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90 Day Fiance Before the 90 Days Season 8 Episode 8
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00:00:01Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:04We put it there?
00:00:06Oh, what?
00:00:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:00:12but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:00:15Do you think that I'm enough for you?
00:00:18Sure.
00:00:19That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.
00:00:22I really do want this to work.
00:00:25You do love me.
00:00:26Of course, baby.
00:00:29I just want the world for your daughter,
00:00:31and I was hoping I could get your blessing to marry her.
00:00:37Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.
00:00:39I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
00:00:44I feel like Chena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
00:00:48Even though her family needs her help with money,
00:00:51what I've seen, the way they live,
00:00:54it's not the same as what I've been hearing
00:00:57for the last seven years.
00:00:58So I'm really worried that tomorrow,
00:01:00my mother is going to basically flip out.
00:01:05We had that argument, and you called my sister,
00:01:09and you were a little bit unhinged.
00:01:12I mean, you're upset with me, but you ran to other women.
00:01:17I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.
00:01:21Here we go again.
00:01:22Huh.
00:01:22I thought the reason we were fighting so much
00:01:26was because we were in a long-distance relationship,
00:01:29but we're still fighting.
00:01:31What does it say about our marriage?
00:01:37I don't trust Michael.
00:01:38I want you to cut him out of your life.
00:01:42He's just my friend, and he's not trying
00:01:45to make me cut you out.
00:01:47I just get some air, maybe, or some peace.
00:01:53I am shocked that Birkon decides to walk out on me.
00:01:57It absolutely feels like a side of him
00:02:00that I haven't seen yet, and I really don't like.
00:02:04Michael.
00:02:06The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:02:09If your uncle does not give you the blessing,
00:02:11does that mean that we are not getting married?
00:02:14That's it.
00:02:16I have to try to impress his uncle,
00:02:18but what kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:02:20I'm worried I may have to reveal things
00:02:22that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:02:24I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:02:33I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:02:59Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home
00:03:01in the province.
00:03:02And even though the family accepted me,
00:03:05what I've learned is just
00:03:08leaving me confused and bothered.
00:03:14First off, I believe that the entire time
00:03:17I was coming here to save Sheena
00:03:19from horrific, evil monsters,
00:03:21and it turns out her family
00:03:23has this nice, beautiful home
00:03:25and are just normal, caring people.
00:03:27So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.
00:03:30You have to be honest with me.
00:03:32You described your family
00:03:33as almost like terrible monsters
00:03:36that were stealing from you.
00:03:38Are they just, are they just,
00:03:39is this an act for me?
00:03:41No.
00:03:42They're not an act.
00:03:44They're great people.
00:03:45But they're not really great people
00:03:47if they're mistreating their daughter.
00:03:49You don't have to think anything about worry.
00:03:53They give their blessings to you
00:03:54even though it's the first meeting.
00:03:56So it's a good thing.
00:03:59Boom.
00:04:00I wish her answers were more,
00:04:04you know, answers and not
00:04:05more like dodging around.
00:04:07No.
00:04:08Now I'm left with more questions
00:04:10than what I started with.
00:04:13I feel like I know bits and pieces
00:04:15of the most important parts of the story,
00:04:17but there's still many other things
00:04:19that need to be uncovered.
00:04:22I do believe my mom is going to show up
00:04:24and she's going to see the nice place.
00:04:26She's going to see this, this,
00:04:27and she's going to say,
00:04:28why did you need a bunny in the first place?
00:04:30And she's going to express herself
00:04:32and say exactly what's on her mind.
00:04:36I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming
00:04:38because she can get the third perspective
00:04:40and see what's really going on.
00:04:46Sheena's family seems to be under the impression
00:04:48that she's going to financially support them
00:04:50going forward.
00:04:52So I still want to tell Sheena's family
00:04:54that we are cutting them off.
00:04:55And hopefully my mom and Dev can back me up
00:04:58and kind of just get past the big hurdle
00:05:01that is impending.
00:05:05That's strong cup of joe right there.
00:05:12Okay, Sheen.
00:05:13They should be here any second.
00:05:15Okay.
00:05:16Come on, dude.
00:05:18Okay.
00:05:18Yeah.
00:05:25Are you nervous, baby?
00:05:27Yeah, so nervous.
00:05:29I don't know what's going to happen today.
00:05:31I know Molly will bring up the finances
00:05:34and it's a conversation that we need to have.
00:05:38But Forrest wanted to impress my family.
00:05:41So he is kinder.
00:05:43I'm quite worried Molly would act not as nice.
00:05:48Oh, yes.
00:05:49Moment of truth.
00:05:55Oh, boy.
00:05:58Wow.
00:05:59Hey, guys.
00:06:00Wow.
00:06:01Hi, Mom.
00:06:02Hi, Deb.
00:06:03Mm-hmm.
00:06:03This is so beautiful here.
00:06:05Well, thank you.
00:06:06Wow.
00:06:08Wow.
00:06:10Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.
00:06:17My family is out right now.
00:06:19So come here, guys.
00:06:20I'll give you a tour.
00:06:22Here's the garden and stuff.
00:06:23Man.
00:06:26Sheena's told me that her family runs this struggling bed and breakfast.
00:06:31So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough around the edges.
00:06:36We had different kinds of plants here.
00:06:37We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm, orchids.
00:06:41Huh.
00:06:42I don't know this plant, but this is very rare to have flowers.
00:06:45Oh.
00:06:46My first reaction, holy .
00:06:51Sheena, who did your grass?
00:06:53Actually, before Winnie got this place, it doesn't have anything.
00:06:58So you guys did all of this?
00:06:59Yes, from no scratch.
00:07:04Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take her money, that they're gonna starve.
00:07:09I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I back in the United States.
00:07:16This is not adding up at all.
00:07:20And this is the pool area.
00:07:23Oh.
00:07:24Then if it's around the night time, it would have different color, light color.
00:07:28Well, would you look at that.
00:07:31So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena? At dinner?
00:07:34Yes, Mom.
00:07:36Okay.
00:07:38I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single thing that Sheena has told me,
00:07:44this whole story of the past seven years, and then I wanna see how they react.
00:07:49I wanna see if they're gonna be shocked or if they're part of it or whatever.
00:07:55Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour. It's just beautiful.
00:07:59Yeah.
00:08:00Tonight, I will get the truth for Sheena.
00:08:02I think I'm just gonna go put my legs up for a bit until dinner.
00:08:06Okay, Mom.
00:08:20Is there upper?
00:08:21I wish I can tie it to my waist.
00:08:23You can. Show me.
00:08:26You have to spread your leg.
00:08:28You know, I don't have much waist, so...
00:08:30I know.
00:08:31You're tight.
00:08:32Okay. On the side?
00:08:33Yeah, on the side.
00:08:34I'm looking like a woman already.
00:08:36You look beautiful.
00:08:37Oh, la, la.
00:08:38Ah!
00:08:39Ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:08:40My lips are red, she's a little peach.
00:08:43They're all shouting, in the street.
00:08:48You have to forge a little bit.
00:08:50On the first one, the inner one is shorter than the...
00:08:54The inner one is shorter?
00:08:55The outer one, yeah.
00:09:10Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle
00:09:12and get a blessing so we can get married.
00:09:14And I'm nervous.
00:09:17I don't know the traditions.
00:09:18I don't know the culture.
00:09:20And I don't know what his uncle is going to ask me.
00:09:22I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing
00:09:24and Daniel will blame me.
00:09:26You will be the one to hold the wine, okay?
00:09:29When you kneel down there, you give me the wine.
00:09:31I will be the one to present it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:33But I kneel with it first.
00:09:35Yes.
00:09:37I will be kneeling down with you, okay?
00:09:40Good, you give it to me.
00:09:41Then I will hand it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:46Lisa is from another country.
00:09:48She don't understand our culture.
00:09:49I have to instruct her on what to do
00:09:51so she doesn't prefer my uncle.
00:09:55That's right.
00:09:56Let's try.
00:09:59Sorry.
00:10:06Daniel wants me to have traditional attire to meet his uncle
00:10:10and I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.
00:10:13I think I'm going to look like a clown.
00:10:15I can't hear anything because the hair tie is like plastic
00:10:19and it's rattling in my ears.
00:10:21But he's telling me this is Igbo traditional attire
00:10:24and this is what I must wear.
00:10:25So this is going to be pretty interesting.
00:10:28Maybe my bangs should be back.
00:10:34I don't mean to laugh, honey.
00:10:35I just got kicked.
00:10:39All right, let me try again.
00:10:41Okay, girls.
00:10:45What are you doing, baby?
00:10:48It doesn't look too bad.
00:10:50Oh, my God.
00:10:51All right, can you help me?
00:10:53But you were there when the woman was teaching you yesterday.
00:10:56I didn't have a mirror.
00:10:57Where was my mirror to watch her?
00:10:59I had my head and I was holding it.
00:11:01You must help me.
00:11:07Oh, my God.
00:11:08Lisa doesn't know how to put on the attire.
00:11:11Thank God.
