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StartGood - Guided Meditation with Dr. Javar Godfrey
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00:00Yonah stands for you are not what we talking about here we go all right what I want you to do is
00:10screenshot this whatever you want to do do not ever say in your life I don't know how to talk
00:14to my kids I don't know how to talk to my husband I don't know how to talk to my wife this how we
00:19gonna do it I want you to put together your combination how are you feeling today and tell
00:23your neighbor Dr. Godfrey I'm a one through five where you at tell your neighbor where you at
00:29what's your combination where you at number four how many number fours do I get out there any fours
00:34oh any threes any threes any ones any twos any sixes he wave quick seven eight we praying for all that
00:45right now nines good good communication tool it takes 0.5 seconds for somebody to already make a
00:53judgment about you so people already got 15,000 judgments about you give them something to look at
00:58give them something look at give them something look at all right the game's called rapid fire
01:06what's the game called what's the game called you got seven seconds to answer these questions
01:12the biggest lie you can tell is to your oh y'all are so good I forgot to take out the educator
01:17so this is going to work out well have a seat people all right the last time you were in a heated
01:24conflict how did you react oh somebody about right now calm down calm down girl oh I still don't don't
01:32be triggered we'll talk about triggers in a second now were you okay with your response yes and no did
01:39all right here we go let's move let's move how often is your mind at peace
01:50I see some people there how often is your mind at peace I see you pinky hey see you pinky all right
02:00what's the worst advice you've ever received tell the neighbor so they don't get it tell them tell
02:08the neighbor you want some worse advice I got tell your neighbor here we go come on we're almost
02:14done come on mm-hmm what's the last time you was happy two days in a row today somebody says
02:22here we go take this here we go come on what never fails to make you smile
02:30your kids no they make me they make me do a couple of things and smile ain't one brother
02:39here we go come on whose energy helps you heal when you're around them you feel good you're like
02:47who whose energy helps you heal me I appreciate that y'all hear that me get some of this whose
02:56energy is your enemy if they say the next team just give me a wink wink at me people just give me a
03:04little wink all right whose energy do you miss whose energy do you miss say it and I'm gonna tell
03:12y'all like I told the last crowd I really want y'all to hear this every man in here give me two seconds
03:17say your ear I know it's not a fine woman here but I need you for two seconds some of us our problem
03:22is we never got the pain in our bodies fixed so we go home sore we go home with football stuff we've
03:28never got touched on and it comes out in really bad ways toxic conversations we cutting our kids and
03:36wives and spouse and baby mama girl how you want cut off and we need to treat ourselves better go to the
03:42doctor let them feel on you for real because you're out here in pain all this hurt all this all of it
03:49never say a word just go back to work so I'm telling you in front of them get them a massage that's what
03:57that's for let them talk to you that's what this is for give them space that's what this is for we need
04:04that we had a time to we feel like y'all felt we need help support too our emotions mean something
04:10just as well and this is a perfect place to do it while we y'all together because we can't run
04:15all right here we go oh oh go back sorry I'm gonna ask you this one though what lie do you tell yourself
04:24most often don't lie oh oh everybody got quiet what you heard what lie do you tell yourself most often
04:34don't lie y'all want to hear mine of course you do that I'm okay you know people like yo yo you good
04:42you like yeah I'm straight and go in the room cry like dead serious all right here we go we got to
04:48count the jumps we're about to do what are we about to do come on how well can you focus focus on the
04:56jumps count the jumps all right and count count as precisely as you can how many times here we go
05:04in the back here we go ready ready let's go go count count come on focus focus
05:18come on what we get where we at how many got 11 11 congratulations hey but watch this but but but
05:31did you see the gorilla you see the gorilla who delicately tiptoed into oh but did you see the
05:39gorilla you didn't and guess why because it'd be so focused on one thing we missed the big picture
05:46we focus on thank you I appreciate that yeah you better say we focused on the wrong thing the
05:52gorilla walked in so guess what else you missing what else could you possibly be missing it's so much
05:58a gorilla walked in and we counted together a gorilla walked in on us and we counted together what are
