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00:00:01Every time I build you up, you make me feel so small.
00:00:10Have you talked about how you're going to deal with the situation with the wedding coming up in a few weeks?
00:00:15I mean, in terms of external pressure or expectations, etc.
00:00:20We don't feel the pressure to get married, but it seems logical right now, which is weird, but...
00:00:26Yeah, I'm also kind of lacking that time period, because you feel like you don't really know the person yet.
00:00:34For me, it's like, sometimes I get the feeling like, yeah, okay, I could see it.
00:00:40But often I still think it would really be irresponsible.
00:00:44I'm not approaching it with fear, instead I'm thinking that I'm excited about it.
00:00:48Right, let's see what happens. Challenge accepted.
00:00:51Challenge accepted, I think yes.
00:00:53That's why I'm a little tense, because I don't know how it's all going to turn out, you know?
00:00:58There's no need to be afraid.
00:01:00No, you shouldn't anyway.
00:01:01You shouldn't be afraid of anything in general, you know?
00:01:04Yeah, that. I love your mindset, really.
00:01:08Well, you don't have to decide for another four weeks.
00:01:11Yeah, but I don't feel like having the whole wedding and then saying, yeah, I have cold feet after all, that's really mean.
00:01:17It's been a while since I've shown my heart, how to live, live without each other.
00:01:33But we're going strong, I know.
00:01:38These days, everything behind us feels like something already.
00:01:46Show me where there'll be tomorrow.
00:01:50Help me, there'll be.
00:01:54Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:01:58Help me, there'll be.
00:02:02You two are actually really cute, aren't you?
00:02:05Yeah, the emotional connection is definitely there.
00:02:09But I also need the physical aspect to sustain the emotional one.
00:02:15But for Jan, he wants to feel it 100% before he gives anything, so he won't give me the wrong impression.
00:02:21Yeah, I get that. But sometimes you have to give in order to feel.
00:02:25It's difficult when you don't speak the same language about physical intimacy.
00:02:30And I'm someone who likes to be held and even more by my partner, you know what I mean?
00:02:35Yeah, otherwise you build a distance or it solidifies, right? You can't break through.
00:02:40But I can totally understand him. It's just not my perspective. That would be totally unfair to him.
00:02:45She's so considerate. She's so selfless. Really, she, you know, she has such a pure heart and that makes it even worse for me.
00:02:58Because I would really like to be able to give her that back, you know?
00:03:03But you can't wait forever, though.
00:03:06I think time isn't on your side and it doesn't always help.
00:03:09The more time passes, the harder it gets, unfortunately, in your case.
00:03:12So waiting is tricky.
00:03:15But I haven't given up hope yet.
00:03:19The hope for love is what keeps me here.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Because I've never had that, guys. I've never had it.
00:03:28If you keep this up every night, nothing will happen.
00:03:30At some point, one of you has to take a step towards the other one.
00:03:33At least a little bit. Very gently. Very, very, very small steps. Nothing major.
00:03:38No need to stick your tongue in his mouth.
00:03:41Yeah, Jessie.
00:03:43Well, she's right.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:52Jan is so smart and so dumb. It's really...
00:03:55That sums it up well.
00:03:58Thinking doesn't help.
00:04:01You guys should be dumb.
00:04:03Oh, Consti, I don't know, man. I really don't know, man.
00:04:16I hope that attraction happens for you guys.
00:04:18I'm coming more gently.
00:04:19That's cool.
00:04:21You guys?
00:04:23No.
00:04:24No.
00:04:25No.
00:04:26No.
00:04:27No.
00:04:28That's cool.
00:04:29No.
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00:04:40No No.
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00:04:47Oh, God.
00:04:56I was sitting with Gunnar in the lounge, and I talked to him about how he's approaching the subject regarding the wedding, that it's only four weeks away.
00:05:06Oh, really?
00:05:07Yeah, I chose his opinion and wanted to know what his thoughts are.
00:05:12And he says that they're thinking about how it's not very long, too.
00:05:15But he says that they're using this time to get clarity for themselves.
00:05:21And that kind of made me feel calmer because I thought, hey, no one's forcing me to do anything here.
00:05:27So that was a good chat.
00:05:29Nice to know I'm not the only one here who's thinking about this.
00:05:32You're thinking a lot.
00:05:35How come I don't know about this?
00:05:40Yeah, but I'm chill, you know?
00:05:42Just normal thoughts.
00:05:45Honestly, I don't think about it that much.
00:05:49I know it's coming.
00:05:51A lot of hurdles are maybe just...
00:05:53A lot of highs and lows?
00:05:56About the wedding.
00:05:58I'll really start thinking about it when I know there isn't much time left.
00:06:03Hearing that he talks about this and with other people, I wish he'd talk to me about it first.
00:06:10But, yeah, I think Andy sometimes does things without thinking.
00:06:14Have you come to any conclusions about Crete now that it's almost over?
00:06:37Mm-hmm, yes.
00:06:41That bad?
00:06:43No.
00:06:45However...
00:06:46Yeah, I love this topic, how easy it is for me to talk about.
00:06:54It's so quiet, I can tell you're serious, yeah.
00:06:56It's so funny, you're always so quick-witted and direct, and as soon as it comes to feelings,
00:07:00you're either quiet or sometimes ironic, so those are the two.
00:07:03No!
00:07:04Yeah.
00:07:06You're not that hard to read.
00:07:08What is that supposed to mean?
00:07:10I'm totally mysterious.
00:07:11You're a mystery, yeah.
00:07:12Yes.
00:07:18I realize that I can't define for myself what being in love or I love someone actually means,
00:07:25because when things are very chaotic, I like to get in control by doing that.
00:07:31And I think you can't define love.
00:07:34It's basically a feeling.
00:07:36There's no checklist.
00:07:37It's not like, check, check, check, I love her now, I don't love her now.
