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00:00:00We're so cute
00:00:02Previously
00:00:04Our newlyweds took the next step into married life
00:00:08But for some domestic harmony
00:00:12I won't be living in this apartment
00:00:14I need some time out
00:00:16Was short lived
00:00:20It was the first dinner party of the experiment
00:00:22Here we are on this mad experiment
00:00:24Seeing things not in our element
00:00:26Sarah shared her unfiltered opinions on Dean
00:00:28Sarah's already entered the zone of being disrespectful
00:00:32And that's something that needs to end
00:00:34And for Julia, Ruth and Devani
00:00:36The spark is definitely there
00:00:38We're literally like yin-yang-yang
00:00:40Conflicting accounts of the honeymoon
00:00:42He said how amazing it was
00:00:44On what planet?
00:00:46Left their marriage hanging by a thread
00:00:48The honeymoon was not easy
00:00:50They've heard a different story
00:00:52It makes no sense
00:00:54It makes no sense
00:00:56It makes no sense
00:00:58I'm so genuine
00:01:02Tonight is the very first commitment ceremony
00:01:06It's time for the couples to face the experts
00:01:08Can't communicate with you
00:01:10And you don't listen
00:01:11You don't back down
00:01:12It's been difficult
00:01:14It's been proper difficult
00:01:15This isn't gonna work
00:01:16Tension builds as two couples clash
00:01:18No emotional connection
00:01:20No communication
00:01:21I thought we could build from the wedding day
00:01:24Just miles apart
00:01:26And Sarah's badmouthing
00:01:29Do you think that you were rude
00:01:31While talking about your partner?
00:01:33Catches up with her
00:01:34This man is talking about how lovely his partner is
00:01:38And you are on the other side of the room
00:01:40Disrespecting him
00:01:42It's not me
00:01:44It's not who I am
00:01:45That was good
00:01:57Right now get the other one in
00:01:59Other one
00:02:01Oh!
00:02:02Nah
00:02:03Right put them down though
00:02:04Cause they're all gonna be f***ing orange juice
00:02:09Can I have this piece of toast?
00:02:11That one's a bit buttery
00:02:13Cholesterol for breakfast
00:02:21Yesterday it was a lot wasn't it?
00:02:23It was a lot yeah
00:02:24Fun no?
00:02:25Yeah we had a really good time
00:02:26I felt really confident with you
00:02:28Even before we saw everybody else
00:02:30But then when we did see everyone else
00:02:31And we saw where they were at
00:02:32I was like oh actually we are super strong
00:02:34Yeah it's a nice feeling isn't it?
00:02:36I loved walking into the dinner party with Bec
00:02:38I loved showing her off
00:02:39And I walked in with a big smile on my face
00:02:41Bailey and I are really good
00:02:42We're happy
00:02:43We have gone from strength to strength everyday
00:02:45We're very tactile
00:02:47Intimacy's great
00:02:48The spot for us is flying
00:02:50So we're going into the commitment ceremony
00:02:52In a really strong position
00:02:57The vibe this morning is a little bit tense
00:02:59After last night's dinner party
00:03:01Giovanni and I spent the night separately
00:03:03We had a argument
00:03:05Compared to other couples I knew that we were struggling
00:03:09It felt like again we were on different pages
00:03:12He was trying to just paint a picture so no one could see what was going on
00:03:16He's saying it's daisies
00:03:18It wasn't the best feeling to know that my wife was upset
00:03:23How I articulated our issues was a little bit sugar-coated
00:03:28I can admit that
00:03:30But that's what I chose to do because obviously we're a team
00:03:33Thank you
00:03:39Thank you
00:03:41Last night was intense, wasn't it?
00:03:44Yeah, I'm sorry about the crying
00:03:46I wasn't planning on doing that
00:03:47I got upset at the dinner party yesterday from the honesty box
00:03:53I feel a little bit embarrassed
00:03:55Nelly, can you see yourself falling for me?
00:03:59It's very hard for me to say
00:04:02Yeah, yeah
00:04:04Why is it so hard for you to talk about falling for somebody?
00:04:08I think I'm so afraid of being so emotionally like open and vulnerable to someone
00:04:15I think they know who I am and think, you know what, I'm not into her
00:04:20And then they break my heart
00:04:23I can't with it anymore, it's too much
00:04:28Just a lot for week one
00:04:29Yeah, of course it is
00:04:30It's like when that honesty box comes out
00:04:32We all know what that sort of entails
00:04:34So very courageous of you to show that emotion and say what you said
00:04:39Steven's doing all the right things
00:04:41But I still keep getting into my own hair thinking, what does he like you?
00:04:43Are you sure about that?
00:04:45I don't want to scare him off or give him the ick
00:04:48And I will convince myself if he doesn't hold my hand for long enough
00:04:51It's because he's not into me
00:04:53Even though the poor guy probably just wants his arm back
00:04:56He's clearly telling me he's being truthful
00:04:58Why can't I believe it?
00:05:01Looking forward to seeing the experts today
00:05:03Do you think you're going to get emotional?
00:05:05Me? I don't get emotional
00:05:06Oh, shut up
00:05:08What if they poke you in all the right places?
00:05:11Well, it hasn't happened for a while, so...
00:05:13Grace and I, I feel, are in a really good place
00:05:18We're quite stable at the moment, so I'm quite happy with where I am
00:05:22Is there anything you're looking to talk to the experts about?
00:05:24I feel like they might, I think it could be confronting
00:05:28I'm scared
00:05:29I wasn't myself on honeymoon
00:05:31It's all been so overwhelming and so hard
00:05:36I don't want to do this, sorry
00:05:37On their wedding day
00:05:39What? That was upsetting you
00:05:43Just... I can't...
00:05:46Grace struggled to find a connection with Ashley
00:05:49I was raised like man of the breadwinners
00:05:52Like old school morals, basically
00:05:55Yeah
00:05:57And the honeymoon brought her walls up even higher
00:06:00Okay, is that enough now?
00:06:02Yikes
00:06:04Oh, I'm not really feeling it
00:06:05I feel like everything I'm doing is wrong
00:06:08And I don't know why
00:06:10In an effort to turn things around
00:06:12Grace finally opened up to Ashley
00:06:14I just want to explain the physical touch thing
00:06:17Because I feel like maybe I'm making it seem like it's you
00:06:19I've been this way since I was a kid
00:06:21It's a sensation that I don't like
00:06:23It's like skin
00:06:25Yeah
00:06:26But it's especially bad when I'm a bit stressed
00:06:28And the people I don't know, they don't need to project it onto you
00:06:31I just hope I don't get upset
00:06:33If you do feel emotional
00:06:34What is it that I'm supposed to do?
00:06:35Because my natural reaction would be to give you a hug if you're emotional
00:06:38But you obviously don't... you're not going to want that
00:06:40So what is it I do?
00:06:41I might want that
00:06:43I don't know, let's just see
00:06:44Let's just cross that bridge
00:06:46I am nervous about seeing the experts
00:06:49Obviously they're going to shine a light on all the things that, you know, sometimes I avoid talking about
00:06:54The touching, the PDA, all of that
00:06:57I'm the problem
00:06:59That's how I feel actually
00:07:00So that's maybe why I'm nervous
00:07:07I'm so sorry you feel sick
00:07:09David is feeling really unwell
00:07:12He's so achy, that poor man has got no energy whatsoever
00:07:16How are you feeling about seeing the experts tonight by yourself?
00:07:20Overall I'm terrified about going by myself and I don't want to go
00:07:23I'm sure you're going to be fine
00:07:25Yeah, I've got a spot but don't worry
00:07:27But drink the honey and lemon ginger tea when it's hot
00:07:30It does nothing, now it's cold
00:07:33A little bit worried about walking into my first ceremony without him
00:07:36But I think we're really strong so it should be fine
00:07:42First commitment ceremony today
00:07:44What do you think they're going to say to us?
00:07:45I don't really know
00:07:47From here, shit gets deeper, doesn't it?
00:07:49I want the experts to tell us where we're going wrong
00:07:51We're just not there yet in terms of the romantic connection
00:07:54It's more than friends
00:07:56But at the same time, she doesn't want to rip my clothes off
00:07:59I said, you just need to let your wall down a little bit more
00:08:01Like, I'm trying
00:08:03I'm being way more open and vulnerable than I ever would in any situation
00:08:07The thing is, mine's not by choice
00:08:09That vulnerability or like moving to that next stage with you
00:08:11Is just not coming naturally
00:08:13Yeah, yeah, yeah
00:08:14And it's not like something that I'm choosing to do
00:08:16And it sounds so shallow
00:08:17I think this whole narrative of like, oh, you're not my typical type
00:08:21It's like, I'm struggling to fill the romance
00:08:23It's not just about like, you don't have an undercut
00:08:25Do you know what I mean?
00:08:26Me having my walls up isn't by choice
00:08:28Like, it's not something I'm in control of
00:08:30Like, I feel like I'm blocked off
00:08:32And I can't unblock
00:08:34It's just like, how do I let these walls down?
00:08:37But at the same time, I think I'm more willing to try and get the wall down
00:08:42There's a big decision to make today
00:08:45I'm trying to be open and vulnerable
00:08:46But I've had my walls up for so long
00:08:48It's going to be really hard to change and let my guard down
00:08:51I'm trying to like, give it my all and be completely open
00:08:55And initially that attraction wasn't there
00:08:57So I'm intrigued to see what the experts' advice is
00:09:00Or what they think is beneficial for us to do moving forward
00:09:07Are you still feeling shit?
