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Married at First Sight (AU) Season 13 Episode 33
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00:00:00So excited to show David around, my hometown.
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a life outside the experiment.
00:00:30It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are neutral.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it.
00:00:45And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:48David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Mine's a pink.
00:01:02Is it your ex's or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.
00:01:15You know what I mean?
00:01:15It's gone.
00:01:16No, no, what I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:19Tonight.
00:01:22Now, in just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship into the real world and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage, uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:53It's not mind reading.
00:01:53Oh, my gosh.
00:01:53I can't.
00:01:54I cannot.
00:01:55Boom.
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:03Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no.
00:02:06Do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:10I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:22And then...
00:02:23What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:27I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings where I...
00:02:49Take a breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10it's the morning of the final commitment ceremony yummy get some caffeine
00:03:18yeah and after eight weeks in the experiment tonight marks the last time the couples will
00:03:24come face to face with the experts how'd you sleep yeah I slept really well really really
00:03:30well I love our little midnight make out sessions some people have chats we have make out sessions
00:03:36yeah I love it this week during homestays the couples were tested as they prepare for a life
00:03:43outside the experiment it was good I'm just enjoying the last couple weeks Stella and
00:03:48Philip continue to evolve as a couple having said I love you Rachel and Stephen have been
00:03:57slower to open their hearts but day by day their connection grows it was really good to tell
00:04:03everyone about our homestays and even reflecting on it like after last night's dinner party do I
00:04:10dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now dare to say it babes because
00:04:17I've been saying it for Alyssa and David homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship I feel
00:04:31like David and I have been a strong couple throughout this experiment I still believe we are because we
00:04:37have each other's back it's just hard be careful it's just you know we have been honest with each
00:04:41other about a lot of things but since homestays it's taken a turn we have had deep conversations
00:04:48big conversations and David's maybe held back from saying what he really felt in that moment or
00:04:53questioning what I meant in that moment and now towards the end of the experiment it's all coming
00:04:58out how are you feeling um I'm feeling like we've got a lot going on right now at the moment
00:05:09just uh
00:05:10we're not really understanding each other yeah I feel like we have a lot to unpack and a lot to
00:05:15you
00:05:15know break down and yeah there are some cracks and you know the pressure of the experiment ending
00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me I fell in homestay that I'm like okay he's keen to move to
00:05:30Adelaide wait haven't met his family wait haven't met his friends oh wait I don't even know he's got
00:05:35multiple jobs like I don't know if he's stable I want to have family like this is me spiraling
00:05:39because I'm like this is too good to be true obviously homestays is quite late but it's brought
00:05:44up a lot of other things that we should have dealt with a long time ago like have the have
00:05:49the
00:05:49conversations if you don't agree with something or have the conversation or ask the questions when
00:05:53you don't understand something that I've said well all I'm gonna say is I should have gone there but
00:05:57we haven't and I've haven't felt like challenged enough you need to break through that softness and
00:06:04be strong with me because I want to be a team with you and talk things through and you know
00:06:10like it's so
00:06:11frustrating to sit here trying to express my side of the story and I can hardly get a word in
00:06:17I feel
00:06:18like there are I think there was a there was a bit of like the last couple days what I've
00:06:25been
00:06:25struggling with is I haven't been as like willing to have those conversations with you about how I was
00:06:32feeling but babe like if you don't talk to me about your reservations that's not healthy babe talk to me
00:06:40well we need to voice we and that's what I need in this relationship and that's you're not fulfilling
00:06:45that need for me and I believe that it's right to put it all out of the table I don't
00:06:51ever want to
00:06:51have to hold back I don't think it's that it's that you hold back but I think one thing about
00:06:55you is
00:06:55you hold on too much and then I know babe you're spiraling within yourself I know I'm not are you
00:07:04done I can't even get a word in
00:07:08I feel like it's a slap in the face Alyssa says she wants a hard challenging conversation and she's wanted
00:07:14this for a long
00:07:15time but it's not just like that with Alyssa it's not respect is only on her terms and the relationship
00:07:22only goes her way or the highway that is a big deal break for me as well it is the
00:07:27first time where I feel
00:07:27like both of us are very disconnected a lot more than we ever have going into a commitment ceremony and
00:07:36tonight I'm just gonna be completely honest because I've hit my limit and I'm not going to like hold back
00:07:43I'm just gonna put it all on the table as for Danny his controversial views resulted in a tense
00:07:54argument with Beck at last night's dinner party it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in
00:08:01with
00:08:01a woman he's talking about feeling emasculated if she was the one who owned the house me
00:08:14and this morning they are still struggling to resolve the issue people can feel how they want
00:08:19to feel you know what you mean whether other people agree with or not like it's not up to them
00:08:25this is
00:08:25how I feel I feel like moving in with a woman just doesn't feel very manly you know yeah you
00:08:34don't
00:08:34understand I do understand I get what you're saying but I suppose if we're talking about creating a life
00:08:42together after this experiment then you're gonna have to get over that am I right or am I right
00:08:51the funny thing is with Beck when she feels a kind of way it's a completely valid feeling that's how
00:08:57she feels well when I say it makes me feel this way oh no but no but that's not right
