A heart-stirring story that reveals why the pain of avoiding truth today often turns into decades of quiet suffering. 💔 Watch this and ask yourself — what truth are you avoiding that your future self needs you to face?
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00:00So a close friend of mine, she starts dating this guy when she's in high school, and he's very charming, he's a football player, he's a couple years older, she's infatuated with this guy.
00:08So they date for like two years, he graduates, she graduates, and eventually they get engaged.
00:13So they get engaged, pick a wedding venue, everything, send out the invitations, and about a month before the wedding, he starts to act a little bit erratic.
00:21Starts drinking a lot, and he gets really upset with her, and he's verbally abusing her at times, and she freaks out.
00:28This is the person she's supposed to marry, so she starts to talk to her friends and family about this, and she's really concerned, and they actually talk her out of it.
00:36They say, hey, this is normal, this is cold feet, you're just a month before the wedding, and she says, okay, well, maybe this is how it's supposed to feel, and she kind of just sucks it up.
00:44But something never really feels right, but she goes through with it, she gets married.
00:47So things again are fine for a little while, but about a year later, it's getting really worse.
00:52He's drinking a lot more, he's even more abusive, pretty sure she's going to leave the marriage.
00:56She starts talking to her friends about that, but then she gets pregnant, and then she has a baby, and another baby, and another baby.
01:04Today, my friend is 62 years old, and she still wants to leave her husband, and my guess is she never is going to.
01:11But if you go back to her as a young girl, right before she was about to get engaged, it would have been really, really hard,
01:18but it would have been hard for about two months compared to being in the wrong marriage for 35 years.
01:24When we're facing something difficult, the mistake that we make is we compare the pain of facing that difficult thing today with the pain of not facing it today.
01:31The math we should be doing is comparing the pain of facing it today with the pain of that thing over the course of our entire lifetime.
01:37And by that math, the answer is almost always the same, which is do the hard thing that you're avoiding.
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