When I was doing my first magic show on stage, and it was a really bad magic show.

08:36And then there was an agent who said, you look a little bit like Jack Sparrow.

08:40If you brought the costume, I could get you some work.

08:43So I got the costume and then I started doing magic as Jack Sparrow.

08:48And it's like a really fun time just to be a pilot.

08:54How are you doing, man?

08:55Good, yeah.

08:56I love your look, man. I love your hat.

08:57Thank you. I made it myself.

08:58Oh, do you?

08:59Yeah.

08:59Nice. Your date has arrived.

09:01If you look to the right of my shoulder, she's at the bar.

09:05Looking for love.

09:07I'm looking to meet somebody that's really creative, really a little bit out there.

09:16Like, I want this quirky.

09:19Just there. Not like that quirky.

09:22There's a fine line between quirky and owning like a thousand cats.

09:26I'm excited.

09:27Shall we go and see you?

09:28Yeah, yeah, yeah.

09:29I'll let you.

09:30Thank you, man.

09:33Hi.

09:34Hiya.

09:34How are you?

09:35I'm good, thanks. How are you?

09:36Yeah, good. You?

09:38Lovely to meet you.

09:39And you. You've got a nice accent.

09:40Oh, you've... I love your scent.

09:42Do you?

09:43Sorry, I'm Sanna.

09:44Clint.

09:45Clint.

09:45Yes. I like your style.

09:47Thanks. I like yours.

09:48Thank you. You're very cool.

09:49Yeah, you too. You too.

09:51Are you a musician?

09:53Everyone says that.

09:54Yeah?

09:54It's the look.

09:56I'm a magician.

09:57Okay.

09:58Yes, I do magical things.

10:00And then...

10:01You've got a bunny inside your hat.

10:02I have.

10:03Have you...

10:03Could you imagine?

10:05Have you been to Bath before?

10:07No, it's my first time.

10:08But it felt like, it felt like Italy a little bit.

10:11Like, is that weird?

10:12Yeah, yeah, like Verona.

10:13I was watching Romeo and Juliet last night.

10:15Oh, okay.

10:15And they're in Verona.

10:17Sounds so bad.

10:18You know, like, people like watching documentaries about, like, serial killers and that.

10:21I like hearing about bad days.

10:23Do you like serial killers as well?

10:25Because I'm a bit like a...

10:26I'm a little bit of a serial killer encyclopedia.

10:28So, what's your...

10:31Can't say favourite serial killer, can I?

10:33Geoffrey Dahmer.

10:36Wait, you were telling me what else we're into.

10:39I'm a closet nerd and, like, a massive, like, anime fan.

10:42Yeah, Star Wars and stuff like that.

10:44Yeah.

10:44Okay.

10:46What are you interested in?

10:47Like, are you...

10:47What about music?

10:48I like listening to songs.

10:50Do you go out raving?

10:52No.

10:53Okay.

10:53Oh, my God, no.

10:54I write songs as well sometimes.

10:56Oh, wow.

10:57That's cool.

10:58I taught myself in lockdown.

11:00Did you do anything in...

11:01I learned how to horse ride.

11:02Oh, no way.

11:02I share a horse with my friend.

11:04Oh, sweet.

11:04Okay.

11:05Yeah.

11:05I'm actually not allowed to currently see him.

11:08My horse.

11:09The horse I was going with my friend.

11:11Because...

11:12I broke up with my ex-boyfriend.

11:14And the horse lives on the font.

11:16We met during school times.

11:18And we parted ways because being a nanny

11:20made me realize what I wanted in my future

11:22and what I wanted with children.

11:24And so did he.

11:25And it was two different things.

11:27We were together for a long time.

11:29Oh, really?

11:29Like, how long?

11:30Seven years.

11:31Okay.

11:32So, like, a good and hard time.

11:34My parents had kids by the time they were 25.

11:38I was really lucky to have my mum at home with me.

11:40But I used to then say,

11:42okay, when I want children,

11:43then I would want to be the same as my mum.

11:46What's the dream outcome for this day?

11:50Like, a massive rock on this thing.

11:53When's your birthday?

11:5520th of April.

11:56Oh, that's nice.

11:58Everyone in my family is in April apart from me.

12:00Nice.

12:01Nice.

12:01So, the green flag.

12:02Wait until I tell you this next bit.

12:04I have the same birthday as Hitler.

12:07Oh.

12:08So, that's kind of like a red flag.

12:11But I've got no...

12:12I wouldn't shout that out.

12:14Got no connections to the man at all.

12:17Shall I tell you an hour later that I'm Jewish?

12:20Okay.

12:23We'll move on.

12:33I think I'm going to have to get a steak.

12:36What do you fancy?

12:37I was thinking, like, a chicken burger.

12:39I eat, like, chicken with a ton.

12:41Yeah.

12:41I can see you as a chicken boy.

12:44You're calling me a coward or something?

12:45No.

12:45You just called me a chicken, basically.

12:47You're eating chicken.

12:51So, I'm, like, really weird.

12:53I don't like cheese.