00:09:03it's not
00:09:03actually to do with you being a woman I wouldn't move in with anyone and just like free like often
00:09:08you pay the bills I'll pay the mortgage be done easy finito other than that we had a great night
00:09:17yes sir yeah and whilst Beck and Danny continue to disagree our other couples are preparing for the
00:09:24final commitment ceremony of the experiment you look great you too yep yeah very pure you know no yeah
00:09:36very appropriate as our couples face the experts for the last time a defining choice awaits tonight they
00:09:48must decide stay in the experiment through to final vows or walk away from their marriages for good for Scott
00:10:02the
00:10:02pressure is mounting he feels it is now or never to reveal his true feelings to his bride Gia final
00:10:11commitment ceremony tonight crazy isn't it yeah can you believe that we've made it this far oh yeah I
00:10:21definitely didn't imagine it I do think we had a great week I don't think we're gonna have too much
00:10:30feedback tonight I think it was great like I can't fault homestays it went really well positive good vibes
00:10:37you know so hopefully not getting grilled hard tonight I feel like I've been hit a bit throughout
00:10:44this experiment from the experts yeah yeah what else I get nervous going to the commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still can't be 100% myself and I feel like I just can't have a voice sometimes because
00:11:06she
00:11:06thinks we're gonna have an argument and I want her to be able to understand that we need to speak
00:11:09anecdotally knowing that if I have a concern or she has a concern we can talk and it's not gonna
00:11:13lead
00:11:13to a disaster you're gonna be able to communicate so you're ready for tonight I don't like commitment
00:11:20ceremonies you know that yeah I feel like we're at the point where you know we're almost falling in love
00:11:27yeah then I feel like if she feels more than me and she doesn't get anything back from me she'll
00:11:32start
00:11:32spiraling and start saying harshful things to me very harshful things and so then I feel like I can't
00:11:42talk and I go quiet and I go flat that retracts me every time and that's what pushes me away
00:11:49from
00:11:50falling in love and I don't think she understands that so you just gotta look at the positives you know
00:11:57personally I'd love to speak up and share everything because it's good to get feedback but there's
00:12:03another side of me where I feel like I want to protect my wife I don't want to feel unstable
00:12:07upset
00:12:08or you know get nervous or have a breakdown so you know I think how she gonna react if I
00:12:13say these
00:12:13things all right see you in there hi sometimes I'm like well I'm just not going to talk about it
00:12:22I'm just in the air I don't know what to do bye bye
00:12:45hello hi how are you guys very well welcome hello guys hi hello good evening welcome hi
00:13:29welcome everybody to the very final commitment ceremony of this experiment now this is a very very
00:13:39pivotal night because it is the very last time that you get to sit in front of the experts and
00:13:45to hear the
00:13:46feedback that we have for you
00:13:50and just a short time you have one of the biggest decisions that you're going to have to make whether
00:13:55or not you can take this relationship in the experiment into the real world and make it a success
00:14:02and as we know as experts if you are not completely vulnerable with your partner
00:14:08at this stage of the experiment then your relationship
00:14:13will crumble on the outside it will not last
00:14:19now with that being said let's get our first couple up
00:14:27Alyssa and David
00:14:40hello hello
00:14:43so how are things um you know what last time we were on the couch
00:14:50things were moving in the right direction they still are but we do have some hiccups
00:14:56that we're trying to work through at the moment okay um obviously i'll start by saying you know
00:15:03alyssa is an amazing girl but personally i feel like i have you know carried a lot of the emotional
00:15:11weight
00:15:11in the relationship this is just how i feel
00:15:15what do you mean when you say carry most of the emotional weight
00:15:18i feel like there has been times where i personally put my emotions aside just to make sure that there
00:15:26was
00:15:27just peace and this is a thing where like i have tried to bring something up at the start of
00:15:34the
00:15:34relationship to alyssa and i felt like she was not receptive to it so what that ended up doing for
00:15:40me was making me be more cautious of bringing stuff up to her it was more the reaction of is
00:15:50it going to become an argument that was going to go out of hand
00:15:54so what happened with all of that emotion as you describe it if you weren't expressing that to alyssa
00:16:01what were you doing with it
00:16:07well anything little that i didn't really care about didn't really affect me so i'd brush over it
00:16:12but um what happened in homestays was i feel like it triggered me okay i was saying adelaide is a
00:16:18livable place but i felt like alyssa was being a bit negative about the move i feel like she was
00:16:26pointing out all the reasons why it won't work which are all valid we all know that there is things
00:16:30to
00:16:31work out in the real world but it felt like for me she was too in her head about it
00:16:36that it's affecting
00:16:37me right now
00:16:42do you know why because i'm feeling very frustrated at this
00:16:46part of the experiment this is our last couch session and i'm feeling like there has been
00:16:50some hold back and some of our couch sessions could have been things that we could be working
00:16:55through if we had more open conversations i feel like he doesn't want to have like conflict
00:17:01but i feel like there is healthy conflict resolution otherwise my relationship in my eyes
00:17:05this is too good to be true can i just stay i want a partner who can have
00:17:12a constructive conversation with me about an issue but a partner that shuts you down and tells you
00:17:19what they're saying is bible it is an issue actually spoken down on you in a bad way like i
00:17:25don't know
00:17:25there's things you've said you i don't want to i don't want to like well an example could be helpful
00:17:31for elisa here well she has you did mention i was a weak man at one point she called you
00:17:38a weak man
00:17:39yeah
00:17:42so that's the problem
00:17:48so
00:17:58well she has you did mention i was a weak man at one point she called you a weak man
00:18:07yeah so that's a problem
00:18:15what was the context around that it was in one of our talks about like she's got assets she's ahead
00:18:22in life and she wants a guy that can match that so financially weak yeah how did it feel when
00:18:28she
00:18:28said that well i just thought where's this coming from and the thing about me is like i pick what
00:18:34i
