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01:00I made Nicole a promise that I was never going to let her be forgotten.
01:04I'm going to make sure that everyone knows who my Nicole was.
01:29I'm off to Brussels today.
01:31The EPP invited me over today.
01:36The last time I travelled was 1991.
01:42I went to Portugal and I hated every bit of it.
01:46So today I'm absolutely...
01:50The thought of even getting on the plane.
01:54And I'm dreading it.
01:57I 100% believe that Nicole was just with me all the way.
02:02Every step of the way I know she's given me this energy or this fight to...
02:07You know, to carry on.
02:10Hi, how are you?
02:12How are you, Jackie?
02:13Hi.
02:14Nice to meet you.
02:14Nice to meet you, too.
02:15Great pleasure.
02:16Thank you.
02:17Jackie, if you could just give your name first, please.
02:19Jackie Fox.
02:20Okay.
02:22How does it feel to arrive here at the European Parliament?
02:25Is this your first time?
02:26Yeah, no, yeah.
02:27It's my first time in school.
02:29I never got into a school photograph or I'm so quiet, so shy.
02:34I, you know, really kept to myself.
02:36But since Nicole died, I don't know what happened.
02:39Like, you know, I'm just able to speak up and I'm fine for what I want.
02:46Yeah, I can.
02:47I'm too small.
02:48Oh, look.
02:49Oh, wow.
02:50Look at that.
03:14There's so many different people here that are going to spread Coco's Law out in
03:21into so many places.
03:23I'm just going to do my best.
03:25I don't want to put a lot of pressure on, like, stumbling or making a mistake.
03:29You know, if I make a mistake, I'm only human.
03:31And I'm a mammy, a heartbroken mammy that wasn't planning on sitting in front of, you know, in a room
03:38like this.
03:38So, you know, I'm only human.
03:40So, I'm just going to do my best.
03:41So, I'm just going to do my best.
03:42That's all.
03:42That's all I can do.
03:44Wow.
03:45Do you know what?
03:45Thank you so much for this to go out in so many languages and so many countries.
03:50It's just, pfft, mind blown.
03:54It really is.
03:55It's just the beginning, hopefully.
04:05This is Cole's room, the way she, the way she left it.
04:12Sometimes when I turn on the lamp, which I'm going to do now, and sometimes it doesn't happen, but I
04:19do talk to her at night, and as I said, sometimes it doesn't happen, but sometimes the light flickers and
04:30flashes, so it kind of gives me a bit of comfort that she is here.
04:37Nicole's bed. This here is the housecoat that, when we walked into the hall and found Nicole, Nicole was wearing
04:46this housecoat. It's cut. As you can see, the ambulance men had to cut it off her, but it still
04:53has her smell on it, and I'm there.
04:57It's a flicker.
04:58Well, yeah, he'll probably get it. There you go.
05:01But he knows we're talking about it.
05:10Nicole, she was funny. She was bubbly. She had such a great personality. She loved to sing and dance. She'd
05:18sing her heart out.
05:23She was absolutely shocking, that singing, but didn't care. She just loved to sing and dance.
05:37My self and the girl did everything together. You know, she was like my little shadow. She was my best
05:41friend. She was always with me.
05:44What can make me feel this way, my girl? You're my remedy for the answer.
05:53I knew straight away when the bullying started, and that was when she turned 18 and she went down to
05:58a nightclub.
06:03They started to put cigarette butts out onto her skin.
06:09One day, Nicole was coming out of the bathroom, and one of the girls walked towards Nicole, and she knocked
06:14her so hard into the corner of the table, and they dislocated Nicole's hip.
06:21They made fake profile page as well on Facebook called Saoirse.
06:26Every day, they told her, everyone hates you. Are you still here? Are you not dead yet?
06:32But it was the mental abuse, the online abuse that got deeper and deeper and deeper into Nicole's head.
06:40It's her perfume. I spray her bed every morning with her perfume so I can smell her then every time
06:47I walk in the room. It feels like she's here.
06:52And in here are photographs of Nicole and with her family.
