00:00The best marriages for people who are really metacognitive, really in tune with their relationship, are ones where they balance
00:05each other. For example, if you're a judge, you do really well with a mad scientist. So a really high
00:10affect person can do really well with a low affect person. If it's two really high affect people, it's going
00:14to be daggers drawn. It's going to be trouble because you're going to spin each other up or bum each
00:18other out a lot. So you have to be really aware is kind of how this works.
00:21The challenges are really different. Now, people who have high negative affect, they tend to manage their negative affect in
00:27a destructive way. The most common way that high negative affect people manage their negative affect is alcohol because it's
00:33unbelievably effective. Alcohol in particular cuts the connection between the amygdala, which is the fear and anger part of the
00:41limbic system, and the prefrontal cortex. So you're all stressed out, but you don't know it. That's what alcohol does.
00:46So two martinis and you're like, life's okay.
00:48And so if you're an anxious person, that's why you got to be super careful with alcohol. And that's why
00:52CEOs have more alcohol problems than people who are unemployed.
00:55No way.
00:56Yeah. OECD data shows that highly successful, highly educated, high earners, they have more trouble with alcohol than people on
01:02the other end of the spectrum.
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