00:18:34want to like get upset about and i didn't maybe i should have combated that at the time
00:18:44alissa what was going on for you what did you want to achieve from saying that to him
00:18:49i was getting frustrated because i'm wanting more from david i'm wanting to see more from him and i
00:18:55feel like i want to be strong together as a couple i think where i'm struggling is it's she wants
00:19:01me
00:19:01to be strong on her timeline and that's where it feels like it is your way or you're not happy
00:19:10david do you feel like you're enough for alissa i feel like i'm 100 enough
00:19:17do you think she thinks you're enough i think she does but the questions that i am getting
00:19:22are like they are confusing me so what are these questions that are confusing you
00:19:27well the first thing is she's wondering like you know energy like in five years or whatever
00:19:33is that going to be enough to sustain her and she has said to me if i'm not getting
00:19:37the fix i need i'll go look elsewhere no i didn't say that she said i'm hungry you need to
00:19:44feed me you
00:19:45need to feed me i've taught you more in this relation than you've taught me i'm wanting to like
00:19:49open-ended conversations and stuff i'm wanting to go deep like i'm putting all my cards on the
00:19:53table i'm very direct like i'll talk about stuff i need some sort of fuel like that it's just it's
00:20:00what i like but i don't know if our relationship is going to last in the real world if this
00:20:06is the
00:20:06gap i don't know if we're going to be a good match long term if this is the energy because
00:20:14i need to
00:20:14see david in his element i need to see david with his family i need to see david with his
00:20:18friends i need
00:20:19to see what he does like i want to have a family in the next few years
00:20:28and like if if we want to talk about me seeing things work in the real world what i need
00:20:32to see
00:20:33as well is if someone says they want to have open-ended conversations that has to be it what's
00:20:38happened in this relationship is i've done a lot of listening alissa has done a lot of talking
00:20:43that's the fact you need to speak up no no no but like it's i don't one thing about me
00:20:48is
00:20:48i think we're both adults and i want to see that in her that she has the ability to listen
00:20:54i can't mind reading it's not mind reading it's not my gosh i can't i cannot i know i can't
00:20:58mind
00:20:59read babe you're frustrating me because i can't read your mind when something when she when i start
00:21:03saying something that she's not getting i'm frustrated i don't want to deal with this anymore
00:21:07no i'm not dealing with it i'm just saying you're now talking in circles so i'm gonna i'm gonna pull
00:21:12you up there i mean this has been very enlightening i think for us to get a glimpse inside what's
00:21:19really
00:21:19going on in the relationship so an observation from from us here is that you've both made missteps
00:21:29i think in terms of your communication and what you've brought to the couch here
00:21:34because alissa you were aware that he was withholding you knew he was not being up front
00:21:39with you so you could have brought that up and so david for you you were choosing not to speak
00:21:45up
00:21:47you haven't arrived at an outcome no but you've helped us see what's going on inside so thank you
00:21:54for that to this point so now let's look forward because as you know this is the last commitment
00:22:00ceremony this is almost the end of the experiment for you two where to from here
00:22:14well i'm sitting here because i want that help
00:22:18i guess what we need to do is look beneath the arguments here because there's a reason
00:22:24that you have been avoiding bringing these issues up here's an opportunity to now say okay we're
00:22:32going to come at this as equals not one putting the other down not one avoiding and running away we
00:22:37are coming here together to have this open honest mature conversation about what you both want
00:22:43post experiment because otherwise the last couple of months has been a waste of time
00:22:50you've got that opportunity now it's not too late
00:22:55can you do that yeah alissa
00:23:00yeah
00:23:04you okay
00:23:07i do believe that the things we have gone through are significant and i believe that there are genuine
00:23:15feelings here i do feel um strong feelings towards alissa that's why i'm still here
00:23:21okay all right well on that note we're going to go to a decision
00:23:25alissa i'll start with you i didn't come here for three months to waste it and like i came here
00:23:32to
00:23:34find my person i want to settle down i want to have a family i want the happy ending
00:23:38and that is why i want to move forward as a team and no holding back and because there's so
00:23:49many
00:23:49feelings involved and like i really care about this relationship so much i have decided to stay
00:23:55okay okay thank you and to you david yeah um
00:24:07i'll take your advice on board and yeah i i wrote a stand
00:24:14pleased to see that this could be make or break for you guys you're about to make the decision of
00:24:23this experiment the thing that is going to determine which way you go in your future
00:24:27good luck guys thank you thank you
00:24:41good work guys
00:24:56coming up you do not have to tell me you love me but i'm not going to
00:25:01walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe beck hits her limit i'm not doing it and
00:25:10i take a breath for a minute breathe will scott speak up
00:25:18when i care about someone so much i feel like i can't speak my voice when i have a concern
00:25:23and it's a weakness of mine
00:25:36all right let's have our next couple up
00:25:41rachel and steven
00:25:47hello hello hello how are you hiya i love this energy can i just say steve oh you got a
00:25:54bit of a
00:25:54swag oh he sure does oh don't flatter me john especially coming from you
00:26:05where do you two want to begin homestays i guess i mean it seems like it's had a big impact
00:26:10on the
00:26:10tour of you yeah homestays was a big success for me and i believe rachel as well um it's sort
00:26:20of
00:26:20changed the relationship in many ways oh in what way for me rachel is fantastic she i showed her my
00:26:28passions and she went out on the boat and she enjoyed herself a smile ear to ear and we had
00:26:33lots
00:26:33of banter laughing it was a really super sweet time but it's not that she's in the fishing it's
00:26:40the independence i can go i feel like i can rely on rachel if something happens in the world where
00:26:45i'm like geez can you you know help me out with this rachel's gonna go got your back and she's
00:26:50just
00:26:50gonna get it done so as a result of that how do you feel about her well i feel like
00:26:59i can see myself
00:27:00falling in love with rachel let's just take a moment just a little bit overwhelmed in a good way
00:27:21so i feel the same you know i can definitely see myself falling in love with you too
