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Open House The Great Sex Experiment Season 2 Episode 1
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00:01Monogamy is a little bit boring.
00:05More and more British couples are questioning monogamy.
00:09Well, this is it.
00:11If you want to be my lover, you've got to go with my wife.
00:15But can relationships be opened up without breaking down?
00:18It's happening now.
00:19No turning back.
00:21To provide answers, a unique retreat is reopening its doors.
00:27And its uninhibited residents have returned even wilder than before.
00:34With the help of a specialist relationship therapist.
00:37It's one of the hardest things you can do.
00:39But opening up should be absolutely amazing fun.
00:43Curious couples can discover whether their dreams of an open relationship.
00:48Do we knock?
00:49No, I don't think so.
00:50Live up to the reality.
00:53Okay.
00:54And whether by having sex with other people.
00:59You've always said you wanted to see me get spit roasted.
01:02One of society's greatest taboos can be broken.
01:05My preference, I'm not going to lie, is a foursome.
01:08I'm on the fence with that one.
01:09Without it breaking them.
01:11If our relationship ended, I would be devastated.
01:15It's moved very quickly, I think it's very overwhelming.
01:18What could go wrong?
01:32Are you 100% sure we're doing the right thing?
01:36There's only one way to find out, isn't there?
01:38No.
01:39Heading to the retreat today are new arrivals, Kirstie and Connor, who've been married for nine months.
01:46So me and Connor met about three years ago.
01:48And he slid in my, slid in my DMs.
01:54Construction worker Connor has built a happy home life with full-time mum, Kirstie.
01:59And the couple are parents to two boys from her previous relationship.
02:04My boys love this man more than me, so...
02:07Taken over?
02:08100%.
02:09Favourite?
02:10Yeah.
02:15Hello, guys.
02:16You all right?
02:17Nice to meet you, how are you doing?
02:18Yeah, man.
02:19Nice to meet you.
02:20The committed couple see themselves as adventurous in the bedroom.
02:23When it comes to sex, we've pushed our boundaries.
02:26We're quite naughty.
02:28Now they want to further spice things up by opening up their relationship.
02:33I do believe we are animals.
02:35And are we sexually meant to be with one person?
02:37No, we're not.
02:39I'm not saying that I'm going to go and sleep with loads of people.
02:41I just believe in...
02:43What is it?
02:44How do you say it?
02:45I can't say it.
02:46You know what I mean?
02:47I believe in that.
02:48So today, Kirsty and Connor are stepping through the door into the world of non-monogamy.
02:54It could open a whole can of worms, but we've overcome a lot worse than bringing someone into the bedroom.
02:59Yeah.
03:00So...
03:01So, I mean, it should be a breeze, right?
03:03Yeah.
03:07Here to help guests on their journey are the retreat's sexually liberated residents.
03:13A heady mix of singles and couples in open relationships.
03:17The most beautiful thing in a relationship is when you have so much trust in one another,
03:21that you can go as far as to have sex with someone else, and it doesn't affect your relationship.
03:26Malogamy isn't for everyone.
03:28It's too traditional.
03:29It's too...
03:31Old school.
03:33When you include other people, I think it's exciting.
03:35It keeps it alive.
03:40Come on in.
03:41Before spending time with the residents...
03:43Hi.
03:44Hi.
03:45Kirstie and Connor will meet with Dr. Laurie Beth, their guide into the world of non-monogamy.
03:52So, tell me what brings you here.
03:55So, we've...
03:56We want to open up our relationship and bring a man into the equation.
04:02I'm a straight guy.
04:03Yeah.
04:04But, you know, I enjoy seeing my wife happy and seeing her pleasure than I do.
04:10Happy wife, happy life.
04:11Yeah, exactly that.
04:12He's the love of my life, but would I ideally like a relationship where we can occasionally have a bit of fun?
04:20100%.
04:21I would be lying if I said I didn't.
04:22It wouldn't be something that I'd want to do all the time, but occasionally for a treat.
04:25Then, life's great.
04:27Well, what you're saying is what you'd like to try is to have another man.
04:32And so the three of you enjoy...
04:34Yeah.
04:35...some experiences together.
04:36Yeah.
04:37Well, I have, in a way, like a bit of confidence issues and...
04:40What's the insecurity for you?
04:42Just potentially losing her.
04:43Right.
04:44So, one thing is she would choose somebody else instead of you.
04:48Yeah.
04:49Okay.
04:50I know she loves me.
04:51I think sometimes he feels like he's not good enough and...
04:53Yeah.
04:54So, you're comparing yourself to somebody and going...
04:56Constantly.
04:57He's better, he's better.
04:58You do that constantly.
04:59Yeah.
05:00I have no idea why I'm insecure, to be honest.