12:54Okay.

12:55Just tell her a taste of it.

12:56I know, it's fine.

12:57But don't worry.

12:58Zero judgment.

12:58Honestly, that's, like, so refreshing to hear.

13:00Can I just say?

13:02Hello.

13:02How are you doing?

13:03Good, how are you?

13:04I'm really well.

13:05Good.

13:06Anything particularly eye-catching?

13:09I think we're both feeling steak.

13:11Yeah, nice.

13:12Is that because I called you a chicken boy?

13:13Yeah, that's it.

13:16I hope you don't mind my saying sorry.

13:18Do you know who you really look like?

13:20Yeah.

13:20Do you get this all the time?

13:21You know the geezer from Twilight?

13:23Yeah.

13:24Yeah, yeah.

13:25I said that he was my celebrity crush.

13:27Did you really?

13:28Very nice.

13:30Do you know the vibe that you're giving me?

13:32Do you like Kate Middleton?

13:33That's it.

13:33I'll take that.

13:34I love that.

13:36Yeah, yeah, yeah.

13:37Yeah, what a pairing.

13:38I'll take that, yeah.

13:39Oh, sorry.

13:40Sorry.

13:40So I'm going to say something to you and I'll take it as a compliment.

13:45Yes.

13:47You've got a pirate vibe going on.

13:48Yeah.

13:49Starts with a J, ends with a D.

13:51Yeah.

13:53I actually got down to being Johnny Depp's body double.

13:56Really?

14:00Yeah.

14:00So Robert Pattinson.

14:01Yeah, that's so funny that she said that.

14:03Because I literally, I was like, yeah, he would be my celeb crush.

14:06Yeah.

14:06There we go.

14:07Now the green flag.

14:08There we go.

14:09Well done.

14:10Wait, but keep on telling me about you.

14:12Obviously, like, well into travelling.

14:14Okay, green flag.

14:15Yeah, yeah, yeah.

14:16Go away all the time.

14:18Well, as much as I can.

14:19You know, had a trip to Lisbon.

14:23It didn't go very well.

14:24Why?

14:24I split up with my ex-girlfriend.

14:26Oh, no.

14:26On the plane over there.

14:28It was like a mutual thing.

14:30Oh, no.

14:30And it kind of, all this stuff kind of came out.

14:33Oh, well, sorry.

14:34It wasn't a great breakup.

14:36I think it was over the English Channel.

14:39There was plans to, like, move in and live together.

14:41And that kind of, you know, ended not super long ago.

14:45Both kind of realised that the relationship just wasn't right for either of us.

14:48And, you know, feelings come out and things get said.

14:53But you've got to kind of get through the trip.

14:56Ended up getting a flight back a couple of, a day early.

15:00Yeah, it was, it was difficult.

15:06But, you know, so that chapter is very much closed and very much, like, kind of ready to move on,

15:12I guess.

15:14So that's kind of partly why I moved to London.

15:16So, like, started a new job and wanted to get settled into that and not be away a lot.

15:20Yeah.

15:21I can't be, I'm starting a job tomorrow.

15:22Sorry, it's just, I've never done sales.

15:24Yeah.

15:25Ever.

15:25You've got to back yourself.

15:26I've never done the whole on the phone.

15:28How hard can it be?

15:29How hard can sales be?

15:31Yeah.

15:31I work in finance.

15:31So I spend a lot of time, like, speaking to people on the phone and stuff.

15:34Okay.

15:35So, so, call me.

15:36Do you want me to call you?

15:37Okay, go, go.

15:38Let's pretend that this is...

15:40Hi, is this Amber?

15:41Speaking.

15:42Look, reason for the call today...

15:44Yeah.

15:44...is I want to tell you about this fantastic product that we're selling.

15:47It's for investing.

15:48Okay.

15:48What do you look for in an investment product?

15:51Lots of money.

15:51There you go.

15:52The thing with it is, it's not like...

15:54That was really smooth, though.

15:55I've just got to ask questions.

15:56Okay.

15:57You've just got to ask questions about...

15:58Yeah, it flowed.

15:58I wasn't like, no.

15:59Yeah, exactly.

16:00Put the phone down.

16:01I believe in you.

16:04What is that?

16:04Is that chocolate?

16:05No, this is a passion fruit.

16:08How did I think that was chocolate?

16:10Maybe you're, you know, hankering for chocolate right now.

16:12What's chocolate like?

16:13Have you got go-to chocolate?

16:15My most favourite chocolates you can't get in the UK.

16:18Unfortunately, the Finnish ones.

16:19Oh, okay.

16:20Sad.

16:21You need a chocolate beer, like, that things aren't you.

16:23Yeah, yeah.

16:24That's what you need.

16:24When I come back, I always have a suitcase full of all my goodies.

16:29It lasts me a week every time.

16:32Really?

16:33I don't understand the people that eat a bit of chocolate and put it away in the fridge.

16:38No, no, no.

16:39I keep going till it's gone.

16:41Yeah.

16:43Do you ever miss home?

16:45All the time.