06:04you missing in your household when's the last time you sat down with your child who is their teacher
06:09what's the last time you read a book with them ask them really how they're feeling things we got to
06:18do and it makes you feel better y'all it just makes you feel better I promise you'll never be upset
06:23spend the time with your children ever give it to them because they need it they need it what we got cut
06:29let's go up here let's go I need two more volunteers come on let's go now I'm gonna do it right here here
06:38right there I need to come on there we go let's go let's go here we go I need one more I need one
06:48here we go I'm gonna give you direction because we as men have a hard time taking direction okay I'm
06:59gonna give you direction you're gonna do what I ask and when I say cup you're gonna grab the cup
07:04two out of three winner gets a t-shirt we're gonna practice the first time let's get busy all right
07:11first I'm gonna say shoulders you better get right you look like you're gonna be too cool knees cup
07:17you better up down all right here we go two out three let's go here we go here we go two out three
07:22here we go okay shoulders back knees back cup oh oh two out three let's go come on hey you can't be
07:38turn this way though dog and you didn't take up for yourself take up there you go here we go back
07:43shoulders oh last round you got her again switch turn around d switch this it you got him you go get
07:57him he didn't want two times in a row over there come here come on instruction instruction if this is
08:06class I'm calling home bro I'm calling home bro I'm calling home I'm tired to talk to you about
08:10it I'm calling home I said you're talking let's go here we go y'all two let's go get somebody I'm
08:14trying to get you a win son all right trying to get you a win you ready shoulders back shoulders cup
08:23last time here we go last time we out here you about to win it if you win it you about to win it if
08:28you win it cup give it up for me I'll give it up for y'all get a t-shirt I got you one in the back
08:44I ain't know you was gonna do it all right come on let's go just take the cups take the cups
08:49all right and the point of that is the following instruction sometimes can't nobody tell us
08:57nothing we have a big ear and ain't listening to a word we walk in already got the whole thing
09:02figured out I don't want to hear anything you got to say I don't care what you talking about
09:05and I could be all the way wrong so give yourself permission to change your mind
09:09it don't have to go that way you don't have to think like that you can start right now give
09:15yourself permission to change your mind it don't have to go that way if a bird lay on your head
09:24right now what would you do scream tear it off why don't we do that with negative thoughts
09:30we let them sit and they build nests like negative Nancy Dalton Thomas these type of things we say
09:38nothing to them if somebody walked right now on this stage or came to any of us and said something
09:42crazy to you like yo what's up you stupid you this you that you tear their face off it'd be a ride in here
09:47but you talk to yourself like that and don't speak back never say a word just let it just
09:53sit and they ain't gonna move because them birds ain't going nowhere that's their home
09:58when you go to a restaurant what do you do you order yo let me get a double cheese no onion no pickle
10:06you understand fries no salt orange how it go right same thing with your thoughts talk to them
10:14when they start talking to you talk back y'all laughing I'll talk right back y'all see me talking
10:19about all day long nope I used to be him I ain't him no more that little boy died yesterday he did
10:24all right we about to see if we can read together are we ready and I'm walking around with the mic
10:32I know my camera guys don't try to I know you man I gotta go I gotta hear the people so if I come to
10:37you you better be ready because I want to make sure we can read a lot of us yeah look at everybody
10:41like man he better not come over here and we talking about reading this is scholastic what is
10:46wrong with you come over here if you want to you wonder what's wrong with your kids
10:48so be ready to read okay come on yes here we go
10:56100 words per minute okay everyone should be able to pass this level very easily you would have to
11:08be extremely bad at reading to fail this very easy level for us we passed level one
11:17you know I'm coming I don't even know why you try to act like you know what's about to happen
11:23this comfortably and easily conversations are spoken at around this speed so reading at this
11:32speed should be easy oh come on level three oh yeah big dog oh yeah this speed come on many
11:42start to struggle with this average speed all right number four who got it
11:50most people see your family without any problem but you may find yourself trying to keep up with some of
11:57the longer words that the speed is that we're trying to keep up with this and I'm already doing it