00:11:12All these things, I know them from when I was growing up.
00:11:15When my mom was alive,
00:11:16I used to see her when she started and I remember.
00:11:20But I never knew that someday
00:11:22I would be the one to help my girlfriend to tie her up her.
00:11:27You have to make it hot
00:11:29or it's going to fall off.
00:11:35You got this.
00:11:37Okay.
00:11:38Okay, how do I look?
00:11:40That's good.
00:11:40You look good.
00:11:52I'm nervous.
00:11:54Why are you nervous?
00:11:56Because I am.
00:11:57This is a big deal.
00:11:59I went to impress her.
00:12:01First miracle?
00:12:02Yes.
00:12:02I went to give a good...
00:12:03I went to put my best foot forward.
00:12:08I'm scared f***less.
00:12:10And you're not telling me anything
00:12:11except to kneel in front of him.
00:12:13I don't know what he's going to ask me.
00:12:15I will do my best.
00:12:16My uncle will not ask you what you don't know.
00:12:18So don't lie to him.
00:12:19I know, but what you're considering a lie
00:12:21and what I consider a lie
00:12:22might be two different things.
00:12:23I'm from America.
00:12:24My culture is different than yours.
00:12:25Baby, lie is lie.
00:12:31I want to show him
00:12:32that I am willing
00:12:33to go above and beyond
00:12:34to be a good
00:12:37Igbo wife.
00:12:42Igbo wife.
00:12:43Igbo wife.
00:12:49I'm trying to be positive
00:12:51about this
00:12:52meeting my uncle.
00:12:53But I'm nervous.
00:12:56I told my uncle
00:12:57a little bit about Lisa
00:12:59but not only her vaping.
00:13:02There are some other things
00:13:02she told me.
00:13:04It is a big, big sin.
00:13:06She told me
00:13:07that she has changed for good
00:13:08but I want to make sure
00:13:10she's being honest.
00:13:11And I am worried
00:13:14that my uncle
00:13:15will not give us the blessing
00:13:16if she cannot explain herself.
00:13:19And I will have to walk away.
00:13:27Remember what you promised me
00:13:29that you're not going
00:13:30to talk to her again.
00:13:32Yeah.
00:13:33I need you to show me
00:13:35that you keep your promise.
00:13:37I've been very concerned
00:13:39ever since
00:13:40she's been watching
00:13:40all this masculinity podcast.
00:13:43They really encourage cheating.
00:13:45Can I see your phones
00:13:48now?
00:13:50So
00:13:51we're going to go
00:13:52meet your friends.
00:13:54I do not think
00:13:55this is an ideal time
00:13:57to meet Memo and Tuba
00:13:58but part of me
00:13:59really wants to ask
00:14:00them questions
00:14:01because there's
00:14:02a lot more I need
00:14:03to learn about beer con.
00:14:05Tell me something
00:14:06interesting about beer con.
00:14:09I'm sorry.
00:14:10I'm sorry.
00:14:12I'm sorry.
00:14:13I'm sorry.
00:14:15I'm sorry.
00:14:51I've been in the Philippines
00:14:52for a couple of days now
00:14:53and me and Natalyn
00:14:55are on our way overdue honeymoon.
00:14:59It's a strange feeling
00:15:01to have all these firsts
00:15:02with me and my wife
00:15:04after three years
00:15:05of being married.
00:15:06First time sleeping together.
00:15:08First time eating together.
00:15:09First time waking up
00:15:11beside each other together.
00:15:13And then we had our
00:15:15first in-person fight.
00:15:17So right now
00:15:18it seems like
00:15:19I'm in the doghouse.
00:15:25Okay.
00:15:26She made her side
00:15:27of the bed.
00:15:29Anna.
00:15:32Last night
00:15:33things got a little bit tense
00:15:34because
00:15:35because
00:15:36I told Anna
00:15:36not to call my sister
00:15:38and vent about our issues
00:15:39in our marriage.
00:15:41Last night
00:15:42during our couple's massage
00:15:44I am trying so hard
00:15:47to show him a good time
00:15:48trying to be romantic.
00:15:51But he's always trying
00:15:52to find ways
00:15:54to criticize me.
00:15:56I would rather
00:15:57Anna come to me
00:15:58about our issues
00:15:59in our marriage.
00:16:01Why can't I reach out
00:16:02to his sister?
00:16:03She's my family too.
00:16:04So why can't
00:16:06I confide to her
00:16:07when he can confide
00:16:09to any bitch?
00:16:16What?
00:16:17Are you going to brush her teeth
00:16:18or are you just going
00:16:19to look at me?
00:16:20I mean Anna
00:16:21are we going to talk?
00:16:23Talk about what?
00:16:24I mean about last night
00:16:25I mean I apologize
00:16:27for you know
00:16:28bringing that up
00:16:29at the wrong time.
00:16:33I want to enjoy the trip.
00:16:35Can we do that?
00:16:41Okay.
00:16:44Okay we're good?
00:16:45Okay I hope.
00:16:47It's alright.
00:16:54All is good.
00:16:56Last night
00:16:57it wasn't just really
00:16:59about him criticizing me.
00:17:02It's way deeper than that.
00:17:05It's about him
00:17:07doing things
00:17:08that's giving me
00:17:09trust issues.
00:17:12Now that I'm in person
00:17:13with my husband
00:17:14there are things
00:17:15that I question about him.
00:17:17I noticed that
00:17:19it's beautiful out today.
00:17:21Yeah.
00:17:22You want to head
00:17:23to the beach?
00:17:24Yes.
00:17:24Okay.
00:17:31But I don't want
00:17:32to waste this moment
00:17:33especially
00:17:34this is
00:17:36the last day
00:17:37of our honeymoon.
00:17:40What's going on
00:17:41over there?
00:17:42Kayaking?
00:17:43Yeah.
00:17:44And this one
00:17:44is like a bicycle.
00:17:46Yeah.
00:17:47This one is so cool.
00:17:49We definitely
00:17:49going to do these.
00:17:50Are we interested
00:17:51in renting this?
00:17:53Yeah you can do it
00:17:54this way.
00:17:54Okay.
00:17:55Have you been
00:17:56one of this before?
00:17:57No.
00:17:59Are you excited?
00:18:00I'm excited.
00:18:01Alright.
00:18:03Woohoo!
00:18:04Bye bye.
00:18:05Go on out this way.
00:18:08Woohoo!
00:18:09It's so fun.
00:18:10Yeah.
00:18:13I just love this.
00:18:15Just remember
00:18:16this moment.
00:18:24It's so long.
00:18:26It's like a stork.
00:18:27It's pedaling out here.
00:18:30The aqua bike
00:18:32is a little bit
00:18:32uncomfortable
00:18:33because I'm so tall.
00:18:34I couldn't...
00:18:35You have long legs.
00:18:39It's difficult.
00:18:40Yeah.
00:18:43They're not built
00:18:44for people
00:18:45over six foot.
00:18:47Maybe jet skis
00:18:48next time.
00:18:53Oh my God.
00:18:54That was so fun.
00:18:57Cheers.
00:18:58Cheers.
00:19:05It's pretty good.
00:19:12So, you know
00:19:13this is the last
00:19:14day of our honeymoon?
00:19:15Mm-hmm.
00:19:16So, we're about
00:19:17to go back home
00:19:18really soon
00:19:19and you're gonna
00:19:20meet my mom
00:19:21but
00:19:22there's something
00:19:23I want to talk about.
00:19:26Okay.
00:19:27You know what we
00:19:29argued about
00:19:30last night?
00:19:31That was about
00:19:32my sister.
00:19:33Yeah, also because
00:19:34you remind me
00:19:35why I did what I did.
00:19:38Because you talk
00:19:39to this person
00:19:40that I don't want
00:19:41you to.
00:19:44I need to make sure
00:19:45that you keep
00:19:46your promise.
00:19:50Remember what
00:19:51you promised me
00:19:51when you were
00:19:52on the phone
00:19:53before you
00:19:54came down here.
00:19:56That you're not
00:19:57gonna talk to her
00:19:58again.
00:19:59Yeah.
00:19:59But I need
00:20:00you to show me
00:20:02that you keep
00:20:03your promise.
00:20:04Okay.
00:20:05So, can I
00:20:06see your phone?
00:20:09Now?
00:20:14Okay.
00:20:18I know
00:20:19that checking
00:20:19Yvonne's phone
00:20:20is bad.
00:20:21I wish I don't
00:20:22have to do that.
00:20:23But having
00:20:24an online marriage
00:20:25we are not
00:20:26together physically.
00:20:27For me
00:20:28to know
00:20:28what he's really
00:20:29doing.
00:20:32I have been
00:20:33very concerned
00:20:35ever since
00:20:35he's been watching
00:20:36all this
00:20:37masculinity podcast.
00:20:39because they
00:20:39really encourage
00:20:40cheating.
00:20:44You okay?
00:20:46Yeah.
00:20:47Are you nervous?
00:20:50They really say
00:20:52that if he
00:20:53cheats,
00:20:53it's okay
00:20:53as long as
00:20:54he provides.