00:09:09Yeah, I feel terrible to be honest
00:09:11I feel like crap
00:09:12Joe is feeling proper poorly
00:09:13So I don't know if he's going to be able to attend the commitment ceremony
00:09:17I'm nervous, you know
00:09:19It's obviously like, it's a commitment ceremony
00:09:21And I hate feelings
00:09:23So I'm guessing we're going to be talking about how we feel about each other
00:09:27Joe's expressing some feelings towards us at the dinner party
00:09:31I feel exactly the same way, I'm just not very good at showing it
00:09:34But I'm obviously going to tell the experts that I really like Joe
00:09:38Because I can't stop smiling when I talk about him
00:09:43Feeling a little bit disappointed
00:09:46I came away from the dinner party feeling the same about Paul as I did going in
00:09:51I agree with Rebecca
00:09:53Saying that Paul and I was one of the weakest couples
00:09:56I'm struggling with the emotional connection
00:09:59Whatever decision I make today is very important
00:10:04I did this experiment to find love
00:10:06So I'd be good to walk away without it
00:10:09I'm 100% needy of the experts
00:10:13I care very much about Anita
00:10:17But opening up about my emotional feelings has always been a struggle for me
00:10:21My coping mechanism is to put a barrier up
00:10:24And I think that's something that Anita's found hard to break down
00:10:27I'm not too empathetic towards her feelings maybe
00:10:33And it's something I need to improve on
00:10:35Anita has compassion and patience
00:10:38I'm hoping she stays around long enough
00:10:41And work together to build the marriage going forward
00:10:44I have no idea where Anita stands
00:10:46I have no idea if she's going to say stay or leave
00:10:47What do you think about Sarah and Dean?
00:10:55He hasn't said much but I know obviously she said bits to you
00:10:59Oh, she did say she got the ick?
00:11:01Did she? About what?
00:11:03The proper ick
00:11:05That's a bit of a sad one to be fair because he's such a nice lad
00:11:07She said there's no physical attraction there for her at all
00:11:10Yeah
00:11:11There's nothing sexual for her
00:11:17Last night it was harder than I thought it was going to be
00:11:22Yeah, definitely
00:11:24It's hard to see everyone as well, like be lovey-dovey
00:11:27Because I'm the guy like, oh, comparison is the thief of joy
00:11:30I'm not going to compare, but yeah
00:11:32It's definitely a feeling, a lot of feelings yesterday
00:11:35You can't help that naturally
00:11:36Yeah, I won't, but yeah
00:11:38I'd obviously said that I probably would compare
00:11:41It obviously would be the attraction thing, which is for me the hardest bit
00:11:45And last night it was emotional at points, so I think, yeah, today will be the same
00:11:50Last night's dinner party has given me a little bit of a wake-up call
00:11:54Mine and Dean's relationship is not where I would have imagined it to be
00:11:57It is quite hard to see other couples being quite all over each other
00:12:00And Dean and I aren't like that
00:12:02And I think that's making me feel very emotional
00:12:06I'm nervous about it as well
00:12:08Because it's kind of putting everything out there, isn't it?
00:12:10And it is so intense
00:12:12It's only going to get intense, though
00:12:14If we're honest, it can kind of only help
00:12:16I like Sarah
00:12:18I'm optimistic she'll say stay
00:12:20There is reasons that we are matched
00:12:21We're both here to kind of try and make it work
00:12:24So, yeah, I'm confident in that she'll stay
00:12:27We're all wanting to get somewhere within this experiment
00:12:30We're both where we are, we're like, yeah, we need help
00:12:32And that's what they're there for, so hopefully
00:12:35I don't know what the experts could do to help get that spark
00:12:40Looking at the other couples and feeling that, like, you know, sexual energy and sexual spark
00:12:46I mean, that was like flying through the room at one point
00:12:48I genuinely just don't know if we're going to get to it
00:13:18Today is the very first commitment ceremony
00:13:28And we are so excited to start your journeys with you
00:13:33This is where the hard work begins
00:13:37It's imperative that all of you commit to being honest and open
00:13:43Honesty is the key to the success of your marriages
00:13:49You're all here to make a very important decision
00:13:53Whether to stay or leave the experiment
00:13:56A couple can only leave the experiment if both write leave
00:14:02If just one person wants to stay, then the couple must stay in the experiment
00:14:07And continue to work on their marriage
00:14:09Now, David and Joe cannot be here today due to illness
00:14:13But for the rest of you, let's all get down to business
00:14:26Our first couple up to the couch tonight is Grace and Ashley
00:14:29Hey!
00:14:34Come and join us you two!
00:14:36Hello!
00:14:38Hello!
00:14:40Why don't you take us back to the wedding day, Grace?
00:14:43How did you feel leading up to the ceremony?
00:14:46I don't really know what I was expecting
00:14:50I certainly didn't expect it to hit me like the ton of bricks that it did
00:14:54I think I just panicked
00:14:55I was like frustrated with myself and like berating myself
00:14:58And I took myself on a downward spiral
00:15:02Later there was talk of Ash's traditional values
00:15:06And being an old school gentleman
00:15:08And I didn't really know what that meant
00:15:09I love being an independent woman
00:15:11And I just thought it's dead in the water before it even starts
00:15:15How did that feel for you, Ashley?
00:15:17It was like a deer at headlights
00:15:19When sort of Grace was feeling the way she was
00:15:21So that kind of made me spiral a little bit
00:15:23Because I said from the very beginning I wanted to be unapologetically me
00:15:27That's really hard to do when you're the reason she's feeling like she is
00:15:32It's about terminology, isn't it?
00:15:34Yeah
00:15:35Grace, he's old school gent and she thinks
00:15:38I'm not a trad wife
00:15:40I had no idea it would even be taken that way
00:15:43So it completely kind of wiped me off my feet
00:15:45Because I just wasn't expecting it
00:15:47It sounds like that was quite difficult for you
00:15:50And then you went on honeymoon
00:15:53On the honeymoon, okay, so for the first couple of days
00:15:56I'm feeling upset
00:15:58Everything made me on the brink of tears
00:16:00I'm not the most touchy-feely person
00:16:03And in this moment, when I was feeling so overwhelmed
00:16:07And so stressed and so anxious, so vulnerable
00:16:09That not wanting to be touchy-feely
00:16:12It became a huge deal
00:16:15And Ash, in wanting to make me feel better
00:16:17It's like, you okay? You all right?
00:16:21And I was like, it was making me like more and more and more inside myself
00:16:25I was struggling
00:16:28Ash, how was that experience for you?
00:16:32If someone's feeling down, I try and make it better
00:16:33Because the way I flirt, if someone likes you, they're touching you more
00:16:39So I always thought touch was good and let them know that you like them
00:16:43But that wasn't what she wanted or needed
00:16:46And I was kind of making it worse
00:16:48Grace, are you able to direct your own insight back to yourself here on this one
00:16:53And see where that lack of comfort with all the touching comes from?
00:16:58I don't know anyone else like me
00:17:00I don't know anyone else that doesn't really like the feeling of like skin on skin
00:17:04But I do function as an adult, like I'm a midwife
00:17:07I rub people's backs, I hold people's hands
00:17:11But this experiment
00:17:13Okay
00:17:14You're doing great
00:17:19You're doing really good
00:17:21It is confronting
00:17:23Because for me it's normal
00:17:24I've always been this way
00:17:26But then, like looking at everyone else, finding it so easy, so natural
00:17:31You do start to feel like they're the freak
00:17:33You're like, and it's made me question
00:17:36What was I thinking?
00:17:38Why did I think I could come into this?
00:17:41What was, why did I, like it makes me think like
00:17:44What a bizarre thing to do
00:17:46Or maybe it's a brave thing to do
00:17:48Yeah, okay, thanks Paul
00:17:50And also, yeah
00:17:53You know, we all have different levels of comfort with touch
00:17:56And I think what's important here is the two of you can start talking about what those boundaries are
00:18:02On this point, when you both sat here on the couch
00:18:06You, Grace, you were feeling emotional
00:18:08Yeah
00:18:09So Ashley, literally, I just saw him put his hand out like this
00:18:12And he went to touch you and he was like, uh oh, I better not do this
00:18:16I better not do this here
00:18:17And then he goes, it was one of those, oh yeah, cool
00:18:20And I felt for you in that moment
00:18:24Yeah
00:18:25And it's also important for you, Ashley, to be able to say, you know, I'm here for you in this moment
00:18:30Right?
00:18:31That's right, to do it verbally
00:18:32To do it verbally
00:18:34Yeah
00:18:35I'm very verbal as a person anyway
00:18:37If I feel a certain way or I'm upset with something, I just come straight out and say it
00:18:41So hopefully we can sort of just keep going like that
00:18:43So where would you say you guys ended up at the end of the honeymoon compared with where you started?
00:18:50Full 180
00:18:52Tell us about that
00:18:54We just agreed that we couldn't just be strangers and then husband and wife, I guess, had to be friendship first
00:18:59Then it was fun, I was cracking up, I was laughing so much
00:19:02I made a conscious effort when I did feel in a good place to, like, to try and be more affectionate
00:19:09And then I can see that she's making a big effort and I really appreciate it
00:19:13And hopefully she sees the same with the way I'm saying things and sort of that
00:19:18It's quite remarkable, I think, how much progress the two of you have made
00:19:23Ashley, you're showing such patience with this woman you've just met
00:19:27Who's showing behaviours that you don't quite understand
00:19:29And for you, Grace, you are showing incredible bravery
00:19:32Yeah
00:19:33Because you're doing things so differently from how you've done them before
00:19:36So I think it's brilliant that the two of you have come so far already
00:19:42I think we're going to go to a decision
00:19:45Let's start with you first, Ashley
00:19:48So, I honestly feel like we've come so, so far
00:19:52And I can't wait to see how far we can take this
00:19:54And I'm really excited to do the rest of this experiment and see where we go
00:19:58So, I voted to stay
00:20:01Brilliant
00:20:05Good job
00:20:06And to you, Grace
00:20:08I feel really lucky that I got partnered with someone so patient
00:20:12So tolerant, so willing to learn, so open-minded
00:20:16I'm happy to be here and I'm glad that it's with you
00:20:18So yeah, I'm gonna...
