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In this space, we explore the multifaceted concept of privilege and its societal implications, blending personal experiences with historical analysis. Stefan emphasizes the ability of privileged individuals to avoid consequences for poor choices while contrasting this with the struggles of those without such advantages. Through discussions on entitlement and dehumanization, the lecture critiques power dynamics from historical figures to modern leaders, illustrating how societal narratives often obscure the contributions of those in lower social classes. The impact of appreciation in personal relationships is highlighted as crucial for equality, warning against exploitative dynamics rooted in neglect. Contemporary issues surrounding gender roles and labor contributions are examined, culminating in a call for greater recognition of shared humanity and mutual respect in discourse about privilege.
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In this space, we explore the multifaceted concept of privilege and its societal implications, blending personal experiences with historical analysis. Stefan emphasizes the ability of privileged individuals to avoid consequences for poor choices while contrasting this with the struggles of those without such advantages. Through discussions on entitlement and dehumanization, the lecture critiques power dynamics from historical figures to modern leaders, illustrating how societal narratives often obscure the contributions of those in lower social classes. The impact of appreciation in personal relationships is highlighted as crucial for equality, warning against exploitative dynamics rooted in neglect. Contemporary issues surrounding gender roles and labor contributions are examined, culminating in a call for greater recognition of shared humanity and mutual respect in discourse about privilege.
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00:00Good afternoon, friends. Family, blood, brains of thought. Nice to chat with you this afternoon.
00:09Had a couple of chunks of spare time and wanted to drop in, see how everyone's doing.
00:15Also, I wanted a little bit of business from my show yesterday, which was, I think, I was thinking about this,
00:23I think that I was too harsh and dismissive with the first caller, and I apologize for that.
00:30I won't even make any excuses. The reasons aren't particularly important, but I think I was too harsh and dismissive with the first caller yesterday.
00:39So if you listen to this again, I apologize. I will take note of that tendency.
00:45I think I know why, but again, the why sounds like an excuse.
00:48So just trust me that I, well, you can trust me. I hope that I will work on being more receptive and open in these particular topics.
00:58Topics around politics and activism and so on. So thank you for the patience of the person who had the conversation.
01:06I certainly was won over by the end, but I could have been less skeptical at the beginning, and I apologize for that.
01:13So what is on your mind? How can philosophy help you today? What are your thoughts, questions, comments, issues, criticisms?
01:23I certainly have my own topics and thoughts, but given that this is a call-in show, it's best if you have the questions or comments or issues or criticisms.
01:37So if you do, just request to talk. I won't make you beg. I won't make you beg.
01:45And I would be happy to hear what is on your mind, and I'll just give people a moment or two.
01:52I mean, if you're all at work and just listening in, that's totally fine. I can do my rant or rants or plural.
01:59So while we're waiting, you know, it is a peculiar form of aristocratic privilege that people have in the past.
02:11You know, there's an old, there was a BC comic from way back in the day.
02:14I offer my body to the sun. Zot! Must have blown us all the views.
02:17I can't remember. I can't believe that I remember all of these silly cartoons from many, many years ago.
02:22But, you know, it's the old joke, the peasants are revolting. Yes, yes, they are.
02:28And that process that happens in the mind of the privileged, what does privileged really mean?
02:39What does privileged really mean?
02:41Did you hear these terms, white privilege, male privilege, and so on?
02:43But what does privilege really mean?
02:46So I'll make a case here. Tell me what you think. Agree, disagree.
02:50So privileged is when you can escape the consequences of your own bad decisions.
03:01You're privileged. And as a child in general, that's because your parents have to backfill, right?
03:06I mean, if you get fired from your job as an adult, you might end up having to move back home.
03:13But if you get fired for your job as a teenager, well, your parents will continue to pay the bills, right?
03:19So it's not really called privilege. It's not really privileged to say that kids are not, they don't have to swallow all of the consequences of their own bad decisions.
03:29They do in the dating arena, but not in the financial arena as a whole.
03:32So privilege is when you can escape the negative consequences of your own bad decisions.
03:39And really what it arises from is feeling entitled.
03:47Entitled.
03:48I'm owed just for existing.
03:50So, of course, in the medieval conception of society, which, you know, varied from country to country, but there was a general pattern that the king was the head of the nation appointed there by God himself.
04:05And the king would extend monopoly privileges to a particular religion, usually Catholicism, but then later it became various forms of Protestantism in some countries.
04:14Of course, I grew up in the Anglican Church in England, and so the king would say to the priests, you can have a monopoly on religion on one condition, and that condition is that you tell everyone that I am the God-appointed head of society.
04:35And that to disobey me is to disobey God himself, and then you'll be punished with hell and struck down with various sequences of Job-like diseases and misfortunes in bad weather, and your crops will sicken and wither, and your livestock will fall over and stick their hooves to heaven.
04:59So that was the deal, right?
05:01So the king says to the priests, I will get rid of anybody who competes with you, but you have to tell everyone that I'm basically a living man-god who has to be obeyed.
