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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 Episode 4 -
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
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00:00:00For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.
00:00:03But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:07I'm terrified to tell him, because a couple of months ago,
00:00:11I told him I had a fling with a woman.
00:00:15And he was disgusted.
00:00:18He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:20I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:24Don't make jokes.
00:00:26He doesn't love you.
00:00:27That's not what love is.
00:00:29He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:31There's an absolute possibility this
00:00:33is going to blow up in my face.
00:00:35But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,
00:00:39then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:43We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check
00:00:47until we get married.
00:00:49But that's just not what you said.
00:00:51A couple of weeks ago, I realized
00:00:53that he followed thousands of women.
00:00:55And it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:00:58Good night.
00:00:59Good night.
00:01:01Now, seeing how he's acting in person,
00:01:03it's making me question things.
00:01:10Oh, my goodness.
00:01:12Sheena and I have been waiting seven years
00:01:14to meet up with each other.
00:01:16And I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:19But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena
00:01:22lying about the money again.
00:01:29Apology aside, there's still some things
00:01:32that have to be discussed before we can proceed.
00:01:36I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor.
00:01:46Because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:01:49I'm going to see his face, and it's just going to flow out of me,
00:01:53drip down my legs.
00:01:54And what an impression that's going to be.
00:01:56I am nervous, and I am excited, and I'm scared to death.
00:02:09Because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:13What if he hides?
00:02:14What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:17I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:18I don't know if he's going to be like, wow,
00:02:20she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:26Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel
00:02:29for the first time.
00:02:31And I am feeling overwhelmed, and excited, and nervous.
00:02:38My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns
00:02:40at dinner the other night.
00:02:41That Daniel could be scamming me, and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:45But all I can think about is how I just
00:02:47want to touch his face and feel the dimples in his cheeks,
00:02:51and feel his beard.
00:02:52I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:02:56These are the wigs I am taking with me.
00:02:59They're brand new.
00:03:01I have three, because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:05I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:09My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:12Just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:16Wearing a wig, it's a process, and it's not fun.
00:03:20It sticks to your hair.
00:03:22It sticks to your skin.
00:03:23You have rashes.
00:03:24You have all kinds of sores.
00:03:27It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria.
00:03:30But it makes him so happy.
00:03:33I want to look beautiful for Daniel.
00:03:35So I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:37I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:42So today, mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:47Pretty nervous.
00:03:51Not sure how it's going to go.
00:03:54She's horrible with directions.
00:03:56I am hopeful she gets the answers and the relationship
00:04:01she's hoping for.
00:04:03But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:08Hi, Faith.
00:04:09I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:12Oh, wonderful.
00:04:14Yeah, freshly brewed.
00:04:16That's the first thing I want.
00:04:18I know.
00:04:19All right, listen.
00:04:20Here's something really important.
00:04:22The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:24Yeah, so you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:28That has to be done.
00:04:30Like immediately?
00:04:31Yes, because the court hearing date
00:04:33that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th,
00:04:36so that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:40I want to come clean and tell him that not only I was still
00:04:44married, but the divorce is there.
00:04:45And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:48If I'm just, mom, you not only lied about the fact
00:04:52that, oh, you didn't just have a fling with a woman.
00:04:55No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:00But you also told him you're not married.
00:05:05Not only does he not know that I've been with women
00:05:07for the past 21 years, Daniel doesn't
00:05:10know that I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:13He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started
00:05:20talking to me.
00:05:21And I said, yeah, I'm free to marry.
00:05:23Because in my heart, I have been free to marry.
00:05:25Because my ex-wife and I have been separated
00:05:27for over nine years.
00:05:29We just never got around to signing the divorce papers
00:05:32until now.
00:05:34If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:37I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:39Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip
00:05:41and tell him everything.
00:05:43I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal
00:05:44until we have this conversation.
00:05:47He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:05:52Just trust me.
00:05:53I'm just worried.
00:05:54Don't worry.
00:05:55Don't worry.
00:05:56I got this.
00:05:57Let's get going.
00:05:58We need to get to the airport.
00:05:59It is getting late, and we need to get going.
00:06:03I do have a flight.
00:06:05I struggle trusting my mom that she's not going to somehow
00:06:09try and get married in there.
00:06:11Please do not ruin your life for getting
00:06:13married to somebody before you're ready.
00:06:16I need to grab my phone.
00:06:18That's the last thing I need.
00:06:20So if Daniel was asking you to get married with
00:06:25while you're in Nigeria, would you keep your hands to faith?
00:06:28Would I go against faith's wishes?
00:06:34I want to say no.
00:06:38But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:43Jump with both feet in.
00:06:44I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:06:50I want to be with him.
00:06:52I want to be a part of him.
00:06:54I want to be his wife.
00:06:57So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:00I really don't know.
00:07:02Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:04Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:06Woo, here we go.
00:07:14Here we go.
00:07:17Oh, 61.
00:07:21What?
00:07:22Oh, 61.
00:07:24I got three.
00:07:25Oh, you've done good.
00:07:27Oh, 70.
00:07:30I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:34I was married to a soldier.
00:07:37He lived up the street.
00:07:40My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:42We loved to skate, so our first date was going skating.
00:07:48The first date, we went to a fair, and I sort of thought,
00:07:55you know, I like him.
00:07:58I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:02That was just, that was it.
00:08:06He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring, and here it is.
00:08:18I'm done waiting, no more hesitating.
00:08:24There is nothing more to once more.
00:08:28You got to feel it, you got to believe it.
00:08:33There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:37Big four.
00:08:40Good afternoon.
00:08:42Lemonade.
00:08:43Oh, boy.
00:08:45My name is Javon.
00:08:46I'm 38 years old, and I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:08:52Who's winning?
00:08:53Who has a bingo?
00:08:54I've got several bingos.
00:08:56Oh, nice.
00:08:57I work at a nursing home, and I like my job.
00:09:04You know, old people, they just say some of the first things
00:09:08that come to their mind, they have no filters,
00:09:10and it's just pure comedy.
00:09:12What did you bring us today?
00:09:14We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:18Ooh, look at all that cheese.
00:09:21But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:23Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:25I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:29American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:34I call them three sixes, and it's not me.
00:09:43Mm, that's good.
00:09:45Mm-mm.
00:09:46We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:48Oh, yeah.
00:09:49Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:09:51I'm going to see my wife.
00:09:54And when was the last time you saw her?
00:09:57Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:03So this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:09Oh, OK.
00:10:12Really?
00:10:13Yeah.
00:10:15My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:17She's 38 years old.
00:10:19And she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:22Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:24I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:26Must be something in it.
00:10:29Yeah, it must be something in it.
00:10:31We connected online about five years ago,
00:10:34and we've been married for about two years.
00:10:40He said that?
00:10:42No, that's wrong.
00:10:44We have been in a relationship for six years
00:10:46and we have been married for almost three years.
00:10:50OK?
00:10:52Hello, boo-boo.
00:10:54I love you and I appreciate you.
00:10:56Mwah!
00:10:58Boy, the moment I saw him, he's so good to look at.
00:11:03Yummers.
00:11:09Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:12we would talk for hours every day
00:11:14and he just made me feel like the happiest
00:11:17that I've ever been.
00:11:21Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:24I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person.
00:11:27But when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:31There were flight restrictions.