05:03I think I've been put down quite a bit in my childhood rather than some of the praise which I should have got.
05:09Okay, so this is actually an area that you need to work on.
05:15I want you out of your head as often as possible.
05:18Okay.
05:19So, let's talk a little bit about boundaries.
05:21So, have you thought about things that you actually reserve to you as a couple?
05:26Um, you're not happy.
05:28Connor's not happy with me kissing someone.
05:30Okay, that's really intimate to you?
05:32Yeah.
05:33It's understandable when you think about what kissing symbolizes and what it means, but these are the things that I would ask you even if you suddenly felt comfortable with the idea of her deep kissing someone.
05:43Yeah.
05:44While you were in the experience, do not change the boundary tonight.
05:47Yeah.
05:48So, tonight, you've got a party in the cloisters.
05:51You might have the opportunity to hook up with another man and potentially leave with somebody if you want or not, depending on what's going on.
05:59Sounds good.
06:00Have a brilliant time.
06:01Thank you very much.
06:03You're welcome.
06:04Certainly, for heterosexual men, it is often far more challenging to have another man of any ilk in the room at all.
06:14If Connor's not prepared to really work with his insecurities, if he's not able to pull himself out of his head, he'll find it very difficult indeed.
06:22Bringing a guy in is a huge deal for Connor because of his insecurities.
06:26So, I mean, it's amazing that he would even be open to try that and want to try that.
06:32There is part of me that doesn't want to bring a guy into it.
06:37What I'm worried about is them being able to do something that I can't.
06:42So, it is a massive risk.
06:44I could potentially lose my wife.
06:52I know you're attractive, so it just depends on what they think of me.
06:55You'll be fine.
06:56They might just want you.
06:58Don't worry.
06:59I'll say they can't have me unless you're with me.
07:01If you want to be my lover, you've got to go with my wife.
07:06I like that one.
07:07Next to arrive at this unique retreat are Shanice and Ricardo from South London.
07:13It gatecrashed my cousin's birthday.
07:15And I asked for the number and then we just kind of progressed from there.
07:17Yeah.
07:18Because, really, people can't really resist the charm at the end of the day.
07:21Do you know what I mean?
07:22Sorry!
07:23Oh, it's all real now.
07:25Busy lives and a full house with three children has taken its toll in the bedroom.
07:32We started off really, yeah.
07:36And then we had children.
07:38We're getting that back.
07:39We want the rabbits back.
07:40After almost a decade together, the couple want to explore by having sex with other people.
07:48I don't think we should be conformed into a monogamy box.
07:52You hear about cheating, like, nearly every day.
07:55Someone cheated on their wife.
07:56We don't want to be one of those people.
07:58Nice to meet you.
07:59Hello, Shanice.
08:00Hi.
08:01Are you OK?
08:02Here to greet them are one of the retreat's open couples, Jen and Mark.
08:07We're not going to be bullshit.
08:10Sex is a big part of our lives.
08:12It's a fundamental in our relationship, but it's also a hobby.
08:16It is, yeah.
08:21So you're feeling good?
08:22There's a little mirror there if you want to check yourselves out.
08:24Check yourselves out.
08:25Make sure the hair's good.
08:27He's all looking great.
08:28He's all looking great.
08:29My relationship with Ricardo is very important to me because we've built so much in the time that we've been together.
08:37We've built a home.
08:38Our kids have integrated.
08:40I don't want to lose that, so opening up our relationship does scare me.
08:53Kirstie and Connor are preparing for tonight's social.
08:58In attendance are the retreat's unique residents, all eager to meet the new couple.
09:06This is it, bub.
09:07We're doing something fucking crazy.
09:09I'm excited.
09:10I'm buzzing for it.
09:12But I think I can be excited for it, whereas you've got like that feeling of dread a little bit.
09:17Yeah.
09:19No one's ever going to be here, bub.
09:22Never.
09:23What about if someone's got a Q&A next?
09:24No one's going to have a Q&A next.
09:25Someone's got a better chin.
09:26No, that is never going to happen.
09:28Love you.
09:29Love you.
09:30Let's do it.
09:32Love you.
09:33Love you.
09:34Love you.
09:35Love you.
09:36Let's do it.
09:37Love you.
09:38I am nervous.
09:40Do you want to come down here?
09:41Do you want to come down here?
09:42Yes.
09:43I am nervous
09:47I just worry that Connor's going to look at me
09:57looking at someone else, knowing I'm attracted to them
10:00and it's going to make him feel really rubbish
10:03and I obviously don't want to make him feel like he's not good enough
10:06It's Kirsty, isn't it?