00:27:27there's something going on for you right now rachel what is it this is a very significant moment for you
00:27:33yeah um i think i shared with you john before i came in here the last time
00:27:39someone told me that they loved me the very next day they told me that i remember saying it
00:27:47um that was after seven years of a a toxic situation and so um it's it's a hard thing my
00:27:58barriers go up
00:28:01and so having this journey with stephen and knowing you know how he feels about vulnerability
00:28:08and when he says something he means it so for him to be sitting here and saying that to me
00:28:15it yeah bam right in the fields in a really beautiful way because i'm like yeah
00:28:21i believe him and i don't think that i thought that i would believe a man again in that way
00:28:31thank
00:28:32you you're welcome and you know what he said that holding your hand sitting next to you yeah and showing
00:28:40you his family yeah all the things that signal yep he's not going anywhere yeah
00:28:49it's different it is very different is it scary it's petrifying
00:28:58what are you scared of the most i'm scared that stephen will go back to his life in sydney
00:29:06and it's just gonna be easier for him to let me go because he is time poor and he has
00:29:12his business
00:29:14and so it might be a burden to try and maintain our relationship with me so he might just let
00:29:23me go
00:29:25so yeah that's that's my fear
00:29:33well how does that land for you steven when you hear her say that um yeah it makes me feel
00:29:38helpless
00:29:39at times and i don't know what to say because i when i see rachel in these states the first
00:29:45thing i
00:29:45want to do is try and comfort her and try to fix the situation or reassure at least at least
00:29:51take the edge
00:29:52off a bit so if you don't have to fix it and you just sit with it and validate it
00:29:57can you do that
00:29:58i can do that i can't say i'm happy with that but i mean it's it is what makes you
00:30:04feel a bit
00:30:04uncomfortable it does yeah good it does good it does um and the only thing i can say to her
00:30:10is is
00:30:10that the only thing that i feel like that's going to fix this is actually go out there in the
00:30:14real world
00:30:14and put into practice and yeah prove it wrong pretty much well haven't you changed you know
00:30:22all the both of you sitting in front of us today this is all all done at homestays it was
00:30:27amazing
00:30:27what homestays did for us we love it we love it all right let's go to the decision start with
00:30:34you first
00:30:36steven there was a big question mark with me before homestays i'm like this could make or break us
00:30:41but it's just only brought me closer to rachel so i'm gonna uh yeah stay beautiful brilliant
00:30:50and what about you rachel what do you got stay or leave i know this is going to shock everyone
00:30:57but i wrote stay and that's us on a boat fishing
00:31:04beautiful we have loved watching you through this experiment you've had some difficult moments
00:31:10along the way but you've grown you know and uh the way in which you're together now uh really
00:31:18it's on display everyone sees it uh you're a unified couple it's fantastic what i would say to you
00:31:24in this final week uh is don't get inside your head too much you need to be enjoying this this
00:31:33final
00:31:34week rather than thinking too far ahead because that's something that i think in the past you've
00:31:40you've been a bit guilty of doing and on that you can go back to your group
00:31:59you made me cry oh you're welcome yeah
00:32:16let's get our next couple up on the couch
00:32:21beck and danny
00:32:25hey guys hello how are you good how are you very well
00:32:29good homestays let's start with you beck what were they like they were great
00:32:37i was in my own estate i was in my own home with my dog we saw my family at
00:32:44my auntie's beach house
00:32:45and that was great um dad and daniel get along really well which is great so good start great start
00:32:56what else happened at the home stay we met beck's friends that went pretty good didn't it like just
00:33:03like the tough questions and then that night we went back to to beck's and we were sitting around
00:33:10like having a having a fire and then i cracked a joke like about her cousin fancying me
00:33:20and it landed poorly
00:33:24what did he say with the joke can you just tell us we were having a bit of an emotional
00:33:30moment with one
00:33:30another talking about our feelings and how it's been on homestays and daniel said if all else fails
00:33:36at least daniel fancies me type thing
00:33:42and i lost it
00:33:46and why because it makes me feel like when we're having this conversation that means so much to me
00:33:55that it diminishes it and it makes it a joke
00:33:59i get it i shouldn't have said it but i feel like our fight styles don't really match too well
00:34:06what scared me was we couldn't rectify it too quickly and where i'm sort of holding back a little
00:34:13bit is i don't i wouldn't want to move and then we have an argument like that and i feel
00:34:19really
00:34:20isolated and alone i don't want to do that so arguing is something that scares you when it comes to
00:34:26beck
00:34:26why i think for both of us it just doesn't work
00:34:34wow okay what am i saying wrong just to use the words for both of us it doesn't work
00:34:44i'm not saying we don't work i'm saying our fight style doesn't work oh yeah that no okay
00:34:50so this is what happens sometimes i try and say something and beck takes it in completely the wrong
00:34:55way beck what's going on inside of you right now um i suppose i'm fearful because i've let every wall
00:35:04down so what happens to you when he says that just kills my soul a little bit to be honest
00:35:12with you
00:35:16because i'm like well why haven't you said this to me because because i've been fearful to say it
00:35:24because i don't want to upset you no no no do not blame me i'm not blaming you don't say
00:35:32you're fearful to tell me because you're going to upset me i'm here in love with you we're at the
00:35:38end
00:35:39of this experiment you're making it seem like i've been holding on to this for six months honestly
00:35:46i noticed it in adelaide when i felt isolated up until then i haven't noticed it
00:35:53beck i look at your face you seem very concerned
00:36:03i think he's got more reservations than he lets on oh really i do yeah i do i do i
00:36:10do
00:36:16danny danny look at me there really is no time for you to make light of the situation
00:36:22because when you add things up danny it's not making her feel secure you know you haven't
00:36:28said your feelings back to her you've gone to the family and they've validated you and then you're
00:36:35not bringing up issues because you're afraid of the fight style it starts to add up and it makes her
00:36:42feel what becky like he's just not that into me
00:36:55so that's a problem because this far into the experiment you don't want your partner