07:02I knew how much they were getting to her, and I knew that something was going to happen with Nicole.
07:09I knew she wasn't going to grow up, and I didn't know when or how, but I knew they would
07:16get to her.
07:19One night I walked into her room, and she was crying, and she said to me, Ma'am, I can't
07:26do this anymore.
07:30And she said to me that, Ma'am, I wouldn't be here. I would kill myself a long time ago
07:36only for, I don't want to hurt you.
07:43I told her how devastated I would be if she left me. She knew that, but she just couldn't find
07:55a way to stay.
08:02We came back to the house. Nothing was on my mind. And I opened the hall door. I didn't, I
08:09don't know, I didn't scream or rot. I don't know.
08:14It was like a howl from the bottom of my stomach. It was the weirdest noise you could, it just
08:21wasn't human.
08:22And I was begging her, saying, please go, don't leave me. Don't go.
08:31On the early hours of Saturday morning, Nicole's heartbeats started going erratic, and her blood pressure was all over the
08:41place.
08:41And the nurse that was minding Nicole with me in intensive care, she come over and she shook her hand
08:49on my shoulder.
08:50And she just said real quietly, it's time.
08:55I got up on the bed, I lay down with Nicole and I was kissing her and I was rubbing
09:01her cheek and rubbing her hair.
09:02I just said to her, just let go, babbie.
09:06The last words, the very last words I got to say to her was, er, I love your Coco Bops.
09:13And then she died. She died at 5.26, Saturday morning.
09:26It's, the missing her is just horrendous. Not seeing her smile or not hear her face, it's just, it's unbearable.
09:37Everything that should have been is gone.
09:44I needed something to get up for the next morning.
09:51As weird as that sounds, I had my boys and I had my family, but it wasn't enough at that
09:58time.
09:59You know, I felt so perilous. Even though I had everything on the phone, all the messages, the videos, everything
10:06on the phone.
10:07The guards turned around and said that they did nothing wrong.
10:11There was no legislation for the online bullying.
10:13There was nothing, absolutely nothing to protect anyone from, from getting torn apart online.
10:22I got into survival mode or something, just to get me up out of bed.
10:27So what I decided to do was, I'll do something about it. I'll, I'll bring in the law.
10:32I'll bring in and change it so, you know, so no one else will have to go through a call.
10:38And sure, no one else would have to feel what I was feeling.
10:43I hadn't a clue how to do any of this. I, I, I, I, all I knew was I needed
10:49a focus.
10:50I needed a plan to, to get me up out of bed every day and not go with Nicole.
11:00I had a protest outside Leinster House with a load of people.
11:12I had a march through Dublin city and a lot of people brought a single pink bloom for coal.
11:19I'm happy so far with the, the amount of people that have turned out and this can benefit so many
11:26people.
11:34I wasn't really getting anywhere with the TDs. I remember one of them, I can't remember who I was, but
11:39I'm, I'm like five foot and he was tearing over me and he was looking down and, and I told
11:43him I needed legislation brought in to make online bullying a criminal offence.
11:47And he just kind of laughed like that's not going to happen. That really, really annoyed me because I'm, I'm,
11:54I'm here trying to survive, getting out of bed every morning to try and bring in something.
11:58And then you have someone just telling you, no, that's not going to happen. It did give me the fire
12:03in my belly to even try harder.
12:05We just keep continuing this until we get Coco's Law passed. Thank you so much.
12:18I got on every radio station I could find every TV programme, every newspaper.
12:29I've got loads of messages in from people saying, this is happening to my auntie, my daughter, my son, you
12:36know, tons and tons of messages.
12:37Go, go, go. Come on, we want it. Now.
12:40When we met Jackie, Jackie was tired, very, very tired. She was pushing this on her own.
12:46So we took to the streets with Jackie and Jackie's story is what just won the hearts of people.
12:53Hi, I'm Jackie Fox and I'm speaking on behalf of my daughter, Nicole Fox, who's no longer here.
13:00March for Justice came at the perfect time when I thought, maybe this isn't going to happen.
13:06It's just finding the right people at the right time. And I did.
