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Welcome to Plathville (2019) Season 8 Episode 1
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00:04so my family we grew up very very sheltered very wholesome very simple but then things really
00:11changed i really don't like change you've told me you can't accept how our values don't align
00:17then i don't see the future with us together you know my older brother my parents we are moving
00:23forward with a divorce no family's perfect we've all just changed one way or another for better or
00:30worse it's the first serious relationship i've had since olivia i most definitely am in love with tegan
00:36he's it he's the one how can you explain falling in love with someone you know what i mean
00:41my name is zach great to meet you i can't wait to just be hopefully engaged by the end of
00:48the day
00:48will you marry me please say no yes my whole family feels uncomfortable nobody is really happy
00:58other than my dad i got the memo be the dad that lydia wants you to be i feel like
01:04barry wants
01:05everybody to like him i think that's why he signed off on the marriage so quickly
01:09what was going on with veronica and micah that was really not good you're not emotionally
01:18intelligent grow a pair you're talking so far down to me veronica sees a headline and she says
01:24your brother's girlfriend has an only fancy he wants to see it i was concerned about the wedding
01:31itself and then veronica just kind of pushed me over the edge
01:37nobody around is the full extent of how crazy it was i think we need to leave go back to
01:42boca
01:43and i i we are done ethan couldn't get over the fact that he thinks zach is gay
01:49talk about lack of any respect for someone's wedding especially your sisters
01:54and we need to have a conversation with with them at some point we just felt very very disrespected
02:17growing up as an only child i always wanted a large family
02:22healthy fresh air lots of music and lots of love and i wanted to share that with people
02:27it was beautiful the farm was the perfect place for all of those things to come together
02:39and the farm has always been the place we all come back to
02:52which is why after years away i've finally returned
02:59i've moved back here with the girls we have two dogs three kittens and we're finally settled
03:05i didn't want to live at the farm during the divorce because it was hard to be so close to
03:11barry knowing that if i had to go run errands i might see him but now the divorce is done
03:18and i'm
03:19back home and i'm reclaiming my life have you ever seen anything cuter than this
03:24yes he's so cute look at this one he's cuter
03:32i'm here with the girls half the time and the other half the time they're with barry
03:36and somebody else lives here with us too who's that
03:45ken
03:45for the first couple years after barry and i separated i just wasn't sure exactly what i wanted
03:57and i couldn't be serious about somebody when i was legally still married to somebody else
04:02so ken and i broke up a few months before lydia's wedding but then when the divorce was finalized like
04:09we realized that we did want to be with each other
04:17when ken moved in we wanted it to feel like it's his home too and so we let him decorate
04:23it however
04:23he wanted and he even brought a jukebox
04:28mercy has learned the synthesizer part to jump by van halen from listening to the jukebox
04:36and it's definitely different than when we lived at the farm years ago we didn't have a jukebox playing
04:4280s classic rock
04:45come here lexi
04:46i'm definitely happy i'm back
04:48it isn't perfect and i've made lots of mistakes but lucky me i've got
04:53lots of people willing to tell me when i mess something up
05:01anywhere we go there we go there we go yeah it feels like feels like home
05:07what did you think of church this morning oh it's so good
05:09yeah
05:12just a little laundry to do i think the rest of the house is pretty much in order
05:16okay sides for this stuff okay
05:21what was that it was just the phone case
05:25so we've known each other over a year now
05:29we made it
05:31these are just all your shirts right
05:33i think you have a few years
05:35oh that one's mine
05:37that someone's different here what's going on
05:39yeah so i i have decided to go with contacts because
05:45because after he got married i just kept smudging them up so he smudged up his glasses
05:50how did you smudge up his glasses
05:52i wonder
05:55anyway
05:58this is our apartment
06:01it's everything we need
06:02we're able to host people
06:04play games and hang out
06:06because that's what we've always wanted to do
06:08just have people over and have a good time
06:12now what is it like for you going from living
06:14in a bachelor pad to with a wife
06:17it's nice to come home to a home that has been created by my wife
06:21i love having a reason to clean the home
06:24moving in together was
06:27so much easier than people made it out to be
06:29i don't think there are any things that like he does that annoys me
06:33he knows not to leave the toilet seat up
06:35he knows not to crowd the counter space
06:38because that's for me to do
06:39i'm truly surprised how well we adjusted to living together
06:44and just building a home together
06:47so be honest
06:48all right
06:49what is life like living with me as your wife
06:53amazing of course
06:55but
06:57after 10 p.m.