05:13And that's efficient.
05:15I mean, not in terms of people's general freedoms and the economic productivity of society or the intellectual advancement of society, but that is the deal.
05:24It's efficient for the king because he has installed a punishment device through the clergy.
05:29He has installed a punishment device into the minds, hearts, and souls of every citizen, because it's expensive to rule people if they don't attack themselves.
05:39If you can get people to attack themselves, then it becomes very cost-efficient to rule them.
05:46So it became impossible to convert the indigenous population of North America into being slaves.
05:55They simply resisted it and would fight and die and flee, and it just was not economically particularly productive.
06:01So when you want to rule people, you have to get them to self-attack.
06:08And really, that's what the media and propaganda and in the past religion, now wokeism, is to install in the minds of those most inclined towards freedom a self-attack for even having bad thoughts, right?
06:21The thought police.
06:21So you want to create a mindset wherein people self-attack for thinking things that are negative towards the rulers.
06:30So for the medieval conception of society, the king was the head, and the clergy was the heart, the soul, and the serfs were the muscles, the hands, the feet, the body that moved and grew and so on, right?
06:50And, of course, you would say, well, look, the hands can't think, and the brain can't do.
06:59So we each have to do what is appropriate to the great body of being known as the medieval conception of society.
07:06So the hands should not bother themselves with thinking, and the brain should not bother itself at doing because it's impossible, and therefore the king commands his subjects, and the subjects do not command the king back.
07:20The brain tells the hand what to do.
07:24The hand does not reason and think and plan and then tell the brain what to do.
07:31Now, of course, it's dehumanizing, it's dehumanizing, and what you have to do in order to have privilege is you have to dehumanize those whom you force to shield yourself from the consequences of your own bad decisions and to supply you with coerced goods and services.
07:58So the king can command the peasant to join the army.
08:03The peasant cannot command the king to join in the collecting of the harvest.
08:09So the king has to view the labor that supports his privilege and the laborers.
08:16He has to view the laborer as entitled.
08:17He's entitled to it, and he has to view the laborer as humanistically invisible to him.
08:24Dehumanize.
08:25You're just a hand.
08:26You're basically one step above the livestock, right?
08:31The farmer does not trouble himself with the rights of the livestock or the preferences of the livestock, except insofar as he needs to exploit them.
08:44He may give them a little bit more land if they're beating their heads from side to side in the stalls to the point where it becomes difficult and expensive and inefficient to keep them in such a small enclosed area.
08:57So he'll give them a little bit more room, but only because he wants to exploit them further, not because he wants their liberty, right?
09:03The next step for a chicken on a chicken farm is not being a free chicken, but being a chicken McNugget.
09:10So to have privilege is to view those who supply your labor as psychologically invisible to you as your fellow human beings.
09:22So the king recognizes that the serfs are technically human, but does not recognize them as psychologically or morally equivalent to himself, because if he did, he would not be able to exploit them.
09:40Exploitation and dehumanization go hand in hand, which is why empathy tends to bring equality.
09:50Empathy, it's an Aristotelian mean, too little empathy and you get exploitation, too much empathy and the empathetic get exploited by the cold-hearted.
09:58If you care about other people's problems to the point where you have poor resources into solving their problems, then people will claim to have problems or invent problems or create problems so that they get your resources.
10:11Empathy is one of these things you have to be really strict, too little, and you exploit people too much and you get exploited by people.
10:17You've got to find that right balance, and only the free market can show that balance.
10:21Statism never can.
10:24So consequences for thee, but not for me, is foundational to a privilege.
10:32If I make bad decisions, you pay the price, you pay the consequences.
10:37And the labor that I force out of you to support my privilege results from dehumanizing the other, refusing to acknowledge the humanity of the people you're exploiting.
10:55Because if you acknowledge their humanity, you can't exploit them.
10:59Because when you recognize other people's humanity, and you put themselves in their shoes, you can't exploit them.
11:07Because you say, well, I don't want to be exploited.
11:10And if that person, that serf laboring in the field, if that serf is a human just like me, and I were in his position, I would be unhappy and resentful.
11:20Therefore, I cannot exploit him.
11:23So privilege is forcing other people to pay for the consequences of your own bad decisions and dehumanizing those whose resources you take.
11:33The king does not think about the labor in the fields.
11:40The aristocrat does not think about the humanity of his serfs or his slaves.
11:46So privilege is dehumanizing others to gain their resources, often proportional to the bad decisions that you make.
12:02So if you make a bad decision to, say, invade Iraq on the fantasy that there are weapons of mass destruction,
12:07they're imminently pointed at American cities, as Condoleezza Rice said.
12:11And prior to the invasion of Iraq in 2003, well, we don't want the mushroom, we don't want the smoking gun to be in the form of a mushroom cloud that Saddam Hussein was about to turn an American city into ash.
12:23Well, that's a terrible mistake.
12:26I mean, that's a terrible, terrible mistake.
