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00:00This programme contains strong language and themes of an adult nature throughout.
00:05This is a no-holds-barred conversation. Coming up.
00:09So say it's a, it's a birthday party, it's a family birthday party.
00:13Yeah.
00:14Do you invite that situationship to your, to be your guest?
00:18What do you guys think I should do?
00:21Oh my god. I can relate to that massively.
00:24Yeah, that must be so difficult.
00:26It is, it is.
00:28What the hell do you do?
00:29No one knew. No one knew and no one needed to know.
00:32You didn't know, but you've done that for yourself. Why did you do that?
00:35Yeah, yeah.
00:36I know.
00:37I wonder if he's regretting it now.
00:40Regretting cheating and regretting announcing it to everybody. He's lost the girl anyway.
00:44I'm Sophie Gravia.
00:45I'm Christine McGuinness.
00:47And we're here to be your non-expert, but highly experienced guide to this crazy world we call situationships.
00:54And we're back.
00:55We're back with series two. I'm so excited. Happy to be here. Loving our new studio.
01:00Love it. It's gorgeous. We've had such a revamp. I love it.
01:03It's lovely. It's nice and cosy. What have you been up to? I haven't seen you for ages.
01:07I know. I have been really busy. I would love to say I've been quiet and chilled, but I have
01:13been really busy.
01:14I've handed in another book, I'm writing another book, and I've been jet-setting, obviously.
01:21I've been having a really quiet time. I've been at home. It's winter. I like to stay in with my
01:26children and just hibernate and stay warm.
01:29I don't like the cold. I don't like going out. So purposely just made sure my diary was empty.
01:35Oh, I'm so jealous. I enjoyed Christmas and New Year, and now I feel like I'm ready. I'm ready to
01:40get back out there, get back to work and be busy again.
01:43Yeah.
01:44It's Valentine's Day this week.
01:46Valentine's Day, that's what I was going to say. Do you think it's a bit cheesy, or do you think,
01:50should we celebrate Valentine's Day at our age?
01:53I think I don't want to be like a party pooper on the love bus, because I'm not negative. I
02:00love love, and I love anybody who wants to celebrate and show the love.
02:04But for me personally, I'm just not like a... I don't want to say cringy, because I feel bad on
02:11people that love to show the love, but I wouldn't be on social media doing all of that kind of
02:15stuff anyway.
02:17So I don't want to just go and do it for the sake of it being one day. I also
02:21think it's a bit gimmicky, a bit of a money thing.
02:24Bit of a con.
02:25A bit of a, like, yeah, surely you're supposed to just love each other all year round and celebrate every
02:31day.
02:31Like, I just think it's a bit cheesy, like, putting on a post and being like, oh, to the happy
02:36Valentine's Day.
02:37But it could be because I was single for, like, 15 years and I never had a Valentine's, so I
02:42ended up hating it.
02:43But this year I do have a Valentine's, obviously, and it's coming up for our anniversary this week as well.
02:51So it's going to be nice. We're going to go out for dinner.
02:54OK.
02:55We're going to a lovely restaurant and then, I think, just go to the pictures or something.
02:59I haven't even checked what it's on, what's on.
03:01It is nice to acknowledge it. And if you are, like, madly in love and someone is coming in with
03:06all of these gifts and balloons and cards,
03:08then it must be absolutely gorgeous. Maybe I am not all over loving it because I haven't had that.
03:13Yeah.
03:14So, therefore, then I also don't feel the need to do that.
03:17Well, you could have it because there is a supermarket, I don't know if you've seen this,
03:22and they are putting out red baskets.
03:25So if you are single and you want to mingle, you lift up a red basket and you go your
03:30shopping around.
03:31And obviously, if there's other men that are in the same situation or women...
03:36And by the colour of your basket, I'd pick up the wrong basket, mate.
03:41Or the red ones.
03:42Or I'd walk around with the red ones not realising what it was for.
03:45Well, what do you think? Do you think that's a good idea?