06:59you
06:59are on a different level
07:02i should be on
07:05is the honeymoon phase over yet
07:08nope
07:10zach sees a sign of me that no one else will ever see
07:12ever know about
07:14that's that
07:14i think i've
07:16not only introduced her but also
07:20watered the seed of
07:22curiosity for her in this realm
07:24and so i think
07:27it's fun to see her
07:29and me just like interact
07:31in those ways
07:34lydia zach just said you're naughty
07:38it's true
07:44dear lord thank you for this food
07:45thank you for this time together
07:47a wonderful day at church
07:49in your name
07:49amen
07:55so good
07:56the best part of marriage has just been
07:58being fully known and fully loved
08:02the best part of married life is definitely learning
08:05whether it's learning about lydia
08:07or learning about myself
08:11take your time
08:13and be who she needs
08:16and in times of need so
08:20we have two empty chairs
08:21i am excited to
08:24have
08:24start a family
08:25and everything with you
08:27and
08:28i
08:28like feel like i'm ready
08:30to be a mother
08:31hmm
08:32i can agree
08:34yeah traveling's really fun with you though
08:37we still have a lot of places we want to go
08:40it's not that we're going to stop traveling when we have kids
08:42it'll just be fewer and far between and more special
08:46because there'll be more people to share with
08:48yeah
08:49so we got married in february
08:51it's been eight months
08:52and so we're planning to wait a year
08:54before we start a family
08:56four months left
08:57four months left
08:58who's counting
09:00apparently you
09:02i love the idea of starting a family with you
09:05i'm ready
09:06we're just preparing our lives for another human being
09:10we don't want to you
09:11and we don't want to me
09:25i know mariah and micah
09:28we're only in town for a limited time
09:30but
09:30we were
09:32hoping to have that conversation for the whole family and everything
09:36it's been eight months of
09:38zach and i praying
09:39sorting through everything and what happened
09:42leading up to the wedding
09:44i feel like
09:45you've been mistreated and lied about
09:48and that first year has been hard
09:52we just want to have one conversation with the whole family
09:54in one place
09:55there's so many assumptions made about both of us
09:58it did some damage
09:59and we've had to deal with that for the months that we've been married
10:03you're saving your first kiss for your wedding
10:05yeah
10:06how do you do that
10:08i gotta ask you
10:09yeah
10:10are you gay
10:14i know i'm straight
10:15but we had to iron out those assumptions
10:18and then show each other that we actually cared for each other
10:22more than anything that anyone said about us
10:26i gotta learn what
10:27how to move forward in that
10:28so
10:28obviously i want to be there to support you
10:30if you gotta
10:32teach your some stuff out in that
10:33so
10:34i don't think i have to figure anything out
10:36i think i just need to say a few things
10:37okay
10:40let's go
10:40let's go
10:55i was living up in minnesota
10:57and then i moved down here to georgia in july
11:02i just wanted to have a change of scenery
11:05and be closer to the family and everything
11:07so i've been down here
11:08getting the farm in shape
11:10building this barn
11:12and you know
11:13lots of land work
11:13cutting down trees
11:14mowing
11:16staying at the farm
11:17or at my dad's house
11:18depending on what i'm doing
11:20just
11:20seeing what it's like to
11:22live back down here
11:25are you divorced yet?
