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Born with Hanhart syndrome, Nick could have let life’s challenges define him… but instead, he chose to defy the odds 🚀💪! In this powerful conversation with Brian Rose, Nick shares his incredible journey from adversity to triumph 🏆🔥.
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✅ How to overcome any obstacle 🚧
✅ The secrets to building an unbreakable mindset 🧠⚡
✅ Why YOU have no excuses to chase your dreams 🎯💯
This is a must-watch!🎥🔥
🍿Watch The Full Episode: http://londonreal.tv/santonastasso
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00:00It's always the psychology that is holding you back.
00:05You don't get the life you have, you get the life you focus on.
00:07Don't miss that.
00:08He's a global speaker and bodybuilder, ladies and gentlemen, Nick Santanastasso.
00:14For some reason I feel like you were born and then you just went on the stage, but for
00:19most of your high school days up until you were 20, you were unhappy with yourself.
00:23How did that change?
00:25Yeah, how did it change?
00:28I remember coming home one day and I sat both my parents down and I said, listen, I want
00:32to become a wrestler.
00:33And the first thing that my mom said was, absolutely not.
00:36You're going to hit your arm.
00:37Your bone's going to come through your skin.
00:38What are you going to do then?
00:39And I looked at them and I said, we need to cut my arm off.
00:41That's a savage move, man.
00:43That's how much pain I was in, that I was willing to do whatever it takes to get out
00:47of the fire and into a cooler place.
00:51Wrestling shifted my identity and that led me to becoming a bodybuilder, a prankster,
00:56a speaker.
00:57It all started with a kid who hated himself and wasn't going to take his life and would
01:02do anything to be loved.
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02:54It has never been so easy to connect, share, and bring people together.
02:59We're learning from others and finding the best in ourselves.
03:08Challenging our beliefs.
03:12Sharing our vulnerability.
03:16Overcoming our fears.
03:21Transforming ourselves so we can transform the world.
03:27How far can we go?
03:28This is London Real.
03:29I am Brian Rose.
03:30My guest today is...
03:42This is London Real.
03:43I am Brian Rose.
03:44My guest today is Nick Santonastasso, the world-renowned speaker, entrepreneur, and mindset coach.
03:50You were born with a very rare genetic condition called Handheart Syndrome, which caused underdeveloped
03:56limbs and organs, and you were given a less than 30% chance to live.
04:00Instead, you have defied all medical expectations and transformed this adversity into your life's
04:06purpose.
04:08You are the best-selling author of Victim to Victor, How to Overcome the Victim Mentality
04:13to Live the Life You Love, and spent four years touring with Tony Robbins as a featured
04:17speaker, empowering massive audiences with your story of resilience, determination, and
04:22self-mastery.
04:23Your online content has reached over a billion viewers, and your training programs have helped
04:27over a million people overcome their limitations, develop an unshakable mindset, and take control
04:33of their lives.
04:34You've said that the biggest disability is a bad mindset, and your mission is to help
04:39people break through fear and self-doubt to unlock their full potential.
04:43Ultimately, you believe that adversity is a gift, and true strength comes from owning
04:47your story, taking responsibility, and pushing past excuses.
04:52Nick, welcome to London Real in Dubai.
04:55I'm so glad to be here, brother.
04:56Thanks for having me.
04:57It's really my pleasure, man, and I can't wait to dive into this and really go deep
05:01on your story, who you are, and again, your future, part of which is in this beautiful
05:06city of Dubai.
05:07You once said, a man with no legs and one arm statistically shouldn't be happier than
05:13people with a full body, yet here we are.
05:16And you said that they deserve more love, fulfillment, purpose, and guidance if they
05:20are open to it.
05:22And I'm reminded of an event I went to a couple weeks ago that was invite-only, very
05:28private, some very high-level people there, members of the royal family, where you spoke,
05:33and it was really interesting.
05:36I didn't know what to expect.
05:38I've been super fortunate to share the room with some really powerful speakers, but I
05:44found it really interesting for a few reasons.
05:46First of all, the way you communicated and the way that people walked away with actionable
05:51information.
05:52And then also how you're really a metaphor to remind people to maybe think about their
05:58life differently.
05:59And I think a lot of people walked out of there thinking to themselves, man, maybe I
06:03should think differently about my life.
06:06And it was really powerful, man.
06:08So you developed this kind of amazing skill.
06:11Yeah.
06:13Thank you for that.
06:15The truth is, I'll come out right out of the gates of most of my success came from
06:23not wanting to feel inadequate.
06:27My whole life I was always doubted, and my whole life maybe picked last, or they didn't
06:32expect me to do these things.
06:33I mean, from the moment I was born, they already put limitations on me that I couldn't feed
06:37myself, dress myself.
06:38And it's interesting, when I got into business, not directly but indirectly, I would hear
06:43things like, he only gets stages because he's disabled, or he dropped out of college.
06:49He doesn't have any business experience.
06:51Why would we listen to a kid in his 20s?
06:53He's not tactical enough.
06:55It's just motivation.
06:56And so that stung, but I transmuted it as an alchemist.
07:01I transmuted that energy, and I was like, okay, if I'm not tactical enough, I'm going
07:06to do everything in my power to learn all these tools and all these healing modalities
07:10and psychology and neuroscience.
07:11So I'm so tactical where I cannot be denied.
07:14And so what you've seen at that event that I put on was eight years of digging the
07:21well of knowledge, and then equipping other people with those pieces of knowledge.
