00:00My name is Natalie, and I married my husband, Muhammad, four weeks after we met.
00:05He didn't speak any English when we first met, so we just used Google Translate.
00:11People saying, how can you stay with someone who doesn't understand you?
00:16Sorry, but communication is the key for any relationship.
00:19He just wants a green card. He's with you for your money.
00:23I was shocked, very shocked.
00:25She said to me that your English is very bad.
00:30My name is Natalie, and this is my husband, Muhammad, and we needed Google Translate to speak, but we got married anyways.
00:40We met in Bodrum. I came here on vacation, and I met him at his job.
00:45He was the security guard at the cocktail bar that I went to.
00:49When I first saw him, I thought he was very handsome, but he was very serious, so I was like, okay, I want to try to see if I can make him smile.
00:58He slid into my DMs and sent me a message, and that's when we started talking.
01:03He actually didn't speak any English when we first met, so people were shocked because they're saying, how can you be with someone that doesn't speak English?
01:12So we literally had to just use Google Translate and pass the phone back and forth to be able to speak.
01:20I'm not actively learning Turkish, but our main focus is him to learn English, so then he can help me learn Turkish.
01:28The first time my English was so bad, because I didn't speak English, but now I'm, I think I'm feeling better.
01:37All day I'm learning.
01:39My process is, now is, now is so nice, but I'm talking English, sometimes I'm talking perfect, but sometimes I'm not talking perfect.
01:51What you are talking about, tell us.
01:58We're talking about clothes, and then I said that he needs to get some new clothes.
02:03He said you are dirty, I'm not dirty, I'm messy.
02:06I teach you this word, messy.
02:10Yeah.
02:10So now my friend Yeva is going to come over and join us for a coffee, and she will give her opinion on what she thought about our relationship.
02:23I think she will be honest and say that she wasn't fully convinced in the beginning.
02:29I shocked when they met him, because I didn't meet yet Mohamed.
02:34Hello!
02:35Hello!
02:35Hello!
02:36Hello!
02:36Hello!
02:37How are you?
02:38How are you?
02:39How are you?
02:40Welcome!
02:41Welcome!
02:42So what did you think when I first told you about Mohamed?
02:46Oh my God, I was shocked, very shocked, because of age, I'm sorry, and because of language, she said to me that you, your English is very bad.
02:58You meet and begin with Google Translate, that's why I shocked, and I say no, it's maybe flirting one week, two weeks, and you will say, and you will say, like, enough, because it's really hard.
03:11Yeah.
03:12But you know my English now is so much better, right?
03:15Very good, very good.
03:16I know.
03:17We get a lot of negative comments about our relationship.
03:21Sorry, but communication is key for any relationship, so this one won't work.
03:27If your communication is difficult, the relationship will be shattered sooner or later.
03:32Language barriers are the biggest obstacle for international relationships.
03:36People are saying, how can you stay with someone who doesn't understand you?
03:41What did you think when I told you that we got married in one month?
03:46Yes, this was double-chock.
03:48I shocked about relationship, it's different, but marriage after one month, and I say, okay, they have something like maybe crazy, you know, pink glasses.
04:00We had only been together four weeks, and then we got married.
04:04So, I came to Turkey, and you can only stay as an American citizen for three months.
04:11So, after about two weeks, we were with each other every single day, and already in love with each other.
04:18We looked at all the other options, and the best option was for us to get married.
04:23I always say, babe, I want to marry, please, because time is not much.
04:28This is a photo of when we got married.
04:31We got married in the courthouse, and it was on January 14th.
04:37Our friends and family were very shocked.
04:40Some people were concerned, and there was also people that were completely supportive.
04:45So, this photo is after we got married, and we wanted to remember the moment, so we took it in front of the table that we sat at, feeling relief after everything was done.
04:59So, I want to ask, what are worries or marriage, because, you know?
05:04You know, you are very unique.
05:06She knew in Turkey.
05:09You knew with American English language, American culture.
05:14That's why I shocked, like, how you will understand each other and meet, like, more and more.
05:22It's very difficult.
05:23When you have, yes, trust, respect, and love, you will try and to understand, to meet each other, and in the beginning, you will hug and kiss to each other.
05:35Yeah, exactly.
05:36Yeah.
05:39We have a TikTok where I started posting videos of us.
05:45There's a small detail that we have not shared that we are deciding to let you guys know today.
05:54Yeah.
05:56What is this?
05:57Drum roll.
05:58What is this?
05:59We are actually married.
06:04Yes.
06:05That ended up getting put out into the news here in Turkey.
06:09That's when his family saw us in the news and found out that he was actually married.
06:16He told them that he was in a relationship with an American, but he never mentioned to some that he got married.
06:24He was really afraid of their reaction because they are more traditional, their older generation, and this is something that they wouldn't understand.
06:52It's not the norm for them.
06:55We definitely had family and friends be unsure of our relationship because it was so fast and also because of the language barrier and the culture.
07:08Some people had a lot of doubts and thinking like, oh, it's not going to last long or, oh, you don't know him.
07:15He's a complete stranger.
07:16You don't know if he's like, you know, a serial killer.
07:21These type of things.
07:22People say he just wants a green card.
07:25He is with you for your money.
07:27Also because we have an age gap of eight years.
07:32A lot of people say, oh, he's with her for a passport and she's with him for a good time.
07:40Or they say, is this your son?
07:44Bro trying to get a passport.
07:46You look like his mom.
07:47Or relationships fake.
07:49Yeah, our relationship is just for social media that we're pretending.
07:55Also that I'm his sugar mommy.
07:58It doesn't really faze us.
08:00We more laugh about the comments people say.
08:03Of course, like we're more aware of what people think.
08:08But like we know our relationship.
08:11So it's not going to make me sad or mad.
08:16So many bad, negative comments, but I'm distant because I love she.
08:23I know who I am, who are she.
08:26I don't want to go to America.
08:29I want living together here because I love Bodrum.
08:32Our relationship works because we're very similar.
08:35We have a lot of common goals in life.
08:38We know how to pick up where if one is struggling and always support each other.
08:43We are same.
08:44We are thinking all the same.
08:46This is the most I love.
08:49What I'd like to say to the people that judge is that even though our situation is different,
08:57doesn't mean that it's wrong.
08:59And I think that people should start to focus more on their own lives
09:04than trying to talk bad about other people.
09:08So judge all you want.
09:10what do you want?
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