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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 14 -
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:06What the f***?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:23I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:29Chloe, show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:56It's not normal.
00:59I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby...
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, but she is right.
01:09The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:21I've got one for Tia.
02:24Oh!
02:26Fertie love.
02:27I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46What do you love?
02:48I suck!
02:49Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass at tennis.
02:57Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, oh, God.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Have a break.
03:05I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:17Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:25To be honest with you, Joe, like, the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:36No.
03:37Because I don't want to come off as...
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:43Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:53Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:09So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:13I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible too.
04:18That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:39Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:47So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes.
04:58I feel like he owes me that.
05:00Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:14This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:33In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh, my God.
05:47But I thought we got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah.
05:51Yeah.
05:52I want to get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes.
06:06But unless it's an emergency, you know?
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes.
06:09I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:16Oh, you're joking.
06:17No.
06:20Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:23So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:29I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:41Asking me not to call.
06:44Doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:46But I mean, I'll do it.
06:47I know.
06:47That makes you happy.
06:48And if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night.
06:52I'll say, what do you want, Dil?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear, too.
07:19Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on Grandpa tonight.
07:23You can probably sleep all night on their bed, since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27Yeah.
07:29So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this, like, grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:43So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:47But this is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But, of course, earlier today, we had a fight.
07:59So I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:02Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:12I can do them for you.
08:13Has your mom got nail polish?
08:15Okay, not a good joke either.
08:17But that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23Great.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:24So what do you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:32We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:37Earlier today, when we were down in this, like, historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop that had some seashell earrings.
08:45And she didn't have her purse on her, and she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of you spend money all the time, there's no money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now because I have something planned.
09:24Voilà .
09:24Or something like that.
09:25But even $20?
09:27Okay.
09:27I know you're saying $30.
09:28$100.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max $100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece?
09:39I would have not pushed you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:48Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:57Hmm?
09:57I, like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really bad and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh, wow.
10:04So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like, we can, this can go on all day of like, you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:17I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:19I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how, you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it.
10:52Which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:57You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment.
11:07And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies.
11:11And get on my knees and beg for your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:25Like divorcing.
11:25Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:27Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:36You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:49Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:52I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:03But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:06I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today is a big day.
12:16I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't it?
13:08No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:10When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:19this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:22We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
13:24And hopefully you can give me some really good information and what steps we should take
13:28next.
13:28Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:45I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers.
13:49And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:53her work permit.
13:53I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:58We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost.
14:06And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:15The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:41And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very
14:47fast.
14:48The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:54But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:09If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:14Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to
15:20work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to
15:27get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33That's a long time.
15:34That's a long time.
15:35I know.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step.
15:45You know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:58And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:03In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:16just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married and he's definitely someone that I
16:46see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:22The honest truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:01Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know
18:38about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:06Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:16No commitment.
19:17But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:28Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:37I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:42I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:50And I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decided to see each other
19:56in person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera.
20:04It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:10I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:16Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:32You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:44And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:48There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:55Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you
21:33and how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:42And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:45That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:56When I put that ring on her finger,
22:00I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:10We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:25I'm just...
22:26I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32Um, I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Yes.
23:06Greta is always chasing a thrill in life.
23:13And I think...
23:15the rollercoaster just ended.
23:25All right.
23:26Grab your bag.
23:27Oh, no, what is this I was definitely not expecting a sex dungeon
23:35Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon. Just have no windows and it's soundproof
23:54I don't want you to change
23:57You say I don't care about you is complete bullshit. I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case
24:11We getting out
24:19Right on I mean, it's been a while since we had any
24:22Alone time to be intimate and I was looking forward to having like this nice time
24:29And now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
24:37Love room, oh no
24:40What the is this?