00:37:01to be thinking he's just not that into me
00:37:07yeah but i am i've told you that i am you know i am
00:37:14so why is she not believing it i don't know i can't speak for beck
00:37:22i'm asking for you to sit there and say to me beck this is how i feel about you just
00:37:30once
00:37:33you know how i feel about you you know i care about you so much
00:37:37i do know you care about me but where is the passion i see tiny glimpses of it but
00:37:46i feel like you are holding back you said to me once at the beginning of this experiment and i'll
00:37:52never forget it and it's probably ruined me daniel's like well when you are obsessed with each other
00:38:00you're all over each other and i don't have that i just don't get it from him at all
00:38:05he doesn't want to hold my hand walking down the street that's not your style no worries
00:38:09whenever we have a kiss i'm the one going to kiss you you never ever ever go to kiss me
00:38:13you don't compliment me hardly ever
00:38:18so for me it's like well i'm this fool that's allowed my heart to get to this point
00:38:23and he's not there and he's not going to feel that way
00:38:28i don't think that's a fair assumption
00:38:38the thing that's important here danny is that she's just told you in a very clear-cut way
00:38:44why she doesn't feel like you're interested
00:38:52your reaction is well that's not fair no but like yes that's exactly what we just heard
00:39:01even like all of the husbands walk past us sitting at the commitment ceremony and they
00:39:05all acknowledge their wives and you never do you ignore me
00:39:11and i don't know how i've gotten to this point of these feelings with that
00:39:19i'm so worried
00:39:24i'm actually so worried
00:39:30i just don't feel you have like you have any desire and i just yeah i'm just nervous
00:39:38the reality is is that how can you move to adelaide and how can we live this life together if
00:39:45this is how it's going to be i can't be the one going to kiss you just so that there's
00:39:52a level of
00:39:53affection i can't i'm not doing it i've done it i did it i nearly married it i'm not doing
00:40:00it
00:40:02i'm not i'm not doing it you're either into me you have had enough time to know if i am
00:40:10the type
00:40:10of person you would want to be with you do not have to tell me you love me but i'm
00:40:13not going to
00:40:15walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe about me i'm not doing it i'd rather be
00:40:20heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time
00:40:37you have had enough time to know if i am the type of person you would want to be with
00:40:42you do not have
00:40:42to tell me you love me but i'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's a
00:40:48maybe
00:40:48about me i'm not doing it i'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time
00:41:16how does that land for you danny
00:41:22well obviously it hurts to it hurts to see beck like that what is she saying to you
00:41:28that you've done to get her to this point or just not not be passionate and not not be the
00:41:37man she
00:41:38needs me to be i've had my guard up essentially that's that's what yeah
00:41:52when she lays this out on the table no compliments very few lack of intimacy not making her a priority
00:42:02not saying how you feel about her what do you think that does to her
00:42:12yeah it would destroy her what do you think it does to the relationship destroys the relationship as
00:42:19well why because you can't have you can't build a relationship on like sand foundations do you know
00:42:28you mean so help us understand why you're not doing these things to bring her close
00:42:40just obviously we've talked about the five star that's the bit where i've been holding back
00:42:47but i guess after my last relationship i haven't felt this strongly towards a woman
00:42:52or been this close with a woman in years but of course i still have a bit of a guard
00:42:58up because
00:42:59last time when it didn't work out it destroyed my life
00:43:05how nice would it be to have heard that you just did i know but why do i have to
00:43:10go to this length
00:43:11to hear that no good at this shit well i've been begging you for this level of openness for nearly
00:43:19three months and so hearing that makes me feel like there's hope you know
00:43:31why does that make you feel hopeful because if he hasn't felt like this in years then that means that
00:43:40it's real and you might be into me but you need to open yourself to me yeah i guess like
00:43:49this has
00:43:49been a problem in the past that i am just a shit boyfriend to be honest but i am i
00:43:55don't believe that
00:43:56to be honest but that is a very easy way of getting out of it don't hold me accountable i'm
00:44:03just a
00:44:03shit boyfriend no i'm not saying it like that but but you are and that's what she's hearing
00:44:11what she wants right now from you danny is for you to step into this and go you know what
00:44:16yeah i've
00:44:17dropped the ball and i've sent you the wrong signals and i'm accountable and i'm gonna do different
00:44:25but i'm not getting that from you no i bet i want to say i am and i'm sorry if
00:44:31like it's for making
00:44:33you feel like that genuine from the bottom of my heart you know i'd never want to upset you you
00:44:36mean
00:44:37the world to me
00:44:41and i'm sorry if i've dropped the ball it was never my intention
00:44:49i like hearing it but i need to see it yeah an old old i can't keep on hearing it
00:44:54and then nothing changes well let me show you that
00:45:00okay
00:45:03let me show you
00:45:08now with that we're going to go to the decision
00:45:13beck what do you got for us stay or leave well you you have my heart and like you are
00:45:21the most special person i've never met anyone like you right and i feel really really lucky
00:45:26that we were matched and we get to go on this journey together um but i need you to give
00:45:37me
00:45:39half of what i'm giving you at least
00:45:49we have overcome so many hurdles together and we've made it this far so
00:45:57i said stay and then i said proud of us
00:46:03love it love it love it and danny yeah obviously i want to apologize again i'm so sorry
00:46:10you know you mean the world to me and all this week i'll try and prove that to you
00:46:16i'm here for love and i think i can find that with you so that's why i wrote stay good
00:46:32danny from where we're sitting this week is on you you have to do the heavy lifting you've got a
00:46:39partner here with you who's put her heart out there and said i'm in love i want this you need
00:46:47to step up
00:46:51and if you are feeling these strong emotions for her then you've got to start showing it
00:46:57with that you can go back to the group thanks well done guys
00:47:08thanks thanks for all your support thanks good work you too
00:47:27i don't hate you boo i just can't keep on asking at the very minimum it's either there or it's
00:47:33not and if it's not you've got to walk away now