00:20:21Okay
00:20:23Yay!
00:20:27Thank you so much
00:20:29This is a really positive journey that you've taken so far
00:20:32Keep doing what you're doing, guys
00:20:33You're off to a good start
00:20:35Thank you so much
00:20:36Thanks, guys
00:20:37Take a seat
00:20:38All right, next up to the couch
00:20:54If we can have Julia Ruth and Devani, come on up
00:21:02Welcome
00:21:04Hello
00:21:05Welcome, how are we doing?
00:21:06Good
00:21:07It is so good for you both to be here
00:21:10Because I have so many questions
00:21:13Can we start with the wedding?
00:21:15Oh my God
00:21:17Magical
00:21:18It was wild
00:21:19Best wedding ever
00:21:20Best wedding ever
00:21:21The vibes were up there
00:21:22So much fun
00:21:23It was just like
00:21:25Damn, this person actually exists
00:21:27I was stupid excited
00:21:28I'm so excited
00:21:30Just the true beauty that I saw in her at the beginning
00:21:32Threw me off
00:21:34That's big
00:21:35And then I'm laughing and I'm snorting and I'm giggling
00:21:37It was a lot of emotions
00:21:38It was really great
00:21:39The energy was so good
00:21:40We were vibing
00:21:41It started
00:21:42All right, next day we go on honeymoon
00:21:44Yes
00:21:45Honeymoon was?
00:21:47Started off great
00:21:48Yes
00:21:49Started off good
00:21:50I think that we arrived in Morocco and that was when it hit me
00:21:58Okay, I'm married
00:21:59So I did like kind of feel overwhelmed
00:22:03And I'm trying to find some joyous moments for us to build some sort of like emotional connection
00:22:09Can you explain that?
00:22:10The physical didn't come naturally
00:22:12So I'm like let's build the we're having so much fun and we're laughing that maybe that comes that way
00:22:19But everything is really heavy and deep
00:22:22It's always intense
00:22:24Can you give an example?
00:22:26Yeah
00:22:27For us
00:22:28So we were on the camels and I asked you what is your like biggest fear?
00:22:34And then you spiraled into the deepest conversation I've ever had in my life which was shocking
00:22:41You went on and you were like it's always just been me always end up in these situations
00:22:45No one's ever gonna love me
00:22:46It's always gonna be me by myself
00:22:47It's all this dark stuff and I'm sitting there and I'm like bro like
00:22:51Can I ask you a question though?
00:22:52Yeah
00:22:53You've just asked about his deepest fear
00:22:57Fears are dark
00:22:59I know that fear is a big word but I'm feeling overwhelmed by the amount of information that is being dumped onto me continuously
00:23:07It feels like trauma dumping
00:23:11We talk about deep stuff so much, there's inappropriate times where I just feel like I want to have fun with you
00:23:17Devani, in that moment, how did you interpret what was happening?
00:23:23Answering that question was very personal to me for sure
00:23:26But it was just me opening up at that moment
00:23:29And I just expressed myself the way I needed to express myself
00:23:34Devani, do you feel clear when the right time is to talk in a deep way and when to kind of have a bit of fun?
00:23:42Do you feel clear in terms of what Julia Roof wants from you?
00:23:45Sometimes when I communicate, it can go on and on and on and on
00:23:50It's just finding that balance of just choosing a pot of information
00:23:54And then maybe I can pick it up and then feed it another time
00:23:57Right, right, alright
00:23:59Vital information missed
00:24:01Obviously had the argument after the camels and it erupted
00:24:05Devani's heightened and jittery and upset
00:24:09And I don't like how you handled that situation
00:24:10You don't back down, you get more intense
00:24:15And you're going at me
00:24:17And you did that last night after the dinner party too
00:24:19And I'm like, whoa, like okay, this isn't gonna work
00:24:24I needed to get things off my chest
00:24:26But you agree though, it was explosive
00:24:28It was a bit explosive, yeah
00:24:29Okay, so that is a major detail
00:24:33So we have two issues of poor communication that happens on the honeymoon
00:24:39And Julia Roof, what you're telling me is that there's many of these
00:24:43So, honeymoon, not so good
00:24:46You come back, you move into the apartment
00:24:49How did you feel about your marriage when you walked into the dinner party?
00:24:53We sat down and had a conversation and we said we're gonna be on the same page at the dinner party
00:24:59So, like if we're getting asked the questions by people
00:25:03How has your, like, time been?
00:25:05The wedding was great, it's been good
00:25:07And it's been really bad
00:25:09But I sit down and talk to people
00:25:11And then when I tell them how the relationship's going
00:25:13They were like, oh, like, that's not what I've heard
00:25:16And I'm like, what do you mean that's not what you've heard?
00:25:18It's been, you've been really good, like, smooth sailing
00:25:20That's why I was very confused, because I go around looking like a dickhead
00:25:24Saying that our relationship's been turbulent
00:25:27And he's saying it's been a hiccup flying
00:25:30Okay
00:25:32That's not even remotely close to what's been going on in our relationship
00:25:37I know that obviously we went through our shit
00:25:40But I was going into the dinner party hopeful
00:25:43You know, I'm curious, you mentioned there was an argument last night
00:25:47What happened after the dinner party?
00:25:48Coming back to the apartment, I did confront that, and I was just getting things off my chest
00:25:54You always say you're getting things off your chest, and it's not fun because you attack me
00:25:57I want us to have the space so we don't yell at each other
00:26:01And that's why I say, go and breathe and come back to me when you can talk to me like a person
00:26:06You don't talk to me like a person, you go at me
00:26:09You don't listen to me, I'm like, should I go to another room?
00:26:13And you're going at me
00:26:14Okay, well then I'm going to go to another room
00:26:17And you get more intense, and more intense, and more intense
00:26:21You get so heightened, and I can't communicate with you
00:26:25I don't like that
00:26:26I don't like that
00:26:41You get more intense, and more intense, and more intense
00:26:44You get so heightened, and I can't communicate with you
00:26:47I don't like that
00:26:54You know what's so interesting about you two?
00:26:57You're the most hot and cold couple in this experiment
00:27:02Wedding, oh my gosh, 10-10 wedding, I can't believe it
00:27:06By the next day, it's like, I don't even know if I want to be with this person, right?
00:27:09So what do you want from this relationship?
00:27:12So what do you want from this relationship?
00:27:16So what I want is a companion, someone that's very supportive, someone that understands me in the whole entirety
00:27:22Obviously having fun, that's what I'm looking for
00:27:25Okay, and you still want that in Julia Ruth?
00:27:29Yes
00:27:30Okay, Julia Ruth, what do you want?
00:27:32I want someone who's gonna go 50-50 or 60-40 at different times with me in terms of energy
00:27:40I don't mind being there for you, I don't mind you unloading to me
00:27:43If anyone, I feel like I've got you
00:27:47Let's also enjoy each other
00:27:49I want to have that feeling of like, we're laughing so hard that the physical intimacy kicks off
00:27:53We don't have that
00:27:55And that's what I said, like, coming back to the apartment
00:27:57I'm very excited because then I can take you out on dates and actually have those memorable moments of actually having fun
00:28:04That's why coming and moving into the apartments was a thrill
00:28:08The other thing, Giovanni, too, is I think what's very important, and I hear Julia Ruth wanting as well, is for you to listen
00:28:15Sometimes listening means, I'm going to take a cool off period
00:28:18Yeah
00:28:19And then during that period, reflecting upon what your partner said, what your partner feels, what their emotion is
00:28:26So therefore, you're coming back in a position where you can actually resolve the conflict
00:28:34You know, I have hope
00:28:36Ultimately, you know what you both said?
00:28:38You want to have someone who will support you
00:28:40And I think that's the place to remain focused on
00:28:43Be each other's support, okay?
00:28:44Can we go to a decision?
00:28:49Devani, why don't you take us away?
00:28:52Julia Ruth, it's been difficult
00:28:54It's been proper difficult throughout this honeymoon
00:28:57But obviously, I'm here for a reason
00:29:02And I do believe in us
00:29:04So my actual decision
00:29:06Is for me to stay
00:29:08Need to stay
00:29:18Um...
00:29:21For me, it's tricky
00:29:24The vibes on the wedding day were unreal
00:29:28I just haven't seen you let your hair loose and just have a fun lighthearted conversation and just have giggles with me and create fun memories
00:29:38I don't need everything to be picked apart and to be deep
00:29:46We do have some good moments and I don't like spending time away from you because I miss you
00:29:50So, I think I have chosen to stay
00:29:53So, I think I have chosen to stay
00:30:03Alright, done, done
00:30:05Thank you, thank you
00:30:06Thank you
00:30:12I think it's going to take a lot of work for Devani and I to fix and restart or mend our relationship
00:30:18I hold on to so dearly the moments from the wedding
00:30:21I want to stay because I'm fighting for those moments
00:30:24I've shared how I felt and I think it's now up to him how he processes the information
00:30:29Next up to the couch
00:30:34Rebecca and Bailey
00:30:39Hello
00:30:45Hello
00:30:47Good to see the two of you
00:30:48Thank you
00:30:50Looking extremely comfortable with one another
00:30:53I'm absolutely loving this
00:30:55Okay, so I'm super keen to hear about your wedding
00:30:59Kind of a roller coaster
00:31:01Okay
00:31:02Initial reaction turning around, stunning, absolutely gorgeous
00:31:05I feel like the only thing, I just couldn't catch a vibe I feel like
00:31:09I was a bit thrown by it
00:31:11Yeah
00:31:12And then throughout the day he kind of just followed on that path for me
00:31:14Just up and down like a yo-yo
00:31:16So it sounds like you were trying to work out, what is she feeling?
