00:00This is what I've realized. They're going to talk about you when you're being yourself.
00:03They're going to talk about you when you're not being yourself. So I'd rather you dislike my
00:07opinion or dislike me being myself. It is a free country. You can like whoever you want,
00:13but your opinion of myself is not going to find what I think of myself.
00:23In the past couple of years, particularly, a lot of women have spoken up about pay inequality,
00:28you know, instead of their male counterparts getting paid more. Have you ever had that
00:33experience in your career? Absolutely. And it was because of my mom, you know, we were we started
00:45this business. We meaning my amazing sister, Tia. We went through this, you know, together and I can
00:53remember my mom, I think we were 18 or 19. And she had done her research. And, you know,
01:01she realized that there were, you know, certain people in the entertainment business that were
01:05making, you know, more money. And we knew that, you know, my sister and I, we were putting in the
01:12time, putting in the work. But not only that, we had success. And she was like, okay, so how come,
01:23you know, the girls aren't experiencing this, like how the other, you know, actors or actresses
01:31are, you know, are, are experiencing, you know, these, these raises. And I can remember her sitting
01:38us down saying, you know, you girls, this might be, you know, this might be nerve wracking, it may
01:44cause you a little anxiety. But if you don't fight for what's right, you don't fight for what
01:50you believe in, take that risk. You may never know, but she believed in us. And by her believing
01:56in us, we saw that strength, we believed in our, we believed in ourselves. And my sister and I became
02:04at one point, one of the highest paid actresses on a preteen family show. Yeah, it was it started
02:12with my mom and us knowing our worth. And again, vocalizing what we believe is is right when you
02:22see some inequality going on. Yeah, no, that's so crucial. Because half of it is that is an
02:28uncomfortable conversation. But if it's very uncomfortable. Yeah. And you will be you will
02:34be tested. But you have to believe in yourself. Yeah. Yeah. And thinking about, you know, you
02:42mentioned the real and obviously a panel of all women there, but I'm sure male executives
02:47things behind the scenes. You know, you always were very strong. I'm going to give my opinion.
02:52It may not be popular, but it is what it is. What's that difficult, you know, for you to do?
02:57And, you know, after in times of backlash? Okay, so I would have to say, the change from being an
03:07actress to a talk show host and vocalizing your personal opinions was probably one of the hardest
03:13things I ever had to deal with, especially during the times, you know, we have social media now. So
03:20when individuals disagreed with your opinion, they knew where to find you. And they made it,
03:28they made themselves notice. So that was hard. And I will tell you, at one point, it caused me to kind
03:40of maybe second guess myself. But I found that strength again, because I realized, you know what,
03:49when you are being yourself, vulnerable, there, I can promise you, there are people out there who
03:58feel the same way. It's when you're trying to be someone that you're not, that, I mean, this is what
04:04I realized, they don't talk about you when you're being yourself, they don't talk about you when you're
04:08not being yourself. So I'd rather you dislike my opinion or dislike me being myself. It is a free
04:15country, you can like whoever you want. But your opinion of myself is not going to find what I
04:22think of myself. So I had to find strength. And in doing so, I realized that there were many others
04:31out there who, who thought, you know, like me, but what I love about doing that show,
04:39this is a big one. Okay. Just because we may disagree, doesn't mean I have to dislike you.
04:48Yeah. I want to learn from you. If we agree, and we're open to having that conversation,
04:56maybe I can learn something from you. And, and vice versa. And I feel like that is the reason why
05:04the ladies of the real will always be, uh, uh, you know, a friend. And I see them as family
05:11at this point. Um, because we were that way with each other. I can do that. I learned so much from
05:19Jeannie, Adrian, Lonnie, Amanda, Tamar. Um, you know, that's the beauty of, of, of doing that show.
05:29And then you learn, you know, like I said, to, to earn, to, um, to build like confidence in,
05:35in yourself. And it's okay. If you may say something and you, you know, you get it wrong.
05:40It's like, Oh, well, okay. I learned. I, I, I just learned from you in that moment.
05:47And I think we all had those moments.
05:50Oh yeah. Yeah. And you can't always do that in real time either. Like you've got to process.
05:54It's kind of, it's a lie.
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