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02:08You know, there are things that have to be talked about.
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02:46I have so much respect really because this is not an easy phase in your life.
02:53Yes.
02:53tell me what you can tell me what you can about the breakup what cost it if you can
03:00kailan i will listen um well tito boy it was definitely so i confirmed now we're not together
03:12anymore but that was not a decision i took lightly it's not something na parang um on a whim
03:21ginawa na lang or nag decide na lang ng ganon i made sure that i was at a point in
03:29my life na i was
03:30weighing already what matters most in my life and kaya tayo na dito ngayon mahirap na disisyon
03:37very very hard how painful was that um very hard po kasi i pangalap po talaga magka family
03:46so that that was my life um for me to to weigh on that na move forward and and put
03:57an end to that
03:58is um something that still i'm still processing till today pero kung babalikan mo yung pagkakataon na yon you
04:06were alone and you were trying to decide as to what you were supposed to do did you catch yourself
04:14praying may mga ganon diba when you make a major decision in your life uh ika nga wala kang mapuntahan
04:21kundi yung paan ng panginoong dios bring me back to that moment and what was that process like
04:29hanggap narating mo yung disisyon that i'm going away um there was one specific moment where i really
04:37felt god move sakin um i really felt i i was i felt so alone and i felt like parang
04:45is this all in my head
04:46i didn't know how to process so i parked myself in in in front of um a laundromat
04:53i had my phone i talked to the phone na parang kausap ko si god
04:58so parang si ko lord ano ba to ba't ganito yung nangyayari
05:01uh feel ko nababaliw na ako kasi what what's happening na hindi ko siya ma um magrasp talaga
05:09and i remember sabi ko lord turn it around turn turn this all around may it be complete kami
05:17or buo ako help me no one day titingin ako sa salamin and i'll recognize myself again and
05:26or or from a distance i'll say uy ang layo na nung narating ko na natawid ko siya
05:32uh oh surrendering i surrendered that was what's happening yes was that a mutual decision napag-usapan
05:40uh no i i left i i was the one who left the marriage this is a very difficult question
05:51napakahirap itanong dahil noong nakaraang taon mainit na pinag-usapan ang kaso ng iyong asawa
06:01si archie kaibigan ko alimania sa isa pa natin kaibigan rita daniela diretsyang tanong ito
06:11may kinalaman ba ang kaso ng archie kay rita daniela sa inyong paghihiwalay
06:23i don't think tito buhay na it's ano uh one specific thing it's not a black and white one plus
06:31one kind of situation
06:34um over time nag accumulate yung mga bagay-bagay so it's a lot of pieces that eventually
06:44caused the demise of our marriage naiintindihan ko yun pero noong kasagsagan na pinag-uusapan ng kaso
06:53with uh rita daniela bilang asawa saan ka lumugar with my family i i stayed i i really
07:04tried to fight to keep my family together um kas at that time nasabihan ako na you have to be
07:13strong
07:14so anong nyari was i really didn't have time to absorb it right away ang sakin is okay how do
07:20i save my
07:21family how do i come through for my child um so the whole time that was happening i lied low
07:29kept my head down and just zeroed in on my family and my family
07:34nagbabaw yung yung pamilya are you final filing for annulment
07:41totoo lang tito buhay sobrang dami kong ano um it's on my plate right now my brain is literally loaded
07:48uh so hindi pa siya ngayon yung uh top of mind what i can say is ang first priority ko
07:55is caleb
07:57first priority ko is creating a stable um background for him right at ito yung yung mga
08:04desisyon na pinag-iisipan ito yung mga desisyon na it's nice to consult parents loved ones friends i i if
08:13not
08:13here but like maybe i could ask you you know like what you how you you think about this situation
08:18you know like i would love to know in private i would love to listen to your story yeah mag
08:23-usap
08:23tayo pero dito sa iyong buhay ngayon g ano yung natututunan mo what have you learned at what do you
08:33continue to learn uh right now i said this in my podcast sabi ko my word for this year is
08:40presence
08:41presence presence presence dahil parang nawala ako nawala ako parang um hindi na
08:49kinakausap mo ko tatawa ko ha pero yung mata ko wala or i would think ideas pero default ko na
08:55siya
08:56but i feel like if if i absorb fully na ngayon kausap kita nag-uusap tayo ngayon na ano then
09:03i can
