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00:00How is suicide not a part of destiny?
00:02There is no point in me answering this question
00:04because it would make no difference whatsoever whether or not I answer.
00:08No, I don't believe that is a destiny.
00:10So then the question is answered.
00:12Destiny is trash.
00:15Why am I assaulting my throat?
00:18If I'm going to my grandmother and I'm talking to her about destiny,
00:22no, everything is written.
00:23There's nothing that is going to happen, you know, with your will.
00:26You can forcefully bring the fish out of the sea.
00:30But you cannot forcefully make it live.
00:32It says, yes, you can pull me out of the water.
00:34But then I decide not to live.
00:36Basically, you're saying that it's all right.
00:38No, I'm not saying all right.
00:39No, no, no.
00:41Sir, if one day we are going to die,
00:44then what's the point of living?
00:46Because you are still not dead.
00:48Ask this question once you are dead.
00:50Can you?
00:52That's the beauty of living.
00:53Even death is to the living one.
00:56Hello, sir.
01:00My name is Tanu.
01:02I love this quote,
01:04which you have written in your new book.
01:07So if your work is not lovable,
01:10life won't be livable.
01:11So my question is,
01:14if I don't find happiness or excitement in whatever I do,
01:20so it is maturity or some kind of mental illness.
01:25Some people say it is because I am becoming mature
01:28and some others say it is because I am mentally ill.
01:32So what do you think?
01:34It is mostly ignorance usually.
01:45No work can bring you joy or bliss or happiness.
01:50No.
01:53Work is a product.
01:56It's a choice.
01:58You don't just randomly plunge yourself in work.
02:01Work is chosen, is it not?
02:04You have chosen to be on this stage.
02:06You have chosen to be in this institution.
02:09You choose to accept a job offer.
02:11Right?
02:12It's a choice.
02:14Sometimes you create your own work
02:16because nobody is offering it to you.
02:19So you create it for yourself.
02:20It's a choice.
02:22It's creativity.
02:23You must have it within you
02:25to make the right choice.
02:28Otherwise, how do people choose their work?
02:31How did India choose its work since centuries?
02:35Your father is a barber.
02:36So you are a...
02:38Where is the choice?
02:40Is any self-awareness needed?
02:44You are born a girl.
02:46So you will be a housewife.
02:47That's your work.
02:48Is any self-awareness needed?
02:51Born a girl, how will you be an astronaut?
02:54Or a swimmer?
02:55Chee?
02:56Ugly?
03:00There is no self-awareness that is needed.
03:02Or I am in this campus.
03:05Everybody is running towards a placement office.
03:08That particular company with the fattest pay package.
03:12That's how work is chosen.
03:14What self-awareness?
03:17What self-awareness?
03:18My pa is a dentist.
03:23My ma is a dentist.
03:24I already have a clinic.
03:25I will be a dentist.
03:27They got me admitted into the MDS course by paying a fatt donation.
03:33What choice of work is there?
03:34My mother is an actor.
03:41My father is a director producer.
03:44So I will be the actor kid.
03:46What choice of work is there?
03:47My entire family is of politicians.
03:53So I will do politics.
03:56What choice is there?
03:59When work arises as an expression of your deepest clarity, only then can there be love.
04:07For most of us, work is a random accident.
04:13It happened.
04:14You suddenly find yourself, you are in the body of a woman.
04:18Because you are in the body of a woman, so certain professions are ruled out.
04:21Now there is no clarity.
04:25There is a body.
04:29Or you belong to a religion or a caste or a place or a country.
04:36Therefore, the choice stands sealed.
04:41What choice is there then?
04:46You know what work really is in the deepest sense?
04:51That which challenges your weaknesses.
04:55That is the purpose of work.
04:58But for most of us, work is livelihood.
05:02I go there, spend my time, get a salary check.
05:04That is work.
05:05No, that is not work.
05:06That is livelihood.
05:08Real work is when you know who really are.
05:13I know who I am.
05:14I am the suffering ego.
05:15I am the conditioned self.
05:17Therefore, I need to take up something.
05:19That challenges my bondages and can raise me to the highest position of freedom and fearlessness.
05:28That is real work.
05:32Are you getting it?
05:33But for most of us, it is not life.
05:35Just livelihood.
05:36And that's why we say, let there be a distinction between personal and professional life.
05:44What personal, professional life?
05:47Work is life.
05:49Most of the time you are working.
05:51But you will know, I work only four hours a day.
05:58So, any action that you do is work.
06:02Does it not consume calories?
06:04How is it not work then?
06:06Does it not require your discretion and intelligence?
06:09How is it not work then?
06:11You say, no, but I am not being paid for it.
06:13So, it does not work.
06:13You are randomly taking a stroll.
06:17How is it not work?
06:18Explain.
06:19You are sitting here.
06:24Is it not work?
06:25Or you will say, no, no, no, no, no.
06:27We are students.
06:27We don't work.
06:29How is this not work?
06:33You are watching a movie.
06:34How is that not work?
06:37Every single action is work.
06:39And every single action must come from a point of deep clarity.