12:29But you see, being punished for mistakes is the opposite of privilege.
12:35Being punished for mistakes is the opposite of privilege.
12:37You see, the Lord can kill the peasant for hunting on the Lord's land, called poaching.
12:48And there was a death penalty in many places for that.
12:50You take one rabbit from the Lord's land, and you're caught, and you're punished.
12:56However, the Lord can take 25% of the harvest of the serfs, and that's totally fine.
13:03See, he can take your property, and that's good and right because God commands, and, you know, he's better and superior and so on.
13:12But if you take one rabbit from him or his lands, and even calling them his lands is kind of dubious.
13:18Aristocrats were generally the most efficient hired killers for the state, and that's why they got all their lands and serfs.
13:24It was a capacity for obedience to those above them and unlimited violence to those below them that got them their lands and their privilege and their weirdly ornate rituals of power.
13:38So, it's asymmetrical.
13:42You take, and you do not acknowledge the humanity of those you take from, and you do not thank those.
13:48See, thank you, one of the reasons why politeness is very important in society is thank you, please and thank you, indicates equality.
13:59The king does not thank the jester for making him laugh.
14:04He just allows the jester to continue living and get some crumbs from the bloody table of power.
14:09The lord does not thank the serf for providing the labor and food and resources that the lord takes to himself.
14:20You don't thank people.
14:22You don't thank people.
14:24So, thank you is a way of saying we are on an equal plane.
14:29So, when you sort of put all of this stuff together, what does privilege mean?
14:32It means dehumanizing others, taking their resources, punishing them for their crimes while never being punished for your crimes, having other people backfill and be forced to pay for the consequences of your own bad decisions.
14:47And the dehumanization and exploitation is so wrapped in together.
14:51I mean, I felt a little bad about having been fairly sharp with the first caller yesterday.
14:57I thought about it a couple of times, and I thought, I should apologize for that.
15:00It was too sharp and too harsh, too skeptical.
15:03Not open, not warm-hearted, and that's fine.
15:07I mean, it's not fine that I did it, but it's not the end of the world, right?
15:10It didn't hurt the guy, it didn't take any of his money, or it didn't drive over his dog, right?
15:15But it troubled me, so I apologized.
15:18Now, the people who start wars, get hundreds of thousands of people killed and maimed and genetically destroyed through these depleted uranium weapons in Iraq and so on.
15:30You know, the people who spent 20 years and billions, trillions of dollars to replace the Taliban, but the Taliban in Afghanistan, well, they're not troubled.
15:41They're not troubled by it.
15:42Because others are not human to them.
15:47Others are not human.
15:48They actually have less affection for the soldiers and the civilians who got maimed and killed than a farmer has for his livestock.
15:59Because the farmer actually does care about the livestock.
16:01Because the farmer's income depends upon the livestock, but government power does not depend upon the taxpayer as an individual or fundamentally, because they can just borrow or print money as well.
16:12Giving the government, or taking away the power of the government to borrow or print money would make the government at least significantly more responsive to taxpayers.
16:21But they don't want to be responsive to taxpayers, because that's going to limit their power.
16:25So they want to be able to borrow and print so that they can bypass the demands or requirements or preferences of the taxpayer.
16:35In the same way, in England, with the grooming gangs, you know, I mean, the staggering number of British girls who were...
16:44I can't even...
16:46Go look it up yourself if you have the stomach.
16:48Look, it's beyond my capacity to put into words how many people are really troubled by that.
16:53How many people at the BBC were troubled by covering up the absolutely appalling serial predatory pedophilia rape fast of Jimmy Seville?
17:07Because people in the media claim to be able to identify evil from a great distance.
17:12Somebody said a bad word, that's evil, on the other side of the world.
17:15But they can't even recognize one of the most horrendous predators in human history, walking their own halls.
17:23And so on, the same thing with Prince Charles.
17:25See, Prince Charles is really, really good at figuring out, you know, negative behavior in a hundred years through climate change.
17:34But he was asking Jimmy Seville for advice on his marriage.
17:38Ah, it's absolutely stomach-turning.
17:43So, one of the things that seems completely invisible to modern women...
17:48I'm using this collectively, of course, there's exceptions.
17:51But one of the things that seems invisible to modern women is the huge amount of labor that men perform to keep civilization running.
18:02I mean, you can think of it all like the electricity system, the sewage system, the water system, the roads, the carpentry, the fishing, the farming, and so on.
18:16It's overwhelmingly men.
18:19Overwhelming, like 90, 95, 98%.
18:21It was just logging.
18:23Very dangerous.
18:23Very dangerous business, by the way.
18:25And so, all of this labor that goes into making women's lives comfortable and survivable is invisible to women.
18:35Because there's no thank you, men, for keeping the infrastructure running.
18:40There's no appreciation of that.
18:42There's no recognition of that.
18:44It's just called male privilege.
18:46The male privilege is to have back-breaking, gruesome, bitter, ugly, difficult, and dangerous labor.
