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00:00Stand for the reading of God's Word. Turn with me to Ephesians chapter 5, verses 25, 26, and 28.
00:08As today we began a new exciting sermon series titled,
00:12What Every Man Wants in a Woman and What Every Woman Wants in a Man.
00:18This is going to be an exciting sermon series.
00:23Take a heart tablet, hang on to your hat,
00:26buckle your seatbelts, and let the fun begin.
00:31This series is for people who are married,
00:34for people who want to be married,
00:37and for people who are sorry they're married.
00:41These sermons come from a survey of thousands of church members and television viewers
00:47so that we can capsulize what the nation needs to hear.
00:53Our survey said there are 10 things that men want in a marriage.
01:00I'll get to it in just a moment.
01:02I'll give you several things,
01:04and then the men's list you can get in this book,
01:08What a Man Wants in a Woman.
01:11This is a book I wrote several years ago.
01:13You can have one of these by contacting us at johnhageyministries.org.
01:19Also today, I'll ask the question,
01:22Has your marriage lost its sizzle?
01:25Don't raise your hand.
01:29And how to get it back.
01:31We will also cover entering into marriage with high expectations and low preparation.
01:38Today, I want to give you a list of unfair questions women ask men.
01:44Also, love secrets every man must know.
01:49They're in the book, in the Bible, and in this book.
01:53Let's read Ephesians 5 and 25 and following.
01:58Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her,
02:04that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word.
02:09So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies.
02:14He who loves his wife loves himself.
02:21Let's pray.
02:23Our most gracious Heavenly Father, creator of heaven and earth,
02:27creator of the Garden of Eden,
02:29where you placed a man and a woman together for the first time
02:34for the purpose of having a family,
02:36You created the family as the cornerstone of every nation.
02:42And when the family fails, the nation fails.
02:47The family in America is failing.
02:51Fathers have abandoned their children.
02:53Public schools have abandoned the word of God.
02:57Universities have become the garden even for communism and anti-Semitism.
03:03The moral compass of our forefathers,
03:07taken from the word of God in 1776,
03:12has been cast aside for secular humanism
03:16that rejects the authority of God's word.
03:20Holy Spirit of God, anoint this sermon series
03:24to bring us back to the way, the truth, and the life.
03:29In Jesus' name, we pray and ask these things,
03:34and all of God's children said, Amen.
03:37You may be seated.
03:40The question is, are you ready for the number one item
03:44the surveys come in from men?
03:47This was their response.
03:49Give me a woman who has a love for Jesus Christ.
03:54Jesus said in Matthew 22, 37,
03:57You should love the Lord your God with all of your heart,
04:00with all of your soul, with all of your mind.
04:03This is your first and greatest commandment.
04:07Mister, a young man,
04:10listen to this listening audience across America.
04:13If you're dating a woman who has no love for Jesus Christ,
04:18end it today.
04:19End it today.
04:25Get your instruction from St. Paul, 1 Corinthians 6, 14.
04:30Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
04:34For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness,
04:38and what communion has light with darkness?
04:41Come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord.
04:45So, young man, if you're dating that young woman
04:48who mocks the message of Jesus Christ,
04:51say goodbye.
04:55Secondly, what does a man want from a woman?
04:58And the survey said he wants sexual fulfillment.
05:03Don't turn up your nose.
05:05Most of you are here because of that.
05:10You have heard me say there are three things in marriage,
05:15three stages in marriage,
05:17lust, rust, and dust.
05:21Which phase are you in?
05:24Don't raise your hand.
05:25Which phase are you in?
05:28The story is told of a woman who took her husband to a doctor,
05:32and she told the doctor,
05:34he's lifeless, he has no fire,
05:37he has no passion,
05:39our marriage has lost its sizzle.
05:42I need for you to help me.
05:43The doctor examined the husband
05:45and sent the husband out
05:47and brought the wife in his office,
05:49and the doctor said,
05:50all your husband really needs
05:52is three square meals a day
05:54and a normal sex life,
05:56and he'll be fine.
05:57She stormed out,
05:58she slammed the office door,
06:00driving home.
06:02Her Caesar milquetoast husband asked her,
06:05what did the doctor say?
06:07She snarled and said,
06:08he said,
06:09you're going to die.