24:52Check it out. Oh, wow. That is cool. Uh-huh
24:58That's a good jacuzzi. Yeah, uh-huh cool
25:03Cool. It's just there's no windows. That's the thing that's freaking me out right now and it's soundproof
25:08Oh
25:12When I was asking Antoni for a
25:15Sexy romantic night away. I was definitely not expecting a
25:22How can I put it without being
25:27Insensitive a sex dungeon. Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon. Thank you exactly
25:32Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon
25:36What a love room for you love room
25:38Oh
25:40Okay, a strip bowl. Okay. I get it. The effort was it's still better than the mine. So thank you
25:48Thank you
25:51Um, so I have a surprise for you. Oh, so you stay over here and I'll
25:57Get that ready. Okay
26:01Manon loves the fact that I was in the military. I mean, I think she just loves the uniform
26:07I'm scared
26:09So I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues
26:14That will at least at a minimum put a smile on her face, which I think is a stepping stone to having a better night
26:22What is he doing?
26:24You ready?
26:32What is it? It's what you want
26:34Yeah, but you always said you would never wear it. You hate it
26:38I'm doing it for you and
26:40Opportunity awaits
26:42Oh, yeah
26:44Let's go. Come on
26:47Can it hold my weight?
26:49Oh pizza
26:50You ready?
26:51I'm not
26:53Oh
26:55Yeah
26:57Oh my god
26:59You're gonna break it
27:01What's the military boy? You can't look like one for like a pole?
27:04Oh, yeah
27:05Yeah, that's what you want
27:07Oh
27:13Yeah
27:15You're a very, very rare breed
27:18It's just very cute. It's very sexy
27:21It's very cute
27:22Okay, let's go
27:23Let's go to the hotel
27:24You're a nice guy
27:25It's nice
27:26I love that
27:27I'm a nice guy
27:27Yeah, you are
27:28Yeah
27:29Anyway, and I'm the bad girl
27:30We always know that
27:31I'm the bad girl
27:32I'm the crazy one
27:33I'm the loud one
27:34The big one
27:35You know, I take space
27:36We know that
27:37Dramatic, emotional
27:38I'm not dramatic
27:39I'm not dramatic
27:42You are very sexy
27:43My new soldier
27:44Yeah, but you are also very sexy
27:47Sure
27:48You are?
27:49Mm-hmm
27:50Thank you
27:51You're welcome
27:52Mm-hmm
27:53I'm really happy with Anthony doing the effort and the thing is like, you know, when we are good, we are good
28:04He makes me feel good, he loves me and everything
28:07It's just made me feel more like, okay, my heart can be full of joy, full of love
28:12I'm home, which is Anthony, Anthony is my home
28:16Mwah
28:18Je t'aime beaucoup
28:20Moi aussi, je t'aime beaucoup
28:21It's just funny when you say beaucoup, you say beaucoup, but it's a beautiful ass
28:25Well, also that
28:26Je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup
28:28Oh my gosh
28:32Are you ready to get married?
28:36I'm hesitant
28:39Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:41I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave
28:46I'm hungry
29:02I'm just actually starving
29:04If I could make a wish, it would be for this
29:08Only you and me
29:16I want my sweet potato fries
29:17What are you gonna eat with that?
29:18I'll just use your salad with shrimp
29:20Okay
29:21So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:25I think we got really useful information out of it
29:27Yeah
29:28Earlier today we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working and be legal here
29:38If we just got married
29:40I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her like it could be potentially eight months before I can work
29:46It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment
29:49We definitely did not see that one coming
29:51Oh God
29:53You know what is that gonna look like
29:57For us in the meantime if I can't work, you know
30:00I don't want to put it on you
30:02The eight nine months is not probably taking care of you
30:06The problem I have is that the lifestyle that you like to live
30:09You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that
30:13I can't support that aspect
30:15No, I understand that
30:17Everything else I can help you with
30:19But you would have to be patient
30:22No, I understand that
30:23I think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point
30:27Regardless we're gonna be waiting around
30:29Yeah, but if I marry you it's in two weeks
30:34Well, are you ready to get married?
30:40Yeah, I am
30:41You hesitated?