00:47:37all right okay but he yeah
00:47:43still to come i haven't been able to address a concern without gia and i having an argument
00:47:49or her spiraling what kind of things could she say in a moment that demands honesty
00:47:55things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down such as scott hesitates
00:48:05if you can't speak honestly in front of gia then i'm really concerned about the possibility of
00:48:12this relationship surviving outside the experiment
00:48:24next on the couch
00:48:28chris and sam
00:48:34hello hello hi
00:48:41body language says a lot yeah it's been tough yeah
00:48:50um what happened last time we sat here i wrote leave in the moment and then i kind of regretted
00:48:58it
00:48:58um we decided to get a home stays and i thought okay i'm really going to try and turn this
00:49:03around and i
00:49:04bought him some flowers i got him a card and made him went to the shop and got groceries and
00:49:08made dinner
00:49:09and then we had a day with my cattle you know we were outside and that i thought that was
00:49:13really fun
00:49:15and then we had a bonfire
00:49:20sam pulled out a journal with some questions in it hand on heart i was answering them the best that
00:49:26i could
00:49:27and then sam decided to leave the farm
00:49:31and i thought look i really tried to turn this around i really took on all of your guys feedback
00:49:36and
00:49:38yeah i just feel like i've shut down now
00:49:43yeah i just felt like he was saving face
00:49:47especially like the flowers and dinner thing it felt very like i need to do these things to show that
00:49:53i put in effort for me it was genuine i was trying to be as genuine as i could and
00:49:57i thought that was
00:49:58a way to try and make you feel welcome at the farm i feel like your effort was like to
00:50:03push forward and
00:50:04there was effort for you to grow but it was never like i need to grow for us and i
00:50:08want to grow to be
00:50:09better partner for you
00:50:16where did the relationship go wrong for you both
00:50:23um i feel like chris never really fully forgave me for calling him out on like behaviors
00:50:31from then on especially after you guys gave him feedback it was like it was like a no return point
00:50:37from then
00:50:40where did it go wrong for you um i feel like like after the retreat that chemistry or it was
00:50:48lacking
00:50:48for me we were intimate a second time and i just felt like that wasn't there for me
00:50:55was it the quality of the interaction was it was it him as a person was what was it that
00:51:01felt off for
00:51:02you if i'm being honest it was just the quality of the interaction i just i don't know it just
00:51:07wasn't
00:51:14there for me is that something that you spoke to sam about no i didn't want to hurt his feelings
00:51:24how are you feeling about that sam to hear this oh yeah like i guess a surprise um
00:51:31and like i guess what really sucks is that i was out on the farm and i was like hurting
00:51:37cows and i
00:51:37was like this is so good and the kids thing never bothered me like it's always something that i've
00:51:41wanted in my life then i was just like it was so annoying that everything else would have worked
00:51:52this is really disappointing for us because we had so much hope for the two of you it's just so
00:52:00unfortunate that along the way with all of the pressure that the experiment brings that the
00:52:05wheels have fallen off it is disappointing i came here to find love and you know i know that i'm
00:52:13a slow
00:52:14burn and you know i know that i get anxious once i do get feelings for someone because it takes
00:52:18me so
00:52:18long to build feelings for someone um and yeah it's just really disappointing that it all ended up like
00:52:24this but you know high hopes for the future yeah what about you chris yeah and i said to sam
00:52:34that i
00:52:35want to be really good friends with him we've been on this journey for eight weeks so yeah i hope
00:52:40that
00:52:40we can stay in each other's lives outside of here yeah all right well we're going to go to a
00:52:47decision
00:52:49chris we'll start with you i've obviously learned a lot about myself and i hope you have too
00:52:54and um you know i'm sorry that it didn't work out for us my time has unfortunately run out so
00:53:02um yeah i have to leave okay thank you and to you sam it's been a journey i've learned a
00:53:10lot 90
00:53:11of our time together was awesome yeah but you know it's come to the time to pack it up and
00:53:16leave
00:53:22i'm sorry you've both landed here but hopefully you have learned some lessons along the way
00:53:29that you can take into your next relationships and parenthood you know this is all about
00:53:35that self-development as well as couple development thank you both thank you so much well done you two
00:53:49good work lads well done guys we're gonna miss you
00:53:57our next couple up on the couch stella and philip
00:54:05hello hello there
00:54:09how are we doing well we're more interested in how you're doing yeah coming into homestay was very
00:54:16very important for me i was always open to moving so it was a really big deal to go into
00:54:21stella's space i was just really keen to see what it would look like i just tried to envisage everything
00:54:28like how i'd live there the vibe the energy and all that kind of stuff after the experiment uh stella's
00:54:36going to come back for my mum's birthday celebrate that uh we're going to spend a few days in melbourne
00:54:42and then i'll pick my car up and drive up to crinola just move again yeah yeah straight in yeah
00:54:51oh
00:54:53moving in that's a plan yeah so it is a plan we we got there here's the thing when i
00:55:01first met you
00:55:02you you loved control yeah you uh mapped out you know what you wanted to do during the day your
00:55:08fitness your health your sleep everything on point and you without a plan there was a part of you
00:55:17that wasn't committing and now you've come up with a plan you've got certainty and now you're on the same
00:55:25track because i want this relationship to work yeah yeah and i feel like um every woman can agree
00:55:35with that when you don't understand your man's intentions that's when you get frazzled that's when
00:55:41you overthink that's when you're in your head when you know that the man is like okay let's do this
00:55:47i
00:55:47think you really settle in until you get that part you really do philip i want you to turn to
00:55:54stella
00:55:55and tell her how you feel you don't make me cry
00:56:05and you know you you 100 know that i am i am in love with you
00:56:27i know and that you shouldn't doubt anything uh there's a lot of unknown and stuff like that
00:56:32it's okay we got this but you know we're a team so yeah so i love you too okay
00:56:42so stella how does that feel when he says that knowing that he's got a plan and he's moving in
00:56:51again like i really could go from the two weeks the uh conversation like this man makes me feel safe
