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00:00It's a story we all know. A story that repeats itself countless times, in different

00:08shapes and contexts. You meet someone, the connection is electrifying. There's a spark, an energy

00:15which seems to promise something special. And for a while, everything seems perfect. The conversations

00:22flow, the laughter is genuine and time flies. Messages come easily, they get

00:29plans. And hope grows that this time, things might go differently. Each notification

00:35brings a smile. Each floor seems like a step toward something bigger. Then, suddenly,

00:42Silence begins. A silence that comes without warning, leaving you perplexed. The messages

00:48Newspapers stop. Notifications that were once constant are now absent. Your messages

00:55They receive no response. Every attempt to contact them seems to fall on deaf ears. They arrive

01:02Apologetics in dribs and drabs. Busy week. Sorry, I'm swamped. Confusion sets in. You wonder...

01:09if you've done something wrong. You wonder what went wrong as you retrace every interaction.

01:15in your mind. Every word, every gesture, everything is analyzed. It's lonely and frustrating.

01:23So you retreat. You decide to protect yourself, to no longer invest energy in something that

01:28It seems to vanish. You stop looking for them. You focus on your life. And slowly, you find your

01:35Peace. You find comfort in your passions, in your work, in your friends. Just as you begin

01:43As they turn the page, a message pops up. Random. As if nothing had happened.

01:49Hey, how are you? A message that reopens old wounds. Or a reaction to your story. A little something.

01:56a gesture that seems insignificant but which brings to mind the whole past. Suddenly,

02:02The person who disappeared has returned, knocking on your digital door. As if time had stood still.

02:08had passed. Their return is disconcerting. You wonder what they want. Why now? Why?

02:15now? After all this silence? What has changed? This is the classic dynamic that

02:21It leaves so many people confused and emotionally exhausted. A seemingly never-ending cycle.

02:28You find yourself questioning their motives and your own worth. Each return reopens old

02:34questions. Why do they come back just when you're letting go? We may never know,

02:41but what matters is how we choose to respond.

02:46This is where the principle of scarcity comes into play. It is a profound psychological mechanism that influences

02:53our choices every day, often without realizing it. When something is rare

03:00or difficult to obtain, our brain perceives it as more valuable, more desirable.

03:08We value what is less available. This applies to people, not just to

03:13things. Whether it's an exclusive item or someone's attention, scarcity

03:19increases the allure. This is why we often desire what seems outside our reach.

03:24reach. When you stop being available, your attention becomes scarce. People

03:31around you they begin to notice your absence, and what was previously taken for granted, now

03:37becomes an object of desire. The other person feels your absence, and suddenly you become

03:45a challenge. The human mind is attracted to what it cannot easily have, and the distance

03:51It creates mystery and curiosity. This isn't always conscious. It's an instinctive reaction. Often

03:58We don't even realize how much scarcity affects our feelings, and our

04:03actions. Our brains are programmed to pursue what we might lose. Fear

04:09of missing an opportunity, a person or an experience, pushes us to act, even against

04:15our logic. Their return is often linked to the recovery of what is missing, not to

04:21you personally. They often chase the idea of what you represent, rather than your true self.

04:26essence. Scarcity makes you more intriguing, but it doesn't reflect your true value.

04:33The longing you inspire in others arises from their perception of loss, not from a

04:38authentic assessment of who you are. Their research is a predictable response to yours.

04:44Absence, not proof of your worth. Remember, true worth doesn't depend on how difficult you are.

04:51to get, but by who you really are. Validation is a powerful motivator. Some people crave

05:01attention to feel good about themselves. When you gave them attention, you fueled their

05:07ego. When you withdraw, they lose that validation and feel insecure. Seeking contact is

05:15often a way to check if they still have an effect on you. The conversation can be

05:21superficial. They just want to know they can still get your attention. Once they get it,

05:30They might disappear again. This cycle is about their need for validation, not connection.

05:37authentic. Understanding this helps you avoid getting caught up in their emotional game.

05:45Early relationships involve subtle power dynamics. The less available person often holds the upper hand.

05:52more power. Being unpredictable, they keep you on edge and in a vulnerable position. When

05:59You ignore them, turn the tables, and regain control. Your silence disturbs their sense of purpose.