03:48I think if anyone does it, it's brave. I do think it's a good idea.
03:52It's a bit of fun. And I suppose it's a nice kind of free way to just naturally meet someone
03:58without going to, like, a speed date or on dating sites.
04:01So, it's maybe a little bit more natural to meet someone like that.
04:07But, I don't know, for me, no, I wouldn't be able to do it.
04:12I could never do it. Because, as well, you're then inviting, like, maybe people that you wouldn't speak to.
04:18And they would think, oh, I better go up and speak to them.
04:21They've got another red basket. And you're thinking, oh, no.
04:23And then you've got an awkward situation in the middle of your supermarket.
04:26And you're kind of advertising the fact that you want to speak to them because you've got this red basket.
04:31Well, I just don't even know what to do, to be honest.
04:34I haven't organised anything.
04:37You've not done anything.
04:38I haven't organised anything on board, anything on board.
04:40I suppose because I haven't got plans to do anything.
04:44So, I'm not doing anything.
04:46But, so, I don't even know if I would want to.
04:49For me, it's just I'm busy.
04:51Yeah.
04:52I'm busy, I'm situation-shipping, where it's kind of like, as we always say, what do you do?
05:00At what point do you celebrate it?
05:02Is it when you're officially a couple?
05:05Is that when you go, okay, let's just at least acknowledge it's Valentine's Day and go on a date like
05:09you are?
05:09It's not no big, crazy thing, but you're going to go on a time together.
05:13I don't really know that situation-ship, isn't it?
05:17When you just don't know.
05:18You don't know if you're supposed to get gifts or not, or if it's supposed to be kind of a
05:22bit cringy.
05:23Yes.
05:23I don't think you should do a public post for a situation-ship unless...
05:27But then it's like, when do you establish from going, obviously, you're seeing someone, you're spending time with them.
05:34So then is the next stage of that situation-ship, are we exclusive?
05:39And then if you're exclusive, would you then consider someone doing a Valentine's Day?
05:44Well, for me, so I've found this quite a lot to get my head around, that when people start dating,
05:51that they're not exclusive.
05:52Because if I'm even just talking to someone, my whole attention is on that one person.
05:58That's exactly what I'm like.
06:00I've got tunnel vision, and even if we just stayed as dating for a really, really long time, and it
06:06weren't moving into a relationship,
06:07I still wouldn't then just have my eyes open or considering anybody else.
06:11I would have the conversation and end it before I moved on.
06:15So for me, I'm exclusively dating before we've even had our first date.
06:21I'm going to check that there's nobody else involved.
06:23Yeah.
06:23Because I just don't want that mess.
06:25So for me, from the get-go, it would only be exclusive or nothing.
06:32Yeah, 100%.
06:34But the modern dating is that you can go on three, four dates a week if you want.
06:39You can have all your meals paid for.
06:41I know.
06:42I know.
06:43But I want to know what happens, right?
06:47So for instance, you're in a situation-ship.
06:49Yeah.
06:49And you've got an event coming up.
06:52Okay, so say it's a birthday party.
06:55It's a family birthday party.
06:57Yeah.
06:57Do you invite that situation-ship to be your guest?
07:02And then how do you introduce them if you haven't put a label on it?
07:05I think it depends on where you are.
07:08I don't even think it's on a time.
07:09I don't think, because naturally, I kind of went to, okay, maybe if you've been dating
07:14them for like six months or a year or whatever, then that's when you go, well, I definitely
07:19know them.
07:20Yeah.
07:20I like them, so I'll introduce them to people.
07:22But I don't think you can put a time on it because for me, it would be more just circumstantial
07:28where I am, what I'm doing.
07:29So when I've dated in London and it's all been going well for a while, if one of my friends
07:36happens to be about, then I'll be like, oh, right, should we all just hang and chill together?
07:41But I'm not doing this big, like, oh, come and meet a friend.
07:46This is my partner and this is my best friend.
07:48I want you to meet.