00:20:56It really
00:20:57scares me
00:20:58a little bit.
00:20:59So,
00:20:59for my
00:21:00peace of mind,
00:21:01I need
00:21:02to be
00:21:02totally sure
00:21:03that there's
00:21:04nothing going
00:21:05on.
00:21:09wow.
00:21:27Just going to leave
00:21:27me?
00:21:29You're just going to
00:21:30leave me in a hut
00:21:30in a village.
00:21:31And you are
00:21:32making conversation
00:21:33about Michael.
00:21:35Person I hate.
00:21:43I don't care
00:21:45about Michael.
00:21:46You don't care
00:21:47about a lot,
00:21:48do you?
00:21:48No.
00:21:52beer con's plan
00:21:53for us today
00:21:54was to make
00:21:55evil eye beads
00:21:56and then go
00:21:57meet his friends,
00:21:58Memo and Tuba.
00:21:59But I'm just
00:22:02really unsure
00:22:03of everything
00:22:04right now.
00:22:07After keeping
00:22:08some pretty big
00:22:09secrets from me,
00:22:10beer con has
00:22:11a lot of balls
00:22:12to try to tell me
00:22:14who I can
00:22:15and can't be
00:22:16friends with.
00:22:17I knew
00:22:18that beer con
00:22:19had a lot
00:22:20of issues
00:22:20with my
00:22:21relationship
00:22:21with Michael,
00:22:22but to tell
00:22:23me he wants
00:22:24me to cut
00:22:24my best friend
00:22:25out of my life,
00:22:26this is a whole
00:22:28new controlling
00:22:28side of him
00:22:29and it's really
00:22:31concerning to me.
00:22:34You left me
00:22:35sitting in a hut
00:22:36alone.
00:22:37Because I don't
00:22:38like him?
00:22:40Actually,
00:22:40I have nothing
00:22:41in common
00:22:42with him.
00:22:42Okay?
00:22:43You both care
00:22:44about me.
00:22:44You have that
00:22:45in common.
00:22:46I think
00:22:47he's more
00:22:47than caring
00:22:48about you.
00:22:49But you always
00:22:50said you trust
00:22:51me.
00:22:52Yeah.
00:22:53You have
00:22:54to trust
00:22:54me on this
00:22:55because
00:22:57man knows
00:22:58man,
00:22:59okay?
00:23:00Step back
00:23:01and see
00:23:02your relationship
00:23:03with him.
00:23:06And so
00:23:07you think
00:23:07he has
00:23:07some sort
00:23:08of
00:23:10intention
00:23:11that's other
00:23:11than just
00:23:12being my friend?
00:23:13Yeah.
00:23:13Exactly.
00:23:15I don't
00:23:16agree.
00:23:16Okay.
00:23:20So
00:23:20we're going
00:23:21to go meet
00:23:22your friends
00:23:22and I want
00:23:24to do that.
00:23:25I would
00:23:25like for you
00:23:26to give me
00:23:27that same
00:23:27respect.
00:23:28So
00:23:29could you
00:23:30at least
00:23:31at some
00:23:32point
00:23:32be open
00:23:33to meeting
00:23:34him
00:23:34or
00:23:35calling
00:23:35him?
00:23:37you are
00:23:38pushing
00:23:39my will.
00:23:41I'm not
00:23:42trying to
00:23:43push your
00:23:43will.
00:23:43I'm trying
00:23:44to make
00:23:44you see
00:23:45the hypocrisy
00:23:46in it
00:23:47because otherwise
00:23:48it feels like
00:23:49you just get
00:23:49to determine
00:23:50who's important
00:23:51in our lives,
00:23:52in our lives.
00:23:53Okay.
00:23:54I don't
00:23:55want to talk
00:23:55about this
00:23:56discussion
00:23:56anymore,
00:23:57so...
00:23:58Okay.
00:24:02I do
00:24:03not think
00:24:04this is
00:24:05an ideal
00:24:05time to
00:24:06meet
00:24:06Memo
00:24:06and
00:24:07Tuba.
00:24:08But part
00:24:09of me
00:24:09really wants
00:24:09to take
00:24:10the opportunity
00:24:10to meet
00:24:11them,
00:24:11to ask
00:24:12them
00:24:12questions.
00:24:14Especially
00:24:15since the
00:24:16last few
00:24:16days have
00:24:17proven that
00:24:18there's a lot
00:24:19more I need
00:24:20to learn
00:24:20about
00:24:20BeerCon.
00:24:35So this
00:24:36is my
00:24:36usual
00:24:36table.
00:24:37Maybe
00:24:37we should
00:24:38sit here.
00:24:39Okay.
00:24:40You know
00:24:40everyone.
00:24:41Yeah,
00:24:41I know.
00:24:46It's so
00:24:47good to meet
00:24:48you.
00:24:50I'm
00:24:50Laura.
00:24:51I'm Tuba.
00:24:52Nice to
00:24:52meet you.
00:24:53Nice to
00:24:55meet you.
00:24:57Even though
00:24:58I am feeling
00:24:59bad about
00:24:59the argument,
00:25:00I think
00:25:01this is the
00:25:01best time
00:25:02for Memo
00:25:03and Tuba
00:25:03meet Laura
00:25:04because
00:25:05they're the
00:25:07best two
00:25:07people
00:25:07can teach
00:25:09her that
00:25:10I'm not
00:25:10a bad
00:25:11guy.
00:25:11I'm just
00:25:12trying to
00:25:13protect
00:25:13the one
00:25:14I love.
00:25:16I will
00:25:16translate.
00:25:17You guys
00:25:18are gonna
00:25:18mix up.
00:25:20And I'm
00:25:20gonna ask
00:25:21lots of
00:25:21questions
00:25:22about you.
00:25:22Okay.
00:25:24Yeah,
00:25:24this sounds
00:25:25like a threat.
00:25:26It's not a threat.
00:25:26Yeah,
00:25:27it's not a threat.
00:25:28Okay.
00:25:30Laura
00:25:31hakkında
00:25:31çok samimi
00:25:32ve cana
00:25:33yakın
00:25:33olduÄŸunu
00:25:33düşünüyorum.
00:25:34Ben
00:25:35Laura'nın
00:25:35yaşına
00:25:36oranla
00:25:36genç
00:25:37göründüğünü
00:25:38düşünüyorum.
00:25:39How
00:25:40long have
00:25:40you
00:25:40known
00:25:41Birkan?
00:25:42Kaç
00:25:42yıllar
00:25:43beni
00:25:43tanıyorsunuz?
00:25:43Üç
00:25:44sene.
00:25:44Üç
00:25:44sene
00:25:45oldu.
00:25:45Three
00:25:46years.
00:25:46Three
00:25:47years.
00:25:48Birkan'ın
00:25:48Laura'yı
00:25:49gerçekten
00:25:50bir ÅŸeyler
00:25:51hissettiÄŸi
00:25:51için
00:25:51birlikte
00:25:52olmak
00:25:52istedini
00:25:53düşünüyorum.
00:25:54Ve hala
00:25:54tam anlamıyla
00:25:55bir ÅŸeyleri
00:25:56Laura'ya
00:25:57tam anlamıyla
00:25:57anlatmamış
00:25:58olabilir.
00:25:59Bu da
00:26:00beni
00:26:00korkutuyor.
00:26:01Laura'yı
00:26:01problemler
00:26:02çıkartması
00:26:02açısından.
00:26:04Thank you,
00:26:05sir.
00:26:08Birkan'ın
00:26:09hayatı.
00:26:10Ah,
00:26:10ÅŸiÅŸe.
00:26:11Life
00:26:11of Birkan,
00:26:12he said.
00:26:13No,
00:26:13this is my
00:26:13life,
00:26:14actually.
00:26:15Oh.
00:26:15This is
00:26:16actually
00:26:16what I
00:26:16do
00:26:17every day.
00:26:18This is
00:26:18something
00:26:18for relaxing.
00:26:20It's
00:26:20like
00:26:20medication.
00:26:21I have
00:26:21my tea,
00:26:22I have
00:26:22my ÅŸiÅŸe,
00:26:23I will
00:26:23be fine.
00:26:25While
00:26:26it's
00:26:26fun to
00:26:26see
00:26:27this
00:26:27sight
00:26:27of Birkan
00:26:28hanging
00:26:28out
00:26:28with
00:26:29his
00:26:29friends,
00:26:29it's
00:26:30also
00:26:30kind
00:26:31of
00:26:31eye
00:26:31opening.
00:26:32He
00:26:33knew
00:26:33everyone
00:26:34when we
00:26:34walked
00:26:35in,
00:26:35he has
00:26:35a regular
00:26:36table,
00:26:37and now
00:26:38I'm hearing
00:26:38that he
00:26:38comes here
00:26:39literally
00:26:40to smoke
00:26:40ÅŸiÅŸe
00:26:41every day.
00:26:42I mean,
00:26:43he just
00:26:44told me
00:26:44about this
00:26:44massive
00:26:45amount
00:26:45of debt
00:26:45that he
00:26:46has.