06:06of domination. They are looking for you to regain control, to see if they can take you back. If you respond with

06:14enthusiasm, give back power. Their return is often a move to re-establish dominance,

06:21Not a genuine interest. Recognizing this power play is crucial. Don't fall back into the old pattern.

06:28where they hold all the cards. We are programmed to avoid loss. Loss aversion is

06:39powerful. When someone has your attention, they take it for granted. Your silence signals a

06:46potential loss, triggering their fear. It's not always about losing you, but about losing

06:52an option or source of validation. This fear drives them to seek you out, hoping to keep you from slipping.

07:00go away. Their efforts may seem intense at first, but fade away once they feel

07:07safe again. It's an instinctive reaction, not a sign of deep connection. They're motivated

07:13from the fear of losing what they already had. This is why the cycle repeats itself.

07:21Ignoring someone may seem rewarding at first. You're taking control and protecting them.

07:27your peace. But quickly. Guilt and anxiety creep in. You're playing. You wonder if you should

07:35respond, fearing a return to the same cycle. There is also sadness. You wish things were

07:43simpler and more honest. The role of the ignorant is emotionally complex, not so easy

07:49as it seems. It's a position born of necessity, not desire. You find yourself balancing

07:56Power, guilt, and the hope of something real. Ultimately, you just want a connection.

08:03Authentic, not games. The ignored person experiences confusion, then wounded pride.

08:13They wonder why you remained silent and their ego feels hurt. The need for

08:19Validation grows. They want to solve the mystery of your silence. Hope and obsession take over.

08:26They're looking for you, eager for a response. If you don't respond, they'll check your social media,

08:33becoming obsessed. When you finally answer, they feel relieved. But it doesn't last long. The cycle

08:41It creates emotional turmoil, not genuine affection. It's about appeasing their ego, not building

08:47a true connection. This swing is exhausting for both parties. The model is driven

08:54from discomfort, not love. When they come back, pause before responding. Give yourself time to

09:03React calmly, not emotionally. Respond simply and neutrally, without games, without

09:10coldness. A polite and brief response is sufficient. Observe their actions. They make a

09:17Real effort, or do they disappear again? Let their consistency guide your next move. If you want

09:25More, be direct about your needs. I enjoy talking to you, but I want something more.

09:32stable. This shifts the dynamic towards honest communication. Self-respect is

09:39from clarity, not from playing. The cycle of being ignored and sought after is unsatisfying. Often

09:50we find ourselves trapped in dynamics that make us feel unimportant, as if our

09:55value depended on the attention of others. But this search for external approval leaves us

10:02empty and insecure, unable to find true inner peace. True happiness comes from a strong

10:09Self-esteem. When you learn to appreciate yourself, every day becomes an opportunity to grow and improve.

10:16without having to prove anything to anyone. Self-confidence allows you to face

10:23challenges with courage and serenity. When you know your worth, you don't tolerate being treated like

10:29an option. Stop accepting compromises that make you feel less than you are. You start to

10:36choose carefully the people and situations around you, protecting your energy and

10:42your well-being. High self-esteem means you seek genuine and consistent connections. You prefer

10:50relationships based on mutual respect, where you can be yourself without fear of being judged

10:56or misunderstood. You're not attracted to games or inconsistency. Choose to invest your time

11:03and your energies only in what makes you feel good, letting go of those who are not willing to offer you

11:09the same authenticity. Authentic relationships are based on trust and communication.

11:17open. Only in this way can deep and lasting bonds be built, where both feel

11:23seen, heard, and respected. You're not afraid of losing someone who isn't right for you.

11:30Understand that letting go of what doesn't value you is an act of love towards yourself.

11:35and opens the door to new opportunities. Focus on building a life you love.

11:41and on cultivating true connections. Dedicate time to your passions, surround yourself with people who

11:48They inspire you and believe in you. And never stop investing in your personal growth.

11:54When you value yourself, you attract people who value you too. Your relationships become

12:00more sincere, profound and fulfilling, because they arise from a foundation of respect and authenticity.

12:08The real secret is to stop playing and start living for yourself. Only then

12:13you will be able to discover the strength and beauty that resides within you and build a life

12:18that truly reflects who you are.

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