06:17People say,
06:18Pastor Hagee,
06:18God's not interested in sex that sizzles.
06:21Really?
06:22You obviously don't read the Bible
06:24because it is a very sexy book
06:27from Genesis 1 and 1
06:29to the last chapter.
06:31Sex is God's idea.
06:33Sex is not just for procreation.
06:36Sex is the symphony of the soul
06:38for married couples.
06:40Sex in the Bible is joyous.
06:43It is a time that is tender and holy
06:45and should be as natural
06:47as drinking a glass of water.
06:50Don't raise your hand.
06:53The Bible.
06:54The Bible written by the hand
06:56of the Holy Spirit says,
06:57marriage is honorable
06:59in all things
07:00and the bed is undefiled.
07:03That's Hebrews 13 and 4.
07:06Hebrews 13 and 4.
07:09Consider God's creation of Adam and Eve.
07:12God created Adam and said,
07:14it is not good that man should be alone.
07:16Adam went to sleep
07:18and woke up married.
07:19Enough to make an insomniac out of you.
07:23God took one of his ribs
07:25and made a perfect partner for him
07:27and called Eve.
07:29She was mysterious
07:30and majestic creature
07:32called woman
07:34because God is sovereign.
07:36Your wife is your perfect partner
07:38and you are to love her
07:40as Christ loved the church
07:42and gave himself for it.
07:44And all the women said,
07:46amen.
07:48And all the women said,
07:50amen.
07:51There you are.
07:52Two reasons God created Eve.
07:54God knew that Adam
07:55would always be lost in the garden
07:58and wouldn't ever ask anyone
08:00for directions
08:02and admit he was lost.
08:05Or in the theater of your mind,
08:07see God the matchmaker
08:09as he brings Eve
08:12down the grassy slopes
08:14of the Garden of Eden.
08:16She's a perfect tin.
08:17She's absolutely naked
08:20and totally stunning.
08:23And Adam says,
08:24wow.
08:26Adam started singing
08:27that well-known gospel song,
08:30I just feel like something good
08:32is about to happen.
08:34God commanded them
08:36be fruitful and multiply.
08:38Adam said,
08:40that sounds good to me.
08:42He went into Eve
08:43and came back to God
08:45and said,
08:45God,
08:46what is a headache?
08:49The Bible is a book
08:50for lovers.
08:52Its pages are saturated
08:53with breathtaking love stories
08:55that leave nothing
08:57to your imagination.
08:59The greatest love story
09:01ever written
09:01is John 3.16.
09:03For God so loved the world
09:05that he gave
09:06his only begotten son
09:07that whoever believeth in him
09:09should not perish
09:10but have everlasting life.
09:13I assure you,
09:15he took our sickness
09:17and gave us perfect health.
09:20He took our fear
09:21and gave us peace
09:23that surpasses understanding.
09:25He took our poverty
09:27and made us kings
09:28and priests unto God.
09:30That, my friend,
09:32is a love story
09:33the world needs to hear.
09:40The Song of Solomon,
09:42chapter 1.
09:44Remember,
09:44this is written
09:45by the Holy Spirit,
09:47not by me.
09:49Solomon fell in love
09:50with a peasant girl,
09:52the Shulamite girl.
09:54In chapter 1,
09:56he sees her
09:56for the first time
09:58and describes her
09:59from her chin up
10:01because that's all
10:02he could see
10:03in those days.
10:05Women wore dress
10:06that actually reached
10:08the ground.
10:09One hundred years ago,
10:11it took a cotton gin
10:12all day
10:13to produce enough cotton
10:14to make a woman's dress.
10:16Today,
10:17a silkworm
10:18can do it
10:19on his lunch break.
10:23Here's it
10:24straight out of the Bible,
10:26the Song of Solomon.
10:27Remember,
10:28it's God's inspired word
10:30by the Holy Spirit.
10:31Chapter 1.
10:33The Bible says,
10:34let him kiss me
10:35with the kisses
10:35of his mouth,
10:36for your love
10:37is better than wine.
10:39The Bible story continues,
10:41the king has brought me
10:42into his bedchamber
10:44and he says,
10:45your cheeks
10:46are lovely
10:47with ornaments
10:47and your neck
10:49with chains of gold.