18:55Well, women often buff their nails in air-conditioned offices, in made-up HR pink ghettos of productivity.
19:05Where's the thanks?
19:05Where's the recognition?
19:06Where's the appreciation?
19:07Well, appreciation is equality.
19:11To not recognize the labor and sacrifice and suffering of others is foundational to privilege and defies any sense of egalitarianism.
19:22In the same way that some women, a lot of women, view the work that they do at home as really, really important and difficult.
19:33And at times it is, for sure.
19:35But what happens is, the man just goes away and then comes back, you know, 10 hours later.
19:41And there's just money in the bank account.
19:43But because it's out of sight, out of mind, the woman is vividly aware of the labor that she does in the home.
19:48The child raising, the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning, the groceries, the bill paying, if that's what she's doing.
19:53The managing of the finances, if that's what she's doing.
19:55So, she's vividly aware of her own labor, but is not aware emotionally, foundationally, because of privilege, she's not aware of her husband's labor.
20:08Because women expect to be appreciated, and there's nothing wrong.
20:10Appreciation is important in a relationship.
20:12And, you know, I will say to my wife, she makes a lovely meal, this is fantastic, thank you so much.
20:18And I thank my wife, like, thank you for keeping the household running, thank you for doing all of the wonderful things that keep everything smooth for me and liberate me to do the work that I do.
20:27And she says, thank you so much for working so hard today.
20:30It's appreciation, because equality, right?
20:32But if you're only aware of your own labor, and not aware, emotionally, of the labor of others, then you have dehumanized them.
20:43My labor matters, your labor is invisible to me.
20:47That is dehumanizing the other.
20:51And you can see this, of course, in the basic phrase, women say, unpaid women's labor around the home.
20:59Unpaid women's labor around the home.
21:01It's unpaid.
21:03Now, that's the dehumanizing phrase.
21:07It is as foolish as the people who say, we don't need farmers because we get our food from the grocery store.
21:14That is just dehumanizing the farmer.
21:17Unpaid domestic labor is oxymoronic.
21:22And moronic as all dehumanizing formulations are.
21:27There's no such thing as unpaid labor around the home.
21:31I mean, if a woman wants to truly experience unpaid labor around the home, then she should go and build a cabin in the woods, and she should cook and clean in that cabin and see how much money she makes.
21:45That's right.
21:46I mean, she'll starve to death unless she's, you know, maybe hunting herself or whatever it is, in which case she's very unlikely to be able to produce enough food to survive.
21:53When I was a waiter, I saw what my boss went through.
21:59One of the first places I waitered at was a place called, well, you know it, Pizza Hut.
22:02And they had a five-minute or free lunch deal when I was a teenager, and they'd actually put a little digital clock timer on the table.
22:10And you had to get the person's drinks out, and then you had, or the groups, they had to get the table's drinks out, and then you had to get their pizza out all within five minutes.
22:18But if you've got six, seven, or eight tables, there's a serious amount of hustle.
22:23And I remember my boss would sometimes throw up after lunch.
22:28He was so stressed because he'd poured all of his money into this, and then the head office was putting this crazy deal forward, and it was nuts.
22:34It was nuts.
22:36Because you couldn't cook the pizza in five minutes, so you had to guess how many people were going to order what.
22:40And if you guessed wrong, you lost money.
22:41Horribly stressful.
22:42And I remember thinking, like, wow, you know, if I was just carrying pizza around in the woods, nobody would be paying me for anything.
22:51Somebody has to build a whole restaurant around and order all of this stuff and pay all the bills and taxes and the electricity bills and order all the raw materials and print up the menus and create the computers.
23:00And, you know, even the little aprons that we had.
23:04I sounded like a chain mail knight.
23:06This was back in the day when most people paid by cash, and there was a lot of coins.
23:10You'd end up with these sacks of coins, walking around like a knight about to joust in chain mail.
23:17And just carrying stuff around in the woods doesn't make you anything.
23:20So I was aware, you know, I'd read enough economics at that point in my teens that I was giving up part of my pay so that I could make the rest of it, right?
23:29Because I don't get paid anything carrying stuff around in the woods, but somebody builds a restaurant around me.
23:34I've got to pay them for that so that I get paid for carrying pizza to a table.
23:38It's unpaid female labor.
23:39However, it's just a way of provoking aristocracy, entitlement, dehumanization, and resentment.
23:48And it absolutely dehumanizes men for women to claim, A, that they're underpaid, and B, that there is such a thing as unpaid domestic labor.
23:57Someone's got to pay for it.
23:59Someone has to pay for it.
24:01And ladies, the house doesn't just magically sprout out of the ground.
24:06Your washing machine doesn't run on good intentions.
24:09Somebody's got to grow the food, bring it to the grocery store.
24:13Somebody's got to pay for the groceries.
24:16Somebody's got to build the fridge.
24:17Somebody's got to build the air conditioning.
24:20Somebody's got to build the sewers and maintain them and the water purifiers.
24:27Someone's paying for it.