00:56:57i don't think i have experienced love before meeting him because oh
00:57:03he shows up for me yeah big time yeah can i just ask you cela what what's getting you upset
00:57:11right
00:57:11now why is this so important yeah i feel quite like key in the sense that um if this works
00:57:19out it means
00:57:20that everything that was in the past all those learning curves all those relationships all all was
00:57:27worth for this moment you know because i do i think um at the stage of my life where i
00:57:34do truly
00:57:35want this to be my forever person and i do see i do see that um yeah thank you pleasure
00:57:46well you got real on this couch tonight it was great and on that note we're going to go to
00:57:53a
00:57:53decision uh stay or leave you're up first stella um obviously not a surprise and i think i drew a
00:58:00love
00:58:00heart from very early on nice and what about you philip uh i'm not going anywhere just started
00:58:09we're staying what we like to see thanks for being here thanks for being here yeah you are a team
00:58:18yeah and you've got this yeah thank you guys i really really appreciate this thank you great work
00:58:36for me our last couple up on the couch gia and scott
00:58:48good evening hello hello hello how are we good hi gia hello
00:58:56so how are you guys all right um get a bit nervous
00:59:14so you know
00:59:18i care so much about gia what i'm going to talk about tonight is i don't want you to be
00:59:24upset okay what
00:59:26i'm going to talk about is feelings where i take a breath for a minute
00:59:42so i think for me to leave this going the dream would be obviously going to modeling
00:59:48so you keep saying that you want to be a model but what are you actually doing to make that
00:59:54happen
00:59:55i don't really know if i think i need to make a portfolio um i think that's the first step
01:00:00in
01:00:00being a model make a portfolio and then you just fire it at people and hope that they like you
01:00:05trying to advance onto this world of modeling right made absolutely no progress right what am i
01:00:10doing wrong do you think it's tattoos probably i think what we could do is maybe have it where we
01:00:23there's a play you have to stop
01:00:27it's a nightmare i think it's just the way we're marketing it i think we lean into it heavily
01:00:32with the look of the suit where it covers up the tattoos but still shows a tiny bit so there's
01:00:37a bit
01:00:37of mystery there not even having an exceptions email like thanks for your application like nothing
01:00:42i don't know if it's tattoos probably don't think that you're screwed we can't hide they can't hide
01:00:48the tattoos we're not gonna hide it we're just gonna show it in a way that it's versatile i think
01:00:53that's the main thing we lean really heavily into the tattoos but in a casual way to show hey yeah
01:00:59i
01:01:00know i've got lots of tattoos but i can also look really good in casual wear if i thought you
01:01:04had no
01:01:04hope i wouldn't be wasting my time coming here to take photos wasting your time the world needs to
01:01:10sort of change the way that people look at tattoos there's this huge prejudice against people who
01:01:14tattoo hopefully today what we can do is we can sort of show that yes this guy's heavily tattooed
01:01:18but he's actually a normal human being and not a criminal
01:01:23here he is hey it took your time
01:01:35what i'm going to talk about tonight is i don't want you to be upset okay what i'm going to
01:01:40talk
01:01:40about is feelings where i take a breath a minute breathe
01:01:53it's a weakness of mine
01:01:56when i care about someone so much i feel like i i can't speak my voice when i have a
01:02:02concern
01:02:03it's a weakness of mine
01:02:05what i find so far is i haven't been able to address a concern without gia and i having an
01:02:11argument or her
01:02:12so spiraling let's say that you want to bring something up and gia is not in the mood to hear
01:02:17for whatever reason you find yourself simply cowering away from that and not returning to that topic
01:02:27pretty much what have you observed about gia's behavior that leads you to have that reaction
01:02:35what kind of things could she say
01:02:44can i please just say things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down
01:02:50such as honestly if you can't speak honestly in front of gia about the things that she does and
01:03:02say that hurt you or scare you or make you feel off what he has
01:03:10then i'm really really really concerned about the possibility of this relationship surviving
01:03:15outside the experiment
01:03:31scott yeah we've got all night i know we're not going anywhere we're going to sit here and ask
01:03:37you uncomfortable questions until you come clean okay i just so okay if you don't let us in
01:03:45i know you're not going to last what i'm seeing here is fake i'm going to call you out i've
01:03:53seen it
01:03:54the entire experiment you talk about things in a way where you don't give us any of the information
01:04:02you skirt around the issues i get it you're trying to fly under the radar but what we're saying tonight
01:04:09is that ends yeah okay you sat down here you're petrified of gia and you're not answering the questions
01:04:21so i'm going to ask you again scott what kind of things could gsa that would make you feel fearful
01:04:29of speaking up so this is probably the most magic concern it could happen probably on average once a
01:04:36week i feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say i'm in love and when i don't
01:04:40say it um jill
01:04:42tend to spoil and say things like you're a crime you're not a man you're not a provider you don't
01:04:48give me reassurance pretty much every name under the sun right every name under the sun is wild
01:04:57babe the reason why i'm here is because i know she doesn't intentionally mean it it's because it comes
01:05:02from a place of her i'll explain that you talk for yourself and i just will explain babe like
01:05:09listen to what you're saying i know you don't mean it like where's this coming from and like i don't
01:05:14know what it is i just don't know when you're having that situation and there are things that are being
01:05:20said how do you feel in that moment in these moments that you're describing now that where she's
01:05:26coming at you personally i just feel like when it's so i just feel completely destroyed like i'm
01:05:32worthless that's pretty major but i just want jia to know that i care so much about her my feelings
01:05:41are strong i'm falling for her but when these things happen it pulls me back and it holds me back
01:05:47and so jian why do you think when you're feeling threatened or um not happy with what scott says
01:05:56that you attack him what is that about for you this is a man that you're falling in love with
01:06:03from
01:06:03every indication i've had well i'll just say it out loud
01:06:11if this wasn't on camera i told him i'm in love with him yesterday