10:50She says,
10:51a bundle of myrrh
10:52is my beloved
10:53to me
10:54that lies all night
10:55between my breast.
10:58Be still my heart.
11:00The Bible reads,
11:02by night on my bed
11:03I sought the one
11:04I loved
11:05but did not find him.
11:07The husband
11:08got up and left.
11:10She said,
11:11I will arise
11:12and go about the city
11:13and when I find
11:14the one that I love,
11:16I held him
11:17and would not
11:17let him go
11:18until I brought him
11:19into the house
11:20of my mother
11:21and into the chamber
11:23of the lady
11:24who conceived me.
11:25She has her lover
11:27in her mother's bedroom
11:29and I guarantee you
11:31it was not
11:32to watch Fox News.
11:35I repeat,
11:37the Bible
11:37is a book for lovers.
11:38St. Paul writes
11:39in 1 Corinthians 7.3,
11:41let the husband
11:42render unto his wife
11:44due benevolence.
11:46What is due benevolence?
11:49What does that mean?
11:51Due benevolence
11:53means the payment
11:53of what is due.
11:55When you rent a house
11:56and the rent comes due,
11:58it's due benevolence.
12:00When you buy a car
12:01and the car payment
12:03is what's due,
12:04that's due benevolence.
12:06When you get married,
12:07sex is the payment
12:08of what is due benevolence.
12:11What's the difference
12:12between your honeymoon
12:13and your 50th wedding anniversary?
12:16What's the difference?
12:18The answer is
12:20on your honeymoon
12:21it was Niagara
12:21and on your 50th wedding anniversary
12:24it was Viagra.
12:33A wife said to her husband,
12:35she went to a marriage counselor,
12:37she was confessing
12:38her sex life
12:39had lost its sizzle.
12:40She said,
12:41he comes home,
12:42he flops in the easy chair,
12:43he reads the paper,
12:45he watches the television,
12:46he goes to sleep
12:47watching the news
12:49at 6 o'clock.
12:50The marriage counselor
12:51walks around the desk,
12:53passionately kissed
12:54the wife on the lips,
12:57looks fiercely
12:58at the couch potato
12:59she's married to,
13:00and he said,
13:02that's what she needs
13:04twice a week.
13:06And her Caesar
13:08milk toast husband said,
13:10great,
13:10I'll bring her in
13:12every Tuesday and Thursday
13:13at 10 o'clock.
13:16Jesus says,
13:18these two
13:18shall become
13:19one flesh.
13:20One flesh
13:21is the sexual union.
13:23One major problem
13:24in marriage harmony
13:25is sexual manipulation.
13:27It goes something
13:28like this,
13:29she says,
13:30buy me what I want
13:31and tonight
13:32our bedroom
13:33is going to sizzle.
13:35Otherwise,
13:35I'll wear my
13:37flannel nightgown
13:38with a padlock
13:39on the zipper.
13:41St. Paul writes,
13:431 Corinthians 7, 4,
13:45the wife does not
13:46have authority
13:47over her own body.
13:49Men,
13:49write this verse down
13:51because you'll forget it.
13:521 Corinthians 7, 4,
13:55I see you're reaching
13:56for your pens now.
13:58The wife does not
13:59have authority
14:00over her own body,
14:01but the husband does.
14:03And likewise,
14:05the husband does not
14:06have authority
14:07over his own body,
14:09the wife does.
14:10That means in the Bible
14:12there is mutual submission.
14:14Say that word with me.
14:16Mutual submission.
14:19You cannot manipulate
14:20your partner with sex.
14:22Manipulation is a form
14:24of witchcraft
14:25and manipulation
14:26in marriage
14:27is very common
14:28in America.
14:29Any married person
14:31who tries to manipulate
14:33his or her spouse
14:34with sex
14:35is practicing witchcraft.
14:37If you're doing that,
14:39stop it.
14:40Consider the problem
14:42of entering into marriage
14:44with high expectations
14:47with low preparation.
14:50In 68 years of ministry,
14:53I married hundreds of couples
14:55who walk down the aisle
14:57with high expectation
14:59and low preparation.
15:01The bride is glowing
15:04like an angel.
15:05Her face is radiant
15:06with joyous storybook
15:08expectations of marriage.
15:10She's about to speak
15:12into covenant.