00:07:42There was an attempt at that, which is, of course, stupid.
00:07:49Because the feeling's already here.
00:07:53I love you, Josie.
00:08:02I won't say anything else.
00:08:03That's it.
00:08:05But I will.
00:08:06I love you.
00:08:07I love you, too.
00:08:14I'll take that.
00:08:21I was a bit scared that I was being too fast for you again and that I would overwhelm you,
00:08:26but it's nice to say it.
00:08:28Yeah, right?
00:08:29It feels right.
00:08:34Shall we eat?
00:08:35Yeah, I'm done.
00:08:37Oh, God, no.
00:08:39Kidding.
00:08:40Okay.
00:08:41I thought so.
00:08:42Done with this emotional stuff.
00:08:45Interesting how hard that was for you.
00:08:47We can talk about everything so well, but...
00:08:50Let's just shush.
00:08:51Okay.
00:08:52Yeah.
00:08:52Got it.
00:08:53About earlier.
00:09:06Earlier?
00:09:06Yes.
00:09:06What happened?
00:09:07Your chat with Gunnar that you told me about.
00:09:13What about it?
00:09:15That you're thinking about stuff?
00:09:19About yes or no?
00:09:21I didn't want to make you feel insecure or anything, so I talked to him first.
00:09:25But it still shocked me a bit that you talked to the others about it, because that actually
00:09:32shows that you are a little unsure about things.
00:09:36Well, I wouldn't say that I'm unsure, but I just feel like it needs to be thought out.
00:09:43I want to make a rational decision, and that's what it was about.
00:09:47I'm not unsure about you at all, so everything's great.
00:09:52Yeah.
00:09:52Honestly, I thought it would bother me a little less, but somehow it's a little...
00:09:59My head is spinning a little...
00:10:13Hiya.
00:10:14So how was your workout?
00:10:19Good.
00:10:20Good?
00:10:21Good.
00:10:22What?
00:10:24It's really nice to get a fart-smelling kiss right after working out.
00:10:30Mm-hmm.
00:10:32It bothers you?
00:10:35It's a lot, isn't it?
00:10:37Yeah, but I told you from the start that I smoke.
00:10:40Yeah, I know, but now I like you more than I did back then, and now I'm more worried than
00:10:44I was a few days ago.
00:10:46Mm-hmm.
00:10:47I think it's just that the health issue is really, I don't know, when people are important
00:10:54to me, plus I've had my own issue, then I'm just different from a few years ago when I really
00:11:02wouldn't have cared at all.
00:11:03Yeah, I just think there are so many factors that also affect my health that it doesn't
00:11:11make much of a difference anymore, so...
00:11:14Yeah, I hear you, but you don't have to smoke 50 cigarettes a day on top of that.
00:11:21I do not think it's 50.
00:11:2340?
00:11:24No, 20.
00:11:25By the time we've had breakfast, you've already smoked three or four.
00:11:29That's possible, yeah.
00:11:30So, I'm not a doctor, but I do know that if you smoke 40 cigarettes a day, it's not good.
00:11:36It's not 40 cigarettes.
00:11:3835?
00:11:39I don't know.
00:11:3920.
00:11:41You've smoked that by noon.
00:11:43You're talking such bullshit.
00:11:47You have no insight, or it doesn't even occur to you that it increases the chance of getting
00:11:55sick and of getting sick sooner?
00:12:00Well, it has to click in my head first for me to say, okay, I will just stop right there
00:12:08and then.
00:12:09Right now, I'm just not feeling it.
00:12:15Oh, I don't know.
00:12:17I think I need a moment to myself.
00:12:18That is exactly the right solution.
00:12:21Yeah.
00:12:22Excellent.
00:12:23Great.
00:12:30My head is spinning.
00:12:49I think it fed a little fear and anxiety in me that was already there.
00:12:53This should actually be the most beautiful phase here, and I'm sitting here with these
00:13:01thoughts.
00:13:03I have a lot of mistrust.
00:13:05Now I'm paying attention to details to see if his feelings are real or not.
00:13:13So, how are you doing?
00:13:17I'm good.
00:13:17And you?
00:13:21You're here, and it's nice.
00:13:25There are a few things that feed the fear a little bit.
00:13:29He tends to use the same phrase quite a lot to describe something.
00:13:34Oh, that's nice.
00:13:35Oh, that's nice.
00:13:36And always with the same wording, with the same tone.
00:13:39Really?
00:13:39It's not supposed to be a line from a picture book.
00:13:42But when I look into your eyes, I just feel better.
00:13:44Yeah, it's really nice.
00:13:45I don't know right now if I should say something, when, or what I should say.
00:13:56Yeah.
00:14:13Should we pet them?
00:14:15Okay.
00:14:16No, he doesn't want to.
00:14:17He's walking away.
00:14:18It's okay.
00:14:18He also needs to build that trust, right?
00:14:25Can you imagine living in the countryside?
00:14:27I'm developing the dream of a, oops, a farm with you.
00:14:32A farm?
00:14:32Okay, what animals should we have?
00:14:34Definitely goats.
00:14:35Let's name him Theo.
00:14:36This is Theo.
00:14:38Why?
00:14:38Why do you think he's a Theo?
00:14:40Let's see.
00:14:41Eat if your name is Theo.
00:14:43See?
00:14:43We understand each other.
00:14:44No.
00:14:47I think we can take Theo with us to Berlin.
00:14:50Berlin City apartment.
00:14:54Oh my God.
00:15:00Bless you.
00:15:01Bye-bye.
00:15:03Bye-bye.
00:15:07Bye-bye.
00:15:07Bye-bye.
00:15:09Bye-bye.
00:15:11The city kid's on the farm.
00:15:16So, it's weird this is our first time.
00:15:19First time I had a farm.
00:15:20That's right.
00:15:29What do you call this part of the bread?
00:15:33Hmm, good question.
00:15:36The bread's heel.