00:11:33I was kind of feeling hopeless
00:11:36and I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:39And then I was scrolling on social media
00:11:42and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:46And I thought if they were married legally,
00:11:48he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:11:52because they allow family,
00:11:54which means blood or your spouse.
00:11:58When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:04I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:05I had doubts, of course,
00:12:10because it's unorthodox,
00:12:12but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:15When you meet the one
00:12:16that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:18you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:20It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:21When you know, you know.
00:12:22It's kind of like that.
00:12:24All right.
00:12:26Place the rings on your fingers
00:12:28as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:30and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:32How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:37Absolutely not.
00:12:38But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:41It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:43lawfully wed as husband and wife.
00:12:50I finally have my perfect wife.
00:12:53I just need to meet her in person.
00:12:55How could you be married for years
00:12:59and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:03The whole thing is very expensive.
00:13:06So, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:08So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:12Over the years,
00:13:14me and Anna Lynn have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:17but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:20And having a marriage online has been challenging,
00:13:26especially because Anna Lynn has changed.
00:13:31When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:36She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:39Like, hold on, what's going on here?
00:13:42After a period of time,
00:13:55I had to fight to actually speak, to be heard.
00:13:58Lately, it feels like we're fighting
00:14:00more than we're getting along.
00:14:02I know we're already committed as man and wife,
00:14:04but before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:07and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:10we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:13to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:17I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:19I'm going to give it everything I got,
00:14:21but I'm worried that our problems
00:14:23are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:26And if we can't,
00:14:28I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:30Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:14:37Oh, yeah.
00:14:38Oh, yeah.
00:14:39Mm-hmm.
00:14:40You're so handsome, always.
00:14:41I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:14:43I've been waiting seven years
00:14:45to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:14:47I'm not saying I can't blow her socks off,
00:14:49but I'm kind of still nervous
00:14:52about losing my hair to you.
00:14:57I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,
00:14:59but there's something else I wanted to, like,
00:15:01talk to you about
00:15:02that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:04What? What is this?
00:15:05What's happening?
00:15:10Emma.
00:15:29I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:15:41and clear my mind because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:15:47I want to be her husband,
00:15:59but we need some time to know each others.
00:16:02I hope things better today.
00:16:09I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:11Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him,
00:16:13and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:15and cuddling with me,
00:16:16and that's not how it went at all.
00:16:19We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:22Ziyad's behavior last night,
00:16:26it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:28but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:31and overthink things.
00:16:32I want this to be fun,
00:16:34and I want us to just focus on the positives.
00:16:38I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:40Ziyad's behavior last night.
00:17:02Hi.
00:17:04Good morning.
00:17:05Morning.
00:17:06How's your night?
00:17:07This is nice.
00:17:08Really?
00:17:09Yeah.
00:17:11That's it.
00:17:12This is your place.
00:17:13I hope you will like it.
00:17:14Thanks, babe.
00:17:21Hello.
00:17:27She's adorable.
00:17:30My favorite.
00:17:31Eggs.
00:17:33I don't like eggs,
00:17:34but I'll eat it because she cooked it.
00:17:35I know, I know.
00:17:36Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:39What do you want to start for what?
00:17:42I mean, it wasn't really like a good start to my trip.
00:17:45I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:48Yeah.
00:17:49That's not how I expected like my first night to go.
00:17:52Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:17:55Yeah.
00:17:56Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:17:58I love the tea here.
00:17:59Okay.
00:18:00Um, but yes, I did want to say sorry to you.
00:18:04I don't hear you.
00:18:05I don't hear you.
00:18:07I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:08Can you repeat?
00:18:09I don't hear what you said.
00:18:10I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:11For what?
00:18:13For running away from your kiss.
00:18:17And?
00:18:18walking away from you when you were talking.
00:18:21I mean, I'm sorry yesterday got like really dramatic,
00:18:26but I think it was just a long day for me
00:18:28because I was traveling for like 20 hours.
00:18:31I know it's difficult.
00:18:32And it was just like a lot going on.
00:18:34There was like a lot in my mind.
00:18:36Actually, there's something else I wanted to like talk to you about
00:18:40that like I didn't tell you yet.
00:18:42What?
00:18:52What is this?
00:18:53What's happening?
00:18:57I was just like upset the past couple of days
00:18:59because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:01Like I've been there for five years and.
00:19:04Yes.
00:19:06Well, I got fired.
00:19:08Really?
00:19:12I don't know if I want to talk about it because I'm going to cry.
00:19:16No, no, you don't need this.
00:19:18Listen, listen.
00:19:22I just need a minute.
00:19:24Emma.
00:19:32Sorry.
00:19:34No, no.
00:19:35Don't you cry.
00:19:36I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:37It's a.
00:19:38I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:39It's all right.
00:19:40It's just a walk.
00:19:41It's perfect.
00:19:43And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:46So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:48No, don't cry.
00:19:49Don't cry.
00:19:50Okay.
00:19:51Don't cry.
00:19:52Okay.
00:19:59I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:01I don't have any like options right now.
00:20:03It's difficult and it's hard, but at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:08Yeah.
00:20:09You will find another one more better than your last.
00:20:12Right now, I want you to enjoy here in Marrakesh.
00:20:17We are together and everything will be good.
00:20:21I think we definitely started this trip like on the wrong foot.
00:20:29It was like a tornado.
00:20:31But right now, he's showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:36I love you, babe.
00:20:37He says, I love you more.
00:20:40But what's mean tornado?
00:20:42Like an earthquake, like a natural disaster.
00:20:45So like when I got off the plane, what happened between us was like an earthquake.
00:20:49Yeah, yeah.
00:20:50That's an amazing example.
00:20:51Yeah, really.
00:20:56My future hubby.
00:20:57Ah.
00:20:58Do you know what that means?
00:21:00No.
00:21:01Can you explain?
00:21:02It's short for husband.
00:21:03Really?
00:21:04Yeah, hubby.
00:21:08One feet.
00:21:09Yeah.
00:21:10Exactly.
00:21:11Three feet.
00:21:31God.
00:21:32I can't believe the trees.
00:21:33How beautiful they are.
00:21:35I got to believe how hot it is.
00:21:37I'm probably going to.
00:21:38Yeah, I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:39I'm going to have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:21:51All right, see you later, Deb.
00:21:52See you later.
00:21:55I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents
00:21:59and finally met the girl of my dreams after seven years.
00:22:05Just being able to touch and hold her hand, it was so amazing.
00:22:09Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:12Waka-waka.
00:22:14Yeah.
00:22:18Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:20Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:23Crazy.
00:22:24This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:27If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:33It's got people, like, almost running into each other
00:22:36or running each other over constantly.
00:22:37Oh, man.
00:22:40Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:41Yeah.
00:22:42But it's got its own, like, charm to it.
00:22:46Look at that.
00:22:46That thing is pretty good.
00:22:48This is the jeepney.
00:22:49This is locally here in my country.
00:22:51They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II
00:22:53who have been left with the Americans,
00:22:55so they converted for, like, taxis.
00:22:59Incredible.
00:23:00You can see the big building there.
00:23:02That's the condo we're going to say.
00:23:03I always think I have to stay at your place.
00:23:07Yeah.
00:23:08Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila,
00:23:11but we're not staying there because her parents said we had to pay for it if we did stay.