13:23I got in contact with a couple of TDs. I eventually got a meeting in the AV room in Leinster
13:29House.
13:31In those meetings, you might have one TD that'll come or two or none. So it was just to see
13:38who turned up in the day.
13:40And weirdly enough, there was a good few people from different parties.
13:45I knew that was the day that I had to, I had to get into their heads or it wasn't,
13:51it wasn't, if I couldn't win them over, I, you know, it probably wouldn't have went anywhere.
13:57I'm not going to get Nicole back. Nicole's never coming back. But there is a lot of other people going
14:05to take her place.
14:07There's a lot of other families going to take my place. If you could amend and update the law now
14:14and for it to be called Coco's Law, it might be, I feel like I've done something for her.
14:21How do we want? Coco's Law! How do we want it?
14:24I kept going with meetings after meetings and eventually had a meeting with Brendan Howland.
14:32Jackie, she came into my office in Leinster House and she's not a huge woman, but when she starts to
14:38talk, you listen.
14:40She knew what she wanted to achieve in layman's terms. She wanted to make sure that there was criminal law
14:45to protect vulnerable people like Nicole.
14:47But I said there's two things I wanted. One was the legislation, but the other thing that was just as
14:53important to me was I needed it to be called Coco's Law.
14:58So she just didn't die because of unnecessary bullying. I needed her legacy as well.
15:04I said, into myself, I said, this is going to be damn difficult because it's unprecedented.
15:09There's no law that I have seen ever going through the Dáil that is called after an individual.
15:17And the one thing that is hardest to get done in the Oireachtas is to create new precedent.
15:25I had a petition on the Let's Bring In Coco's Law page. I'm glad pestering wasn't a law because if
15:34it was, I would have been done for it because I, I, for everyone I'm saying, look, just keep sharing,
15:40just keep sharing.
15:40I must have drove people mental.
15:42Hi, just a quick video. As you know, we are handing in just under 35,000 signatures to bring in
15:52Coco's Law.
15:53We are going to be outside Leinster House. There's going to be TDs there and all the media is going
15:59to be there.
16:00I'd love to see as many people that can come in and support us. We have to push this through.
16:10We are going to call Jackie Fox up to the stands, first of all. Thank you very much.
16:22Are you getting there? No. I'm going to be sick. You'll be OK.
16:27I'm just going to start off telling you about my daughter Nicole, who died by suicide, aged 21.
16:35This is my daughter Mia. She was 16 years old when she took her own life. We really need this
16:41law to be passed as soon as possible. There are too many children dying.
16:56We haven't updated the law in relation to harmful communications. And that's a very bland phrase. It is online torture.
17:07And we haven't updated that since texting was invented. This bill, hopefully, when it's enacted, will actually bear Coco's name
17:18to become Coco's Law.
17:21That was the day that everything just changed.
17:25I'm trying not to get too excited, but I really believe that it is going to be a priority. So
17:30get it in, get it in now.
17:32And don't wait for more people to die. Don't let anyone else suffer the way we're suffering.
17:37I didn't think I could bring in a law. I was doing this to survive, to give me a focus
17:43to stay here.
17:44I want to say to Jackie Fox, Coco didn't die in vain.
17:50And it is only through the campaigning of her devastated mother that this bill is being brought to the Dáil
17:55and the Sianna today.
17:56Because Coco is a beautiful young woman with her whole life ahead of her. And when she needed the protection
18:01of this state, it wasn't there. And that changes today.
18:05As a result, this bill can be referred to as Coco's Law.
18:09I started to hear all the ministers and the TDs live in the Dáil saying, Coco's Law, Coco's Law, Coco
18:15this.
18:15And I started getting nervous then, thinking, oh, this can actually work.
18:23OK, guys. I had great news to tell you. That I was dying to tell you. And it was so
18:31hard to keep it in.
18:32I had ten days to go. And I was saying, right, Coco, I have it. Nothing can go wrong.
18:37And I looked at Facebook and seeing that Helen McEntee was taking Coco's name over.
18:45This is what I've been campaigning for. For three years. Not for me. For the people that need Coco's Law.