00:15:38Yeah, right?
00:15:38Same for me.
00:15:39And there are different words for it in different regions of Germany.
00:15:42I can't name them, but for me it's the bread's heel too.
00:15:45Very nice genitive, I admit.
00:15:47Um, do you like eating that piece?
00:15:50Some people don't.
00:15:51I eat everything.
00:15:51I eat everything.
00:15:52I think that just because we did something new and different today, I definitely feel better.
00:16:10I also feel calmer.
00:16:12Good.
00:16:12I think that you can tell.
00:16:13I thought it was, uh, funny.
00:16:16I still think it's funny how we're both sitting here in our clothes at a farm.
00:16:21Yeah.
00:16:22We were here at this farm with these outfits and...
00:16:25Yeah.
00:16:25And there's a certain lightness that I can feel.
00:16:30I think, uh, we should just be more present and live more in the moment.
00:16:36And I hope that we can also keep the lightheartedness.
00:16:39It's really nice that we just turned the corner and wanted to do a reset.
00:16:48And now we're actually doing it and it does feel like it.
00:16:52That's how we'll get to know each other better.
00:16:58Luan has everything I've ever looked for in a woman.
00:17:03And I realized that a great opportunity is waiting for me here.
00:17:06It's what I've always been looking for.
00:17:08For a sincere love.
00:17:09And that's why I have an even stronger desire to do all I can.
00:17:15And a will to get things right.
00:17:30What's that there?
00:17:31Wow, nice.
00:17:32Bracelets.
00:17:34Combloi are also called worry beads because in many cultures, especially in Greece, they are used as a means of calming and relieving stress.
00:17:42And helping with nervousness, I could really use one right now.
00:17:45Yeah, I noticed that you were a little, a little tense.
00:17:51Well, I think it's normal to continually wonder how serious the other person is about you.
00:18:04Because I, I mean, I keep asking myself, when you say something, how serious you are about me.
00:18:13I mean, sometimes I'm afraid that it looks too perfect and also too artificial.
00:18:21I feel, I don't feel it when you say it to me in the moment.
00:18:31Yeah, I hear you, but I can assure you that I mean it.
00:18:37Maybe sometimes I get a little carried away with my words and passion for you, but it's because I feel it in here.
00:18:43I can tell you, I never tell a woman what she wants to hear.
00:18:50I did that once, a long time ago, and I've always regretted it.
00:18:54It creates a false impression.
00:18:56You should get to know me as I am.
00:18:57And it would be difficult for me to try to change my personality just so that you'd believe me.
00:19:02I want to be able to be myself and be loved for who I am, and only then can it work in the long run.
00:19:12It might also make sense to maybe check into how you're feeling regarding this.
00:19:16And I'll make sure that I also consider how I say things.
00:19:20I know it's not nice to hear something like that.
00:19:22No, it isn't nice.
00:19:24No, some things hurt and are just nasty and shitty, but it's also good because that's how we grow together.
00:19:30There's no other way, and that's why it's great that we're starting to talk straight now.
00:19:36Oh, the real straight talk is still to come.
00:19:38We're a little worried and stressed.
00:19:40We'll just take this little bracelet and then...
00:19:42And then we beat up the other person with it.
00:19:44That's what it's good for.
00:19:45Now I get it.
00:19:48Of course, I will do everything I can to make her realize that I'm serious,
00:19:51that I really mean the words that I say and I stand by my actions towards her.
00:19:55But on her end, she also has a job to do, which is to strengthen her trust in me and let go sometimes.
00:20:03Then we'll move forward.
00:20:11If you really think about it, what were the reasons why your past relationships have usually ended or failed?
00:20:18Over the last few years, I've had to learn to communicate better and to express the things I don't like.
00:20:33Yeah.
00:20:34What was always an issue was I felt that in the beginning, everything was always great.
00:20:40And then it got to a point when I always felt like someone was trying to change me a little bit.
00:20:49Yeah.
00:20:49How are you going to take it?
00:20:49Same for me too, yeah.
00:20:52Yeah, that's why now I have a few trigger points, like smoking.
00:20:59In the beginning, everything was accepted.
00:21:01And then, I don't know, after two, three months, well, it wasn't okay anymore.
00:21:08Yeah, and that's the reason why I'm bringing up these subjects early on.
00:21:13It's really important to me that we're always totally honest with each other and talk to each other to make sure none of this happens.
00:21:23I've never had anyone I could talk to so openly about all this.
00:21:35And we can also resolve it in a normal way and hopefully find a healthy middle ground for both of us.
00:21:42Yeah, I just want to do everything right this time.
00:21:44I had the sense that the first two days, you were one step ahead.
00:21:54I couldn't help but notice that, while I was still totally in my head.
00:21:59At the beginning, always thinking negatively like something's bound to happen, don't get carried away.
00:22:07And now I notice that I completely let go and that I'm completely letting myself fall and that I feel so good about it.
00:22:22Yeah, I'm falling deeply in love right now.
00:22:28Me too.
00:22:37I thought there'd be more relationship work here, and it seems so casual.
00:22:56Yeah, I feel the same way.
00:22:59Yeah, but also we did cover very difficult topics, had such a deep dive that there were no questions.
00:23:07There were no marks left.
00:23:09I don't wonder about how you think about the world or how you think about children or anything else,
00:23:16because we kind of already talked about all that.
00:23:19Are you a little worried that in the everyday phase you'll have to kind of confess or tell your friends about the children thing?
00:23:27It's such a huge topic.
00:23:28Yeah.
00:23:29And I think that pushing it away is so wrong in every sense.
00:23:33Yeah.
00:23:33But explaining that to someone who is as close to me as my best friends or whatever,
00:23:39I think that will definitely be a challenge.
00:23:42You know what I hate?
00:23:55What?
00:23:56Packing.
00:23:57Why do you hate it?
00:24:00In this case, because I'm very sad.
