00:00Stole our bit, but you look like
00:01because we're the ones that are down with it.
00:03Hey Marie Claire, this is Gabrielle Union, and this.
00:05Is solicited advice.
00:09When is it time?
00:10Is it time to delete someone's number?
00:12And what earns them a place on the permanent block list?
00:15Is it time to delete someone's number when they
00:16irritate the out of me the first time?
00:18I'm at the age where.
00:20I don't know.
00:21Why?
00:22Who has time?
00:23Not me.
00:24You got one good time to try me.
00:25And then it's over.
00:26You are deleted.
00:27You are blocked.
00:28And I forget you're alive.
00:30My in-laws keep pulling the back in the day card
00:34when they see my parents.
00:35parenting choices as too progressive.
00:37Hmm.
00:38How can I get them to see eye to eye?
00:40With me.
00:41Why do you have to see eye to eye with anyone that is not in-
00:45your home raising your children with you?
00:48It's okay to be like, oh, thank you for that.
00:50I'm doing my own thing, but thank you.
00:52I appreciate your care and concern.
00:53Or, nobody asked you!
00:55What's your advice for reinventing yourself when people around you
01:00still expect the old you?
01:01I don't reinvent myself.
01:02I am who I am.
01:03I just get rid of the people around me.
01:05Who want me to stay the same?
01:06What?
01:07Reinvent what?
01:08I'm in.
01:09I've been in.
01:10I'll still be in tomorrow and the next year.
01:15What are some topics that should always be off-limits
01:18when it comes to motherhood advice?
01:20Offering advice that no one asked for.
01:22Hey, don't talk about anybody's baby's looks.
01:25Or things you could do to improve your baby's looks.
01:27I got a lot of that.
01:29It's your baby.
01:30You think-
01:30You think that your baby's perfect.
01:31And to have someone offer advice about-
01:35How your baby could be cuter?
01:37That-
01:38That is also going to get you on the block.
01:40Forever-ever-ever-ever-lest.
01:42F*** off.
01:43Don't tell me about my child.
01:44Don't-
01:45Tell me your thoughts about what you think is happening
01:48in my household with my child.
01:50I feel like you're RSVPing to an invitation I never sent.
01:55You heard 2000's iconic film-
01:56You heard 2000's iconic film-
02:00I feel like my-
02:01I feel like my baby's Harlem characters are always on my fashion mood boards.
02:02Who's on mine?
02:03Solange-
02:05always. The 80s and 90s supermodels, everyone from
02:10Karen White, Gail O'Neill, Beverly Johnson from the 70s.
02:15There's so many, like I constantly am going back to the Battle of Versailles.
02:20What is old is new. And that's a personal thing because I'm old!
02:25But I'm new. What's your strategy for surviving a group chat you regret
02:30joining? Well, first of all, a lot of the group chats I'm in, I did not
02:33ask to join. Like, my
02:35my in-laws mourning religious texts.
02:40I love Jesus. I do. I love God. I love Jesus.
02:43But somehow my husband isn't in this
02:45chat, but I am in it. And I find that to be unfair.
02:48If anyone needs the word of the Lord, it's him.
02:50Not me.
02:51What's your advice for walking back into a room where you just tri-
02:55own it. Laugh, child, because it's funny.
02:57There's nothing funnier than a fall that-
03:00where someone doesn't get injured. I'm just like, oh, I'm tripping.
03:05What's the best advice you've encountered having spent years in the glam chair?
03:09There's who you-
03:10who you think you are, and then who you actually are, and what you actually look like.
03:14Something like-
03:15If you look at your foundation, inside, you may be a whole different color than what you actually look like.
03:20It's best to go by what you see in the mirror. If your neck-
03:25does not match your- your job, let's just go. Let's go for, you know-
03:30Something in the middle, perhaps.
03:31It's okay to let the melanin shine, child. Don't try to-
03:35diminish it. Don't try to be like, oh, let's take it down. Let's bring it up. It's okay.
03:40It's okay to be your true self. What's your advice-
03:45for trying to channel Clover's energy in a Toro's world? Well, a real-
03:50Clover will call it out to your face in real time. And that, I keep that same energy-
03:55for every day. You know me. Like, I'm- I'm not one to hold my tongue.
04:00Listen, you do what you gotta do for justice. Personal justice, world justice.
04:05Sometimes you gotta remove yourself when- when you are, um, shown the door time and
04:10time again. Sometimes it's okay to just leave. How do I stay-
04:15Be soft and open in a world that rewards being hard. I'm just trying-
04:20to learn how to be soft and what that even means. It's hard when you have-
04:25have to be responsible and accountable for a number of households.
04:30to be- to take to my sick bed and, oh, you know, it's- it's hard to be-
04:35um, open for care and consideration when it-
04:40has historically not been given. I think the best advice is to give yourself grace as often as you-
04:45can. And sometimes say, no, I'm taking to my sick bed.
04:50You're not even sick. Fake a gastrointestinal issue. They don't ask a lot of follow-up questions for that.
04:55What are your tips for serving a look courtside? Well, things done change, child.
05:00We just were trying to be cute, child. There weren't whole blogs and TikToks.
05:05and all the things social media highlighting or tearing apart your courtside looks.
05:09These girls, they-
05:10coming with it, bag down to the socks, outfit, all name brands.
05:15Like, I- I can't afford that today. These days, I try to go for tough, cute, crazy, sexy, cool-
05:20A little something- oh my god, she's 52! That's really my goal these days. Um-
05:25is to give them a little shock and awe.
05:29How do you keep-
05:30I keep one-upping anniversary gifts as the years go on.
05:33Luckily for me, I don't.
05:35My husband-
05:36Good luck for him.
05:37So this year, I sang.
05:39And I saw some-
05:40comments of, like,
05:41she sang?
05:42For their 10-year anniversary?
05:43Yes, I did.
05:44Because it's- it's cost-effective.
05:45Now, were those background singers that I-
05:47I brought in from the United States cost-effective? No. No.
05:50They weren't, but they made me sound a lot better.
05:52And it's really about being thoughtful.
05:53I want effort.
05:55What's your advice for making a comeback when life and maybe love-
06:00hasn't gone according to plan?
06:02I am a big, firm believer-
06:04and get back on-
06:05I am a horse immediately.
06:06Because you know what's not going to stop for you or your pain?
06:08The world.
06:10And you're like, does no one care?
06:11No.
06:12Unfortunately, no one is going to care as much as you do about-
06:15the state of your heart or your life.
06:18My aunt gave great advice.
06:20That significant others are like Kleenex.
06:25Take one out.
06:26Use it.
06:27Oh, look!
06:28Another one's popped up in its place.
06:29Some people are like, I'm never going to-
06:30I'm never going to have another Kleenex.
06:31There's so many.
06:32Go through the box, child.
06:33Go through the box.
06:35And when you're dead, no one's going to be like-
06:37Oh my God.
06:38Thank God she didn't use her vagina.
06:40What's your go-to excuse for leaving a party early when your social battery is-
06:45dead.
06:46I don't have an excuse.
06:47I just leave.
06:48That's what grown people do.
06:49I'm not going to-
06:50I'm not going to do the old, I'm leaving you guys.
06:51Because then everyone's like, why are you leaving?
06:52It's so much fun.
06:53I just leave.
06:54All right.
06:55Guys.
06:56Thanks so much for watching.
07:00Bye.
07:01Bye.
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