00:23:17When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset
00:23:21because I'm planning on marrying their daughter,
00:23:23and I would be their son,
00:23:25and to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd,
00:23:30especially because we have been saving for the last seven years
00:23:33just to afford the plane ticket to actually just meet her.
00:23:37Sheena said,
00:23:37I know it doesn't make sense,
00:23:38but it's what my parents want.
00:23:40It's their wishes.
00:23:40I can't really go around that,
00:23:44but I'm not paying them money.
00:23:48This is the place.
00:23:50All right.
00:23:50We are here.
00:23:55Here you go, Molly.
00:23:56That's it.
00:23:57Where's that food?
00:23:58I got it.
00:23:59All right.
00:24:00Charge.
00:24:03Sheena is an extreme foodie,
00:24:05and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:09Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.
00:24:12Whoa!
00:24:13I'd sure like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:16Oh, my goodness.
00:24:16I can definitely smell him.
00:24:18Oh.
00:24:19Yeah, you know.
00:24:20Yeah, he's a little excited at the top.
00:24:22Don't go for that.
00:24:23Yeah, okay.
00:24:28So, sorry, baby.
00:24:29This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:32You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:34It's like a simple home, but comfy, so.
00:24:39The place is nice.
00:24:40It's pretty.
00:24:41But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:46I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:49It feels good.
00:24:51You're big, too.
00:24:52Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:24:54It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:24:58If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down,
00:24:59I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:06Sheena.
00:25:07What?
00:25:08This feels more than online right now.
00:25:12Oh.
00:25:12It's making me more nervous.
00:25:16Oh, you don't have to be.
00:25:17I'm here right with you.
00:25:18Oh, I know.
00:25:19I can see.
00:25:19Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:25:22Oh, yeah.
00:25:22Oh, yeah.
00:25:23Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:27Excuse me, baby.
00:25:29Boom.
00:25:30What is that?
00:25:31This is something amazing.
00:25:34And I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:38Whoa, what?
00:25:40That's, what's that thing?
00:25:41I think it is a cloth that goes on your body.
00:25:46It accentuates your sexuality.
00:25:48Oh, that's nice.
00:25:52I love the color.
00:25:54Oh, yeah.
00:25:55That's cool.
00:25:55I guess, guess what?
00:25:56There's even more.
00:25:58What?
00:25:58You have more?
00:25:59I have more.
00:26:01Oh, wow.
00:26:02I got you a pretty thong.
00:26:05Wow.
00:26:07To be honest, I feel quite nervous because I am a virgin.
00:26:13But forest makes me feel confident of my body.
00:26:17This is another one for you in case you want to, you know.
00:26:21Oh, it's pretty.
00:26:21It's cool.
00:26:22It's beautiful.
00:26:23Oh, okay.
00:26:25All right, okay.
00:26:32You're so handsome always.
00:26:33I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:26:35Okay.
00:26:35Go for it, Mando.
00:26:36I'm going to go brush.
00:26:37All right.
00:26:38You're everything, Mando.
00:26:41You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her, I was really just trying to, like,
00:26:46put her at ease, make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.
00:26:52I've been waiting seven years to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:26:56But to be honest, I'm actually kind of still nervous about what is my routine to do.
00:27:00I mean, I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off, but having sex with Sheena, I feel like
00:27:11it's an important thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.
00:27:17It's just a big deal.
00:27:19I love you.
00:27:20I love you.
00:27:21Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:22Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:24It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:35I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted
00:27:43to me in person.
00:27:44Oh, my God.
00:27:45Here we go.
00:27:46We are in the process of landing, and I don't know if it was the cheese sandwich or BeerCon,
00:27:57but I'm excited.
00:28:09So this is the most important day, actually, in my life.
00:28:13I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting, for the first time.
00:28:19Everything has to go perfect, so I will iron it until it's perfect or it's burned.
00:28:27Laura is arriving tricky today, and today might be the first day of my rest of my life.
00:28:35Laura rented this Airbnb for us.
00:28:39Right now, I'm staying with different friends.
00:28:52Sometimes Izmir, sometimes Istanbul.
00:28:55That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.
00:28:59But the privacy of our place is going to be nice, because we have a lot of things to discuss
00:29:05face to face.
00:29:06It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:29:23I'm so excited now.
00:29:25I just want to run out of this airport and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:28Oh.
00:29:38Oh my God.
00:29:39She come early.
00:29:49It's slightly close that I am having a heart attack or I am excited.
00:29:54Yeah, we will see.
00:29:55I am going to wear a dress to meet this man.
00:30:01I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that I'm currently wearing.
00:30:07I'm really proud of the progress that I've made over the last 14 months.
00:30:11But I still have flaws and imperfections.
00:30:15And so I am nervous that Birkan won't be as attracted to me in person.
00:30:22And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:25All right.
00:30:26The woman I love is coming, so I'm thrilled.
00:30:35My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America, live together, and get married.
00:30:43But maybe she will hate me.
00:30:46Nobody knows.
00:30:47This is it?
00:30:52I can't believe I'm about to meet him.
00:31:03Oh my God.
00:31:04Here we go.
00:31:04Welcome, gorgeous.
00:31:14How are you?
00:31:16Good, aren't you?
00:31:17I am good.
00:31:19How are you doing?
00:31:20It was so long.
00:31:22Yeah, I know.
00:31:23I am still thinking about, oh my God, America.
00:31:25You know.
00:31:26Yeah.
00:31:36I think everything is perfect.
00:31:39Right now.
00:31:39Yeah.
00:31:40That's really sweet.
00:31:41Yeah, it was.
00:31:42I know.
00:31:43I know.
00:31:44Yeah.
00:31:47So let's go this way.
00:31:50Okay.
00:31:51These bumps are a pain with suitcases.
00:31:53He looks amazing.
00:31:54Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing, which is that dark romance male main character.
00:32:02When you look at her, what do you think?
00:32:03She's perfect.
00:32:04I don't need to look at her.
00:32:06I don't need, because I feel it, you know?
00:32:09I'm complete, so we don't need to see.
00:32:11That's probably the best answer ever.
00:32:18That was like the best flight I've ever taken.
00:32:21Yeah.
00:32:21Seriously.
00:32:23I'm glad.
00:32:24I'm really glad.
00:32:26Yeah.
00:32:27Yeah.
00:32:27Yeah.
00:32:41It's good to see you.
00:32:42You too.
00:32:43I don't know what's happening.
00:32:51It's very awkward right now.
00:32:56I really wasn't expecting that, because, you know, it was, like, great when we first met.
00:33:00He hugged me, he kissed me, and then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know who I am, and I don't know who he is.
00:33:08I think we're close.
00:33:13I think we're close.
00:33:14I don't know who he is.
00:33:15I'm hoping that as time moves forward, that this will turn around, and it will feel more like it did when we were online.
00:33:26But right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.
00:33:31Anna called me like it were, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:33:43I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:33:48She was just talking about that woman.
00:33:53Uh, yeah.
00:33:54Who is the woman?
00:34:14This is nice.
00:34:17Really?
00:34:18This is screaming, I failed a pottery class.
00:34:21No, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you gotta do something else.
00:34:23Ugh.
00:34:36I think you got some good purchases.
00:34:37Ugh.
00:34:38Yeah, I don't have a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:40It'll be fine.
00:34:42It's gonna be fine.
00:34:44I'm running some last-minute errands with my sister Ashley, because I'm flying to the Philippines in a couple of days to meet my wife for the first time.