10:10Yeah, thank you
10:11I can eat that
10:13First to grab Kirsty's attention is Nathan
10:17who's no stranger to non-monogamy
10:20I love sex
10:21I'm a very sexually active person
10:23I've been brought up around a very traditional family household
10:26but opening up has been a massive eye-opener
10:28It's broadened my horizons to the way I think
10:31How old are you guys?
10:33I'm 30
10:34And I'm 32
10:35Really? Wow, you guys don't look 30
10:37We always get that, we will take that, won't we?
10:40Little toy boy, ain't I?
10:41I like a younger one
10:42What are you guys looking for?
10:44So we're looking to bring another male in to the equation
10:47I'm going to give it a bash and see what it takes
10:49Give it a bash, literally, hopefully
10:50Literally give it a bash
10:52I think Nathan's gorgeous
10:54He would be my type
10:56I'd say Kirsty's looking very sophisticated and sexy
11:00I've got, like, a lot of confidence issues, I guess
11:04I'm the same, mate
11:04We all have an insecurity
11:06Yeah, I find it mad, though, because I look at him and I'm like, why would you be worried?
11:11It takes a man to, like, acknowledge
11:13Yeah
11:14Yeah, yeah, 100%
11:15I'm not physically attracted to Connor
11:18He is a good, reckon, lad
11:19I'm straight myself
11:21But I've had male, male, female threesomes in the past
11:24I'm quite comfortable with my sexuality
11:26So if Kirsty and Connor wanted to spend more time with me
11:29I'd be happy to get to know him a bit more
11:30Hello
11:31Lovely to meet you
11:32Josh
11:32But Nathan isn't the only resident to catch Kirsty's eye
11:36I like a guy with a present
11:38And you do have one
11:39I have a present?
11:40Oh, big compliment
11:42I said this earlier, because you used to look at the door, and I was like
11:44Oh, what a compliment, thank you
11:46We do want to open up, and I think we need to start, especially with me first, because she's more willing, light, and she's more open than what I am
11:55Kirsty and Connor, she's gorgeous, he's a really good-looking guy, I mean, I'm straight, but at the same time I can appreciate that
12:00I'd like to chat to him a little bit more, because it was only brief, but, yeah, really nice people
12:04I need to have a conversation, a connection, you know, vibe
12:08Vibe is major
12:09Aesthetics get you 20% of the way, and then the rest of it's vibe
12:12Having mingled with the singles, Kirsty and Connor weigh up whether they connected with anyone enough to invite them into their relationship
12:22In my opinion, I thought I had a bit of a bromance or connection with Nathan
12:27I think Josh is fucking gorgeous, I'm not gonna lie
12:29I do, I think he's, like, really good-looking
12:33I think he's got a presence
12:34Yeah
12:35I mean, I, as, speaking to him, like, sort of bromance, I mean, he, like, again, he seemed to, sorry, it was difficult for me to hear her say that
12:46Yeah, sorry
12:47To hear you say that, you know, like, he was fucking gorgeous, like, you don't even say that to me
12:52Oh, babe
12:53So, I mean, like
12:54Yeah, but I think that every day
12:55You don't tell me that
12:56Can I take a minute, mate?
12:57Quick, yeah, sorry
12:58Oh, babe, I didn't mean to upset you
13:00Babe, like
13:06I didn't mean to upset you
13:09To hear, like, the passion how you speak about someone else, like, it was difficult for me, like, to hear you say that
13:14Like, I want to be your one
13:16I want to be able to bring something
13:17Yeah, I understand that, but to hear that and the passion, like, how you literally just said that about someone, like, made me feel really shit
13:25I feel really bad how Connor reacted, I, I never expected him to react like that, because it's kind of like we're in this environment, he's kind of encouraged me to give an opinion
13:36If he can't accept that I find someone else attractive, then can he accept me in the bedroom with another man?
13:42I'm having the second thoughts on, on tonight
13:46I don't know if I can, if I can do this
13:49In a luxury retreat in the English countryside
14:02A group of extraordinary people are rebelling against monogamy
14:06By opening up their relationships to other people
14:09I think a lot of people who are monogamous
14:12Fear their partner being attracted to someone else means that their partner may choose that person and therefore leave them
14:20With non-monogamy, because you don't have to make that choice, adding more people just means increasing your experience
14:29So you're just adding joy to the relationship
14:31Hi
14:38South Londoners Shanice and Ricardo want to open up, having been in a committed relationship for eight years
14:46We've wanted to kind of explore the open side of our relationship for a little while
14:51It's really exciting being at the retreat, but it's definitely nerve-wracking
14:54So, what brings you here?
14:57Ooh
14:58Sex
15:00Okay, great start
15:02That's a good place to start, I think
15:04We want to explore
15:06Seeing how we both feel in open situations
15:11Okay, have either of you been open in previous relationships?