24:28And if you're not paying for it, your husband is.
24:33There's no such thing as unpaid female labor.
24:36Remember, around the household, the moment you say the household, someone's paying for it.
24:41Maybe it's not your husband.
24:42Maybe it's the mostly male taxpayers who are paying for it.
24:45But someone is paying for it.
24:46Honey, and it ain't you.
24:49But the dehumanization of others is to view the products of labor like the reality of physics.
24:56And the fact that women, modern women in particular, do not appreciate the men who work very hard in dangerous, dirty, unpleasant jobs to create the civilization that has made modern women the most comfortable and privileged group in almost all of human history.
25:19I mean, you'd rather be a poor woman in the 21st century than the king of France in the 18th century because he didn't have air conditioning, fridges, freezers, antibiotics, cars, any.
25:34I mean, you could just go on and on, right?
25:36The king of France, there's a report that he opened his window to take the view of Paris and fainted of a stench because people would crap into bowls and dump it out.
25:48And that was pre-sewage treatment Paris.
25:57And, I mean, I went through this to a small degree myself when I spent a year and a half gold panning and prospecting after high school.
26:08And now, of course, gold is used in a lot of industrial applications.
26:12It's used in cell phones and so on.
26:14But, you know, a lot of it is used for ornamental nonsense, foolish, frippery jewelry that women like and, you know, delightfully incomprehensible.
26:24More power that they like jewelry doesn't make any sense to me.
26:27But, you know, why do I want a hole in my ear to hang gold from?
26:31I don't know.
26:32But women like it and delightfully incomprehensible.
26:35More power to them.
26:37But the amount of slog and hard, gritty, dirty, dangerous, bug-infested, freezer balls off labor that I had to go through to try and get some gold, which was mostly going to female adornment, is not to be under.
26:54Now, I only did it for a year and a half.
26:55And, you know, there were dangers.
26:58People got injured.
26:59I never did.
27:00Partly out of luck and partly out of care.
27:02But, yeah, taking a flamethrower in minus 40 degree weather in order to get something out of the ground that a woman can clip to her ear or in her navel piercing is a bit asymmetrical.
27:16Now, again, I was paid.
27:17I'm not saying that they're pure surfs or anything like that.
27:19But, you know, I was paid and then a lot of my pay was taken to give to women because women make bad choices, and particularly when it comes to having children, who they have children with.
27:32So, it is very aristocratic for women to not view the labor that supports them as real, as a value of something that they choose not to do, and thus, and maybe they can't do in any practical sense,
27:47and thus, men have to do it.
27:50If we're to have a civilization or any degree of creature comforts at all, where's the appreciation?
27:57Where's the appreciation?
27:58Now, men get paid.
27:59I mean, we're not slaves, right?
28:01I get all of that.
28:02But, again, we're vastly overtaxed to pay for bad female decisions.
28:08But we're paid.
28:10But we are dehumanized.
28:11The labor that we do is dehumanized for women as a whole.
28:18And that's aristocratic, to not acknowledge the labor of those who are forced to pay for you, and through taxes, right?
28:2780% of taxes come from men.
28:3080% of benefits go to women.
28:32Men don't have mandates about getting hired, but women do.
28:34Men don't get wage supports, and the government doesn't step in to negotiate on behalf of men, but it does on behalf of women.
28:42Equal pay for work of equal value.
28:45There's no mandates for businesses or universities to bring men into the fold, but endless mandates to bring women into the fold.
28:52So we don't get any of that.
28:54In fact, we're specifically excluded from the workforce to the degree to which women are artificially inserted into the workforce.
29:00Our pay is lowered because women are artificially inserted into the workforce in many places and ways.
29:07Our wages get lowered, right?
29:08If companies are forced by mandate to hire more women, then the wages go down for the men.
29:16And then, of course, the men have to backfill the women's labor when the women, as they often do, and I'm not complaining about this, we've got to have babies.
29:24But when the women go to have babies, men have to do more of the work, even if it's just as little as training their replacement, which in a complex job can be quite a long time.
29:35So it's female aristocracy.
29:36It's female privilege.
29:38And women do love to feel privileged because that's a sign of very high status.
29:44I mean, men have their issues and addictions to status as well.
29:48But I remember some woman telling me once that she was offered an in-home pampering, to be pampered.
29:57And, of course, when you want a woman to be high status at a movie, you have her be waited on by other women, right?
30:08They'll go and fetch her things.
30:10Once they will bring her things, even in stores, they'll be catering to her and wrapping her things up and to high status and all that kind of stuff.
30:21And that translates into being sexually desirable enough to the point where the man's going to want to pay all the bills.
30:28It's just a status display.
30:31But, yeah, in-home pampering, women like to be pampered.
30:34They like to have things done for them.
30:36They like to have doors open for them.
30:37They like for the man to pay the meals.
30:38They like for the man to pick them up.
30:40And they like to be pampered.
30:42And I'm not complaining about that.
30:44It's just a simple fact of life.