00:34:52In person.
00:34:53I'm excited, and I'm super nervous, because we've been married for three years.
00:34:56But we've never been in the same room or even the same continent with each other.
00:35:03So, are you all packed up?
00:35:04You ready?
00:35:05Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:06And, you know, me and Anna's relationship, it's just been this spiraling, like, up-and-down loop-de-loop rollercoaster ride.
00:35:20But when things are good, I'm, like, really happy to be in a relationship.
00:35:25I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:26Yeah?
00:35:27Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.
00:35:30She's just a lot.
00:35:33Javon marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.
00:35:39I do think they love each other, but I don't know, like, I wouldn't just call this, like, a normal marriage.
00:35:45This is something I've never seen or heard of before.
00:35:49You know, like, Anna actually called me.
00:35:54You spoke to her?
00:35:56Mm-hmm.
00:35:58When she called me, like, at work, I'm working, I'm with customers, and she's just, you know, talking about,
00:36:05your brother, your brother, I don't know what to do with him.
00:36:08Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
00:36:11And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.
00:36:13Yeah.
00:36:14She was just talking about that woman.
00:36:17Uh, yeah.
00:36:25So who is the woman?
00:36:32So the woman is just, like, a friend of mine that I've known for a long time.
00:36:40We communicate so well, and we can stay on the phone for hours.
00:36:44I think because we're both having problems in our, you know, relationship, it's definitely more easygoing and it's more positive.
00:36:52So, but what is it that, that Anna's so, like, threatened and bothered by her? Like, what, what is it?
00:37:03Because I feel like I'm missing something.
00:37:05Yeah, I mean, there used to be this, this, this, this, this small thing between us, but we're bad.
00:37:14Also, that, so, so, Javon, that's not okay. That is no good.
00:37:20I, I know, you know, and I'm not.
00:37:22So, so that's why she's so upset then.
00:37:24Yeah.
00:37:25Me and my friend, we never officially dated, but there was feelings for one another.
00:37:31We lost touch for a while, but I reached out to her because I was going through a rough time in my marriage and I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.
00:37:45I wasn't trying to hide anything.
00:37:47So I just came out and told Anna Lynn I was talking to this other person.
00:37:52I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does because she's extremely pissed off and upset.
00:38:01I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset, but it's just completely platonic, you know, and she don't have to worry about that.
00:38:11Have you tried to call her?
00:38:13I have, but, you know, she, she blocked me.
00:38:19For real?
00:38:22She gets so aggressive.
00:38:24See, this is the problem.
00:38:25Like, this is how, this is why I had to go outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else about our marriage.
00:38:34And it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:37Obviously, Anna feels disrespected.
00:38:40And I do get that.
00:38:42I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:38:47But I do feel like he presses her buttons.
00:38:50Javon just needs to say sorry and try and talk to her.
00:38:53And if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need to be married.
00:38:57You're about to see your wife for the first time.
00:39:00You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:04I don't know what the to do.
00:39:06I don't know what to do.
00:39:07I heard some interesting things from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:39:17Did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:39:21I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:39:25Now you're kind of being really disrespectful.
00:39:50Hello, sweetheart.
00:39:51Hey, guys, we're going to go down and have some coffee by the pool.
00:39:59So, uh, we'll be up in a little while.
00:40:01Talk to you in a bit.
00:40:02Later.
00:40:10It's very constant.
00:40:12Oh gotta get up.
00:40:21Oh, you're crazy.
00:40:24Crazy.
00:40:25I'm crazy.
00:40:27You're...
00:40:28I arrived in the Philippines yesterday, and the first night with the woman of my dream,
00:40:34Sheena, was amazing.
00:40:35Oh, man, you're strong.
00:40:36I gotta walk in.
00:40:37Oh, man, you're strong.
00:40:38I gotta walk you down.
00:40:39Oh, yeah?
00:40:40I'm a strong beard.
00:40:45I'm gonna tickle you crazy, baby.
00:40:49There's a lot of new and fun things
00:40:51I'm finding out being with Sheena physically.
00:40:54I found out there's a Knight Sheena.
00:40:56What?
00:40:57And she's kind of grabby.
00:40:58Oh, really?
00:40:59I'm not.
00:41:00You're very into being physical, Knight Sheena.
00:41:04Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:06You know, just finally being able to hold you
00:41:10and be with you and kiss you,
00:41:13it just felt awesome.
00:41:15And I know that I talked of a big game last night
00:41:18about sex and everything like that,
00:41:21but I really believe that we should wait,
00:41:26you know, till we know each other a bit more,
00:41:28you know, in person.
00:41:31I understand my love.
00:41:34I really feel like after seven years,
00:41:37me coming here to the Philippines
00:41:39and just having sex with Sheena straight up,
00:41:41it's not what I want to do.
00:41:43Yeah, I agree with that.
00:41:45I just want to get to know you much better.
00:41:47We'll know when the time is right.
00:41:49I agree to that.
00:41:51Also, probably when my mom's not around.
00:41:53Yeah.
00:41:54We'll see you later.
00:41:56I don't need a coat.
00:41:57That's for sure.
00:41:58Ooh, nice and cool in here.
00:42:02I'm excited.
00:42:11So where exactly are you taking us again?
00:42:17So it's a Chinatown here in Manila.
00:42:20Actually, one of the oldest Chinatown here in the whole world.
00:42:24Because Chinese people had been trading with the Filipinos
00:42:28before Spanish people arrived.
00:42:30Wow.
00:42:31Spaniards.
00:42:32So there's a lot of historical sites around and good foods.
00:42:35I'm ready to eat it all.
00:42:46So I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.
00:42:51I heard some interesting things, you know,
00:42:54coming from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:42:57The little giggles.
00:43:00So, uh, did, uh, you guys, uh, do the old, uh,
00:43:05knockin' knockin'?
00:43:08No.
00:43:09No.
00:43:10No.
00:43:11No.
00:43:12No.
00:43:13No.
00:43:14So why didn't you guys?
00:43:17Well, it just wasn't the right time or place to do that.
00:43:22Oh, okay.
00:43:24Well, you guys can always come and talk to us
00:43:28if you have questions.
00:43:30It's not an embarrassing subject to me.
00:43:32It's interesting.
00:43:33It's life.
00:43:34It takes practice to be good at it.
00:43:37Yeah.
00:43:40My parents are just...
00:43:43It's a little too much.
00:43:45It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.
00:43:47I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:43:51I respect you guys for waiting,
00:43:54and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:43:56There are other things that you can do
00:43:58if you guys didn't want to do the nookie-nookie.
00:44:02There's oral sex.
00:44:04There's fondling.
00:44:05Yeah.
00:44:06Now, now you're kind of being really disrespectful here, Mom.
00:44:09I get it.
00:44:10You're trying to be helpful, but you're pushing too far.
00:44:14You know, if we want to talk about sex with you,
00:44:16we'll come up and ask about it.
00:44:18Okay.
00:44:20Excuse me.
00:44:26I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor.
00:44:28That's admirable.
00:44:30But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.
00:44:34Thank you very much.
00:44:36Well, Forrest, why is this a, you know, a total 180
00:44:42from our normal discussions where you're right in there
00:44:44using the same language, the same talk, saying,
00:44:46yeah, I'm gonna get into that, do that.
00:44:48It's drastic night and day.
