Selfish Women End Up UNHAPPY!

Stefan Molyneux

Steve Kornacki's post: https://x.com/SteveKornacki/status/1965032049808654515  Philosopher Stefan Molyneux reviews a series of posts on X from Steve Kornacki on contemporary views on success among Generation Z, emphasizing the differing priorities influenced by gender and political affiliations. Steve Kornacki discusses how Trump-supporting men equate success with familial responsibilities and having children, while Harris-supporting women prioritize career fulfillment and financial independence. Stefan examines the implications of these differing definitions, noting how a self-oriented perspective may lead to emotional instability, particularly for women distancing themselves from traditional roles. The discussion also highlights the psychological impacts of prioritizing individualism over familial connections, advocating for the nurturing of family ties as a path to emotional well-being and stability. Kornacki concludes by urging listeners to reflect on their personal definitions of success in light of societal influences.  FOLLOW ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneux  GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK! https://peacefulparenting.com/  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!  You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon! https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025

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00:00All righty, very interesting stuff from Steve Kornacki over on the vaunted Wild West of Thought X.

00:09He writes, our NBC News Decision Desk Paul asked Gen Z adults 18 to 29 years old what they consider

00:17important to a successful life. The combination of gender and politics produced two very different

00:23sets of priorities. So let's go into this. Important to personal definition of success.

00:30So what is it for your personal definition of success? And of course, this is young.

00:36Young people. So men who voted for Trump, number one, having children. Ah, fascinating. Women who

00:44voted for Harris, number one, fulfilling job slash career. So human beings produce more than we

00:55consume. We produce more than we consume. And the question is why? I mean, the obvious answer,

01:00of course, is that we produce more than we consume because we have children. So we have the capacity to

01:07get more food than we need, to have more resources than we need, to get more water than we need

01:14ourselves because we have children. And of course, that in nature, which is the most complex, tends to

01:20develop the most slowly, which is why it takes early 20s for women and mid-20s for men to achieve

01:26full brain maturity. Not like a quarter century. It's mad, right? I mean, like horses can walk within

01:30a day or two of being born human beings, like a year. And so having children is the goal. Now,

01:40men who voted for Trump, people who voted for Trump tended to be significantly more religious,

01:44and people who are more religious tend to have more children. Atheists have fewer children

01:49significantly. Agnostics are the worst of all. I think they have a replacement rate of 1.3.

01:56And so having children is the number one list of success for men. Women who voted for Harris

02:04wears having children, down at the very bottom, right? So for men who voted for Trump, having

02:11children is at the very top. For women who voted for Harris, having children is at the very bottom,

02:18only a 6%. Financial independence. So if we look at, for men who voted for Trump, having children,

02:25financial independence, fulfilling job career, being married, having money to do the things that

02:30you want, owning a home, being grounded spiritually, making family community proud, having no debt,

02:35using talents and resources to help others, able to retire early, having emotional stability.

02:39These are all centered around the top goal. So if you want to have children, then you need some

02:47financial independence. You should have a fulfilling job or career because you want to provide for your

02:52children. You want to be married because being married is the best environment for your children.

02:56Having money to do the things you want, well, what you want is to have children and be married. So

03:00it's not like you go to Cabo and get drunk on the beach. Owning your own home, that's important for

03:06your family. Being grounded spiritually, that's important to be a leader within your family.

03:09Making family and community proud, that is not selfish, right? That means that your self-esteem

03:15and your happiness is all bound into being approved of by a moral community. Having no debt is important

03:25because if you have debt, then you are paying the bankers or the lenders rather than investing in your

03:31own family. Using talents and resources to help others, able to retire early, having emotional

03:36stability is right at the bottom. Now, the people who have emotional stability don't say they want to

03:42have emotional stability and so on, right? So having emotional stability is a low priority because

03:51these men who voted for Trump, these are people who want to be married, productive member of their

03:56community and so on, right? And I mean, that's the hedonism, right? I posted this on X that, of course,

04:07one of the problems with hedonism is that you run out of fun a lot long before you run out of life.