18:54But for Coco's legacy, too.
19:01The Minister of Justice Helen McEntee has said it is not possible to legally change the title of the bill
19:09to Coco's Law in memory of Nicole.
19:12Helen McEntee got her secretary to ring me and arrange a meeting. She also announced that week that she was
19:19pregnant.
19:24I knew who Jackie was. I knew what had happened to Nicole. I'd heard her speak. I'd seen her speak.
19:30We just hadn't met in person.
19:31And it was probably, I'd say, the most emotional meeting I've had in my whole time in politics.
19:41I brought four photographs in to the meeting. I took one of the photographs out and it was a baby
19:47scan.
19:48And I said, there's where you are. You're pregnant. You have your baby scan. And there's Nicole's baby scan.
19:55The second photograph I put down was Nicole's christening.
20:01The third photograph I put down was Cole in her communion dress.
20:08The fourth photograph I put down was a photograph I've never seen before, never ever wanted to see.
20:14And that was Nicole laid out in her coffin.
20:21Jackie brought photos of Nicole and, you know, we just talked about Nicole and who she was and...
20:30How difficult it was for her, you know, as a mum to watch her child go through that and why
20:35it was so important to her to have this law and to pass this law and to do everything that
20:40she possibly could to make sure that she wasn't, that somebody else didn't go through the pain that she was
20:44going through.
20:45At the end, I remember just me and Helen just stared at each other, what seemed like for ages, but
20:51it wouldn't have been.
20:51And she just, she just nodded her head. I just said, thank you. I hadn't a clue why I was
20:57thanking her, but I knew she got me.
21:00What was hugely important to Jackie was that Coco was remembered in this bill in some way.
21:06And what we did was make sure that in the opening stages of the bill, there was a note referring
21:12to Nicole, who she was, that this was in her memory and obviously acknowledging the work that her mum had
21:17done.
21:18Today is going to be a huge day. Today is the final, last day of Coco's Law.
21:29On the 28th of December 2020, Coco's Law was signed into the Irish Statue Books, which will be there for,
21:38for ever and ever and ever.
21:40No one else has a memorandum with a person's name on it. So she gave me Cole's memorandum as well.
21:46Today's a very special day as we mark the enactment and the signing into law of Coco's Law.
21:53I'm going to sign this now and it will officially ensure that this can be enacted and can be used
22:02by members of Angarda Shia Khanna.
22:07If this law was around while Nicole was suffering, these are the parts that could have saved her life.
22:14A person who distributes or sends any grossly offensive communications to another person with intent to cause harm is guilty.
22:23A person intends to cause harm where he or she interferes with the other person's peace or causes distress.
22:33A person who is guilty is liable for a Class A fine or imprisonment.
22:40Because of Coco's Law, the option to include offences relating to sharing or threatening to share intimate images was also
22:48introduced.
22:50An awareness campaign has been launched to highlight that threatening to share intimate images of another person is a crime.
22:57The ad campaign follows the enactment of Coco's Law, which was introduced in 2021,
23:02following the death of Nicole Coco Fox, who took her own life after being relentlessly bullied online.
23:09I have seldom seen a publicity campaign around a piece of legislation that is so impactive.
23:29I had to live with the shame of knowing a video of me having sex with someone existed.
23:34I didn't know who had seen it. I didn't know how many times it had been seen.
23:37To this day, I still have never actually seen the video, but I know that it's out there,
23:42and that's something I'm going to have to live with for the rest of my life.
23:44Hotline is now live where people can report images, videos, anything you get sent that you feel isn't right.
23:52You can also speak to the Gardaí. This is now a crime. There is legislation there.
24:00If it wasn't for Jackie working on that legislation, I honestly don't know when or how legislation would have come
24:06in.
24:07But with the creation of Coco's Law, it criminalised the sharing, the taking and the threatening to share.
24:12And that's the thing. I don't know if people realise the true effect Jackie has had.
24:21When I was campaigning, I gave Coco out to everyone. The media, the newspaper, everyone. I gave Coco away.