15:13This is the pinnacle
15:14of her dreams.
15:16She holds Prince Charming
15:18by the hand,
15:19not knowing the real person
15:21is locked in a cage
15:22at home
15:23waiting to get out.
15:25Not knowing he is
15:27a hormone hurricane
15:30approaching category 5.
15:32Six months later,
15:34she's in my office.
15:35The tears are dripping
15:36off her cheeks.
15:37She's gasping
15:38with convulsive sobs.
15:40What did I ever see
15:41in this man?
15:42What did I ever see
15:44in this man?
15:45He's lazy.
15:46He's messy.
15:46He throws his clothes
15:48all over the house.
15:49He doesn't listen to me
15:50and all he wants
15:51is my body
15:52and those are his good points.
15:56It's shocking to me
15:57actually,
15:58unbelievable
15:58that the courthouse
16:00will give any human being
16:02with brains enough
16:03to find the front door
16:04a license to get married.
16:06Think about it.
16:07My father,
16:08who was a pastor
16:09for 50 years,
16:10has said,
16:11if you have a half a mind
16:12to get married,
16:13do it
16:13because that's all it takes.
16:17Getting married is easy.
16:20Staying married
16:21is another story.
16:22It's another matter.
16:28Success in marriage
16:29is more than finding
16:30the right person.
16:31Listen.
16:32It's a matter of being
16:34the right person.
16:42The unhappiness
16:44in some marriages
16:45is due to illness.
16:48They're both sick
16:49of each other.
16:52You will find happiness
16:54in marriage.
16:55You will not find happiness
16:57in marriage
16:58if you don't take happiness
16:59into marriage.
17:07I'll never be able
17:09to understand
17:09why husbands and wives
17:11are more courteous
17:12to strangers
17:13than they are
17:14to each other.
17:17I'm talking about
17:18high expectations
17:19and low preparation.
17:21Think about it.
17:23If you want
17:23a driver's license
17:24to operate a car,
17:26to learn how to put
17:28the key in the ignition
17:29and do brilliant things
17:31like stepping on the brakes
17:32or turning on
17:33the windshield wipers,
17:35you have to get
17:36a driver's education course
17:38that lasts for four months
17:40and costs several hundred dollars.
17:41before you can legally
17:43drive a car.
17:46If you're going
17:47to cut someone's hair,
17:48trim their nails,
17:49clean their teeth,
17:50you have to go
17:51to school somewhere
17:52to get a license
17:54to do that.
17:55But to get a license
17:56to be married
17:57that empowers you
17:58to create new life,
18:00to destroy your life
18:02and the lives
18:02of your children,
18:03a life,
18:04a license
18:05that can crush dreams
18:07and the hopes
18:08of your spouse,
18:09all you need
18:10is the brains
18:11enough to find
18:12the courthouse.
18:14I want to tell you
18:15something.
18:15That's not true
18:16at Cornerstone Church.
18:17If you're going
18:18to get married here,
18:19you're going to go
18:20through a six-week course
18:21of intense counseling
18:24given to you
18:24by our staff members
18:26both spring and fall.
18:28Do not ask
18:30for an exemption
18:31because getting married
18:32is sacred
18:33and serious.
18:34It's not a 90-day option.
18:36It is an eternal covenant
18:38and you're going
18:39to keep it.
18:46I asked a beautiful
18:47young lady
18:48just out of college
18:49who was sitting
18:50in my office
18:51gushing about
18:52the perfect marriage
18:53she was going
18:54to have.
18:56Well, let me tell you
18:57something.
18:57There's no such thing
18:58as a perfect marriage.
19:01So I asked her,
19:02I said,
19:03what kind of man
19:03would you like to marry?
19:04She joyfully responded.
19:07She said,
19:08well, I'd like to have
19:08a husband who can dance,
19:10who looks good
19:11and likes what I feed him.
19:15I looked at her
19:17and said,
19:17congratulations.
19:19You've just described
19:21Roy Rogers' horse.
19:24He can dance,
19:26he looks good
19:28and he eats oats.
19:32Men don't want
19:33a woman
19:33who asks unfair questions.
19:35Here are five questions
19:37that a woman
19:38should not ask.
19:39Question one,
19:40what are you thinking?