00:26:47I feel
00:26:48like he
00:26:48should be
00:26:49doing
00:26:49something
00:26:49more
00:26:49productive
00:26:50with his
00:26:50time.
00:26:52Tell me
00:26:53something
00:26:53interesting
00:26:54about
00:26:54Birkan.
00:26:57That's
00:26:58a new
00:26:58translator
00:26:59here.
00:27:00nice
00:27:00job.
00:27:04people
00:27:07can't reach
00:27:08the inside
00:27:09inner
00:27:09me,
00:27:09you know.
00:27:10That's
00:27:10why people
00:27:11think
00:27:11I'm
00:27:11tough
00:27:12and
00:27:12I'm
00:27:13angry
00:27:1324
00:27:147.
00:27:16Aslında
00:27:16içinde
00:27:16çok
00:27:16yumuÅŸak
00:27:17bir
00:27:17insan.
00:27:17Inside
00:27:18I
00:27:18have
00:27:19a little
00:27:19cheek.
00:27:22But
00:27:23I also
00:27:24like
00:27:25the dark
00:27:25parts
00:27:26and
00:27:26the
00:27:27protective
00:27:27nature.
00:27:28Aynı
00:27:28zaman
00:27:29karanlık
00:27:29ve
00:27:30koruyucu
00:27:30olmasını
00:27:31seviyorum.
00:27:33It's a
00:27:33good
00:27:33combination.
00:27:36Aslında
00:27:38Birkan'ın
00:27:40bilinmeyen
00:27:41bir yanı
00:27:41var.
00:27:47Ben
00:27:48söyleyeyim.
00:27:51Çok
00:27:51da
00:27:52saklama
00:27:52ama.
00:27:55What?
00:28:11what?
00:28:21I
00:28:26want
00:28:27which version of my mom I'm going to get.
00:28:29Am I going to get the nice, sweet mom?
00:28:31Or am I going to get hard-nosed, rock-hard,
00:28:33battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:28:34I want to talk about Sheena.
00:28:36There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:29:06Oh, baby, I love to see that smile on your face.
00:29:12The lemurs here are kind.
00:29:14You just bring banana, and you just give them,
00:29:17and you're playing with you.
00:29:19Sound like fun.
00:29:21Lemurs make good pets?
00:29:23Like a cat or a dog.
00:29:25Oh, no, no.
00:29:27That's illegal.
00:29:29Oh, it's illegal.
00:29:30Okay.
00:29:32Today we're taking a boat to Nosy Coma
00:29:35to see some lemurs.
00:29:37This is something that I've been looking forward to
00:29:40because I think that Madagascar
00:29:42is the only place that you can find lemurs.
00:29:46Here, huh?
00:29:49Also, for a long time,
00:29:51that's the only thing I knew about Madagascar
00:29:53from the movie.
00:29:55So I'm really excited.
00:29:57to see them in person.
00:30:06So cute!
00:30:08Look at the black one.
00:30:10There's three of them.
00:30:11So do they ever come down?
00:30:13Yeah.
00:30:14They run like this everywhere.
00:30:16And what do they eat?
00:30:18Whenever they see the fruits,
00:30:19like that, they eat all of it.
00:30:22Oh, really?
00:30:22They eat all of it.
00:30:22Huh.
00:30:23These lemurs.
00:30:24They're cute and they're strange at the same time.
00:30:28To me, they act similar to monkeys,
00:30:31but they're not as human as, like, monkeys are.
00:30:35They look like squirrel monkeys.
00:30:39Oh, no.
00:30:40This one's right next to us.
00:30:44Hey, man.
00:30:45What's that noise you're making, baby?
00:30:47That's their...
00:30:48Is that their language?
00:30:50I'll tell you that.
00:30:53I sound like a big...
00:30:55You close your mouth and do it like that.
00:30:58Monkey, monkey, monkey.
00:31:00Is it monkey or what do you say?
00:31:02Monkey, monkey, monkey, monkey.
00:31:04Monkey, monkey.
00:31:05Yes.
00:31:06You see?
00:31:06Oh, he's looking around.
00:31:08Let's get a picture.
00:31:10Come on, let's get one together.
00:31:15Man, the kids will love this.
00:31:17Yeah.
00:31:19My boys, I miss them.
00:31:22But it'll be worth it
00:31:23if I can bring the step-mommy home.
00:31:26Yeah, I'll be there.
00:31:29I envision that we can have this family unit.
00:31:32Just the four of us.
00:31:37You know that.
00:31:39I love your kids, right?
00:31:40But I cannot just, you know,
00:31:43being a step-mom.
00:31:45Like, forever.
00:31:48I want to have my own.
00:31:52I mean, I love kids.
00:31:54But, like, right now,
00:31:56I'm not in a position to have
00:31:58another child.
00:31:59What's the issue?
00:32:06I know it's a hard time,
00:32:08but I know what it is.
00:32:09I know.
00:32:11I took care of my little brother
00:32:13and sister without any help.
00:32:15Like, my dad going to work
00:32:16and only them and me
00:32:19was in the house.
00:32:21And before,
00:32:22when I told you that
00:32:23I want my own kids,
00:32:25then you say,
00:32:26oh, we should talk about it
00:32:28when you're coming here.
00:32:30So this is the time
00:32:31to talk about it.
00:32:34You should decide
00:32:38you want what you want
00:32:39what you don't want.
00:32:41I don't know, Trish.
00:32:42I'm not ready to make
00:32:43that decision right now.
00:32:49At this point in my life,
00:32:50I don't think I'm ready
00:32:51to have another child.
00:32:53I'm 52 years old
00:32:55and I'm getting up there in age,
00:32:58so having another child
00:33:01is going to be, like,
00:33:02starting all over again.
00:33:05And it's hard enough
00:33:07as it is dealing
00:33:08with my two little ones.
00:33:11And I haven't even told her
00:33:14about what I did in Columbia.
00:33:17She might not even want
00:33:19a child with me
00:33:20after she finds that out.
00:33:24What do you want?
00:33:27I mean, I'm not totally
00:33:28closing the door
00:33:29on the idea
00:33:31of having a child.
00:33:34For how long
00:33:35you'll be, you'll decide it?
00:33:37Like, okay,
00:33:38now I want to have kids.
00:33:40I can't put a time frame
00:33:41on that.
00:33:45I wish he would stop
00:33:47making excuses
00:33:48and tell me
00:33:49what he really wants.
00:33:51I need to know
00:33:52and it's very important
00:33:54and not only for me,
00:33:56but for my family.
00:33:58In my culture,
00:33:59it's very important
00:34:01to have kids
00:34:02and it's not a question.
00:34:06I'm going to take Rick
00:34:08to my hometown
00:34:09in a few days
00:34:10and I'm worried.
00:34:13If he decided
00:34:15he does not want
00:34:16to have kids anymore,
00:34:17I'm not sure
00:34:18if I will be able
00:34:19to stay with him.
00:34:28I had heard
00:34:30that you guys
00:34:31had been taking
00:34:33all of Sheena's earnings.
00:34:36She told us
00:34:38if she didn't give
00:34:41the money to you guys,
00:34:42that you would threaten her
00:34:44and mistreat her.
00:34:46You forced her.
00:34:48Do you just hate it?
00:35:05Do you just hate it?
00:35:07Oh, big up.
00:35:20It's not very ripe.
00:35:22Hello.
00:35:23Hello.
00:35:25Hello.
00:35:26Mom, Deb.
00:35:27This is my sister Katrina
00:35:28and my dad, Steve.
00:35:29Hello.
00:35:30Hello.
00:35:31This is my mom, Molly,
00:35:32and my dad, Deb.
00:35:33So very nice to meet you, sir.
00:35:35This is Deb.
00:35:36Hello.
00:35:37Good to meet you.
00:35:38Steve, Deb.
00:35:39Steve.
00:35:39Deb.
00:35:40Deb.
00:35:41Yeah.
00:35:42Hi, I'm Molly.
00:35:43So very nice to meet you.
00:35:44It's a pleasure.
00:35:45I'm Katrina.
00:35:46Good to meet you, Katrina.
00:35:48Hi, Forrest.
00:35:49Hey, Pops.
00:35:50How's it going?
00:35:51Yeah.
00:35:52So, Mom,
00:35:53we're just trying to show you
00:35:54on how we make jackboots.
00:35:55That is a knife.
00:35:56Yeah.
00:35:58Tonight,
00:35:59I'm worried
00:36:00about, you know,
00:36:01everything that's going to happen.
00:36:03Anyone want to try?
00:36:04Oh, I sure do.
00:36:04Oh, thank you.
00:36:07I don't know
00:36:07which version of my mom
00:36:09I'm going to get.
00:36:09Am I going to get
00:36:10the nice, sweet mom
00:36:11who loves and cares everybody,
00:36:13or am I going to get
00:36:13hard-nosed, rock-hard,
00:36:15battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:36:17You want to go sit down?
00:36:20Yeah.