30:48But appreciation is the fundamental coin of equality.
30:54It's the fundamental coin of equality.
30:56And without appreciation, you grow cold-hearted, exploitive sociopathy.
31:03I don't have to thank this person means I don't see them as human.
31:06I don't have to appreciate what this group does means I don't view them as human.
31:13If a woman likes to be thanked for the meals that she makes or the meal that she makes, which is fine and should be the case.
31:19If a woman likes to be thanked for the meal that she makes, great.
31:27But the man likes to be thanked for the work that he does.
31:30And a lot of women will withhold appreciation out of an odd fear that their man will become complacent if he is appreciated.
31:37Nope. Men flourish on appreciation just as much as women do.
31:40We do better when we're thanked and appreciated.
31:44We'll go to the ends of the earth for a grateful woman.
31:48And we'll sit in our car gathering ourselves to come into a fractious house with an entitled complaining and nagging woman.
31:56Men will do almost anything that we're nicely asked to and almost nothing that we're told to.
32:04And not showing appreciation is also a way of making people feel unwanted, unneeded, and putting them on the back foot when it comes to negotiation.
32:15I mean, I know this is a more extreme position, but it's definitely out there.
32:19There aren't women who genuinely believe that without men, their lives would be better.
32:26Women wouldn't last two weeks without men.
32:28Men could survive without women, for sure.
32:30We wouldn't be able to reproduce, of course, but we could certainly make it to the end of our natural lifespan without women.
32:35But women, in the absence of men, how are they going to know how to run the infrastructure?
32:40They don't.
32:40And again, there's not a complaint.
32:42There's nothing wrong with that.
32:43It's natural.
32:44There is a division of labor between the sexes.
32:48But
32:49women, you know, tottering around on their high heels with their long nails and pencil skirts and makeup.
32:58I mean, the idea that they're going to go down there and unclog a sewer.
33:02And again, there are, you know, hardworking women who do manual labor and so on.
33:08They don't do it as well as men because men are just, you know, 40% greater upper body strength at a minimum and so on,
33:14which is largely the result of what women chose or who women chose to mate with in the past.
33:18But the idea that women can run the infrastructure, I mean, that's like asking King Louis XVI to run a farm and birth a calf.
33:28Won't have a clue what he's doing.
33:32Dehumanization is dissociation from reality and it's dissociation from the need to be grateful, to be thankful, to show appreciation.
33:39I love what women do in the world.
33:41I really do.
33:42I love what women do in the world.
33:44I happen to live with two wonderful females, my wife and my daughter.
33:47I love what they do in the world.
33:48And I appreciate it.
33:50I really do.
33:53But if women are coaxed and like now it's what, emotional labor?
33:58Oh, all the emotional labor that women have to do.
34:03Oh, just there's something, there's something appealing about martyrdom to women that, to a lot of women that I don't understand if anyone can explain it to me.
34:10I would certainly appreciate there's something that women are drawn to just feeling like martyrs and what was it?
34:18There was a painting of a black woman during the last election.
34:24Well, here's another election that black women have to carry on their backs and sigh and the martyrdom.
34:28Oh, so for men, martyrdom is like, you know, I guess men are drawn to, you know, okay, I'll cover your escape while everyone flees and I'll take down as many of the pursuers as I can.
34:39Like there's a kind of martyrdom perhaps in war, but that's not the norm for men.
34:45And I don't think we're particularly drawn to that, right?
34:49The purpose of war is not to die for your country, but make the other bastard die for his country.
34:55It's from Patton or something like that, right?
34:57But men are not drawn to martyrdom in that way.
35:00But women, oh, give a woman a chance to be a victim and a martyr.
35:04Nine times out of ten, she'll embrace it with both hands and grab onto it tight.
35:11I don't understand why martyrdom is attractive or appealing.
35:14But if you say to women, oh, you carry such a heavy load.
35:17What's that old, uh, the rose?
35:20I know the blues because I'm a woman.
35:23But yeah, you give a woman a chance to feel hard done by it and it's like semi-orgasmic for a lot of women.
35:29It's a wild thing.
35:31Again, not the women that I know or work with, but it definitely is very common out there to be a martyr to, you know, like the Bridges of Madison County, that movie.
35:43It's a very famous, uh, movie with, uh, Clint Eastwood and Meryl Weep, Streep, Streep.
35:50And yeah, she's very hard done by, you see, because, because, because the door slams.
35:57You know, when, when her sons and her husband go out the door, it just slams.
36:04And that's very tough for her, you see, so she has to have sex with a stranger.
36:07Because the door, the screen door, can be loud.
36:10Now, I mean, she's home, her kids are grown up to a significant degree.
36:16So she's home, so she could go, I mean, there are cars, she can go to the hardware store and pick up one of those little arms and put it in the door so that the door doesn't go bang when they leave.
36:34Just, you know, it's not that complicated, costs a couple of bucks, 20 minutes to install, you're good to go.