11:27no she
11:28olivia will not
11:30call or respond
11:31do anything
11:32she's purposely trying to hold me up
11:34trying to make my life hell
11:38i believe
11:39olivia won't let me go
11:42um
11:43because she doesn't want to
11:45let me move on to anybody else
11:48i think that's her motive
11:52what's going on with tegan
11:57oh me and tegan
11:58uh broke up
12:01and i don't know
12:08i knew that she
12:09was tired a long distance
12:10and
12:12i kept telling her that i would move
12:14to wisconsin
12:16and i never did
12:19and
12:20you know
12:21you can only tell someone
12:22so many times
12:22i'm going to do this
12:23and you don't
12:24and it just doesn't mean anything
12:29me not being divorced yet still
12:31that's been extremely frustrating for me
12:34over the last year
12:36and definitely has affected
12:38me and tegan
12:41i've had an attorney for
12:43over a year now
12:45and
12:45olivia has
12:47ignored him
12:49said you know
12:50i'm out of the country
12:50i'll get back to you
12:51when i'm
12:51home
12:52and then weeks later
12:54when she comes back
12:55she never does anything
12:56so he has to start over
12:57get in trying
12:57and nothing
12:58ever has happened
13:06sometimes in life
13:07you're lucky enough
13:08to meet somebody
13:10that you
13:11actually truly connect with
13:14like not just on a physical level
13:16but like a spiritual
13:18emotional level
13:21and
13:23that was very much
13:24true with me and tegan
13:26it's hard
13:28to move on
13:30i feel like
13:31i can't walk away
13:33and spend the rest of my life
13:34wondering
13:35if i could have
13:36saved it
13:37i really
13:38truly feel like there's
13:44unfinished business
14:05i feel like
14:09they're coming here
14:10wanting an apology
14:11mom pretty much
14:12accused zach of
14:13being controlling
14:14and taking over
14:15desires i wanted
14:16for the wedding
14:16let's go
14:18know your daughter
14:19before you
14:20make accusations
14:21like that
14:22hug your brother
14:25i'm a little bit
14:26concerned
14:26about ethan
14:27because
14:29he can be pretty
14:30hot-headed
14:30and i could tell
14:31it was that
14:32lydia's found
14:32something really good
14:34let me just polish
14:35my halo
14:36you know
14:37i want you all to know
14:39the night before our wedding
14:40it was actually
14:41the hardest night
14:42of my life
15:01how you been
15:02oh i'm pretty good
15:03good to see you
15:08how have you been
15:08pretty good
15:10i'm coming up here
15:11to see all my family
15:12i haven't seen them
15:13in a while
15:13been really busy
15:15oh i got a new go-kart
15:17you got it running
15:18no not yet
15:19i'm also coming to
15:20take a whole bunch
15:21of my stuff
15:22back down to florida
15:22because i finally
15:23have my own place
15:24your spare doesn't
15:25look any good ethan
15:27i'm gonna drive to
15:27mexico in this
15:28do you want to push me
15:29no
15:31after i broke up
15:32with veronica
15:32i knew i needed
15:33to make a change
15:35i met a pretty
15:36incredible girl
15:37and we are
15:40doing great
15:40and we are
15:41happy
15:43keeping things
15:44somewhat private
15:46you know
15:46kind of evaluating
15:47everything that's
15:48happened over the
15:48last couple years
15:50um
15:51i don't think
15:52i was on the path
15:53for what i wanted
15:53and i'm gonna
15:54switch things up
15:55a little bit
15:55and just chase
15:57a peaceful life
16:01looks like
16:02isaac made it
16:06have fun
16:07yeah i will
16:09thanks for dropping
16:10me off
16:13kaylin dropped me
16:13off today
16:14everything's good
16:15between us still
16:16we've been together
16:17for just over a year
16:18now
16:18all right well i'll
16:19see you soon
16:21it's been a while
16:22since the wedding
16:23there were a few
16:24factors that led
16:25to things just
16:26being tense
16:26part of it was
16:28them rushing the
16:29wedding and us
16:30not really knowing
16:31zach well enough
16:33i didn't want to
16:34sit around and just
16:35let somebody walk
16:35into my family that
16:36wasn't going to
16:37treat my sister right
16:38because i've seen
16:38that happen before
16:40with my brother's
16:41ancestors and i've
16:43had it and i wasn't
16:44going to have it
16:45again
16:49hi hello
16:51hello
16:52i almost called you
16:55mercy mercy
16:56mercy lord have
16:58mercy
16:58long time
17:02amazing
17:04montana has been
17:06treating me very
17:07well very peaceful
17:09very happy