16:47But I miss, I miss my family more than, than home itself.

16:51So I miss them every day.

16:54My mum and dad split up when I was three and a half, four.

16:58I always felt like my dad wasn't there.

17:01I very much wanted his approval, very much wanted his love.

17:06So when I moved to London, I was on a mission.

17:09I wanted to prove that if I was chosen by enough men, that it was okay that my dad didn't

17:15choose me.

17:16So I was looking for my dad's approval in all of these, you know, pointless dates.

17:23I tried so hard to be liked and to be chosen.

17:28And now that I've chosen myself, I'm ready to take someone else on fully.

17:35So did you say you've been to Bath before?

17:38No.

17:38Did you come today?

17:39Yesterday.

17:40Did you come today?

17:40No, yesterday as well.

17:42We could have walked past each other.

17:44It's possible.

17:45Do you think you would have gone...

17:47Do you think I would have been like it?

17:50Possibly.

17:51Possibly.

17:52Do you know what?

17:53Once I've cut my hair, I do feel uncolored here.

17:55I feel like your...

17:56Any outfit looks just a million times better.

17:59I agree with you.

18:00Do you know what I mean?

18:03Hello.

18:05How would you describe yourself?

18:07Energetic, a bit chaotic.

18:10Enthusiastic, I get told that a lot.

18:12And like bubbly, those sorts of words.

18:14We live on fascination.

18:16So I am a civil servant, but I have quite a lot of hobbies.

18:19So far I tried pottery and stuff like that.

18:21But pole dancing is actually my main hobby.

18:2526-year-old Priya is no longer dancing around

18:28when it comes to love.

18:30So I've been single forever.

18:32People see me as just like a very single person.

18:37I've posted Instagram stories before as a joke saying,

18:40if you fancy me, tell me.

18:42And no one's slid into the DMs.

18:47So I am here because I decided that this year

18:50I would manifest finding some love for me.

18:55Nice to meet you.

18:56Nice to meet you too.

18:57You're so vibrant.

18:58I do try, yeah.

18:59What are you doing in your spare time?

19:00I'm a pole dancer.

19:02Are you?

19:02Yes, I am.

19:03I mean, I can touch my toes.

19:05I mean, look.

19:06There you go.

19:07You're fine.

19:07I touch my toes.

19:08That's pretty good.

19:09I've got like the eight-inch stripper heels.

19:11It feels like I'm like liberating something from within.

19:15But I can see that some people would frown upon it.

19:19If somebody would ever judge me for that,

19:22then they're probably not somebody that I'd want in my life anyway, so.

19:26Shall I get you a little drink while you're waiting for your date?

19:28What would you like?

19:29Anything elderflower-y.

19:31All right? Yeah.

19:32Leave it with me.

19:32I'm quite a busy girly and quite an energetic person,

19:35so I wouldn't mind someone to balance me out a bit, perhaps.

19:40I definitely am attracted to people who have their own sense of style,

19:43and sometimes if it's a bit quirky, definitely very attractive.

19:48Thank you very much.

19:49Enjoy.

19:50Thanks.

19:51All of the redheads that I've ended up fancying

19:53are always just very cool people.

19:55I do edge towards creative people.

19:59I would be down for just some cute, wholesome activities.

20:02Yeah.

20:04I'm quite a keen bird watcher,

20:06which is kind of an interesting one for me to disclose

20:09because it makes me sound a bit like an 80-year-old man.

20:13This is Katie,

20:15who's hoping their love life will finally take flight.

20:19I can recognise birds by their sound.

20:21Like, the robin is kind of a bit of a beatboxer,

20:23so that's a good one.

20:25I think people perceive me to be quite unique

20:28and bright and vivid.

20:29I get commented on how I kind of look like a CBeebies presenter

20:32or something.

20:34But, yeah.

20:35I feel quite confident in myself.

20:37I think most people in their mid-twenties

20:40are maybe looking for something more casual,

20:42but I'm just looking for that settling down bit, hopefully.

20:47Hey, how are you?

20:48I'm not bad, how are you?

20:50Nice to meet you.

20:50Should I take your jacket?

20:51Yes, thank you.

20:53What are you looking for?

20:54Someone fun, someone nice, someone friendly.

20:57Yeah?

20:57Well, I've definitely got that for you.

20:58I really just like someone who,

21:00they know their own mind

21:02and they know what they like

21:03and what they care about.

21:04I like it if someone has a set of interests and hobbies.

21:07Having an idea of the person

21:09through how they present themselves.

21:11Hi.

21:12Hi.

21:13Nice to meet you.

21:14I love your earrings.

21:15Yeah, why not?

21:16My name's Priya.

21:17What's your name?

21:17I'm Katie.

21:18Nice.

21:19Thank you very much.

21:22Wow.

21:25Earrings.

21:26I know, yours are so cool too.

21:27Oh my God.

21:28Rings?

21:29Check.

21:29Yeah.

21:30Love.

21:30I know yours also.

21:31Also, I love your eyeliner.

21:33Is it red and orange?

21:34Yeah.

