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Struggling to know if she's the Soulmate God has for you? In this video, we reveal the 5 key signs God sent her into your life. Stop guessing and find the clarity and peace you've been praying for. Learn how to recognize divine confirmation and build a relationship that aligns with God's purpose.
Chapters
00:00 - 01:45 Introduction to the topic
01:45 - 04:10 My personal story of confusion
04:10 - 07:05 Understanding attraction vs. discernment
07:05 - 09:50 The importance of character over chemistry
09:50 - 12:30 Recognizing true submission to God
12:30 - 15:00 How she complements your calling
15:00 - 18:17 Finding peace in relationships
Connect with Vow Crest for more resources: instagram.com/thevowcrest
#vowcrest #relationships #ChristianDating #Soulmate
Chapters
00:00 - 01:45 Introduction to the topic
01:45 - 04:10 My personal story of confusion
04:10 - 07:05 Understanding attraction vs. discernment
07:05 - 09:50 The importance of character over chemistry
09:50 - 12:30 Recognizing true submission to God
12:30 - 15:00 How she complements your calling
15:00 - 18:17 Finding peace in relationships
Connect with Vow Crest for more resources: instagram.com/thevowcrest
#vowcrest #relationships #ChristianDating #Soulmate
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00:00Mistaking attraction for God's approval is silently destroying your future marriage before it even
00:11begins. And you're probably calling it faith. In the next 18 minutes, you'll discover what
00:19confusing your feelings with God's voice is actually costing you. I'm not just talking about
00:24choosing the wrong woman. I'm talking about the slow erosion of your ability to hear God clearly
00:31in the most important decision of your life. And if you've ever felt completely certain about a
00:38relationship, only to feel confused weeks later, or if you've ever wondered why godly men end up in
00:47marriages that feel more like warfare than worship, then you already know the symptom.
00:54Stick with me, and I'll show you not just why this confusion happens, but the exact five sign
01:01framework. That'll give you more clarity in 24 hours than you've had in months of praying about it.
01:09Let's go. Let me tell you about the time. I almost married the wrong woman, because I confused
01:16butterflies with the Holy Spirit. She was beautiful, loved Jesus, served in church, and when I was with
01:24her, I felt alive. I prayed, God, if this isn't from you, close the door, and you know what happened?
01:32Nothing. No lightning bolt, no clear sign. The door stayed open, so I kept walking through it.
01:40Six months in, I'm planning my future with this woman. Then one Sunday, my mentor asked me a simple
01:48question. Does she make you more like Christ, or just make you feel good? I couldn't answer. And in
01:54that silence, God was screaming, here's what nobody tells you. God sometimes leaves doors open. Not as
02:02approval, but as a test of your discernment. The absence of a no is not the presence of a yes.
02:09Imagine this. Imagine this. You're dating a woman who checks every surface level box. She prays before
02:16meals, knows scripture. Your family loves her. But late at night, when you're honest with yourself,
02:24you feel more anxious than peaceful. You ignore it, because, well, who else is out there? And that
02:33moment, that seemingly small compromise is actually a micro fracture in the foundation of your entire
02:41future. Type discernment in the comments right now. If you've ever felt confused about whether a
02:49relationship was God's will, or just your will dressed up in Christian language, be honest. This is a safe
02:59space. Okay, let's get to the hidden truth. And this might sting a little. The hidden truth isn't that
03:06you're bad at hearing God. It's that you've been trained by our culture, even Christian culture,
03:12to prioritize chemistry over character. And then you're calling that chemistry God's leading.
03:19Your brain is literally getting dopamine hits from attraction, excitement, and romantic novelty,
03:25making your relationship feel blessed, compared to the ordinary faithfulness that God actually
03:32honors. Here's the mechanism. When you're attracted to someone, your brain releases the same neurochemicals
03:40as addiction. You feel euphoric. You rationalize. You see what you want to see. And then you pray,
03:47God, is this from you? While your brain is literally hijacked. That's not faith. That's biochemistry
03:54with a Bible verse slapped on it. Let me give you an analogy. A God-sent relationship is like a deep
04:00well. The water is clean, consistent, and life-giving, but you have to dig deep to access it. But an
04:07attraction-driven relationship is like drinking ocean water. It feels satisfying in the moment,
04:15but it's actually dehydrating you. And you don't realize it until you're desperately thirsty
04:21for something real. Which one do you think your brain will naturally choose? The one that gives
04:27you the instant rush? Or the one that requires patient digging? This is why so many Christian men
04:34are in marriages where they feel spiritually dry. They chose the rush over the well. They chose feelings
04:43over formation. And now, five years in, they're wondering why intimacy with God feels distant.