07:26The way that I teach, the way that it's active, the way that they're getting engaged.
07:29I don't care what your network is, who you are.
07:31We're going to play.
07:32This is my playground.
07:33We're going to play.
07:34And I just believe that all of us are one piece of information or one sentence or one
07:40new belief away from a whole different life because that's what changed my life.
07:45I got into the room and I heard someone say something, and once I heard it, I can never
07:48unhear it.
07:49And so I just want to be that for other people.
07:52And I've also realized that I've been uniquely designed in a unique vessel to
07:56pierce through the common word.
07:59You were talking in the beginning of that kind of speech you gave, and you said
08:03something like if people hear something, they remember 10%.
08:06If they write it down, they remember 30%.
08:08And if they say something, they remember like 70%.
08:11Something like that.
08:12I don't know.
08:13Yeah, yeah.
08:14Great memory.
08:15And so we talk about this with communicators and the best communicators in the world.
08:19There's a learning style of passive learning, and then there's a learning style of
08:23active learning.
08:24And school, no offense to school, but most schools are very passive.
08:28Meaning the teacher is speaking at you, right?
08:30And it's boring.
08:31You don't really retain much.
08:32But neuroscience shows that if you physically write things down, you can
08:35retain more information.
08:36But if you want to retain the most information, you've got to keep your body
08:39in what we call a learning state.
08:41And a learning state is where I have you wave at me, say yes, talk to your
08:45neighbor, shout out.
08:47And not to be motivational.
08:48It's just let's make this fun and enjoyable as we learn, and let's make it
08:51interactive.
08:52And so what you'll notice is 95% of the time, when you're talking to someone,
08:5695% of communicators in the world don't teach like that.
08:59I know.
09:00And so you've probably never even seen anything like it.
09:02And so when I teach that way, not only does it make people retain it, but it's a
09:07total different experience.
09:08And when you truly understand communication, people won't always remember
09:12what you said, but they'll always remember how you made them feel.
09:15And if I can make you feel something, if I can make you think away and feel
09:19something, you'll always remember me.
09:21And that's what happened.
09:22And you brought that guy up to talk as well, which is helpful.
09:25And I was scanning the room when you were talking, and almost everybody was
09:29glued to you.
09:30And again, you're asking hard questions.
09:32You're asking people to admit things that maybe were hard to admit about the way
09:35they look at themselves and the way they feel.
09:37And people were raising hands.
09:39And again, this is a high-level group of people.
09:41Very high level.
09:42And they know other people are watching them.
09:43So it's hard to get someone, a billionaire, to raise his hand and say,
09:46I feel inadequate.
09:47But that's kind of what you were doing.
09:49Of course.
09:50And my team was scared about that.
09:52Literally, we're like, hey, Nick, don't scare these people.
09:55And I was thinking about it for a very long time of like, what am I going to say
10:01and how am I going to display myself?
10:03Because this was like a showcase of who Nick was.
10:05And at the end of the day, I was like, I can't go surface level.
10:08I can only go deep.
10:09And so what I did, if you noticed, and for those that are listening, for those
10:13that want to influence, improve your communication, influence, persuasion,
10:16whatever you want to call it, is I led from the front.
10:19And what I mean by that is I started off the seminar with a really vulnerable
10:23story of myself so they know that Nick is just like me and he creates
10:28a safe container where I can maybe be a little bit vulnerable.
10:31But these are skills called pre-frames.
10:34Have you heard of a pre-frame?
10:35I have.
10:36Right?
10:37So a pre-frame is me setting the frame before we go into the experience
10:40so you have the best experience.
10:41And so I said things like, you know, if I'm going to give you all of me,
10:46you've got to give me all of you.
10:47Is that okay?
10:49And they say, yes.
10:50Boom.
10:51Psychological buy-in.
10:52Right?
10:53This is a room full of highly intelligent individuals and we're always
10:56looking for the small shifts.
10:57How many of you in here are open to a small shift that can change your life?
11:00Yes.
11:01Okay.
11:02Psychological buy-in.
11:03So I'm getting your buy-in before I take you through the experience
11:05because once I give you the experience, you're like, I already told them
11:08I was going to go all in.
11:09I can't lie to myself.
11:11So it's all methodically designed to make sure that they get the best
11:14experience.
11:15And the biggest belief that I want people to adopt and understand is that
11:20what you said in the intro, it's not the mechanics or it's not the body.
11:23It's always the psychology that is holding you back.
11:28And even if you have mechanics, when you upgrade your psychology,
11:31you look at the mechanics differently as well.
11:33So if I can get the crowd and even ballers to be bought in and understand
11:37that it's the psychology, they'll then be ready to receive the blessings
11:40that I have for them.
11:41I'm glad you went all in and didn't hold back.
11:44And that took you eight years to really master this entire speaking style
11:49and kind of how you walk people through this?
11:51Yes.
11:53Let me say a few things for the audience.
11:55The first thing is, one of the greatest things that I've learned
11:58working with the most highest-level individuals in the world
12:01is that when you see people making more money than you,
12:06bigger podcasts than you, whatever it is,
12:09initially we want to be like, that person's better than me.
12:12And that's really disempowering to think that you're not superior
12:15and they are superior.
12:16But the mindset shift that I'd like the audience to adopt is
12:20it's not that they're better than you,
12:22but ask the question of what do they know that I don't
12:26and how can I get the information?