00:36:20Oh, yeah, that'd be great.
00:36:21That'd be great, yeah.
00:36:23But at the same time,
00:36:24I'm starting to get kind of
00:36:25tired and overwhelmed
00:36:26with learning new things
00:36:27every single time
00:36:28about Sheena.
00:36:29So, I'm hoping
00:36:31that we can get
00:36:32the truth
00:36:33all out on the table.
00:36:36Oh, look at that.
00:36:38So, these are banana leaves.
00:36:39We use this
00:36:40as a buddle fight.
00:36:42Very traditional.
00:36:43This usually was practiced
00:36:45in the military
00:36:46when they went up
00:36:47to the mountains.
00:36:48So, no plates,
00:36:50just the banana leaves
00:36:51and all the food.
00:36:53Yes, it's wonderful.
00:36:56A buddle fight
00:36:57is like a traditional
00:36:58Filipino culture
00:37:00of everyone
00:37:01to eat
00:37:02in one whole dime leaf.
00:37:04So, it's like this.
00:37:05They have to do like this
00:37:06in a line.
00:37:08Ah.
00:37:08I just thought
00:37:10Molly would really enjoy this
00:37:11because she's interested
00:37:13in learning about my culture,
00:37:15especially when it comes to food.
00:37:17Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:37:19Oh.
00:37:20I hope that the buddle fight
00:37:22is the only fight
00:37:23that would happen tonight.
00:37:26Next batch.
00:37:27Next batch, the whole thing.
00:37:29Seafood.
00:37:30Oh, shrimp.
00:37:31Oh, my gosh.
00:37:32Those look delicious mussels.
00:37:35The big fish goes in the middle.
00:37:37Yes.
00:37:38My first impression
00:37:39of Sheena's family
00:37:40was they're hospitable.
00:37:42They're very welcoming.
00:37:44I mean, I've never quite seen
00:37:46a spread as nice as this.
00:37:48Usually, make a rice ball.
00:37:51Just pick around,
00:37:52and then scoop it in your mouth.
00:37:53Shove it in your mouth.
00:37:54Shove it up.
00:37:56Shove it up.
00:37:57Shove it up.
00:37:57Shove it on up.
00:37:59Mm.
00:38:02That be told,
00:38:03that does not line up at all
00:38:05from what I heard
00:38:06about them from Sheena.
00:38:09God, the flavors
00:38:10that just come through.
00:38:11Mm.
00:38:12Mm.
00:38:15I was under the impression
00:38:18that they were these
00:38:19money-grubbing, cruel people
00:38:22that pretty much locked Sheena away
00:38:24and wouldn't let her out
00:38:26only to go to work
00:38:27and then to hand over her check.
00:38:29That's what I was led to believe.
00:38:34I just want to say
00:38:35this meal that you prepared
00:38:37is just incredible.
00:38:39I'm just so grateful.
00:38:40And you have created
00:38:42such a beautiful home,
00:38:43I must say.
00:38:46It must have been so expensive.
00:38:52But I was actually quite surprised
00:38:55to see how it really is.
00:38:57I expected something
00:38:59very different.
00:39:00But you guys made us feel
00:39:02very, very welcome
00:39:03and I appreciate that so much.
00:39:08So I wanted to ask,
00:39:09are you guys okay
00:39:11with Sheena moving
00:39:12to the United States?
00:39:16Actually, that was already
00:39:18her dream years ago
00:39:19to work there in the U.S.
00:39:23Oh.
00:39:24Okay.
00:39:26That's interesting.
00:39:29Yes.
00:39:30But yesterday,
00:39:32Forrest made it clear
00:39:34that he's a little low
00:39:37on budget also
00:39:38and so I don't know
00:39:40what the situation is,
00:39:41you know?
00:39:42So...
00:39:43Actually, let's put
00:39:44Forrest's finances
00:39:45to the side
00:39:46and I want to talk
00:39:48about Sheena.
00:39:52There's been
00:39:52quite a bit of confusion
00:39:54and I had heard
00:39:59that you guys
00:40:00had been
00:40:02taking
00:40:03all of Sheena's earnings.
00:40:10And she
00:40:12told us
00:40:14that
00:40:15if
00:40:17she didn't give
00:40:19the money to you guys,
00:40:21that you would
00:40:22threaten her
00:40:23and be cruel
00:40:25to her
00:40:26and mistreat her.
00:40:30That you forced her.
00:40:35No?
00:40:37Did you say that?
00:40:38No.
00:40:47If he doesn't give me
00:40:48the blessing,
00:40:49I will have
00:40:49fierce words.
00:40:52Dear Dan,
00:40:53don't you know
00:40:53your culture?
00:40:55I'm here
00:40:56to make sure
00:40:57that
00:40:57Lisa is a good woman.
00:40:59It is our tradition.
00:41:01You are not
00:41:02an Igbo woman.
00:41:04Tell me,
00:41:04do you drink?
00:41:05Do you smoke?
00:41:07Are you a
00:41:08practicing Christian?
00:41:09I have not always
00:41:10been a very good Christian.
00:41:32Wow.
00:41:41A lot of
00:41:43photos here.
00:41:44It's all
00:41:46Zoe's photo.
00:41:50My dog.
00:41:52Mm-hmm.
00:41:54I was ready
00:41:55to find something
00:41:57to prove
00:41:58that I can't
00:41:59trust him.
00:42:00Instead,
00:42:01I found
00:42:02a bunch of
00:42:03cute photos
00:42:04of his dog.
00:42:07And photos
00:42:08of me
00:42:09that I sent him.
00:42:10Actually,
00:42:10lots of photos
00:42:11of me.
00:42:13I'm realizing
00:42:14that maybe
00:42:15I should
00:42:16cut him
00:42:17some slack.
00:42:18But
00:42:19I guess
00:42:20I'm still learning
00:42:22how to trust
00:42:23him.
00:42:24Well,
00:42:25for now,
00:42:27I don't see
00:42:28any red flag,
00:42:29honestly.
00:42:31You know,
00:42:32I told you
00:42:33I was gonna stop
00:42:34talking to that
00:42:35person,
00:42:37and I did.
00:42:40I mean,
00:42:40did you think
00:42:41I wasn't telling
00:42:41the truth?
00:42:42I think
00:42:43I never know.
00:42:46So...
00:42:47Well,
00:42:47now you know.
00:42:51It's a little
00:42:52bit offensive
00:42:53that she feel
00:42:55like she needs
00:42:55to look through
00:42:56my phone
00:42:56in order to
00:42:57feel comfortable.
00:42:58Anna's supposed
00:42:59to trust me
00:43:00regardless.
00:43:01She's actually
00:43:02supposed to trust
00:43:03me before,
00:43:05you know,
00:43:06we gotten
00:43:06married,
00:43:07you know.
00:43:08But at the same
00:43:09time,
00:43:09I watch a lot
00:43:10of relationship
00:43:11podcasts,
00:43:12and one of
00:43:13the hosts,
00:43:14he sometimes
00:43:15makes good points
00:43:16about a little
00:43:17paranoia is healthy.
00:43:20I mean,
00:43:21most women
00:43:22only act right
00:43:22when they feel
00:43:23like they can
00:43:24be replaced.
00:43:26So,
00:43:27I'm not saying
00:43:28go out and cheat,
00:43:30but a little bit
00:43:31of paranoia,
00:43:31a little bit
00:43:32of fear is healthy.
00:43:35Are we good?
00:43:36I do want
00:43:37to trust you,
00:43:38but I'm not
00:43:38going to lie.
00:43:40I'm not still
00:43:41like 100%.
00:43:48Mm-hmm.
00:43:50And if you
00:43:51talk to her again,
00:43:52I'm going to
00:43:53break this phone.
00:43:54I don't care.
00:43:58I mean,
00:43:58Anna,
00:43:59just look at it
00:44:00this way.
00:44:00I mean,
00:44:01I passed
00:44:01all your tests.
00:44:03For now.
00:44:04Okay,
00:44:04for now.
00:44:05For now.
00:44:05For now.
00:44:06Do you want
00:44:07to go through
00:44:07my luggage
00:44:07up in the room?
00:44:08Yes,
00:44:09I will.
00:44:09All right.
00:44:12Do you have
00:44:12extra phone?
00:44:14I'm just kidding.
00:44:15Not at all.
00:44:16I'm with you.
00:44:17I'm with you.
00:44:40As soon as I go in,
00:44:42do I kneel down
00:44:42before him?
00:44:46Okay.
00:44:47Stop being nervous.
00:44:48Okay.
00:44:51I am in a very
00:44:52uncomfortable situation.
00:44:53I'm sitting next to
00:44:55the man I love,
00:44:55and he doesn't know
00:44:56about me.
00:45:00He doesn't know
00:45:01that I'm still
00:45:02married.
00:45:03He has no idea
00:45:04I've only been
00:45:05with women
00:45:05for 21 years.
00:45:07And right now,
00:45:08I'm feeling scared
00:45:09because I don't want
00:45:10to lie to his uncle,
00:45:11but I don't want
00:45:12to tell him
00:45:12any of my secrets.