00:24:04You're hiding things here.
00:24:05I was wondering what that sweater was doing in my suitcase.
00:24:08Okay.
00:24:09No.
00:24:09So that's my bikini.
00:24:11Yeah.
00:24:12And my women's sweater, right?
00:24:13Yeah.
00:24:21It was a vacation with a lot of romance, with a lot of cuddling, but also with a lot of drama and also a breakup.
00:24:30And time is running out because the weddings are in just three weeks.
00:24:34Now our four couples are moving in together for the first time into their first shared apartment in Munich.
00:24:39And that could put their relationship to the test once again.
00:24:43Back to harsh reality, right?
00:24:44Yeah.
00:24:44I think this is an exciting phase.
00:24:46Yeah, I think so too.
00:24:47I'm also happy I'll be getting my phone back.
00:24:48Me too.
00:24:50I also love cleaning.
00:24:52Cleaning the bathroom.
00:24:53That's my favorite.
00:24:54I'll do that.
00:24:56Really?
00:24:56Yeah, I love cleaning.
00:24:59You know more cleaning the bathroom?
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:04I'm excited to see what's coming.
00:25:06Yeah, you've managed to handle me.
00:25:09Well, you've really seen me at my absolute worst.
00:25:13And we're still here.
00:25:15I'm going back to my everyday life, and I now have a strong desire to do better.
00:25:21Especially at the things I failed to do here.
00:25:24Will the bond from the pods take them to the altar?
00:25:35Will it be enough for a yes?
00:25:37Yes?
00:25:37Yes, look.
00:25:55How lovely.
00:25:56Our first apartment together.
00:25:58Are you scared?
00:26:06Yeah.
00:26:07Yeah.
00:26:08Good.
00:26:10Yeah.
00:26:16Beautiful.
00:26:18Wait for me.
00:26:19No.
00:26:20You can stay there.
00:26:21Hey.
00:26:21Oh, look.
00:26:22Our home.
00:26:24This is lovely.
00:26:26Look.
00:26:26Pictures of us.
00:26:29Oh, my God.
00:26:30Cool.
00:26:32Our balcony.
00:26:34We could have breakfast out here.
00:26:35You can bring me my coffee here in the morning?
00:26:37Yeah, sure.
00:26:40I'm absolutely not a bath person.
00:26:42Yeah, me neither.
00:26:43And who would have ever thought?
00:26:48What I find very important in the bathroom, don't flood the place.
00:26:54Otherwise, clean it up, please.
00:26:56No hair in the sink or toothpaste stains, if possible.
00:27:00Can we somehow manage that?
00:27:01I find that pretty gross.
00:27:04Yeah?
00:27:05Okay, great.
00:27:06Great.
00:27:07I'm house-trained.
00:27:08Yeah?
00:27:08Yeah, I don't like it either.
00:27:09Okay.
00:27:10It would also be pretty cool if we could extend this cleanliness program to the rest of the place.
00:27:15I think we can just agree that we try to not leave any mess when we've been somewhere.
00:27:20When you visit my apartment, you'll understand.
00:27:22Yeah, same here.
00:27:22I had to learn how, though.
00:27:23Like, a few years ago, you wouldn't have wanted to know me.
00:27:26Okay.
00:27:27Well, then I'm really glad I met you now.
00:27:28I'm getting domesticated.
00:27:29You should be pleased.
00:27:29Very good.
00:27:30Very good.
00:27:35That's odd.
00:27:37That really is.
00:27:40Crete was so perfect, a bubble.
00:27:45Now we're back to real life, which is nice, but you have to find a way to balance it.
00:27:51Other people are coming into the picture, other influences, and that won't be all smooth.
00:27:57I could just call my mom.
00:28:05Well, I should call my mom.
00:28:07And I want to call her.
00:28:12Are you ready?
00:28:12I'm really nervous inside.
00:28:18Of course, you always think about how you'll be received.
00:28:21Will she like me, or won't she?
00:28:28Oh, God.
00:28:29Not available.
00:28:37You want to be liked.
00:28:41You want it to work.
00:28:42You want to fit in.
00:28:44That's my thing.
00:28:46I've been like that my whole life.
00:28:48And, um, especially now, with someone so important.
00:28:52I'll call dad, then, or my sister.
00:28:55It'll be funny.
00:28:57She'll be shocked.
00:28:57I'll call her.
00:29:02Brother!
00:29:03Hey, dear sister.
00:29:04You're alive!
00:29:05I'm alive and well.
00:29:08How are you?
00:29:09Good.
00:29:10Good?
00:29:10Should I show you someone, Frauke?
00:29:14Yeah, show me.
00:29:16Yes.
00:29:16Uh, this is my fiancée.
00:29:18Hello.
00:29:19Josie.
00:29:20Yeah, this is my sister.
00:29:24You're both grinning.
00:29:26Yeah.
00:29:27You look really, really happy.
00:29:29Yes, we are.
00:29:30Yes.
00:29:30I shouldn't tell mom anything until you've got a hold of her, right?
00:29:33You can tell her, if you like.
00:29:35Have you tried dad, too?
00:29:36Later, yeah.
00:29:38Okay.
00:29:39Bye.
00:29:39See you.
00:29:40See you.
00:29:41Have fun.
00:29:42Bye.
00:29:42Bye.
00:29:43Bye.
00:29:45Well, she's really lovely.
00:29:47Yeah.
00:29:47She's really sweet.
00:29:48Yeah.
00:29:49Do you want to call someone?
00:29:53No.
00:29:53After that experience?
00:29:54I need a break.
00:30:00Josie and I have very different paths.
00:30:03Mine's very easy.
00:30:04Hers is more difficult.
00:30:05I had the luxury of having a very picture-perfect family.
00:30:08Not everyone has that, and she doesn't, so I understand it can be difficult for her sometimes.