24:31It was a bittersweet moment. I had to lose Nicole for other people to gain, but the bitter side was
24:39I was never going to...
24:40I wasn't going to get Cole back.
24:44The first year of Nicole dying was the easiest because you're in a blur.
24:52It's only after that when you realise then that when reality kicks in and, you know, she's not coming.
24:59Like, she's not coming home.
25:05I didn't care about the law. I didn't care. I got it in, so what? It didn't change for me.
25:10I started to grieve for Nicole then, and that was, that was so difficult.
25:20I wanted to die.
25:23When the ghost law was passed, it was like, I can go with it now.
25:28I stopped eating. I shut everyone away. Didn't want anyone near me. Didn't go about to bed.
25:35And it wasn't until my best friend Gary, he was in the background helping me.
25:41But he knew when the law was passed, that's when I needed the help.
25:50I'll never forget this for as long as I live.
25:52I took my phone now. The first thing I saw was Nicole.
25:58And I cried.
26:02And then I was, I was presented with this small, incredibly brave woman.
26:09I couldn't believe what she was trying to do.
26:14It completely blew my mind. So I was hook, line and sinker. I was in.
26:20I lost my daughter when I was 17, and it destroyed me.
26:26So I knew how important it would be for Jackie just to have a couple of ears, a couple of
26:32big shoulders.
26:36And she opened up about loneliness. She opened up about feeling empty.
26:44And I offered to help her.
26:53I'm quite, I'm quite taken aback by how emotional that was. Jackie does this all the time.
27:00Not all the time, like every day she goes to the beach, but if she sees a beach and for
27:05the last, Jackie you tell them.
27:07For the last year and a half, I never just write Nicole. I always write Nicole, Nicole and Megan.
27:13Because I know our two babies are looking down on us.
27:17Myself and Jackie embarked on this mission.
27:22And I've never seen such an appetite, such want and willingness for change.
27:34He's the one that taught me that it's okay to smile and it's okay to laugh while still missing Nicole
27:44at the same time.
27:47Gary says to me, what are you looking for? And I said, just some kind of normal.
27:52I don't want to be doing cartwheels and somersaults and having a great life.
27:56I just wanted some kind of normal.
27:58And he said, close your eyes and hold out your hand.
28:02And I closed my eyes and I held out my hand and he said, I'm going to put my hand
28:06out.
28:06I said, please take my hand. I'm standing on a train and the train is pulling away.
28:11And he said, I promise you, if you take my hand and pull off with this train, I'll give you
28:16some kind of normal.
28:17And every day since then, we talk, we meet up.
28:23He's just, he saved me.
28:29Jackie's just after telling me, it's a year today, Jackie, since Coco Law was passed.
28:32A year today, that's just unbelievable. I don't know where that year is after going.
28:36I feel incredibly privileged to be a part of it.
28:40So you're checking herself out in the mirror then.
28:43If you had two pairs of lips, you'd kiss yourself.
28:47I wanted to try and give her something that could maybe distract her.
28:50So very slapdash, I just threw the phone or the camera at Jackie.
28:54I said, take a picture.
28:57And very quickly, this is the incredible sponge that Jackie is.
29:01She absorbs, she wants to know, she wants to learn, she wants to help.
29:06So I said, this is the real, see that grid.
29:09Try and get something on that line on the left there.
29:11Jackie being Jackie, takes her time, composes this shot, hits the button and it's a banger.
29:17Look, it's a beautiful photograph.
29:25Just because Coco's Law is complete now and finished, it doesn't mean that I'm going to stop there.
29:31The main European Parliament in Brussels got in touch with a group in England and they did a documentary with
29:38me.
29:40The main guys in Brussels want to bring Coco's Law into every European country.
29:48I'm not sure if I'm more nervous going to Brussels to talk to some of the main people in the
29:54European Parliament or the thoughts of flying.
30:01We came across the story of Coco and how Jackie Fox changed the law in Ireland.
30:10And it is one of the most extraordinary stories I've ever come across.
30:15It was phenomenal then that she was genuinely excited about the idea, is this a message that we could take
30:23to Europe?