00:31:20Yeah
00:31:21And Rebecca, what was the experience like for you?
00:31:24I think I had in my mind I would get to the end of the aisle
00:31:28And there would be massive sparks flying
00:31:31Because that's what I'm used to, like that initial big attraction
00:31:35And we didn't have that
00:31:37I know that for you it's really important to have someone that is very much an alpha male
00:31:43Yeah
00:31:44And that was something that was quite difficult for you
00:31:46On the wedding day I struggled with that because I couldn't see like the real Bailey
00:31:49And I was like, oh my god, is he, you know, am I going to eat him alive?
00:31:53And that made me go into my shell
00:31:57I was crying through the vows, I was very overwhelmed
00:32:00Take me to the honeymoon, did that get any better?
00:32:03It changed everything
00:32:06We really, really got on
00:32:08Yeah, I started talking, laughing, tables started turning
00:32:11I saw him for who he was and I thought, wow, like I can really connect with this person
00:32:16You call me a golden retriever
00:32:18Yeah, he's got golden retriever energy, I've got black cat energy
00:32:21Yeah, we match so well in that way
00:32:23Yeah, so we started to have a little bit of a giggle, like, yeah, a little bit of laugh
00:32:26Which like, I like, I can connect over
00:32:28Bailey is who he is through and through, he doesn't put on a show or anything like that
00:32:33Is there a definition of an alpha man?
00:32:35A hundred percent
00:32:37He knows how to look after me, whilst allowing me to just completely be myself
00:32:42I go to the gym, I can carry my bags, I can do things for myself
00:32:46Bailey takes away anything that he can do, while still making me feel that I'm capable
00:32:53I do like to do the little things, like going at the bar, getting you a drink, carrying your bags
00:32:57Little, just little things, they're only small
00:32:59But because she was like, super independent, I could do everything on my own
00:33:02It kind of felt better when she putting that trust into me and kind of relinquishing a little bit of that independence that she has was nice
00:33:08Well, you say that they're small things, but it sounds like they're small things with a big meaning
00:33:13Yeah, and it's not just, like, little acts of service like that
00:33:17It's like the little glance across the room, or like, the, are you okay?
00:33:21And the, I do it back to him, like, there is a real connection there
00:33:24Yeah
00:33:26Well, I think that helps me to kind of neatly go on to the next question around intimacy
00:33:29So how are things going in the intimacy department?
00:33:33Really?
00:33:35Um, yeah, all good, yeah, really good, yeah
00:33:39Very well matched in that department
00:33:41So, no complaints, I can't stop, yeah
00:33:45Rebecca, do you want to help from here?
00:33:47No
00:33:49No, everything's good on that front, yeah, great
00:33:52Well, I am so excited with this union, and it's just so nice to see the physical affection between the two of you, the way you have each other's back
00:34:01Yeah, we're constantly laughing and joking at home, loads of fun, I mean, I asked for, like, a little bestie, and that's just what I've got
00:34:08Yeah, it's a good feeling, it's, it feels secure
00:34:11So, let's go to the decisions, if we can start with you, Rebecca
00:34:15Yeah
00:34:17From our wedding day, this is, I never ever expected to be in this position now
00:34:23I think more than anything, I just love how you make me feel
00:34:26Yeah
00:34:28So, it's an easy one for me, it's a stay
00:34:32Thank you, Rebecca
00:34:34And Bailey, what's your decision?
00:34:35I'm really enjoying just getting to know you, I love just spending time with you at home, and I'm looking forward to that carrying on
00:34:43So, I've decided to, I'm upside down, but stay
00:34:52So, Rebecca and Bailey, the couple to watch, I'm excited, look forward to seeing you next week
00:34:57Cheers, really appreciate it
00:34:58Cheers
00:35:06Next up to the couch
00:35:11Sarah and Dean
00:35:18Hello, hello
00:35:20Oh there, oh there
00:35:22So, how are we both?
00:35:24Nervous
00:35:25I'm nervous
00:35:26I'm nervous, are you?
00:35:27Yeah, I'm good, no, I'm good
00:35:28Oh, are you good? Oh, that's good
00:35:29Yeah, no, good
00:35:30Okay, so, can we go to the wedding?
00:35:32Mm-hmm
00:35:33So, the moment you saw Sarah, what did you think?
00:35:37Seeing that, I thought, the energy's here, and I was like, she's a beautiful girl as well
00:35:42And I was like, yeah, this is good
00:35:44You would say, physically attractive, check?
00:35:46Yeah, yeah, definitely
00:35:47Sexually attractive?
00:35:48Yeah, I guess, I thought, I could have sex with her
00:35:51Okay
00:35:54But it's important to know, because there is a distinction between the two
00:35:58Yeah, yeah
00:35:59So, okay, Sarah, how did you feel going in to the wedding?
00:36:04I was very nervous, and I think I had envisioned in my head of who was going to be at the end of the aisle
00:36:10And what was that vision?
00:36:11Okay, so, I'll be honest, yeah, um, tall, I love tattoos, so covered in tattoos, probably look like they've just come out of jail, I'm not gonna lie
00:36:27Because that was your quote unquote type
00:36:31Okay, what else?
00:36:32I mean, I do also like a guy that's, like, into fitness and gym
00:36:38So, yeah, I mean, maybe
00:36:42Physical as well
00:36:45It wasn't what I thought it was gonna be
00:36:48Okay
00:36:51I don't wanna hurt your feelings, I'm really sorry
00:36:53Yeah, it's gotta be honest, I promise, you're not gonna hurt my feelings
00:36:55Dean, are you okay?
00:36:57You're literally fine, it's so good, it's so good
00:36:58It's so good, it's so good
00:37:00Okay
00:37:01It was an honest start, we appreciate that
00:37:04So, let's move to the honeymoon
00:37:07Yeah, it was hard, I had a, like, a wobble
00:37:11Because I sing a lot, and, um, you're like, it can get a little bit greater, innit?
00:37:15You're like, yeah, it's a bit
00:37:17Yeah, it was just a lot of random outbursts of singing
00:37:21It was getting just a little bit, I was like, I'm getting, I'm getting irritated by this
00:37:25Okay
00:37:26Because I don't really like sharing my emotions too much
00:37:29But if you listen to the song I'm singing, that's how I'm feeling
00:37:32So I'll be singing, like, a sad song, and if you listen to the words, like, that's how I'm feeling
00:37:36So, are you saying that you were sad during the honeymoon?
00:37:39Uh, yeah, well, I was at a point
00:37:41We had a meal, and we was talking, and I reverted back to, like, the little fat kid at school who's trying to fit in, you know
00:37:47I've not been that so long, because I've built myself up so much, I guess doubts, you know, started coming, and then I was like, oh man, I don't, I don't like this
00:37:57And that was a real low, and that's when I spoke to Sarah about it
00:38:01That's when I was like, let's just enjoy getting to know each other
00:38:06You know what's interesting? I think when there are painful moments, we try to go past them quickly
00:38:11Yeah, probably not
00:38:13You just said something that touches upon a moment in childhood
00:38:17Yeah, yeah
00:38:18Let's give that respect
00:38:19I felt like what?
00:38:21The fat kid, like, back at school
00:38:24And what made you feel that way?
00:38:27Probably feeling like, in all honesty, like a bit of rejection
00:38:31You know, and not feeling like I was enough
00:38:34And what was it that made you feel like you were rejected and not enough?
00:38:40The physical attraction thing is something that kind of, I guess, hits me more than I think it does
00:38:45Yeah, it put my defenses up
00:38:48You know, like, that, I didn't like it
00:38:51Yeah
00:38:53So when you both leave the honeymoon, are you at all optimistic about your marriage?
00:39:00I was super, because like, we get on so well, we're always having a great time
00:39:05And there's no one else I'd rather be with in this
00:39:08For me, I was like, yeah, this could be, like, this could be something
00:39:11Yeah, yeah, 100%, yeah, 100%
00:39:12So were you optimistic at all, Sarah?
00:39:20I was optimistic
00:39:21We have been matched for a reason, and I can see why
00:39:24I think my problem is, people I've dated or been with, I've always had that initial attraction
00:39:29I've always wanted to rip their clothes off and just eat them
00:39:33Just, you know what, that feeling, and I'm really struggling because I don't have that with Dean
00:39:38But then I've got everything else
00:39:39You wanted someone who was going to be funny, you wanted someone who could be a support system for you
00:39:45So Sarah, you feel as if Dean is everything that you need
00:39:50Oh, that's what I said, I said I'm the husband you need, not the one you want
00:39:52And I don't want him to change the sort of, like, I, you know, the singing and the rapping, it did irritate me, it did
00:39:59I mean, the raps and the songs sort of stopped
00:40:01So he's receptive to modifying his behaviour
00:40:05Yeah
00:40:06So what behaviour are you modifying?
