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00:00:00So excited to show David around. My hopes are...
00:00:03They're here.
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a wife outside the experiment
00:00:29It really reaffirms the feelings are real,
00:00:32the feelings are neutral.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice
00:00:43and be genuine about it.
00:00:44And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:47David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Why is it pink?
00:01:02Is it your ex's or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Like, are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.
00:01:15Do you know what I mean?
00:01:15I mean, like, no, no, no, what I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:20Tonight.
00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions
00:01:25that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship
00:01:30into the real world and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage,
00:01:43uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have
00:01:48a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.
00:01:54I cannot.
00:01:54Boom.
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on
00:01:57in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:02Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no, do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:02:12with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:21And then...
00:02:22What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:26I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is
00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings
00:02:46where I...
00:02:49Take a breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:03:14Yummy.
00:03:16Get some caffeine.
00:03:17Cheat.
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,
00:03:21tonight marks the last time
00:03:23the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.
00:03:27How'd you sleep?
00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.
00:03:29Really, really well.
00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.
00:03:33Some people have chats.
00:03:34We have make-out sessions.
00:03:35We have make-out sessions.
00:03:36Yeah.
00:03:37I love it.
00:03:38This week, during homestays,
00:03:40the couples were tested
00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.
00:03:45It was good.
00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.
00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple,
00:03:51having said,
00:03:52I love you.
00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.
00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.
00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays
00:04:05and even reflecting on it,
00:04:07like, after last night's dinner party.
00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?
00:04:15Dare to say it, babes,
00:04:16because I've been saying it.
00:04:22For Alyssa and David,
00:04:25homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.
00:04:30I feel like David and I
00:04:32have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.
00:04:35I still believe we are,
00:04:36because we have each other's back.
00:04:38It's just hard to be careful.
00:04:39It's just...
00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other
00:04:41about a lot of things.
00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.
00:04:45We have had deep conversations, big conversations,
00:04:48and David's maybe held back
00:04:51from saying what he really felt in that moment
00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.
00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment,
00:04:57it's all coming out.
00:04:59How are you feeling?
00:05:01Um, I'm feeling...
00:05:05like...
00:05:06we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.
00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack
00:05:14and a lot to, you know, break down.
00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.
00:05:18And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,
00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.
00:05:27I felt in homestay...
00:05:28Yeah.
00:05:28..that I'm like, OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.
00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.
00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.
00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.
00:05:35Like, I don't know if he's stable.
00:05:37I want to have a family.
00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling
00:05:39because I'm like, this is too good to be true.
00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,
00:05:43but it's brought up a lot of other things
00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.
00:05:47Like, have the conversations
00:05:49if you don't agree with something
00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions
00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.
00:05:54Well, all I'm going to say is...
00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't.
00:05:58And I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.
00:06:02You need to break through that softness
00:06:03and be strong with me
00:06:04because I want to be a team with you
00:06:06and talk things through and, um, you know, like...
00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here
00:06:12trying to express my side of the story
00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.
00:06:17I feel like there are holes.
00:06:18I think there was a...
00:06:19All I'll say is...
00:06:20There are cracks.
00:06:20There was a bit of, like...
00:06:23The last couple of days,
00:06:25what I've been struggling with
00:06:26is I haven't been as, like,
00:06:28willing to have those...
00:06:30Hard conversations.
00:06:31Hard conversations with you
00:06:32about how I was feeling.
00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me
00:06:35about your reservations,
00:06:36that's not healthy, babe.
00:06:38Yeah.
00:06:39Talk to me.
00:06:40We need to voice.
00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship.
00:06:43And that's...
00:06:44You're not fulfilling that need for me.
00:06:46And I believe that it's right
00:06:48to put it all out on the table.
00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.
00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,
00:06:53but I think one thing about you
00:06:55is you hold on too much and then...
00:06:57Babe, I know, but...
00:06:57Babe, you...
00:07:13Babe...
00:07:14I don't think it's your relationship.
00:07:15I don't think it's your relationship.
00:07:15But it's not just like that with Alyssa.
00:07:18It's not.
00:07:18Respect is only on her terms,
00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way
00:07:23or the highway.
00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.
00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like
00:07:28both of us are very disconnected
00:07:31a lot more than we ever have
00:07:33going into a commitment ceremony.
00:07:35And tonight, I'm just gonna be completely honest
00:07:38because I've hit my limit
00:07:39and I'm not going to, like, hold back.
00:07:43I'm just gonna put it all on the table.
00:07:49As for Danny,
00:07:51his controversial views
00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec
00:07:55at last night's dinner party.
00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:08:00moving in with a woman.
00:08:02What are you on about?
00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.
00:08:10F*** me!
00:08:14And this morning,
00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.
00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.
00:08:20You know what I mean?
00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,
00:08:23like, it's not up to them.
00:08:25This is how I feel.
00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman
00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me, you know?
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:33You don't understand.
00:08:34I do understand.
00:08:35I get what you're saying,
00:08:36but I suppose
00:08:39if we're talking about
00:08:41creating a life together
00:08:42after this experiment,
00:08:44then you're gonna have to get over that.
00:08:48Am I right or am I right?
00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,
00:08:53when she feels a kind of way,
00:08:54it's a completely valid feeling.
00:08:56That's how she feels.
00:08:58When I say it makes me feel this way,
00:09:01oh, no, but no, but that's not right.
00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.
00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone
00:09:06and just, like, freeload off them.
00:09:09You pay the bills,
00:09:09I'll pay the mortgage,
00:09:10you'll be done.
00:09:10Easy.
00:09:12Finito.
00:09:14Other than that,
00:09:14we had a great night.
00:09:17Yes, sir, yeah.
00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny
00:09:20continue to disagree,
00:09:22our other couples are preparing
00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony
00:09:26of the experiment.
00:09:28You look great.
00:09:30You too.
00:09:31Yep.
00:09:32Yeah.
00:09:33Very pure, you know?
00:09:35Yeah.
00:09:36Yeah.
00:09:36Very appropriate.
00:09:37Very appropriate.
00:09:39As our couples face the experts
00:09:41for the last time,
00:09:43a defining choice awaits.
00:09:47Tonight, they must decide.
00:09:50Stay in the experiment
00:09:52through to final vows
00:09:53or walk away
00:09:55from their marriages for good.
00:10:01For Scott,
00:10:02the pressure is mounting.
00:10:04He feels it is now or never
00:10:06to reveal his true feelings
00:10:08to his bride, Gia.
00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.
00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?
00:10:15Yeah.
00:10:16Can you believe
00:10:16that we've made it this far?
00:10:20Yeah, I definitely
00:10:21didn't imagine it.
00:10:25I do think
00:10:26we had a great week.
00:10:27I don't think
00:10:28we're going to have
00:10:29too much feedback tonight.
00:10:30I think
00:10:31it was great.
00:10:32Like, I can't fault
00:10:33homestays.
00:10:34It went really well.
00:10:35Positive.
00:10:36Good vibes, you know?
00:10:37So,
00:10:38hopefully not getting
00:10:38grilled hard tonight.
00:10:41I feel like I've been
00:10:42hit a bit
00:10:43throughout this experiment
00:10:44from the experts.
00:10:46Yeah.
00:10:47Yeah.
00:10:51What else?
00:10:55I get nervous
00:10:56going to the
00:10:57commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still
00:11:00can't be 100%
00:11:02myself
00:11:02and I feel like
00:11:03I just can't
00:11:04have a voice sometimes
00:11:06because she thinks
00:11:06we're going to have
00:11:06an argument
00:11:07and I want her to be
00:11:07able to understand
00:11:08that we need to speak
00:11:09anecdotally
00:11:10knowing that
00:11:10if I have a concern
00:11:11or she has a concern
00:11:12we can talk
00:11:12and it's not going to
00:11:13lead to a disaster.
00:11:14You've got to be able
00:11:15to communicate.
00:11:16So, you ready for tonight?
00:11:18I don't like
00:11:19commitment ceremonies,
00:11:20you know that.
00:11:21Yeah.
00:11:22I feel like
00:11:23we're at the point
00:11:23where, you know,
00:11:25we're almost
00:11:25falling in love.
00:11:26Yeah.
00:11:28Then I feel like
00:11:29if she feels
00:11:29more than me
00:11:30and she doesn't
00:11:31get anything back
00:11:31from me
00:11:31she'll start spiralling
00:11:32and start saying
00:11:33harshful things
00:11:35to me.
00:11:36Very harshful things.
00:11:39And so then
00:11:40I feel like
00:11:40I can't talk
00:11:42and I go quiet
00:11:44and I go flat.
00:11:47That retracts me
00:11:47every time
00:11:48and that's what
00:11:49pushes me away
00:11:49from falling in love
00:11:50and I don't think
00:11:50she understands that.
00:11:52So, you've just
00:11:52got to look at
00:11:53the positives,
00:11:53you know?
00:11:57Personally,
00:11:58I love to speak up
00:11:59and share everything
00:11:59because it's good
00:12:00to get feedback.
00:12:02But there's another
00:12:03side of me
00:12:03where I feel like
00:12:04I want to protect
00:12:05my wife.
00:12:06I don't want to
00:12:06feel unstable,
00:12:07upset or,
00:12:08you know,
00:12:08get nervous
00:12:09or have a breakdown.
00:12:10So, you know,
00:12:11I think how's she
00:12:12going to react
00:12:12if I say these things?
00:12:14Alright.
00:12:15See you in there.
00:12:18Bye.
00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,
00:12:19well,
00:12:19I'm just not going
00:12:20to talk about it.
00:12:22I'm just in the air.