00:45:14I want us to have
00:45:15this blessing
00:45:15more than anything
00:45:16in the world.
00:45:17I want to be
00:45:18with Daniel.
00:45:25We're going to do
00:45:26this.
00:45:27If he doesn't give
00:45:28me the blessing,
00:45:29I will have
00:45:29fierce words.
00:45:44Hey.
00:45:47Uncle.
00:46:12I'm here to make
00:46:14sure that Lisa
00:46:15is a good woman.
00:46:17before I gave
00:46:18them the approval
00:46:20to go ahead
00:46:22and hire him.
00:46:24It is our
00:46:24tradition.
00:46:27Stand up.
00:46:28Come and
00:46:28have your seat.
00:46:32Come on.
00:46:43You're very well.
00:46:44Sit down.
00:46:45Sit down.
00:46:49This is the one.
00:46:52Take it on the table.
00:46:55This is the one.
00:47:01My good lady,
00:47:02how are you?
00:47:04Nervous, uncle.
00:47:05I'm very nervous today.
00:47:09Yes.
00:47:27I am a native American.
00:47:30I am part Irish.
00:47:32Also, I come from a mother
00:47:34who gave me up for adoption
00:47:36at a very young age.
00:47:38I have a family that adopted me
00:47:40and they took very good care of me.
00:47:43I am a hard worker.
00:47:45I make sure I take care of my household.
00:47:48I make sure when Daniel needs money
00:47:49that I take care of his household.
00:47:54Are you a practicing Christian
00:47:55or Christian by name?
00:47:58I am a practicing Christian.
00:48:01I have not always been
00:48:03a very good Christian,
00:48:05but Daniel makes me
00:48:06into a better woman.
00:48:08He makes me into
00:48:09a stronger Christian.
00:48:13Do you drink?
00:48:16I do drink very,
00:48:18not a lot,
00:48:19but I do drink some, yes.
00:48:21Do you smoke?
00:48:23I do not smoke.
00:48:25I have smoked in the past.
00:48:27I have given it up.
00:48:34Are you or were you a lesbian?
00:48:39Do you practice lesbianism?
00:48:48Laura is already worried
00:48:51about my finances
00:48:52and my debt.
00:48:54I don't want
00:48:55to make things bigger.
00:49:04Wait, what did she say?
00:49:16Aslında
00:49:18Birka'nın
00:49:19bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:49:27Ben söyleyeyim.
00:49:30Çok da saklamam ama.
00:49:35What?
00:49:38Omar oynamaya devam ettiÄŸini biliyorum ya.
00:49:45Because I'm still in debt,
00:49:47we always have to
00:49:49try to find a new way
00:49:50to find money.
00:49:51And when
00:49:52I'm not working
00:49:54and I can't find a job,
00:49:56the gambling
00:49:56comes in here.
00:49:59I gamble every day.
00:50:01Every opportunity I have.
00:50:03It's what I do for a living.
00:50:05Laura is already worried
00:50:08about my finances
00:50:09and my debt.
00:50:11I don't want
00:50:12to make things bigger.
00:50:13I know, I know, I know.
00:50:16I know, I know, I know.
00:50:16I know, I know, I know.
00:50:18I know, I know, I know.
00:50:18I know, I know, I know.
00:50:19But what?
00:50:22We are in the middle of it.
00:50:26Birka'nın kumara
00:50:28olan düşkünlüğü
00:50:29diyelim.
00:50:30Birkan boÅŸluktayken
00:50:31bir kumar bağımlısı.
00:50:33Birkan'ın boşlukta
00:50:34kaldığı zamanlarda
00:50:35kumar
00:50:35oynayan bir insan.
00:50:37Orayla
00:50:38bu konuda
00:50:39konuşması
00:50:40gerekiyor.
00:50:42Bence
00:50:43çok
00:50:43da uzatma
00:50:44sakladığın süreyi.
00:50:45Sen süreyi uzattıkça
00:50:46onun sana olan
00:50:47tepkisi de
00:50:47büyüyecek bence.
00:50:49What did she say?
00:50:53Farklı bir şey.
00:50:54Söyleyeyim.
00:50:54Herhangi bir ÅŸey.
00:51:01I don't like pressure.
00:51:04I hate it.
00:51:06Birkan onu yapma.
00:51:07Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:08Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:09Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:09Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:10Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:13Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:15Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:18Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:19Birkan bunu yapma.
00:51:19Çünkü bu three of them
00:51:20are just having
00:51:21this conversation
00:51:21in Turkish
00:51:22and nobody
00:51:23is translating
00:51:25for me
00:51:25or filling
00:51:26in any
00:51:26of the gaps.
00:51:28This
00:51:28definitely
00:51:29feels
00:51:30kind of off
00:51:31and a little
00:51:31shady.
00:51:32I'm already
00:51:33feeling
00:51:34unsure.
00:51:35And now
00:51:35I definitely
00:51:36think
00:51:37it's possible
00:51:38that he's
00:51:38hiding
00:51:38something
00:51:39else
00:51:39that his
00:51:40friends
00:51:41know about
00:51:41and
00:51:42for whatever
00:51:42reason
00:51:43no one's
00:51:44telling me.
00:51:45And
00:51:46I don't like that.
00:51:48I don't like that.
00:52:15I don't like that.
00:52:16I don't like that.
00:52:16Oh, that would have been better.
00:52:21The splash pad would have definitely been better.
00:52:30Is this what we're going to eat?
00:52:32Yeah.
00:52:33Wow.
00:52:34Fried fish.
00:52:36They put some garlic and ginger and little salt.
00:52:41And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:52:43Yeah.
00:52:44The ginger and the salt.
00:52:45They mix it up like this.
00:52:47It makes me miss home,
00:52:49because we are doing the same thing like this when we're home.
00:52:52Got some nice big ones in here, bae.
00:52:55Mm-hmm.
00:52:56So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:52:58Yeah.
00:53:08This type of food stands on the beach are very common in here.
00:53:12I love them since they have a fresh seafood.
00:53:16This is how my family prepare food also.
00:53:20Lighting a fire and making a barbecue or frying something.
00:53:26So it's nice to have a reminder of home.
00:53:31You want to try?
00:53:33Try what?
00:53:34How to cook it.
00:53:35I don't know anything about it.
00:53:36You've never done that?
00:53:38Nah.
00:53:38And I've never been fishing either.
00:53:40So I've never dealt with, you know, live fish.
00:53:43I'm going to teach you.
00:53:44And when you are in my hometown, you can do the same thing to impress my family like you know
00:53:49how to do it.
00:53:49I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea, you know?
00:53:54I'm nervous that Rick is going to meet my family.
00:53:58I hope they will love him.
00:54:00But the conversation we had earlier about kids is making me doubt that it's possible.
00:54:07And also, there are other things working against us that Rick doesn't know about.
00:54:17Is Zoma using it?
00:54:19Yeah.
00:54:22Are you used to squatting like this for long periods of time?
00:54:25Yeah.
00:54:27What's your problem, Rick?
00:54:29You don't even help.
00:54:30Yeah, I'm old.
00:54:31I'm not used to being in this type of position for long periods of time.
00:54:35In my home, you will sit on the ground.
00:54:38Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:54:39Like this.
00:54:40I'm a city boy, baby.
00:54:41You're a village girl.
00:54:43You want to sit on a chair?
00:54:45If there's a chair available, yeah.
00:54:47That'd be nice.
00:54:48What?
00:54:50You complains a lot.
00:54:52So what can I expect when I meet your family?
00:54:56They will ask you some questions.
00:54:58Who are you?
00:54:59Okay.
00:54:59What do you want from my daughter?
00:55:02What's your plan for her?
00:55:04Okay.
00:55:06I know that this is a big step.
00:55:08And I feel honored that you want to introduce me to your family.
00:55:16And when I'm about the same age as your dad, right?
00:55:19You're older than my dad.
00:55:23Old is your dad?
00:55:24Fifteen.
00:55:27But your father does know how old I am, right?
00:55:31Mm-hmm.
00:55:32You haven't told your dad my age?
00:55:34No.
00:55:38Mm.
00:55:39I didn't say that she already married twice.
00:55:43I didn't say that she have kids.
00:55:45Aw, Trish.
00:55:49My dad, he doesn't want a man older than me.
00:55:52And a man who have a lot of kids.
00:55:56And a man who already been married, divorced.
00:56:02So that's why I didn't tell my dad much about Rick.
00:56:06Otherwise, I think my father would just refuse to meet him.
00:56:11But blessing for my dad, it means a lot for me.
00:56:14So what's going to happen to us if your dad doesn't accept me?
00:56:21My dad would say,
00:56:23Oh, you have to choose then between you and my dad.
00:56:30And if you don't have kids, they won't give the blessing.
00:56:36It's really important to my family.
00:56:40I'm being put in such a disadvantage.
00:56:44She hasn't given her family any information about me.
00:56:48They don't know my age.
00:56:50They don't know that I've been married, have kids.