21:34It's a cool vibe.

21:35It's a cool vibe.

21:36I've got a very warm face.

21:37Cute.

21:38It's like very friendly, you know?

21:43I'm feeling I'm getting the same energy here.

21:48Are you vegetarian?

21:49Yes.

21:50Well, pescatarian, really.

21:51Pescatarian, okay.

21:52Oh, wait.

21:54I got you a little...

21:55Oh my gosh.

21:56...something.

21:57It was vegan just in case.

21:59Thank you so much.

22:00That's really sweet.

22:01I love him.

22:02What are your pronouns, sorry?

22:03She-her.

22:04Okay.

22:04I'm David.

22:05Lovely.

22:05Great.

22:09So, this is gonna sound really hypocritical.

22:12You're not gonna say a cheesecake.

22:14You're joking.

22:16Sounds really hypocritical.

22:17You're joking.

22:17What's got cheese in?

22:18I do like a cheesecake.

22:19I would eat a cheesecake.

22:20I would eat a tiramisu.

22:22Maybe you'd like cheese.

22:23He's very good looking.

22:26I fancied him.

22:27We're a little bit different.

22:29I think maybe...

22:30I don't know if I'm a bit much for him.

22:33Actually, I just don't know at all how he feels about me.

22:37I really, really couldn't tell.

22:40What's your meal deal?

22:41I feel like that's a telling question about a person.

22:44It was, you know what?

22:44M&S.

22:46Their beef and caramelised onion sandwich is my favourite thing in the whole world.

22:50Marks and Spencer's.

22:51Yeah.

22:52There we go.

22:53Sorry.

22:58Hello.

22:59Hey.

23:04What's the damage on this?

23:07What's the damage?

23:10So, would you like to see each other again?

23:13You can go best.

23:15I had a great time.

23:16I would do.

23:17But I think it was like a friend capacity.

23:19I think it was very personal.

23:21But I just didn't get that kind of, you know, I want to go for it.

23:24I thought we got on really well.

23:26Yeah.

23:26We got similar kind of personalities in some ways.

23:28Yeah.

23:28I think we'd just be better as mates, I think.

23:30That sort of thing.

23:31That's fine.

23:33Good stuff.

23:35Oh, there we are.

23:36There you go.

23:37Great.

23:37You like Marks and Spencer's and I like Tesco's.

23:40Yeah, there we go.

23:41Big problem.

23:43Maybe it's down to the supermarket.

23:45Okay.

23:46See you later.

23:46Bye.

23:47So nice to meet you.

23:48Lovely to meet you.

23:48Safe journey home.

23:49Bye-bye.

23:54See you later.

23:54Bye.

24:01He couldn't give a valid reason of why.

24:04You know, he's beating around the bush.

24:05Like, what is your reason?

24:07What do you think about him saying that he's both Tesco guy and you're more...

24:12Cop out?

24:13Like, what do you mean?

24:14I literally said one sandwich I liked.

24:17From there.

24:18I go to Aldi.

24:20Like, I go...

24:21But that's okay.

24:22Nice meal.

24:24Free.

24:25So there we go.

24:26The joke is on it.

24:30I shouldn't have said that.

24:34What are you doing, Merlin?

24:35I don't know.

24:36Look.

24:38You're not called Merlin for nothing, yeah?

24:39I don't know.

24:40You're a real musician.

24:41So, I heard a rumor about you.

24:45Uh-oh.

24:45That you were actually magic.

24:50We're about to be serenaded by magic.

24:53Oh.

24:53If you take out a card.

24:55It could be any one you want.

24:57I'll take that one.

24:59I'll take that one.

24:59Have a look at it.

25:00Okay.

25:03Five across.

25:04I think so.

25:06But we need to pick the stable ones.

25:09And sign your name.

25:10Uh, really big on the card.

25:15If this falls over, it's your fault.

25:17Yeah.

25:18Card here.

25:20It's fine.

25:21If you say stop whenever you like.

25:27Stop.

25:30Oh!

25:31Oh no!

25:34And that was my misdirection.

25:39Nothing broke in your.

25:40Oh.

25:41It did.

25:43If you turn on over.

25:45Yeah, yeah, yeah.

25:51Oh my God.

25:53You should do this for a living.

25:55I should do this for a living.

25:59The hardest part of street performing is drawing in the crowd.

26:03You literally have to stand on the box and talk.

26:06To no one.

26:07For a long period of time.

26:09And sometimes no one stops.

26:11But eventually you get two people stop.

26:14And watch you.

26:15And then you concentrate on them.

26:16And then you build the edge of the crowd out.

26:19And when you get a really good show on the street.

26:21And you're in that flow state.

26:23And you're performing.

26:24And you've stopped people going from where they're going.

26:27And they're watching you.

26:28It's the biggest buzz.

26:29It's the biggest buzz in the world.

26:33The complete opposite.

26:34Yeah.

26:35How I am on stage.

26:36To how I am.

26:38And it's like.

26:40One of my things is like.

26:42Learning to be okay.

26:44With.

26:46Rejection.