00:12:23I don't know what to do.
00:12:24Bye.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:45Hello.
00:12:46Hi.
00:12:47How are you guys?
00:12:49Very well.
00:12:50Welcome.
00:12:51Hello, guys.
00:12:52Hi.
00:12:53Hello.
00:12:53Good evening.
00:12:54Welcome.
00:12:54Hi.
00:13:17Hello, ladies.
00:13:18Hello.
00:13:18I'm Chris.
00:13:19Hi.
00:13:20Hi.
00:13:21Hi.
00:13:22Hi.
00:13:23Hi.
00:13:23Hi.
00:13:24Hi.
00:13:24Hi.
00:13:26Hi.
00:13:28You okay?
00:13:29Yeah.
00:13:30Welcome, everybody,
00:13:31to the very final
00:13:33commitment ceremony
00:13:34of this experiment.
00:13:36Now, this is a very,
00:13:38very pivotal night
00:13:40because it is the very last time
00:13:42that you get to sit
00:13:43in front of the experts
00:13:45and to hear the feedback
00:13:47that we have for you.
00:13:50Now, in just a short time,
00:13:51you have one of the biggest
00:13:52decisions that you're
00:13:53going to have to make.
00:13:54Whether or not
00:13:55you can take this relationship
00:13:57in the experiment
00:13:58into the real world
00:13:59and make it a success.
00:14:02And as we know
00:14:03as experts,
00:14:04if you are not
00:14:06completely vulnerable
00:14:07with your partner
00:14:08at this stage
00:14:09of the experiment,
00:14:10then your relationship
00:14:12will crumble
00:14:13on the outside.
00:14:15It will not last.
00:14:18Now, with that being said,
00:14:21let's get our first couple up.
00:14:27Alyssa and David.
00:14:38Hello.
00:14:40Hello.
00:14:43So, how are things?
00:14:45Um, you know what?
00:14:47Last time we were on the couch,
00:14:50things were moving
00:14:52in the right direction.
00:14:52They still are,
00:14:53but we do have some hiccups
00:14:55that we're trying to work
00:14:57through at the moment.
00:14:58Okay.
00:14:58Um, obviously I'll start
00:15:01by saying, you know,
00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl,
00:15:05but personally I feel like
00:15:08I have, you know,
00:15:09carried a lot of the emotional weight
00:15:11in the relationship.
00:15:12This is just how I feel.
00:15:15What do you mean
00:15:16when you say carry
00:15:17most of the emotional weight?
00:15:19I feel like there has been times
00:15:20where I personally
00:15:22put my emotions aside
00:15:24just to make sure
00:15:25that there was
00:15:27just peace.
00:15:29And this is a thing
00:15:30where, like,
00:15:31I have tried to bring
00:15:32something up
00:15:33at the start
00:15:34of the relationship
00:15:34to Alyssa
00:15:35and I felt like
00:15:35she was not receptive to it.
00:15:38So what that ended up
00:15:39doing for me
00:15:40was making me
00:15:41be more cautious
00:15:42of bringing stuff up to her.
00:15:48It was more the reaction of
00:15:49is it going to become
00:15:50an argument
00:15:51that was going to go
00:15:52out of hand.
00:15:54So what happened
00:15:55with all of that emotion
00:15:57as you describe it?
00:15:58If you weren't
00:15:59expressing that to Alyssa,
00:16:01what were you doing with it?
00:16:06Well,
00:16:07anything little
00:16:08that I didn't really care about
00:16:10didn't really affect me
00:16:10so I'd brush over it.
00:16:12But, um,
00:16:12what happened in homesteads
00:16:14was
00:16:14I feel like
00:16:15it triggered me.
00:16:16Okay.
00:16:17I was saying Adelaide
00:16:18is a livable place
00:16:19but I felt like
00:16:20Alyssa was being
00:16:21a bit negative
00:16:23about the move.
00:16:25I feel like she was
00:16:26pointing out
00:16:26all of the reasons
00:16:27why it won't work
00:16:28which are all valid.
00:16:29We all know
00:16:29that there is things
00:16:30to work out
00:16:31in the real world.
00:16:32But it felt like
00:16:33for me
00:16:34she was too in her head
00:16:35about it
00:16:36that it's affecting me
00:16:37right now.
00:16:42Do you know why?
00:16:43Because I'm feeling
00:16:44very frustrated
00:16:45at this part
00:16:46of the experiment.
00:16:47This is our last
00:16:48couch session
00:16:49and I'm feeling like
00:16:50there has been
00:16:50some hold back
00:16:52and some of our
00:16:53couch sessions
00:16:53could have been
00:16:54things that we could
00:16:54be working through
00:16:55if we had more
00:16:56open conversations.
00:16:57I feel like he doesn't
00:16:59want to have
00:16:59like conflict
00:17:01but I feel like
00:17:02there is healthy
00:17:03conflict resolution
00:17:04otherwise my
00:17:04relationship in my eyes
00:17:05this is too good
00:17:06to be true.
00:17:07Can I just stay?
00:17:09I want a partner
00:17:11who can have
00:17:12a constructive
00:17:13conversation with me
00:17:14about an issue
00:17:16but a partner
00:17:17that shuts you down
00:17:18and tells you
00:17:19what they're saying
00:17:19is Bible
00:17:21it is an issue.
00:17:22actually spoken
00:17:23down on you
00:17:23in a bad way
00:17:24like I don't
00:17:25Well there's
00:17:25things you've said
00:17:27I don't want to
00:17:28I don't want to
00:17:28like
00:17:29Well an example
00:17:30could be helpful
00:17:31for Alyssa here.
00:17:32Well she has
00:17:33you did mention
00:17:35that I was a weak man
00:17:35at one point.
00:17:37She called you
00:17:38a weak man?
00:17:39Yeah.
00:17:42So that's a problem.
00:17:58Well she has
00:17:59you did mention
00:18:00that I was a weak man
00:18:02at one point.
00:18:03She called you
00:18:04a weak man?
00:18:05Yeah.
00:18:08So that's a problem.
00:18:14What was the context
00:18:16around that?
00:18:18It was in one
00:18:19of our talks
00:18:19about like
00:18:20she's got assets
00:18:21she's ahead in life
00:18:23and she wants a guy
00:18:24that can match that
00:18:25So financially weak.
00:18:26Yeah.
00:18:27How did it feel
00:18:28when she said that?
00:18:29Well I just thought
00:18:30where's this coming from?
00:18:31And the thing about me
00:18:32is like
00:18:33I pick what I want
00:18:34to like get upset about
00:18:36and I didn't.
00:18:37Maybe I should have
00:18:38combated that
00:18:39at the time.
00:18:44Alyssa what was
00:18:45going on for you?
00:18:45What did you want
00:18:46to achieve
00:18:46from saying that
00:18:47to him?
00:18:49I was getting frustrated
00:18:50because I'm wanting
00:18:51more from David
00:18:52I'm wanting to see
00:18:53more from him
00:18:54and I feel like
00:18:55I want to be strong
00:18:57together as a couple.
00:18:58I think where I'm
00:18:59struggling is
00:18:59it's
00:19:00she wants me to be
00:19:01strong on her timeline
00:19:03and that's where
00:19:04it feels like
00:19:05it feels like it is
00:19:05your way
00:19:07or you're not happy.
00:19:09David
00:19:10do you feel like
00:19:11you're enough
00:19:12for Alyssa?
00:19:12I feel like
00:19:13I'm 100% enough.
00:19:17Do you think
00:19:17she thinks
00:19:18you're enough?
00:19:19I think she does
00:19:20but the questions
00:19:21that I'm getting
00:19:22are like
00:19:23they are confusing me.
00:19:24So what are these
00:19:24questions that are
00:19:25confusing you?
00:19:27Well the first thing
00:19:29is she's wondering
00:19:30like you know
00:19:30energy
00:19:31like in five years
00:19:32or whatever
00:19:33is that going to be
00:19:33enough to sustain her
00:19:34and she has said to me
00:19:35if I'm not getting
00:19:37the fix I need
00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere.
00:19:40No I didn't say that.
00:19:42She said I'm hungry
00:19:44you need to feed me
00:19:44you need to feed me
00:19:45I've taught you more
00:19:46in this relationship
00:19:47than you've taught me.
00:19:47I'm wanting to
00:19:48like open end
00:19:49to conversations
00:19:50and stuff
00:19:50I'm wanting to go deep
00:19:52like I'm putting
00:19:53all my cards on the table
00:19:53I'm very direct
00:19:54like I'll talk about stuff
00:19:57I need some sort of fuel
00:19:58like that
00:19:59it's just
00:19:59it's what I like
00:20:00but I don't know
00:20:01if our relationship
00:20:03is going to last
00:20:05in the real world
00:20:05if this is the gap.
00:20:09I don't know
00:20:10if we're going to be
00:20:11a good match
00:20:11long term
00:20:12if this is the energy
00:20:13because I need to see
00:20:14David in his element
00:20:16I need to see David
00:20:16with his family
00:20:17I need to see David
00:20:18with his friends
00:20:18I need to see what he does
00:20:19like I want to have a family
00:20:21in the next few years.
00:20:28And like
00:20:29if we want to talk
00:20:30about me seeing things
00:20:31work in the real world
00:20:32what I need to see
00:20:33as well is
00:20:33if someone says
00:20:34they want to have
00:20:35open ended conversations
00:20:36that has to be it.
00:20:37What's happened
00:20:38in this relationship
00:20:38is I've done a lot
00:20:39of listening
00:20:40Alyssa has done
00:20:40a lot of talking.
00:20:43That's the fact.
00:20:44You need to speak up
00:20:45babe.