30:23Can we find some synergy? Can we find some energy amongst MEPs in Europe?
30:28Can we use that story?
30:31Can we touch people's hearts and say, this is happening, this is happening to our children in Europe and do
30:36something about it?
30:39OK, thank you guys for everything. Thank you for having me here today. It's an honour for me to be
30:45here also.
30:46I never, ever knew what sadness was until I had to watch my beautiful baby girl take her last breaths.
30:57If Coco's Law went Europe wide, think of how many lives you could save.
31:03Sadly, I lost my daughter so other people can now gain protection.
31:08To call it Coco's Law will make me the proudest ma'am in the world.
31:19So I just want to say thank you so much.
31:23Thank you.
31:36I tell you there are moments in doing politics where you don't find the right words to answer.
31:43And this is one of these moments. And you bring your story with the idea, never again, never again, please
31:49do something again.
31:50Thank you so much for being here. And you can count on the EPP's support. Thank you so much.
31:56My mum always said to me, you might be the size of a Jack Russell, but you bark like a
32:03Rottweiler. So I had to use that as well.
32:08I don't expect anyone in the room to know how I'm feeling, because they're not walking in my shoes.
32:15You know, they haven't lost someone probably by suicide. They can save so many people by bringing in this law.
32:21And it can be done.
32:23What Jackie did was able to put emotion into policy. And that we don't hear of, unfortunately enough.
32:30And I have no doubt we'll bring in Coco's Law across the 27 member states. Absolutely she will do that.
32:40I'm okay. I'm just so warm and just a bit dizzy. But it's just the heat. But no, I'll be
32:49okay when I get up there like I do.
32:51I often think if there was a law in Ireland when Nicole was going through this horrific bullying, would she
32:58be here today?
33:00But she had nothing to protect her. No law to help her. Nowhere to turn.
33:06If Coco's Law went Europe wide, think of how many lives could be saved.
33:12I would like to just express how thankful we are for your bravery and for the law that you're pushing
33:21upon all of Europe.
33:23Because it is a real problem and we can see it every day. I mean, we are of that age.
33:32My everyday work that I do, I would talk in schools to get students and all to understand social media
33:40can be great, but it can also kill.
33:42The most important thing is to speak out. If people don't know what's going on, they can't help you.
33:56In that moment when you're actually taking a photo, you think of nothing else.
34:01So everything that's gone on and that goes around in my head all the time and that I think about
34:06all the time,
34:07I lose that just for those seconds where I'm focusing and, you know, taking a picture.
34:14It's just all about the picture at that moment.
34:17And it's just something different in my head than what I've been doing for the last five and a half
34:23years.
34:32After Brussels, I was invited to fly to Strasbourg to speak in front of the main representatives that could help
34:40introduce Kogel's Law into Europe.
34:46How many people have been appalled? No, we don't want that.
34:50Yeah, we got rid of that. So where was that number?
34:52Oh, we got rid of that all together, didn't we?
34:54Yep. Right, sorry. All together.
34:56We've arrived in Strasbourg. We're preparing for the speech for tomorrow.
35:02Really nervous. It is exciting. I think the time-wise is a bit tricky.
35:10Two minutes. Yeah, two minutes we have, but I think we can do it.
35:15To be given two minutes by the...
35:18..with Madam President there, with the chairman of the EPP party there,
35:22over 300 MEPs, yeah, almost half of the parliament,
35:27then you've got a chance to change the law.
35:30You know, tomorrow is such an important day for us all,
35:35but the most important thing that comes out of it for me is that I know Nicole will be beaming
35:44down with pride.
35:46She'll be so, so very... I don't want to say any more.
35:55See, that's the part that hits me.
35:59And I think...
36:00I always said I never wanted her to be forgotten.
36:04Sure.
36:05And I'm doing that, but...
36:07You know, anything...
36:09Anything that's coming up is still a huge bittersweet moment.
36:14It'll always be bittersweet for me.
36:16You know, no matter what happens,
36:18no matter what comes in,
36:20at the end of the day I still go home without Nicole.
36:25You know, and the only thing I have left...