19:43The proper answer
19:45to this question,
19:46of course,
19:46is,
19:47I'm sorry
19:48if I've been pensive,
19:49dear,
19:50I was just reflecting
19:51on what a warm,
19:52wonderful,
19:53caring,
19:54loving,
19:54thoughtful,
19:55beautiful woman
19:56that you are.
19:58And how lucky
19:59I am to have you.
20:04You want to write
20:05that down,
20:06men,
20:06you're going to need that.
20:08This statement
20:09bears no resemblance
20:11whatsoever
20:11to what you were thinking,
20:13which is probably
20:15what the football game
20:16is going to start.
20:17What was your last
20:19golf score
20:20and what's for supper?
20:22Question number two,
20:23do you love me?
20:25The correct answer,
20:27of course,
20:27is yes.
20:29For those of you
20:31who need to be
20:32more eloquent,
20:33you may say,
20:34yes, dear,
20:35absolutely,
20:36without any doubt.
20:37Why are you asking?
20:40The wrong answer
20:42to the question,
20:43would it make you
20:44feel better
20:44if I said yes?
20:46Yes.
20:49Question number three,
20:52do not ask,
20:54do I look fat?
20:58She asked the question
21:00with buttons
21:00on her slacks,
21:02buried in a mountain
21:04of flesh,
21:05cellulite dimples,
21:07blind Bartimaeus
21:08could see.
21:10The correct male response
21:12to this emphatic state
21:14is no,
21:15of course not,
21:15and then quickly
21:17leave the room.
21:25Question number four,
21:28do you think
21:29she's prettier
21:30than me?
21:32Dear God.
21:35The she
21:36and the question
21:37could be
21:38an ex-girlfriend
21:4040 years removed,
21:43a passerby
21:44you were staring
21:45at so hard
21:46that almost cost
21:47a traffic accident.
21:50The correct response
21:51is absolutely not.
21:52No,
21:53you're much far,
21:54far more prettier
21:55than that.
21:56Men do like,
21:58do not like
21:59tattletale wives.
22:01Publicly praise
22:02your husband.
22:04Privately criticize him
22:06if it's necessary.
22:07Any other practice
22:09will start
22:10World War III
22:11in a nanosecond.
22:14Amen.
22:17This illustration,
22:18a man was speeding
22:19down the freeway
22:20when he was stopped
22:21by a police car
22:22and pulled over.
22:24The policeman said,
22:25do you realize
22:25you were going
22:2690 miles an hour
22:27in a 60 mile an hour
22:30times speeding zone?
22:33And the driver responded,
22:35that's impossible,
22:36I never break
22:37the speed limit.
22:38The driver's wife
22:39butts in
22:40and says,
22:40oh yes you do,
22:41I'm always telling you
22:42to keep your speed down.
22:45The policeman
22:46then says,
22:47well I also noticed
22:48sir that when you
22:49didn't have
22:49your seat belt on
22:51you put it on
22:52as I was walking
22:53up to your car.
22:54The driver said,
22:55that's not true sir,
22:56I always wear
22:57my seat belt.
22:59His tattletale wife
23:00butts in
23:01and says,
23:01oh no you don't,
23:02I'm always telling you
23:03to put on your seat belt.
23:06The husband explodes,
23:08you stupid woman,
23:10can't you just for once
23:11keep your mouth shut?
23:13And the policeman
23:14in a bit of shock
23:16at the driver's response,
23:18he walks to the driver's,
23:19to the wife's side
23:21of the car
23:21and said,
23:22does he often speak
23:23to you like this man?
23:25And the tattletale wife
23:27responds,
23:28no officer,
23:29only when he's been drinking.
23:42love secrets every man
23:44must know
23:44to be successful
23:45in marriage.
23:47Love secret number one,
23:49for those who are not married,
23:52sometimes what you can
23:53walk away from
23:54will determine
23:55what God can bring you to.
23:58Let me give you
23:59two Bible illustrations
24:01and I'm talking about
24:02young people
24:03who are now
24:03looking for someone
24:05to marry.
24:05Samson has,
24:07was a handsome
24:08and athletic
24:09young man
24:10in ancient Israel.
24:12He was a young man
24:14that attracted
24:15women.