00:20:45No, no, no
00:20:46but like
00:20:46one thing about me
00:20:48is I think
00:20:49we're both adults
00:20:50and I want to see
00:20:51that in her
00:20:52that she has the ability
00:20:53to listen
00:20:53I can't mind read
00:20:55It's not mind reading
00:20:55It's not mind reading
00:20:56Oh my gosh
00:20:56I can't
00:20:56I cannot
00:20:57I know
00:20:58I can't mind read babe
00:20:59you're frustrating me
00:21:00because I can't read your mind
00:21:01When something
00:21:02when she
00:21:02when I start saying something
00:21:04that she's not getting
00:21:04I'm frustrated
00:21:05I don't want to deal
00:21:06with this anymore
00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it
00:21:08I'm just saying
00:21:08You're now talking in circles
00:21:10so I'm going to
00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there
00:21:12I mean this has been
00:21:13very enlightening
00:21:16I think
00:21:16for us to get a glimpse
00:21:17inside
00:21:18what's really going on
00:21:20in the relationship
00:21:22So an observation
00:21:23from us here
00:21:25is that
00:21:26you've both
00:21:28made missteps
00:21:29I think
00:21:29in terms of your communication
00:21:31and what you've brought
00:21:32to the couch here
00:21:34because
00:21:34Alyssa
00:21:35you were aware
00:21:36that he was withholding
00:21:37you knew he was not
00:21:38being up front with you
00:21:39so you could have
00:21:40brought that up
00:21:41and so David
00:21:42for you
00:21:43you were choosing
00:21:44not to speak up
00:21:47You haven't arrived
00:21:48at an outcome
00:21:49No
00:21:50but you've helped us see
00:21:51what's going on inside
00:21:53so thank you for that
00:21:54to this point
00:21:56So now let's look forward
00:21:58because as you know
00:21:59this is the last
00:22:00commitment ceremony
00:22:01this is
00:22:01almost the end
00:22:03of the experiment
00:22:04for you two
00:22:05Where to from here?
00:22:14Well I'm sitting here
00:22:15because I want that help
00:22:18I guess what we need to do
00:22:19is look beneath
00:22:20the arguments here
00:22:22because
00:22:23there's a reason
00:22:24that you have been
00:22:26avoiding
00:22:27bringing these issues up
00:22:28Yeah
00:22:29Here's an opportunity
00:22:30to now say
00:22:31okay
00:22:31we're going to come
00:22:32at this as equals
00:22:33not one putting
00:22:34the other down
00:22:35not one avoiding
00:22:36and running away
00:22:36we are coming here
00:22:37together
00:22:38to have this
00:22:39open
00:22:40honest
00:22:40mature conversation
00:22:42about what you both want
00:22:43post experiment
00:22:45because otherwise
00:22:46the last couple of months
00:22:48has been a waste of time
00:22:50you've got that opportunity
00:22:51now
00:22:52it's not too late
00:22:55can you do that
00:22:56yeah
00:22:58Alyssa
00:23:00yeah
00:23:03you okay
00:23:08I do believe that
00:23:10the things we have
00:23:11gone through
00:23:12are significant
00:23:13and I believe that
00:23:14there are genuine
00:23:15feelings here
00:23:15I do feel
00:23:17strong feelings
00:23:18towards Alyssa
00:23:18that's why I'm still here
00:23:20okay
00:23:22all right
00:23:22well on that note
00:23:23we're going to go
00:23:23to a decision
00:23:25Alyssa
00:23:25we'll start with you
00:23:27I didn't come here
00:23:29for three months
00:23:30to waste it
00:23:30and like
00:23:31I came here
00:23:32to
00:23:34find my person
00:23:35I want to settle down
00:23:36I want to have a family
00:23:37I want the happy ending
00:23:39and
00:23:39that is why
00:23:41I want to move forward
00:23:42as a teen
00:23:44and
00:23:45no holding back
00:23:46and because
00:23:48there's so many feelings
00:23:49involved
00:23:50and like
00:23:51I really care about
00:23:51this relationship
00:23:52so much
00:23:52I've decided to stay
00:23:55okay
00:23:56thank you
00:23:57and to you David
00:24:00yeah
00:24:01um
00:24:07I'll take your advice
00:24:08on board
00:24:08and yeah
00:24:09I'll rock the stand
00:24:14pleased to see that
00:24:17this could be
00:24:18make or break
00:24:18for you guys
00:24:20you're about to make
00:24:21the decision
00:24:22of this experiment
00:24:24the thing that is
00:24:25going to determine
00:24:25which way you go
00:24:27in your future
00:24:28good luck guys
00:24:30thank you
00:24:31thank you
00:24:56coming up
00:24:57you do not have to tell me
00:24:58you love me
00:24:59but I'm not going to
00:25:00walk down to final vows
00:25:02with someone that
00:25:03a maybe
00:25:04Bec hits her limit
00:25:06I'm not doing it
00:25:07and
00:25:10I
00:25:10take a breath
00:25:11a minute
00:25:13breathe
00:25:13will Scott speak up
00:25:18when I care about
00:25:19someone so much
00:25:20I feel like
00:25:21I can't speak my voice
00:25:22when I'm overconcerned
00:25:23and it's a weakness of mine
00:25:35all right let's have
00:25:36our next couple up
00:25:40Rachel and Stephen
00:25:41hey
00:25:46hello
00:25:46hello
00:25:47hello
00:25:49how are you
00:25:50hiya
00:25:51I love this energy
00:25:52can I just say
00:25:53Steve
00:25:54oh you got a bit of a swag
00:25:55oh
00:25:55he sure does
00:25:57oh don't flatter me
00:25:58John
00:26:00especially coming from you
00:26:04where do you two
00:26:05want to begin
00:26:07homestays
00:26:07I guess
00:26:08I mean it seems like
00:26:09it's had a big impact
00:26:10on the two of you
00:26:10yeah
00:26:13homestays was
00:26:14a big success for me
00:26:16and I believe Rachel
00:26:17as well
00:26:18it's
00:26:19sort of changed
00:26:20the relationship
00:26:21in many ways
00:26:22oh
00:26:22in what way
00:26:23for me
00:26:25Rachel was fantastic
00:26:26she
00:26:26I showed her my passions
00:26:28and
00:26:28she went out on the boat
00:26:30and she enjoyed herself
00:26:31a smile ear to ear
00:26:32and we had lots of banter
00:26:34laughing
00:26:34it was a really
00:26:36super sweet time
00:26:37but it's not that
00:26:38she's in the fishing
00:26:39it's the independence
00:26:41I can go
00:26:41I feel like I can rely on Rachel
00:26:44if something happens
00:26:45in the well
00:26:45where I'm like
00:26:46jeez can you
00:26:46you know
00:26:47help me out with this
00:26:48Rachel's gonna go
00:26:48got your back
00:26:49and she's just gonna get it done
00:26:51so as a result of that
00:26:53how do you feel about her
00:26:56well
00:26:58I feel like I can see myself
00:27:00falling in love with Rachel
00:27:02woohoo
00:27:04that's massive
00:27:06hmm
00:27:08Rachel
00:27:11you do the easy tears of happiness
00:27:13I swear
00:27:13let's just take a moment shall we
00:27:15just a little bit overwhelmed
00:27:17in a good way
00:27:21so I feel the same
00:27:22you know
00:27:23I can definitely see myself
00:27:24falling in love with you too
00:27:27there's something going on
00:27:28for you right now Rachel
00:27:29what is it
00:27:30this is a very significant
00:27:32moment for you
00:27:33yeah
00:27:34um
00:27:34I think I shared with you John
00:27:36before I came in here
00:27:37the last time
00:27:39someone told me
00:27:40that they loved me
00:27:41the very next day
00:27:42they told me
00:27:43they don't remember saying it
00:27:47that was after seven years
00:27:49of a
00:27:51a toxic situation
00:27:52and so
00:27:55um
00:27:56it's a hard thing
00:27:57my barriers go up
00:28:01and so
00:28:02having
00:28:03this journey with Stephen
00:28:05and knowing
00:28:05you know
00:28:06how he feels about vulnerability
00:28:08and when he says something
00:28:10he means it
00:28:11so
00:28:11for him to be sitting here
00:28:13and saying that to me
00:28:15it
00:28:15yeah
00:28:16bam
00:28:17right in the fields
00:28:18in a really beautiful way
00:28:19because I'm like
00:28:20yeah
00:28:21I believe him
00:28:24and I
00:28:25don't think that I thought
00:28:27that I would believe
00:28:28a man again
00:28:29in that way
00:28:30thank you
00:28:32you're welcome
00:28:34and you know what
00:28:35he said that
00:28:36holding your hand
00:28:37sitting next to you
00:28:38yeah
00:28:39and
00:28:39showing you
00:28:41his family
00:28:42yeah
00:28:42all the things
00:28:43that signal
00:28:44yep
00:28:45he's not going anywhere
00:28:47yeah
00:28:49it's different
00:28:50it is very different
00:28:52is it scary
00:28:52it's
00:28:53petrifying
00:28:58what are you scared of
00:28:59the most
00:29:01I'm scared
00:29:02that Stephen
00:29:03will go back
00:29:03to his life
00:29:04in Sydney
00:29:05and
00:29:06it's just
00:29:07going to be
00:29:07easier for him
00:29:08to let me go
00:29:10because he is
00:29:11high and poor
00:29:12and he has
00:29:12his business
00:29:14and so
00:29:15it might be
00:29:16a burden
00:29:18to try and
00:29:19maintain
00:29:19our relationship
