00:00Boundaries for managing motherhood, marriage, creative stuff, professional stuff.
00:10Child, I don't know.
00:12I could repeat the question all I want, but I really just don't.
00:15I think it changes every single day.
00:17And I think what's happening for me now is, I think something that we've talked about
00:24this in motherhood is like releasing the guilt of feeling like I have to show up in
00:28every single space all the time.
00:31So I think giving myself a boundary to say, you don't have to worry about that today.
00:35That's a tomorrow problem.
00:36You know, not feeling like I have to carry every load on my back, neck and shoulders all
00:40day, every day, you know?
00:42So I think that it's setting boundaries with myself, you know, to be really easy and just
00:48be like, it's the end of the world is not going to happen.
00:51You do the best you can every day and that is enough.
00:53You know what I learned from you, Melanie?
00:54This is, I don't know if you call it a boundary, but this is something that you do all the time.
00:57You make space for the things that you need to make space for.
01:00So when it's time for you to go to your child's, like, karate tournament or whatever, you
01:05know, practice, you're there.
01:06When it's time for you to record, you're there.
01:08When it's time for you to record with us, you're there.
01:09I think one thing that you really are good at is making the time for the things that
01:14you need to make time for, whether it's your career or your family.
01:16And then zoning in on that thing.
01:18Like, you're like, girl, I got to call you back.
01:19I'm walking into my son's thing.
01:20Like, you don't play.
01:21Like, you focus on what you need to focus on at the time.
01:24And I think that's something that I really admire about you.
01:26It's hard.
01:26It's been years and years in the making.
01:28Like, I think when I first had my son and I was doing music, I didn't know how to be both
01:34sides of my brain.
01:35You know, like, I was still thinking about who was going to get groceries and what was
01:38for dinner.
01:39And now I've just given my space to be like, I'm not there.
01:41Yep.
01:41But who I have left them with, I trust.
01:44So they're going to figure it out.
01:45And I don't need to use that brain cells, the capacity to exhaust myself in that way.
01:50So, you know, it has been a journey.
01:52But thank you for acknowledging that.
01:53Girl, child, I'd be like you.
01:54Child, it's a journey.
01:55Yeah, but you got a lot of kids.
01:56I know, but I do.
01:57The fact that you all, I think the three of you are better at that than me.
02:01You make time for your dreams.
02:03Oh, yeah.
02:03I'm pretty good at that.
02:03You know, how the things that you be playing.
02:05I'm like, how did you figure that out?
02:06Like, you have a whole line dropping.
02:08You'll do like a fundraiser, all this stuff.
02:10And I'm like, like in two days.
02:12It's a little insane.
02:13And we already know you, girl.
02:14I don't know.
02:14You have like 800 jobs.
02:15Yeah, I don't know.
02:16Do you guys ever notice?
02:17I'm sure y'all do notice.
02:18But I always feel like anytime it comes to boundaries, it's always, it's never really somebody else violating
02:23my boundaries.
02:23It's me going past the line.
02:25I'm like, it could go a little farther.
02:27You know?
02:28No, that's real.
02:29Yeah.
02:292025, we're not in NMO.
02:31Yeah.
02:32Try to be like y'all.
02:33I don't know.
Comments