12:28The truth is, we talked about this offstage,
12:31you've been podcasting when I was in high school, right?
12:34And I love that and I think that's incredible.
12:36So of course, you have more mastery than most.
12:39You've been doing it for a very long time.
12:41You have information that I don't have.
12:43I have information that you don't have.
12:45We can exchange information to collapse time
12:47and that's what the greatest teachers do.
12:49So for me, yeah, I've spent eight years of my life
12:51digging the well of knowledge,
12:53but also, success leaves clues.
12:56And so what do I mean by that?
12:58Well, whatever you want to be the greatest at,
13:00find the greatest and observe them
13:02and study them and analyze them.
13:04What are they doing right?
13:06What are their patterns?
13:07How do they communicate?
13:08What's their tonality?
13:10You can gain so much from just observing.
13:12I mean, you're observing me, I'm observing you.
13:16When we're in different scenarios,
13:17we can see how we act
13:18and so success leaves clues
13:20and most is caught, not taught.
13:22It's observed and then you implement.
13:24And so yeah, this is eight years
13:26and I'm still learning.
13:29And ideally, tomorrow when you see me,
13:32I'm even better than I was today
13:34and I think our whole intention as high value men,
13:36whatever you want to call it,
13:38our intention is to build ourself
13:40into the greatest version of man
13:42and give it to the world.
13:44That's why we do what we do.
13:46My human experience is for me,
13:47but ultimately, I also believe
13:48the majority of my human experience is for you.
13:51For you to see something in me
13:53and have a gift, have a blessing.
13:56But if Nick's not on,
13:58I rob you of a gift.
14:00So it's much bigger than us.
14:01Yeah, I had a guest one time
14:03that she said,
14:04before you ever leave the house,
14:06you need to make sure you love yourself
14:08because if you don't,
14:09it's like leaving the house
14:10without taking a shower.
14:11It's like leaving the house
14:12without brushing your teeth.
14:13People are going to feel
14:14something that's off about you
14:15and so your first responsibility
14:17is to kind of present the best version
14:19of yourself to the world.
14:20And if you think of yourself
14:21as a gift to humanity,
14:22it leads to a life well lived.
14:25If you think of yourself
14:26as a gift to yourself
14:27and I tried that for 40 years,
14:28it leads to a very,
14:30very pointless existence, I think.
14:32Yeah, it's very interesting.
14:33Yeah.
14:34Going nerdy and deep,
14:36but the external world
14:38is a reflection of the internal.
14:40Everything's a mirror.
14:41Life will give you
14:42exactly what you ask of it
14:43and the truth is
14:44most of us don't ask for enough
14:45because we don't think
14:46we're enough, right?
14:47It's like our success
14:49is directly correlated
14:50to our self-worth.
14:52If you think you're worth $10,000,
14:55so be it.
14:56If you think you're worth $50,000,
14:57so be it.
14:58Some people think
14:59they're worth a billion.
15:00Some people put different
15:01values on their time.
15:02But life will give you
15:03exactly what you ask of it
15:04and your self-worth
15:06will dictate
15:07what you ask of life.
15:08It's very interesting.
15:09It is.
15:10And even for people
15:11that are listening,
15:12we were just talking about
15:13with my group networking
15:15and how many times,
15:17especially on The Come Up
15:18and for those that are listening,
15:19have you been in a room
15:20where you were like,
15:21I don't know if I feel
15:23like I should be in this room.
15:24I feel like everybody's
15:25richer than me.
15:26I feel like everybody's
15:27smarter than me.
15:28Well, great.
15:29One, that's an incredible
15:30room to be in,
15:32but instead of focusing
15:33on you and how small you are,
15:34shift the question
15:35and walk into the room
15:36and say,
15:37how can I be a blessing
15:38to someone here today?
15:39And watch how the energy changes.
15:40Watch how your whole dynamic
15:41and the way that people
15:42treat you
15:43and the way that you
15:44want to serve
15:45totally changes.
15:46And I think
15:47if we can just keep
15:48that primary question
15:49of how can I be a blessing
15:50to someone today,
15:51it'll change
15:52the quality of your life
15:53because
15:54if the internal
15:55or the external
15:56is a mirror
15:57of the internal world
15:58and whatever you believe in,
15:59you know,
16:00God, universe,
16:01fire, power, energy,
16:02frequency,
16:03whatever you believe in,
16:04if the universe
16:05of the world
16:06is a mirror for you,
16:07most people's hopes
16:08and wish and prayers
16:09are like a vending machine.
16:10Meaning,
16:11can you give me this?
16:12I want more money.
16:13I want the girl.
16:14I want this.
16:15I want that.
16:16But what if you
16:17shifted the question
16:18and every single day
16:19you woke up
16:20and said,
16:21whoever you are,
16:22how can I serve you?
16:23The universe,
16:24God,
16:25whatever you believe in
16:26mirrors you
16:27and goes,
16:28no,
16:29how can I serve you?
16:30Life changes.
16:32Powerful, man.
16:33Powerful.
16:34One of the big exercises
16:35you did at the event
16:36was to get people
16:37to catch themselves
16:39when they were thinking
16:40about something
16:41and I think you might have
16:42alluded to it a bit
16:43with the
16:44Bigger Podcast
16:45or Money Mom,
16:46More Money
16:47and as opposed
16:48to talk down to yourself
16:49that I don't have this
16:50or I'm not good enough
16:51to try to find another way
16:52to reframe that
16:53and I feel like
16:54that's a big powerful part
16:55of your teaching.