00:29:20with me
00:29:21so he might
00:29:22just let me go
00:29:25so
00:29:26yeah
00:29:28that's
00:29:28that's
00:29:58my fear
00:29:59I can't say
00:30:00I'm happy
00:30:01with that
00:30:01but I mean
00:30:02it's
00:30:02it is what
00:30:03makes you feel a bit
00:30:04uncomfortable
00:30:05it does
00:30:05yeah
00:30:06good
00:30:06it does
00:30:06good
00:30:07it does
00:30:08and the only thing
00:30:09I can say to her
00:30:09is that the only thing
00:30:11that I feel like
00:30:11that's going to fix
00:30:12this is actually
00:30:13go out there in the real world
00:30:14and put it into practice
00:30:15and prove it wrong
00:30:17and prove it wrong
00:30:17pretty much
00:30:18well haven't you changed
00:30:20you know
00:30:21all the both of you
00:30:22sitting in front of us
00:30:23today
00:30:24this was all
00:30:25all done at homestays
00:30:26it was amazing
00:30:27what homestays
00:30:28did for us
00:30:28we love it
00:30:30we love it
00:30:30all right
00:30:31let's go to the decision
00:30:33start with you first
00:30:34Steve
00:30:35there was a big question mark
00:30:37with me
00:30:38before homestays
00:30:39I'm like
00:30:39this could make or break us
00:30:41but
00:30:42it's just only brought
00:30:43me closer to Rachel
00:30:45so I'm going to
00:30:47stay
00:30:48beautiful
00:30:48brilliant
00:30:50and what about you Rachel
00:30:52what do you got
00:30:53stay or leave
00:30:53I know this is going to
00:30:55shock everyone
00:30:56but I wrote stay
00:30:58and that's us on a boat
00:31:00fishing
00:31:02beautiful
00:31:04we have loved watching you
00:31:07through this experiment
00:31:08you've had some difficult moments
00:31:10along the way
00:31:11but you've grown
00:31:12you know
00:31:13and the way in which
00:31:15you're together now
00:31:16really
00:31:17it's on display
00:31:18everyone sees it
00:31:20you're a unified couple
00:31:22it's fantastic
00:31:22what I would say to you
00:31:24in this final week
00:31:26is don't get inside your head
00:31:27too much
00:31:29you need to be
00:31:31enjoying
00:31:32this final week
00:31:34rather than
00:31:35thinking too far ahead
00:31:37because that's something that
00:31:38I think in the past
00:31:40you've been a bit guilty
00:31:41of doing
00:31:42and on that
00:31:43you can go back
00:31:44to your group
00:31:45thank you
00:31:46thank you
00:31:47yes
00:31:48good start
00:32:00you made me cry
00:32:01oh you're welcome
00:32:16let's get our next couple
00:32:18up on the couch
00:32:21beck and danny
00:32:25hey guys
00:32:26hello
00:32:26how are you
00:32:27good
00:32:28very well
00:32:29good good
00:32:31homestays
00:32:32let's start with you
00:32:33beck
00:32:34what were they like
00:32:34they were great
00:32:37I was in my own
00:32:38estate
00:32:39I was in my own home
00:32:40with my dog
00:32:42we saw my family
00:32:43at my auntie's beach house
00:32:45and that was great
00:32:47dad and daniel
00:32:48get along really well
00:32:49which is great
00:32:50so good start
00:32:52great start
00:32:56what else happened
00:32:57at the homestay
00:32:59we met
00:33:00beck's friends
00:33:01that went pretty good
00:33:02didn't it
00:33:02like just like
00:33:03the tough questions
00:33:04and then
00:33:05that night
00:33:06we went back
00:33:06to beck's
00:33:08and we were sitting
00:33:09around like
00:33:10having a
00:33:10having a fire
00:33:12and then
00:33:13I cracked a joke
00:33:15like about
00:33:16her cousin
00:33:17fancying me
00:33:19and it landed
00:33:20poorly
00:33:24what did he say
00:33:25with the joke
00:33:26can you just tell us
00:33:28we were having a bit
00:33:29of an emotional moment
00:33:30with one another
00:33:30talking about our feelings
00:33:31and how it's been
00:33:33on homestays
00:33:34and daniel said
00:33:35if all else fails
00:33:36at least daniel
00:33:37fancies me
00:33:37type thing
00:33:42and i lost it
00:33:46and why
00:33:48because
00:33:49it makes me feel like
00:33:51when we're having
00:33:52this conversation
00:33:52that means so much
00:33:54to me
00:33:54that it diminishes it
00:33:56and it makes it a joke
00:33:59i get it
00:34:00i shouldn't have said it
00:34:01but i feel
00:34:02that our fight styles
00:34:03don't really match
00:34:04too well
00:34:06what scared me
00:34:07was
00:34:08we couldn't
00:34:08rectify it
00:34:09too quickly
00:34:11and
00:34:11where i'm sort of
00:34:12holding back
00:34:13a little bit
00:34:14is
00:34:15i don't
00:34:16i wouldn't want
00:34:16to move
00:34:17and then we have
00:34:18an argument
00:34:18like that
00:34:19and i feel
00:34:19really isolated
00:34:20and alone
00:34:21i don't want
00:34:21to do that
00:34:22so
00:34:23arguing is something
00:34:24that scares you
00:34:25when it comes to beck
00:34:26why
00:34:27i think for both of us
00:34:29it just doesn't work
00:34:33wow
00:34:34okay
00:34:35what am i saying wrong
00:34:37just to
00:34:38use the words
00:34:39for both of us
00:34:39it doesn't work
00:34:44i'm not saying
00:34:45we don't work
00:34:45i'm saying
00:34:46our fight style
00:34:47doesn't work
00:34:47oh yeah
00:34:48no okay
00:34:50so this is what
00:34:51happens sometimes
00:34:52i try and say something
00:34:53and beck takes it
00:34:54in completely
00:34:55the wrong way
00:34:57beck what's going
00:34:58on inside of you
00:34:59right now
00:35:01um i suppose
00:35:02i'm fearful
00:35:02because i've
00:35:03let every wall
00:35:04down
00:35:06so what happens
00:35:06to you when he
00:35:07says that
00:35:08just
00:35:10kills my soul
00:35:11a little bit
00:35:11to be honest
00:35:12with you
00:35:16because i'm like
00:35:17well
00:35:19why haven't you
00:35:20said this to me
00:35:21because
00:35:22because i've been
00:35:23fearful to say it
00:35:24because i don't want
00:35:25to upset you
00:35:28no no no
00:35:29do not blame me
00:35:30i'm not blaming you
00:35:31don't say
00:35:31you're fearful to tell
00:35:33me because you're going
00:35:33to upset me
00:35:35i'm here
00:35:36in love with you
00:35:38we're at the end
00:35:38of this experiment
00:35:42you're making it seem
00:35:43like i've been
00:35:44holding on to this
00:35:44for six months
00:35:45honestly i noticed
00:35:46it in adelaide
00:35:47when i felt isolated
00:35:48up until then
00:35:49i haven't noticed it
00:35:53beck i look at your face
00:35:56you seem very concerned
00:36:02i think he's got more
00:36:04reservations than he lets
00:36:05on
00:36:05oh really
00:36:06i do yeah
00:36:07i do
00:36:08i do
00:36:09i do
00:36:15danny danny
00:36:16look at me
00:36:18there really is no time
00:36:19for you to make light
00:36:20of the situation
00:36:22because when you
00:36:23add things up danny
00:36:25it's not making her
00:36:26feel secure
00:36:27you know you haven't
00:36:28said your feelings
00:36:29back to her
00:36:30you've gone to the
00:36:31family and they've
00:36:32validated you
00:36:33and then you're not
00:36:35bringing up issues
00:36:35because you're afraid
00:36:36of the fight style
00:36:37it starts to add up
00:36:40and it makes her
00:36:42feel what
00:36:46becky
00:36:47like he's just not
00:36:48that into me
00:36:54so that's a problem
00:36:57because this far
00:36:58into the experiment
00:36:58you don't want
00:36:59your partner
00:37:01to be thinking
00:37:03he's just not
00:37:04that into me
00:37:07yeah but i am
00:37:09i've told you that
00:37:10i am
00:37:11you know i am
00:37:14so why is she not
00:37:15believing it
00:37:17i don't know
00:37:18i can't speak for
00:37:19beck
00:37:22i'm asking
00:37:24for you
00:37:25to sit there
00:37:26and say to me
00:37:28beck this is how
00:37:29i feel about you
00:37:29just once
00:37:33you know how i feel
00:37:34about you
00:37:35you know i care
00:37:36about you so much
00:37:37i do know you care
00:37:38about me but
00:37:39where is the passion
00:37:42i see tiny glimpses
00:37:43of it
00:37:44but
00:37:46i feel like you
00:37:47are holding back
00:37:49you said to me once
00:37:50at the beginning of
00:37:51this experiment
00:37:51and i'll never forget
00:37:52it
00:37:52and it's probably
00:37:54ruined me
00:37:56daniel's like well
00:37:58when you are obsessed
00:37:59with each other
00:37:59you're all over each
00:38:00other
00:38:00and i don't have that
00:38:02i just don't get it
00:38:03from him at all
00:38:05he doesn't want to
00:38:06hold my hand walking
00:38:07down the street
00:38:07that's not your style
00:38:08no worries
00:38:09whenever we have a kiss
00:38:10i'm the one going to
00:38:11kiss you
00:38:11you never ever ever
00:38:12go to kiss me
00:38:13you don't compliment me
00:38:15hardly ever
00:38:18so for me it's like
00:38:19well i'm this fool
00:38:20that's allowed my heart