17:10you guys i'm so
17:12happy to be home
17:14you see what i've
17:15done
17:15this looks great
17:17isn't it crazy
17:19oh my gosh i love
17:21that it's open
17:22it feels really good
17:23to be back here
17:24for a while the farm
17:26just kind of felt
17:27like not abandoned
17:29but there was
17:30nothing really you
17:31know going on
17:32it was a rental
17:33property and it
17:34just had a different
17:35vibe to it
17:39now having mom
17:40living there it's
17:41it feels a lot more
17:42like home
17:44it's just a different
17:46kind of special
17:47being able to come
17:49home now
17:51oh ethan
17:53do you like it
17:54i like it
17:55yeah looks good on
17:56you yeah
17:56thank you
17:57well
17:57it like
17:58compliments the
17:59shape of your
17:59head nicely
18:00thank you
18:01unlike yours
18:03what's going on
18:05here
18:08i'm wearing a wig
18:10right now
18:10um
18:12i have alopecia
18:14an autoimmune condition
18:16that causes hair loss
18:17it started when i was
18:19little
18:19when it's really bad
18:21i have no eyebrows
18:23eyelashes
18:24no hair on my head
18:26that's what i'm dealing
18:28with right now
18:29these are just stickers
18:31no they're not
18:32yeah
18:32they're they're
18:33they're just literally
18:34cheap stickers
18:35that i got online
18:37and then i have
18:39four wigs
18:40that i kind of
18:41can play around with
18:42i'm working on
18:42making a collection
18:44of a lot of them
18:44let me see your nose
18:47pretty good isn't it
18:48yeah
18:48i went under
18:49oh yeah
18:50did you actually
18:51get plastic surgery
18:52no
18:52oh okay
18:53i literally
18:54i went to the
18:55emergency room
18:56that one night
18:57got the stitches
18:57i pulled the stitches
18:58out myself
18:59and i'm fine
19:00my gosh
19:01that was quite a night
19:02lord
19:03yeah
19:04so what are we doing
19:06i'm on three hours
19:07of sleep
19:07i drove overnight
19:08lydia and zach
19:09are coming up here
19:10yeah lydia and zach
19:11will want to have a meeting
19:13with us
19:14about their feelings
19:15or maybe
19:16i don't know
19:17yeah
19:19lydia and zach
19:20want to sit down
19:21and talk to everybody
19:24but
19:24i have a lot on
19:25my heart and my mind
19:27me and tegan are
19:28broken up
19:29it's very hard to
19:30shake my focus off
19:31of that
19:31for anything
19:33i just feel like
19:34there was way too
19:35many emotions
19:37people got carried away
19:39yes
19:39to say the least
19:52how long has it been
19:53since we've been to the farm
19:54it's been a minute
19:56i think it'll be good
19:56to have the whole family
19:57there to
19:59talk with everyone
20:02we're going to the farm
20:04we figured it was a good time
20:06because the whole family's in town
20:08pretty last minute
20:09but we just wanted to address
20:12stuff around our wedding
20:14we had some
20:15pretty surprising things
20:17come our way
20:19when ethan asked if i was gay
20:20it was just very
20:21it didn't make sense
20:22i had proposed
20:23and you're asking
20:24if i'm even attracted to her
20:26like this is
20:26ridiculous
20:29i wanted to bring it
20:30to their attention
20:31that
20:31you know
20:32what they did
20:35did hurt us
20:36and
20:38you know
20:38they could have gone about it
20:40quite differently
20:41no
20:41when we were engaged
20:43i know there was a lot of people
20:44talking
20:45about zach and i
20:47and their concerns
20:48about us
20:49they said they were doing everything
20:51because they care
20:53in that care
20:54all i felt was hurt
20:55well i want you to know
20:57i want you to be happy
20:58and i'm very happy to see
20:59that you're happy
21:00but i just have to say it
21:02you've only known him
21:03for three months
21:03and you get married in two months
21:04so you're sure you're good with that
21:05well
21:06four months
21:07if that matters
21:09it's too fast
21:10it's too much
21:11i feel like they're rushing into it
21:13we all feel pressured
21:15into having to accept
21:16somebody that we don't know
21:17how can
21:18Lydia really know
21:19like how much of a provider
21:20you could be
21:21or if he's going to be able
21:22to take care of Lydia
21:22just i can't take
21:23like much more
21:24i'm just going to lose it
21:26yeah
21:26that guy really does
21:28pop in blue
21:32it's like hey
21:33this is something you did
21:34that affected us
21:35we want to move forward
21:36and this is
21:37this is something that
21:38is