00:40:11Is there any modification that you think that you need?
00:40:16I don't know
00:40:18You feel like you're good, you're doing everything appropriately
00:40:21I feel like I'm doing everything okay
00:40:22I think the communication's great, I think the honesty's great as well
00:40:25You're giving it everything, and that's all I wanted
00:40:29Dean, what we've seen here is you kind of rescuing Sarah in this
00:40:33That says a lot about you in terms of the kind-hearted person that you are
00:40:37But I think at the moment, it feels a little bit like, Dean, you're willing to modify behaviour
00:40:43Yeah
00:40:44You're willing to reel in the singing a little bit and the rapping
00:40:47But what we're asking Sarah is, is what are you willing to do?
00:40:51What are you willing to change?
00:40:53I don't know
00:40:55So I've got something for you
00:40:58Oh God, okay
00:41:01You could begin by stopping the disrespect of your husband
00:41:09Let me take you to the dinner party
00:41:10Okay
00:41:12Someone disrespects you
00:41:14What are they doing?
00:41:15Well, they're being rude
00:41:17They're being rude, what else?
00:41:19They're being mean
00:41:21Do you think that you were rude while talking about your partner at the dinner party?
00:41:29Oh, I was gonna get him this
00:41:31I mean, I maybe said you'd given me the ick with some things that you'd said
00:41:36So in other words, you disrespected your husband
00:41:41I get the challenge around physical attraction
00:41:46But where you absolutely lost me is when you went around gossiping about your husband to other people and you were laughing at it
00:41:55Oh, was I?
00:41:57It was a joke
00:41:58I didn't mean to laugh
00:41:59Well, you were
00:42:00Okay
00:42:01And I thought, this man is talking about how lovely his partner is
00:42:05And you are on the other side of the room disrespecting him
00:42:08I don't think I said it that much, did I?
00:42:13You know what? Disrespect
00:42:15I know, I know, I know
00:42:16One iota of disrespect is too much
00:42:17Disrespect is too much
00:42:28You are on the other side of the room disrespecting him
00:42:33I don't think I said it that much, did I?
00:42:36You know what? Disrespect
00:42:37I know, I know, I know
00:42:38One iota of disrespect is too much
00:42:40I'm so sorry
00:42:50I'm sorry
00:42:52These relationships are a two-way street
00:42:55And really what I want you to think about is
00:42:57How can I be considerate to my partner?
00:43:00Yeah, there's no excuse for saying what I said yesterday and I really apologize
00:43:06Dean?
00:43:07Are you okay?
00:43:09It kind of caught me off that
00:43:10Yeah, I know
00:43:12I know, I know, yeah
00:43:16I found yesterday really hard as well, I'm sorry
00:43:20This couch is a very difficult place
00:43:23But it is a place where relationships are broken
00:43:26Or where they grow
00:43:29Now, the physical and sexual attraction
00:43:31It's significant
00:43:33But the best antidote is just to say
00:43:36How can I, every day
00:43:39Work on strengthening my relationship?
00:43:42And as long as you are continuing to make progress
00:43:45Week after week after week
00:43:47Think of where you'll be
00:43:49At the end
00:43:51On that note, I would like to go to a decision
00:43:55Okay
00:43:57And I would love to start with Dean first
00:43:58It's obviously been a proper like emotional time like together like hard and like for like how do we get to that next stage?
00:44:13Because how can I make someone fancy me if they don't?
00:44:18But I do think we have got a good base
00:44:21And I'm hoping it will come now
00:44:23I'm still optimistic
00:44:25I think this could be something special, you know
00:44:27Something different
00:44:29So it is a
00:44:31Stay
00:44:32Thank you so much
00:44:33Sarah
00:44:34This journey has just been so up and down
00:44:48I can see all of the reasons why we've been matched
00:44:50And I really wanted the nice guy and I've got him and I just really want it to work because you're such a nice guy
00:45:03So I have decided to stay
00:45:06Stay
00:45:07Stay, okay
00:45:13We applaud that you're staying and what I would encourage you to do is think about how every day you can develop something that is strengthening your relationship
00:45:25Thank you
00:45:26See you guys, thank you guys
00:45:27Thank you
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00:45:29Thank you
00:45:30Thank you
00:45:31Thank you
00:45:32Thank you
00:45:33Thank you
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00:45:35Thank you
00:45:37Thank you
00:45:39Thank you
00:45:44I'm okay
00:45:45I'm okay
00:45:46We're gonna be okay
00:45:47It was really hard to hear what Paul had to say and I apologize and yeah, I'm sorry. It's not me. It's not who I am
00:45:54And maybe if I did have that spark I wouldn't have said anything like that
00:45:58because I wouldn't have.
00:45:59But there's not the spark there so that was the only reason why I said it.
00:46:04I haven't meant it maliciously at all.
00:46:07I don't want to hurt anyone.
00:46:09I'm being treated myself
00:46:10but then it's coming across really badly so...
00:46:16Yeah, it's been a really hard week.
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00:50:40Đại điện tươi lạnh.
00:50:41What did you think when you saw Leigh?
00:50:44I thought she was really cute.
00:50:46And obviously she's beautiful.
00:50:47I think straightaway I just had this thing in my head.
00:50:49I was like, she's gonna be an annoying little princess.
00:50:52I think because I've seen princess dress
00:50:54and then I've seen she had a little bit of attitude
00:50:57and I thought, nah, she's all right.
00:50:58All right.
00:51:00So Leigh, what did you think?
00:51:05I think it was just a bit of a shock
00:51:07because it's like so far from what I would normally go for
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00:51:54và tôi đã trở thành một thấm thông tin có thật chứ
00:52:01từ khi tôi đã trở thành lực tiếp tục đã tiến bắn.
00:52:05Tôi không biết cách to決 nó anh lại.
00:52:08Lui, tôi đã trở thành một thấm tốt,
00:52:09I've had the door shut
00:52:12and it was bolted shut
00:52:13and I'm now just taking the locks off of the door
00:52:16so challenging to start
00:52:18a marriage like this
00:52:20but now
00:52:22the work that you need to do
00:52:24is how do you
00:52:26establish a stronger
00:52:27emotional connection
00:52:29and I think the beauty is that
00:52:31the result is going to be positive no matter what
00:52:34it's going to lead to a better understanding
00:52:36of self
00:52:37it maybe just leads to you know what I'm now
00:52:39willing to open the door all the way
00:52:42but no matter what it's going to be a win
00:52:44I think
00:52:46the worry is
00:52:47how do we get to the next step
00:52:49this is a popular question
00:52:52how do you get out of the friend zone
00:52:53I find one of the most productive strategies
00:52:56is to think about
00:52:58how you would behave
00:53:00outside of the friend zone
00:53:02and just behave like that
00:53:03that's what I've actually been trying to do
00:53:05like I'm a little bit more
00:53:06okay I need to be vulnerable
00:53:08I need to be open
00:53:09I don't even feel like you're necessarily
00:53:10like going through these paces though
00:53:12because you are just being
00:53:14open and vulnerable
00:53:15like
00:53:15yeah
00:53:15do you know what I mean
00:53:16I'm still trying
00:53:17like I'm trying to be like that
00:53:19if I'm honest
00:53:20I feel like who's more willing
00:53:21to make this work
00:53:22100% me yeah
00:53:23in my opinion
00:53:24you are making more of an effort
00:53:28you are being tactile
00:53:29you are doing all of these things
00:53:30and I'm not able to get them
00:53:31Leah if you were not
00:53:34in the friend zone
00:53:36what would your relationship look like
00:53:38I think being more tactile
00:53:40with one other
00:53:41maybe more flirty
00:53:42with one another
00:53:43having a snog now and again
00:53:44okay
00:53:45everything that you've said
00:53:48that you would need
00:53:49is what I would be
00:53:50if those natural feelings
00:53:51were there
00:53:52but I've just had a block there
00:53:55it's stopping me from doing it
00:53:57because I've never wanted to feel
00:53:58like I'm leading Leah on
00:53:59I just don't see it that deep
00:54:00I can have a flare
00:54:02and have a snog now and again
00:54:03I don't see it that deep
00:54:04like
00:54:05and it's never going to lead me on
00:54:07I overthink it a bit
00:54:08she overthinks
00:54:08I'm not an overthinker
00:54:09at the end of the day
00:54:11I would encourage you
00:54:13to experiment
00:54:14with what the behaviour is
00:54:16to be out of the friend zone
00:54:19whatever that is
00:54:20practice that