00:44:50I see where this is headed.
00:44:52Oh, my God, I miss this place.
00:44:54See us at home.
00:44:56Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.
00:45:01Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years,
00:45:04giving all of her money to her parents
00:45:06instead of saving for their future.
00:45:08And I don't know if Forrest will actually hold her accountable.
00:45:12But we need to get some answers.
00:45:14You don't need to talk about your past.
00:45:26I know, I know everything about your life.
00:45:28You don't know everything.
00:45:30I really want to tell Zied about my last engagement
00:45:34because I think it's the only way that we could move forward.
00:45:44Oh, look at the mirrors.
00:45:54Wait, I want to check my outfit.
00:45:56Here, hold that.
00:45:58We look cute.
00:46:02I can see you.
00:46:04Can you see yourself?
00:46:06I'm excited to go shopping.
00:46:19It's always crowded.
00:46:21Yeah, yeah.
00:46:23This is an easy place to get lost.
00:46:25Yeah.
00:46:26Today, I wanted to take Emma to Old Medina.
00:46:29I feel so bad because Emma, she lost her job.
00:46:33I want to make her feel so better and she loves shopping, so.
00:46:38Oh, look at those bags.
00:46:40Those are cute.
00:46:42The market place in the Medina,
00:46:44they have a thousand stores there.
00:46:46Oh my gosh, I love all of these clothes.
00:46:49You can find anything you want.
00:46:52Oh, look at these rugs.
00:46:54Those are nice.
00:46:55Yes.
00:46:56Oh wait, there's bags.
00:46:57Let's go look at the bags.
00:46:59Let's see what you want.
00:47:02Oh, this is so cute.
00:47:05Can you hold this?
00:47:06I want to look at everything.
00:47:07Hey, look for anything you want.
00:47:09I think I like these little wallets.
00:47:11These are cute.
00:47:13I think I'm going to buy these three.
00:47:16Not you, me.
00:47:17You're going to get them?
00:47:18Yeah.
00:47:19Hey.
00:47:20It's like my gift to you.
00:47:22Can I give you a kiss?
00:47:23Not hair.
00:47:24Hair kiss?
00:47:25Maybe.
00:47:26Is that okay?
00:47:27Yeah, that's okay.
00:47:28Can I do that from now on?
00:47:29Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:47:30Can I do air kisses whenever I want to kiss you?
00:47:32Yeah.
00:47:36It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me.
00:47:41That was so romantic.
00:47:43Because that's never something I've had in the past.
00:47:46It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was feeling yesterday.
00:47:50Where are you taking me, babe?
00:47:52This?
00:47:53It's popular here in Marrakesh.
00:47:55What is this?
00:48:01What is that?
00:48:03What we call them in English?
00:48:05Snails?
00:48:06Snails.
00:48:07I like don't want that.
00:48:08Really?
00:48:09No.
00:48:10It's like traditional.
00:48:11I'm not trying.
00:48:12Distant.
00:48:13No.
00:48:14I literally would throw up.
00:48:19It's so delicious.
00:48:20That is the grossest thing I've ever seen in my whole life.
00:48:23It's a slimy snail.
00:48:25And you just suck it down.
00:48:28For me, it's delicious.
00:48:33That's like really gross.
00:48:35What's like the weirdest food you've ever tried?
00:48:38Like snails would be weird.
00:48:40For you, for me, no.
00:48:42So for me, sushi, for example.
00:48:44I love sushi.
00:48:45Yeah, it's...
00:48:47We are different.
00:48:48It's...
00:48:49Are we compatible?
00:48:58Can you hold my other bag, actually?
00:48:59Uh-huh.
00:49:00What else can we do, like, while we're here?
00:49:02Did you like horses?
00:49:04I love horses.
00:49:06I think we have to choose this one.
00:49:08I like the white ones.
00:49:09I like the white ones.
00:49:10Go ahead.
00:49:12Wait.
00:49:13Just one by one.
00:49:14One by one.
00:49:15One by one.
00:49:17Oh, my God.
00:49:18This is so romantic.
00:49:19Yeah.
00:49:20This is like a romantic love ride.
00:49:23Yeah.
00:49:29This is twin kisses.
00:49:30You kiss me today.
00:49:32Okay.
00:49:33I'm happy that we had a better day today.
00:49:37Yeah, me too.
00:49:38It was a big difference between this day and last day.
00:49:44Yesterday was, like, really hard for me.
00:49:45It, like, brought up old feelings.
00:49:47Because, you know, I've, like, been lied to a lot.
00:49:51Like, in my past, like, with past boyfriends.
00:49:53Uh-huh.
00:49:54So, when, when you kind of lied to me, it was, like, a trigger for me.
00:49:58Yeah.
00:49:59So, you don't need to talk about your past, your bad experience.
00:50:03Do you not care about my past?
00:50:04No.
00:50:05I know you right now.
00:50:06Not in past.
00:50:07So...
00:50:08Yeah, but don't you want to know about my life?
00:50:11Just, like, things I've been through.
00:50:12Like, don't you want to know about me?
00:50:13Yeah.
00:50:14I know.
00:50:15I know everything about your life.
00:50:16You don't know everything.
00:50:18No, I know everything.
00:50:19No, you don't.
00:50:20I know your family.
00:50:21I know where you live.
00:50:22I know...
00:50:23I know, but there are things that, like, I...
00:50:25That have happened in my life that you don't know about.
00:50:27Like I thought.
00:50:28We can leave the impasse.
00:50:29If something passes, it passes.
00:50:30I want to be vulnerable.
00:50:31I want to share, you know, details about who I am and my past, and I really want to
00:50:45be able to tell Ziad about my last engagement because I think it's the only way that we could
00:50:50move forward.
00:50:52But for him to shut me down, it does make me wonder if Ziad just doesn't want to talk
00:50:57about the past because maybe he has something that he's hiding or that he doesn't want to
00:51:02tell me.
00:51:06Since I've gotten to Morocco, I've just felt really rejected by him.
00:51:11And so now I'm just feeling a little concerned about everything.
00:51:14I need you to be able to look me in the eye.
00:51:23Why have you lied to us all along?
00:51:26I was so fearful of my parents.
00:51:29They would say bad things to me.
00:51:31They would say bad things to other people.
00:51:33Okay.
00:51:34And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drives me, everything.
00:51:37No, I need that direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
00:51:44Hello, Javon.
00:52:07Hello, Javon.
00:52:09I'm leaving for the Philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife, Anna, for the first time.
00:52:24But me and Anna, we haven't spoken to each other in about a week.
00:52:29My sister talked to Anna Lynn, and she actually unblocked me.
00:52:33But she's still really upset that I'm back in touch with a friend I once had feelings for.
00:52:39There's so much riding on this trip.
00:52:42Anna being as angry, it's just not good.
00:52:46Hey, what's going on?
00:52:50What's going on?
00:52:52Ask yourself what's going on, Javon.
00:52:54I mean, you know, Anna, don't be so aggressive.
00:52:59Not being aggressive.
00:53:01You told me yourself if we're going to be married, we can't be keeping anyone special from the past.
00:53:11But you're doing it.
00:53:14And I'm not saying that you're cheating on me, but it's like a baby step for any temptation.
00:53:24I'm dealing with so much over here by myself.
00:53:27I'm dealing with your problems.
00:53:28I'm dealing with my problems.