15:14Never
15:15Never
15:16So what are the things that you get anxious about that you worry about with this?
15:21I don't really feel, I suppose, uncomfortable
15:24In many situations, I would say, as far as I'm concerned, I'm secure with Shanice
15:29Okay
15:30For me, it would be the idea of feeling left out
15:35I haven't been in this situation before
15:37So, let's start with numbers to begin with
15:40Threesome, foursome, fivesome, let's start there
15:43So, for me, being in a foursome situation would just make me feel that little bit more comfortable
15:51To avoid any issues, I think a couple swap is great
15:55My biggest worry with a threesome would be, it might be a bit overwhelming
16:00Feeling like we're not a part of the situation
16:03Sometimes three can be an awkward number to begin with
16:07Particularly if somebody is worried about the possibility of feeling left out
16:12Whereas if you have four people, it's easier to switch attention and to find a way in
16:17I don't think, I think that's something that's crossed my mind before
16:20But it doesn't really do anything for me, another couple
16:23Yeah, well, but she likes men
16:25Yeah, exactly
16:27In terms of, like, opening up the relationship
16:29I prefer to be with another girl and have a threesome
16:32I don't know if that's greedy or what, but the more women, the better, I would say
16:36Is a desire for a threesome more about, I don't like men, so why would I have another man there?
16:43For me, I would say, probably, yeah
16:45Yeah
16:46What about attractions? Are you attracted to women as well as men?
16:50I haven't had any sexual experiences with women, but I do find them attractive
16:53I mean, would you want to experiment with women?
16:56Yeah, I would, yeah
16:58Tonight there's going to be party at the poolside
17:00Okay
17:00Before you go, talk about, you know, we're aiming for a foursome, we're aiming for a threesome
17:05We'll see how we feel, make sure you've had that discussion first
17:09There'll be loads of fun people there
17:11Have an absolutely brilliant time
17:13Thank you
17:13My pleasure
17:17I'm not sure if Shanice and Ricardo are on the same page at this point
17:21Shanice really took on board the idea of four
17:23Whereas what can often happen with heterosexual men in an experience like this is there's some
17:29comparative stuff and some competition and so a man can feel more threatened by another man being there than another woman being there
17:37Look at this
17:38What a lovely room
17:39Yeah
17:40It's so heavy
17:42I was surprised by his reaction to us swapping with another male and female just because
17:48I thought he'd be on board all together
17:53So what do you think? What do you want to do?
17:56My preference, I'm not going to lie, I'll be honest, is a foursome
18:00And the reason for that is because there's no way anyone can be left out
18:07I'm on the fence with that one still
18:08Why?
18:10It just don't do anything for me, you get it
18:12Yeah, but you're swapping, you're not interacting with the guy
18:17It's me interacting with the guy and you interacting with the woman
18:20I think he's more tunnel visioned on two females and that's where his head is at at the moment
18:28We will see how tonight goes and hopefully he will be a bit more open-minded
18:41Married couple Kirstie and Connor are attending a party in the hope of opening up their relationship by allowing another man to join them in the bedroom
18:51But learning of Kirstie's attraction towards resident Josh left Connor questioning whether to continue
18:58If I know she's got that sort of physical connection with someone
19:03I don't know if I would be able to do this
19:07In our relationship this happens a lot like i'm very outspoken and i'll say it and then he gets upset because he's sensitive and then
19:14I feel like a knob and then I feel really bad
19:17I don't think we should quit i'd like to carry on the experience obviously but i'll respect whatever whatever you're happy to do
19:27The thing is i did get along with Josh you know that i thought he was sound but now
19:32I know she's got that sort of that sort of passion went in there
19:35I mean that's not someone i can go ahead with i'll be honest with you i can't
19:39That's fair enough
19:39I mean i'm happy to appeal off someone else
19:43Um if we're to take anyone else's side i'd say nathan probably is the best person for it
19:48I would agree
19:52Hiya hi guys you all right
19:53Um so we've been talking and if you're up for it we'd like to
19:57Chat with you a little bit more and see right see where we're going yeah absolutely right
20:03I'd like to take a step from room i don't feel like these things can be rushed but there is definitely a vibe there
20:10As soon as i met you like i thought you're definitely my type of guy you're someone
20:13Yeah yeah yeah you said like i could see you and like oh do you want to go for a pint exactly
20:17Yeah
20:19Yeah absolutely
20:20This is all very new for me have you ever done anything like this before