21:39we feel is holding us back
21:41in
21:41our relationship with you
21:43because
21:43of how it hurt
21:49Zach and Lydia are coming
21:52I'm a little bit dreading it
21:54because I know
21:56that
21:58things were crazy
21:59at their wedding
21:59and I feel like
22:00they're coming here
22:01wanting an apology
22:04and
22:05I have mixed feelings
22:06about that
22:06because
22:07I am sorry
22:09that a lot of things
22:10happened
22:10the way they did
22:12at the same time
22:15I'm not sorry
22:17that we
22:19really
22:20cared
22:21last night Lydia
22:22called us
22:23we asked her
22:24if she was okay
22:24with me and Mercy
22:25being in on the conversation
22:26and she said
22:27she didn't really see
22:28a need for us to be there
22:29I think they don't want us
22:30to hear what they have to say
22:31obviously
22:33I guess I am a little bit nervous
22:34about Zach and Lydia's
22:35expectations
22:37anything
22:38that was said or done
22:39before the wedding
22:40was coming from a place
22:41of love
22:42and concern about Lydia
22:43we were concerned about her
22:44because there are
22:45crazy people out there
22:46and it's sad that you have
22:46to question
22:48everything
22:48but you really do
22:49yeah
22:49and with that timeline
22:52it's completely normal
22:53for us to have questions
22:56I mean just
22:57you know
22:57all of us
22:59have moved on
23:00moved forward
23:01and accepted Zach
23:02as a brother-in-law
23:04a son-in-law
23:05whatever
23:06as part of the family
23:07including Ethan
23:08and Isaac
23:09and Micah
23:10but I feel like
23:11Zach and Lydia
23:12haven't been able
23:13to move on
23:18I've been angry
23:19I've been really upset
23:21at my family
23:21for what they did
23:22there were nights on end
23:24that I would fall asleep
23:25crying
23:26and Zach was just there
23:27to come for me
23:27because I was just hurt
23:29and I was just upset
23:30it took us a while
23:32to kind of approach
23:34this conversation
23:34we were frustrated
23:36we were scared
23:38of maybe not being
23:40accepted
23:40or loved
23:42dealing with all that
23:43at once
23:45took a long time
23:47I also wanted to talk
23:49knowing what I wanted to say
23:51and not just getting
23:53all emotional
23:53and not having a direction
23:55it took eight months
23:58I'm not ashamed of that
24:02I've really been wrestling
24:04with it
24:04a lot
24:07what I would say
24:08how I would say it
24:11I think some of the things
24:13they said
24:13just made me realize
24:15like
24:16they don't really
24:17know me
24:18and that hurts
24:20because
24:20you want to be known
24:22by your family
24:25I don't know
24:25if it's just me
24:26or if
24:27most of the family
24:28feels this way
24:29if it's just the middle child
24:30but I've always felt
24:31like
24:32overlooked
24:33second thought
24:35and I just felt
24:36that on my wedding day
24:36and that's just
24:39not what it's supposed to be
24:42I know
24:42I need this
24:43to move forward
24:44and
24:45whatever happens from it
24:47I need to be okay with that
24:48I just know
24:49this is the step
24:50I need to take
25:00what are some things
25:01that you might want
25:02to address with your mom
25:03I mean definitely
25:04with what she had said
25:06about you being controlling
25:07I have no idea
25:09how this family meeting
25:10is going to go
25:12I need to address
25:13with mom
25:17just how she went
25:18about a few things
25:19like
25:19she pretty much
25:20accused Zach
25:21of being controlling
25:22and taking over
25:23desires I wanted
25:24for the wedding
25:25yet she didn't even know
25:27what I had thought of
25:29I've seen
25:30a usurping
25:31of
25:32Lydia's desires
25:33where Lydia wants
25:34something for the wedding
25:35and he just shoots it down
25:37because he has
25:37another plan in mind
25:38she said
25:39I wanted
25:39hunter green
25:40for my wedding
25:40which is a color
25:41I would never think of
25:42blue has always been
25:43both our favorite colors
25:45it's blue
25:46imagine that
25:48and I gave my opinion
25:49but then
25:50said after
25:51I was like
25:51you know
25:52I think blue looks best
25:54but I want you
25:55to make the decision
25:56because you're the bride
25:57and you know
25:58I think
25:58you know
26:00you have a better
26:01eye for those sorts
26:03of things
26:03and so
26:04if anything
26:05I was
26:06completely
26:06letting her
26:07make the decision
26:09it was just
26:10yeah
26:10it's like