00:54:20so let's go to the decision
00:54:24Leah you'll go first
00:54:26I feel like it has been
00:54:29a tough week for me this week
00:54:31but I'm optimistic
00:54:33and I'm very hopeful
00:54:34I see why we've been matched
00:54:38in so many different ways
00:54:39and I'm happy and grateful
00:54:41of being matched with us
00:54:42so I vote
00:54:42stay
00:54:43I know that I've been
00:54:52a little bit difficult
00:54:53to deal with
00:54:54because my head's been
00:54:55a little bit all over the place
00:54:56you've been so patient
00:55:01and still thrown yourself
00:55:03into it 100%
00:55:04and been completely
00:55:05vulnerable with me
00:55:06even when I haven't been
00:55:07able to give that back to you
00:55:08and so that I'm really
00:55:10grateful for
00:55:10yeah and I am hopeful
00:55:16to see where it goes
00:55:17so for that reason
00:55:18I vote
00:55:19stay
00:55:19well done to both of you
00:55:27stop overthinking everything
00:55:30I'm gonna try
00:55:30right just be in the moment
00:55:32thank you so much
00:55:33thank you
00:55:33next up to the couch
00:55:47if we can have
00:55:48Anita and Paul
00:55:48hey guys
00:55:57hi
00:55:58how are you both
00:56:00okay
00:56:01okay all right
00:56:03let's go to the wedding
00:56:04Anita
00:56:06what were your thoughts
00:56:07there was a fun element
00:56:09straight away
00:56:09we kind of laughed
00:56:10nearly all day
00:56:11didn't we
00:56:11yeah
00:56:12yeah
00:56:13it was a good day
00:56:14all right
00:56:15Paul how was the day
00:56:16for you
00:56:17a bit of excitement
00:56:18then laughter
00:56:20conversation was very easy
00:56:22after talking for a while
00:56:24I thought there was
00:56:25potential to build
00:56:26I thought okay
00:56:28now it begins
00:56:29now it begins
00:56:31all right
00:56:31so you're looking forward
00:56:33to the honeymoon
00:56:34yeah
00:56:34I thought we could build
00:56:36from the wedding day
00:56:38Anita
00:56:39are you looking forward
00:56:40to the honeymoon
00:56:40yeah because
00:56:42he is a fun guy
00:56:43to be around
00:56:43he did make me laugh
00:56:45nearly all day
00:56:46so yeah
00:56:47going forward
00:56:48I knew we could have
00:56:49a good time
00:56:50so as we go into
00:56:51the honeymoon
00:56:52you begin to investigate
00:56:53shared values
00:56:55shared outlook on life
00:56:56what did you notice
00:56:58that the two of you
00:56:59shared
00:57:00so much
00:57:00so much
00:57:01okay like what
00:57:02got the same values
00:57:03same values
00:57:04yeah family orientated
00:57:06okay
00:57:06same morals
00:57:07all right
00:57:08it feels like
00:57:09things are good
00:57:10the outside stuff
00:57:12matched us
00:57:13perfectly
00:57:14but when it comes
00:57:15to the inner deep stuff
00:57:16the emotional
00:57:17and the attraction
00:57:18we couldn't be so
00:57:20far apart
00:57:21on the scale
00:57:21Paul's a good talker
00:57:24but when you
00:57:26pin him down
00:57:27to talk
00:57:27he deviates
00:57:28around
00:57:29the relationship side
00:57:31so are you really saying
00:57:33Paul wasn't
00:57:34emotionally
00:57:36connecting with you
00:57:38no connection
00:57:38no emotional connection
00:57:40no communication
00:57:42yeah just
00:57:43miles apart
00:57:45okay
00:57:46okay
00:57:47to be fair
00:57:48I didn't really
00:57:48give Anita
00:57:49anything emotional
00:57:50to grip onto
00:57:51all my other barriers
00:57:52are down
00:57:52right
00:57:53all my cards
00:57:54are on the table
00:57:54and I think Anita
00:57:55knows that she saw them
00:57:57I struggle to open up
00:57:58emotionally
00:57:59it's hard for me
00:58:00Paul when
00:58:02you and I met
00:58:03on a one to one
00:58:04I felt like you
00:58:05were quite open
00:58:06so I'm wondering
00:58:07was there something
00:58:08that you needed
00:58:09in this interaction
00:58:11to have made you feel
00:58:13a little bit more
00:58:13able to open up
00:58:15I can interact all day
00:58:17I can talk to you all day
00:58:19when it comes to
00:58:20affairs of the heart
00:58:21with the opposite sex
00:58:22in our relationship
00:58:23I'm a different beast
00:58:24that's when it feels
00:58:25a bit difficult to do
00:58:27to open up
00:58:27if it was extremely
00:58:28awkward and difficult
00:58:29yeah
00:58:29it sounds like
00:58:31on the honeymoon
00:58:32Anita
00:58:33you were observing
00:58:34Paul in terms of
00:58:35his emotional availability
00:58:37you have placed him
00:58:39in this box
00:58:40but it sounds like
00:58:41you've permanently
00:58:42placed him in the box
00:58:43because
00:58:44everyone can become
00:58:47emotionally available
00:58:48did you feel like
00:58:50because he's not
00:58:51bringing that
00:58:52to the table now
00:58:53I want nothing
00:58:55to do with him
00:58:56no
00:58:57I put him in that box
00:58:59because
00:58:59he said he wasn't
00:59:00in that head space
00:59:01to be available
00:59:03he's on a self discovery
00:59:06journey
00:59:06and I'm on a love journey
00:59:07so until he's
00:59:09discovered himself
00:59:10and found out
00:59:11what he actually
00:59:11really needs
00:59:12in his life
00:59:13are those two
00:59:13mutually exclusive
00:59:14they're on different paths
00:59:16are they
00:59:17Anita
00:59:17I have no idea
00:59:21what we're saying
00:59:23is that the two
00:59:24can exist together
00:59:25so you can
00:59:26be on a journey
00:59:27to find love
00:59:28and you can also
00:59:29find yourself
00:59:30on that journey
00:59:31as well
00:59:31yeah
00:59:32okay
00:59:33all right
00:59:34honeymoon is done
00:59:35yep
00:59:36you move into
00:59:36the apartments
00:59:37ish
00:59:38ish
00:59:40for about
00:59:4110 minutes
00:59:41what happened
00:59:42went into the apartments
00:59:44and I just thought
00:59:46I just don't know
00:59:47if I can do this
00:59:48the thing that
00:59:49tipped me over the edge
00:59:50it was like
00:59:51a make or break
00:59:52thing in my head
00:59:52it was just like
00:59:53Paul what's the name
00:59:54of my two children
00:59:55and he just went
00:59:56that was
00:59:59the communication thing
01:00:00and the lack of interest
01:00:02in me
01:00:02was kind of like
01:00:03well
01:00:04and was that
01:00:06because Paul
01:00:07hadn't asked you
01:00:08the names
01:00:09of your children
01:00:10I've spoke about
01:00:11my children
01:00:11I've actually said
01:00:12the names
01:00:13right
01:00:13the grandchildren
01:00:14as well
01:00:14I've spoke about them
01:00:15so you felt like
01:00:16Paul just wasn't
01:00:17listening to you
01:00:18and because he
01:00:19wasn't listening
01:00:20he wasn't truly
01:00:21interested in you
01:00:21yeah
01:00:22okay
01:00:23in my brain
01:00:24there's no real
01:00:26point of pursuing it
01:00:28okay
01:00:28it's interesting
01:00:29so Paul what's your take
01:00:30I have my children's
01:00:32tattoos names
01:00:33and dates of birth
01:00:33on my arm
01:00:34for a reason
01:00:34so I can't remember
01:00:35nothing
01:00:36I talk constantly
01:00:37and I put all my
01:00:38cards on the table
01:00:39because that's how
01:00:40I operate
01:00:41I volunteer
01:00:42the information
01:00:43how Anita operates
01:00:45is she likes to be
01:00:46asked the information
01:00:47so
01:00:51at the end of the day
01:00:54why are you here
01:00:55to find love
01:00:56but what does that
01:00:58mean to you
01:00:59a partner in crime
01:01:00somebody to walk
01:01:03alongside us
01:01:04still be holding hands
01:01:05when we're 80
01:01:06somebody who's there
01:01:07for you
01:01:08now Paul
01:01:10what do you want
01:01:13invariably I want
01:01:18to find a partner
01:01:19I want to find love
01:01:20I want to cry with
01:01:21somebody laugh
01:01:22with someone
01:01:22so how is what you
01:01:26just said Paul
01:01:26and what you just
01:01:27said Anita
01:01:28different
01:01:29in terms of what
01:01:30you're looking for
01:01:31or is it the same
01:01:32I want love
01:01:35is what you
01:01:37described
01:01:37what Paul just
01:01:38described
01:01:38yeah
01:01:40okay so what's the
01:01:41problem
01:01:41ultimately you both
01:01:44said you want to
01:01:45have someone who
01:01:46will support you
01:01:47and I think that's
01:01:48the place to remain
01:01:49focused on
01:01:50is be each other's
01:01:51support
01:01:52can we go to a
01:01:56decision
01:01:56Anita
01:02:00Paul the lovely man
01:02:06he's the gentleman
01:02:08I asked for
01:02:09he really is attentive
01:02:10I'm totally saying
01:02:13why
01:02:13you matched us all
01:02:15but I still feel
01:02:18that I'm missing
01:02:19something
01:02:20so for that reason
01:02:27I won't leave
01:02:45so for that reason
01:02:53I won't leave
01:02:56so Paul
01:03:06for me it's about
01:03:12building that trust
01:03:13and respect
01:03:14building that
01:03:16emotional bond