07:49It's not that.
07:50It's just circumstances.
07:51We're in St. Louis at the same time.
07:52Do we want to meet?
07:53Like, I'm quite relaxed with everything.
07:55I don't need too much of like, can you come and meet my parents next week?
08:01But what would you do if you had to go to something?
08:04Like, say it was your birthday and you were having a birthday party.
08:08Would you bring them along?
08:12Um, no.
08:13No, see, I don't think if it was just a situation shift, I wouldn't either.
08:17No, I think with family, obviously that's even more important than friends, in my opinion,
08:23which is why I would leave that longer.
08:25When did you invite your fellow over to your house?
08:28Well, yes, obviously I was single for like 14, 15 years really, dated obviously in between.
08:35And my kids had never met anyone that I had dated or anything.
08:41But it was just different really when I met Chris.
08:45And I think because I knew him, so I knew he wasn't like this absolutely axe murderer of a Netflix
08:51series.
08:51Like, so I knew who he was and who his family were from the same area.
08:56So it was one of the ones, you know how when you meet someone and like, you really want to,
09:01you really want to keep seeing them and keep like, so every day, even when you're really busy,
09:06you're like, oh, well, we just run to Starbucks together because you're just wanting like that pure dopamine hit.
09:11Yeah.
09:12So we were like that.
09:13And obviously I live in the house with the kids, so I had to meet them pretty soon.
09:18So it was within probably a month, I would say.
09:20Really?
09:21Yeah.
09:22I'm excited for your Valentine's.
09:24It sounds gorgeous.
09:26It is nice.
09:27My first Valentine's in a long time.
09:29I did get two bunches of roses off Secret of Myra.
09:32I've got no idea who they're off.
09:33They just turned off to my house.
09:34I've seen this on your Instagram and I was killing myself laughing because if I was your situationship person at
09:41the minute,
09:42you put on, what should I do?
09:44Should I like be buzzing or whatever it was, run for the hills or plan my wedding?
09:50And I was like, Christine, why do you keep putting your foot in it?
09:53I was interested.
09:55I was interested in how I was supposed to, because I didn't know how I was supposed to feel.
10:00So how do you feel?
10:01But my ADHD kind of went, is this really romantic?
10:05Is this an incredible gesture?
10:08Or am I supposed to be freaked out and scared?
10:10Or what do you do here?
10:12And then what happened was all of my thoughts just went to this bit awkward.
10:16My ex-husband's not over there.
10:17I was caught on these roses.
10:21But then that must be difficult to have a situationship for you to progress because you obviously live with your
10:28ex-husband.
10:29I think that's the only reason that I'm in a situationship.
10:34It's like the main, biggest reason.
10:36And that's what I've realised during my time off from series one.
10:42Really thinking about what a situationship is to me.
10:46And although it's different for everyone, I've just come to kind of accept that no matter what,
10:52if I am just texting someone, if I'm dating someone, even if I was madly in love in a full
10:57-on relationship with someone,
10:59for the time that I'm still living with my ex-husband, I'm automatically always in a situationship.
11:05Yeah.
11:05Because it can't really progress.
11:08Or if it does, it gets to the point where it's going to slow down.
11:12Because at first, it's all fun.
11:14Like you said, you want to go to Starbucks.
11:15Like any two minutes, you can grab with someone you want to.
11:18And it's exciting and it's fun.
11:19But then when it starts going to like, okay, well, so what are we doing?
11:23Are we a couple?
11:24Are we, you know, are we a relationship?
11:27I wouldn't be able to handle it.
11:29Like, see if that I had met someone and they were like, I still live with my ex-wife.
11:33I would instantly think, bullshit, they are having like sex together or like, I would just, you've heard so many
11:41horror stories that, oh, they're not actually broken up.
11:44Obviously you are and it's a completely different story.
11:46But even like knowing they're going to be around someone else all the time must be so hard.
11:52Do you know what?