00:30:13I need to feel sexually attracted to the woman that I'm planning to marry, right?
00:30:30Yeah.
00:30:31Yeah.
00:30:31I mean, that this attraction and excitement between two people, yeah, it makes everything
00:30:40a lot deeper, I think.
00:30:43There are different ways that can happen.
00:30:45I mean, sex and love are, I mean, they're two different things.
00:30:49I don't think they always go together.
00:30:51Yeah.
00:30:51Have you had a lot of sex with that love?
00:30:56Probably once or twice, but that's not my preference, to be honest.
00:30:59I never have.
00:31:01Yeah, right.
00:31:03Sure.
00:31:06But it's true, isn't it?
00:31:08Sex with love is just something completely different, and it's definitely the better kind.
00:31:14It really makes you feel connected to the other person.
00:31:21I'm very happy with the way things are.
00:31:25That's important.
00:31:27Yeah.
00:31:28Would it be difficult for you if maybe you didn't get that kind of affection for a few days?
00:31:35Speaking of, didn't we have a day or two like that?
00:31:40When you got a little bitchy?
00:31:42Yeah, hold on a sec.
00:31:48Not bitchy, but I have to say, um, you do feel kind of rejected indirectly, in a way.
00:31:54Because you didn't get sex for a day?
00:31:56No, it wasn't just one day.
00:31:59Two?
00:32:00Yes.
00:32:00Yeah.
00:32:01Yeah, but we're still in the early stages, my friend.
00:32:04Yeah, okay.
00:32:07On that note.
00:32:08Let's just fuck.
00:32:13So this is the glockenspiel.
00:32:30I think those are the flags of Lorraine and Bavaria, right?
00:32:35Although the Austrian eagle was on the left.
00:32:38Yeah, I didn't think I'd be so impressed by this.
00:32:41It's incredible.
00:32:42Really fascinating.
00:32:43Oh, it's already over.
00:32:45Should we clap?
00:32:45Super.
00:32:50It's surprisingly easy for me to settle in here with Luan.
00:32:55Left, right, left, right, left, right, left, right.
00:32:59It's something I really appreciate and that I am very much aware of as I experience these moments with her.
00:33:06I catch myself looking at him with different eyes, so it's not purely platonic.
00:33:17Something is definitely happening.
00:33:22Do you want to go back to Crete or are you more comfortable in Munich?
00:33:25I feel much more comfortable in Munich.
00:33:27I feel like we've got this lightness that we had in the pods again.
00:33:35I feel like we have it back.
00:33:37And that feels really good.
00:33:39Yeah, I totally agree.
00:33:43Luan and I are going at a different pace, especially when you compare it to the other couples.
00:33:50There's room for more action.
00:33:51It could happen, and I'd like that.
00:33:53I think Luan deserves to be desired.
00:33:57And as far as I can do that, once I'm actually feeling it,
00:34:01I will, of course, be happy to oblige.
00:34:04It's important that we listen to our feelings, let our gut decide, not our head.
00:34:09Yes, that's...
00:34:10I think that would be good for us.
00:34:11That is, yes, that's a very good suggestion.
00:34:14But I think we are at a really, really good point.
00:34:17We're just who we are, and I think that's nice.
00:34:22Yeah.
00:34:23Totally.
00:34:23But you're my other part, and I know it.
00:34:28Yes, a lot.
00:34:30It's...
00:34:31Yes.
00:34:35Luan is probably the most...
00:34:38The most selfless person that I have really ever met.
00:34:45She's just really empathetic, very understanding, very considerate.
00:34:50Such a feel-good person.
00:34:51Oh, God, she's so cute.
00:35:06She has such huge blue eyes.
00:35:11Oh, she's so cute.
00:35:12My cute little mouse.
00:35:13I really miss her.
00:35:14What breed is she?
00:35:15Sacred Burman.
00:35:17Sacred Burman?
00:35:18And she's just so beautiful.
00:35:19So, good-natured.
00:35:21It's time to bring her here.
00:35:23Yes.
00:35:24We'll make things nice for her.
00:35:25Maybe we could prepare a little spot where she can lie down.
00:35:28Like, put a blanket on the floor so she feels comfortable.
00:35:31Yeah, sure.
00:35:31And then you can sleep here and her in the bed.
00:35:34Exactly.
00:35:36It's lovely that he's so attentive, even when it comes to my cat.
00:35:40It shows that he's ready to take this step with me.
00:35:43Like a little cave or something, where she can go in and snuggle up like this?
00:35:48So, like, a cube with a size of 13 inches.
00:35:52That's cool.
00:35:54A little shared project.
00:35:55That'll be fun.
00:36:01Best to go to the hardware store with you, though.
00:36:03So, welcome to beautiful Sabia, right?
00:36:13Beautiful.
00:36:14My sweet and lovely homeland.
00:36:16It doesn't give countryside at all.
00:36:21A little culture clash here.
00:36:23It's cozy.
00:36:24Yeah, it's cozy.
00:36:26Very rural.
00:36:27Nice.
00:36:28Rural.
00:36:31Wow.
00:36:32My new home.
00:36:33Yes.
00:36:34Nice.
00:36:34It is, right?
00:36:35Yeah.
00:36:40So, welcome to my place.
00:36:46Okay.
00:36:47Wow, I'm really curious to see what your place looks like.
00:36:50Yeah, you should be.
00:36:53But first, would you please take your shoes off?
00:36:57Yeah.
00:36:57Because, you know, it's very hygienic.
00:36:58Of course, things have to be in order.
00:37:00Order is a must.
00:37:01All in order.
00:37:01Order is a must.
00:37:02All in order.
00:37:03All in order.
00:37:04This is my hallway.
00:37:06And this is my office.
00:37:08Start here.
00:37:09Look at that.
00:37:11Yeah.
00:37:12So, for me, it goes without saying that this will also naturally be Consti's place.
00:37:26My place is my place.