36:32is for her to be proud of me,
36:35for what I'm doing for her.
36:36And that's important.
36:39Sorry.
36:48One night, well, many nights, I just... I couldn't... I just couldn't take it anymore, you know.
36:54I just miss Nicole so much.
36:56And, you know, just wanted to hug her, talk to her.
37:00And, you know, the feelings were just so strong to go with Nicole.
37:07I got a phone call from my cousin.
37:10And I hadn't heard from my cousin for about two and a half years.
37:13And I was saying, why is she ringing me now?
37:16And it was weird, because my cousin said to me,
37:18Jackie, whatever you're thinking, stop it now.
37:23She had a dream, but she said it was a visit.
37:26Because it was so vivid.
37:28And she said, Nicole was in the sitting room,
37:30and she said, no, ma'am, we don't want you up here now.
37:34You've got too much work to do.
37:37I don't know if it's a path that's laid out for you,
37:40or, you know, Nicole knows up there, like, what has to be done.
37:44I don't know.
37:47Woo! Parliament European.
37:50Watch out, Jackie Fox is coming.
37:53Here we are at the European Parliament in Strasbourg.
38:10I get lost in the car park.
38:13Never mind in a big building like this.
38:16In my memory, and I have worked in the European Parliament quite a long time,
38:20I don't remember any one individual coming and doing what you've done.
38:24Don't be intimidated.
38:27Oh!
38:28So this is our meeting.
38:30Oh.
38:34Oh, my tongue is sticking to my teeth, I can't.
38:39Have you found your piece yet?
38:44With losing coat? With losing coat?
38:47No.
38:48I don't know.
38:49I never will.
38:50Do you know?
38:50I think that one, the missing Nicole will never ever go.
38:56I just, I miss her so much.
38:59I'll miss her forever.
39:00This is huge.
39:02And I'll be sitting in green.
39:04And very important to people around you.
39:07The energy that I feel of Nicole is just incredible.
39:11I know she's here.
39:13I know she's with me.
39:14I can feel my hair just lifting, even though no one else can see it.
39:19I just feel her all around me.
39:22So I know, I know she's going to be right beside me up there, cheering me on, saying,
39:28You have Jaggers.
39:31Hi.
39:32Hi.
39:32Nice to meet you.
39:33Nice to meet you, too.
39:34Thank you.
39:37Here I am, a grieving ma'am, humbly before you, the lawmakers.
39:43So grateful to be given this moment, so touched by your kindness, but urging you to please act now.
39:53It's time, it's time for Coco's Law for Europe.
39:57Thank you so much.
40:13Jackie Fox is a true European hero.
40:17She turned tragedy into determination and grief into action.
40:23What we have seen in Ireland with the adoption of Coco's Law is something that should be done, if you
40:29ask me, across the whole of the European Union.
40:38To be called a European hero by the number one Madame President, it's just incredible. It's just amazing, really.
40:49This should be the spark then to take it to the next level.
40:53Jackie will be able to sit and watch Coco's Law being debated across the whole parliament to be taken to
41:00the whole of Europe.
41:02But it can't really get more profound than that.
41:07And a responsibility for you, Frau Fox, to welcome us today and to thank you for your initiative.
41:22Every 10th young man, between 10 and 19, was a victim of cyber mobbing.
41:27Every 3rd one knows a victim.
41:28This is a mass epidemic, which has the hardest consequences for the mental health of children and young people, up
41:34to the suicide.
41:35We'll talk about things like they are.
41:39Cyber bullying is a crime.
41:42The future that Nicole Fox never had was a crime.
41:49Online bullying will not stop without legal consequences.
41:53EU legislation on cyber violence and cyber bullying cannot wait.
41:57And I ask you all to please ensure Coco's Law is put in place throughout our EU, in the name
42:03Coco Law, for Jackie and the spirit of her daughter Nicole.
42:07And I ask you all to tell her that Nicole should have had the future and stuff like it, it
42:18just hit me hard, you know.
42:22But everyone seems to really be committed to bringing in Coco's Law, so, you know, it's looking really good.
42:32Bittersweet, right?