00:53:30And sometimes I don't feel like I'm being emotionally supported by you.
00:53:35So, you know, I kind of felt like I was just a little bit desperate just to be understood and just heard.
00:53:42If you feel like sometimes you can't talk to me, you have siblings.
00:53:52You have a dad.
00:53:53You have a mom.
00:53:55But if your big circle is still not enough, you're American.
00:54:00Get the therapy.
00:54:03I mean, but like, who can afford therapy right now?
00:54:12She's not taking any accountability that, you know, she played a part in why I reached out to a friend.
00:54:20I need to be able to rely on my wife, but she makes it impossible.
00:54:26Even when I'm like at work and you're going through something, I always try to be there for you emotionally.
00:54:32You know?
00:54:34I try, but I don't see you trying for me.
00:54:37When do you show up for me in that way?
00:54:40Oh, God.
00:54:45Like, hello, I've been waiting for you for six years.
00:54:49I have devoted, invested so much love.
00:54:58If you don't feel like that's understanding enough, waiting for you for that long,
00:55:05I don't know what is.
00:55:10I know you've made, you know, some sacrifice by waiting for me for this long.
00:55:20And I do apologize, and I do take accountability for what I've done.
00:55:29Okay.
00:55:30I can stop, but can we at least work on our communication?
00:55:43Okay.
00:55:45Okay.
00:55:46Okay.
00:55:47That's all I want, boo.
00:55:48That's it.
00:55:50With Javon coming out of the Philippines, I do feel like I could let go of some negative feelings about this situation.
00:55:59But even though he agreed that he's not gonna talk to that woman anymore.
00:56:05Do I believe it?
00:56:10No, not really.
00:56:12So I will definitely talk about this again in person.
00:56:17Do you think we can, like, move past it? Like, when we see each other?
00:56:23I don't know.
00:56:24Maybe.
00:56:43Whoa, look at this place.
00:56:44This was a church.
00:56:45Oh.
00:56:461588.
00:56:47Man, that is old.
00:56:48It's old.
00:56:49Here, we got a celebration here.
00:56:50What's this, you guys?
00:56:52Yes.
00:56:54Yeah, it's precision.
00:56:58Oh, my goodness.
00:56:59We call that fiesta.
00:57:00Oh, yes.
00:57:01That's a culture for Catholics here in my country.
00:57:03Goodness.
00:57:04Yes.
00:57:05Oh, my God.
00:57:06Yeah, it's really cool.
00:57:07Look at this.
00:57:08I decided to take Boris and his family to Chinatown because I'm a Chinese mix.
00:57:23My mom is Chinese descent, so I wanted to show how Chinese culture inter-bonded with Filipino culture.
00:57:31Smell that?
00:57:32Oh, that smells so good.
00:57:33Wow, I love that place.
00:57:34So this is a place that they make hand-made noodles.
00:57:35I eat that.
00:57:36Hello.
00:57:37Oh.
00:57:38Yesterday, I was quite a little nervous to meet Boris's parents, especially Molly.
00:57:39Okay, thank you.
00:57:41There's been a problem between me and Molly, but I'm so glad that she happened to accept
00:57:57me, and I wanted to provide them the best first day here in the Philippines.
00:58:04Yum.
00:58:05Oh, thank you.
00:58:06Slurps up.
00:58:07Slurps up and slurps up, huh?
00:58:09Yeah, actually, that's here.
00:58:10The culture here, you want to slurp, it means you're eating the good noodles, so that's
00:58:14a good sign.
00:58:15So the loud are the best, right?
00:58:16Yeah.
00:58:17Yes.
00:58:18Here I go.
00:58:19Yeah, you are the king of slurps forest.
00:58:22I made sure to get it on my glasses.
00:58:24That's the key.
00:58:25This is so good.
00:58:26Yeah.
00:58:27Well, Sheena, I wanted to thank you for your apology yesterday.
00:58:34I mean, that really showed a lot to me.
00:58:39But I did want to ask you about a few things.
00:58:47Okay?
00:58:48Okay, Mom.
00:58:49I'm listening.
00:58:50I need you to be able to look me in the eye, and I need you to be truthful with me 100%.
00:58:57You lied to us about giving your parents the money.
00:59:04This was supposed to be you saving up money so you could come to America to be a family
00:59:11with us.
00:59:12These were the plans all of these years.
00:59:15And then for it to just find out now, before we come here, that hasn't been happening.
00:59:25Why have you lied to us all along?
00:59:28I really owe you millions and thousands of explanations I need.
00:59:38I hope you could listen to my situation.
00:59:40The reason why that I happen to give my money to my parents is because being a breadwinner,
00:59:47it's a cultural thing in my country that we are obligated to help our parents around.
00:59:53I mean, I completely understand giving your parents money, needing to help your family.
00:59:58That's what family does.
01:00:00But my issue with it is that you lie.
01:00:06To be honest, the reason also, that's another reason that I was so scared because my parents,
01:00:17my mom happened to guilt-tripping me from time to time.
01:00:22If I don't give them money, she makes me feel that I'm such a selfish person, and it hurts
01:00:28me a lot.
01:00:29Okay, but if I'm asking you a direct question, I need that direct answer.
01:00:34And even now, you haven't given me a direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
01:00:44Watching Sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful.
01:00:49I'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect Sheena, but at the same time,
01:00:55I don't understand what fears she had of telling me.
01:01:00I was so fearful of my parents.
01:01:03They would say bad things to me.
01:01:05They would say bad things to other people.
01:01:07Okay.
01:01:08And it affects me emotionally, mentally.
01:01:10It drains me everything.
01:01:11Uh-uh. No.
01:01:12And it makes me feel so bad.
01:01:13No.
01:01:14No.
01:01:15Sheena, I'm not asking you that.
01:01:17I'm asking you why you did not tell us.
01:01:24I couldn't handle myself anymore.
01:01:27Sheena, I can't understand what you're saying.
01:01:31I am sorry.
01:01:32Oh, my God.
01:01:33I don't want to.
01:01:34See, there's your manipulation.
01:01:35Put the tears.
01:01:36Please put your tissue down.
01:01:37Please put your tissue down.
01:01:40I'm trying to have Sheena acknowledge actions that she did that weren't acceptable.
01:01:46So even if she did have good reason to give it all to her parents,
01:01:51what's the motivation for hiding it?
01:01:53We got to get answers.
01:01:55Oh, my God.
01:01:58This is really happening.
01:02:03Oh, my God.
01:02:04Oh, my God.
01:02:05Oh, my God.
01:02:06Oh, my God.
01:02:07I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:02:08I love this, but I am worried about some things.
01:02:12She was physical with a woman.
01:02:14Oh, my God.
01:02:15Oh, my God.
01:02:16Oh, my God.
01:02:17Oh, my God.
01:02:18Oh, my God.
01:02:19Oh, my God.
01:02:20Here he is.
01:02:21Awesome.
01:02:22Here we go.
01:02:23Here goes everything.
01:02:25Oh, my gosh.
01:02:27Oh, my gosh.
01:02:28I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life.
01:02:31Oh, my God.
01:02:32Oh, my God.
01:02:33Oh, my God.
01:02:34Oh, my God.
01:02:35Oh, my God.
01:02:36Here he is.
01:02:37Awesome.
01:02:38Here we go.
01:02:39Yeah.