20:23Um do you know what yeah i have i've done threesomes with guys um i've done threesomes with guys and girls
20:31Based on my experiences it just depends on the connection with the guy
20:35As i'm straight and i know he's straight you don't want to feel awkward with someone who's
20:38Going to bedroom with your partner so it's good to get a good connection on a friendship level
20:43The only impression i've got is what's your boundaries
20:45Um my boundaries are what your boundaries are like i know there was a couple i've met before is they
20:50Don't like kissing if anything this is it with connor if we're like getting down to it and there's a kiss
20:55He won't like it
20:56A kiss inside of it anything which we would normally do on a daily basis you know that's our little thing
21:02And you know i don't want that to be taken away from me or from us
21:06And i understand that so we're on the same page yeah
21:08I'm feeling that it's getting a bit cold out here and we go inside okay and we
21:17Go from there absolutely well it's mixed emotions i just don't know what's going to happen um it's all
21:24Very new to me i never thought i'd put myself in this sort of situation obviously really uncomfortable
21:29For connor but we're going to open up to a whole new world if this is something that we can do
21:32If we can enjoy sex with other people for me that's perfect
21:37With having group sex and threesomes it's the big deal i mean you look at them and you can tell
21:42That they're definitely nervous which i completely understand
21:46But there's the boundary that we both know and we respect
21:51I think what's what's best start off seeing how i feel with just giving her a massage yeah absolutely
21:58And then i mean then we just go go from there
22:10Is that pressure all right yeah yeah it's healthy
22:19I'm like living my best life right now
22:21Do you feel like comfortable not being honest yeah it's hard for me to see
22:31Would it feel better if maybe you tried massaging as well yeah yeah yeah
22:34Do you like enjoy too yeah do you want to take the left side
22:37Bye Steve
22:43What would you think would be your next step after this that you felt comfortable
22:47My mindset right now is that i just mixed me like
22:52i guess potentially um i'll see you kissing
22:59You're okay with that yeah i've got to give it a shot
23:05That would be my decider yeah
23:08Despite being a firm boundary agreed with dr laurie the no kissing rule has been abandoned
23:17How do you feel uncomfortable yeah yeah
23:40As soon as he locked lips he put his tongue in her mouth i just felt you know that's that's that's my
23:45My wife that i i love and just seeing her with another guy just just hit me um and i just wasn't ready
23:54I feel really bad now
23:55Oh no
23:59But yeah appreciate it but where did we go from here
24:04I think you guys too
24:06I feel like kirsty wanted things to progress a lot more but she respected connor's decision
24:12I would have loved to gone further with but it's their relationship it's not mine so you need to respect that and just let them do them
24:20The fact that connor suggested kissing him i kind of knew from the minute he said that that was going to be the end because that was something he didn't want to do
24:27It i just felt uncomfortable um just didn't feel like i was ready for for that
24:37Well i really did feel all right about it i don't feel like now like i've got no emotion towards it
24:43It meant nothing to you meant nothing like and how do you feel towards me the same where do we go from here
24:51If we're going to do this it has to be in in my our our own time
25:01But it's not it's your time
25:02You got to remember like you've i'm in love with you i love you like so much
25:06But i love you
25:07Yeah i know and you're very much more open than me
25:10I i'm going to be completely honest with you i feel like this part of you that is very selfish
25:14I'm i'm trying to open up for you and i've gone gone this far because it's always about you
25:23I feel like i take a back seat for him to be emotional i love them to bits but i kind of feel
25:28Like i can't have emotion because he's got too many of them
25:31When have you ever sat back and asked me how i feel
25:33Because every day i do that like you don't end off you don't
25:37No, no, no, no, no to be honest i i didn't really enjoy any of it so at this point i'm
25:50Not sure if i think bringing a guy in is is right for us at this moment
26:07Last night married couple kirstie and connor attempted to open up their relationship by having sex together with a man
26:18For the very first time
26:21Bob's you look really sad
26:23But seeing kirstie kiss resident nathan caused connor to pull the plug leaving their stay in the retreat hanging in the balance
26:31last night we had a bit of a disagreement and obviously
26:34I did upset connor we're both hot heads and we can both sort of give it a little bit but we love each other and it's silly
26:45How are you feeling?