00:38:21to get to this point
00:38:23and he's not there
00:38:24and he's not going to
00:38:25feel that way
00:38:28i don't think that's
00:38:30a fair assumption
00:38:38the thing that's
00:38:39important here
00:38:39danny
00:38:40is that she's
00:38:41just told you
00:38:41in a very
00:38:42clear-cut way
00:38:43why she doesn't feel
00:38:46like you're interested
00:38:48your reaction is
00:38:53well that's not fair
00:38:54no but like
00:38:55yes that's exactly
00:38:57what we just heard
00:39:01even like all of the
00:39:02husbands walk past us
00:39:03sitting at the
00:39:04commitment ceremony
00:39:04and they all acknowledge
00:39:05their wives
00:39:06and you never do
00:39:07you ignore me
00:39:11and i don't know
00:39:12how i've gotten to
00:39:13this point
00:39:14of these feelings
00:39:15with that
00:39:19i'm so worried
00:39:24i'm actually so worried
00:39:30i just don't feel
00:39:31like you have any desire
00:39:33and i just
00:39:33yeah i'm just nervous
00:39:37the reality is
00:39:39is that
00:39:40how can you move
00:39:41to adelaide
00:39:41and how can
00:39:42we live this life
00:39:44together
00:39:44if this is how
00:39:45it's going to be
00:39:47i can't be the one
00:39:48going to kiss you
00:39:51just so that there's
00:39:52a level of affection
00:39:53i can't
00:39:56i'm not doing it
00:39:57i've done it
00:39:57i did it
00:39:58i nearly married it
00:39:59i'm not doing it
00:40:02i'm not
00:40:04i'm not doing it
00:40:05you're either into me
00:40:06you have had enough
00:40:08time to know
00:40:08if i am the type of
00:40:10person you would want
00:40:11to be with
00:40:11you do not have to
00:40:12tell me you love me
00:40:12but i'm not going to
00:40:14walk down to final
00:40:15vows with someone
00:40:16that's a maybe
00:40:18about me
00:40:19i'm not doing it
00:40:20i'd rather be
00:40:20heartbroken now
00:40:21than heartbroken
00:40:22in six months time
00:40:37you have had enough
00:40:38time to know
00:40:39if i am the type
00:40:40of person
00:40:41you would want
00:40:41to be with
00:40:42you do not have
00:40:42to tell me
00:40:43you love me
00:40:43but i'm not going
00:40:44to walk down
00:40:45to final vows
00:40:46with someone
00:40:47that's a maybe
00:40:48about me
00:40:49i'm not doing it
00:40:50i'd rather be
00:40:51heartbroken now
00:40:51than heartbroken
00:40:52in six months time
00:41:15how does that land
00:41:16for you
00:41:19danny
00:41:22well obviously
00:41:23it hurts to
00:41:23it hurts to see
00:41:24back like that
00:41:25what is she saying
00:41:26to you
00:41:28that you've done
00:41:30to get her to
00:41:30this point
00:41:31or just not
00:41:33not be
00:41:34passionate
00:41:36and not
00:41:36not be the man
00:41:37she needs me to be
00:41:40i've had my guard up
00:41:42essentially
00:41:42that's that's what
00:41:44yeah
00:41:52when she lays
00:41:53this out on the table
00:41:55no compliments
00:41:57very few
00:41:59lack of intimacy
00:42:00not making her
00:42:01a priority
00:42:02not saying
00:42:03how you feel
00:42:04about her
00:42:07what do you think
00:42:08that does to her
00:42:11it would destroy her
00:42:15what do you think
00:42:15it does to the
00:42:16relationship
00:42:17destroys the
00:42:18relationship as well
00:42:21why
00:42:22because you can't have
00:42:24you can't build a
00:42:25relationship on
00:42:25like sand
00:42:26foundations
00:42:27do you know what
00:42:28you mean
00:42:28so help us understand
00:42:30why
00:42:30you're not doing
00:42:32these things
00:42:33to bring her
00:42:34close
00:42:38just
00:42:40obviously we've talked
00:42:41about the five
00:42:42star
00:42:42that's the bit
00:42:43where i've been
00:42:43holding back
00:42:47but i guess after
00:42:48my last relationship
00:42:49i haven't felt
00:42:50this strongly
00:42:51towards a woman
00:42:51or been this close
00:42:52with a woman
00:42:53in years
00:42:56but of course
00:42:57i still have a bit
00:42:58of a guard
00:42:58because last time
00:43:00when it didn't
00:43:01work out
00:43:02it destroyed my
00:43:02life
00:43:04how nice would it
00:43:05be to have heard
00:43:06that
00:43:06you just did
00:43:08i know
00:43:08but why do i have
00:43:09to go to this
00:43:10length
00:43:10to hear that
00:43:11i'm not no good
00:43:12at this shit
00:43:14well i've been
00:43:15begging you for
00:43:16this level of
00:43:17openness
00:43:17for nearly three
00:43:19months
00:43:19and so hearing
00:43:21that
00:43:21makes me feel
00:43:23like
00:43:25there's hope
00:43:26you know
00:43:31why does that
00:43:32make you feel
00:43:32hopeful
00:43:33because if he
00:43:34hasn't felt like
00:43:34this in years
00:43:35then
00:43:36that means
00:43:38that
00:43:39it's
00:43:41real
00:43:42and
00:43:43you might
00:43:43be into
00:43:44me
00:43:45but you
00:43:46need to
00:43:46open
00:43:47yourself
00:43:47to me
00:43:48yeah i guess
00:43:48like this
00:43:49has been
00:43:49a problem
00:43:50in the past
00:43:50that i am
00:43:52just a shit
00:43:52boyfriend
00:43:53to be honest
00:43:54i am
00:43:55i don't believe
00:43:56that
00:43:56to be honest
00:43:57but that is
00:43:58a very easy
00:43:59way of getting
00:44:00out of it
00:44:01don't hold me
00:44:01accountable
00:44:02i'm just a shit
00:44:03boyfriend
00:44:03no i'm not
00:44:04saying it like
00:44:04that
00:44:05but you are
00:44:07and that's
00:44:07what she's
00:44:08hearing
00:44:11what she
00:44:11wants right
00:44:12now from
00:44:12you danny
00:44:13is for
00:44:14you to
00:44:14step into
00:44:15this and
00:44:15go you
00:44:16know what
00:44:16yeah i've
00:44:17dropped the
00:44:17ball
00:44:19and i've
00:44:20sent you
00:44:20the wrong
00:44:20signals
00:44:22and i'm
00:44:22accountable
00:44:23and i'm
00:44:24going to
00:44:24do different
00:44:25but i'm
00:44:25not getting
00:44:26that from
00:44:26you
00:44:28no i
00:44:29bet i want
00:44:29to say i
00:44:30am and i'm
00:44:30sorry if
00:44:31like it's
00:44:32for making
00:44:32you feel
00:44:33like that
00:44:33genuine
00:44:33from the
00:44:34bottom of
00:44:34my heart
00:44:35you know
00:44:35i'd never
00:44:35want to
00:44:36upset you
00:44:36you mean
00:44:36the world
00:44:37to me
00:44:40and
00:44:41i'm
00:44:41sorry
00:44:42if i've
00:44:42dropped
00:44:43the ball
00:44:43it was
00:44:44never
00:44:44my
00:44:44intention
00:44:48i like
00:44:49hearing it
00:44:50but i need
00:44:50to see it
00:44:51yeah
00:44:51i can't
00:44:52keep on
00:44:53hearing it
00:44:54and then
00:44:55nothing
00:44:55changes
00:44:56well let me
00:44:56show you
00:44:56then
00:44:59okay
00:45:03let me
00:45:04show you
00:45:08now with
00:45:09that we're
00:45:09going to
00:45:09go to
00:45:10the
00:45:10decision
00:45:13beck what
00:45:14have you
00:45:14got for us
00:45:14stay or
00:45:15leave
00:45:15well you
00:45:17you have
00:45:18my heart
00:45:19and like
00:45:20you are
00:45:21the most
00:45:22special person
00:45:22i've never
00:45:23met anyone
00:45:23like you
00:45:24right and i
00:45:25feel really
00:45:26really lucky
00:45:26that we
00:45:27were matched
00:45:28and we get
00:45:28to go on
00:45:28this journey
00:45:29together
00:45:29um
00:45:30but
00:45:33i need
00:45:34you
00:45:35to give
00:45:37me
00:45:38half of
00:45:39what i'm
00:45:40giving you
00:45:40at least
00:45:48we have
00:45:50overcome so
00:45:50many hurdles
00:45:51together and
00:45:52we've made
00:45:53it this far
00:45:54so
00:45:56i said
00:45:58stay
00:45:59and then i
00:46:00said proud
00:46:01of us
00:46:03love it
00:46:03love it
00:46:04and danny
00:46:06yeah obviously
00:46:07i want to
00:46:08apologize again
00:46:09i'm so sorry
00:46:10you know you
00:46:10mean the world
00:46:11to me and
00:46:11all this
00:46:12week
00:46:13i'll try and
00:46:14prove that
00:46:15to you
00:46:16i'm here for
00:46:17love and i
00:46:18think i can
00:46:18find that
00:46:18with you
00:46:19so that's
00:46:20why i
00:46:20wrote
00:46:20stay
00:46:20good
00:46:32danny from
00:46:33where we're
00:46:33sitting
00:46:33this week
00:46:34is on
00:46:35you
00:46:35you have
00:46:37to do
00:46:37the heavy
00:46:38lifting
00:46:38you've got
00:46:39a partner
00:46:40here
00:46:40with you
00:46:41who's
00:46:42put her
00:46:42heart
00:46:43out there
00:46:44and said
00:46:44i'm in
00:46:44love
00:46:45i want
00:46:46this
00:46:46you need
00:46:47to step
00:46:47up
00:46:50and if
00:46:51you are
00:46:52feeling
00:46:53these
00:46:54strong
00:46:54emotions
00:46:55for her
00:46:55then you've
00:46:56got to
00:46:56start
00:46:57showing it
00:46:57yeah
00:47:01with that
00:47:02you can
00:47:02go back
00:47:03to the
00:47:03group
00:47:04thanks
00:47:05well
00:47:05done
00:47:05guys
00:47:08thanks
00:47:08for all