04:52And intimacy with their wife feels like obligation. I know this is heavy, but if we don't address the
05:00root cause, we're just going to keep repeating the cycle. And the root cause is this. We've replaced
05:07spirit-led discernment with emotion-led decision-making. We've traded patience for passion. And we've
05:17confused no red flags with green light from God. Pause the video right now and type which aspect you
05:25think will be hardest to change. One, trusting your feelings less. Two, waiting for character to be
05:33revealed over time. Or three, being willing to walk away from attraction if God says no. Type one, two,
05:44or three. I want to know what you're wrestling with. All right, here's the framework that changed
05:49everything for me. And it's going to change everything for you. These aren't just nice qualities
05:56to look for. These are biblical, non-negotiable signs that a woman is from God, not from your loneliness,
06:06not from societal pressure, from God. The first sign, and this is the filter that eliminates 80% of
06:16confusion, is that she draws you closer to Christ, not just closer to her. Here's the test. After you
06:24spend time with her, are you more eager to pray, read scripture, and pursue holiness? Or are you more
06:31eager to text her, see her again, and think about her? Be honest. A God-sent woman doesn't become
06:40your worship. She amplifies your worship of God. She doesn't compete with Jesus for your attention.
06:47She redirects your attention to Jesus. I know what you're thinking, but I should be excited about her,
06:55right? Absolutely. But excitement about her should never eclipse your passion for God.
07:03If she becomes your functional savior, the person you run to first, the person who determines your
07:10emotional state, the person whose approval you crave more than God's, then she's an idol, not a wife.
07:18This one shift changes everything. Stop asking, do I have feelings for her? Start asking, do I have
07:27more passion for God because of her? The first three months, you're going to feel the pull to make her the
07:34center. It's natural. Then you'll start noticing, am I praying more or less? Am I serving more or less?
07:42Am I in the word more or less? Those metrics don't lie. Who can commit to measuring spiritual growth?
07:51Not just emotional excitement for the next 30 days. Type Christ-centered right now if you're willing
07:59to make that shift. Sign number two, she demonstrates consistent character, not just chemistry.
08:07Chemistry is what happens on date night. Character is what happens when she's stuck in traffic,
08:13when her order is wrong, when someone criticizes her, when she doesn't get her way. That's the real
08:21woman you're going to marry. Here's the pattern. Interrupt you need to embrace. Stop evaluating
08:29her based on how she makes you feel. Start evaluating her based on how she treats people.
08:35Who can't do anything for her? How does she talk about her ex? How does she respond to correction?
08:42How does she handle disappointment? Is she kind to waiters? Is she patient with kids? Is she humble
08:49when she's wrong? These aren't small things. These are marriage things. I've watched Christian men
08:56ignore glaring character issues because the chemistry was fire. Six months into marriage,
09:04the chemistry cools and all that's left is character or the lack of it. And you can't build a covenant
09:11on chemistry. You build it on Christ-like character. Instead of asking, do we have chemistry? Ask,
09:19does she have the character I want to grow old with? Because chemistry is a spark. Character is the
09:26fuel. And 40 years from now, you won't care about the spark. You'll care about the fuel. Type 2 if
09:34character evaluation is something you've neglected in past relationships. Let's be honest with ourselves.
09:43Sign 3. And this is where a lot of guys get confused. She is submitted to God's authority,
09:50not just agreeable. Not just agreeable to yours. There's a massive difference between a woman who
09:56submits to God and a woman who just goes along with whatever you say to avoid conflict. One is biblical
10:05submission. The other is codependency disguised as spirituality. A God-sent woman has her own
10:13relationship with God. She prays when you're not around. She wrestles with scripture on her own.
10:20She seeks God's will independently. And here's the key. When God speaks to her, she obeys him even if
10:28it challenges you. You don't want a woman who always agrees with you. You want a woman who always
10:35agrees with God. Because when you're wrong, and you will be, you need a wife who loves God more than
10:43she fears disappointing you. Proverbs 31 doesn't describe a woman who's timid. It describes a woman
10:52who's strong, wise, and independent because she's dependent on God. That's the woman who'll make you a
11:01better man. Not because she strokes your ego, but because she reflects Christ to you. Watch how she responds
11:09when you make a decision she disagrees with. Does she shut down? Does she manipulate? Or does she express
11:17her perspective with wisdom and then trust God with the outcome? That tells you everything. Type
11:25submission. If you've realized you need a woman who challenges you toward godliness, not just
11:32complements your ego. Sign 4. She complements your calling, not complicates it. God has given you a
11:39purpose, a mission, a calling. Whether it's ministry, business, serving your community, raising godly kids.