36:39So, if she doesn't know how to do it, she could ask her husband to do it.
36:44But no, gosh, no, that would be far too sensible.
36:47It is far, far better to wince every time the door slams than put one of those stupid little arm cushions in that has the door not slammed.
36:56Because she loves the martyrdom.
36:58Oh, if only they thought of me, they wouldn't slam the door.
37:02Yeah, they're men.
37:03We're loud.
37:04We're loud.
37:05We're loud, we're noisy, we're in a rush, we're physical.
37:07And this delicate little flower is just, it's so upset that the door, the door slams.
37:15It's just the victimhood, the victimhood.
37:17Oh, they don't care about me because the door slams.
37:19If they cared about me, they wouldn't slam the door.
37:22Well, if you cared about them, you would say to them, this door slamming is kind of getting on my nerves.
37:27What can we do about it?
37:27Or I looked it up or I talked to a guy or last time I was in town, I dropped past the hardware store and said, hey, the door slams.
37:33What can we do about it?
37:34And solve the problem.
37:35No, but she doesn't want to solve the problem.
37:37She wants to have an excuse.
37:39An excuse.
37:40She wants to have an excuse to sleep with Clint Eastwood.
37:42Hey, who doesn't?
37:43He's a pretty tasty slap of men.
37:46Hunk, back in the day.
37:49So, yeah, the aristocracy of the female is modernity.
37:53And the men are invisible serfs who aren't even acknowledged.
37:58Like, at least the king would say, yes, I suppose it's the peasants who produce the food.
38:02Blah, blah, blah.
38:03But God has put me in charge and blah, blah, blah.
38:05Women don't even know.
38:07Women don't even know, for the most part, how any of this stuff works.
38:11There's a great meme of somebody goes back in time.
38:15And by the way, I'm almost done my speech.
38:18If you want to have questions or comments or pushbacks, I'm happy to hear.
38:22But there's a great meme about, you know, I'm going to take all my knowledge of maternity.
38:27I'm going to go back in time.
38:29And all of the people back in time say, wow, electricity.
38:33What is that?
38:34How does it work?
38:35I have no idea.
38:39I have no idea.
38:40I remember once visiting a friend's place.
38:43And, I mean, I grew up in apartments and so on.
38:46And this is the first time I'd heard of something called a sump pump.
38:51Now, I thought that was like the Harlem Shuffle, like a jive kind of dance move.
38:55No, no, no, a sump pump pumps out the water that gets into your basement.
39:00No idea.
39:01No idea whatsoever that there was ever such a thing as a sump pump,
39:06because it's not really part of your apartment experience at all.
39:10Didn't know how it worked.
39:11He said, oh, yeah, if a sump pump went out in the last flood,
39:13I had to carry all the water out in buckets.
39:15And I'm like, why are you speaking Aztec to me?
39:18Just use English.
39:20And so that's the big question of appreciation.
39:23Those who do not acknowledge your labor or thank you for it
39:28have dehumanized you and are exploiting you.
39:31Because for the king to say, the peasant is just like me,
39:34and everyone's had that thought that the king is just a dude in a funny hat, right?
39:39But for the king to say, well, the peasant is just kind of like me,
39:43and I sure as hell would hate to be in the peasant's position, right?
39:47The moment he empathizes with the peasant,
39:48and the whole hierarchy and structure of the medieval world collapses,
39:53as it did for the most part.
39:57So if people don't acknowledge your sacrifices,
40:00if they don't acknowledge your labor,
40:02but they demand that you acknowledge theirs,
40:05then they have dehumanized you,
40:07and you're not in a relationship.
40:08You're in a vampiric exploitation enslavement.
40:13Not physical, but you can get up and walk out at any time.
40:16But yeah, I remember the only woman I really lived with long before I got married.
40:21I was working, building a company.
40:23I was working very hard.
40:24You know, crazy hours, crazy entrepreneurial hours.
40:26I was in my 20s.
40:28And I was paying the bills,
40:30and she was looking for work in her field.
40:32And I would come home,
40:35and she'd say, well, you've got to do half the housework.
40:38And I'd say, I don't, in fact,
40:41because I'm paying all the bills.
40:43Oh, so you don't have to lift a finger?
40:45No, no.
40:45Just because I'm at work doesn't mean I'm sitting in a hammock.
40:49I don't know what people,
40:50I don't know what women picture when men are working.
40:52It's working very hard.
40:53And so, yeah, you've got to do the housework, right?
40:58Because I'm paying the bills,
41:00so I go to work for 10 hours or 12 hours.
41:02That's, you know, five or six hours that I'm putting in.
41:06Well, I mean, if we split it 50-50, right?
41:09But let's say, you know,
41:10I go to work for 12 hours, 10 hours.
41:13Well, that's 10 to 12 hours I'm contributing.
41:16I mean, it's just the two of us.
41:17It's not a big place.
41:19You're not doing 10 to 12 hours of housework.
41:22And even if you were,
41:22but simply even out,
41:23I'm doing 10 to 12 hours of economic labor.