04:15And that's sort of why hedonism becomes kind of hell itself, right? So living for others is great

04:23because then you start to take your pleasure in the happiness of others and they take pleasure in

04:28your happiness and you just end up with a maximum happiness, right? Like if you try to produce

04:32everything yourself, you're going to have a pretty horrible life, right? You got to build your own house,

04:38build your own boat if you want to go fishing, build your own fishing rod and so on. You have a

04:43pretty horrible life if you want to do it all yourself. But if you trade in the free market,

04:47you end up with being able to specialize in your labor and do all of these wonderful things.

04:51It's the same thing with happiness. If you share your happiness with others, each person focuses on

04:56what makes the happiness the best. So I can focus on some things in my family which add to our

05:02happiness. My wife focuses on other things in our family that focus, that bring happiness. She's

05:08amazing at making the house beautiful and I live in an absolute girly world paradise.

05:13It's amazing and so on, right? So, all right. So this is a life of reproduction, of service,

05:19of morals. Being grounded spiritually has to do with morals and so on. And focusing on helping others.

05:26And this produces emotional stability. So, I mean, if you want stability in your investment portfolio,

05:36right? Some people say, I think it's probably a decent idea. Don't have all your eggs in one basket

05:41and spread your risk around and so on. And if you put everything into one basket, you win big,

05:50you lose big, but it's kind of a roller coaster. It's the same thing with happiness. If you put your

05:54happiness in the happiness of your kids and your family and your friends and your customers and

05:58all of that, then you'll end up with a lot more stability in the same way that if you invest in a

06:03wide variety of things, you're probably going to end up with more portfolio stability. All right.

06:07So this is men who voted for Trump. Now let's go over to women who voted for Harris. So fulfilling job

06:15career. And the question is, for what? It's not for having children. Having children, like it's the

06:23lowest number of all. For the men who voted for Trump, having emotional stability, 9%.

06:27And for the women who voted for Harris, being married and having children is 6%.

06:356%. Isn't that wild? Now, of course, women who voted for Harris, so what is the number one thing?

06:42Fulfilling job career. 51%. Is that the highest? Yeah, that's by far the highest. Men who voted for

06:48Trump, having children was 34% of their definition of success. For women, fulfilling job or career,

06:5751%. Now, I mean, basic fact is, most people don't have a very fulfilling job or career.

07:07Of course, a lot of women go into the helping professions, and the helping professions are run

07:12by the government, which means that they don't really help that much. They just provide the

07:15illusion of helping. But anyway, so women want a fulfilling job or career. And why? Right? Men,

07:23number one thing is having children, and therefore fulfilling job career is in the service of being

07:28married and having children. So the women who vote for Harris, they don't want to get married,

07:32and they don't want to have children. So what is the fulfilling job or career? Well, that's 51%.

07:38The next high, it's way higher again. Next highest is having money to do the things you want at 46%.

07:43So what are the things you want?

07:45Well, it's not being married and having children. So it's the things you want selfishly. You want just

07:52for yourself. Hmm, very interesting. Very interesting. So the things that you want are

08:03your own personal pleasures. This is a form of hedonism. Now, as I was saying, if you only focus

08:09on pleasing yourself, you will run out of fun long before you run out of life. And you tend to be less

08:15stable. In the same way, if you only invest in one stock, especially if it's a volatile stock,

08:21you won't have financial stability. And so if you only invest in what you like and what you want,

08:27with no service to others, you have a one volatile stock. And so you're not going to be emotionally

08:33stable. So these men who voted for Trump, kids, married, and so on, make family community proud.

08:41They have emotional stability, because having emotional stability is very low on the list of

08:45priorities, which means they already have it. These women who focus only on themselves are selfish.