24:16He was not attracted
24:18to any woman
24:19of faith
24:20in spite
24:20of his parents'
24:22warning.
24:22He chose to give his heart
24:24to Delilah,
24:25a beautiful
24:26and seductive
24:27unbeliever.
24:29Samson should have
24:30walked away
24:31from Delilah
24:31instantly.
24:33And the Bible
24:34says again,
24:35do not be
24:36unequally yoked
24:37with unbelievers.
24:39Samson's bitter reward
24:40for not walking away
24:41from a cheap haircut
24:43that cost him
24:44his life
24:45and his power
24:46with God,
24:47the anointing
24:48left him
24:48and he didn't know it.
24:49For those of you
24:50who don't read
24:51the Bible,
24:53Samson's
24:53spiritual secret
24:56was his hair.
24:57God said,
24:59do not cut
25:00his hair.
25:00It is a witness
25:02of.
25:04And when he allowed
25:07his hair
25:08to be cut off,
25:10his spiritual
25:12power left him.
25:13When the Philistines
25:15came to capture
25:16him once again
25:17because they had
25:18tried several times
25:19and he shook
25:20himself
25:21and supernaturally
25:23energized
25:23by the power
25:24of God,
25:25he destroyed
25:26the Philistines.
25:27But when he got
25:28his hair cut off,
25:29he went out
25:30and shook himself
25:31in Judges 16
25:32and 20
25:33and nothing
25:34happened.
25:35There was no power.
25:36Samson
25:37fought the Philistines
25:39and was quickly
25:39conquered.
25:40They burned out
25:41his eyes
25:42with a hot poker
25:43and forced him
25:44to grind
25:45corn
25:46like an ox
25:48all the days
25:49of his life
25:49at the city square
25:51so the citizens
25:52could come
25:53and mock him
25:54and spit upon him
25:55in their capital.
25:58The point is
25:59all he had to do
26:00to have a successful
26:01and a happy life
26:02was to walk away
26:04from Delilah.
26:05He would not
26:07and it totally
26:08destroyed his life.
26:10A second illustration
26:11is King David
26:12should have walked
26:13away from Bathsheba.
26:14He did not.
26:15He entered into
26:16a conspiracy
26:17to murder Uriah
26:19her husband
26:19to hide
26:21Bathsheba's pregnancy
26:22from Israel.
26:23The prophet Nathan
26:25walked into the
26:26palatial chambers
26:27of King David
26:28and pointed his
26:29bony finger
26:30in the ashen face
26:31of the sovereign
26:32and he said
26:33you are the man.
26:34You are the man.
26:37Because David
26:38would not walk away
26:39from Bathsheba
26:40God promised him
26:41that the sword
26:42would never leave
26:43his house.
26:45and it never did.
26:47Their first born
26:48child died
26:50at birth.
26:51His son Absalom
26:52became a rebel
26:53who tried to murder
26:54his father
26:55with an army.
26:59Absalom had sex
27:00with his father's wife
27:02on the roof
27:03of his father's house
27:05while Israel laughed.
27:07That's in your Bible
27:08by the way.
27:08Don't look at me
27:09like that.
27:09It's in your book.
27:14Tamar was raped
27:16by David's son
27:17Amnon.
27:18David lived in shame
27:19and public ridicule
27:21until the day
27:22he died
27:22because he could not
27:24and would not
27:26walk away
27:27from Bathsheba.
27:32I'm talking to someone
27:34in this audience
27:36that you need
27:37to walk away
27:38from someone
27:39because that someone
27:41will destroy
27:42your life.
27:43That someone
27:44is not righteous.
27:46That someone
27:47will make you
27:48unequally yoked.
27:50That someone
27:51will turn into
27:52hell on earth
27:53before you can
27:54get loose.
27:56If she or he
27:57is a non-believer
27:58shut it down
28:00now.
28:07Love secret
28:08number two
28:09love is not
28:10a license
28:10to change
28:11or to control
28:12your spouse.
28:13There's no verse
28:15in the Bible
28:15that says
28:16for you to treat
28:17your spouse
28:18like your oldest
28:19child.
28:20It has been said
28:22if you love
28:22something
28:23set it free.
28:24If it's truly
28:25yours
28:25it will return.
28:26If it doesn't
28:27return
28:27it was never
28:28yours.