00:47:09your support
00:47:09thanks
00:47:10good work
00:47:11you two
00:47:14oh
00:47:15battered
00:47:21communicate
00:47:21with me
00:47:23my wife
00:47:24hates me
00:47:24and so
00:47:24do
00:47:25one
00:47:25as
00:47:25first
00:47:25as
00:47:25well
00:47:27i don't
00:47:28hate
00:47:28you
00:47:28boo
00:47:29i just
00:47:30can't
00:47:30keep
00:47:30on
00:47:30asking
00:47:31at the
00:47:31minimum
00:47:32it's
00:47:33either
00:47:33there
00:47:33or
00:47:33it's
00:47:33not
00:47:34and if
00:47:35it's
00:47:35not
00:47:35you've
00:47:35got to
00:47:36walk
00:47:36away
00:47:36now
00:47:37right
00:47:38okay
00:47:39i hate
00:47:39you
00:47:43still
00:47:44to
00:47:44come
00:47:45i haven't
00:47:46been able
00:47:46to
00:47:46address
00:47:46her
00:47:46concern
00:47:47without
00:47:47gia
00:47:48and i
00:47:48having
00:47:48an
00:47:48argument
00:47:49or
00:47:49her
00:47:49spiraling
00:47:50what kind
00:47:51of things
00:47:51could she
00:47:52say
00:47:52in a
00:47:53moment
00:47:54that
00:47:54demands
00:47:54honesty
00:47:56things that
00:47:57can make
00:47:57someone feel
00:47:58pretty defeated
00:47:59and let
00:48:00down
00:48:00such as
00:48:02scott
00:48:02hesitates
00:48:05if
00:48:06if you
00:48:06can't
00:48:06speak
00:48:07honestly
00:48:07in
00:48:07front
00:48:08of
00:48:08gia
00:48:08then
00:48:09i'm
00:48:09really
00:48:09concerned
00:48:10about
00:48:10the
00:48:10possibility
00:48:11of
00:48:11this
00:48:12relationship
00:48:12surviving
00:48:13outside
00:48:14the
00:48:14experiment
00:48:24next on
00:48:24the
00:48:25couch
00:48:28chris
00:48:29and
00:48:29sam
00:48:33hello
00:48:34hello
00:48:35hi
00:48:41body language
00:48:42says a lot
00:48:43yeah it's been
00:48:44tough
00:48:45yeah
00:48:51what happened
00:48:52last time
00:48:52we sat
00:48:53here
00:48:54i wrote
00:48:54leave
00:48:55in the
00:48:55moment
00:48:56and then
00:48:57i kind
00:48:57of
00:48:57regretted
00:48:58it
00:48:59we
00:48:59decided
00:49:00to get
00:49:00a
00:49:00homestays
00:49:01and i
00:49:01thought okay
00:49:02i'm really
00:49:02going to
00:49:02try and
00:49:03turn this
00:49:03around
00:49:03and i
00:49:04bought
00:49:04him some
00:49:04flowers
00:49:05i got
00:49:05him a
00:49:05card
00:49:05and made
00:49:06him
00:49:06went to
00:49:06the shop
00:49:07and got
00:49:07groceries
00:49:07and made
00:49:08dinner
00:49:09and then
00:49:09we had
00:49:10a day
00:49:10with my
00:49:10cattle
00:49:10you know
00:49:11we were
00:49:11outside
00:49:12and that
00:49:13i thought
00:49:13that was
00:49:13really fun
00:49:15and then
00:49:15we had
00:49:16a bonfire
00:49:20sam
00:49:20pulled out
00:49:21a journal
00:49:21with some
00:49:22questions in
00:49:23it
00:49:23hand on
00:49:24heart
00:49:24i was
00:49:24answering
00:49:25them
00:49:25the best
00:49:25that i
00:49:25could
00:49:26and then
00:49:27sam
00:49:27decided
00:49:28to
00:49:29leave
00:49:29the farm
00:49:31and
00:49:32i thought
00:49:32look
00:49:33i've really
00:49:33tried
00:49:33to turn
00:49:34this
00:49:34around
00:49:34i really
00:49:35took
00:49:35on
00:49:35all
00:49:35of
00:49:35your
00:49:36guys
00:49:36feedback
00:49:36and
00:49:37yeah
00:49:38i just
00:49:38feel
00:49:38like
00:49:39i've
00:49:39shut
00:49:39down
00:49:39now
00:49:42yeah
00:49:43i just
00:49:44felt
00:49:44like
00:49:44he
00:49:44was
00:49:44saving
00:49:45face
00:49:47especially
00:49:47like
00:49:47the flowers
00:49:48and dinner
00:49:48thing
00:49:49it felt
00:49:50very like
00:49:51i need
00:49:51to do
00:49:52these
00:49:52things
00:49:52to show
00:49:52that i've
00:49:53put in
00:49:53effort
00:49:54for me
00:49:55it was
00:49:55genuine
00:49:55i was trying
00:49:56to be
00:49:56as genuine
00:49:56as i could
00:49:57and i thought
00:49:57that was
00:49:58a way
00:49:59to try
00:49:59and make
00:49:59you feel
00:49:59welcome
00:50:00at the
00:50:00farm
00:50:00i feel
00:50:01like
00:50:01your effort
00:50:01was like
00:50:02to push
00:50:03forward
00:50:03and there
00:50:04was effort
00:50:04for you
00:50:05to grow
00:50:05but it
00:50:05was never
00:50:05like
00:50:06i need
00:50:06to grow
00:50:07for us
00:50:07i want
00:50:08to grow
00:50:08to be
00:50:08a better
00:50:09partner
00:50:09for you
00:50:16where did
00:50:17the relationship
00:50:17go wrong
00:50:18for you
00:50:19both
00:50:23i feel like
00:50:24chris never really
00:50:25fully forgave me
00:50:27for calling him out
00:50:28on like
00:50:29behaviors
00:50:31from then on
00:50:32especially after
00:50:33you guys gave him
00:50:34feedback
00:50:34it was like
00:50:35it was like a no return
00:50:36point from then
00:50:40where did it go wrong
00:50:41for you
00:50:43um
00:50:43i feel like
00:50:45like after the retreat
00:50:46that chemistry
00:50:47it was lacking
00:50:48for me
00:50:48we were intimate
00:50:50a second time
00:50:50and i just felt like
00:50:51that wasn't there
00:50:52for me
00:50:55was it the quality
00:50:56of the interaction
00:50:57was it
00:50:57was it him
00:50:58as a person
00:50:59was
00:51:00what was it
00:51:01that felt
00:51:01off for you
00:51:03if i'm being honest
00:51:04it was just the quality
00:51:05of the interaction
00:51:05i just
00:51:06i don't know
00:51:06it just wasn't
00:51:07there for me
00:51:15is that something
00:51:16that you spoke
00:51:16to sam about
00:51:17no i didn't want
00:51:18to hurt his feelings
00:51:24how are you feeling
00:51:25about that sam
00:51:25to hear this
00:51:27oh yeah
00:51:28like i guess
00:51:29i'm surprised
00:51:30um
00:51:31and like
00:51:32i guess what really
00:51:33sucks is that
00:51:34i was out on the farm
00:51:35and i was like
00:51:36hurting cows
00:51:37and i was like
00:51:37this is so good
00:51:38and the kids thing
00:51:39never bothered me
00:51:40like it's always
00:51:41something i've wanted
00:51:41in my life
00:51:43and i was just like
00:51:44it was so annoying
00:51:45that everything else
00:51:46would have worked
00:51:51this is really disappointing
00:51:53for us
00:51:54because we had so much hope
00:51:56for the two of you
00:51:58it's just so unfortunate
00:52:00that along the way
00:52:02with all of the pressure
00:52:03that the experiment brings
00:52:04that the wheels have fallen off
00:52:09it is disappointing
00:52:09i came here
00:52:11to find love
00:52:12and you know
00:52:12i know that i'm a slow burn
00:52:14and you know
00:52:14i know that i get anxious
00:52:16once i do get feelings
00:52:17for someone
00:52:17because it takes me so long
00:52:18to build feelings
00:52:19for someone
00:52:20um
00:52:21and yeah
00:52:22it's just really disappointing
00:52:23that it all ended up
00:52:24like this
00:52:25but
00:52:25you know
00:52:27high hopes for the future
00:52:30yeah
00:52:32what about you chris
00:52:33yeah
00:52:34and i said to sam
00:52:34that i want to be
00:52:35really good friends with him
00:52:36we've been on this journey
00:52:37for eight weeks
00:52:38so
00:52:39yeah
00:52:39i hope that we can
00:52:40stay in each other's lives
00:52:41outside of here
00:52:43yeah
00:52:45all right
00:52:46well
00:52:46we're going to go to a decision
00:52:48chris
00:52:49we'll start with you
00:52:52i've obviously learned
00:52:53a lot about myself
00:52:53and i hope you have too
00:52:54and
00:52:55um
00:52:55you know
00:52:56i'm sorry that it didn't
00:52:57work out for us
00:52:58my time has unfortunately
00:53:00run out
00:53:00so
00:53:01um
00:53:02yeah
00:53:02i have to leave
00:53:04okay
00:53:04thank you
00:53:06and to you sam
00:53:07it's been a journey
00:53:09i've learned a lot
00:53:1090% of our time together
00:53:11was awesome
00:53:13yeah
00:53:13but you know
00:53:14it's come to the time
00:53:15to pack it up
00:53:16and
00:53:17leave
00:53:22i'm sorry you've both
00:53:23landed here
00:53:24but
00:53:25hopefully you have
00:53:26learned some lessons
00:53:27along the way
00:53:29that you can take
00:53:30into your next
00:53:31relationships
00:53:31and parenthood
00:53:33you know
00:53:34this is all about
00:53:34that self-development
00:53:36as well as
00:53:37couple development
00:53:39thank you both
00:53:40thank you so much
00:53:41well done you two
00:53:52well done guys
00:53:54we're gonna miss you
00:53:57our next couple
00:53:58up on the couch
00:54:00Stella and
00:54:01philip
00:54:05hello there
00:54:09how we doing
00:54:11well we're more
00:54:12interested in how
00:54:12you're doing
00:54:14yeah
00:54:14coming into
00:54:15homestead was very
00:54:16very important for me
00:54:18i was always open to
00:54:19moving so it was a
00:54:19really big deal to
00:54:20go into Stella's space
00:54:22i was just really keen
00:54:23to see what it would
00:54:24look like
00:54:26i just tried to