26:48I just felt last night was difficult for me to
26:52to see i guess
26:55We only went so far last night which i thought was
26:59too far to be honest maybe i'm just not ready yet
27:02But it wasn't just a kiss between kirstie and nathan that connor struggled with
27:08During the social kirstie triggered connor's insecurities by discussing her sexual desire for resident josh
27:16Obviously i upset you
27:21Wasn't expecting the words
27:26That's one passion where you haven't ever been like that with me but i am like that with you
27:31Good morning guys good morning how are you yeah not too bad
27:39How's last night hmm yeah it wasn't too bad what happened basically what happened
27:44rejected me
27:46I got a little bit too excited about you
27:48Yeah yeah so then how she reacted yeah she'll give you a compliment where
27:52If that comment wouldn't have been made
27:55You would have blown it for me you would you would have been in
27:57I've fucked it for myself
27:58Maybe you would have that's the truth yeah
28:03Josh would have been my first pick if i hadn't said what the thing is he would have been mine as well
28:07So has that comment ruined it for me then am i off the table
28:09I wouldn't not necessarily not not necessarily
28:16I want to better myself as a person and i believe this is the right way to do it
28:21Grab a seat how are we but last night was tough for me to be honest
28:26I don't know if i'm ready to go with it again and you know go ahead again
28:33So did you not set your thing as a boundary yesterday
28:36We knew we were going to talk to them
28:38You knew you were going to hear this from me right
28:40I'm like did you not set that as a boundary yesterday
28:43Yeah i tried to get into something a plan of a process into my head
28:46You were trying to control it yeah
28:48When people feel anxious about something they try to control it because they think they'll feel better
28:53Part of the reason you're doing this here is because he's already said i have insecurities i want to get past
29:01Thing is it affects every part of our relationship
29:04You're being insecure doesn't it?
29:05Yeah i know it does
29:06And the fact that you are objectively a very attractive man has meant absolutely nothing
29:13You don't feel that?
29:14No
29:15No
29:15Okay
29:17I don't want you to back out because of insecurity because insecurity can be worked on
29:22So tonight
29:23I want to put you back in a situation where you have the opportunity to try this again
29:28I kind of feel like connor needs to be
29:31Obviously he's straight and he's not going to get turned on by a man
29:34But it needs to be a sexier environment
29:36Do you think maybe you need to start having sex with him?
29:39Yeah
29:39And the other person comes in while you're already engaged with each other
29:45Yeah
29:45What do you think connor?
29:46Yeah
29:47After listening to what dr laurie had to say we do want to give things another shot
29:51I want us to grow to become even stronger
29:56I guess i'm scared because it's my insecurities
30:00They're kicking
30:04Thing is i need to i need to do it
30:08Well you've just got to look at it like
30:10It's not the sex
30:11It's come to terms with that it's not the sex
30:13The sex isn't a problem
30:16It's me
30:17I'm so wrapped up in my own head
30:23I want to be the best husband i can for you
30:26Yeah but you are the best husband
30:26You're the best husband ever
30:28You already are the best husband
30:29You don't need to allow us to sleep with other people to be the best husband ever
30:32Like that's not what i've ever said to you
30:35You just need to realise your own worth like
30:39That's what i think you lack
30:42I just don't know why i'm like it
30:44Connor's childhood wasn't the best i mean he lost his dad quite young
30:50He's from not the best of areas he's never felt like he was important and i think how he is
30:58Now is a reflection on how he felt as a child and it makes me sad because i just think i wish he could see himself how i see him
31:09Opening up is a massive thing it's scary
31:12By someone else coming in and being able to give us something possibly i can't
31:18It's massive for me i just don't know what would happen
31:21Oh oh yeah hey
31:33Shanice and ricardo are getting themselves pumped
31:39Tonight they'll be heading poolside to join the retreat's residents for their first social
31:44From tonight ideally i'm thinking couple swap because i get to explore with another man
31:51And we both get a little bit of something
31:54I don't know how i'm gonna feel about that yet
31:57My preference is women only women if i'm honest i don't want no sucking dick tonight please yeah
32:02Ready to go yeah
32:06Lovely lovely too
32:08All right bubba let's do this
32:09Go
32:09It is definitely nerve-wracking being in a place where you want other people to be attracted to you
32:20So i'm just gonna brace myself
32:21Head up chin up yeah you're you're the bee's knees yeah
32:32Come on bubba
32:32I think the main thing i'm feeling anxious about is when i first walk in and just seeing everyone
32:40What if like you know i walk in and everyone's like oh i'm not really interested in him
32:46Hello guys
32:50Wasting no time ricardo hones in on the retreat's female residents making a beeline for grace kiki and sophia
32:59How are you guys good how are you i'm good a bit nervous that's the first but it's all good
33:07So with regards to you guys opening is it just females or you open to males as well my sexuality i'm pansexual
33:15Okay so i just love anyone and everyone really oh brilliant what about you would you say you're straight or you're bisexual
33:21Okay so i find women attractive i would love to like explore with my partner and a woman and a man
33:28Yeah or women women in general yeah plural women in general
33:33Grace is really cool you know when the conversation just flows you don't even have to try it's just like yeah man i'm happy i'm happy
33:40Have a good time babe enjoy yourself
33:42My first impressions of shanice and ricardo were that they were a huge vibe
33:46Very easy to talk to so yeah it was good it was nice easy conversation
33:51Eager for a potential foursome shanice finds one of the retreat's resident couples linda and nathan
33:57Hi
33:58How are you
33:59Who've been together for nine years and open for three monogamy is a social construct
34:06That i think needs to be dismantled opening up our relationship has allowed us to form a deeper
34:12Connection with each other
34:14Oh really in full of yeah nice west london yeah
34:17Yeah south east not far from canada water
34:21Not far from the nice area
34:23Doesn't mean we're in the nice area
34:26Sometimes i'm like i live in chelsea
34:31Linda is fire crazy sex appeal and yeah nathan's yeah he's a sort as well so
34:36I think shanice and ricardo are really really lovely uh she looks great she's fantastic
34:48If they wanted to get to know us a little bit more we'd be more than willing to see if we vibe
34:52And connect yeah you've been lovely speaking with you guys honestly we don't want to huggle the toilet
34:56No i know that's what i was going to say i'm going to move on to other people as well
35:00It's a pleasure
35:00Okay hi my lovely you look stunning honestly
35:03Hey welcome
35:05How are you going to be?