01:02:40Here goes everything.
01:02:42Oh, my gosh.
01:02:43I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life, Daniel, in Nigeria for the very first
01:02:58time.
01:02:59What am I doing?
01:03:00I don't know, Mom.
01:03:01What are you doing?
01:03:02Certainly not what I would be doing.
01:03:06It still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being with women, I'm traveling
01:03:12across the world to meet a man, and I love him.
01:03:17I love him.
01:03:18You're going to see when I come home how excited and happy I am.
01:03:21You're going to see when I talk to you there how happy I am, and you're going to be happy
01:03:26for me.
01:03:27I just, I don't want it to ruin your heart.
01:03:33I'm going to pee my pants.
01:03:34Oh, God.
01:03:35Please don't.
01:03:36Here we go.
01:03:37Okay.
01:03:38All right.
01:03:39You remember the rules.
01:03:40Don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes through.
01:03:53Yes.
01:03:54And I would complain about everything.
01:03:55It'll be a foundation.
01:03:56And if you have questions.
01:03:58I will ask them.
01:04:01I love you.
01:04:02I love you too.
01:04:03I'm going to miss you so much.
01:04:06Stay safe.
01:04:07Oh, God.
01:04:08This is the biggest risk I've ever taken.
01:04:12Flying across the world to another country, to Nigeria, Africa, to be with a man I have
01:04:18never met before.
01:04:19I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:21Oh, my God.
01:04:22This is really happening.
01:04:24Oh, my God.
01:04:25Oh, my God.
01:04:26Oh, my God.
01:04:27Oh, my God.
01:04:28Oh, my God.
01:04:29I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:31Happy Daniels.
01:04:32Happy Daniels.
01:04:33I hope Daniel will accept me for everything that I am and who I am and that he will become
01:04:40my sixth and final spouse.
01:04:43Angel two, get a minute away from this.
01:04:57What are you going to do?
01:05:08Oh
01:05:17Yeah, yeah, yeah, no I've been a bubble
01:05:35Please give me five hundred
01:05:37My name is Daniel. I am 39 years old.
01:05:44I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe.
01:05:48We have traditions and we believe in traditions.
01:05:51As an Igbo man, we love competition.
01:05:54We work hard and we have to be honest.
01:06:07I grew up very poor. Sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food.
01:06:13My family do the best they can do.
01:06:15And I am really close to my family.
01:06:18But some years ago, I lost my mom before she died.
01:06:23She told me that during the war, she nearly be killed,
01:06:26that a white woman protected her.
01:06:28And I have to make sure that I get married to a white woman.
01:06:31So I decided I will do it.
01:06:33And that's how I found Lisa.
01:06:36Lisa is 52 years old.
01:06:41She lives in Pennsylvania.
01:06:43She's a beautiful woman.
01:06:45She has a good body structure.
01:06:48She's thick.
01:06:49She has boobs.
01:06:50She has what I want.
01:06:52She don't hide anything.
01:06:55She supports me financially.
01:06:58She makes me feel loved.
01:07:00That's why I fell in love with her.
01:07:03I forget to put it down like fire.
01:07:04I want to be the lady right to feet.
01:07:07To me, I grew up at the village.
01:07:09I vidéos.
01:07:10Iried to feel like I was in the village.
01:07:11I grew up to a village when I fell in the village.
01:07:13After I fell in love with my little village,
01:07:16She says didn't ever find a girlfriend and never find a girlfriend.
01:07:18First I knew a girl or...
01:07:19That is, I grew up to her своей wife and her wife.
01:07:22Adwoju.
01:07:23Mm-hm.
01:07:24If you want your boys,
01:07:27you can't buy a bag.
01:07:29You don't want to buy anything.
01:07:31But the kids are buying.
01:07:34So if you want me to buy a bag,
01:07:36I'll give you a gift.
01:07:40If you want to buy a bag,
01:07:42you can't buy anything.
01:07:44You don't want to buy anything.
01:07:46You can't buy anything.
01:07:49Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano.
01:07:54In our tribe, we do see spiritual leaders
01:07:57to consult the ancestors.
01:08:03I love Lisa, but I am worried about some things.
01:08:08One, she vip.
01:08:10Two, she told me that she have gotten married twice.
01:08:14And three, she was physical with a woman one time.
01:08:19This is the worst.
01:08:28We don't believe that same sex exists in our culture.
01:08:33Anyone caught in the arts will be banished or killed.
01:08:37So we don't do it, we don't accept it here.
01:08:40She gave me her promise that she have stopped it.
01:08:43But I'm nervous.
01:08:49I need to get burned out of school in school.
01:08:51I need to get burned out of school.
01:08:52I just need to get burned out of school.
01:08:54I got burned out of school again!
01:09:01I ain't even a bad boy.
01:09:04So this fear someone else didn'toloroucomad?
01:09:09So the help of all these men do a disappointment.
01:09:10Now that the ancestors are approved, I want you to move forward on this relationship.
01:09:23I'm planning a big surprise for Lisa when I meet her at the airport.
01:09:29I've been talking to God Almighty to take me away from Nigeria.
01:09:34If I marry Lisa, she'll make me change the story of my family.
01:09:37And if I should make it to America, this will change my life to good.
01:09:43They will.
01:09:56I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.
01:09:58Yes.
01:10:00It feels like it got colder.
01:10:02It gets cold or gets hot.
01:10:05No straight weather.
01:10:10Wow.
01:10:19Here we are.
01:10:21Oh, we're here?
01:10:24Here you go.
01:10:25I will take this.
01:10:27You're welcome.
01:10:27After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup of coming to Turkey and meeting
01:10:34Birkan face to face, it's starting off a little bit awkward.
01:10:39But I'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him.
01:10:44It just feels so right.
01:10:47I'm excited to see this.
01:10:51Here you go.
01:10:52Oh, you want me to go first?
01:10:53Yeah, of course.
01:10:54Okay.
01:10:56Oh, my God.
01:10:57This is huge.
01:10:59Oh, yeah.
01:11:00This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.
01:11:04This is amazing.
01:11:05This kitchen is bigger than almost my every house, so.
01:11:12This is incredible.
01:11:15You like this?
01:11:16Oh, my God.
01:11:17I love this.
01:11:18I'm going to move here.
01:11:20You can see the sea.
01:11:23Everything?
01:11:24Oh, my God.
01:11:26Wow.
01:11:29This is amazing.
01:11:30I'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this.
01:11:34Is it worth it all the trip?
01:11:39Yeah.
01:11:40I know it's worth it.
01:11:41Yeah, I know.
01:11:43So, how about you change and we will see the cost?
01:11:51That sounds awesome.
01:11:52Let's do that.
01:11:53Let's do that.
01:11:54All right.
01:11:54Okay.
01:11:59This is the best part of Izmir.
01:12:02This is incredible.
01:12:05I would love to, like, live right there, like, with this view every day.
01:12:10Yeah.
01:12:11I like these old buildings.
01:12:12I do, too.
01:12:14Yeah.
01:12:16Architecture is the art we live in.
01:12:21I love that.
01:12:22Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:23That's, like, really profound.
01:12:24Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:25Birkan has so many, like, random comments for things, and he has a way of taking things that
01:12:32are just very simple and creating this, like, giant philosophical discussion around it.
01:12:38It's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.
01:12:40When the darkness comes, the light shines out.