11:53I don't think it's even that because I think anyone who knows us knows that, you know, it's me and
12:00Patrick got on really, really well and we are there for the children.
12:02It's for the kids.
12:03It genuinely works for us.
12:04The school's around the corner.
12:05We're always at the hospital at different appointments for the children.
12:08And it just makes sense, especially because we're in and out with work.
12:11So it's not like we're sat chilling together all the time.
12:14But it's, I've had some dates where they've been so understanding and it's been incredible and they've been like, I
12:23get it.
12:24You know, my niece, my nephew, whatever, is autistic and I understand that.
12:28You need to have a team.
12:29The court and the team and the family together, it works and it helps.
12:32I've experienced that.
12:34And then I've experienced them saying that and then literally a couple of weeks later.
12:40It's like, so you're moving out or are you?
12:44Are you going to get married again or any more children and then I'm waking up over?
12:48Yeah, no, it really is hard.
12:51And I'm realising more and more.
12:53It's been three years since me and my ex-husband separated.
12:57So we've lived together as a separated couple for all of that time.
13:01Yeah.
13:01And it's, it is, no matter what, it's going to slow down our personal lives, not just mine.
13:09Because you don't want to bring people into the house because it's disrespectful as well, isn't it?
13:13And he must be in the same situation as well.
13:15Yeah.
13:16It's even just being on the phone.
13:17I think that's the problem more than anything.
13:19Yeah, the phone.
13:19I never even thought about that.
13:20Yeah, just chatting.
13:21Yeah.
13:21You know what it's like when you can't see someone that often?
13:24Yeah.
13:24If you live in different cities or whatever, or you're both busy working and you just get your dinner break
13:29and you want to just catch up.
13:32And sometimes I just won't do that.
13:34If, you know, if I am at home with my ex-husband, then.
13:38Yeah, so I'm in a situation for a while, but I've kind of just accepted now that that's me for
13:46now.
13:46And I trust my path.
13:49Yeah.
13:49And whoever's patient enough to bear with it for now, amazing.
13:55That would be gorgeous.
13:56And if it's not, I completely respect anybody that goes, I don't want to continue this.
14:03I respect it.
14:04I can't argue it.
14:05I don't know how I would feel about it.
14:06So I just accept it is what it is for now.
14:09Yeah.
14:10Maybe I should go and buy some roses.
14:11Or go and get yourself a big basket.
14:13Or Valentine's.
14:15One or the other.
14:16Yeah.
14:20Okay, so we're heading over to our Hot Mess hotline.
14:24I am so excited to be back listening to the voice notes.
14:28So we have got a voice note in.
14:30This girl is 24 and she wishes to remain anonymous.
14:34Okay.
14:34Okay.
14:35And this voice note is voiced by someone else.
14:38Hey, Sophie and Christine.
14:39I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years and we have a great relationship.
14:43She's come with me to Germany to meet my family multiple times and they all really like her.
14:48But on the flip side, I've never been introduced to any of her family members, only a few friends.
14:54Her family don't know that she's a lesbian and she's really worried about how they'd react when she finds out.
14:59But she does plan to tell them one day, but that day just seems to get pushed back constantly.
15:04I know that it's a big deal for her, but sometimes it kind of makes me feel like our relationship
15:09isn't really moving forward.
15:11I don't really feel like a part of her world.
15:14Obviously, I'd never pressure her to do something that she's not ready to do.
15:17But I'm kind of starting to question if there's relationship even for me anymore.
15:23What do you guys think I should do?
15:26Oh, my God.
15:27I can relate to that massively.
15:29Yeah, that must be so difficult.
15:31It is.
15:33What the hell do you do?
15:34I've been there on both sides.
15:35Yeah.
15:36I've been there on both sides, but it weren't that my family didn't know because I dated women when I
15:41was a lot younger.
15:41Before I got married, I was dating women as a teenager.
15:44But it was the public, didn't I?
15:46Yeah.
15:46So, we're obviously, she's saying she's missing out on going to her girlfriends' families and friends' events and all of
15:55that.