35:06Welcome to the party
35:07I'm right
35:08Hey
35:08Hi guys
35:10No
35:10We're single
35:12We're single
35:12We're single
35:14We actually do look good together
35:16It works
35:16It works
35:17So what exactly um made you guys decide to do this then?
35:21We just wanted to add some additional spice to our relationship
35:26Do you have boundaries that you've set in place or?
35:28So we have boundaries with regards to the physical side of what is that?
35:32Those things share please we would love to know
35:36We don't want to do anal
35:37Okay oh wow
35:40I'm on the same plan as you
35:43I thought you were going to say something totally different
35:45Okay
35:46Shanice and ricardo just a lovely couple
35:49Shanice is really attractive she's got amazing boobs
35:53I would love to have fun with those
35:54Go for it
35:55It's been lovely to see you
35:56It's been lovely to see you
36:00Oh it's tough
36:01Oh it's tough
36:03With the night drawing on Shanice and ricardo are faced with a big decision
36:08Who to invite to try and open up their relationship with
36:11A single female or a couple
36:14Only one couple i'm interested in
36:15Which is linda and nathan
36:18And i feel like they're literally the same as us just more experienced
36:24What do you think
36:27Obviously you're going to say girl
36:29So the reason why because it's just easier to be more fluid with that situation
36:33And it doesn't really do anything for me another guy
36:38A girl
36:41A couple
36:42A couple
36:42That's hard
36:45Kirstie and connor are getting ready for a romantic evening
36:59They're hoping connor can overcome his insecurities to enjoy group sex with a man
37:06You do look stunning
37:08And have arranged to meet josh for drinks
37:12Hey guys how you doing
37:13Good to see you again
37:14I am hoping that we can all have a nice drink together
37:17And hopefully he agrees to us
37:20I am nervous
37:23We want to see if you're interested
37:26Yeah
37:27I don't know
37:28Yeah
37:28I'd be grateful to be a part of your experience
37:30Yeah, yeah of course
37:31I do want to go as far as I can and you know
37:34I do want to explore and see where me and her can go
37:38I think you know you're sort of the man for the job
37:41I think we're both the same personality
37:42You're taller better looking
37:45Oh, mate, I wouldn't go that far
37:46You're joking me
37:46Mate, I wouldn't go that far
37:48You're both very good looking
37:50Glad that i've been asked to join their experience
37:53I'm looking forward to it
37:54I really get on well with them
37:55Kirsty's a gorgeous girl
37:56I'd love to spend a night with her
37:58And connor great guy
37:59I feel like we're gonna have a great time
38:01One thing I will say to both of you is
38:03I understand that your relationship is sacred
38:05And I would never want to interfere with that
38:06And it would never be what you both have
38:09So that's all I can offer
38:11Is just having a good time with both of you
38:13That's all we can ask
38:13As long as you've been recruited
38:17Tonight is such a big step
38:18Because it's something that we've been talking about for a while
38:20Like could we do it?
38:21And then connor's wondering if it's something I want to do
38:24Anyway guys shall we uh move on?
38:26Yeah
38:27Let's do this
38:30After last night's failure with nathan
38:32The couple have another opportunity to open up
38:36But it all lies in connor's hands
38:41I don't know if I can fully go through with it
38:44Or will it just be like last night
38:46Or can I go that extra step?
38:50I'm gonna take it all the way
39:03Girl
39:03Oh couple
39:06What do you want to do?
39:08You're right
39:09If it was a girl
39:11Just to have a good time
39:12Do you know what I mean?
39:13Yeah yeah yeah
39:14That's how I feel
39:16I was hoping for a couple swap ideally
39:19But a threesome with another female would probably be the best child
39:23Because then I think Ricardo will be more comfortable
39:28Who would you pick then?