01:06:16so this is a man you love so where does that come from so for me um
01:06:24i've felt this way for scott for the last few weeks and there's been so many moments where
01:06:31like i wanted to say it and i'm like you can't be the girl who says it first like usually
01:06:35it's been
01:06:36the guy who said it first so this is weird for me and i wanted him to know why i've
01:06:40been spiraling
01:06:41it's because of this like i've been wanting to say and i know he's not there and it's frustrating for
01:06:45me because i feel rejected to be honest the leading up to where you're having these big feelings and
01:06:51that's what's making you feel like oh my god he's gonna reject me why go hurt him because i felt
01:06:57hurt
01:06:59and i was like let me hurt him that's the truth
01:07:07that's a pretty big revelation and also hurdle for scott to have to handle and walk around eggshells
01:07:16trying to not have you have this reaction i just think this is very new for me i haven't ever
01:07:22been in
01:07:23this situation before but in the situation of of saying that you're hurt and therefore you're choosing
01:07:28to hurt back is that the way that you normally are no i'm gonna insist and underline this because i
01:07:40really want you to take in gia that we can absolutely see how strong your relationship with scott is
01:07:47but it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break
01:07:51because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way
01:08:08the leading up to where you're having these big feelings and that's what's making you feel like oh
01:08:12my god he's gonna reject me why go hurt him because i felt hurt and i was like let me
01:08:21hurt him
01:08:23that's the truth i'm gonna insist and underline this because i really want you to
01:08:31take in gia it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break
01:08:36because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way
01:08:46do you feel secure in your relationship with scott
01:08:52um
01:08:56like yes and no
01:08:59why no
01:09:02i don't know because like sometimes i can't bring something up because i'm
01:09:07argumentative or so i don't feel like i'm secure with him and i can be myself so that and like
01:09:13he doesn't feel as strong as i feel like well he could just leave
01:09:19am i going to move for like am i going to take my daughter out of her school in melbourne
01:09:23and move
01:09:23to the gold coast if he just likes me
01:09:27just don't feel as secure as maybe i could in the relationship so there's still room there for
01:09:34you to grow in terms of security in the relationship how does it make you feel to hear
01:09:41gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship
01:09:47i'm confused because gia tells me that she feels secure i try and tickle the boxes to make a note
01:09:55and reassure that i'm all in on this and like when we have tough times like i just keep telling
01:10:00you
01:10:00i'm here for you i want you to be the shoulder to cry on and like you know whenever there
01:10:03is bad things
01:10:04maybe sometimes i say oh like i don't want to hear it or something like that but you know well
01:10:10that's why i don't feel secure because i'm like well i can't bring that up so like how do i
01:10:16how can
01:10:17i be vulnerable and feel safe because it's swept under the rug you know do you shut down my feelings
01:10:23a lot of the time i'm going to say myself i've never shut down your feelings never well that's my
01:10:28perception and i feel like sometimes we'll talk about something and you just don't listen and so
01:10:34then i just stop talking about it because he says i'm arguing and i'm like okay well i just like
01:10:38i'll just forget my feelings let's just leave it because then my brain is like oh my god you're
01:10:44arguing again he's not going to fall in love with you and it's like it's like i can't win to
01:10:49be honest
01:10:50that's how i feel
01:10:56well at last we've got the real scott and gia sitting in front of us and isn't it interesting
01:11:04that week after week you guys have sat here and said everything's fine we're a great couple tonight
01:11:13you're exposing yourselves and everything isn't great between the two of you scott nearly couldn't
01:11:21breathe tonight because he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you gia that's not healthy
01:11:30so it comes down to the two of you are you prepared to do the work hear things you might
01:11:36not
01:11:37like but know that when you hear those feelings you get closer not further away
01:11:44but you've got to be real over this next week otherwise it is going to slip through your fingers
01:11:54we're going to go to the decision stay or leave and we'll go with you first
01:12:00gia um yeah i think we needed to have this conversation tonight because we're at the end
01:12:07i don't want to have any questions unanswered and that's the same with me saying that i love him
01:12:13and i just wanted to just be fully in so anyways with that we'll take on your advice this week
01:12:22and
01:12:22i'm going to stay love that what do you got scott stay or leave obviously we've come so far
01:12:30this experiment and i honestly appreciate the three of you for what you've done for us and how you've
01:12:35paired us and i was nervous walking here tonight and i don't get nervous and i feel so light right
01:12:41now because we can both have our say and i can i can tell you right now this is going
01:12:48to help us so
01:12:48much so i'm excited for this week because i just feel so happy just after this conversation so i'm
01:12:55staying in the sun because we're going to the sunny gold coast all right you two
01:13:02so it's a big week coming up for the two of you and i know it's hard for you as
01:13:07a couple
01:13:07but when issues get brought up this week when you talk about the big stuff try and be curious
01:13:14as opposed to defensive
01:13:18all right all right good luck thank you good luck
01:13:26come on here
01:13:30thank you
01:13:55tomorrow night
01:13:57what is going on here chanel shannon oh no what james anthony what during the matchmaking process
01:14:09there was more than one person that our participants were compatible with the unforgettable final test
01:14:16is back oh my god it is the ultimate test of trust and security and this season the experts have
01:14:23upped
01:14:24the ante like never before we are removing the element of choice from the final test over two
01:14:30incredible nights i feel sick i feel like i'm going to pass out
01:14:36all our participants will make their alternative matches
01:14:40the only jade men that pay for money let's get married some will more than enjoy the fresh
01:14:46perspective why do i always get the young ones i like it you've got to stop touching me because
01:14:52if my wife sees this she's gonna go
01:14:56before
01:14:59the biggest twist the experiments ever seen
01:15:04instagram screen off are you serious that is disgusting
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