00:00Right, it's like influencer-based.
00:05Oh, hello! I saw that! I saw that!
00:09You channeled that very quickly.
00:12I was just...
00:19Growing up, I always thought I was going to be a doctor.
00:21I did four years of biology, and I realized that I didn't have
00:25any passion for what I was currently doing, so I decided I was going to take a year off.
00:29In that time, I started a fashion blog, and it was just something that was supposed to help me de-stress.
00:36A lot of people started responding, and it started gaining traction.
00:40I can remember my first few clients and just being like,
00:45this is what I'm supposed to be doing.
00:47It was just so natural.
00:49It just felt like I was doing something that I loved and being paid for,
00:55and I was like, this is it. This is what I want to do.
00:58And so about two years ago, as I would wait for my clients, I'd see them doing this.
01:04I said, well, maybe I could go and be a good force.
01:07Put stuff out there that people can gain something from.
01:11If I use this intentionally, it could be a good thing.
01:15It really took off.
01:17I talk about how I started as like, I kind of fell into this, right?
01:21It was something I did for fun. It was something that excited me.
01:24And people liking it and people following me didn't change the fact that I loved it,
01:30but it changed the pressure that I felt.
01:34You know, I started to second guess myself a lot.
01:36I had been creating content for, you know, seven or eight years,
01:40and I decided to take a break and go offline.
01:43When I feel just overwhelmed, I just know it's time to regroup and then come back and be inspired.
01:49Burnout is the product of us not having boundaries along the way over committing to things that we really couldn't commit to.
01:59And once we recognize that and we take a break from whatever those things are,
02:04it's important that we don't return at the same capacity.
02:08What do you think causes people to have problems with boundaries?
02:12We always think about people not liking us.
02:15This is, you know, our programming has taught us this is the meanest thing I can do for myself,
02:22when really it is the most loving thing you could do for yourself.
02:26Like, I cannot imagine a world where we just have to take on everything.
02:32None of us have become whatever we are all by ourselves.
02:36Knowing that self-care and self-love is actually saying no sometimes.
02:41People want to do things with me.
02:43People want to hang out or even, like, work with me.
02:46And there's so many different ways that you can feel pulled in different areas.
02:50Boundaries is probably the biggest thing that I've learned in this time.
02:54My favorite therapeutic tool is journaling.
02:57We can have journals about anything.
02:59It could be every day. It could be a gratitude journal.
03:02It could be a one-sentence journal.
03:04It could be processing, problem-focused.
03:07Have you figured out your intention?
03:09I think I'm still in the process.
03:11And I came back into this space knowing that I hadn't figured it all out yet.
03:16There's a huge community of black women coming up in this space.
03:20My sister is one of them. She's, you know, just starting out.
03:23I want to make sure she knows that she's the one that's writing her own story.
03:27She's the one who's going to create the narrative for what people are going to say about her.
03:31If you think of yourself as a unique person in this world,
03:34you're actually never going to compare yourself to anyone else
03:36because they're running their own race and you're running yours.
03:39Do you meditate?
03:43I'm trying to learn.
03:46Deep breathing is one of my go-to strategies to help people tune into themselves in a way that is quiet.
04:04Meditation is a practice that we can incorporate in so many different ways.
04:16It could be, you know, us having a moment of silence right now.
04:21It could be us paying attention to how our fingers feel.
04:25It could be us, you know, listening to the birds.
04:30Meditation is being present.
04:34I knew a few things, but putting it all together and talking to Nedra has just been, like, everything.
04:39I want to keep doing a lot of these things because I know that that's going to help me become the best version of myself.
04:49No one's going to be able to tell you a story like you.
04:51When you're driving your own lane, there's no traffic.
04:53Loving you is so easy.
04:58Feel the smile.
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