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01:04and she's like
01:09and maybe she says
01:11please don't talk to my dad
01:12he'll kill me
01:13because if you talk to my dad
01:15he'll say
01:16this is why you go to work?
01:18this is why we sent you to uni?
01:23you
01:24fathers
01:25I have 4 daughters
01:26I have 4 daughters
01:28listen
01:29those of you that have fathers
01:30that have daughters
01:31two sent your daughters to university
01:34you brought your daughters to this country
01:36you made them live here
01:38you brought ... you took them outside society
01:39you made that decision
01:41and when somebody like a Muslim
01:43likes them
01:44that's a good thing
01:46How are they gonna get married sitting at home?
01:49Who's gonna like them?
01:51So when somebody approaches them in a respectful way
01:54you should not say
01:55Oh my God, the day has come.
01:56أستغفر الله
01:57يه دن بي ديخنة تهي
02:00Oh طبع طبع
02:01You know, what a humiliation.
02:03Now we have to go take you back into Bangladesh
02:05and hide you in a village somewhere
02:06because some guy likes you.
02:09أستغفر الله
02:10You know, and there's a
02:11you know, somebody's a rukia on her
02:13and calm down.
02:15It's okay.
02:17Somebody likes your daughter,
02:19that's a good thing.
02:20Now you're going to investigate, find out.
02:23It's completely fine.
02:24the only رشتة mentioned in the Qur'an,
02:26the only approach mentioned in the Qur'an
02:28is that of Musa in Madian.
02:32He was by himself, Musa was by himself
02:33and these girls were by themselves working outside
02:35and he went up to them and helped them out
02:37and the girl said, he's kind of nice.
02:40And she went back to her dad and said, hire him
02:42which means, come on dad.
02:45You know, and the girl said, I like the guy.
02:49That's actually what happened in the story of Musa.
02:50Musa didn't propose, the girl proposed.
02:52and the father can't propose
02:54unless he has the approval of his daughter.
02:57So it's okay for your girls to say,
02:59dad, there's this guy, this brother
03:01at the MSA,
03:02he does the Thursday halakha.
03:07It's really good, you should come.
03:09Your daughter's telling you something.
03:11It's okay, go attend the halakha.
03:14It's okay, find out.
03:15Don't complicate it.
03:17There's nothing indignified about that.
03:19Don't go date a girl now.
03:22And don't take,
03:22I saw no one gave a lecture,
03:23I'm going to take you out to dinner.
03:24No, no, no.
03:25Not that either.
03:26But can you have respectful interaction
03:28with someone you're interested in for marriage?
03:29Absolutely.
03:31Absolutely.
03:32Nothing wrong with that.
03:33Can you take your time
03:34to understand each other's likes and dislikes?
03:36Yes, it's fine.
03:38Respectful courtship is okay.
03:39with parental guidance,
03:42with indignified fashion,
03:43there's nothing wrong with it.
03:45So what happens is,
03:46we have two extremes.
03:47We have people that are more conservative
03:49than the sahaba.
03:51And then we have people
03:52that are more liberal than liberals.
03:54Okay, and Islam is right in between.
03:56It's a natural way.
03:57Thank you.
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