00:00Become an actress, do a movie, cast the hot guy,
00:03and be like, baby, I was working.
00:06Is that what you do?
00:07Oh!
00:08Hey, what's up, guys?
00:09I'm Nick Lachey.
00:10And I'm Vanessa Lachey.
00:11And this is If It Were Me with Cosmo.
00:16You feel very far away.
00:18You're so far away.
00:21All right, guys.
00:21Today, we're going through real-life confessions
00:24from Cosmo readers.
00:25And we are telling you how we would handle them.
00:27I'll give you a topic.
00:28Lachey, it's neither a la or a she.
00:31Discuss.
00:32No, OK.
00:33The double texter.
00:34The guy I'm seeing checks all my boxes.
00:37Hey, girl, hey.
00:38Oh, hey, now.
00:38But he texts me too much.
00:40He'll even double text me when I haven't
00:42had the chance to respond.
00:43How do I tell him to pump the brakes without making
00:45it seem like I'm not interested?
00:47We have certain friends who are double texters.
00:49It kind of rubs us the wrong way, too, where it's like,
00:51oh my gosh, I can't keep up.
00:52Do you have nothing else to do but sit on your phone
00:54and text me?
00:54I think what I would say, if it checks all the boxes
00:57and that's the only, like, ick you have, maybe let it go.
01:00Because the alternative is that he's not texting you at all.
01:03And it looks like my text chain, where it's blue.
01:07To the point that I ask him, did you see anything I said?
01:09He's like, yeah, I saw it.
01:10Oh, me?
01:10So I would suggest maybe letting this one go.
01:13If it ain't you, he's going to be double texting somebody else.
01:15Ooh, let him double text you all day long.
01:18You don't have to make it so vicious.
01:20Bad vision.
01:21Yes, I'm going to hold it way out here,
01:22because I have bad vision.
01:23That's funny.
01:24I recently saw a psychic who told me my relationship
01:26of five years is essentially doomed.
01:29I thought she was the one, but now I'm second guessing it.
01:31Should I let the spiritual world interfere?
01:35The psychic thing's always a tricky one.
01:37I had one that told me my last relationship was the wrong one
01:40and that I'm going to meet a knight in shining armor,
01:43a white horse.
01:43And the first time I went to see him in concert
01:45was in New Jersey.
01:46And he sent a white escalade.
01:47And I was like, he's the knight in shining armor
01:48with the white horse.
01:50You had met one that said you're going to meet
01:52a trickster or something.
01:54This girl you're starting to date is a trickster.
01:56So when we would get into fights,
01:57he's like, you're tricking me.
01:58And I'm like, are you listening to the psychic?
01:59And he's like, you're tricking me.
02:01Something's tricky here.
02:01And I was like, oh my gosh.
02:03Are you going to listen to this psychic or to me?
02:05We've been together 19 years.
02:06That's what I'm saying.
02:07Don't listen to a psychic.
02:09The hall pass.
02:11I've been dating my boyfriend for three years,
02:13but lately I've been wanting to get out there
02:14and have a wild hookup.
02:17I love the readers nowadays.
02:19I would feel guilty because I still love him,
02:22but I just want to kiss a hot guy.
02:24Wow.
02:25How do I attempt to bring this up to him?
02:27Become an actress, do a movie, cast the hot guy
02:30and be like, baby, I was working.
02:34Is that what you do?
02:37The Hallmark movies you do that satisfy
02:38some twisted...
02:39Their lifetime.
02:40Want to kiss a hot guy thing.
02:42And I have no say in casting.
02:43I think we're seeing a little insight.
02:44I gotta be honest.
02:46This is one that we don't really understand.
02:48Like the looser modern dating,
02:50open relationships, friends with benefits.
02:53We are very old school.
02:54And so with that, I'm for him, he's for me.
02:57We're very monogamous.
02:58But the Hallmark movie thing seems to work.
03:00It's not Hallmark, it's Lifetime
03:02and I'm not doing them anymore.
03:05Her ultimatum.
03:06My girlfriend is telling all of our mutual friends
03:08that if I don't propose to her soon,
03:10she's going to leave me.
03:11I want to marry her,
03:12but I don't want her to force me into it.
03:14Should I delay the engagement because of this?
03:17I think if you want to marry her
03:20and she's ready to be married,
03:23then it seems like the right time to perhaps propose,
03:26but not to do it because she's telling her friends.
03:29In a way, I gave you an ultimatum.
03:32So what were you feeling?