00:37:27My place is his place.
00:37:33So, this is my bedroom.
00:37:35Very important.
00:37:37You check everything out first, and then you sort things out.
00:37:41Yeah, but we're going to have a huge problem.
00:37:44Yeah, the closet is way too small.
00:37:45It's way too small.
00:37:46So, I think in general, he definitely likes my apartment.
00:37:52Good.
00:37:53We'll figure it out, right?
00:37:54Good.
00:37:55Yeah?
00:37:56Yeah.
00:37:56Yeah.
00:37:57Yeah.
00:37:57It's just how you described it, and how I imagined it.
00:38:02Meaning?
00:38:03Meaning?
00:38:04Yeah.
00:38:06Just how it is.
00:38:07Just how it is.
00:38:08The thought that we'll spend a lot of time here together is really nice.
00:38:15Yeah.
00:38:16Not bad for a provincial apartment.
00:38:20Yeah, but it is...
00:38:23It would still be a big change for me.
00:38:25Really?
00:38:26Yeah.
00:38:28Yeah.
00:38:28Okay.
00:38:29Not a lot of bars, restaurants, and places to walk to.
00:38:32I agree with you there, but we'll have that in Mallorca.
00:38:35Yeah.
00:38:38What's wrong?
00:38:40Life in a countryside is a compromise.
00:38:42I like the hustle and bustle of living in a city.
00:38:45It's going to be a huge change.
00:38:48The things you do for love, right?
00:38:50Exactly.
00:38:50Exactly.
00:38:55I'm getting to know an area here, a place that will probably soon be a part of my life.
00:39:03I have to get used to that, because I would never have chosen to live here.
00:39:08I'll set you on fire and watch you burn.
00:39:19What kind of DIY have you done?
00:39:25All the stuff you would do for an apartment.
00:39:29Like building furniture?
00:39:30Laying floors.
00:39:31Yeah.
00:39:31Laying floors, too?
00:39:32Of course.
00:39:33Plastering walls, sanding, wallpapering, painting, covering pipes, cladding, building pipe docks,
00:39:40and stuff like that.
00:39:41I've done all kinds of stuff.
00:39:42That's good.
00:39:44Yasmin's looks don't really match what you'd expect her to be able to do in terms of manual skills.
00:39:48I like this distribution of labor.
00:39:52You should definitely put on the gloves, because you can really hurt your hands while vacuuming.
00:39:57That's why I kind of asked you to put on the gloves.
00:39:58Yeah, yeah, right.
00:40:00It's smooth, right?
00:40:11Yeah, now we can lift it.
00:40:13Yeah.
00:40:14It already looks good.
00:40:15Totally.
00:40:15You don't have to file that much, to be honest.
00:40:17Which side looks better?
00:40:19Rings my tinnitus.
00:40:21You poor thing.
00:40:22Yeah, you too, right?
00:40:23No.
00:40:24I don't think I've ever done a craft project with a woman in my life.
00:40:28Me neither.
00:40:29Not with a man, funnily enough.
00:40:31Yeah, but it works well, right?
00:40:33Yeah.
00:40:33I mean, it's really fun.
00:40:35For me, this joint project is definitely a step forward, because we're building something
00:40:39together, and we have a really nice harmony.
00:40:42That just shows me that she's the right woman for me, because she can do that.
00:40:46I can definitely tell that you've done this kind of thing before.
00:40:49Well, not exactly this, but...
00:40:50Well, I don't think I could have done it without you.
00:40:53It was fun.
00:40:54I feel like we're both on the same level now.
00:40:58This is a time when you get to know your partner better, without asking a ton of questions,
00:41:04just through everyday life and how your partner behaves.
00:41:08Look at this.
00:41:09How cool it fits.
00:41:12So cool.
00:41:13He likes it.
00:41:14That's really sweet.
00:41:24It means a lot to me to meet the family.
00:41:39I'm just really nervous about how they'll react to me.
00:41:44Hello.
00:41:50So...
00:41:51Show me.
00:41:51Hello.
00:41:53Hello.
00:41:53Hello.
00:41:53Hi.
00:41:54Hi.
00:41:54Leah, right?
00:41:56Yes.
00:41:57Hello, Constance.
00:41:57Nice to meet you.
00:41:58Hi.
00:41:58Lovely to meet you.
00:41:59Totally.
00:42:00Nice to meet you.
00:42:01Hi.
00:42:01Hello.
00:42:02Hi.
00:42:02Hi.
00:42:03Hi.
00:42:03Great to meet you.
00:42:05Great to meet you, too.
00:42:05Hello.
00:42:06Really good.
00:42:07Hi.
00:42:08Hi.
00:42:09Hi.
00:42:10Nice to meet you.
00:42:11Hi.
00:42:12Hello.
00:42:13Hi.
00:42:14Ellie.
00:42:15Nice to meet you.
00:42:16Ellie.
00:42:17Hi, Constance.
00:42:18Nice to meet you.
00:42:19Great hug.
00:42:20You two look so happy.
00:42:21You too.
00:42:22I feel really warm now.
00:42:24Yes, of course.
00:42:25Please.
00:42:26So you can sit there.
00:42:27I feel really warm now.
00:42:28Yes, of course.
00:42:29Please.
00:42:30So you know what?
00:42:31I always think, oh, I'm really chill and relaxed, but that's not true.
00:42:34I'm actually a nervous wreck.
00:42:36It's weird, right?
00:42:38I didn't even notice.
00:42:40Yeah.
00:42:41That might help.
00:42:42I think we all need a bit of alcohol now.
00:42:44Shall I do it or will you?
00:42:45Yeah.
00:42:46Let's do it together, okay?
00:42:47Yeah?
00:42:48Yes.
00:42:49Oh.
00:42:50Oh, no.
00:42:51Of course.
00:42:52Look.
00:42:53Oh, man.
00:42:54Look at that.