15:55I do get it.
15:57I wouldn't take anyone anywhere for a while.
16:00Yep.
16:00Two and a half years is a long time.
16:02I think when I was dating someone, it was for a long time and I wouldn't, not that I wouldn't
16:09admit it, but I just literally wouldn't talk about it.
16:12I just wanted to keep it private.
16:14But it was, I agree now, there's things being private and there's things being a secret.
16:20Yeah.
16:20And I think when things are a secret, that's when it's kind of, it's not nice and that's when you
16:24need.
16:24But private is more of a respectable, you know, your own privacy kind of thing.
16:31I think from my own experiences, I would say if you are out and you are out and proud and
16:39loud and everybody knows that you're gay or queer or lesbian, then don't date somebody who isn't.
16:47Yeah.
16:47Because they will keep saying it.
16:49And it may be with every intention.
16:50I've done it.
16:51I've been dating someone for a long time where I've been saying, yeah, I'm going to tell people, I'm going
16:55to introduce you to my family.
16:57The pressure.
16:57I had every intention of doing it.
16:59I really did.
17:00But there was just always something like this, this lady's girlfriend is, there's something holding her back where she doesn't
17:08want to say that she's dating a woman and she's not ready.
17:12And I just think pressure makes it so much worse.
17:15I would say if you are out and loud and proud, then you don't date someone.
17:20You should date someone that's similar.
17:21Because it's not fair because I've been there where, like I said, with the public, where it's been rumoured.
17:29They knew I was dating women.
17:31It was rumoured a lot.
17:32But I didn't want to acknowledge it for my own personal reasons, mainly because of my children.
17:36I was ready to say because of the kids.
17:38Yeah.
17:38I didn't want to.
17:39It's not everyone's business.
17:41Yeah.
17:41It's unfair.
17:42But the pressure I was getting was intense.
17:46See, when you did acknowledge it and you said, I date women, did you feel amazing after it?
17:52How did you feel after it?
17:54No, I didn't.
17:55And I wanted to.
17:56And I think it was one of the reasons why I kind of then just went completely quiet.
18:03Yeah, you did.
18:03Because I'd done a dating show thinking, right, OK, I want to move on with my life.
18:09My friends and family have all known forever anyway, so it's no big deal.
18:12They're the ones that matter.
18:13It's their opinions that matter.
18:14Yeah, the public, it doesn't really matter.
18:16I just want to be happy.
18:17So I thought, right, I'll rip the bandage off.
18:19I'll just go and say it on telly because I'm going to keep getting seen with women.
18:23Yeah.
18:23And it's not looking great, so I'll own it.
18:26And the amount of attention around it just made me go back in the closet.
18:33It made me run in the closet.
18:35You came off your dating show.
18:37You came off to Glasgow.
18:39I was like, no.
18:41It's a lot.
18:42It's a lot of unwanted attention.
18:44Well, for me, it was.
18:45And, you know, did this girl say on the voice note, was it because of religious reasons or just that
18:52a girlfriend didn't?
18:53No, she never said anything about it.
18:55I know lots of women and men, gay men, that it's because of religious reasons for the family that they
19:01don't tell them.
19:02And they do have secret partners or private relationships.
19:06It would must feel like absolute shit, though, to be that other person because you'd feel as if it's like
19:11the social media thing, like we're talking about with Valentine's Day and stuff like that.
19:15Like, if you get someone that's quite needy and wants you to post them all the time, but you don't
19:21want to, you feel as if you're letting someone down all the time as well.
19:24And that must be horrible for them.
19:26It's like a rejection sort of thing.
19:27Yeah, and I've had these conversations as well with anyone I've dated in the last couple of years.
19:32It's like, well, it's normal to show you're dating, though.
19:37Yeah.
19:37So why would you not do that?
19:39And I go, it might be normal for most people, but in circumstances where your life is so public and
19:46it's got so many opinions on and whatever I put on my social media can go anywhere in the press,
19:51which means it can lead back to my children.
