00:00So the mum told you that he was cheating on you and he got the girl pregnant.
00:04That is awful!
00:07Hey, it's Simone Ashley.
00:09I'm Hero of Vines Tiffin.
00:10And this is If It Were Me with Cosmo.
00:14Today we're going to be going through some real-life confessions from Cosmo readers
00:18and telling you how we would handle them.
00:20I'd ask you for advice.
00:21I've trusted you with advice.
00:22There we go.
00:23We're both good at giving advice.
00:25Cosplay no way.
00:28My boyfriend recently got into cosplay and wants to incorporate it into our sex life,
00:32but it's such a turn-off for me.
00:34How do I break the news to him?
00:36I think if you're in a trusting, loving relationship,
00:39you should be able to express what you like and what you don't like.
00:42And it should be like a circle of trust.
00:44I mean, it might be an awkward conversation, but I feel like you've got to be true.
00:47And yeah, if they're your partner, I'm sure they'll understand.
00:50Exactly.
00:51Ring around the issue.
00:53God, I really don't know what this is going to be about.
00:56Okay, my fiancé just proposed with his mother's ring,
00:59but it's just not my style.
01:01I find it really ugly.
01:03How do I break the news without coming off as heartless?
01:06I'm not a really materialistic person.
01:08I'm just like, you know, that is a gesture of love.
01:11That is tough, though.
01:12You don't have to wear it.
01:13You can appreciate the sentiment.
01:15You can still love what the ring symbolizes.
01:17Yeah, you highlight that you love the gesture
01:20and that it's, you know, I would love to wear it all the time.
01:22And then you put it in the back of your cupboard.
01:26How bad is this ring?
01:27Like, it must be really bad.
01:28Yeah, how bad must it be?
01:30Check, please.
01:31The guy I've been seeing for months always pays when we go out,
01:34but recently he started asking to split the check.
01:37I know he makes significantly more money than me.
01:39Is it okay if I refuse?
01:42I think it really depends on your relationship.
01:45If you're going to refuse, do it before you have the meal
01:49or before the money is spent.
01:51Wait.
01:51To make it clear.
01:52I think this is a deeper issue.
01:54And I think it should just be a conversation of,
01:56hey, I make less money than you.
01:58If she's initiating the dinner...
02:00Yeah, so then you say...
02:00...and then refuses to pay,
02:02then I think the problem lies with you.
02:04Yeah.
02:06Excapades.
02:07I've been secretly hooking up with my sister's ex.
02:10It's turning into more than just a fling,
02:13but I'm drowning in guilt.
02:14Should I come clean?
02:15Carrying guilt is like,
02:17I will eat you up and horn you.
02:19Yeah.
02:19Just take responsibility.
02:21Just be like, the reason I didn't tell you at first
02:23is because...
02:25It all happened so fast.
02:26Yeah.
02:27Drunk in love.
02:29One night my girlfriend told me she loved me
02:31while she was super drunk.
02:32I've since started saying it to her regularly,
02:35but now she never reciprocates.
02:37Should I be concerned?
02:38Yes, you should.
02:40We should bring it up.
02:41Just be like, hey, you started it
02:43when you were really wasted.
02:46Why don't you have the confidence to say it when you're sober?
02:49I've said it and meant it quite quickly.
02:51It's just about meaning it, isn't it?
02:52But if neither of you have said it
02:54and you feel really strongly
02:55and you're going strong for a year
02:57and you haven't said it,
02:58it's just a few words.
03:00Honest to mum.
03:01I've been in a relationship for three years
03:03and my boyfriend's mum just told me he had an affair.
03:06Not only that, but the other woman is also pregnant.
03:09How do I confront him?
03:10So wait, your boyfriend's mum...
03:12So the mum told you that he was cheating on you
03:14and he got the girl pregnant.
03:16That is awful.
03:19I don't think we have enough time
03:20to really talk you through.
03:21That is awful.
03:23Yeah, what you should be doing here.
03:24I think you've got to confront him.
03:26And leave him.
03:27Yeah, probably end up leaving him.
03:29I can't think of how you excuse yourself from that.
03:32But well done, mum.
03:33Yeah.
03:33Well done, mum.
03:35The carry-on.
03:36I'm going on a family vacation with my boyfriend
03:38and I saw a ring in his luggage.
03:41I don't want to ruin the surprise,
03:43but I'm not ready to get married.
03:45Do I come clean?
03:46I just think don't keep it bottled up inside.
03:50You know, you've got community around you, hopefully.
03:52Don't you think you should say it to him directly, though?
03:55Yeah, yeah.
03:56That's the end goal.
03:58But I'm advising, don't bottle it up.
04:01If you can't bring yourself to say it directly to him,
04:03at least say it to him.
04:04Get someone to hype you up a bit and advise you.
04:06No?
04:07It could be a misunderstanding.
04:08The ring could be...
04:10I mean, I don't know what the misunderstanding could be.
04:11I think it's pretty obvious.
04:14Brush burn.
04:15Things got heated with the guy I'm seeing
04:17and we ended up hooking up on the carpet.
04:19At a family pool party, everyone asked...
04:21At a what?
04:22At a family pool party.
04:24Sorry, I'm so immature.
04:27Everyone asked about my massive rug burn.
04:31How do I explain?
04:33Oh, surely you just say you fell over
04:35or you did a knee slide or something.
04:36Yeah, it's not that deep.
04:37I don't know.
04:37Yeah, you just make up an excuse.
04:39That's so easy to make up an excuse for.
04:40Definitely don't come clean.
04:42Definitely don't tell the truth in this situation.
04:44Just say, you know, you were running to the door
04:47and you fell over and skidded.
04:49Yeah, the filthy talker.
04:52I asked this girl to talk dirty to me
04:54and she went full throttle
04:55saying things I've never heard in my life.
04:57It's throwing me off,
04:58but I don't want to embarrass her since I asked for it.
05:00How do I keep the vibe going without losing my cool?
05:03Just you can say to someone like,
05:04hey, you don't have to try so hard.
05:07Yeah, you could say, love what you're doing.
05:10Turn it down a little bit.
05:11Even with my mates, it's like if someone's trying too hard,
05:14you just go, hey, you're fine as you are.
05:16If you had the confidence to ask for it,
05:19I'm sure you've got what it takes
05:21to ask for a little bit less.
05:23And now it's time for the quickie.
05:25Okay, ready?
05:27Matchmaker or meet cute?
05:28Oh, meet cute, 1000%.
05:31Friends to lovers or enemies to lovers?
05:32Friends to lovers.
05:33I like enemies to lovers
05:34because you'll go and still be friends.
05:36I don't have time for the drama.
05:37Makeup sex or breakup sex?
05:39Makeup.
05:40Yeah, makeup.
05:41Long texts or voice notes?
05:42Voice notes.
05:43If it's long, voice notes.
05:44Post to close friends or go public?
05:46I'm close friends.
05:47Yeah, I go to close friends.
05:48Forget someone's name or call them by the wrong one?
05:51Forget someone's name.
05:52Yeah.
05:52Run into your ex on a date or your crush on a date?
05:55Run into your crush on a date.
05:57It's a bit more chill.
05:59Is it?
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