28:29The question
28:30is are you
28:30fighting
28:31over control?
28:32Are you
28:33fighting over
28:34headship?
28:35The Bible
28:36solves that
28:37in one scripture.
28:38It says
28:39the husband
28:40is the head
28:41of the wife.
28:43Bang!
28:44End of quote.
28:51Men
28:52you need
28:53to make
28:53this confession
28:54with me.
28:55Just say it.
28:56You can get
28:56slapped
28:57when you get
28:57home.
28:59the husband
29:00is the head
29:01of the wife.
29:02Say it with me.
29:03The husband
29:04is the head
29:05of the wife.
29:06He sees her
29:06milquetoast
29:07watching television.
29:08You need
29:09to rehearse
29:10that.
29:10Maybe
29:11write a sign
29:12and stick it
29:13on the door
29:14of the refrigerator.
29:19Wives
29:20often say
29:21but I can't
29:21trust his decision.
29:23I guess not.
29:24Look who
29:24he decided
29:25to marry.
29:36Love
29:36secret number
29:37three.
29:38Accept
29:38responsibility
29:39for the quality
29:40of your marriage.
29:44Accept
29:45responsibility
29:46for the quality
29:48of your marriage.
29:49Sir Winston
29:49Churchill
29:50said
29:50responsibility
29:51is the key
29:52to greatness
29:54and that's
29:55true.
29:55Do you
29:56accept
29:56responsibility
29:57for who
29:58you are
29:59and how
29:59you have
30:00become
30:00and for
30:01things that
30:02you do?
30:02If not
30:03your marriage
30:03is not
30:04going to
30:04survive.
30:05Blaming
30:06your partner
30:06and complaining
30:07about what
30:08they do
30:09doesn't work.
30:10How often
30:11have you
30:11told your
30:12wife to
30:12make a
30:13decision
30:13for both
30:14of you
30:14and then
30:15complain
30:15when the
30:16outcome
30:16is not
30:17what you
30:17want?
30:18To tell
30:19her to
30:19pick a
30:20place to
30:20eat out
30:21and when
30:21she does
30:22it's the
30:22wrong
30:23place.
30:25You
30:25tell her
30:26to choose
30:26the movie
30:27to go
30:27see it
30:28and you
30:28go and
30:29it's the
30:30wrong
30:30movie.
30:31Tragically
30:32far too
30:33many husbands
30:33criticize
30:34everything
30:35their wives
30:36do.
30:36Stop
30:37it!
30:38You
30:39are
30:39systematically
30:40destroying
30:41your marriage
30:42relationship.
30:43If you
30:44ask her
30:45to do
30:45something
30:45and she
30:46does it
30:46to the
30:47best of
30:47her
30:47ability
30:48praise her
30:49if you
30:50think
30:51it stinks
30:52praise her.
30:57The
30:58Bible
30:58commands
30:59the man
31:01to praise
31:02his wife
31:03publicly
31:03for the
31:05good things
31:05that she
31:06does.
31:07Have you
31:08done that
31:08lately?
31:09I mean
31:10besides
31:11Mother's
31:11Day
31:14locked in
31:15the bedroom
31:16with just
31:16the two
31:17of you
31:19do you
31:20publicly
31:20praise
31:21your wife?
31:22You should
31:22make a
31:22practice
31:23of that.
31:24Life
31:25will be
31:25far more
31:25enjoyable
31:26when you
31:27do.
31:27And all
31:28the lady
31:29said
31:31wonderful.
31:33In
31:33closing
31:34Ephesians
31:35533
31:36the Bible
31:38reads
31:38nevertheless
31:39let every
31:40one of
31:40you in
31:41particular
31:41love his
31:42wife
31:42even as
31:44himself
31:45and the
31:46wives see
31:47that she
31:47reverence
31:48her husband.
31:50Let's look
31:51at that
31:51word
31:51reverence.
31:53Reverence
31:53is a
31:54powerful
31:54word.
31:57The
31:58reverence
31:58means to
31:59stand in
32:00awe.
32:01That's what
32:02it means.
32:03to stand
32:04in awe.
32:06Say that
32:06with me.
32:07To stand
32:08in awe.
32:09It goes
32:10like this.
32:12Oh
32:12here he
32:13comes.