26:11know your daughter
26:12before you
26:13make accusations
26:15like that
26:31king of the world
26:34I'm king of the world
26:43what are you doing
26:45oh
26:46hello
26:47I'm just envisioning
26:49myself out on the golf
26:50clipping at 20 knots
26:52nothing but the
26:53the wind in my hair
26:54and the spray
26:56on my skin
27:00okay
27:00no I mean
27:02so yeah
27:03I was just checking it out
27:04that's all
27:07so uh
27:08have you found any
27:09uh
27:09prospective buyers
27:11Micah bought it
27:12Micah bought this
27:13yes
27:14I made him quite a deal
27:15on it
27:16I think he's gonna
27:16fix it up
27:17and sell it
27:18wow
27:19he sometimes
27:20pops up in random
27:21places like
27:22on the boat
27:23in the middle
27:23of the field
27:24I was giving myself
27:25a self-guided tour
27:27since you know
27:27years past
27:28I missed out
27:29on the tour
27:30that you've given others
27:32okay
27:33we're generally
27:34on good terms
27:35but I like him
27:36to call first
27:37before he shows up
27:38I mean that's
27:39something that I've
27:40kind of asked him
27:41to do
27:41I don't want to be
27:43in the house
27:43and look out the window
27:44and just see him
27:46there
27:46I want to know
27:47if I look out
27:48I'm gonna see woods
27:50and birds
27:51maybe a deer
27:52I'm not gonna see Barry
27:55I'm not gonna see Barry
27:55and he might see
27:56something he doesn't
27:56want to see
28:00I think Liddy and Zach
28:02are gonna be here soon
28:03so
28:04do you want them
28:04to find you on the boat
28:05or do you want to
28:06come up
28:07closer to the house
28:08I'll get down
28:08and I'll be over
28:10in a little bit
28:12okay
28:12well I'm gonna go
28:13see the kids
28:15this is the first time
28:16all the family
28:17are gonna be able
28:17to be together
28:18since the wedding
28:20I became aware
28:21of Zach and Lydia's
28:23challenges
28:24once they got back
28:24from Europe
28:25how they were feeling
28:26during the wedding
28:27the night before
28:28the rehearsal
28:29all that
28:30I began to understand
28:32you know
28:32just how deeply
28:33Lydia was
28:34feeling the hurt
28:35and the pain
28:36my role as father
28:37is to be
28:38Lydia's validation
28:40and I know
28:41that I did that
28:42more so than
28:43any of the boys
28:45or Kim
28:46all right
28:48main event
28:53all right
28:54here we are
29:14we got this
29:15we got this
29:19let's go
29:30we got this
29:31we got this
29:34let's go
29:41hi guys
29:42oh my goodness
29:42Mariah
29:43oh my gosh
29:44hi
29:45I haven't seen you
29:47in forever
29:47no Mariah first
29:48sorry
29:51hi Rissy
29:52how are you
29:54you look so good
29:56although I've hardly
29:57seen you
29:58today
29:58we're going to talk
30:00about some of the
30:01things that happened
30:02around the wedding
30:02and kind of
30:04Lydia and Zach's
30:05feelings about
30:06all of the wedding
30:07drama
30:08and
30:12Ken is inside
30:13working on his
30:14jukebox
30:16he asked me
30:17do you want me
30:18to sit in on this
30:19and I said
30:19well I think this
30:20is just going to be
30:20family
30:26I'm more of a
30:27quiet person
30:28I've heard both
30:30sides of the
30:30story
30:31I would rather
30:32be in the
30:32house
30:33watching the
30:34dogs
30:35I try to
30:36avoid drama
30:37as much as
30:38possible
30:44it is weird
30:47that
30:48you know
30:48Ken's now
30:49at the
30:49house
30:50that I
30:50used to
30:51be
30:52head of the
30:53household over
30:53but you know
30:54it's like
30:55what do you
30:55say
30:55weird is
30:56the new
30:57norm
30:57so
30:58I'm just
30:59what do you
31:00do
31:00I'm used
31:01to weird
31:09go hug your
31:10brother-in-law
31:13hey
31:14how's it going
31:15doing good
31:16how are you doing
31:17good to see you
31:18I think we're all
31:19here this is the
31:19first time we've all
31:20this is all the
31:21siblings
31:23wow everybody's
31:24here this is a
31:25big conversation
31:26going into it
31:27I'm like
31:29you know Lydia
31:30knows exactly what
31:31she's going to say
31:31how we felt about
31:33things
31:33we're going to
31:35control what we
31:36can control and
31:37whatever their
31:38reactions are
31:39we can't control
31:41you've been
31:42traveling
31:42yeah
31:43Lydia and Zach
31:44have been upset
31:45with me and
31:47Ethan and
31:47really everyone
31:49because of
31:49everyone except
31:50Barry because of
31:51how things played
31:52out at their
31:53wedding
31:56I mean I