08:50They don't have emotional stability. So fulfilling job career, 51%. Having money to do the things you

08:56want, 46%. Having emotional stability, 39%. Using talents and resources to help others. Okay. So in this

09:03case, who were the others? Well, it is having children, being married, right? So for the men who voted for

09:11Trump, the others, they want to help, family community, children, and wife, right? That's who

09:17they want to help. Who do these women want to help? Strangers, right? This is the in-group,

09:22out-group heat map, right? They want to help strangers, because they don't want to get married,

09:27and they don't want to have children. And so the others that they help are the underprivileged,

09:31the people overseas, the migrants, the refugees, all this kind of stuff, right? It's just way,

09:36way, way, way, others. Financial independence, very, very high. And for what, right? So financial

09:41independence for men is very high at 33%. It's almost the same at 32% for the women who voted

09:48for Harris, but what do they want their financial independence for? Well, it's not to have children

09:56or be married. They want financial independence so that they can be hedonistic and do what they want.

10:01Having no debt, it's the same, high priority. High priority. Owning own home for men, 26%,

10:13for women, 20%. So less important. And of course, if you don't have kids, you're not married,

10:20owning your own home is a little bit less important, right? Because if you own your own home,

10:26then you have to save up for the down payment, which is less of having the money to do the things

10:30that you want in the moment, you have to pay a lot of interest. Whereas if you just rent,

10:34you have more money to do the things that you want in the moment. Okay, making family and community

10:39proud. Making family and community proud. For men who voted for Trump, it's 23%. For women who

10:47voted for Harris, 19%. And I think making family and community proud, since the men want to have

10:56children and get married, I assume it's a lot to a large degree, it's their own family. For this,

11:01it would be a family of origin or community, but not your children. Being grounded spiritually,

11:0611% for women, 24% for men. So they don't particularly care about being grounded spiritually

11:13for women. And if you're just pursuing hedonism to a large degree, or just doing the things that you

11:18want, or doing what makes you happy and not... I mean, it's funny, it's not a sacrifice, right?

11:24Like, if I want a coffee, and the coffee is two bucks, am I sacrificing by having an economic

11:32interaction with the guy selling the coffee? No. He wants my two bucks more than he wants to keep his

11:38cup of coffee. I want the cup of coffee more than I want my two bucks. So we're both better off for that

11:42exchange. And exchanging happiness with others makes you happier. Having people in your life that

11:49you will make, quote, sacrifices in order to make them happy makes you happier, because

11:56they're bringing their own specialization in what makes you happy. And also, we're not always really

12:02good at what makes us happy. Sometimes we need an outsider to help us understand what makes us happy,

12:09right? So if you want to be an entrepreneur, sometimes you need your wife or your husband

12:14to really believe in you, and say, of course, you can do it. And here's why. And I'll help.

12:19Right? I really, you don't seem happy at work. Let's try this. Let's really go for it. You know,

12:23you need somebody outside of yourself to notice when you're unhappy, to then work for your happiness.

12:27So you end up with way more happiness when you are trading happiness with others than when you're

12:31focusing entirely on yourself, which, as I said before, is kind of like trying to produce everything for

12:36yourself. So yeah, being grounded spiritually is more important if you are exchanging happiness

12:43credits, in a sense, with others. Able to retire early 6%, 9% for men, so, you know, a third more

12:50for men. Being married, having children is nothing for these women. And of course, single women vote

12:59hard left, which is why the hard leftists are very, very keen on promoting a paranoia towards men. You

13:05can't trust men. You've got to be financially independent. What if he just takes off? Men are

13:10trashy. Men are unreliable. Men are patriarchal. Men are exploitive. Men are violent. Like all of this

13:15stuff, right? It's just scaring. I mean, think of a company that sells home alarms, right?

13:26Alarms. Are they going to put out a lot of ads saying, you know, crime is really, really low. You know,

13:32you're not really in any danger. No, no. What are they going to do? They're going to put out ads

13:36about some sinister guy breaking into your house. And, you know, one scenario, you end up killed in

13:44your bed. In another scenario, the alarm goes off and the guy runs away, right? So they're going to

13:48focus on making you feel frightened so that you will buy their protection, right? That's, we can

13:54understand that. It's not very complicated. It's the same thing with the government, right? The government

14:00wants you frightened, so you'll run to the protection of the government, right? And so

14:05women who are single tend to be pretty anxious, neurotic. And women in general score higher in

14:12neurosis, which I don't mean that in a negative way. I mean, you need to be neurotic to keep a

14:16bunch of babies and toddlers alive because they're, you know, constant death magnets. So the neurosis is

14:21why we're all here. It's a beautiful aspect of women. But if it's not around children, women tend to

14:26just worry about everything. If they don't actually have, if they don't have actual children to worry

14:30about, then they tend to worry about anything and everything else. And if they don't have actual

14:37children of their own to take care of, they tend to try and mother the entire world, right? Including

14:42that poor Turkish guy on the beach like 10 years ago that made all of the women want to open borders

14:49for Europe, right? So they tend to want to mother others if they don't have their own children.