39:31Precious or Grace?
39:32This is hard
39:36They're both fun
39:38And I feel like Precious is mad at understanding
39:40He's old as she knows why Boogie
39:44I'm picking Precious if it was me
39:46But
39:47There you go
39:50Alright fuck it Precious
39:52With Precious the attraction was there like straight away
39:55Really friendly as well
39:56Yeah and welcoming
39:57I did get a good vibe
39:59Precious
40:00Can I speak to you for a moment?
40:01Oh yeah sure
40:02No problem
40:05So we have been talking
40:10We just wanted to get to know you more
40:14And have a few drinks
40:15Sure
40:18Yeah and just chill with you
40:21How comfortable do you feel?
40:25I think you're absolutely lovely
40:27You're beautiful cover
40:28And I think that we get a good vibe
40:34For me I obviously am attracted to you a lot
40:38I think you're a stunning girl
40:39So do I
40:40And we get a good vibe
40:42But I feel like it's more of a like brother vibe
40:45If you know what I mean
40:46But physically I'm attracted to you
40:54Okay
40:55Yeah
40:55So
40:56I understand
40:59I wouldn't say like spending more time would be probably something that I would do in a smaller setting
41:04I didn't anticipate that people would say no
41:10People would say no
41:11Oh damn it
41:13Or that someone would want me instead of Ricardo
41:18I don't like rejection because it's not something I'm used to
41:20And it was something that secretly I probably feared
41:23It feels awkward innit
41:24And it feels like weird
41:26It's like oh
41:27I'm not used to this
41:28But where do I go from here
41:32Grace obviously
41:33Gotta get her
41:33How are you guys?
41:48Good
41:49Yeah
41:49And we wanted to get to know you more
41:51And invite you for some drinks
41:57Um and just chill and catch a vibe
41:59Well I would like to tell to you guys
42:04I feel like more of like a friendship vibe with you guys
42:10I didn't really feel like the sensual click straight away
42:13I'm really flattered though I really appreciate it
42:15No problem
42:16You guys are gorgeous
42:18Thank you
42:21Thank you
42:25So I didn't expect the rejection from Grace
42:28Just because we really hit it off
42:35We were really excited about exploring the open side of our relationship
42:38And getting stuck in
42:42Now my biggest worry is not having the opportunity to open up our relationship
42:48Oh fuck
42:58Married couple Kirstie and Connor have invited Josh to their bedroom for a threesome
43:11I am of course I'm nervous about tonight
43:14I am but I mean let's just get out there and go with it and see see how I feel
43:19Oh my lord
43:25Now do you see why I like it
43:26Err
43:27Love you
43:28Love you
43:29Love you
43:30Love you
43:30Love you
43:31We've come so far since being here I mean
43:33So much further than we ever ever thought was good
43:35Yeah
43:35This whole experience has definitely made me see that I definitely would like an open relationship
43:39I agree I mean this was the best possible outcome of me this is even better than I could ever imagined you know it was
43:45It is going to be very selective and it is going to be who we are comfortable with
44:04But yeah I mean I would love to continue on our journey
44:10You're making that look so easy
44:11Kirstie and Conor's experience was transforming.
44:15He and Kirstie are feeling closer than ever and he's found his confidence.
44:19But the danger with couples is that when they come here and they have a good outcome,
44:24they think, well, that's it. It's done.
44:26It's an ongoing process.
44:28One good experience is not going to override a lifetime of insecurities.
44:33But they both now know that things can change for the better.
44:37A massive start for us.
44:39My confidence is through the roof.
44:42When we came in here, his confidence was so low and there was like this sadness in him.
44:46But from doing everything we've done, it's like having a new mat.
44:50So, not that I want a new mat.
44:54All right, guys.
44:55How are you this morning?
44:56All good, man. How are you?
44:57Good to see you here.
45:00Nice to see you again.
45:02Thank you so much for being so good and helping us.
45:05Good enough to do it again.
45:06Yeah, definitely.
45:06I'm happy to.
45:08Let's stay in touch, yeah?
45:09Let's do it.
45:09Pleasure.
45:10Me and her, I feel like we're so much stronger and I didn't think that was possible.
45:14And I love her even more, you know, and it just can only continue and grow.
45:18I'm a happy girl.
45:20I'm a happy man.
45:20Next time, Shanice and Ricardo's opening up.
45:35Get the party started.
45:50Is in danger of crashing down.
45:54It is difficult to watch a partner.
45:58Enjoy that with someone else.
46:00And fresh arrivals, Nat and Tom, take the plunge.
46:05I'm going to dare then kiss.
46:06I'm not sure how that makes me feel.
46:09If our relationship ended, I would be devastated.
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