06:47But we are so obsessed with money.
06:50That work gets reduced to just something you are paid for, livelihood.
06:56Otherwise, we don't believe it to be work.
06:58That does not mean only this is work.
07:06You start sipping the entire day.
07:13You just laugh, right?
07:14That's work.
07:16That's work.
07:17Karma, Gati, Prakrati, work.
07:20And physics would say, not just philosophy, even physics would say, force multiplied by a displacement in the direction of force.
07:32That is work.
07:37You are burning calories.
07:38That is work.
07:39Everything is work.
07:45If everything is work, why do you want to act foolishly in any moment of life?
07:57Are you getting it?
08:00Our concept of life, livelihood, action, work and choice, it stands totally distorted.
08:09Therefore, we say certain things, they are done for the sake of tradition.
08:18So, I have a family.
08:20Then a certain thing you do for the sake of running that family, that you call as work.
08:31After 6 p.m., what you have is the action that arises from tradition, right?
08:38You have a husband or a wife and you have kids.
08:42Where is that action coming from?
08:44Tradition.
08:44Though even that is work.
08:46All these rounds you took around the fire, how are they not work?
08:53Even that is work.
08:53But that work gets done blindly in the name of tradition and then now because you have a wife or a husband or kids to take care of, then you say, I must do some other work to take to take care of them.
09:08So, there is a distinction.
09:10A line gets drawn at 6 p.m.
09:12Before 6 p.m.
09:13It is work.
09:14After 6 p.m.
09:15It is family time.
09:16No.
09:20Every single action is life and all of it must come from a single point of clarity.
09:28Let there be no distinction between the personal and the professional.
09:33You cannot live with two centers.
09:35A man cannot have two masters.
09:36Do not let your choice of work be dictated by social norms or established channels.
09:51Well, no, I am going in the commerce stream.
09:55Don't go to any stream.
09:57All these are pre-established channels.
10:01And you have the entire sky to fly.
10:04Don't limit yourself to these narrow roads.
10:06And don't worry too much about livelihood.
10:12If you are doing something that is very, very good for you, the rule is it will be good for others as well.
10:21You will have some money.
10:23You will not have billions, but you will have some money enough to eke out a living.
10:30What's more, you will have love.
10:33And when there is love, you don't need too much money.
10:36I am Kanak and my question for this, I mean, it's not related to anybody, but my question is that it is related to destiny.
10:52When we say that everything is destined or sabkuch likha hua hota hai.
10:57So, how is suicide not a part of destiny?
11:01How do we consider suicide as a sin?
11:04And is destiny the universal truth or it is just, you know, people are made to believe in destiny just to keep them within the personal boundaries.
11:14This should have been the first part of the question.
11:17And then you say, if destiny holds some truth, then how is suicide a crime?
11:34And that's how you structure the question.
11:37What do you think of destiny?
11:41At least as of how we are told about destiny, everything is written even before you're born.
11:47You are here, everything that happens in your life, the events that happen in your lives, they are all written.
11:54They are going to happen.
11:56Then there is no point me answering this question because it would make no difference whatsoever whether or not I answer.
12:02No, I don't believe that is destiny.
12:04Then the question is answered.
12:06Destiny is trash.
12:07Because if destiny means there is nothing called free will, not even as a possibility, not even as a remote possibility, if there is nothing called free will, then there is no point exerting ourselves in this discussion, because nothing would change anyway.
12:24Everything is pre-written.
12:28Why am I assaulting my throat?
12:31Hoga wahi jo likka hai hai.
12:32But then why can't we as humans, you know, why can't we change destiny?
12:41Like if I, for example, if I'm going to my grandmother and I'm talking to her about destiny, she's going to be like, no, everything is written.
12:48There's nothing that is going to happen, you know, with your will.
12:51But for me, it is like, why can't I change it?
12:54Do you understand inertia?
12:58Inertia is a basic concept in physics.
13:02Inertia, inertia means a thing will continue to be in its state if an external force is not applied.
13:14Something is rolling, it will keep rolling.
13:17Something is stationary, it will remain stationary.
13:20That's physics and we are physical.
13:23So we are lazy.
13:25If something sits here, it will keep sitting because we are lazy.
13:30That's called inner inertia.
13:35So it's all messy around you and it will continue to be messy because you are simply lazy.
13:41And you are a status quoist and you know that change requires effort, you know, change requires boldness, so you'll continue to let things rot as they are.
13:54But how to justify this inaction, you say, you see, anyway, nothing is going to happen, what is written is written, so what is the point of acting, so let me just sleep and rot.
14:06So all this concept of destiny is a dirty trick to justify your laziness and cowardice because when you set out to change, you expose yourself to harm, don't you?
14:20You expose yourself to harm, and when you set out to clean, you expose yourself to the filth, don't you?
14:30So we don't want to change anything.
14:35We don't want to own agency.
14:39We want to rather believe there is an all-powerful agency out there somewhere and he is pulling all the strings and that we call as devotion, that we call as religiosity.