00:56:53Nothing at all.
00:56:54I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.
00:56:58They really want Trish to have a baby.
00:57:01And that's the part that I'm most worried about.
00:57:04Because at this point, I don't know if I'm ready.
00:57:09To make that decision.
00:57:12I just want to go in there and be as open and honest as I can.
00:57:19And, you know, show them that I'm a good person.
00:57:22That I'm a loving father.
00:57:25And that I'm here for their daughter.
00:57:28And I'm going to treat her well.
00:57:31And do the best that I can to make you happy.
00:57:36I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to accept me.
00:57:43I know that this trip is very important.
00:57:46I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them, and get to know more about Trish
00:57:52through her family.
00:57:53But I feel even worse about not telling Trish about spending time with my ex in Columbia.
00:58:03I have to tell Trish before we meet her family.
00:58:06And I just don't know how she's going to take it.
00:58:22I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
00:58:25Most Americans would find that very weird.
00:58:28This is just a very delicious dessert.
00:58:32It's not like an execution.
00:58:36There's reality.
00:58:37It's an aberration.
00:58:39And it is not in our blood.
00:58:41Uncle.
00:58:42She told me this was one time chain.
00:58:46Do you lie?
00:58:49Is she saying the truth?
00:59:00It's a nice night.
00:59:02Yep.
00:59:07You hear those waves?
00:59:09Yeah, I do.
00:59:10It seems like they're louder at night.
00:59:12Oh!
00:59:13My shoes.
00:59:16Did they break?
00:59:17They break.
00:59:18Oh, .
00:59:26Well, you can be my Trish Charming and carry me.
00:59:29In your dress?
00:59:31Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's...
00:59:34I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.
00:59:40Just so...
00:59:41What?
00:59:41You're the most unromantic I've ever met.
00:59:44Okay.
00:59:44It's like you've never been with a woman before.
00:59:48Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon.
00:59:50And I'm glad that we were able to work through some trust issues.
00:59:54Because after this, we're going to Cavite, where Anna Lynn lives.
01:00:00And while I'm there, we're gonna have our vow renewal with our family and friends, and hopefully that'll be good.
01:00:06Well, I can still walk with one straw, but it's just...
01:00:09You sure?
01:00:10Yeah.
01:00:11I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending, because I think the real test for us is day-to
01:00:18-day life.
01:00:19Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time without trying to kill one another?
01:00:26You know, we'll see.
01:00:28Hey!
01:00:29Sell Halo-Halo.
01:00:31They have a Halo-Halo set up.
01:00:33Okay.
01:00:35Welcome to the Halo-Halo Bark.
01:00:37We have the sweet potato and gulaman.
01:00:40We have purple yam and some cheese and corn.
01:00:44Okay.
01:00:46Halo-Halo is a popular Filipino dessert.
01:00:49Halo-Halo in English means mix mix.
01:00:51So you have to mix all the ingredients together with the milk and ice.
01:00:59It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.
01:01:02No. Cheese and corn, okay?
01:01:04Okay.
01:01:09This is just a very delicious dessert.
01:01:12It's not like an execution.
01:01:17I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
01:01:20Most Americans will find that very weird.
01:01:24I'm not forcing you to do something you don't like.
01:01:27However, I wish you will be more open-minded that when I suggest something, you will try it at least
01:01:33once.
01:01:34Just once.
01:01:35I mean, I try almost anything just once, but cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly?
01:01:42Really?
01:01:44But I'm willing to accept the challenge.
01:01:47Yeah.
01:01:49So cold.
01:01:51Is it?
01:01:52Uh-huh.
01:01:52But you enjoying it though.
01:01:54Enjoy it.
01:01:59So we just mix it, right?
01:02:01Uh-huh.
01:02:02All right.
01:02:04Mmm.
01:02:05Oh my God.
01:02:07Do you realize this is our first Halo-Halo together?
01:02:11Yes.
01:02:11Really nice.
01:02:14Really nice.
01:02:15I mean, Anna, there's a lot going on in here.
01:02:19Mm-hmm.
01:02:21But it is good though.
01:02:23Excuse me, ma'am.
01:02:24I'm sorry.
01:02:25Do you need anything else?
01:02:26Ah, yeah.
01:02:27Would you take a photo of us?
01:02:29Sure, ma'am.
01:02:30We're at a honeymoon.
01:02:32Okay.
01:02:32Is that okay?
01:02:34Yes, ma'am.
01:02:35And one, two, three.
01:02:39There you go, ma'am.
01:02:40Uh-huh.
01:02:42I hope you knew you had a Halo-Halo, ma'am.
01:02:44Look at that.
01:02:45Yeah.
01:02:46Aw, yeah.
01:02:47That's a good photo.
01:02:50I don't think so, but okay.
01:02:53What's wrong?
01:02:56You know, the face that you're giving me, you look miserable.
01:03:03You know I don't mean to though.
01:03:05But I don't believe.
01:03:06You don't believe?
01:03:07This is your thing.
01:03:10Whining and being unromantic.
01:03:12Uh-huh.
01:03:13I mean, how am I unromantic though?
01:03:17Like the faces that I make?
01:03:19Yeah, and then, you know, how you say things.
01:03:25Okay.
01:03:26For example, on our second anniversary, I said,
01:03:31Hey, boo, you know what it is?
01:03:33You're like, oh, yeah.
01:03:36And then you just move on.
01:03:38Oh.
01:03:38Like, wow.
01:03:40You forgot.
01:03:42I mean, I work 15 hours a day.
01:03:45So, it's kind of a luxury that you can, you know,
01:03:49keep up with days like that because you're just sitting at home.
01:03:53I don't have that luxury and I'm just so drained all the time.
01:03:59Some other people are working too, but they didn't do that.
01:04:03They still have time to be sweet to their wives.
01:04:07Well, I'm sorry.
01:04:09Maybe I'm just not a good husband.
01:04:20It's frustrating because for me, this is love.
01:04:24I'm showing up. I'm providing.
01:04:25I mean, I thought that meant something.
01:04:29But Anna, seeing it through the female lens,
01:04:32she has this perception built up in her head
01:04:35that I have to be just over the top romance for her living in a fantasy.
01:04:39I don't know.
01:04:40My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
01:04:45I always make sure that my partner knows that I find him attractive.
01:04:50But just because you are supposed to provide and protect
01:04:54doesn't mean you always have to have this machismo energy.
01:04:58Like, you can't show vulnerability.
01:05:00You're still a human being.
01:05:03I am afraid that Jubon is never going to understand me and my needs.
01:05:08He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.
01:05:12I just want you to have just more understanding
01:05:16because what I do is not easy.
01:05:17I mean, is that not romantic?
01:05:20Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know,
01:05:23you're at home and then I'm working.
01:05:26I'm getting tired of this.
01:05:27Okay.
01:05:29Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face.
01:05:33Because you have to remind me that you're the man.
01:05:36That's what man does.
01:05:39I'm not trying to, Anna.
01:05:40I'm just trying to get you to understand, like,
01:05:42what I do is just not easy and I can't remember everything.
01:05:47You know?
01:05:53Anna, why are you so emotional?
01:05:56Something you will never understand if you don't have that.
01:06:03Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.
01:06:06It seems like I can't do anything right around you, so...
01:06:10From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.
01:06:19I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:06:22Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:06:25Sorry.
01:06:27Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship
01:06:32and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:06:44She told us, if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would mistreat her.
01:06:56No.
01:06:57Did you say that?
01:06:59No.
01:07:01Did you say that?
01:07:03She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't give her the money.
01:07:08I don't know how to mistreat her.
01:07:10Well, that you called her names and you threatened to throw her out and make her homeless.
01:07:17What?
01:07:19No.
01:07:20No.
01:07:22You sure you didn't say anything that would have been...
01:07:26I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:07:29Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:07:33Sorry.
01:07:38Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?
01:07:46I want to admit that I lie.
01:07:52Just to cover things up, so I don't want to lose for us because it is hard for me to
01:07:58save money.
01:08:01I try to help you guys because you need all the help.
01:08:04But every time that I want to save, it's not even enough for me to get the visa.
01:08:08I cannot save enough.
01:08:10Yours is so hard for me.
01:08:14It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about her family in the first place.
01:08:20It makes no sense.
01:08:22And the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all to clear any of this up.
01:08:29I'm just disappointed that we got told that we were kind of abusing you.
01:08:34I'm sorry, Bill. I do.
01:08:37And I do humbly apologize.
01:08:45I just don't understand why she would tell us stories that she's given every penny to you guys.
01:08:55Well, actually, it's, you know, she gave it to us and it's all listed, you know.
01:09:01So when the time she needs it, we can, you know, give it back to her.
01:09:08Really?
01:09:09Of course.
01:09:10She's always alone.
01:09:21Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.
01:09:24Here I thought they were mistreating you and taking all your money and finding out that they were just borrowing
01:09:30it.
01:09:30It's a way different story than everything you told me.
01:09:34No, I, I'm sorry.
01:09:39My family beat all my help.