12:00through y'all see y'all know that word you don't know that word though that word ain't in the dictionary
12:07yeah you don't know what she was over here talking about and some of y'all kept talking like
12:10lying you done made some stuff up and they said boy I'm at level six you don't know that word
12:16I threw all kind of letters together cut it out bro I don't care what he say bro I'll tell you I'm level seven
12:22cut it stop all right come on and let me tell you why we did that you got to understand reading
12:29is fundamental y'all see what just happened for real right hello read with your kids not just text
12:34go to the library let them see that if you couldn't read that's okay don't do that to them
12:42and don't be having no attitude when they want to talk to you about school
12:45you mad at them because you can't do the homework
12:48guess what I can't hear
12:52I was so mad at my kid third grade
12:56this ain't this ain't through
12:57hey listen I know how to do fractions I don't care what they say
13:00it's a one way all right that's 50% all right we got two things you take 150
13:04no daddy little girl no daddy okay all right
13:10come on where I did that
13:12so I want you guys to hear this and think about this as well
13:15do you believe everything you think yes or no
13:19do you believe everything you think
13:23number two who do you have the most thought-provoking conversations with
13:30who do you have the most thought-provoking conversations with and how often
13:35how often here's a good one if they with you just give me one of them
13:41because they look like you're stretching all right who do you have the most
13:44toxic conversations with and how often give me one if you sit next to them give me the lean I'll take the lean look at them like the whole group
13:53y'all know what's funny about that though here's the crazy part it's almost like somebody saying you know you like somebody like man you crazy man and somebody laugh right you know some people toxic you like they right here
14:03that ain't funny that's toxic I would you know I'm just saying you know I was talking about just
14:10you know like the phone ring right you be like you see the person and you do all
14:16like
14:19it still rings and then you hit them with the
14:23hello and they start dumping on you
14:25shoot emotional dumping is the new thing
14:29wait till you tell me your toxic friends I don't want to hear that no more
14:31watch what happen
14:33oh who wanna be toxic with
14:35not me no more
14:37not me no more
14:38that is dead
14:39you call me with any of that
14:41I'm done with you
14:42all you and I got a good way to get out of it too guys
14:45so when they call you just tell them you on the way to Walmart
14:47on the way to Walmart they don't wanna talk no more
14:50they do need it
14:52they do need it
14:54I agree
14:55I agree
14:57we gonna talk after you
15:00but you can dump some of that
15:02just because they're your family don't mean you gotta hear all that
15:05that's half the problem
15:06and it goes generational
15:07and they make you hear it
15:08and they make you feel it
15:09and they make you see it
15:10they make you want it
15:11and they don't know
15:12they have no idea
15:13cause they ain't never been where we going
15:15they have no idea
15:16so if you gotta tell them
15:17look bro I can't hear that today
15:18cause it makes you rock
15:20no
15:21that's how we killing ourselves
15:22going back to what our families did
15:23that ain't right
15:24that ain't true
15:25you can't eat pizza and swim
15:27I don't have to walk in the room and be seen and not heard
15:31I don't have to do that
15:33I don't have to be quiet cause you said so
15:36huh
15:37I don't have to do that anymore
15:39but you gonna call me everyday and make me listen to that
15:42you know what that happened
15:43it melted to my children
15:44that won't happen
15:45that's how the next generation stays the same
15:47no
15:48you lit me up on that my bad bro
15:49no
15:50no
15:51the answer is no
15:52the average person has 60-80,000 thoughts per day
15:5580% lean towards the negative
15:5895% are copy and pasted from the day before
16:02so what have you thought about new?
16:05you talk the same thing everyday
16:08our job is to find that 5%
16:11and jump in there and give you something new
16:13start to turn them tables a little bit
16:15it ain't too late
16:16it's not too late
16:17negative thoughts
16:23visit the strong but they stay with the weak
16:27we all get them
16:29we all get them
16:30they just ain't staying there
16:32we gotta talk back to them, bounce them out
16:34they can't sit around
16:36and that's another reason why
16:37you gotta watch who you talk to
16:39cause they'll make that true
16:40they'll make toxic stuff true
16:42it's a lie
16:44it be a lie
16:45second part of my thing I wanna talk to you about is triggers
16:50this is very important
16:51especially for us men
16:52if you're easily irritated
16:54you're easily manipulated
16:56if you're easily irritated
17:00I can do anything until y'all play like a string
17:02play like a string
17:04so you gotta watch what triggers you
17:06that's what we're about to talk about