09:04fully be here i can be present and yun yung natutunan ko because that's how i can be also there
09:10for
09:10caleb na hindi lumilipad yung utak ang daming winoworry ang daming iniisip si caleb yung um
09:17number one thing that allows me to be present and zero in oh because you have to show up you
09:23have
09:23no choice i have to show up your son is there well and i i don't think tito boy to
09:27be honest i'm still
09:28processing hindi ko nga alam kung fully 100 percent na process ko na siya hindi pa siguro wala so i
09:34mean
09:35i'm sorry that's a guess no yes it takes a while it takes a while kasi pa parang ano i
09:39have to
09:41hindi tumitigil yung buhay hindi tumitigil yung araw so wala akong choice i have to
09:47keep going at it oh gee may galit ka sa puso i had um that's the past you had but
09:57you're not angry
09:57anymore no i'm sad now but i'm sad because hindi mo naman ano eh hindi mo ito pila plano
10:10you know like you to me you get in a relationship you get married you have kids
10:18and parang ano na yun eh to me parang okay na eh but i'm in the process right now of
10:25accepting
10:28what what is and yung galit ano siya eh being human you are i would be fake if i tell
10:39you no
10:39tito boy hindi ako nakaramdam but now it's more of wala na eh regrets
10:49i should have left earlier i should have listened to when to myself na parang feeling ko na uubos na
11:01parang
11:02wala nang i'm a very colorful person ganon po i'm a very goofy person over the years parang
11:16nawala na ano na lang so there's one thing i i regret not it's not having a family it's not
11:22being married it's probably knowing when it should have stopped when i should have left why didn't you
11:29i was scared i was scared sinong gusto noon so i i was scared kasi unknown i was scared
11:39kasi i could ay hindi ko tinatrust si god na parang pray ako nang pray before said oh lord fix
11:45mo yung
11:45marriage fix my marriage tas hindi naayos so parang sabi ko um i should have trusted god more
11:54yeah again when you look back ano naman ang ipinagpapasalamat mo um
12:06uh caleb you go back to your son i go back to my son he's the most loving um expressive
12:14boy
12:15so um every time i think too much yung heartache too much yung pain
12:19hindi mo siya ma ano eh hindi mo mahihiwalay eh so yeah i have to go through all of that
12:25so i
12:25could have him
12:28and uh looks very smart and looks very good
12:32um pag nagtatanong siya nasaan ang daddy anong sinasabi mo sa kanya
12:40um well first of all yung fact na nagtatanong siya is a big blessing
12:44kasi po delayed yung speech niya so at five years old pa lang siya talaga nakapag try
12:50try to have sentences try pa lang ngayon yung fact na magsasabi siya ng where's daddy to me is
12:57i look at yung formation of words rather than the right question kasi it's a blessing
13:02but to answer that question i i try to keep my child's happiness um intact so i would tell him
13:10you know daddy is in space he's helping the earth he's an astronaut he's ano he's saving the planet
13:19you know and um i that's that's what i try to to do for him years from now 10 15
13:28years from now
13:30mapapanood ni caleb ang pag-uusap natin ito anong sasabihin mo sa kanya
13:36uh that your mom did her best um that you're so loved
13:45and be personal talk to him he will watch this um
13:55i'm sorry caleb if hindi na buo yung family
14:02uh i tried and um but you're doing so well in life you're such a smart boy you love god
14:14you um i taught him three words and i want him i want to repeat that to him when he's
14:21old
14:21be brave strong and kind so whatever happens uh in all aspects of life remember mo yun anak
14:32be brave strong and kind and i know that you are that right now i'm proud of you
14:38gee sabi mo kanina isa sa mga regrets mo ay you should have left earlier at the right time
14:45dahil nauubos ka na right now in your life paano mo binubuo ang iyong sarili
14:53ang kasagutan sa pagbabalik po ng fast talk with boy abunda
15:05we're back on the show kasama po natin si g kanlas uh huhugot lang ako doon sa tatlong salita na
15:12itinuro mo kay caleb brave strong kind you could have used you could have taught him other words
15:19yes bucket bravery bucket brave bucket strong bucket kind kasi po tito bo yun nag stem siya na ano eh
15:26natatakot ako na mabully yung anak ko kasi nga delayed yung speech okay so i was telling him
15:34you know like if anyone pushes you be brave but if they bully you be kind talk to the teachers
15:41tell them kung ano nangyayari pero wag kang yung ibang parents would be like
15:45nah matuto kang mag karate or what um but but but him i want him to have like a strong