14:55And so, and if they don't have their own protector, which is a husband who loves them and

14:59pays the bills and protects her, then she still feels anxious and runs to the government for

15:05protection. Of course, the government doesn't protect her, but the illusion is, right?

15:10That it will. So if you look at sort of feminism and skepticism of men, none of this is ideological.

15:16It's all political, right? It's all political. So men want to have children. They want to be

15:21married. They want to serve their family and they are emotionally stable. Women want to live for

15:28themselves. They don't want to be married and have kids, which is the perfect place for them to vote

15:34for bigger and bigger government and living for themselves mostly, or having only generosity and

15:41compassion and empathy for distant people, people kind of coming through. See, if you have empathy for

15:47your own kids, what's interesting, and of course you should have empathy for your own kids, kind of

15:51goes without saying. But if you really love and care for your own kids, a very interesting thing

15:54happens, which is that your kids will judge you because they're around, they see you at your best

16:00and at your worst. And they, you know, you have a whole world to process out there and kids are

16:05basically just processing what's going on in the family, particularly if you're homeschool.

16:08So if you love your wife and if you love your children, they will judge you and they will know

16:15you very well, right? They know you better. I mean, in many ways, your family knows you better than you

16:19know yourself, which is good, right? You need your wife to check your back for moles, right? So it's

16:25helpful to have another perspective on yourself and can be lifesaving. So if you use your talents and

16:34resources, right, to help others, which is very important. Number four, for the women who voted for

16:38Harris. So let's say you're a social worker and you help some homeless person, he kind of comes and

16:44goes and he doesn't judge you because he just needs you so much. He doesn't judge you. So you end up

16:49being judgment-free if you help strangers. It's not bad or wrong, but you should help those close to

16:55you first and you should have those who are close to you first and then help them first. And it's a power

17:02thing. Because if you are dangling resources, like a lot of these women will be in jobs in the sort of

17:10social services and welfare and unemployment and all of that. So they're using the government's money,

17:19which is to say the taxpayer's money or the children of the men who vote for Trump using their future tax

17:25revenue that's borrowed against. So they are dangling resources that they didn't earn in front of other

17:30people who are desperate for them, which means it's a power thing, right? And those people will just kind

17:35of pass through, they'll take the money, they'll move on. Whereas the people who you really care about,

17:40they will judge you and they will have criticisms of you and it's an equal relationship. This, helping

17:45strangers, especially using government money, is a power relationship, whereas investing in the people

17:50who care for you is an egalitarian relationship where you will get judged and you should be in this way.

17:56Like nobody's going to say, if you're desperate, right, you're desperate to get resources from

18:01some social worker, very few people are going to say, well, you're kind of mean and I'm not going

18:06to take your resources or whatever it is. Whereas if you're mean in family and kids, they'll have

18:11something to say about it and you'll get that feedback and then you'll end up, you know, blunting

18:17or sanding down the rough edges of your personality and being nicer overall, being nicer and better

18:22and all of that sort of stuff. So I just wanted to point out that this is helping others is a

18:31power relationship using other people's money. And this is winding yourself into other people's

18:38happiness, being submitting to judgment. This tends to sand down the rough edges and aggressive

18:43aspects of the personality, makes you nicer and more pleasant in the long run. This does not. And this

18:48is why government workers tend to end up as Karens because they've had too much power for too long

18:52and it has corrupted their very soul. So yeah, let me know. I know that there's another one of these

18:57below. I'm curious if you find this interesting. I find it quite fascinating. Love to know what you

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