01:09:41Making a big breadwinner is hard for me.
01:09:45And I don't want to lose you.
01:09:48Because of course you told me that they have to save money, that you shouldn't give money to your family.
01:09:55But now I'm feeling even worse because your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just like throwing
01:10:04it in the trash can.
01:10:06I haven't told you the right things because I'm worried that you might give up on me.
01:10:12Huh.
01:10:18I know that you've been trying hard.
01:10:22I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden from everybody.
01:10:26Yes.
01:10:26That's not something that was cool.
01:10:28But for years you've been fighting for yourself and sort of unfortunately got all mixed up.
01:10:35We, we knew that she was trying to save up for a visa but we didn't know how would she
01:10:41even acquire that.
01:10:42She doesn't tell us what, what's the process.
01:10:46We, we're not gonna guess it.
01:10:48She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know, the, what's really happening.
01:10:57Shane, you need to make sure to say I'm, I'm never gonna lie to anybody again and I will be
01:11:03open with everybody.
01:11:06To everyone.
01:11:08I promise.
01:11:10I would never lie again for what, whatever I said to you guys.
01:11:15I regret for doing everything.
01:11:17I'll do my best to be much more open up to you guys.
01:11:22It hurts to find out that for the last seven years, Sheena had, you know, lied about everything with her
01:11:29family and the money situation.
01:11:31I thought she had more, more faith in me.
01:11:34But I'm glad that everything's out of the open now.
01:11:37And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.
01:11:43I think I'm gonna jump in here.
01:11:46Pops, let me understand here.
01:11:48So you've mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?
01:11:53Yes.
01:11:55So, how long would it take to provide, you know, if she asked for her money back?
01:12:02You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.
01:12:06So we don't, we don't know.
01:12:08I'd say about maybe $4,000.
01:12:16We'll have to check the, our finances.
01:12:22I was surprised because if they plan to get married, it's a guy who should provide for her.
01:12:30We didn't expect she'd be asking us for that amount, no?
01:12:33Yeah.
01:12:35I was surprised when she said that she was mentioning.
01:12:38But, because when we're talking, regarding us, it's painful for us.
01:12:44First impressions, Molly and the stepfather.
01:12:49First impression of us is, of course, it'll be good soon, no?
01:12:55If she came and said, hey, I can't keep, you know, giving you guys a loan, would you guys not
01:13:02be taking the loan?
01:13:09I think if it's feasible, you know, that for us not getting any help, we would do that, you know?
01:13:23But, I just wish that she talked to us and explained it to us more.
01:13:29See, after all these years, Sheen, we could have just came and did this.
01:13:33Instead of going and, you know, making stories, putting things around about.
01:13:38I lie because I fear of losing him.
01:13:42Sheen, you're going to lose me if you don't...
01:13:45Stop lying.
01:13:46Yeah.
01:13:46You gotta be honest with us.
01:13:47Yes.
01:13:50I'm very, very sorry.
01:13:52And I'm trying to strive my best to work hard for me to say, that's all I wish.
01:14:01I'm relieved that the truth is out, but I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard tonight at face
01:14:07value.
01:14:08Now, it's just to the point where I gotta just say, you need to think about what's happening in this
01:14:15relationship that all she's doing is lying.
01:14:18Maybe someday, she'll come down the road and tell us some other secret that we don't know that will tear
01:14:23the relationship apart.
01:14:24I don't trust her as far as I could throw her, but time will tell.
01:14:38You practice the girlism?
01:14:40If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture.
01:14:47There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:14:50Please, tell me the truth.
01:14:53I am so guilt ridded.
01:14:55I just want to be open and honest and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:14:59Are you okay?
01:15:12You practice the girlism?
01:15:13You practice the girlism?
01:15:17Let's go!
01:15:20I am so guilt riddle.
01:15:22You practice the girlism?
01:15:24That's the same thing?
01:15:24In the past.
01:15:25I know.
01:15:27Lesbianism is rampant in America.
01:15:29America. Here, we don't do it at all. If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by
01:15:38our
01:15:39culture and tradition. Please, my young lady, don't be offended. I'm not insulting you,
01:15:49but lesbianism. It's an aberration and it is not in our blood.
01:15:56There are things we don't practice in our place. Please, tell me the truth.
01:16:06What the is happening? I am shocked by the question. I don't know what to say about it.
01:16:18My sexuality being called an aberration hurts me a lot. I am who I am.
01:16:25And I'm not ashamed of it at all. And I just want to be honest and tell the truth.
01:16:29But I'm struggling inside with what's right and what's not right and what I want to do
01:16:34and what I don't want to do. It's an inner battle.
01:16:40I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.
01:16:52You don't practice it anymore?
01:16:55No, sir.
01:16:59It was a fling. It was one time.
01:17:05Do you lie?
01:17:10I think everybody says a fib once in a while. That doesn't make it right.
01:17:16I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.
01:17:25Is she saying the truth?
01:17:29Tell me.
01:17:30Yes, uncle. She's telling the truth.
01:17:35Okay.
01:17:36I am not a liar, uncle.
01:17:38Okay.
01:17:50Why does your uncle ask me if I partake in lesbianism?
01:17:53Why would he ask me that?
01:17:55I told him that you have done it before.
01:17:58But it was a mistake.
01:17:59Yeah.
01:18:00You told him everything.
01:18:01You told him everything.
01:18:02That wasn't for you to tell anybody.
01:18:04That was between us.
01:18:05No, no, no, no.
01:18:06Yes.
01:18:06I have to.
01:18:07You're wrong.
01:18:07This is my uncle.
01:18:08I don't care if it's the Pope of the Catholic Church.
01:18:11You don't tell anybody.
01:18:11Are you trying to insult him?
01:18:12I'm not insulting anybody.
01:18:13I'm telling you, you don't tell people certain things.
01:18:16My uncle is like father to me, so I have to discuss everything with him.
01:18:19You don't even tell me what you've already spoken to your uncle about.
01:18:22I ask you what kind of questions he's going to ask me, and you're like, I don't know.
01:18:26I don't know.
01:18:28I don't know.
01:18:28You don't want me to know, but you want him to know everything.
01:18:32Oh, my God.
01:18:33Yes.
01:18:33Oh, my God.
01:18:36Are you OK?
01:18:38Yes, uncle.
01:18:57I don't know.
01:19:33I've been hearing from you.
01:19:40And I will give you guys my blessing.
01:19:45Thank you, son.
01:19:48Thank you, uncle.
01:20:03I am thrilled I have the blessing.
01:20:07I feel guilty as hell.
01:20:10Because he kept bringing up the fact, are you a liar?
01:20:14We do not lie.
01:20:16We do not.
01:20:17And that's making me feel guilty because I am lying.
01:20:30Amen.
01:20:31Amen.
01:20:32Amen.
01:20:35I want Daniel, but I have the secret that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
01:20:41I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman.
01:20:45But it's 21 years.
01:20:47It's not a mistake.
01:20:48It's who I am.
01:20:49And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.
01:20:52Stop crying.
01:20:53Daniel is yours.
01:20:55You are his rule.
01:20:58I am so guilt-ridden because I love this man.
01:21:02And I just want to be open and honest and get this over with and see if he'll take me
01:21:07for who I am.
01:21:08But it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.
01:21:11I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
01:21:24Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:26I get to be the princess and now in the castle.
01:21:29Now I'll always be a princess.
01:21:31We're on this surprise romantic getaway.
01:21:34But I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.
01:21:36I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.
01:21:40Can you tell me where your debt came from?
01:21:41Do you want the truth?
01:21:44Yeah.
01:21:46When the COVID hits, I'm bankrupt.
01:21:49I find another way to pay that debt.
01:21:54Do you realize everything you said about me since I got here has been negative?
01:21:58It makes me feel like we're never going to get married.
01:22:00We're never going to get engaged.
01:22:02This whole trip was a waste of my time.
01:22:06I'm just at my breaking point.
01:22:08I deserve some answers.
01:22:09Am I the girl that you want to be with?
01:22:13It's glued on to the point where my wig is like bubble gum right now, stuck to my head.
01:22:19I have to take it off.
01:22:21Oh my God.
01:22:22I've been keeping my wig on because I know Daniel loves me with my long hair.
01:22:27I have no idea what he's going to think.
01:22:30But if he's going to marry me, he has to get used to it.
01:22:33Hey.
01:22:36Hey.
01:22:36Oh my God.
01:22:38What are you, ladies?
01:22:41All I hear is like, you're just constantly complaining about me all the time.
01:22:46I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.
01:22:49You tell me I'm not romantic.
01:22:52Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines.
01:22:55I don't know how to navigate around the landmines.
01:22:59I mean, Anna, do you regret, like, marrying me?
01:23:06Baby, there's something I've been keeping from you.
01:23:10Explain yourself.
01:23:12In those five days when you weren't talking to me, I decided to book a trip to Colombia and be
01:23:20with my ex.
01:23:22Shut up, buddy.
01:23:23It was a mistake.
01:23:23Shut up.
01:23:28Jesus.
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