26:47So this was like a big thing for me.

26:49I think I'm like Marmite.

26:52So I think when you see me.

26:53It's either you like.

26:54Or you don't like.

26:57I'd love to find someone who get that amazing feeling.

27:00Like where someone feels like your home.

27:05Do you think I'm hard to read?

27:07Hmm.

27:08I've had harder.

27:10Where did you learn to.

27:15Check your book post.

27:17It keeps going.

27:18It keeps going.

27:19Check it.

27:20Have a look.

27:31It's not in there.

27:31That would have been great though.

27:45I'm excited now.

27:46Because it's spring.

27:47Yeah.

27:48And everything is popping up.

27:49That's right.

27:49Yeah.

27:50That means I can start working on my loan.

27:54I'm a bird watcher.

27:55Oh you were back.

27:56Oh my god.

27:56That's so cool.

27:57And me hanging out with the 60 year old men.

28:00I'm like a chaotic hobby girly.

28:02What hobby?

28:03I did pottery at the beginning of this year.

28:04Pottery is so cool.

28:06So I'm a pole dancer.

28:07Mostly.

28:08That's so cool.

28:10When I started it was more like pole fitness.

28:12Yeah.

28:13And then I got more into the dance side.

28:14Because I realised that like a lot of the pole fitness studios.

28:17Firstly I did it because I wanted to dance.

28:18And pole fitness isn't dancing.

28:20Yeah.

28:20This isn't my vibe.

28:22And then I realised that also a lot of the pole fitness studios.

28:24Are like sanitising the roots of pole dancing.

28:27As a South Asian woman.

28:29My family definitely could have disowned me.

28:31In terms of the cultural stigma.

28:34But my family are very liberal.

28:36Mum has come to every single one of my performances.

28:40She's been in the front row of all of them.

28:43It's a huge part of my life now.

28:45Because there's just a huge community.

28:46I felt like my confidence just increased a lot.

28:49So I felt like I could express my identity a bit more.

28:52And a bit more comfortable like in my like queerness.

28:55And who do you date?

28:57Do you date like only non-men?

28:58Or do you date everyone?

28:59Yeah.

28:59Only non-men.

29:00Okay.

29:01So I've got the whole gamut.

29:02Oh!

29:05I feel like I'm ready to let somebody in to my life.

29:09In that capacity for the first time.

29:11Like to properly commit.

29:12Because I feel like yeah just very confident in who I am.

29:17This is the first date in two years.

29:19So I haven't really.

29:20Wow.

29:21Okay.

29:21Wait to come back.

29:22Like hello.

29:23I thought that.

29:24Dating.

29:31Girls are good.

29:33You have really light blue eyes.

29:37This has been real.

29:39Good way.

29:40Mmm.

29:41Yeah.

29:43How was I?

29:44I really really liked him.

29:45I mean we have a lot in common.

29:47When he first walked in I thought okay.

29:50Similar vibe.

29:52I think he might have been a little bit hard to read.

29:55Possibly a little bit reserved as well.

30:00Thank God.

30:04So.

30:05Would you like to see each other again?

30:08Should I go first?

30:10Ladies first.

30:11Yeah.

30:11I'd like to see Clint again.

30:14Same.

30:15Yeah.

30:15Of course.

30:16Why wouldn't I?

30:20Don't forget your hat.

30:21Your beautiful hat.

30:22Oh yeah.

30:22Oh my God.

30:23I couldn't read you so.

30:25Because you said that you were hard to read.

30:27So I thought was that maybe you projecting to me.

30:29Yeah.

30:30I can't read you.

30:31Yeah.

30:31I think maybe it's my thing.

30:33It's a me thing.

30:34Okay.

30:35Oh my God look at this.

30:36It's like a garden of Eden.

30:37Yeah.

30:38Woo.

30:39I think.

30:39You're a cool dude.

30:41Yeah.

30:41And I think you're layered.

30:42Yeah.

30:43Yeah.

30:43I'm like an onion.

30:44The more you peel the more it stinks.

30:46But in a good way.

30:47In a good way.

30:47And you like my smell.

30:49Yeah.

30:50I don't stink.

30:52No, no.

30:52It's a good stench.

30:54I'm looking forward to what other kind of magic tricks you've got up your sleeve.

30:59We better find a bar then.

31:00Yeah.

31:01Shall we?

31:02Yeah.

31:02I think so.

31:05I think the older you get, the more you are at peace.

31:09The older people come in, you can tell they're comfortable with themselves.

31:13Yeah.

31:13And they're gregarious and they talk to people.

31:16Yeah.

31:16And I'm just like, okay.

31:18Because of what have they got to lose?

31:19What have they got to lose?

31:22This is Chrissie.

31:26I'm naughty.

31:27Yeah, I have.

31:29When it comes to dating, she's not pussyfooting around.

31:34I do what I want to do.

31:35When I want to do it, I don't answer to anybody.

31:39Don't try and tie me down, because it won't work.

31:42Or if it's in the bedroom.

31:45Everything you dream of.

31:48I just hit the dating apps, and I thought, well, there you go.