42:33Oh, that's...
42:34That's...
42:35That's...
42:35Bittersweet.
42:36You have it exactly.
42:37That's exactly what it is.
42:39I know.
42:39I...
42:40You get it.
42:42Yeah.
42:43That is...
42:43That's the...
42:44The bittersweet that I tried to...
42:46I know.
42:46...tried to get across, you know.
42:48I mean, it's...
42:49Oh, it's great.
42:50It's great for everyone, but...
42:52I don't have gold, I know.
42:55The honest truth, if somebody said, what would you want for Jackie Fox, I would want the thing that
43:00I can't give her and it would be peace.
43:15Wexford is so important to me because it was a happy place.
43:22We came down here when Nicole was eight, spending from the age of eight to 21 down here.
43:31Such, such happy memories in Wexford.
43:34Jumping off the pier, straight across from us, going to the beach, crab fishing.
43:39We played this game with them, just so we'd get rid of them for an hour.
43:44So we used to play a treasure hunt.
43:48They'd be all in our group and they'd be all chatting, they'd be all exciting.
43:50Who's going to win?
43:51Who's going to win?
43:54Everyone looked up to her.
43:55Like, all the friends thought Nicole was great, you know what I mean?
43:58And she was the great friend and you'd see them come down.
44:00Nicole would always be in the front and they'd be all around her.
44:02To see her walking down now, down the road, whether it's on her own or with her friends, I would,
44:09you know, I'd, I would, you know, I'd do anything to see her coming back down that road.
44:23I want every memory of Nicole.
44:26I want all the fun memories.
44:27I want every memory, but I can't get them.
44:30I just, they're in there.
44:32I don't know whether it's just so painful to let them out or maybe they just, I'm just not ready.
44:37Maybe they just should be in there until I'm ready to deal with other stuff that's, that's in my head.
44:45I don't know, but I know there's a bundle of fun and a bundle of memories in the back of
44:50my head and I'm just not ready to, to, to, to let them out yet.
44:58I didn't want this.
45:02I was thrown into a situation, thrown into a horrific situation where I just went with survival mode.
45:16I focus on survival. I focus on living. I focus on now.
45:29Where's the waves gone?
45:32That didn't go according to plan.
45:37I'm coping. That's, that's all I am. I am, I am coping. I, as I told you, I couldn't move
45:45on, but I have moved forward a bit. There's like your grief will always stay the same size, but there's
45:51other things. There's more room to breathe around it.
45:58I do a lot of talks in schools, colleges, you reach, parent talks. I felt like this is my path
46:07now that I'm on, that I need to let everyone know what Coco's Law is and the devastating effects of
46:16suicide and what bullying can do.
46:31School children who know very little about the law are aware of Coco's Law because it impacts on them so
46:38readily, so clearly and so powerfully.
46:41and that's all an enormous legacy to the wonderful Nicole and the tenacity, ferocity and determination of her beloved mother.
46:57Jacky will never understand how many people she's helped. We get calls day in, day out of people saying thank
47:03you so much to Jacky Fox.
47:07Jacky wanted Coco's name to live on and it is. And I always will.
47:12Jacky, thanks for everything you do. You're the most incredible person I've ever been with.
47:35Jacky made a promise to Nicole. You'll never be forgotten.
47:44And I said, that's a big promise to make. I didn't know whether Jacky should have made that promise. My
47:53God, she smashed it. My God.
48:02I brought two screwdrivers just to make sure. I think just every year I'm going to just change a new
48:10one because with the winter, the sea, the salt, it's just gone so dull.
48:16And, er, yeah, no, I just wanted to keep her fresh because this is the place I go to.
48:20Nicole was glamorous and she loved her little bling and all, so we're giving her a big blingy shiny one
48:26today.
48:31Aw. I'm so happy with her.
48:38Hi.
48:40I'm so happy with you.
48:43Come on, I'm so happy.
48:45I'm so happy with you.
48:46Let's go home.
48:47Come on, let's go home.
48:47Come on.
48:49Let's go home.
48:50We're back.
49:01Let's go home.
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