01:03:17I'm sorry it wasn't
01:03:20happening at the start
01:03:20I do apologise for that
01:03:22I feel a little bit
01:03:23inadequate that I
01:03:24didn't provide that
01:03:25but it's the start
01:03:35of the journey
01:03:35I'm going to stay
01:03:36so if one person
01:03:45writes stay
01:03:46then the couple
01:03:48must stay
01:03:49and continue to work
01:03:51on their relationship
01:03:52now let me give you
01:03:55my opinion
01:03:55the miscommunication
01:03:57is in the listening
01:04:00and the asking
01:04:01of the questions
01:04:01if those are done
01:04:03this relationship
01:04:05becomes stronger
01:04:06so are you prepared
01:04:09to give this a go
01:04:10yep
01:04:18Paul
01:04:24are you prepared
01:04:25to give this a go
01:04:25yes
01:04:26yes
01:04:27Paul
01:04:31clearly
01:04:31you have homework
01:04:32to do here
01:04:33yep
01:04:33and Anita
01:04:34you think about
01:04:35what can you be doing
01:04:36to strengthen
01:04:37the relationship
01:04:38thank you both
01:04:39thank you
01:04:40thank you guys
01:04:41I wrote leave
01:04:45because
01:04:45it was about
01:04:47wasting time
01:04:47I'm hoping that
01:04:49Paul takes
01:04:50the expert's advice
01:04:51and he has
01:04:52listened this time
01:04:53doesn't listen much
01:04:55to me
01:04:55so hopefully
01:04:56he has a light bulb
01:04:57moment and thinks
01:04:57yeah I've got to
01:04:58try opening up
01:04:59rejection's a very
01:05:02difficult thing
01:05:03to cope with
01:05:03a little bit
01:05:04disappointed
01:05:05that she doesn't
01:05:05want to try
01:05:06it's only been
01:05:07eight days
01:05:08really
01:05:09I'm hoping Anita
01:05:10can look at
01:05:12the differences
01:05:12we've got
01:05:13and work together
01:05:14to build the
01:05:14marriage going
01:05:15forward
01:05:15next up to the
01:05:19couch
01:05:20we have Maeve
01:05:25hi Maeve
01:05:31you alright
01:05:31yeah
01:05:32lovely to see you
01:05:33of course
01:05:34Jo's not
01:05:34feeling very well
01:05:36so we're just
01:05:37really keen to know
01:05:38how the whole
01:05:39process has been
01:05:39for you
01:05:40so take me back
01:05:41to the wedding
01:05:42what were your
01:05:43first impressions
01:05:44of Jo
01:05:45I was a little
01:05:46bit intimidated
01:05:47like I couldn't
01:05:49make eye contact
01:05:49with him
01:05:50he was looking
01:05:51at me
01:05:51and I was just
01:05:52like I couldn't
01:05:53look at him
01:05:54what do you think
01:05:55was going on
01:05:56there for you
01:05:57he's very good
01:05:58looking and I
01:05:58just think
01:05:59oh my god
01:05:59he's not going
01:06:01to find me
01:06:02attractive
01:06:02whatsoever
01:06:03it was quite
01:06:06sad to hear
01:06:06you say that
01:06:07because I've
01:06:09always got that
01:06:09self-doubt about
01:06:10us do you know
01:06:10what I mean
01:06:11because I always
01:06:11go on like I'm
01:06:12loud and confident
01:06:12but yet I am
01:06:13quite like shy
01:06:14inside
01:06:15and when I saw
01:06:16him I thought
01:06:17nah like he's
01:06:18not gonna like
01:06:19us
01:06:20sounded like you
01:06:23felt a bit
01:06:23intimidated
01:06:24when you saw
01:06:25Jo
01:06:25yeah
01:06:27and then you
01:06:29went on
01:06:29honeymoon
01:06:29yeah
01:06:30what happened
01:06:32I argued
01:06:34with him
01:06:35and he said
01:06:36something
01:06:36and I took
01:06:37it out of
01:06:38context
01:06:38completely
01:06:39I could feel
01:06:40myself getting
01:06:41angry with him
01:06:42and I had to
01:06:43take myself out
01:06:44of the situation
01:06:44because I thought
01:06:44I don't want to
01:06:45be angry at you
01:06:46do you think
01:06:48because you felt
01:06:49quite intimidated
01:06:50that's made you
01:06:51think okay
01:06:52let me kind of
01:06:53ruffle feathers
01:06:54here
01:06:55yeah
01:06:55I could feel
01:06:56myself bubbling
01:06:57up thinking
01:06:57I'm gonna kick
01:06:58off
01:06:58I'm gonna kick
01:06:58off
01:06:58so you felt
01:06:59quite triggered
01:07:00in that moment
01:07:00okay
01:07:01I could feel
01:07:02myself liking
01:07:03him and I was
01:07:04thinking I don't
01:07:05want to go
01:07:05through the heartache
01:07:06again I don't
01:07:07want to go
01:07:07through the shit
01:07:07times again
01:07:08I can't do it
01:07:09I can't
01:07:10I can't
01:07:10like I'm trying
01:07:11to be vulnerable
01:07:11but I really
01:07:12struggle doing
01:07:13that
01:07:13I don't want
01:07:15people to say
01:07:16that side
01:07:16and how did
01:07:18you resolve
01:07:19the argument
01:07:20with Jo
01:07:20you know when I
01:07:21said I want
01:07:22someone to speak
01:07:22to her softly
01:07:23like when I'm
01:07:23having bad
01:07:24moments
01:07:24like that's
01:07:25exactly what
01:07:25he did
01:07:26like I'm just
01:07:31so grateful
01:07:31that that's
01:07:32what he did
01:07:32because I know
01:07:33I'm not an easy
01:07:34person to be
01:07:34around when I'm
01:07:35like that
01:07:35he's like so
01:07:37nice there's so
01:07:38much more
01:07:38than like what
01:07:40he looks like
01:07:40he's absolutely
01:07:41incredible
01:07:42yeah
01:07:42I was getting
01:07:43in my head
01:07:43I was thinking
01:07:44oh my god
01:07:45I like him
01:07:45I like him
01:07:45like what am I
01:07:46going to do
01:07:46here
01:07:47I don't want
01:07:48to be nasty
01:07:48to him
01:07:49I'm feeling
01:07:50too much
01:07:51in my head
01:07:51because I
01:07:52struggle liking
01:07:52people
01:07:53because you
01:07:54feel that
01:07:55what
01:07:55I don't know
01:07:56I just feel
01:07:56like it's
01:07:56always going
01:07:57to end
01:07:57bad
01:07:57I think
01:08:00he's too
01:08:00good for
01:08:00me
01:08:01I mean
01:08:04it's quite
01:08:04heartbreaking
01:08:04to hear you
01:08:05say that
01:08:05yeah
01:08:06that you
01:08:06feel he's
01:08:07he's too
01:08:07good for
01:08:08you
01:08:08well
01:08:09he is
01:08:09no
01:08:10no he's
01:08:11not
01:08:11and he
01:08:14adores her
01:08:14so much
01:08:15maybe there
01:08:16might be
01:08:17things that
01:08:17Joe could
01:08:18do differently
01:08:18to help
01:08:19you to feel
01:08:20more secure
01:08:20he doesn't do
01:08:21anything wrong
01:08:22do you know
01:08:22what I mean
01:08:23so Joe's
01:08:23perfect
01:08:24I'm not
01:08:25no one's
01:08:25perfect
01:08:26if you do
01:08:27nothing wrong
01:08:27you're perfect
01:08:28well he's
01:08:29not
01:08:29well he's
01:08:31perfect to me
01:08:32so far
01:08:32okay
01:08:33but now
01:08:35let's talk
01:08:35about your
01:08:36part in
01:08:36this
01:08:37because you
01:08:38Maeve are
01:08:38the classic
01:08:39self-sabotager
01:08:41but that
01:08:43comes from
01:08:44having low
01:08:44self-worth
01:08:45low self-worth
01:08:48comes from
01:08:50lots of
01:08:50places but in
01:08:51particular from
01:08:51horrible
01:08:52relationships
01:08:53where we have
01:08:54been trounced
01:08:54on time
01:08:55and time
01:08:56again
01:08:57and then
01:08:59you look at
01:09:00yourself and
01:09:00you say you
01:09:00know what I'm
01:09:01not worthy to
01:09:01have a great
01:09:02relationship
01:09:02and we also
01:09:03place people
01:09:04on pedestals
01:09:05and that's
01:09:06what you're
01:09:07doing
01:09:07you're saying
01:09:08I'm not
01:09:09worthy to be
01:09:09with someone
01:09:10that perfect
01:09:11you need to
01:09:14love on
01:09:15yourself more
01:09:15you do
01:09:18what do you
01:09:25do
01:09:26to love
01:09:28on yourself
01:09:28I don't
01:09:30know
01:09:30nothing
01:09:31everyone's
01:09:33everyone's on
01:09:33a path
01:09:34here
01:09:34and so
01:09:36what I hope
01:09:37for you
01:09:37in this path
01:09:38is that you
01:09:38find your
01:09:40self-worth
01:09:40this is more
01:09:43important than
01:09:44your relationship
01:09:45with Joe
01:09:46you understand
01:09:47this
01:09:47yeah
01:09:48okay
01:09:49let's go
01:09:53let's go to
01:09:53decisions
01:09:54Maeve
01:09:55I've had a
01:09:57bit of a
01:09:57rollercoaster
01:09:58of emotions
01:09:58like with
01:09:59this journey
01:10:00and
01:10:00I've been
01:10:02vulnerable
01:10:03as much as I
01:10:04can be
01:10:04but obviously
01:10:05I want to be
01:10:05a bit more
01:10:05vulnerable
01:10:06and
01:10:07I want to
01:10:09give myself
01:10:10a little bit
01:10:10more self-love
01:10:11that's the main
01:10:12one
01:10:12so what I have
01:10:14decided is
01:10:15that I'm
01:10:16gonna stay
01:10:17so hold on
01:10:23hold on
01:10:24wait
01:10:24Joe
01:10:25obviously
01:10:26can't be here
01:10:27yeah
01:10:28but he has
01:10:29let us know
01:10:29his decision
01:10:30and I can
01:10:31tell you
01:10:32he has
01:10:33decided
01:10:33to stay
01:10:35well Maeve
01:10:40I hope
01:10:41you grow
01:10:41to love
01:10:42yourself
01:10:42as much
01:10:43as we
01:10:43all love
01:10:43you