41:25You're doing 10 to 12 hours of housework.
41:27Well, it's not true.
41:28I mean, the men invented labor-saving devices for women
41:31before they invented life-saving devices for themselves, right?
41:34So washing machines and things and ice boxes
41:37were all invented before basic filters
41:39to keep coal dust out of men's lungs,
41:42keep them alive for a little longer
41:43than have the black death in that way, right?
41:47So she wanted to avoid acknowledging
41:53my economic contributions
41:54so that she would have to do less housework.
41:57Well, that's exploitive.
41:58And that's why that relationship, no lastie.
42:01But don't be in a relationship.
42:03This is sort of my, you know,
42:05can't do much about the tax system
42:07or whatever it is.
42:07I'm going to talk about it.
42:08Can't do much about it.
42:09But I will say this,
42:11that if you're in a relationship,
42:14whether you're a man or a woman,
42:15and there's men don't appreciate
42:17the female labor that gets done at times as well.
42:21So I'm just talking about this from one side of things.
42:24There's another side, of course, I get that.
42:26But just talking to my bros,
42:28talking to my brothers in thought here,
42:32if she's not appreciative of what you do,
42:37she's exploiting you.
42:40She's privileged.
42:42She's aristocratic.
42:43You're a serf, a slave, a lackey,
42:46not even an employee.
42:48Most bosses will thank their employees.
42:50But if she's not appreciative
42:53of what you do,
42:57then she's exploiting you.
42:59And that's why appreciation is so important.
43:00Appreciation is the reminder
43:02that you're human to them.
43:05Appreciation is the reminder.
43:07How many times do women say,
43:08you know, we've got to have
43:10at least one
43:12international male taxpayer a day.
43:14Holy crap.
43:15Those guys pay
43:16three quarters,
43:1880% of the taxes
43:19and we get three quarters,
43:2180% of the benefits.
43:22We really should show
43:23a male taxpayer appreciation day.
43:26Now, the fact that this is incomprehensible to people
43:29tells you just about everything you need to know
43:31about the modern world.
43:33If you were to try and move and say,
43:35look,
43:35we've got to have a male taxpayer appreciation day
43:37because we pay most of the taxes
43:39and get very few of the benefits.
43:41Or how about
43:43let's do
43:45international men's day
43:46to thank them
43:47for the fact that they can get drafted
43:48and we can't.
43:50Right?
43:50In America,
43:51you've got to sign up for selective service, right?
43:53It means you can get drafted
43:53and women can't.
43:55Let's have that.
43:56How about
43:57international
43:58men's infrastructure appreciation day?
44:01Thank you for all of the things you do
44:03to make our lives
44:04infinitely more comfortable
44:05than our ancestors,
44:06which we don't do
44:07for the most part.
44:08Now,
44:10if there were to be any kind of movement
44:12to thank men
44:13for their sacrifice,
44:15their service,
44:16their productivity,
44:18their labor,
44:19the dangers
44:20and difficulties of what men do,
44:23if there would be this massive revolt
44:24and rebellion
44:25and eye-rolling
44:26and,
44:26I mean,
44:27honestly,
44:27you would get attacked.
44:29Like,
44:29you would literally get death threats
44:30for trying to
44:32organize something
44:33that showed any kind of appreciation
44:36for men.
44:36I mean,
44:37straight men.
44:37You can do
44:38all the gay stuff you want,
44:39right?
44:40But,
44:41straight men who work in infrastructure
44:42and do
44:44get drafted
44:46from time to time
44:46or at least have to
44:47have that as a thing
44:49that happens,
44:49right?
44:51If you were to try
44:51and organize anything
44:52that showed appreciation
44:53for men,
44:55I mean,
44:55women as a whole
44:56and society as a whole
44:57would lose their shit
44:58completely.
44:59They would go
44:59absolutely mental.
45:01In the same way,
45:03if the slave
45:04stands up to the master
45:06and says,
45:06you better appreciate
45:07what I'm doing,
45:09the master would just
45:10smack him down,
45:11right?
45:12You get back in your
45:13fucking place.
45:14You shut up and do this work.
45:16You don't ask for appreciation.
45:18My appreciation
45:18is not beating you
45:20and letting you live.
45:22That is
45:23where we're at
45:25in the West.
45:26That for men
45:27to ask for appreciation,
45:29to ask,
45:30to stop being dehumanized,
45:31to ask for
45:32thanks for what we do,
45:34provokes a psychotic
45:36level
45:37of
45:38rage
45:39and contempt
45:41and hatred
45:41from a significant portion
45:43of the rest of the population.
45:46And it's a great way
45:47to take over a country
45:48because you make men's life
45:49so unpleasant
45:50that they don't want
45:51to defend the system
45:51and you can walk in
45:52and take it over,
45:54which is kind of
45:56what's going on.
45:57All right.
45:58Have yourselves
45:59a glorious afternoon.
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46:11Have a glorious afternoon,
46:12my friends.
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