11:48You have a why for your life. A God-sent woman doesn't just tolerate that calling. She
11:54enhances it. Here's the question you have to ask. Does this relationship make me more effective
12:02in my calling or more distracted from it? Because if dating her is pulling you away from what God has
12:10called you to do, that's not a sign to push through. That's a sign to pause and pray. I've seen men abandon
12:18their calling because a woman didn't support it. And I've seen men thrive in their calling because their
12:26wife amplified it. The difference? One was sent by God. The other was chosen by loneliness. You must
12:35become a man who values mission over romance. That doesn't mean you don't love her deeply. It means you
12:43love God more. And she loves God more. And together, you're on mission for something bigger than your
12:51feelings. Practically, this looks like she prays about your calling with you. She makes sacrifices to
12:59support it. She doesn't guilt trip you for time spent pursuing God's will. And when God calls you to something
13:06hard, she's the first one saying, let's go. That's a partner. That's a wife. I failed at this three times
13:15before I realized if she's constantly competing with your calling for your time and attention, you're
13:22setting yourself up for a marriage filled with resentment and regret. Don't ignore that pattern.
13:29Who needs to hear this today? Type calling. If you've been compromising your mission for a
13:36relationship. And here's the final sign. The one that'll save you from years of chaos. She brings
13:44peace, not just excitement. Excitement fades. Peace sustains. Excitement is what you feel on the
13:52roller coaster. Peace is what you feel at home. And God's will always, always leads to peace, even when
14:01it's hard. Philippians chapter four, verse seven says, the peace of God, which transcends all
14:08understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. That peace isn't the absence of
14:16challenges. It's the presence of God's confirmation in the midst of challenges. Here's how you'll know.
14:24When you think about a future with her, do you feel settled and secure in your spirit? Or do you feel
14:31anxious and uncertain? Your spirit knows? The question is, are you listening? A God sent woman doesn't keep
14:39you up at night with anxiety. She doesn't create constant drama. She doesn't make you question your
14:46worth. Instead, she brings a deep, steady, unshakable peace that says, this is right. This is good. This is
14:56God. I'm not talking about butterflies. I'm talking about rest. The kind of rest you feel when you're in
15:04God's will. That's what you're looking for. So let me ask you, does your current relationship or the woman
15:13you're considering bring you closer to peace or closer to chaos? Be honest. Because God doesn't
15:21author confusion. He authors peace. Type peace. If this is the sign you needed to hear today,
15:29let's talk about it in the comments. Okay, so you've got the five signs, but let me give you the reality
15:36check. You will be tempted to ignore these. You'll meet a woman who's gorgeous, but doesn't
15:43draw you to Christ. And you'll rationalize. Well, maybe I can lead her spiritually. You'll date
15:51someone who lacks character, but has chemistry. And you'll think she'll mature. You'll be with
15:58someone who brings chaos. And you'll convince yourself, love is supposed to be hard. Don't do
16:05that. The key isn't perfection. No woman is going to check every single box flawlessly. The key is the
16:13trajectory. Is she growing? Is she teachable? Is she pursuing Christ with her whole heart? Those are the
16:21questions that matter. And here's the grace. If you've already made mistakes, if you've ignored these signs
16:29in the past. God's mercies are new every morning. You're not disqualified. You're just wiser now. Use that
16:37wisdom, whether you call it discernment or faith. The truth is the same. Clarity requires patience. You can't
16:46rush God's timing. And you can't manufacture his confirmation. Trust the process. Trust the signs. Trust him.
16:55Let's recap. The hidden truth wasn't that finding a godly wife is complicated. It's that we've been
17:02using the wrong measuring stick. We've been measuring attraction. When we should be measuring alignment
17:08with God's design. The five signs. One, she draws you closer to Christ, not just to her. Two, she
17:18demonstrates consistent character, not just chemistry. Three, she is submitted to God's authority,
17:24not just agreeable to yours. Four, she complements your calling, not complicates it. Five, she brings
17:32peace, not just excitement. Here's my challenge for you. Over the next 24 hours, evaluate your current
17:40relationship or your approach to dating through just one of these signs. Pick the one that convicted
17:48you most. And then come back to this video and tell me what you discovered. I'm reading every comment.
17:55You can spend your life chasing the woman who makes you feel alive. Or you can wait for the woman God
18:02sends to make you more alive in him. One will cost you everything. The other will give you everything.
18:10Choose wisely. God's best is worth the wait. I'll see you in the comments. Let's walk this journey
18:18together.
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