00:42:55That's such a rookie mistake.
00:42:56Better on the plate than here.
00:42:57What are you doing?
00:42:58Ah.
00:42:59Of course.
00:43:00It had to happen.
00:43:01Help now.
00:43:02You're not happy, are you?
00:43:03I need a cloth.
00:43:04No.
00:43:05A cloth.
00:43:06A cloth.
00:43:07Nope.
00:43:08This is very dangerous here.
00:43:09I was warned not to get anything on the floor.
00:43:10Now, don't use the napkins, man.
00:43:12Why not?
00:43:13Can I have a cloth?
00:43:15Dude.
00:43:16But why not?
00:43:17Okay, but this is exactly how she is.
00:43:22Look, it's all good.
00:43:23Nothing happens.
00:43:24Ah, great.
00:43:25Considering the stress levels, that was okay.
00:43:27I haven't taken it in yet.
00:43:31Still haven't.
00:43:32That you're engaged now.
00:43:33Yeah.
00:43:34Yeah.
00:43:35Engaged.
00:43:36Yeah, engaged.
00:43:37And you have to process that first.
00:43:39Wrap your head around that, right?
00:43:40Yeah, yeah.
00:43:41We kind of skipped the whole relationship part.
00:43:43Yeah.
00:43:44It's like you're always in the fast lane.
00:43:46But that's actually all you're doing because that's all you have to focus on.
00:43:50Hmm.
00:43:51I don't know.
00:43:52Then it just...
00:43:53We just clicked very quickly.
00:43:55Yeah.
00:43:56I mean, you either click or you don't.
00:43:58Yeah.
00:43:59Yeah.
00:44:00And I think the feeling is heading in the right direction.
00:44:03Guys, this is my dream, man.
00:44:04Really.
00:44:05I'm not bullshitting you.
00:44:06I wanted to ask if I could talk to you in private.
00:44:07I just had to ask the same thing.
00:44:08Great.
00:44:09Let's go outside then.
00:44:10First of all, I'm really happy that we got to meet each other.
00:44:19if i could talk to you in private to ask the same thing great let's go outside then
00:44:30first of all i'm really happy that we got to meet each other
00:44:36it was really important to me to have the chance to talk to you alone because in some ways i'm
00:44:41very traditional um if a wedding is coming up uh to get your blessing and uh ask you if i can marry
00:44:50jesse and whether i can get your um okay to marry her i know my jesse very well and when she when
00:45:02she has a grin like that on her cheeks or on her face i know that that this is a special man
00:45:07and that's what i want as a father and so of course um i give you my blessing
00:45:15that means a lot to me and i want to promise you that i will always be there
00:45:19for jesse and for her to be uh a good husband and um yeah thank you very very much i really
00:45:26appreciate it come here i really appreciate it no problem thank you thank you i'm really very happy
00:45:37i know you know me and you've um you've been through a lot with me and i can be skeptical
00:45:50but i haven't found anything wrong normally i would already have found 50 things that bothered me but
00:45:55this time it's not like that at all it's almost too good to be true no it isn't there has to be a
00:46:01match there's nothing we don't nothing we don't agree on
00:46:10you're having such an exciting time but you've known each other only a few weeks you don't know
00:46:15everything about him yet you're still getting to know each other we already know each other
00:46:19inside and out we're spending every day together all day 24 7.
00:46:25but are you really aware that things won't always be like this yes because you know i know that
00:46:36things can change but i know with the with the drive we have now we can do it so but you won't always
00:46:44have that drive right there may also be the honeymoon phase no no no no this isn't the honeymoon phase
00:46:49yes never been like this before she is incredibly in love and she is firmly convinced that he is
00:46:57absolutely the man of her dreams
00:47:02at some point everyday life will kick in then things will start to get on your nerves
00:47:09she has to be aware of how difficult it is to maintain a marriage
00:47:19she has to be aware of how difficult it is to maintain a marriage
00:47:35good morning morning
00:47:38crazy our first night yes and lovely too
00:47:52i like how we're so comfortable in that respect
00:48:00he loves every roll of fat on me every inch he thinks it's all really beautiful so even if i think
00:48:06okay um i don't think i look so great or attractive right now especially when i'm completely naked um
00:48:14you see your own problem areas even more but he he loves every part of my body
00:48:29yes getting physical was very nice we generally have a different pace when it comes to emotions and
00:48:34physicality we're very unrestrained with emotions but a bit slower with the physical but um it was worth the wait
00:48:53i think what i uh can't quite gauge yet is what kind of lifestyle you have in mind
00:48:58um for example how often we go on vacation or how often we go out to dinner so yeah what are you
00:49:05seeing for our life together yes well for me this still means living the life i want to live
00:49:13for example that i have a decent clean and safe car and not some
00:49:19old set of wheels and i like to go to the hairdresser regularly it's not because i would have children that
00:49:24i would need to keep track of my money or that i can't go to the hairdresser but these are all things
00:49:28i can pay for myself i think we should each have our own account that is ours to do whatever we want
00:49:33with and then we could also consider having a joint account where we each put a determined amount of
00:49:39money into it and we use it to pay for joint stuff i think our opinion is different on that matter
00:49:44so in my ideal world i see it like this if i enter into a marriage with someone we should be a unit so
00:49:55you should be okay with what i do with the money and i would expect the same from you that you check
00:50:00in with me if i think it's okay what you do with the money so your ideal scenario is that we have one
00:50:06account you pay and i pay and we pay for everything from that whatever that is that's what a family is to me
00:50:12yeah well i think that's an interesting idea because if i want to buy a car or something then
00:50:18we have to our car it's not yours or mine yeah and then it's a joint investment i know other people
00:50:27who do things the way you said but that's not me so you can forget about that with me i i don't
00:50:33want to do it like that yeah then there's no point in getting married that's my opinion so what's
00:50:41wrong with a marriage in which you do things that way you said there's no point in getting
00:50:45married it's really a minor point i don't see it as a minor point to be honest
00:50:55it's i know to me it shows mistrust at some level
00:51:01in principle there's no lack of trust because like i said you could do whatever you want you