03:34No, I was ready for it.
03:35So that's why I, of my own free will,
03:37not because certain people decided
03:39to give ultimatums out of the blue.
03:42Out of the blue?
03:42We were dating for five years.
03:43Out of my own free will, chose to propose.
03:47Did I pressure you?
03:49Or did it just make you?
03:50Oh no, dear.
03:51I never felt that.
03:52Or did it just make you go,
03:53okay, she's really ready.
03:54And why, what's my holdup?
03:56Thankfully for us,
03:57we were both along the same time frame.
04:00I was ready.
04:00Five years of dating, he was ready.
04:02Yeah.
04:03You up?
04:04My friend with benefits hasn't texted me in a week
04:07and I'm really in the mood to hook up.
04:10How do I invite him over without sounding too thirsty?
04:12You're friends with benefits.
04:14Are you up?
04:14Come over.
04:15C-U-M over.
04:17Yeah, I think if you've already hooked up,
04:19kind of establish what's going to be.
04:20Yeah, text him.
04:21You up?
04:22Come over.
04:22Oh my God, the guy would love it if you initiated.
04:25He'd be like, I'm already here.
04:27She would probably hit send and he'd be like,
04:29I'm ready.
04:30Go for it, girl.
04:31You have nothing to lose.
04:31And if he's like, who's this?
04:32Or no, you're like, cool, bye.
04:34Then you get thirsty for somebody else.
04:36Thirsty.
04:38Sharing is caring.
04:39My husband and I vacation with our close married friends.
04:42Uh-oh.
04:43Uh-oh.
04:43While we were in the hot tub,
04:44they brought up the idea of swapping partners.
04:47How do we turn them down without jeopardizing
04:49our long standing friendship?
04:51You already did.
04:53I, yeah, I think once you,
04:54this actually happened to a couple friends of mine
04:58who remained nameless,
04:59but the friendship never quite recovered.
05:02You got to have a pretty strong,
05:04I'm not going to say it.
05:05Once you have a pretty strong inclination
05:07that the other couple is down with it,
05:09then you bring it up.
05:10But if you're out of the blue at a hot tub,
05:11like, hey, you want to swap?
05:13Do I know this person?
05:14You do.
05:15We'll discuss later.
05:17The gamer.
05:18My boyfriend's new gaming obsession
05:19is taking over our apartment
05:20and our relationship.
05:22It's all he talks about.
05:23His equipment is everywhere
05:24and the headset he wears, major ick.
05:27How do I address this without being too mean?
05:29Aren't you glad I'm not a gamer?
05:32I've told you this.
05:32Can I put it in a guy's,
05:33I'm not a gamer,
05:34but I can see how maybe there are certain hobbies
05:37or things that you do
05:38that maybe are equally annoying to him
05:40and he tolerates.
05:40Why does it have to be?
05:41That's not the question.
05:42The question's about him.
05:43I'm putting it in perspective.
05:44Like, you know,
05:44obviously this is something that drives you crazy,
05:46but it's obviously something that's important to him.
05:49You don't want to take a piece of him away.
05:50She didn't say that.
05:51She says, how do I address it without being too mean?
05:54So now you're bringing her into the mix.
05:55I'm saying don't address it.
05:56Oh.
05:57Unless you are prepared to be addressed.
06:01Touché laché.
06:03You heard it here, folks.
06:04Don't address it unless you're ready to be addressed.
06:07And now it's time for the quickie.
06:10All right.
06:10Meet online or meet in person?
06:12In person.
06:13Reality or scripted TV?
06:14Reality TV.
06:15Swap phone passcodes or keep things private?
06:18No secrets.
06:18Swap them.
06:19Morning sex or late night sex?
06:20Morning sex, late night sex.
06:21Yeah, there you go.
06:22The ultimatum or love is blind?
06:23Both.
06:24NSYNC or Jonas Brothers?
06:25NSYNC.
06:26Big spoon or little spoon?
06:28Little spoon.
06:29I do cherish you or The Hardest Thing?
06:31You like The Hardest Thing.
06:34Break up IRL or ghost them?
06:36In real life, people.
06:37No ghosting allowed.
06:38Don't be that guy or girl.
06:39Mile high club or blue light?
06:41What's the blue light club?
06:42Train.
06:43Train.
06:46Both.
06:50There's a rhythm on the train.
06:57All right, guys.
06:58Thank you so much for watching.
06:59Appreciate it.
07:00And don't forget to check out Love is Blind streaming now on Netflix.
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