32:15Oh
32:15Mr.
32:17Universe.
32:18Oh
32:19my hero.
32:21Oh
32:21love of
32:22my life.
32:24Come on
32:24men.
32:28Come on
32:29you house
32:30old cowards
32:31speak up.
32:34Try it.
32:36It works.
32:39These are
32:40Bible
32:40recommendations
32:41for every
32:43person in
32:44this audience
32:44and those
32:45of you who
32:45are watching
32:46around
32:47America.
32:49It's time
32:51for the
32:51fathers to
32:52lead their
32:53families in
32:54a righteous
32:55path.
32:56And if
32:57you have
32:57a righteous
32:58husband that's
32:59doing that
33:00lady you
33:01you need
33:02to shout
33:02for joy.
33:09Can we
33:10stand?
33:18Let me
33:19talk to the
33:19men for
33:19just a
33:20second.
33:22how many
33:23of you
33:23would
33:24admit that
33:25you do
33:25not praise
33:26your wife
33:26nor recognize
33:27her enough
33:28for the
33:30things that
33:30she has
33:31done to
33:32make your
33:32home as
33:33the days
33:34of heaven
33:34on earth.
33:35Would that
33:36be true of
33:37you?
33:37Let me see
33:38your hand.
33:39God bless
33:40you.
33:41You need
33:42to start
33:42today.
33:44to the
33:45women as
33:45a woman
33:46how many
33:47of you
33:48would say
33:48I am
33:49controlling
33:50I practice
33:51manipulation
33:54and
33:54rejection
33:55of his
33:56headship
33:57and burst
33:58into tears
33:59if I can't
33:59get my
34:00way.
34:02How many
34:02of you
34:02do that?
34:06To the
34:06single men
34:07and women
34:08there is
34:09someone in
34:09my life
34:10that I
34:10need to
34:11walk away
34:11from.
34:13And the
34:14Lord is
34:14showing me
34:15that.
34:17And I
34:18want the
34:18strength to
34:19do that.
34:20Let me
34:21see your
34:21hand.
34:22Right where
34:23you are.
34:23God bless
34:24you.
34:26This person
34:27is an
34:28unbeliever
34:28or this
34:29person has
34:30been out
34:30of your
34:31life for
34:32months and
34:32you need
34:32to walk
34:33away from
34:34that bitter
34:35memory.
34:36Or you
34:36will not
34:37find happiness
34:38in marriage
34:38if you
34:39don't take
34:40happiness
34:40into marriage.
34:44how many
34:45of you
34:45listening to
34:45me can
34:46personally
34:46say I
34:48am not a
34:49happy person.
34:50I live in
34:51a state of
34:53depression that
34:54is affecting
34:55my marriage
34:56and I want
34:57to be happy
34:58and to be
34:59happy now.
35:01If that
35:02describes you
35:03raise your
35:04hands right
35:04now.
35:05God bless
35:06you and
35:08God bless
35:09you and
35:10God bless
35:11you.
35:16Before I
35:17pray for
35:18you,
35:19Pastor Matt,
35:20let's sing
35:21that song
35:21For You
35:22I Am
35:23Praying.
35:23For You
35:25I Am
35:28I Am
35:28Praying
35:29For You
35:32I Am
35:35Praying
35:37For You
35:40I Am
35:43Praying
35:45I Am
35:47Praying
35:48For You
35:56I Am
35:58Praying
36:00For You
36:03I Am
36:06For You
36:10I Am
36:13Praying
36:16I'm praying for you
36:23Lift your hands for the blessing
36:24And now may the Lord bless you and may the Lord keep you
36:28And may the Lord make his face to shine upon you
36:32And may the Lord be gracious unto you and give you his peace
36:36May you walk from this assembly determined to have a stronger marriage
36:44Determine to be kind one to another
36:48To speak respectfully to each other
36:52To be loving and to be gracious
36:55Because this is the conduct of a member of the kingdom of God
37:00Let your family be a strong family
37:04Built around a father that provides and loves
37:08And a wife that is tender and caring and loving
37:14And so shall your children bless you all the days of your life
37:20Take this with you
37:22Take this prayer with you
37:24And take this prayer blessing with you
37:27In the authority of Jesus' name
37:30Amen
37:31God bless you
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