16:56Do most people walk around
16:57and maybe with the advent
16:58of social media
16:59there's now so many things
17:00to compare ourselves now.
17:01Do they just
17:02make themselves smaller
17:03kind of all the time
17:04and they could really
17:05flip that around?
17:06100%.
17:07I think we all do
17:08and even me
17:09I'm not
17:10preaching from a place
17:11of perfect.
17:12You're talking to a guy
17:13who
17:14his emotional home
17:15is probably inadequacy
17:16and I like
17:17work on that
17:18and let me just
17:19say a few things.
17:20The first thing is
17:21understand that
17:22your personal
17:23development tools
17:24only
17:25get to be used
17:26when things don't
17:27go your way
17:28and so what if
17:29the times where
17:30you're triggered
17:31or the times where
17:32things don't go your way
17:33are actually your
17:34greatest blessings
17:35because it gives you
17:36an opportunity to work
17:37in the arena
17:38it gives you an
17:39opportunity to work
17:40on yourself
17:41but training over
17:42a million people
17:43live from stage
17:44it doesn't matter
17:45what your background
17:46is, what your
17:47net worth is
17:48what your status
17:49is, what your
17:50beliefs are
17:51patterns are just
17:52patterns
17:53humans are just
17:54humans
17:55in the sense
17:56that we're very
17:58many of people
17:59find themselves
18:00in the pattern
18:01of focusing on
18:02what they don't have
18:03versus what they
18:04do have
18:05and it's very
18:06interesting because
18:07all of us listening
18:08know people
18:09with the cars
18:10and with the
18:11houses
18:12and with the
18:13women
18:14whatever you want
18:15to call it
18:16and they
18:17it's still not
18:18enough
18:19and we learn
18:20this lesson
18:21hopefully we learn
18:22this lesson
18:23in our lifetime
18:24or maybe we have
18:25to come back
18:26again and learn
18:27and maybe this
18:28materialistic will
18:29fill a spiritual
18:30hole
18:31I mean you and I
18:32both know
18:33there is a point
18:34in our life
18:35where we were like
18:36what do you mean
18:37more money
18:38more problems
18:39I don't know
18:40about you
18:41but I'm like
18:42what do you mean
18:43more money
18:44more problems
18:45give me the
18:46problems
18:47and give me the
18:48money
18:49it's no money
18:50more problems
18:51is what we
18:52thought
18:53and we thought
18:54money would
18:55fix everything
18:56but remember
18:57when
18:58my rich friends
18:59would tell me
19:00not all money
19:01is good money
19:02I'm like
19:03I'll take the bad
19:04money
19:05what do you mean
19:06not all money
19:07you know what I'm
19:08saying
19:09but then you
19:10realize that
19:11nothing
19:12materialistic
19:13will fill
19:14that
19:15internal hole
19:16that spiritual
19:17hole
19:18so
19:19going back
19:20to the
19:21focus
19:22pattern
19:23one of the
19:24biggest
19:25problems
19:26that we
19:27have
19:28is that
19:29when
19:30we
19:31focus
19:32on
19:33something
19:34that
19:35we
19:36can't
19:37do
19:38we
19:39can't
19:40focus
19:41on
19:42something
19:43that
19:44we
19:45can't
19:46do
19:47we
19:48can't
19:49focus
19:50on
19:51something
19:52that
19:53we
19:54can't
19:55do
19:56we
19:57can't
19:58focus
19:59on
20:00something
20:01that
20:02we
20:03can't
20:04do
20:05we
20:06can't
20:07focus
20:08on
20:09something
20:10that
20:11we
20:12can't
20:13do
20:14we
20:15can't
20:16focus
20:17on
20:18something
20:19that
20:20we
20:21can't
20:22do
20:24and so just think
20:25how much
20:26work it's going to
20:27require someone to
20:28rewire their brain
20:29when their whole life
20:30they're always
20:31focused on what's
20:32wrong
20:33yeah it's
20:34we were talking
20:35a little bit
20:36earlier
20:37you know
20:38and for some
20:39reason I feel
20:40like you were
20:41born and
20:42then you just
20:43went on the
20:44stage and
20:45then you hung
20:46out with Tony
20:47Robbins and
20:48this is just
20:49like of course
20:50it happened
20:51this way
20:52and of course
20:53you know
20:54you were
20:55born and
20:56then you
20:57went on the
20:58stage and
20:59you hung
21:00out with Tony
21:01Robbins and
21:02this is just
21:03like of course
21:04it happened
21:05this way
21:06and
21:07then you
21:08went on the
21:09stage and
21:10you hung
21:11out with Tony
21:12Robbins and
21:13this is just
21:14like of course
21:15it happened
21:16this way
21:17and
21:18then you
21:19went on the
21:20stage and
21:21then you
21:22hung
21:23out with Tony
21:24Robbins and
21:25this is just
21:26like of course
21:27it happened
21:28this way
21:29and
21:30then you
21:31went on the
21:32stage and
21:33then you
21:34hung
21:35out with Tony
21:36Robbins and
21:37this is just
21:38like of course
21:39it happened
21:40this way
21:41and
21:42then you
21:43went on the
21:44stage and
21:45then you
21:46hung
21:47out with Tony
21:48Robbins and
21:49this is just
21:50like of course
21:51it happened
21:52this way
21:53and
21:54then you
21:55went on the
21:56stage and
21:57then you
21:58hung
21:59out with Tony
22:00Robbins and
22:01this is just
22:02like of course
22:03it happened
22:04this way
22:05and
22:06then you
22:07went on the
22:08stage and
22:09then you
22:10hung
22:11out with Tony
22:12Robbins and
22:13this is just
22:14like of course