31:57think they're
31:58wanting apologies
31:59do I think it's
32:01fair I mean
32:02are you going to
32:03apologize
32:03I don't I don't
32:04know
32:07I'm a little bit
32:08concerned about
32:10Ethan because
32:11he can be pretty
32:12hot-headed and
32:14I'm hoping that
32:16that will be
32:17calm and under
32:19control today
32:28so thank you guys
32:29for making this
32:31happen
32:31been wanting to
32:32have this
32:32conversation for a
32:33while and I'm glad
32:34you guys could all
32:34make it
32:35I guess I'll start
32:36with owning whatever
32:38I can
32:38I know
32:39it was quick
32:40when we got
32:41married
32:42and
32:44I know that
32:44did
32:45kind of pressure
32:46you guys to
32:47you have to get
32:48to know Zach
32:49in a certain
32:49amount of time
32:50and I'm sorry
32:51if that pressured
32:52you in any way
32:53but with that
32:54like some people
32:55chose to
32:56get to know him
32:58and some people
33:00just made their
33:01judgments
33:01and
33:02and that was
33:03that
33:05I know you
33:05guys care
33:07it would be
33:08amazing
33:11if
33:13there was
33:13a way
33:14to show
33:14Zach care
33:15especially to Zach
33:17and some of you
33:18have done really
33:18well at that
33:19but if you do
33:20approve
33:21if you do
33:21see that it's
33:23good
33:23it would be
33:24nice to
33:25see that
33:26effort
33:27a little bit
33:30so
33:33if there are
33:33any concerns
33:34that still
33:34are lasting
33:35now
33:37or any questions
33:38that you guys
33:39have in general
33:40I'm also
33:41open to those
33:42conversations
33:43I don't have
33:44a lot of pain
33:45from what they
33:46did to me
33:47it's more
33:48that they would
33:49do it to me
33:49and that
33:50they're hurting
33:51her in the process
33:52that hurt me more
33:53I'm trying to
33:54lift Lydia up
33:56because I know
33:57what she's doing
33:57is right
33:58we want to
33:59figure it out
33:59we want to
34:00move forward
34:00and obviously
34:02like
34:03we're open books
34:04and we want to
34:04figure things out
34:05if there's anything
34:06that you guys
34:07don't see fit
34:08I'd love to be
34:09a part of this
34:09family in that
34:10and so
34:11yeah
34:11just kind of
34:12voicing what
34:13she was
34:18I want you all
34:19to know
34:19sorry
34:20I did not
34:21want to cry
34:29the way we were
34:29treated the night
34:30before our wedding
34:32supposed to be
34:33a joyful time
34:34celebrating
34:35I'm celebrating
34:35the last night
34:36as Blap
34:37it was actually
34:38the hardest
34:38night of my life
34:42so
34:55so
35:11The way we were treated the night before our wedding was supposed to be a joyful time
35:17celebrating the last night as Blap. It was actually the hardest night of my life.
35:30Lydia, I felt awful after, I don't know, hindsight. I guess I can't speak for everyone here but
35:44I'm assuming most of what was done, even though it wasn't done in the right way or everything
35:51happened so fast or whatever the excuse is, it was looking out for your best interest
35:55because we all care about you a lot.
35:59There's been obviously tension. There was a lot of tension between my brothers,
36:03some me. We do need to make sure he's the one for Lydia.
36:07He needs a test to see his true colors.
36:09I say we just let it happen today and then we just try to give an
36:15I was so wrapped up in a lot. It's not an excuse. I should have
36:20been there for you even more than I was.
36:23You still dance with me?
36:25I know I did. That means a lot.
36:30I can only imagine how difficult that was for Lydia and Zach, Zach especially.
36:36You know, hindsight, I'm like, Zach, you're a great guy. You two seem fit for each other.
36:41But when I meet you two hours before you propose to my sister, there's a lot of stuff that goes
36:49on.
36:50For sure.
36:51Yeah, I mean, you know, people do act different under pressure and that's mainly what I was feeling.
36:57There was a lot of pressure with it being rushed and then seeing, you know, past relationships,
37:02people have come into the family really fast and just turned out bad. And that's the only thing that
37:07was stuck in my head. Looking back, I see that I
37:12certain times I acted, you know, like an idiot.
37:16I'm going to apologize to both of you for certain things that I've done.
37:20It may have been good intentions or thought it was good, but just went about it completely wrong way.
37:26That's all I see from mine.