01:10:44right
01:10:45can I
01:10:45go
01:10:45enough
01:10:45you can
01:10:46thanks
01:10:47Maeve
01:10:47next on the
01:11:00couch
01:11:00Nelly
01:11:01and Stephen
01:11:02hi
01:11:09hello
01:11:10hello
01:11:10you alright
01:11:11welcome
01:11:11lovely to see
01:11:12the two of you
01:11:13lovely to see you
01:11:14so let's start
01:11:16from the beginning
01:11:17how was your
01:11:18wedding
01:11:18wedding was
01:11:19amazing
01:11:19couldn't have
01:11:21asked for a
01:11:21better day
01:11:21to be honest
01:11:22I was a little
01:11:23bit of concern
01:11:23when I turned
01:11:24around and saw
01:11:25six guys
01:11:25walking towards
01:11:26me
01:11:26I thought
01:11:27hang on
01:11:27where's the
01:11:28wife
01:11:28but yeah
01:11:30once I saw
01:11:30her being
01:11:31carried in
01:11:31on a dolly
01:11:32and saw her
01:11:33face
01:11:33my first word
01:11:34was just
01:11:35wow
01:11:35and it was
01:11:37like a portrait
01:11:38oh my god
01:11:39this is going
01:11:40to be my wife
01:11:40this person
01:11:41I'm going to
01:11:41say I do
01:11:42to and give
01:11:42my all to
01:11:43so yeah
01:11:44it was really
01:11:45in that moment
01:11:45then
01:11:45that's when
01:11:46I was like
01:11:46okay
01:11:46I'm ready
01:11:47and Nelly
01:11:49what was
01:11:50your experience
01:11:51as soon
01:11:52as I
01:11:53saw
01:11:54Stephen
01:11:54I just
01:11:55felt really
01:11:55calm
01:11:56I just
01:11:57got a really
01:11:57nice vibe
01:11:58from him
01:11:58for me
01:11:59it was
01:11:59really
01:11:59important
01:12:00that my
01:12:00partner would
01:12:01value family
01:12:01a lot
01:12:02because I'm
01:12:02really close
01:12:02to mine
01:12:03so that was
01:12:04amazing to see
01:12:05yeah
01:12:05it was just
01:12:06really really
01:12:06special
01:12:07it was really
01:12:07nice
01:12:07sounding
01:12:09absolutely
01:12:10amazing
01:12:10I'm very
01:12:11hopeful
01:12:12that you're
01:12:12going to say
01:12:12the same
01:12:13thing about
01:12:13the honeymoon
01:12:13was
01:12:14spark
01:12:14still
01:12:15flying
01:12:15yeah
01:12:16we had such
01:12:17an amazing
01:12:18time
01:12:18yeah
01:12:19where did
01:12:19you go
01:12:20to Jamaica
01:12:20we just
01:12:22literally
01:12:22just felt
01:12:23that whole
01:12:24Jamaican aura
01:12:25we didn't
01:12:26bicker
01:12:27and it just
01:12:27got on so well
01:12:29we laughed a lot
01:12:30yeah we just
01:12:31had a really
01:12:31really good time
01:12:32we get on
01:12:33we have a similar
01:12:34sense of humour
01:12:35we are really
01:12:36playful with
01:12:36each other
01:12:37it's exactly
01:12:39what I wanted
01:12:39but I always
01:12:42just think like
01:12:42well when's
01:12:43something going
01:12:44to go wrong
01:12:44it sounds like
01:12:48there's a part
01:12:49of you that's
01:12:49thinking this is
01:12:50too good to be
01:12:51true
01:12:51yeah exactly
01:12:51that
01:12:52I'm like kind
01:12:53of waiting for
01:12:54something to
01:12:54happen and it
01:12:55freaks me out
01:12:55a little bit
01:12:56that it hasn't
01:12:56why aren't we
01:12:59arguing why
01:12:59haven't you
01:13:00irritated me
01:13:00why haven't I
01:13:01irritated you
01:13:02I end up
01:13:04trying to look
01:13:05for something
01:13:06so for example
01:13:07I love how
01:13:09affectionate you
01:13:10were on our
01:13:11honeymoon like
01:13:12and then I'd
01:13:13come back to
01:13:14the apartment
01:13:14and I would
01:13:15kind of think
01:13:16he's not giving
01:13:16me a kiss this
01:13:17morning and
01:13:18then I get in
01:13:19my head and
01:13:19think yeah
01:13:20it's because
01:13:20he doesn't
01:13:20like you
01:13:20and then he
01:13:24will give me
01:13:24a kiss
01:13:24and I think
01:13:25oh that was
01:13:25nice he does
01:13:26like me
01:13:26and it's just
01:13:27constant
01:13:27and I'm even
01:13:29feel saying this
01:13:30now I'm thinking
01:13:30oh my god this
01:13:31is going to give
01:13:32him the ick
01:13:32and it's going
01:13:32to push him
01:13:33away
01:13:33it's just
01:13:49constant
01:13:49and I'm even
01:13:51feel saying
01:13:51this now I'm
01:13:52thinking oh my
01:13:52god this is
01:13:53going to give
01:13:53him the ick
01:13:54and it's
01:13:54going to push
01:13:54him away
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01:15:52And I would encourage you to acknowledge that actually, it's all right to show emotion if there's a lot more about your ex-partners, that they weren't able to hold that.
01:16:03What I'm seeing here is that Stephen can.
01:16:07He can be there for you.
01:16:08And we're seeing that right now.
01:16:09Yeah.
01:16:10I feel it.
01:16:12I don't.
01:16:13Thank you.
01:16:14I'm sorry.
01:16:15Tell me what you like.
01:16:16Trying to poke in your ass.
01:16:17Stephen, how is it for you to hear Nellie be so vulnerable yesterday?
01:16:25In a weird sense, it's pleasing.
01:16:28Obviously, I never want to see the person I'm with cry.
01:16:31It shows that she cares.
01:16:32It shows that she's willing to be vulnerable.
01:16:34But I've kept little memories and little moments to then, on those random days where maybe she's feeling a little bit too much in her head, to be like, look, here's what this week's meant to me.
01:16:45Here's our week in a small little bag.
01:16:47The reassurance I'll give, I like to do it through action and not purely through words all the time.
01:16:52She walked in the other day in her head a little bit and I was picked up, gave her a kiss.
01:16:56The other hand, sort of, not resting on her to the ground.
01:16:57Tapping me to the floor, but I loved it.
01:16:58That's what I want.
01:16:59It's fun.
01:17:00It's playful.
01:17:00I want stuff like that.
01:17:02You two sound like you're falling for each other.
01:17:04You can definitely say you're on the path for that because there's been nothing wrong.
01:17:07So you're on the path?
01:17:09Yeah, you're on the path.
01:17:09Yeah, 100%.
01:17:10I am.
01:17:11I'm just going to have to say it.
01:17:12I probably would say I feel like I'm a little bit more ahead of Stephen.
01:17:15And I'll agree to that because she's allowed herself to be vulnerable.
01:17:18So she's taken those extra couple of steps.
01:17:20I haven't yet.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21So until I make that step and jump ahead, then we can start walking like hand in hand again.
01:17:26Can we go to a decision?
01:17:30Well, I am really grateful to have been matched with you in this process.
01:17:36And I love being around you.
01:17:38I am looking forward to doing this journey with you.
01:17:41And I really want to know a little bit more about you.
01:17:45So I'll put stay.
01:17:47Stay.
01:17:48And Stephen, what's your decision?
01:17:54It's leading in the right direction for me.
01:17:56And I'm saying I'm fully committed to opening up a little bit more.
01:17:59But, yeah, I'm fully in.
01:18:01I've been fully in since I see you in that dolly.
01:18:03So, yeah, for me, it's 100%.
01:18:05Stay with a little smiley face.
01:18:07I'll put smiley as well.
01:18:08Thank you.
01:18:09Thank you.
01:18:09I think the two of you just made for each other.
01:18:15I'm so excited to see where this goes.
01:18:18And we wish you all the best for the rest of the week.
01:18:20Thank you.
01:18:20I appreciate it.
01:18:21Yeah, thank you so much.
01:18:22Thank you.
01:18:27I'm really glad that actually Paul highlighted what I'm doing.
01:18:30Because I knew I was doing it, but I didn't know how to stop it.
01:18:34Thank you.
01:18:35That's fine.
01:18:36100% I'm going to be focusing on the green flags more.
01:18:39I feel better.
01:18:40Yeah, I feel more reassured already.
01:18:45Next time.
01:18:47Hello.
01:18:48It's Experts Week.
01:18:50Do I have permission to remove your own?
01:18:52While some couples lean into physical intimacy.
01:18:54Oh, I hope you know where the key is to that.
01:18:57Anita's patience with Paul wears even thinner.
01:18:59Surely you should know what you want by now.
01:19:01Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?
01:19:04I need to know where this relationship's going.
01:19:07No, I'm not hanging around.
01:19:08And an unwanted interference in one couple's marriage.
01:19:12Other people don't need to know much shit.
01:19:14Because you'll see a side of me which probably you won't like.
01:19:18I'm not having you told it.
01:19:19I was trying to come to a new relationship.
01:19:21I'm not.
01:19:21Couldn't give a flying fuck if I'm completely honest.
01:19:23I'm here for my relationship.
01:19:24Causes two husbands to collide.
01:19:26All the people just basically just fuck off.
01:19:30You're not part of this relationship, so see yourself out.
01:19:33I'm not.
01:19:34I'm not.
01:19:39I'm not.
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