31:52This is what it's all about.

31:53One guy I met, and he said he had a present for me.

31:56And you can imagine what it was.

31:59When did he get off giving me a vibrator?

32:00I mean, really.

32:06It feels a filthy habit.

32:09How are you?

32:10I'm very well, thank you.

32:11How are you?

32:11I'm very good.

32:12Good.

32:13So, have you been on a blind date before?

32:14I have never been on a blind date in my life.

32:18I am fiery, and feisty, and I'm spicy.

32:21But I'm not like that on a first date.

32:24I wouldn't go in like a Rottweiler and terrify somebody

32:27and frighten them off.

32:29Hello.

32:30Hello there.

32:31What would you like to drink, Chrissie?

32:32A Bucks Fizz.

32:33A Bucks Fizz, yeah.

32:34Is that OK?

32:36Do you go on many dates?

32:37For the last two years, I have been on lots of dates, actually.

32:40Have you?

32:41I have.

32:42What am I looking for?

32:43Someone that's got their own interests, smartly dressed,

32:47clean, then a gentleman holds your coat up for you,

32:50pays the bill.

32:53I think those things are important.

32:55So you like your independence?

32:56Yes, I do, yes.

32:57Do you want a boyfriend, kind of thing?

32:59Yeah.

33:00Basically, yes.

33:01But not one that wants to see me all the time.

33:04Yeah.

33:05What was like a friend with benefits?

33:06I'll have a squeeze.

33:07A squeeze, yeah.

33:10I want someone that can match me.

33:13A bit cheeky.

33:14Is sex important to you?

33:16Ah, it's a bonus.

33:21God, my daughter's gonna watch this.

33:24This is Jan.

33:27Who's looking to add a little spice to his retirement plan.

33:31And it would be lovely to find a lady who could laugh at themselves.

33:39A bit of wicked and naughty sense of humor.

33:42Sly.

33:43A little look at the side to say, yeah, that's really dark.

33:47Et cetera.

33:48Look out, old Mackey is back!

33:51Yeah.

33:52It's incredibly hard to define.

33:56How are you?

33:57I'm good, sir.

33:58How are you?

33:59Good to see you.

33:59Yes, very good.

34:00Thank you very much.

34:01I like your look.

34:02You're really relaxed.

34:03Am I?

34:03When was the last time you went on a first date or a blind date?

34:06Never.

34:07Never?

34:08Never.

34:08I've been single for eight years.

34:11I like independent women.

34:13I don't need anybody.

34:15And I like women who don't need anybody.

34:18But they would like to have someone in their lives.

34:22Hello.

34:23Hello.

34:25My name's Jan.

34:26Hello, Jan.

34:27I'm Chrissie.

34:28Chrissie.

34:29Lovely to meet you.

34:30Good afternoon.

34:31Good afternoon.

34:31I have a G&T thing.

34:33G&T.

34:34Where have you come from?

34:35Um, North London.

34:37I was from South London.

34:38South London.

34:39Oh, South London.

34:40Know what I mean?

34:41Yeah, South London.

34:42Cheers, Jan.

34:43Cheers.

34:44Cheers.

34:44Nice to meet you.

34:45Love you.

34:46Blue.

34:47Thank you very much.

34:50Hello, Fred.

34:51Can I take you to your table?

34:52Oh, sure.

34:53Shall we go?

34:55I'll take that.

34:55Thank you very much.

34:57What a gentleman.

34:58Now, come on.

34:59Stop selling me.

35:00Points scored.

35:01Come on.

35:01Where are we going?

35:03Thank you, Jan.

35:05So, what do you do?

35:07A technical title is a solidarity coordinator.

35:10And it's for a disability arts organisation.

35:12Oh, my God.

35:12Yeah.

35:13I'm disabled.

35:14Like, just had to have a really dramatic entrance into the world by being, like, strangled while

35:19I was being born.

35:20And, like, so I became disabled because of lack of oxygen.

35:23My mum, she worked for, like, disabled children.

35:26So, she knew what my diagnosis was before they even diagnosed me.

35:30Because she was like, this child seems, like, to seem to have cerebral palsy.

35:34Like, and she went to the doctors and they were like, they did a scan of my brain.

35:37And they were like, yeah.

35:37Yeah.

35:39Yeah.

35:39My mum is a big part of the reason why I'm so confident, like, within myself and also

35:44as a disabled person.

35:46Because she never made me feel like it was burdensome or difficult.

35:50And rather that it's the world that's burdensome and difficult to disabled people for not being

35:54set up in the right way.

35:56There was a time, I think, where I was like, you know, it's insecure.

35:59And I think I just got to a point where I was like, actually, like, you either like yourself

36:03or you spend, like, what, 80 years feeling a bit rubbish.

36:06Yes.

36:06And it's like, why not?

36:08Why not just be like, I'm great?

36:10I'm disabled and really happy about being disabled.

36:13And I think a lot of people are quite surprised when I say, I wouldn't want to change anything.

36:18I really love the kind of body and the mind that I've ended up in.