22:15it happened
22:16this way
22:17and
22:18then you
22:19went on the
22:20stage and
22:21then you
22:22hung
22:23out with Tony
22:24Robbins and
22:25this is just
22:26like of course
22:27it happened
22:28this way
22:29and
22:30then you
22:31went on the
22:32stage and
22:33then you
22:34hung
22:35out with Tony
22:36Robbins and
22:37this is just
22:38like of course
22:39it happened
22:40this way
22:41and
22:42then you
22:43went on the
22:44stage and
22:45then you
22:46hung
22:47out with Tony
22:48Robbins and
22:49this is just
22:50like of course
22:51it happened
22:52this way
22:53and
22:54then you
22:55went on the
22:56stage and
22:57then you
22:58hung
22:59out with Tony
23:00Robbins and
23:01this is just
23:02like of course
23:03it happened
23:04this way
23:05and
23:06then you
23:07went on the
23:08stage and
23:09then you
23:10hung
23:11out with Tony
23:12Robbins and
23:13this is just
23:14like of course
23:15it happened
23:16this way
23:17and
23:18then you
23:19went on the
23:20stage and
23:21then you
23:22hung
23:23out with Tony
23:24Robbins and
23:25this is just
23:26like of course
23:27it happened
23:28this way
23:29and
23:30then you
23:31went on the
23:32stage and
23:33then you
23:34hung
23:35out with Tony
23:36Robbins and
23:37this is just
23:38like of course
23:39it happened
23:40this way
23:41and
23:42then you
23:43went on the
23:44stage and
23:45then you
23:46hung
23:47out with Tony
23:48Robbins and
23:49this is just
23:50like of course
23:51it happened
23:52this way
23:53and
23:54then you
23:55went on the
23:56stage and
23:57then you
23:58hung
23:59out with Tony
24:00Robbins and
24:01this is just
24:02like of course
24:03it happened
24:04this way
24:05and
24:06then you
24:07went on the
24:08stage and
24:09then you
24:10hung
24:11out with Tony
24:12Robbins and
24:13this is just
24:14like of course
24:15it happened
24:16this way
24:17and
24:18then you
24:19went on the
24:20stage and
24:21then you
24:22hung
24:23out with Tony
24:24Robbins and
24:25this is just
24:26like of course
24:27it happened
24:28this way
24:29and
24:30then you
24:31went on the
24:32stage and
24:33then you
24:34hung
24:35out with Tony
24:36Robbins and
24:37this is just
24:38like of course
24:39it happened
24:40this way
24:41and
24:42then you
24:43hung
24:44out with Tony
24:45Robbins and
24:46this is just
24:47like of course
24:48it happened
24:49this way
24:50and
24:51then you
24:52hung
24:53out with Tony
24:54Robbins and
24:55this is just
24:56like of course
24:57it happened
24:58this way
24:59and
25:00then you
25:01hung
25:02out with Tony
25:03Robbins and
25:04this is just
25:05like of course
25:06it happened
25:07this way
25:08and
25:09then you
25:10hung
25:11out with Tony
25:12Robbins and
25:13this is just
25:14like of course
25:15it happened
25:16this way
25:17and
25:18then you
25:19hung
25:20out with Tony
25:21Robbins and
25:22this is just
25:23like of course
25:24it happened
25:25this way
25:26and
25:27then you
25:28hung
25:29out with Tony
25:30Robbins and
25:31this is just
25:32like of course
25:33it happened
25:34this way
25:35and
25:36then you
25:37hung
25:38out with Tony
25:39Robbins and
25:40this is just
25:41like of course
25:42it happened
25:43this way
25:44and
25:45then you
25:46hung
25:47out with Tony
25:48Robbins and
25:49this is just
25:50like of course
25:51it happened
25:52this way
25:53and
25:54then you
25:55hung
25:56out with Tony
25:57Robbins and
25:58this is just
25:59like of course
26:00it happened
26:01this way
26:02and
26:03then you
26:04hung
26:05out with Tony
26:06Robbins and
26:07this is just
26:08like of course
26:09it happened
26:10this way
26:11and
26:13then you
26:14hung
26:15out with Tony
26:16Robbins and
26:17this is just
26:18like of course
26:19it happened
26:20this way
26:21and
26:22then you
26:23hung
26:24out with Tony
26:25Robbins and
26:26this is just
26:27like of course
26:28it happened
26:29this way
26:30and
26:31then you
26:32hung
26:33out with Tony
26:34Robbins and
26:35this is just
26:36like of course
26:37it happened
26:38this way
26:39and
26:40then you
26:41hung
26:42out with Tony
26:43Robbins and
26:44this is just
26:45like of course
26:46it happened
26:47this way
26:48and
26:49then you
26:50hung
26:51out with Tony
26:52Robbins and
26:53this is just
26:54like of course
26:55it happened
26:56this way
26:57and
26:58then you
26:59hung
27:00out with Tony
27:01Robbins and
27:02this is just
27:03like of course
27:04it happened
27:05this way
27:06and
27:07then you
27:08hung
27:09out with Tony
27:10Robbins and
27:11this is just
27:12like of course
27:13it happened
27:14this way
27:15and
27:16then you
27:17hung
27:18out with Tony
27:19Robbins and
27:20this is just
27:21like of course
27:22it happened
27:23this way
27:24and
27:25then you
27:26hung
27:27out with Tony
27:28Robbins and
27:29this is just
27:30like of course
27:31it happened
27:32this way
27:33and
27:34then you
27:35hung
27:36out with Tony
27:37Robbins and
27:38this is just
27:39like of course
27:40it happened
27:41this way
27:42and
27:43then you
27:44hung
27:45out with Tony
27:46Robbins and
27:47this is just
27:48like of course
27:49it happened
27:50this way
27:51and
27:52then you
27:53hung
27:54out with Tony
27:55Robbins and
27:56this is just
27:57like of course