00:54:27envisage everything
00:54:28like how i'd live
00:54:29there
00:54:29the vibe
00:54:30the energy
00:54:31and all that
00:54:31kind of stuff
00:54:33after the experiment
00:54:35Stella's gonna come
00:54:36back for my
00:54:36mum's birthday
00:54:38celebrate that
00:54:39we're gonna spend
00:54:40a few days in
00:54:41Melbourne
00:54:42and then i'll pick
00:54:43my car up
00:54:43and drive up
00:54:44to Cronulla
00:54:47just move again
00:54:48yeah
00:54:49yeah
00:54:50straight in
00:54:51yeah
00:54:51oh
00:54:52moving in
00:54:53that's a plan
00:54:55yeah
00:54:56so it is a plan
00:54:57we got there
00:54:59here's the thing
00:55:00when i first met
00:55:01you
00:55:02you loved control
00:55:03yeah
00:55:03you
00:55:05mapped out
00:55:06you know
00:55:06what you wanted
00:55:07to do during the
00:55:08day
00:55:08your fitness
00:55:09your health
00:55:09your sleep
00:55:10everything
00:55:11on point
00:55:12and
00:55:13you without a
00:55:15plan
00:55:15there was a
00:55:16part of you
00:55:17that wasn't
00:55:18committing
00:55:18and now
00:55:19you've come up
00:55:21with a plan
00:55:21you've got
00:55:22certainty
00:55:23and now
00:55:24you're on the
00:55:24same track
00:55:25because i want
00:55:26this relationship
00:55:27to work
00:55:28yeah
00:55:29yeah
00:55:31and i feel like
00:55:33um
00:55:33every woman
00:55:34can agree
00:55:35with that
00:55:35when you don't
00:55:37understand your
00:55:38man's intentions
00:55:39that's when you
00:55:40get frazzled
00:55:41that's when you
00:55:41overthink
00:55:42that's when you
00:55:42in your head
00:55:43when you know
00:55:44that the man
00:55:44is like
00:55:46okay let's do
00:55:47this i think
00:55:47you really
00:55:48settle in
00:55:49to get that
00:55:49heart
00:55:50you really
00:55:51do
00:55:52philip i want
00:55:53you to turn
00:55:54to stella
00:55:54and tell her
00:55:55how you feel
00:55:56you're gonna
00:55:56make me cry
00:56:04you know
00:56:05you know
00:56:07we can't cope
00:56:12no
00:56:13you know
00:56:15you know
00:56:16you know
00:56:17stop it
00:56:23you know
00:56:24you know
00:56:24you know
00:56:24know
00:56:25that i am
00:56:25i am
00:56:26in love
00:56:26with you
00:56:28and that
00:56:28you shouldn't
00:56:29doubt anything
00:56:30there's a lot
00:56:31of unknown
00:56:31and stuff
00:56:32like that
00:56:32it's okay
00:56:33we got this
00:56:33but you know
00:56:34we're a team
00:56:34so yeah
00:56:35so
00:56:36i love you
00:56:36too
00:56:37okay
00:56:38yeah
00:56:42so
00:56:42stella
00:56:43how does
00:56:44that feel
00:56:45when he
00:56:46says that
00:56:47knowing that
00:56:48he's got a
00:56:48plan
00:56:49and he's
00:56:49moving in
00:56:50again
00:56:51like i really
00:56:52go from the
00:56:52two weeks
00:56:53the conversation
00:56:54like this man
00:56:55makes me feel
00:56:56safe
00:56:56i don't think
00:56:58i have experienced
00:56:59love before
00:57:00meeting him
00:57:00because
00:57:01oh
00:57:03he shows up
00:57:04for me
00:57:05yeah
00:57:06big time
00:57:07yeah
00:57:08can i just ask
00:57:09you stella
00:57:09what's getting
00:57:10you upset
00:57:11right now
00:57:11why is this
00:57:12so important
00:57:13yeah i feel
00:57:14quite like
00:57:15key in the
00:57:16sense that
00:57:18um
00:57:18if this works
00:57:19out it means
00:57:20that everything
00:57:20that was
00:57:22in the past
00:57:22all those
00:57:23learning curves
00:57:24all those
00:57:24relationships
00:57:25all
00:57:25all was
00:57:27worth
00:57:27for this
00:57:28moment
00:57:28you know
00:57:29because
00:57:29i do i think
00:57:31um
00:57:31at the stage
00:57:32of my life
00:57:33where
00:57:33i do truly
00:57:34want this
00:57:35to be my
00:57:35forever person
00:57:36and i do see
00:57:38i do see
00:57:39that
00:57:39um
00:57:40yeah
00:57:41thank you
00:57:42pleasure
00:57:46well
00:57:46you got real
00:57:47on this couch
00:57:48tonight
00:57:49it was great
00:57:51and on that
00:57:52note
00:57:52we're gonna
00:57:53go to a
00:57:53decision
00:57:54uh stay
00:57:54or leave
00:57:55you're up
00:57:55first
00:57:56stella
00:57:56um
00:57:57obviously not
00:57:58a surprise
00:57:58and i think
00:57:59i drew a love
00:58:00heart from
00:58:00very early
00:58:01on
00:58:03nice and what
00:58:04about you
00:58:04philip
00:58:05uh
00:58:06i'm not
00:58:07going anywhere
00:58:07just started
00:58:09we're staying
00:58:10that's what we
00:58:11like to see
00:58:14thanks for being in
00:58:15thanks for being in
00:58:16yeah
00:58:16you are a team
00:58:18yeah
00:58:18and you've got this
00:58:19yeah
00:58:20thanks guys
00:58:20i really appreciate
00:58:21well done you two
00:58:25thank you
00:58:26great work
00:58:30hey thanks
00:58:38our last couple
00:58:40up on the couch
00:58:42gia and scott
00:58:47good evening
00:58:49hello
00:58:49hello
00:58:50how are we
00:58:51good hi gia
00:58:52hello
00:58:56so how are you
00:58:57guys
00:58:58all right
00:58:59um
00:59:01getting a bit
00:59:01nervous
00:59:13so
00:59:14you know
00:59:17i care so much
00:59:19about gia
00:59:20what i'm going to
00:59:21talk about tonight
00:59:22is
00:59:22i don't want you
00:59:23to be upset
00:59:25okay
00:59:25what i'm going to
00:59:26talk about is
00:59:26feelings
00:59:27where
00:59:29i
00:59:30take a breath
00:59:31for a minute
00:59:33breathe
00:59:46what i'm going to
00:59:47talk about tonight
00:59:47is
00:59:47i don't want you
00:59:48to be upset
00:59:50okay
00:59:51what i'm going to
00:59:51talk about
00:59:52talk about is
00:59:52feelings
00:59:53where i
00:59:55take breath
00:59:56for a minute
00:59:58breathe
01:00:27it's a weakness of mine
01:00:28here for whatever
01:00:29for whatever reason
01:00:31you find yourself
01:00:32simply cowering away
01:00:33from that and not
01:00:34returning to that topic
01:00:38pretty much
01:00:40what have you observed
01:00:41about gia's behavior
01:00:42that leads you to
01:00:43have that reaction
01:00:46what kind of things
01:00:47what kind of things could she say
01:00:55can i please just say
01:00:57things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down
01:01:01touch us
01:01:02um
01:01:07honestly
01:01:09if you can't speak honestly in front of gia about the things that she does and say that hurt
01:01:14you or scare you or make you feel off
01:01:16what he has
01:01:21then i'm really really really concerned about the possibility of this relationship surviving outside the experiment
01:01:41scott
01:01:42yeah
01:01:44we've got all night
01:01:45i know we're not going anywhere
01:01:47we're going to sit here and ask you uncomfortable questions until you come clean
01:01:52okay
01:01:53i just so
01:01:54i care about it
01:01:55so if you don't let us in
01:01:56i know
01:01:57you're not going to last
01:02:00what i'm seeing here is fake
01:02:03i'm going to call you out
01:02:04i've seen it the entire experiment
01:02:07you talk about things in a way where you don't give us any of the information
01:02:13you skirt around the issues
01:02:15i get it
01:02:16you're trying to fly under the radar
01:02:18but what we're saying tonight is that ends
01:02:21yeah
01:02:21okay
01:02:23you sat down here you're petrified of gia
01:02:25and you're not answering the questions
01:02:32so i'm going to ask you again scott
01:02:34what kind of things
01:02:36could gia say that would
01:02:38make you feel fearful of speaking up
01:02:42so this is probably the most magic concern
01:02:45it could happen probably on average once a week
01:02:47i feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say i'm in love
01:02:50and when i don't say it
01:02:52um gia will tend to spoil and say things like
01:02:55you're a crime you're not a man you're not a provider
01:02:58you don't give me reassurance
01:03:02it's pretty much every name under the sun right
01:03:05every name under the sun is wild
01:03:14i'll explain that you talk for yourself
01:03:16and i just will explain babe like listen to what you're saying i know you don't mean it like where's
01:03:23this coming from and like i don't know what it is i just don't know
01:03:27when you're having that situation
01:03:30when there are things that are being said
01:03:31how do you feel in that moment
01:03:34in these moments that you're describing now
01:03:36that where she's coming at you
01:03:37personally
01:03:39i just feel like
01:03:40when it's i just feel completely destroyed like i'm worthless
01:03:45that's pretty major
01:03:47but i just want gia to know that i care so much about her
01:03:51my feelings are strong i'm falling for her but when these things happen
01:03:54it pulls me back and it holds me back
01:03:58and so gian
01:04:00what do you think
01:04:01when you're feeling threatened or