36:21Oh, my God, this looks good.

36:22Your cocktail, is it right?

36:24Hello, hello.

36:24It matches your vibe as well, I'm not going to lie.

36:26Oh, no, it does.

36:26Look, you guys.

36:28Can you say, both of your hair is sensational.

36:31I love your colour as well.

36:31I know, I feel like I'm cheating by complimenting yours.

36:33It's very similar to mine.

36:36I love a redhead, I'm not going to lie.

36:38It's a cool vibe.

36:39It's a cool vibe.

36:39And you really pull off the shaved head look as well.

36:46How old are you?

36:48As it's you and we're here, I'm 79.

36:52You're 79?

36:53Yeah.

36:53You're fantastic for 79.

36:55I hope I can last another week.

36:57That sounds fucking old, doesn't it?

37:01I know.

37:02I doubt it.

37:02In a couple of weeks, I will be 75 and...

37:06Well, you look bloody amazing too.

37:08Well, thank you.

37:10Probably because I don't drink or smoke.

37:13My late husband, he liked a glass of white wine.

37:15Really?

37:16So I was always the chauffeur.

37:18And have you dated since your husband died?

37:20I have.

37:21I mean, he died 12 years ago.

37:23What did he die of?

37:24We were on holiday in Crete, celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary.

37:29It was the last day of the holiday and he died of a heart attack.

37:33It was all pretty shocking and traumatising, I would say.

37:38He knew me better than I knew me, actually.

37:41You just imagine you're going to be married forever.

37:44You don't imagine to go on holiday with your husband to celebrate 40 years' wedding anniversary

37:49and come home with just a suitcase of clothes.

37:52It was just awful.

37:54You don't know what you can deal with until it's thrown at you.

37:57It's funny how it slowly dawns on you that you are coping, isn't it?

38:02Yeah.

38:02Because there is no alternative.

38:04No, exactly.

38:05You don't know how strong you're going to be

38:07or how you're going to handle these things until it happens to you.

38:10But you just deal with it. You just get on with it and you deal with it.

38:13So that kind of toughened you up.

38:16Do you find it harder because you know what you like now

38:19as opposed to when you're much younger?

38:21I am fussier.

38:22I know what I like.

38:23I know what I don't like.

38:24That's what I mean.

38:25I know what I don't want.

38:26I know what I...

38:27You're kind of formed, aren't you?

38:28Yeah.

38:29I know I'd never want to live with a man again.

38:34Oh, good.

38:35You don't live with a man either.

38:37You got there before me.

38:39Yes.

38:43What are you reading about, Fred?

38:44It's a chronicle of the French Revolution.

38:46A chronicle of the French Revolution.

38:48It's really detailed.

38:49Is that...

38:50Are you going to college again or something?

38:51I'm not quite sure really what the French Revolution did.

38:54There are a lot of things I'm unsure of, so I want to make my own mind up.

38:59Well, how... I mean, how about Brexit?

39:03I mean, I don't... Brexit divided so many people.

39:06Yeah.

39:07I don't... I talk about Brexit and politics, religion.

39:11I... I don't like talking about it.

39:13Fine.

39:22How old are you, by the way?

39:2326. How old are you?

39:2426.

39:25I had to Google it.

39:27I was like, if I was born in 1998, how old am I?

39:32I thought I was 27 for a second, I don't know why.

39:37I saw a woodpecker the other day.

39:40Woodpecker's all blue.

39:41No.

39:43It was from a distance.

39:44Caught.

39:45Most birds are.

39:49Children.

39:51Children.

39:52Yes.

39:55I have two grown-up sons.

39:57And I have seven grandchildren.

39:59I have no... I've got three children.

40:01And no...

40:02You haven't got any grand children?

40:03No grand children.

40:03They've seen my life, so they can...

40:07So, you're divorced?

40:09Yes.

40:10Oh, you're divorced?

40:11Oh, yes.

40:12Yeah, mum went to the other side of the world.

40:14Without the children?

40:15Yes.

40:16OK.

40:17I was...

40:17I'm not passing any judgment.

40:20Their mother remarried, had another child, and then one day said,

40:26I'm going to the other side of the world.

40:30It was like that.

40:31Bang.

40:34And...

40:35Dumbstruck.

40:38And my children were school-age.

40:41So, I sat my kids down, and I said,

40:44Do you want to go?

40:46The youngest was really confused, obviously.

40:49The oldest said, No.

40:52I said, We're going to stay together.

40:56And we did.

40:59It gave me an amazing experience.

41:02Of course it did.

41:03You're probably closer to your children now than you ever would have been.

41:06Yeah.

41:06Last summer, there was a wedding in France, and my daughter came over to me.

41:11And she said, Would you dance?

41:14Oh, how lovely.

41:17That made your day.

41:18That made your year.

41:19Made your life.

41:20Yeah, it made your life.

41:21When a daughter comes to ask a dad to dance.

41:23Yes.

41:24Yes.

41:25That's probably the greatest compliment you can ever get.

41:31How's the jelly looking?