30:42I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married
30:45It's not about age, it's about me
30:46Like you can marry anyone at any age
30:48No, but like I'm looking for someone to marry
30:51And I really, really love you
30:53So I would expect you to be the person that I want to marry
30:57But I don't know if you're ready for that
30:59Because you're very young
31:02Why?
31:03You're nine years younger than me, darling
31:05I don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that, you know
31:09I wouldn't say that I'm not ready
31:13I think we just have some work to do, you know
31:21You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option
31:25But you know, is this something really she wants, you know
31:28Because partnership papers is one thing, you know
31:30If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go separate ways
31:32But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married than to get divorced
31:38I think you're very concerned about like you're so young, you shouldn't settle down and this
31:42But I think the way I grew up and like how blessed I was to travel and do all the things that I have
31:47Like I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived
31:50And I've never felt like how I feel with you with anyone else
31:53So why would I want to like put this on the back burner and not go all in?
31:59Like I'm already where I want to be
32:02Like I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously
32:04But I would like to have a martini night and then come home
32:07Like to you
32:09I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into
32:14I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy
32:16And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard you might leave
32:22Because I've been through that situation before
32:24And I'm not trying to compare you to anybody
32:27But you know like I was in a relationship for a very, very long time
32:29And I gave that person everything
32:31And that person at the end of the day left me for something easier
32:35So I don't think it's only you risking everything, I'm also risking life
32:39I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married
32:48Because he doesn't actually know how I feel
32:51In my eyes, I mean I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs
32:55And I feel that I'm ready to get married
32:58I think if I thought in my head this isn't going to work
33:01I would have already left
33:03And I'm telling you that I'm more than okay with it
33:05So don't have this, you know
33:07Second doubt
33:10Exactly, of me
33:12Every day you show me that you love me and you care for me
33:14Then I won't have that doubt in my mind
33:18I already gave up my entire life and moved to another country
33:21So there's nothing else I could really give up to prove to him
33:25How much I do love him
33:27I know it's fast and we definitely have our issues
33:29But to me this feels right
33:32Well I think at the end of the day
33:34It's something to think about so we can be together in the end
33:38We'll figure it out
33:43Every day you have to talk to your mom, it's ridiculous
33:47You're just trying to destroy everything
33:49I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you
33:52You better start picking your battles
33:54Because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead
33:56We're both dead
33:57Hi babe!
34:18Hi.
34:19How are you?
34:20How was the game?
34:21Good.
34:22We had a ball, didn't we?
34:23Yes, we did.
34:24She did.
34:25She kicked my ass.
34:26Not really.
34:27We're both winners on the day.
34:29She's really good.
34:30Okay guys, I've got to be somewhere.
34:33We'll catch up another day?
34:34Yes.
34:35See ya.
34:36Bye.
34:37Good to see you.
34:38You too.
34:39And thank you.
34:40We'll do it again.
34:41After tennis, I feel a lot better.
34:44I finally got all the issues off my chest.
34:48Other side.
34:49Remember, we're in Australia.
34:51Huh?
34:52Backwards.
34:53Where are you going?
34:54Yeah.
34:55I'm sorry.
34:56I'm still trying to get used to the side.
35:00She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much.
35:05So, maybe it's not all on her.
35:07But I'm glad we talked about it and hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:12We had a good tennis match.
35:15She kicked my ass.
35:16It's been a long time since I played.
35:18She might have had to get some frustration out.
35:21Yeah.
35:22At least she didn't hit me with the ball.
35:24I was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times.
35:29Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
35:32I feel like it's resolved.
35:34I just said, you know, maybe she should not call so much.
35:38Twice a week.
35:39Twice a week?
35:40But not every day.
35:41Three times a day.
35:42That's too much.
35:45What do you think about that?
35:46I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
35:50It's your great idea.
35:52It's not a great idea for me.
35:53Okay, good.
35:54Because we enjoy having a chat here and there.
35:56Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
36:01It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:10If it's a problem for me, then you should, you know, you should respect how I feel.