14:55Whereas it is sheer cunningness, because you don't want to take ownership, because you don't want to tolerate pain, because you are just a little petty, covered, so you say, you know, what is the point?
15:18It was in the stars, it was in the stars, it was in the stars, there is nothing called destiny, however, there is something called randomness, universe, as it affects you, is a random place, it has its own
15:47laws, but the way it affects you is a very random thing, you will never know the real causal chain behind anything that is happening on the outside.
16:04This tile can fall on your head this moment, right?
16:08That's not destiny, that's randomness, that's randomness of the physical world.
16:14Even as we all sit here, if each single one of us gets herself tested, some unknown disease might be revealed and you didn't know and you are living with it.
16:29That's not destiny, that's randomness.
16:31It's there in your genes, the air is dirty, the water is dirty and you might be aging or you ate something bad and you are now diseased and you don't even know it.
16:40All that is randomness, even birth is a random occurrence, right?
16:45Forget death, even birth is so random.
16:48Nobody decides to be born.
16:50You are randomly born and you decide, where have I come?
16:55Right?
16:56So there is randomness and that randomness you cannot control but that randomness is not destiny.
17:05You have the agency to respond rightly to that randomness.
17:12Yes, you cannot control what is happening on the outside but you can always control your response to it.
17:21Always, you always have a choice and if you don't have a choice, you are dead.
17:25No point living.
17:26You always have a choice in responding to external random events.
17:38Outside, even after your utmost effort, randomness will still remain.
17:44Life is unpredictable, you cannot control it.
17:54But, but, but, but, but how to respond to whatever happens is your own fiefdom.
18:01Never surrender your agency.
18:06Never say, I am a mere fallen leaf at the mercy of the winds.
18:16Never.
18:18Even in your darkest moment, you still have a choice.
18:23And sometimes that choice is to give up your life.
18:28And that is alright.
18:31You can confine my body.
18:33You cannot confine me.
18:35Sometimes the right response is this.
18:40You know how the saints have talked of it?
18:44Hmm.
18:45They have said, look at the fish as a symbol.
18:50Not, not really the thing called fish.
18:53But at the symbol.
18:54Look at the fish.
18:56And you will know what love means.
18:58The fish is in love with the sea.
19:03You have all the power to bring the fish out of the sea.
19:09But the fish has all the power to give up its life.
19:12You can forcefully bring the fish out of the sea.
19:20But you cannot forcefully make it live.
19:22That is the last declaration of its agency.
19:27It says, yes, you can pull me out of the water.
19:31But then I decide not to live.
19:34And one should always be ready for that.
19:41Because that is the last bondage.
19:44The body.
19:45If one is prepared to give up even the body for the sake of freedom.
19:49For the sake of truth.
19:51Then you can never be controlled.
19:53Then you can never be enslaved.
19:56But that should be the last resort.
19:59Please.
20:01Sometimes I speak and then I wonder about the consequences.
20:05But you are saying that it is basically you are saying that it's all right.
20:11No, I am not saying all right.
20:12No, no, no.
20:13No, like it is the last.
20:15You remember what I told him.
20:16For the right cause, I can lay down my life this moment.
20:19For the right cause, if I am needed to live a thousand years, I should live.
20:24But then why people see it as a sin or, you know, consider it so wrongly to suicide?
20:31Because you see, if you do not demonize it or criticize it or criminalize it.
20:39Then life is such a hell for most people.
20:44That you will have a huge wave of suicides.
20:49Because most people are somehow dragging their feet through life.
20:54They don't want to live.
20:56But they are somehow living.
20:58And if you start glorifying suicide, they will find a way to end their misery.
21:04They will say fine, suicide is fine.
21:07So I am now going to hang myself.
21:09That's the reason suicide must never be endorsed.
21:12And that's the reason it is actually criminalized.
21:16You will be arrested if you attempt suicide.
21:19Sir, if one day we are going to die, then what's the power point of living?
21:28Because you are still not dead.
21:31That's the point.
21:33Even death is something you imagine as a living person.
21:38Ask this question once you are dead.
21:40Can you?
21:41That's the beauty of living.
21:43Even death is to the living one.
21:46The dead ones, so miserable they are, they can't even die anymore.
21:51The beauty of life is, there is death still possible.
21:56Right?
21:57So choose the right death.
21:58That's the beauty of life.
22:00Okay?
22:05My name is Ajay.
22:06I have joined from Dubai.
22:08I run a company here.
22:10I am the CEO of the company.
22:11So those things which are told by the so called Babaji's or priest or any kind of spiritual definition which we see nowadays which is quite famous, you will easily can verify that they are all false.
22:30They don't hold logic.
22:31They are mostly on emotions or beliefs or some kind of assumptions which goes through generations in the society or the tradition.
22:40So that's where this brings a very much clarity in terms of refinement or in terms of giving a very crystal clear view of that these are all false.
22:50Right?
22:51And that's the whole purpose.
22:52To go to the truth, you have to remove the falseness.
23:10To be continued.
23:12To be continued.
23:13To be continued.
23:14To be continued.
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