01:12:47Sometimes it's a little exhausting, because I'm like, oh, my God, it's just the sunset.
01:12:51I guess we've got to go this way.
01:12:53Go back this way?
01:12:53Yeah.
01:12:54I feel like a walking zombie right now.
01:12:57Actually, not you.
01:12:58The people are.
01:13:00Not me.
01:13:00I have no idea where I'm going.
01:13:04I don't know where he comes up with all of this.
01:13:07I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes, but ultimately I like it, and I wouldn't change
01:13:12it.
01:13:14Ah.
01:13:16How was your day?
01:13:18Yeah, it was good.
01:13:20I enjoyed it.
01:13:21How about you?
01:13:23I mean, I'm exhausted.
01:13:24I traveled a time to get here, but it was really fun to see some of the sights.
01:13:30And I'm exhausted, and I have got to get some sleep.
01:13:41Okay.
01:13:42You want to go to bed?
01:13:47Actually, it's just nine o'clock, and I have no sleep.
01:13:52Okay.
01:13:52So why don't you go some sleep, and I will watch some TV and join you after?
01:14:00Good night.
01:14:01Have a nice day.
01:14:02All right.
01:14:03Good night.
01:14:04Good night.
01:14:05Good night.
01:14:07Good night.
01:14:08Good night.
01:14:09Good night.
01:14:10Good night.
01:14:11Good night.
01:14:12Good night.
01:14:13Good night.
01:14:14Good night.
01:14:15Good night.
01:14:16Good night.
01:14:17Good night.
01:14:18Good night.
01:14:19Good night.
01:14:20Good night.
01:14:21Good night.
01:14:22Good night.
01:14:23Good night.
01:14:24Good night.
01:14:25Good night.
01:14:26Good night.
01:14:27Good night.
01:14:28Good night.
01:14:29Good night.
01:14:30Good night.
01:14:31Michael just has been blowing up my phone since I got here.
01:14:35He tracked my flight, texted me as soon as I landed
01:14:38to say, I saw you landed.
01:14:40And then he just kind of checked up on me.
01:14:44I said, everything's good.
01:14:46And then he was like, your tone is less than excited, my dear.
01:14:51So I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.
01:14:57But I just have a lot of things to process right now.
01:15:04Him just staying out there watching TV, it's just, I don't know,
01:15:09different maybe than what I was expecting.
01:15:12I feel like it's not this like super great magical moment.
01:15:17Just feels off.
01:15:17I don't know how to explain it.
01:15:19Just feels off.
01:15:22It is so ironic and kind of concerning
01:15:26that I'm getting more attention from Michael
01:15:29than I am from the man that I flew halfway
01:15:31around the world to meet.
01:15:35And so I feel like there's something really wrong.
01:15:38And I don't know, maybe he's hiding something.
01:15:41Or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.
01:15:46But either way, I'm just kind of questioning
01:15:48why I'm even here at this point.
01:15:56I ain't very close.
01:16:03Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:16:06I can't handle it anymore.
01:16:07No.
01:16:08It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:10Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:12I want to end this now.
01:16:13You're acting all hostile?
01:16:14I'm not, yeah.
01:16:15Yeah, you are.
01:16:16Of course.
01:16:26My family had been the one who had been influenced
01:16:29since I was a kid, for they should be helping me around.
01:16:33They kept always promising to me that they would do anything.
01:16:36They can't understand you.
01:16:40You have to speak.
01:16:41You have to be strong and you got to speak clearly.
01:16:47I need you to really please point blank.
01:16:52You were giving your parents money.
01:16:55Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:06Because I feel so scared that if I happened not
01:17:13to give them money, they would say bad things.
01:17:17They say so many mean things that I don't want to accept it.
01:17:21And I was afraid that I was running, running, running.
01:17:25Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:28Honestly, when you try to look at it and without the tears
01:17:32and without, so.
01:17:33I don't want to lie them anymore.
01:17:35It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:38The pieces aren't just lining up.
01:17:40I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:49It's very concerning because how do I even know that your feelings
01:17:55and plans are actually genuine?
01:17:59Oh, you were scared.
01:18:00Forrest would have come to me and said, Mom, I got to get
01:18:04it on a freaking plane right now.
01:18:06I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:08But it sounds to me you obviously weren't that scared
01:18:11that you couldn't tell him and that you could put up with it
01:18:14all that years and hide it.
01:18:17Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:18:19A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:26I understand that if you love your parents and you want to have
01:18:32love from them, you would try to do anything to make them love you.
01:18:36Mom, it's hard to say no to a parent, especially when-
01:18:40That still didn't answer the question as-
01:18:42Especially, Mom, it's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:45It's hard for me to stick up for her against you.
01:18:49I believe Sheena is not trying to lie or use things as excuses.
01:18:56I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say and she gets
01:19:01so overwhelmed, all she can get is, you know, diary of the mouth.
01:19:07I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:19Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:22What's your goal here?
01:19:23Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:26I think what we have to do is we need to get Sheena away from her parents because ultimately
01:19:36the root of this nasty tree is the parents.
01:19:41Sheena, I need- we need to hear from you that you're ready to move forward and confront
01:19:47your parents about what we're going to do from now on.
01:19:52I'm willing to take the risk to confront my parents.
01:19:56It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:19:59Which is what she should have done to set up with you-
01:20:02Yeah.
01:20:03Years and years ago.
01:20:04We can talk about the past and he said, she said he could do that, she cannot do that.
01:20:09It's time to move forward now.
01:20:11Forrest.
01:20:12I want to add this now.
01:20:15I don't even want to talk about the parents anymore.
01:20:19I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:21You're acting all hostile.
01:20:22I'm not hostile.
01:20:23Yeah.
01:20:24You are.
01:20:25And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:29You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:30I tried to have a nice dinner, and our nice dinner turned into disaster.
01:20:37It's OK, babe.
01:20:38I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:45He's just got the blinders on, only wanting to believe her.
01:20:50Now he sees us as the big fat nasties that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:20:57But still, I have to always protect Forrest because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:03And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:14Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:17I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:19This is so surreal.
01:21:21Come on.
01:21:22Where are you?
01:21:24This is like ordering something online, and we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:29Are you nervous?
01:21:34A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:36Before I came to Turkey, I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:41I have some, like, loose skin in places that I am looking to have removed.
01:21:46This part is best as possible.
01:21:48But I'm immediately regretting having Pure Calm come with me.
01:21:52I will just show you some pictures.
01:21:55I've been looking at your page.
01:22:02Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:05Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:08Yeah.
01:22:09I downloaded this extension on my laptop, and it shows you who people follow.
01:22:15This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:18So since we've been dating, have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:22Sheena and I had a discussion about going by ourselves to meet your parents, and how it's
01:22:28important that I meet them before Mom and Dad meet them.
01:22:32I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:37I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:40Sheena, your parents are going to do the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:46Well, my family isn't a bad people.
01:22:49Now the story changes again.
01:22:51I still don't know if this isn't something that you're involved in either.
01:22:55What the heck?
01:22:59I love him with everything I am.
01:23:06But he doesn't know that I've been married five times, and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:13What are you doing?
01:23:14What are you doing?
01:23:16What are you doing?
01:23:17What are you doing?
01:23:18I'm fault they do.
01:23:19What are you doing?
01:23:20I believe it.
01:23:21Thank you for joining me.
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