27:58it happened
27:59this way
28:00and
28:01then you
28:02hung
28:03out with Tony
28:04Robbins and
28:05this is just
28:06like of course
28:07it happened
28:08this way
28:09and
28:10then you
28:11hung
28:12out with Tony
28:13Robbins and
28:14this is just
28:15like of course
28:16it happened
28:17this way
28:18and
28:19then you
28:20hung
28:21out with Tony
28:22Robbins and
28:23this is just
28:24like of course
28:25it happened
28:26this way
28:27and
28:28then you
28:29hung
28:30out with Tony
28:31Robbins and
28:32this is just
28:33like of course
28:34it happened
28:35this way
28:36and
28:37then you
28:38hung
28:39out with Tony
28:40Robbins and
28:41this is just
28:42like of course
28:43it happened
28:44this way
28:45and
28:46then you
28:47hung
28:48out with Tony
28:49Robbins and
28:50this is just
28:51like of course
28:52it happened
28:53this way
28:54and
28:55then you
28:56hung
28:57out with Tony
28:58Robbins and
28:59this is just
29:00like of course
29:01it happened
29:02this way
29:03and
29:04then you
29:05hung
29:07out with Tony
29:08Robbins and
29:09this is just
29:10like of course
29:11it happened
29:12this way
29:13and
29:14then you
29:15hung
29:16out with Tony
29:17Robbins and
29:18this is just
29:19like of course
29:20it happened
29:21this way
29:22and
29:23then you
29:24hung
29:25out with Tony
29:26Robbins and
29:27this is just
29:28like of course
29:29it happened
29:30this way
29:31and
29:32then you
29:33hung
29:34out with Tony
29:35Robbins and
29:36this is just
29:37like of course
29:38it happened
29:39this way
29:40and
29:41then you
29:42hung
29:43out with Tony
29:44Robbins and
29:45this is just
29:46like of course
29:47it happened
29:48this way
29:49and
29:50then you
29:51hung
29:52out with Tony
29:53Robbins and
29:54this is just
29:55like of course
29:56it happened
29:57this way
29:58and
29:59then you
30:00hung
30:01out with Tony
30:02Robbins and
30:03this is just
30:04like of course
30:05it happened
30:06this way
30:07and
30:08then you
30:09hung
30:10out with Tony
30:11Robbins and
30:12this is just
30:13like of course
30:14it happened
30:15this way
30:16and
30:17then you
30:18hung
30:19out with Tony
30:20Robbins and
30:21this is just
30:22like of course
30:23it happened
30:24this way
30:25and
30:26then you
30:27hung
30:28out with Tony
30:29Robbins and
30:30this is just
30:31like of course
30:32it happened
30:33this way
30:34and
30:35I would also say
30:36for those that are
30:37listening
30:38that maybe
30:39don't grow up
30:40grow
30:41didn't grow up
30:42in the perfect
30:43childhood
30:44with the
30:45perfect parents
30:46and the
30:47perfect upbringing
30:48you actually
30:49have the
30:50advantage because
30:51you're more
30:52resourceful than
30:53the guy who
30:54has fed
30:55everything
30:56you are
30:57more resourceful
30:58you have
30:59more adversity
31:00you have
31:01more resilience
31:02like to be a dog, you know what it's like to eat scraps, you know what it's like to
31:06be poor. And so, you actually have an advantage, which is your environment that's sculpted
31:12you into someone who's resourceful. There's more edge there. So, congratulations for the
31:17dogs out there. And good luck to the ones that have been fed everything because the
31:21ones that have been fed everything, they got to keep themselves dangerous because everything
31:26tends to be easy if they were born into wealth. But shout out to the ones that are coming
31:30up from the gutter because you have more of a dog in you than you think.
31:34Yeah, what do you have to cut out of your life right now? One of my mentors once said
31:37there's never an easy time to make a tough decision. And yet, most of us prolong it way
31:42too long until sometimes that decision is just made for us. But we all know, like you
31:47said, the things that don't belong in our lives if we want to get to the next level.
31:50But we're not brave enough or bold enough to rip the damn Band-Aid off. You amputating
31:56your arm, that's a savage move, man. That's a savage move.
32:00And like you said, with decisions, life changes in a moment of decision. And so, I want everybody
32:08to really think about this. It's like, wow, my life, you know, over five years my life
32:11changed. It's like, no, maybe it took you five years to make one decision. Or how many
32:15of you listening right now took you way too long to leave that relationship? It took you
32:19way too long to put down the drugs and become sober. It took you way too long to get into
32:23the gym. But it changed in a moment of decision. And I think that's so important for people
32:28to realize is, especially as men and high-value men, is you need to exercise the muscle to
32:33being decisive and understanding that every single decision you're going to make, you're
32:37going to gain something or you're going to lose something. The only bad decision is not
32:40making a decision. And so, keeping in that decisiveness mentality, you're going to gain
32:46something or you're going to lose something. But like right now, what is a decision that
32:51you need to make that you've been putting off too long? And just by me prompting that
32:55question, there's something that popped into your brain, for those that are listening.