36:15Why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
36:19Listen, I'm not stopped, no.
36:21Yes, you are.
36:22Babe, every day you have to talk to your mom.
36:25It's ridiculous.
36:26I don't talk to you every day.
36:27Sometimes it's free time to date.
36:28Yes, you talk to her free time to date, and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
36:33Can't you just work on, like, getting over that?
36:36Can't you work on, like, helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:43Since I was a little kid, Mom and I have always been close,
36:46and Patia has never really been close to her mom,
36:49so she doesn't understand that closeness.
36:53I think Patia feels fearful that my mom is going to influence me in some way,
37:01or take me away from Patia in some way.
37:04But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem,
37:07then I don't really know what to say.
37:11I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying,
37:13hey, babe, you're talking to your mom too freaking much,
37:15you should be like, what, what?
37:17And then what if she, what if she dies?
37:18Like, how would you feel stopping me from talking?
37:20She's not going to die.
37:21She's freaking healthy.
37:22She's pushing 70.
37:23Babe, she plays tennis every day.
37:25Are you kidding?
37:26She's freaking healthy.
37:28I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:31I think that's really, like, that's really sad
37:34that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life.
37:38You're worried about that.
37:39Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
37:44You got me into it.
37:45I've already talked to you about it.
37:46No, I did.
37:47Yes, you did.
37:48It's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life.
37:50I get the blame for it.
37:51Yes, you caused me a lot of the money.
37:52No, I didn't cause you anything.
37:53I saved you money.
37:55I taught you.
37:56Oh, you did not save me money.
37:58Are you kidding me?
37:59You've got lots of issues.
38:01Big, big, big spending issues.
38:03Excuse me, Mr. Controlling.
38:04You have a lot of issues.
38:06You're very controlling.
38:08You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:10It's always, like, my way or the highway.
38:12You know what?
38:13I think that's the pot calling the kettle black,
38:15because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:17You love controlling me.
38:19Absolutely.
38:20You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:22And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother,
38:24because you like to manipulate, influence, and control me.
38:26And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know,
38:30taking that away from you.
38:33You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:35I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:38No, but I'm going to abandon you.
38:40You know, freaking respect my wishes.
38:43Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
38:45I'm like, what?
38:46How am I controlling?
38:48You're the controlling one.
38:49Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
38:53It's always about him.
38:54You know, it's my way or the highway.
38:57It's so annoying.
38:59Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not,
39:01his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:05I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:07It's not that hard.
39:09You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
39:12Obviously, my relationship with my mom is not going to change.
39:16So you better start picking your battles,
39:19because you're just picking this battle,
39:21and you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead,
39:23and we're going to have a miserable life.
39:27Things are clearly not going well,
39:29and there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about,
39:33and I think it might make it worse.
39:39Next time on 90 Day Fiance, The Other Way.
39:42Let me get you some change.
39:44How much money you have given back?
39:46All?
39:47You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:50You haven't charged anybody.
39:52She's saying, I don't know how any money works.
39:54It's a basic man.
39:55If you buy something for 60,
39:57if somebody pay you 100,
39:58it's easy.
39:59Give them 40 back.
40:00I don't understand the change.
40:05So I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:11I do feel alone,
40:12and it's, like, starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:14The last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up
40:17some things that we're fighting for.
40:20I am upset with Greta,
40:22but I really want them to work out.
40:24I think you should have a talk with her.
40:30When I met with Dorian,
40:31we already started working together on the skincare brand.
40:36And, uh, we need to invest money.
40:40We're trying to buy a home,
40:42and I feel like this is gonna set a lot of things back.
40:45You're working and living at your parents.
40:49How much time before you crack?
40:52What's wrong?
40:56I feel so dizzy.
40:58You okay?
40:59No.
41:00This is not the way I want to start my weekend wearing.
41:04I say no, no, no.
41:14I don't pregnant.
41:15I don't pregnant.
41:16Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:18I told you so many times we even be careful when we have sex.
41:22I have sex.
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