37:29You know, you both were saying if we still have things or whatever, I don't have, I don't think
37:35any of us do. For me, from the time that you two said I do, it was done. And I'm
37:40a hundred percent
37:41supportive of both of you. And I see you as a son, son-in-law, part of the family.
37:51So far, I'm seeing more healing with Micah and Isaac than there is with Kim. I think there's a
37:57conversation that just needs to happen between Lydia and Kim. There's a lot there to unpack.
38:05It goes deeper than the body. It goes into the realm of when the divorce happened and things like
38:12that. There's healing that's needed there, I think, relationally between those two.
38:17All the concerns that everyone voiced, whether to you or in private, whether you go about it in
38:24the proper way or the wrong way, there is a time for that. And that time has passed. You guys
38:30are
38:30both part of the family now. And I'm very happy to see you both doing well. And I'm sorry if
38:38anything
38:38that I did, you know, hurt you, which I know it did. So I apologize for that. Yep.
38:46Before their wedding, I was just saying what I saw and what I felt. Just like Isaac and Micah,
38:55we were just encouraging Lydia to not rush into something, especially with not knowing really
39:02what their physical attraction is. I think there's nothing wrong with checking yourself and being like,
39:07do you see what I see? Or am I just delusional, you know?
39:12But I certainly could have been nicer, you know, gone about things maybe in a better way.
39:19It's awesome to have you back here, being able to have more time with you because it's a lot closer
39:25than Minnesota, so. It's encouraging to hear Ethan apologize. He definitely had quite a
39:31big piece in just the pain and hurt caused. I wouldn't call it water under the bridge.
39:38I would just call it forgiveness of just him owning up to the things he did wrong.
39:46I mean, it's good to clear the end. And dad, I don't know if I've said it enough,
39:51but thank you so much for all your support. I feel like it's almost like a little jab at me,
40:00like at least my dad was supportive, you know, my mom wasn't. But she was feeling all of that support
40:07because Barry just rubber stamped the Zach relationship and didn't even ask questions
40:13about anything. When you're just getting to know somebody, you just, you can tell,
40:21you know, and I could tell with Zach, you know, Lydia's found something really good.
40:26I just wish I could have exported that to everyone.
40:32Well, I just had a piece from the beginning and I supported him the whole time.
40:38Let me just polish my halo, you know. He's gloating a little bit. And I feel like I don't
40:46get any credit for really caring about who she spends the rest of her life with.
40:51In the process of getting to know him, seeing him for who he is gave me the peace.
40:57And yeah, they're meant for each other, right? Barry, from the beginning, was a very trusting
41:04person in me. And I really appreciated that. But I just don't think Kim has really done that.
41:11I think there's a lot still to figure out. And I think I've seen too many tears
41:16from Lydia to think that everything's okay.
41:26Today, we're trying to find Bigfoot.
41:35One of my favorite things in the world is being high.
41:39I'm high as a kite!
41:40You're on a dating app?
41:42Yeah!
41:43Hello! I'm Barry.
41:45Hey!
41:45Barry has a nickname. He's called Plath Daddy.
41:48You know I got it like that!
41:50Me and Tegan, we haven't talked in a while.
41:53Really? So, you're running after her?
41:57Mm-hmm.
41:58The weight that I've put on in the last four and a half years, it's been hard.
42:02But I'm turning that around. I can tell that you're not attracted to me like I am.
42:09Tegan doesn't know that I'm here.
42:11The worst thing that can happen is she finds out.
42:15Ethan Plath!
42:18I'm starting to think that maybe, you know, it's going too fast.
42:21Was Kaelin putting pressure on you?
42:23She wants to get married soon.
42:25I never pressured you about really anything.
42:30That was her.
42:31Are you serious?
42:33I think he's here.
42:36Oh my God.
42:38I heard you talk about Joshua, but the way that you called me out, that hurt.
42:44We lost a son in 2008.
42:48It was an accident.
42:50Mom has been the target with people in the past, but looking at it now from a different perspective,
42:55she was never in the wrong.
42:56I've heard things about the way you pursued Tegan and you giving a lot and her not giving in return.
43:03I wasn't looking for your opinion.
43:05If people don't want our opinions, we won't give our opinions.
43:08It actually makes me angry.
43:11I'm not perfect.
43:12I know I very well could have judged them wrongly.
43:17I'm not perfect.
43:22I'm not perfect.
43:26I'm not perfect.
43:28I'm not perfect.
43:28I'm not perfect.
43:29I'm not perfect.
43:29I'm perfect.
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