41:32It's, er...

41:33It's looking like something.

41:34It's moon and jelly.

41:36I can see it.

41:36It's proper wibbly wobbly, isn't it?

41:44Ah, yes.

41:48Um...

41:48Ah, he's very nice, do you know?

41:51He is very nice.

41:52And we've had a laugh.

41:54But...

41:55Oh.

41:56Oh.

41:56You know what I mean?

41:58Hello, gorgeous people.

41:59Hi. So, I have for you...

42:01Wow! What?

42:02That is... I know what you're thinking.

42:04This is actually a representative

42:07of the dome of the building.

42:09Oh, I see a pause. Indeed.

42:12Love, she is the building. Lovely.

42:15The last time I ate jelly was when I had

42:17norovirus last year.

42:19So I shouldn't say that, sorry.

42:21Who are you snogging?

42:23I think, to be fair,

42:25now that I think about it, that might be

42:27one of the best birthdays that I've had.

42:29I think it's just rare

42:31to have that many things in common.

42:33I do definitely feel some flirty vibes.

42:35Both ways, I think.

42:42That's good.

42:45Hi.

42:48Shall we go Dutch?

42:49Yeah, let's.

42:51Okay.

42:52Do you like to see each other again?

42:54I'm going to let you go first.

42:56You're going to make me go first?

42:57Are you? I definitely would.

43:00Good, because I would also.

43:02That's good, isn't it?

43:03I feel like it would be insane to not see you again.

43:06I know.

43:07We're similar, but also very different,

43:09which is perfect, because you don't want to be a clone.

43:11I don't know if I talk as fast as you do,

43:13but I feel like we're relatively well-paced.

43:15So we could probably get to, like, the fifth date

43:17in, like, two dates' time.

43:20Exactly.

43:21It was honestly really one of my best first dates ever.

43:24I know. Who asked?

43:26Like, what a moment.

43:28Yeah.

43:29That needs to go back.

43:32Sorry, Jan.

43:34That was a mile away, that toilet.

43:36Do you think I'd done a runner?

43:37Yeah.

43:39Imagine.

43:39I've had a very nice meal.

43:40Have you?

43:41I've enjoyed your company enormously.

43:44Oh, have you?

43:45That's really nice.

43:46I've enjoyed your company.

43:47That's good.

43:49I did ask for a gentleman.

43:51Then when, I think, Fred come to take us up to the table,

43:54he picked my drink up for me.

43:56I thought, well, that was really nice.

43:57Obviously, I'm getting there,

43:58so we're not going to go through that thing later.

44:00Are you sure?

44:01Well, thank you very much.

44:02I appreciate that.

44:02My pleasure.

44:03Hello.

44:04What, Jan?

44:06We'll meet again.

44:08What's my fortune?

44:09Don't give up.

44:11I would never give up.

44:13Nor would I.

44:17Would you like to see a gentleman?

44:18Would you like me to go first?

44:20Yes, you go first, Jan.

44:21OK.

44:22Yes.

44:24That's very kind.

44:26It's very nice of you.

44:28I'm not sure, is the truth.

44:30I thought we had a lovely date.

44:33Good.

44:33I thought you were lovely.

44:34I loved your mind.

44:35But I'm not sure it would be any more than like a friendship.

44:41I completely agree with the friendship, Beth.

44:43Do you?

44:44Absolutely.

44:45Well, that's all right then, isn't it?

44:46Yeah.

44:47That's when I thought we'd be good friends.

44:48OK.

44:49French is cool.

44:49Yeah, I'm OK with that.

44:51I'm all right with that.

44:53Good.

44:55You're saying I'm a cheap date.

44:59You mentioned friends with benefits?

45:03Friends with benefits?

45:04I think we could be very nice friends.

45:07I think we could enjoy each other's company.

45:10Yes.

45:11Occasionally.

45:12Yes, I think we could.

45:13And then I would probably find another woman and you would be weeping.

45:17We had a lovely time.

45:19Yes.

45:19I was smashing.

45:20I think so.

45:25What did you think of Prince's magic trick?

45:27I was really impressed by it.

45:28Was you?

45:29I did have one that I didn't do.

45:31You need to save that for the next time.

45:33Yeah, yeah.

45:43You could tell me what it is in the wood.

45:45Yeah.

45:46I'll teach you.

45:47I've been thinking about it, like, a lot.

45:49Like, obviously I've been paying attention to what you're saying.

45:51But you were still thinking about the bird.

45:52The bird!

46:03Are you flirting?

46:04Probably a little bit, yeah.

46:06Because you are.

46:07By the way, you've got smashing legs.

46:09Oh, have I?

46:10Yes.

46:10Oh, thank you.

46:11When did you see my legs?

46:13Well, as soon as I saw you, really.

46:15Oh, did you?

46:15Yeah, you were sitting there with your legs hanging out.

46:19Soon.

46:25Hello.

46:26Where?

46:35To theютennium夢

46:38Well, because...

46:40Here.

46:42Here.

46:43Here.

46:46Here's the captains in the wateremail.

46:47You

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