01:04:04um not happy with what scott says
01:04:07that you attack him
01:04:09what is that about for you
01:04:11this is a man that you're falling in love with from every indication i've had
01:04:17well i'll just say it out loud
01:04:22if this wasn't on camera i told him i'm in love with him yesterday
01:04:27so this is a man you love
01:04:30so where does that come from
01:04:31so for me um
01:04:35i've felt this way for scott for the last few weeks
01:04:39and there's been so many moments where
01:04:42like i wanted to say it and i'm like
01:04:44you can't be the girl who says it first
01:04:46usually it's been the guy who said it first
01:04:48so this is weird for me
01:04:49and i've wanted him to know why i've been spiraling
01:04:52it's because of this
01:04:53like i've been wanting to say it
01:04:54and i know he's not there and it's frustrating for me
01:04:56because i feel rejected
01:04:57to be honest
01:04:59the leading up to where you're having these big feelings
01:05:02and that's what's making you feel like oh my god he's gonna reject me
01:05:05why go hurt him
01:05:07because i felt hurt
01:05:10and i was like let me hurt him
01:05:13that's the truth
01:05:18that's a pretty big revelation
01:05:21and also hurdle for scott to have to handle
01:05:25and walk around eggshells trying to not
01:05:28have you have this reaction
01:05:30i just think this is very new for me
01:05:32i haven't ever been in this situation before
01:05:35but in the situation of saying that you're hurt
01:05:38and therefore you're choosing to hurt back
01:05:41is that the way that you normally are
01:05:48i'm gonna insist and underline this
01:05:50because i really want you to
01:05:52take in gia
01:05:53that we can absolutely see how strong your relationship with scott is
01:05:58but it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table
01:06:00that you need to break
01:06:02because it will be the thing
01:06:04that makes him run the other way
01:06:18the leading up to where you're having these big feelings
01:06:21and that's what's making you feel like
01:06:22oh my god he's gonna reject me
01:06:25why go hurt him
01:06:28because i felt hurt
01:06:30and i was like let me hurt him
01:06:34that's the truth
01:06:37i'm gonna insist and underline this
01:06:39because i really want you to
01:06:41take in gia
01:06:42it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table
01:06:45that you need to break
01:06:47because it will be the thing
01:06:48that makes him run the other way
01:06:57do you feel secure in your relationship with scott
01:07:03um
01:07:07like yes and no
01:07:10why no
01:07:13i don't know because
01:07:14like sometimes i can't bring something up
01:07:17because i'm argumentative
01:07:18or so i don't feel like
01:07:19i'm secure with him
01:07:21and i can be myself
01:07:22so that and
01:07:23like he doesn't feel as strong as i feel
01:07:26like well he could just leave
01:07:29am i going to move for like
01:07:31am i going to take my daughter out of her school in melbourne
01:07:33and move to the gold coast if he just likes me
01:07:38just don't feel as secure as maybe i could
01:07:41in the relationship
01:07:43so there's still room there for you to grow
01:07:45in terms of security in the relationship
01:07:49how does it make you feel to hear
01:07:51gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship
01:07:57i'm confused because gia tells me that she feels secure
01:08:01i try and tickle the boxes to make a note and reassure that i'm all in on this and like
01:08:07when we have tough times like i just keep telling you i'm here for you i want you to be
01:08:11the shoulder to cry on
01:08:12and like you know whenever there is bad things
01:08:15maybe sometimes i say oh like i don't want to hear it or something like that but
01:08:19you know
01:08:19well that's why i don't feel secure
01:08:23because i'm like well i can't bring that up
01:08:26so like how do i how can i be vulnerable and feel safe
01:08:29because it's swept under the rug you know
01:08:32you shut down my feelings a lot of the time
01:08:35i'm going to be saying myself i've never shut down your feelings gia
01:08:37never
01:08:37well that's my perception
01:08:39and i feel like sometimes we'll talk about something
01:08:42and you just don't listen
01:08:44and so then i just stopped talking about it
01:08:46because he says i'm arguing and i'm like okay well i just like
01:08:49i'll just forget my feelings let's just leave it
01:08:51because then my brain is like oh my god you're arguing again he's not going to fall in love with
01:08:56you
01:08:56and it's like
01:08:58it's like i can't win to be honest
01:09:01that's how i feel
01:09:06well at last
01:09:08we've got the real scott and gia sitting in front of us
01:09:12and isn't it interesting
01:09:14that week after week you guys have sat here and said everything's fine
01:09:18we're a great couple
01:09:21tonight
01:09:23you're exposing yourselves
01:09:26and everything isn't great between the two of you
01:09:30scott nearly couldn't breathe tonight
01:09:33because he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you gia
01:09:37that's not healthy
01:09:40so it comes down to the two of you
01:09:43are you prepared to do the work
01:09:46hear things you might not like
01:09:48but know that when you hear those feelings you get closer not further away
01:09:54but you've got to be real over this next week
01:09:58otherwise it is going to slip through your fingers
01:10:04we're going to go to the decision
01:10:06stay or leave and we'll go with you first
01:10:10Gia
01:10:11um
01:10:13yeah
01:10:14i think we needed to have this conversation tonight
01:10:16because
01:10:17we're at the end
01:10:18i don't want to
01:10:18have any questions unanswered
01:10:20and that's
01:10:21the same with
01:10:22me saying that i love him
01:10:24and i just wanted to just
01:10:25be
01:10:26fully in
01:10:27so
01:10:28anyways
01:10:29with that we'll take on
01:10:31your advice this week
01:10:32and i'm going to
01:10:34stay
01:10:35love that
01:10:37what do you got scott
01:10:38stay or leave
01:10:39obviously we've come so far this experiment
01:10:41and i honestly appreciate
01:10:43the three of you
01:10:44for what you've done for us
01:10:45and how you've paired us
01:10:46and
01:10:47i was nervous walking here tonight
01:10:48and i don't get nervous
01:10:50and i feel so light right now
01:10:52because
01:10:53we can both
01:10:54have our say
01:10:55and i can
01:10:56i can tell you right now
01:10:58this is going to help us so much
01:11:00so
01:11:00i'm excited for this week
01:11:02because i just feel so happy
01:11:03just after this conversation
01:11:04so i'm staying
01:11:05in the sun
01:11:06because we're going to sunny gold coast
01:11:10all right you two
01:11:13so it's a big week
01:11:14coming up for the two of you
01:11:15and i know it's hard for you as a couple
01:11:18but when issues get brought up this week
01:11:20when you talk about
01:11:21the big stuff
01:11:23try and be curious
01:11:25as opposed to defensive
01:11:28all right
01:11:29good luck
01:11:30thank you
01:11:30good luck
01:11:36come on
01:11:37i kind of
01:11:41okay
01:11:43okay
01:11:44okay
01:11:44i okay
01:11:45i okay
01:11:45yeah
01:11:45i don't know
01:11:48i do you know
01:11:48no
01:11:49i don't need you
01:11:51no
01:11:51i don't need you
01:11:54k
01:12:07Tomorrow night.
01:12:08What is going on here?
01:12:10Chanel.
01:12:11Shannon.
01:12:11Oh, no.
01:12:13What?
01:12:14James.
01:12:15Antoni.
01:12:16Oh, my God.
01:12:17What?
01:12:18During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person that our participants were
01:12:23compatible with.
01:12:24The unforgettable final test is back.
01:12:27Oh, my God.
01:12:28It is the ultimate test of trust and security.
01:12:31And this season, the experts have upped the ante like never before.
01:12:36We are removing the element of choice from the final test.
01:12:40Over two incredible nights.
01:12:43I feel sick.
01:12:43I feel like I'm going to pass out.
01:12:47All our participants will make their alternative matches.
01:12:51I only date men that hate for men.
01:12:53Let's get married in.
01:12:55Some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective.
01:12:58Why do I always get the young ones?
01:12:59I like it.
01:13:01You've got to stop touching me because if my wife sees this, she's going to go.
01:13:04No!
01:13:07Before the biggest twist, the experiment's ever seen.
01:13:15It's the car screener.
01:13:17Are you serious?
01:13:19That is disgusting.
01:13:22Oh, you're disgusting.
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