00:51:06misunderstand me there's no mine and yours i always want it to be us i don't want to give
00:51:11up on that idea i really won't
00:51:17this is an issue that really worries me especially now that i know things are getting serious
00:51:22i just want him to give me the security i need
00:51:25is he really the man i can spend my life with
00:51:33this will be the first time since we cleared things up that we'll see the other couples again
00:52:03i feel secure and comfortable and that is why i am not at all um prejudiced about the meeting
00:52:10quite the opposite knowing that definitely puts me at ease thank you
00:52:20who do you think i'll be there today of course i hope that some of my boys will be there
00:52:24i hope well i'd be really happy to see my friend jubilee of course for one yeah extremely
00:52:32okay weird right kind of more excited about the men than the women
00:52:36although i have to say i'm
00:52:39i think that dustin will also be there tonight but i don't think there's any bad blood between us
00:52:45quite the opposite i think we got along very well despite the whole thing over you but i'd like to see
00:52:52him i would genuinely be happy to see dustin today um because dustin and i had a very deep emotional
00:53:06connection
00:53:09maybe um then i'll also feel like yes i got everything right and what if you know feeling of i got it all
00:53:16wrong i think seeing him will stir things up for me emotionally
00:53:25i'm curious to see if anything comes up today in terms of hurt feelings or i don't know any behaviors
00:53:32right so well i think some stuff will come up not for us i hope yeah me too
00:53:52thank you hello welcome hello hello
00:54:11hello hello hello what about you guys i mean when we left crete i know things were still a bit
00:54:25yeah everything's completely changed awesome really i mean the connection i have with her right now
00:54:31i wouldn't describe it as perfection because of course what does perfection even mean but it's true
00:54:36there's nothing missing so right the question is though when do the feelings kick in
00:54:44if i could i would muster those romantic feelings and the hope and certainty are that
00:54:49they will develop if i give myself time but those are not things you can force
00:54:55i've got to know him as the person i've always wanted to have in my life and you don't want to miss
00:55:04out on someone like that right but we've agreed the focus is still on us so yeah that's why i was
00:55:11really relieved when i was really relieved when i came here today yes
00:55:31come here man you're surprised ah nice to see you
00:55:34wow are you stressed yes i'm really nervous oh you look good really nervous
00:55:43the second coolest berliner
00:55:51i think dustin's very um nice
00:55:55what would you like andy andy anything anything very good looking
00:56:09what it's quite funny that andy gets on with him so well it's so great to see you man
00:56:15really nice justin ah dustin i still wanted you to be here today yeah dustin is a bit like a little
00:56:23brother to me and i feel a very very strong connection to him how are you guys um well
00:56:31what's up i'm doing great
00:56:36regardless of anything else that uh played a role i was very happy to see him of course i'm feeling a
00:56:43lot of emotions uh but with yasmin our journey i don't know if you want to hear it or not i mean
00:56:48you also dated for a long time and that must have been emotional too
00:56:56it's going really well you know of course we have our ups and downs during the process of getting
00:57:00to know each other there are moments when maybe we're at odds but the two of us are definitely a
00:57:06unit no one can come between us it's surprising that andy is suddenly with him the whole time as if
00:57:13to say i know you want to talk to him but you can't come over dustin and i have a really cool
00:57:21connection i'd like to talk so happy to see him and that's right there yeah i feel like um andy
00:57:28doesn't trust me and so it was like if dustin doesn't come to me i'll go to him because i think
00:57:34we should talk to each other well how are you good and you i'm good too um
00:57:51i could have i mean i could i could even imagine that things might have also worked out pretty well
00:57:58with him andy already told me how great things are between you i want to hear your side how the last
00:58:03few days or weeks been for you um hard work that's what springs to mind yeah i don't know
00:58:15i have a problem with authenticity with uh andy because i felt that he was talking to me in kind
00:58:23of a forced way it comes across as a bit of acting to me
00:58:27whenever he talked about his feelings or whatever he kind of looked away and he always spoke in this
00:58:35forced voice yeah and i'm so in love with you he says that but i don't feel it from him within
00:58:41i'm still in protective mode yeah a little
00:58:54can i get you to anything yeah i'll have the same again
00:58:57how do you know that's exactly what it is me i'm so good we're chatting and the same again for the
00:59:05gentleman
00:59:13uh yeah okay
00:59:15i do feel like i'm being respectful and keeping my distance a bit when yasmin and dustin are talking
00:59:26i may have stayed close around them a bit just to hear what they were talking about uh because yes
00:59:31i'm a little curious i feel like you're talking about yeah yeah your ear was really pricked up i had
00:59:38the feeling it might be a good time to join them because look i don't want anyone to come between us
00:59:43and what we have and i just want to make sure that everything turns out well for us
00:59:50well i'm feeling it and uh it's really nice yeah beautiful and uh just growing together and now
00:59:56we're getting our cat living together that's a commitment it feels totally awesome yeah yeah
01:00:04so now let's wait and see
01:00:07we wait another week yeah do you want some water maybe i'll get some water for you
01:00:12you're really the alcohol gone to your head yeah you just put down some water for me so who's drunk
01:00:17now you gave it to me two minutes ago yeah i'm just looking out for you
01:00:27so it's not at all my intention to mark my territory because i'm 100 sure about yasmin and so is she
01:00:33about me there's no gap for anyone to squeeze into it's hard for me to express my feelings for her
01:00:39when you're watching because i think i can leave no no i'll stop saying that because no you can stay
01:00:57i'll just leave you alone for a bit yeah if you want it's all good it was nice meeting you
01:01:17i really can't have someone by my side who is so insecure to be honest i don't find it attractive
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