19:53And the children can search it for the rest of their lives.
19:56So what advice would you give them?
19:58What advice would you give this girl?
20:01I think, unfortunately, for the other one, and I've been there, so I really, really feel for a while since
20:07I'm saying it's going to be harsh, but they're going to have to put a deadline on it.
20:11Yeah, I think that's true.
20:13Because you can't really have a relationship, like, develop any further if it is a complete secret.
20:22And if it's been on for years, you're wanting more, you're maybe wanting to think about starting families or do
20:27whatever, just even go out and together.
20:30You just want to be able to, like, call your family, speak to your mum, oh, yeah, I'm going on
20:33a day, oh, me and, you know, me and my girlfriend are going on a holiday, and, you know, what
20:38if they want to plan a wedding or have children?
20:39Who knows?
20:40And, you know, it's, yeah, it's going to hold both of them back if they can't move forward, and I
20:44think that's not fair.
20:45And I've done it, I've left situations where I've known that it just weren't going to move forward because I
20:53weren't saying anything, and I kind of know when I'm not saying anything.
20:57Yeah, so they need a conversation, basically.
20:59Yeah, yeah, they do. I think, I think a deadline, which I hate, I hate, but, you've got to draw
21:09a line, you've got to, you've got to kind of say, okay.
21:13And, again, I've been there where I've thought, okay, maybe in a couple of months I'll say it, maybe I'll
21:17just do this.
21:18Would you consider, like, a compromise? Like, they'll be like, right, I won't tell my family, but I'll tell the
21:24next-door neighbour or, like, somewhere else that's quite close.
21:28Maybe that would be a good place for a girlfriend to start.
21:31For a first step.
21:31Maybe it'd be, maybe for, maybe she should suggest that to a girlfriend, what if she just...
21:36See, I'm an all-in, I'm all-or-nothing, so I feel like I'd, like, no compromises, get the job
21:41done, and I wouldn't have waited two years.
21:42Like, I would be like, this needs done within, like, a six-month time period, but I'm quite on the...
21:49Like, I just need things to be done.
21:50Would you be okay if you'd only met Chris's friends by now, but not his family?
21:57Absolutely not.
21:58No.
21:59Oh, I would be.
22:00No, but then we talk about this all the time, because you're a red flag.
22:04In your little red outfit today.
22:07I'm welcome to helping the red flag.
22:09No, after a year.
22:10You've always had really grown and learned throughout series one.
22:13No, but I think if it had been anyone else, I would have been more than happy, because I wouldn't
22:19want it.
22:20I've been seeing people, and they're, like, said to me, like, my mum's really dying to meet you, and I
22:24couldn't have thought of anything worse,
22:25and I would postpone it and postpone it and postpone it, and I'd think, why would I want to meet
22:29this person's mum?
22:30Like, because I knew in my head it wasn't going anywhere, but it was completely different,
22:33so I feel like any normal situation, it wouldn't have bothered me, but, yeah.
22:38Yeah, I would have thought you did.
22:39I'm, like, besties with his sister and his nephew and his brother, yeah, so it's just, like, it's nice.
22:45See, but I've done that before, where I've made friends with their friends,
22:48and then, obviously, when you decide that you don't want to date them no more, you lose friends as well.
22:53Pick who you're picking.
22:59So, the Winter Olympics, obviously, the best part for me, the drama dropped there, was the biathlon, biathlete.
23:10Sterla.
23:11Sterla.
23:12Oh, my God, I've seen it.
23:14So, he, did he get bronze, was he?
23:16He got bronze, and at the press conference, obviously, everyone, gold, silver and bronze,
23:22you get an interview and stuff like that, but he's kind of, well, he's definitely went viral for,
23:28he came out and basically admitted that, he said, six months ago I met the love of my life,
23:33but then three months later I cheated on her, and it was the biggest mistake of my life,
23:38and I came clean this week, and it's been the worst week ever, but there's been such a backlash of
23:44mixed opinions,
23:45basically people saying, one, he shouldn't have done that at his press conference.