32:59That's the very thing.
33:02Let's talk about this elephant in the room, which is, how the hell are you going to wrestle?
33:06Of course, it's like, of course Nick can wrestle. But again, it's like, you're a bit of a superman,
33:10so of course. And of course he tours with Tony Robbins. We'll get to that too. But I mean,
33:16in Jersey, they don't play games in wrestling. And in wrestling mats in general, they don't
33:20play games. And here you do showing up. Now, it's one thing to come to a practice, ha ha.
33:24But like to get in there and mix it up, that's pretty crazy.
33:28Yeah. So, great question. The first thing that I did was I asked my whole entire team
33:36to not take it easy on me. Like, please don't take it easy on me. I want to be treated normal.
33:43So beat me up. And I also told them, if you play 50%, I'm going to get destroyed in a
33:49live match. So like, you're actually doing me a disservice if you hold back on me. And
33:53asking you shall receive, those boys gave it to me. And that is an analogy for itself
34:03for those that are listening is if you're surrounded by yes men and yes women who never
34:10disagree with you, never call you out on your stuff, that isn't love. Love is not lies.
34:18Love is truth. Love is direct. And you really know who your tribe is when you can be direct
34:26and they'll still love you anyway. But how many times have you ever tried to communicate
34:29directly to someone and that like triggered them and threw you off and then the relationship
34:33was ruined? That person wasn't truly meant to be in your life. But the ones that are
34:36truly there, you have to agree to disagree and you have to be able to receive that tough
34:41love. And so for me, I asked for the tough love. But also my whole life, my brother would
34:46always test wrestling moves out of me and teach me different things. But yeah, it was
34:50just like anything, coming in and figuring out my own style. Observing, analyzing, figuring
34:55out what was my way to take someone down. What is my way to stay off my back? And also
35:00focusing on my strengths. And so when I look at wrestling as this sport, most people would
35:06be like, oh, like your main focus was the win. My main focus wasn't a win. My main focus
35:12was to not get pinned to give up the full six points. I had teammates with all their
35:17arms and all their legs and they would get put on their back and give up the full six
35:20points. I knew that if I could just stay off my back, I was valuable. And so instead of,
35:27you know, maybe I wasn't the one that they sent out because they knew they were going
35:29to get full points. But if they needed someone to not give up the full six, they were going
35:35to put the guy that cut his arm off, that would do whatever it took to stay off his
35:38damn back. And that was my strength. So for those that are listening, like I said, cut
35:44off the weaknesses, but identify your strengths. And that's an analogy for business as well.
35:49I think some of the greatest CEOs and entrepreneurs and people that run organizations, their biggest
35:54motive is to get out of their own damn way. Meaning, I want to find people that are smarter
35:59than me and put them in place and I'm just going to get out of the way. Maybe I could
36:03be the face and I could be the communicator and the clapping guy on stage, but I need
36:08people who are smarter than me if I really want to go far. And so that's what I did.
36:12I was just focused on my strengths, identify where I can provide the most value and stayed
36:17in my lane.
36:18It's interesting because, you know, people look at you and say, how can you be an offensive
36:23wrestler? But at the same time, it's like, I can't double leg takedown you. I can't do
36:27a lot of things and I'm also disoriented. Like normally this would move and I would,
36:31my subconscious has got this pattern memorized and I knew it doesn't work. So you got a lot
36:36of assets. And so you look at it differently and said, this isn't a liability, this is
36:39an asset. And people can do that with their lives in a huge way.
36:42Of course. Right. Like we mentioned, we mentioned talking about focus is you don't get the life
36:47you have, you get the life you focus on. Don't miss that. It's like you can have a bunch
36:53of blessings right in front of you, but focus on the one thing that's wrong and you're going
36:57to miss out on everything. And so, yeah, for me, it's like, what are my advantages? How
37:02can I disrupt this guy? How can I find a way to really throw him off his track? But yeah,
37:09maybe this is a gift. And I think that in itself is such a powerful lesson is the golden question
37:16that will change everybody's life that they can program into the brain is what's the gift?
37:23What's the gift? There is a gift in everything in your life that happened in the past, in the
37:28present and in the future. And if you can find the gift in everything, nothing can shake you.
37:34Nothing can throw you down. Nothing in the external world will dictate how you feel
37:39internally. But the core principle or the core message
37:48is that if things in the external world dictate how you feel internally, you're a slave to the
37:53game. And especially as men, we need to have all the tools and all the tricks to make sure that
38:04our internal state is grounded and centered because everybody's looking for us for certainty.
38:09Everybody's looking for us for leadership. Everybody's looking for us for direction.
38:13And can people feel when you're uncertain? Absolutely. And so, what's the gift? What's
38:18the learning? But also, anytime that something in the external world shifts the way that you
38:23feel internally, thank it and analyze it and find why it triggers you and heal it. And when you
38:31heal the boy, the man will appear. And right now, you see a lot of men who are just actually
38:36children because they haven't done the damn work. Amen to that. It's a great line from the Godfather
38:41where I think the senior Don Corleone says, he says, women and children can afford to be foolish.