17:07you have to watch what triggers you
17:09if somebody can just come and rock your world
17:11you done
17:12you done
17:14you done
17:15but we gotta recognize why
17:16we gotta recognize why
17:19and so over in Africa
17:21there's some monkeys
17:22this is a very good depiction of what happens
17:24and they
17:25put their hands aside coconuts
17:27to grab food
17:29if they would just release the coconut
17:32they could leave
17:33and be alive
17:35the monkeys don't do that
17:36they hold on to that coconut
17:38until they're dead
17:39it's a trap
17:40the same thing happens to some of us
17:42some stuff you just gotta let go
17:45it has to be done
17:46it's over
17:47open your hand
17:48get up out of there
17:49sit and stand
17:51staring
17:52no
17:53another thing
17:54quick sidebar
17:55some of us that are waking up early in the morning
17:57and it's just pitch black
17:59get out the bed
18:00stop laying there
18:02get out the bed
18:03go pray
18:04go move
18:05go exercise
18:06get out the bed
18:07it's very dark there
18:08nothing's coming
18:10nobody's walked it out to you
18:12get
18:13out
18:14the
18:15get out the bed
18:16get out the bed
18:17get out the bed
18:21this is very easy for y'all
18:23screenshot this
18:24you wanna know your triggers in your life
18:25who makes you feel seen alive and motivated
18:28who makes you feel
18:29unsafe
18:30uneasy or unwanted
18:31that's all you need to know
18:32fill them blanks in
18:33find your triggers real quick
18:35we ain't gotta do all that
18:36boom
18:37and do that monthly
18:39weekly
18:40daily
18:41and start the racing folks
18:42start the racing folks
18:43get them up out of here
18:45that's why I probably got three people I talk to now
18:47cause I can't do it
18:48I'm not doing it
18:49and I ain't got time
18:50like what are you talking about
18:51who did what
18:52I'm sorry
18:53I'm so sorry
18:54I'm so sorry
18:55how much time we got
18:57yo I don't know if y'all can see this
18:58but here's the
18:59this is what I was telling y'all about
19:00I don't know if you can see this
19:01but there's um
19:02there's numbers here
19:03where you'll basically list
19:04if you can't string shit
19:05okay
19:06you tell them what your triggers are
19:08so like number one is disrespect
19:10powerless
19:11hopeless
19:12all those things
19:13and uh you tell them
19:14you tell them exactly what it is
19:15what sets me off
19:17matter of fact
19:18what sets you off
19:19tell your neighbor
19:20if you do this
19:21I'm gonna snap
19:22what is it?
19:23tell them
19:24they probably already know
19:25how's y'all arguing about it now anyway
19:26I told you that last night
19:27you wanna know my trigger
19:28that's pillow talk
19:29like come on bruh
19:30I don't even know her
19:31I don't even know her
19:33I don't even know her
19:36hey
19:37it's okay to feel
19:39that's how you
19:40I need y'all's help
19:41it's okay to feel
19:43that's how you heal
19:44a lot of us go through our whole life
19:45just feeling
19:47never heal
19:49just go through feeling
19:50the entire life
19:52it's okay to feel
19:54that's how you heal
19:55I tell all my
19:58young kids
19:59I work with a bunch of young kids
20:00something very important
20:02if what you say about me
20:03means more to me
20:04than what I say about me
20:05I got a problem
20:07if what you say about me
20:09means more to me
20:10than what I say about me
20:12I got a problem
20:14whose applause matters
20:17when you get up
20:18who you looking to clap for you
20:20who you getting extra tight for
20:21in the mirror and all that
20:22yeah
20:26if what you say about me
20:27means more to me
20:29than what I say about me
20:30I got a problem
20:32just
20:34alright
20:35time
20:38alright
20:39that's it
20:40alright
20:41so I wrote a plan for y'all
20:42y'all wanna hear it
20:43hello
20:44y'all wanna hear it
20:45I need y'all's help though
20:46y'all gonna understand the words
20:47I promise
20:48but I need y'all's help
20:49when y'all feel like
20:50y'all know the next word
20:52y'all got it
20:54alright here we go
20:56emotional health
20:57is the new wealth
20:59now more than ever
21:00I believe in my
21:02ooh
21:04I pledge to start inside out
21:05and not outside in
21:06because the biggest enemy starts
21:09within
21:11I pledge your perception of me
21:12is no longer my reality
21:14now don't mistake my confidence
21:15for cockiness
21:16I'm just not willing to accept
21:17that I'm an emotional wreck
21:18I'm a miracle
21:20just looking for a place to happen
21:22I will no longer be caught
21:23emotionally napping
21:24I'm woke now
21:25yes
21:26no longer sleep
21:27my emotions will never again
21:28be sold for cheap
21:30I pledge to smile
21:31just to smile away
21:33and to never let yesterday ruin
21:35today
21:37I never leave a lesson
21:38without a blessing
21:39so today I pledge
21:40we pledge
21:41we pledge
21:42to emotionally stop
21:43stressing
21:44appreciate y'all
21:45name Dr. Godfrey
21:46I'll see y'all
21:47in the back somewhere
21:48come holla at me
21:49hey and all you men out there
21:50it's okay to feel
21:52that's how you heal
21:53peace
21:54thank you
21:55thank you