23:49No, because it takes all the attention away from the person who got gold.
23:52Yes, exactly.
23:54And, obviously, it's quite wrong, like, he's just came this week, and it's all quite fresh,
24:01and he's obviously just broken up with this girl, and she didn't expect it as well.
24:05It's kind of putting her in a bit of a position.
24:07I think Stirlish are a wrangles, because, really, like, you need to be asking yourself,
24:13does it need to be said? Does it need to be said right now?
24:16On telly. Literally in front of the entire world.
24:19And really, is it necessary when you're dated after three months?
24:23I know. But then, do you not think, so if you and you, so, for instance,
24:29when you met your ex-husband, did you know, I'm going to marry this guy?
24:34No, I'm not.
24:35Did you not?
24:36Well, no, because I'm not a psychic.
24:38No, I know, but you know you get that vibe, and you're just like...
24:41I went on one date with Chris and I, and I says to my auntie, she went,
24:44how was your date? And I went, buy a hat, Brenda.
24:47And you.
24:48Really?
24:48Yeah, and I have never...
24:49Oh, no, I don't even know what I'm having for lunch.
24:51No, no.
24:52Never mind who I'm married.
24:53But then, so maybe, but then at the same point, if it was the love of your life, you wouldn't
24:56have cheated on him.
24:58So that's what I was thinking. It's not even just the timeline, the fact that they've only
25:01known each other for three months before he's done what he's done.
25:07Like, if you're doing that that early on, or years into your relationship, it's never
25:14okay. But you really don't need to then go and publicly announce how much you've embarrassed
25:20somebody, and you've hurt somebody, and you've let someone down.
25:24And you don't need to do it when somebody else has just won gold and should be celebrating
25:28next year. It's just really, there's a time and a place and it wasn't really.
25:31I mean, I think he's just tried to do this big, massive declaration of love, hasn't he?
25:36To basically be like, this is how sorry I am. I'm going to embarrass myself in front of
25:40the full world and tell them I'm an absolute idiot. But it's backfired.
25:45But no one knew, and no one needed to know.
25:46The girl knew.
25:47From what I've read, she's not over the moon about it. Her statement was that, you know,
25:51she doesn't even want to be known. She's kept herself anonymous.
25:55She doesn't even want to comment on it. And yeah, she's mortified about it because he's
26:00just told the world that he's cheated on her. I've seen it a lot with people in the public
26:05eye, in the media, where they've been caught, and they own it. And they'll go on their Instagrams
26:11or they'll release a statement, you know, and they'll say, I've hurt my family, I'm embarrassed,
26:15all of this. And they're basically pleading to get their relationship back together.
26:21But I just think, it's in your relationship, keep it between you. If you want to beg and
26:27you want to really try.
26:28He wasn't in a position where he had to do that at all, though, because, like, the media,
26:33obviously, like a celebrity that comes, it's all usually played out in the press beforehand.
26:38And it's all, yeah.
26:40No one knew. No one knew, and no one needed to know.
26:42They don't know, babe. You've done that for yourself. Why did you do that?
26:45Yeah. Yeah.
26:46I know.
26:47I wonder if he's regretting it now. Regretting cheating and regretting announcing it to everybody.
26:53He's lost the girl anyway. I wouldn't be okay with it. I would like a personal, real apology.
27:00Not a public one.
27:02Yeah, he's probably tried that, but at least he can snuggle into his bronze medal at night time.
27:07Well done.
27:09Just call us next time, Sheila.
27:11Yeah.
27:14Okay, so that is it for this week.
27:16Oh, that went so fast.
27:18It went too fast. But have a fab Valentine's week. Christine, you can fill us in on what
27:23you decide to get up to.
27:25I want to go and buy some roses or a card or something, I don't know.
27:28Get yourself a red basket and you'll be fine.
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