38:49Men cannot. It's a powerful line. Savage. So, let's talk about you becoming a man. It starts
38:54with the wrestling. And then you said there's brotherhood, there's physicality, there's testing.
39:00I mean, that sounds like a huge part of your evolution. Yeah. Yeah. Let's start with brotherhood.
39:07The moment that I was a part of a team and people with the same mission and the same goals and the
39:13same values, the frequency elevates. But what's also really valuable, and I hope that everybody
39:25finds this, is it's better to suffer with your bros than suffer alone. And so, the wrestling
39:36room was mutually beneficial because I get to see my friends and suffer with my friends. But imagine
39:41laying in a pool of sweat and you don't think you can go on and you look over and you see your
39:45friend with no legs and one arm and he's getting beat up and you're like, I think I got more in the
39:49tank. And so, first brotherhood is, I was going to say first find a brotherhood, but let me shift
39:59that and say become the man that attracts a brotherhood. Because the truth is, if you aren't
40:04a valuable man, it's going to be very difficult to find a deep, meaningful brotherhood. Because
40:09real brotherhood, they push everybody to be valuable. No one slacks. That's the whole point
40:16of it. Or find someone and grow with them and become more valuable. But people often think
40:21success is something that you pursue. But success is something that you attract by being attractive.
40:27And so, become an attractive man in the sense of skills, values, hygiene, all the basics,
40:33which we found out common sense isn't so common. But value, insight, knowledge, the way that you
40:39dress, the way that you show up in rooms and with other people, build deep, meaningful relationships.
40:44Find a brotherhood that you can suffer together with. And I think that's one of the most valuable
40:48things because, like my brotherhood, they've seen me broke and they've seen me rich. And I've seen
40:54them broke and I've seen them rich. And so, even if we go down to broke again, at least I have
41:00my brotherhood. I'm not doing it alone. And I feel for entrepreneurs that don't have anybody.
41:04I feel for entrepreneurs that are trying to build alone and they don't have a brotherhood or a
41:10soundboard. And that's why a lot of you need to move to places like Dubai or places where there's
41:16high-level people that are in one area. But I got a brotherhood with wrestling. And they protected me.
41:22They beat me up. They loved me. And they were my arms and legs in a lot of different ways.
41:31And for those that are listening, you may have all your arms and all your legs,
41:35but you still need other people to be your arms and legs. And you don't need to carry the burden
41:39alone. And you don't need to carry the cross alone, whatever that is for you. And so, that's
41:43the first thing is brotherhood changed the whole quality of my life. The other thing was the
41:49physicality, the physiology change. I think one of the fastest forms of manifestation or whatever
41:58you believe in is sculpting your body. You literally are what you eat. And so, one of the
42:05fastest ways that you can improve your self-confidence is start using your damn body
42:10that your creator gave you. And I have a little bit more compassion now, but what tends to piss
42:15me off is people with all their arms and all their legs that don't value their body. I'm like, I'll
42:20take your legs. I'll go work legs. If you don't want to work legs, I'll go work legs. You don't
42:24want to hit your... I wish I could run. So, for those that are listening right now, when you don't
42:29want to run, be like, damn, Nick wishes he could run. I'm going to run for Nick. At least run for
42:32Nick. Because if I had legs, I'd be running around town. I'd be shirt off, running. I don't
42:36care. I just want to run. And so, when you start to shift the way that you treat your body and you
42:46start to... And by the way, you know it. Once you start to see the difference, you're hooked.
42:50You're hooked. And your whole entire life change when you're in better shape. And I can assure
42:55you. And by the way, you may say like, oh, well, success is not about six pack. I get it.
43:01But I can assure you that the billionaire who's fat wishes he had a six pack. And guess what?
43:07He can't buy it. He could buy everything else. He could buy a company. He could buy food. He could
43:15buy vacations. Can't buy the body. And so, imagine that. Imagine you're in a high level room.
43:24And what subliminal message it shows people when you're jacked, when you're in shape.
43:31There's an edge there. Would you agree?
43:32Yeah.
43:33There's an edge.
43:34Yeah. Because it says a lot of things about you. It says you can overcome temptation. It says you
43:39can do things even when you don't want to do them. Your discipline is real. And to be able to be in
43:45good shape means you've done that consistently over time. And that says a lot about someone.
43:50And subconsciously, I think we're attracted to people like that or believe in them or trust
43:55them when they say something because they clearly... One of the guys on my show, his name
43:59is Wes Watson. He always says, how can I know you're going to tell me the truth when you lie to
44:05yourself? Look at you. You're lying to yourself every day. I know you don't like looking in the
44:09mirror. So then, how are you going to be honest with me? It's a good point.
44:14100%. And like you said, it says a lot about people. For those that are listening,
44:21one of the greatest tools that we can all pick up on, which I've learned it from certifications,
44:26but you can just learn it from osmosis now, is what we call pattern recognition.
44:31And what pattern recognition is, is when you can study people and identify patterns,
44:35how they do one thing is typically how they do everything. And by the way, once you know,
44:40you know, sorry, because you're going to see patterns and like, oh, I don't like that pattern,
44:43or I do like that pattern. So for example, like you mentioned, if someone's in shape,
44:48that means that they probably don't cut corners. That means they probably have a high level of
44:53integrity. They probably have a high level of self worth. That translates into business
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