How To Deal With Anger

Muhammad Aamir Siddiqi

2 weeks ago

How To Deal With Anger The Islamic Way_

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00:00oh yeah sometimes when people get angry too much they get in trouble and they go to the

00:07principal's office or they have to talk to their teacher or to their parents yeah sometimes people

00:12become angry and anger is a part of just being human right and it's okay to get angry but we

00:19just have to learn what to do when when we do become angry at least heartbeat became faster

00:24and is breathing heavier see if someone get getting angry there it affects their whole body

00:31right feeling angry and confused he ran back into the house and up into his bedroom

00:39in the bedroom ali paced up and down his palms were sweating just then there was a knock on the door

00:48ali are you all right asked yusuf ali shook his head look what a kind brother he has

00:58his brother sees that he's angry and he wants to help him

01:03but but ali doesn't know what to do he's so angry he doesn't know what to do with his anger

01:11here take a seat said yusuf as he pulled out a chair ali sat down and his breathing got easier

01:20but still he could not shake off the anger in him our prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasalam

01:30advised us to sit when we are angry and to lie down if the anger remains yusuf added

01:40why don't you lie down on the bed instead so look first ali was so angry and he's like walking

01:48around and then his brother says why don't you sit down so then he sits down and he starts just

01:53leaving and then his brother sees he's still kind of angry so he says why don't you lie down so then

02:00he lies on his bed

02:02after yusuf left the room ali lay on the bed with his hands by his side and closed his eyes what's

02:12he doing now he's breathing sleeping or just resting he's taking a break right is it important

02:22to take a break especially when we have all of these feelings we really need to take a break

02:28right so that's what he's doing he's making a good choice he could hear his breathing and feel his

02:36chest rising up and down okay i want you all as you're just sitting there just close your eyes

02:44and see if you can breathe and just can you hear your heart beating

02:50take a deep breath take a deep breath through your nose and out your mouth

02:56and feel your breathing and your heart can you feel your body take three deep breaths go like this

03:06do you feel calm after you take three deep breaths does that help you feel calm

03:23yes not at all some people it they have to do other things but that's what's important is is learning

03:32different things that help us when we feel certain emotions right okay so after a few minutes

03:40his heart rate returned to normal and the anger in him disappeared a while later ali went down to

03:51the living room to watch television he found his cute little baby sister look at her she's playing with

03:57his toy but aisha was playing with his favorite fire truck toy and one of the wheels had fallen off

04:06oh no

04:07how do you think he's feeling now

04:11super cooper duper angry what why is he angry now

04:20his little sister broke his favorite toy yes is that why he's angry now oh no now look at his face

04:32look he was so calm and then he went back downstairs and now he's feeling that way again oh boy

04:39oh my goodness now look at his face do you see that do you see his face

04:47now the smoke is coming out of his nose before it was out of his ears now it's his nose

04:54all kinds of things are happening to this poor little boy's body huh

04:58suddenly ali felt his nostrils flaring he snatched the toy truck from aisha which caused her to burst

05:09the toy truck to the floor as he threw the toy truck to the floor

05:17astaghfirullah gasped ali's mother son whenever you feel angry say

05:26can you guys say that

05:31usually ali would simply sulk in anger but there was something in those words that soothed his heart

05:49ali took a deep breath and slowly repeated the phrase aloud

05:55that's right my dear it means i seek refuge with allah from shaytan explained ali's mother

06:09the thought of shaytan being so far away made ali feel so much calmer you know what it means to seek

06:17refuge when it says i seek refuge with allah you know sometimes maybe you're feeling scared

06:27and you want to go to a place where you feel safe right where's a place that you feel safe

06:34at home you feel safe at home right now being with allah is a way of getting safe right of feeling safe

06:46with the safety of allah so when we say i seek refuge with allah means i'm churning to allah to

06:53for allah to make me feel safe right so that's one thing we can say when we're angry

07:02later that afternoon the family gathered at the dining table but before ali could take a bite of his

07:10lunch his father said ali you have to apologize to tommy remember tommy the boy at the beginning

07:19who he pushed and he hurt his knee so now the dad is saying you need to go out say i'm sorry

07:25the thought of tommy teasing him caused ali's ears to turn red no way roared ali as he stomped his feet

07:33son you look as if there's a fire within you said ali's father you know what let's go make wudu

07:41what do we use when we're making wudu

07:44what do we use we use water right we wash we put water on our face we put water on our arms and you

07:58know when you have a fire how do you want to put the fire out if you put water on a fire it puts the

08:06fire out right and then that smoke you just see the smoke go away so it's almost like he has a fire

08:15inside of him and he needs to put water on the fire to put the fire out right so our prophet muhammad

08:23sallallahu alayhi wasalam advised us to make wudu when we are angry ali's father explained the water

08:31will put out the fire in us subhanallah as ali performed his wudu he imagined his fire truck toy

08:41spraying water at him on a hot summer day is that what you do when you're hot in the summer you go

08:47splash in water when you're hot and sometimes when we're angry we become hot it helps us to cool down

08:55right when he was done ali felt refreshed and his mind became clearer too so now he's feeling a little

09:04bit better i would have been laughing in a shaytani rajim said ali aloud mashallah that's exactly how our

09:14prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasalam would choose to react if he was angry said ali's mother he was

09:22always slow to anger and quick to forgive do you know what it means to be slow to anger yes

09:32yeah you don't become angry fast right some it takes you some time to become angry and if you are quick

09:44to forgive means if somebody did something wrong and it made you angry that you will forgive them

09:50quickly so the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasalam he didn't become angry quickly and he forgave

09:56quickly ali remained silent deep down he wanted to be like the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasalam

10:04tommy hurt my feelings but i forgive him announced ali it was also wrong of me to lose my temper i shouldn't

10:14have hurt tommy throw my toy truck or raise my voice i will apologize to tommy and i hope he will forgive

10:23me too alhamdulillah i'm so proud of you for following the sunnah said ali's father as ali walked over to

10:32tommy's house he felt light as a feather he was no longer feeling angry but above all ali was glad that

10:40he had learned how to deal with his anger the islamic way the end and here it says a moment of patience

10:50and a moment of anger prevents a thousand moments of regret sometimes when we're angry maybe we say

11:01things or we do things that later we feel bad about so it's better to be patient and not get angry right

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