15:50gentle spirit
15:51yeah and i think that's what he's imbibing from me that takes a lot of strength yeah
15:56di ba moving forward ano yung ano yung mindset mo mindset ko tito boy is ano eh
16:06have stronger boundaries yeah okay because i feel like when you when you know when to say no when
16:14you know when to say yes then you can build blocks ahead of you na hindi kayong parang who am
16:20i
16:20pleasing who should i talk to what should i do for other people and if you have a child that
16:24you're
16:24parenting uh solo uh you you have to have that ano eh strong standpoint and that's strength that's power
16:32yes either you say yes you say no pero takes a lot of kapangyarihan let your no let your yes
16:39be
16:40yes your no be no tama oh paano mo binubuo ang sarili mo ngayon um just doing little things for
16:49myself maganda yun oh um recently i've not recently since last year i've been hitting the gym with
16:57gladys uh yeah sila gladys ray as we've been uh going to the gym yeah ano like three times a
17:04week
17:04ganon so even if busy if even if sobrang hectic i try to spend like a pocket of my time
17:11to breathe
17:12to just be kailangan yun oh kailangan yun uh the little things that you do for yourself both for the
17:19body
17:20and the spirit uh uh nakakatulong uh malilita bagay siya pero ang laking uh tulong
17:26sa sarili romanticized life if i'm eating something
17:30but it's just a brownie
17:36pero i i mean i i just find it silly but it's for me finding it finding fun in in
17:43in
17:43these things it's all about house of lies congratulations congratulations then
17:49bahagi ka ng house of lies how is it it's really good it's really good
17:53it's really good
17:55so it's really good
17:56so i know um i have i have that uh balloon to to correct make it productive for me
18:08so uh it's a very interesting experience kasi sanay ako sa comedy now this drama okay
18:14wala bang mga pagkakataon na halimbang na drama kayo ni beauty gonzalez tapos
18:18mo sobrang iyak mo dahil ipang hugot mo i have to hold my kasi pa meron meron
18:23siya yung parang bakit ganon yung asa tapos parang i caught myself kasi nakit ako sa monitor sabi ko
18:29pull it in hindi ikaw yung bina mag support ka lang pasyado ka namang give na give
18:35but i try doon doon nagkakatulungan yung trabaho at saka yung kwento na may pinanguhugutan
18:42ng buhay di ba i mean kumusta si beauty how is it working with beauty gonzalez i love
18:49her kasi first day pa lang ano eh wala siyang kwams kausap okay ano i i like people na yung
18:56pag
18:56nakausap mo yung it's just a vibe you get na ah okay pwede ko itong makatsikahan
19:00ng matagalin hindi siya plastic hindi showbiz it's a it's a really kung ano siya yun yun
19:05kung ano siya yun siya yes that's what you love about beauty yes and ano and and since this one
19:11ah we talk ah cebuana so parang ako hindi ako cebuana kapampangan ako so okay so pag
19:16meron akong mga ano dili marang ganyan sabi niya o tama yan tama yan so magbibigay siya
19:21sa akin ng mga lines na pinifeed niya ko invite everybody to watch house of lies
19:26ah para naman mga iba ang kwento natin sa buhay ah guys if you are ano um interested in watching
19:32something na sobrang aabanga abangan nyo 320 yan everyday house of lies kaantig-antig ang
19:38story ang acting top notch ah wala akong masabi abangan nyo guys g i really wish you the best thank
19:45you i
19:46will be praying i will be praying for you but let's do fast talk g yes okay speedy g
19:55or stronger g stronger g o i am g o tara g tara g matibay marupok matibay matapang mataray matapang
20:03palaban sakto lang palaban bida contra bida drama comedy comedy hot mama cool mama
20:11kalmado ka kapag ako ay nakakain ng chocolate cake triggered ka kapag nakita ng peking tao napapangiti
20:19ka kapag anak ko napapatili ka kapag nakita ng gwapo 1 to 10 gaano ka ka sexy ngayon 10
20:27gaano ka katibay bilang ina 1 to 10 10 gaano ka katibay bilang babae 10 forgive or forget
20:35forgive love or respect love lights on or lights off lights on happiness or chocolates happiness best time
20:43for happiness every day i am g and i am resilient
20:53what is your message for yourself for myself yes at this point in your life uh that trust your
21:00instincts um work on your relationship with god and if you think it's never gonna be okay don't
21:09worry because it's gonna be fine okay maraming maraming salamat god bless you thank you very much
21:16thank you for trusting me with your story thank you maraming salamat po sa inyong pagsama
21:21sa amin ngayong hapon pili ng tama biwang tama goodbye for now and god bless you
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