00:00I
00:02Have husband James today
00:04We are married, but we don't live together and we did like a three-part video series a couple weeks ago
00:10that got a lot of attention about
00:13Our relationship, so I want to fill in some of the gaps that I guess I didn't get my point across even though
00:20I did three different videos on it
00:22LAT or living apart together is kind of a new concept for people who are married and
00:27And
00:28what I think a
00:31Lot of people who said like our marriage isn't real or we don't take it seriously if we don't live together are very focused on
00:39The marriage as
00:42opposed to the relationship
00:44so
00:45This is our second marriage. I'm 54. He's 48. His kids are
00:5021 and 24 minor 16 18 and
00:54We have a completely different
00:57like
00:58Family lives because we're a second marriage and our kids were older
01:02so we didn't really like blend our families in the traditional way that
01:06Parents with younger kids might have done and James works out of his house. I work out of my house
01:12We actually did live together for a little bit but circumstances changed
01:17With kids and in things and we live a mile and a half apart now
01:21we have the best relationship the strongest relationship and
01:26it's interesting because so many people will
01:29move in together before they're married and
01:32We don't consider them married
01:34So I don't know why so many people wanted to say that we weren't really married if we weren't living together
01:40It works better for us right now to have our own spaces
01:44We're also not only busy making money and getting our businesses going
01:49We're busy taking care of our health and wellness and we have different sleep routines at night
01:54James likes to fall asleep at about 9 o'clock
01:58And he likes to get up at 4 in the morning and I want to go to bed
02:0110 or 11 and sleep till 6 or 7. I don't want to be woken up just because he gets up James thoughts. I agree
02:10Sleep is absolutely the most important thing to me. So
02:14um
02:17And I do go to bed early I
02:19start getting tired about 8-9 and I like to go to bed and I
02:24Mean do you feel like our relationship is missing anything right now because we don't live together. Absolutely not. It's better, right?
02:31yeah, cuz we're able to work on ourselves and
02:35Our mind work and all that stuff. That's highly important to me. And yeah, he likes to he likes a big morning meditation and
02:43I do mine at night and and I want privacy for that and he wants privacy for his
02:49What else do you want to add a lot of guys talked a lot of shit about you cheating on me and you're having an
02:54Affair if I don't live with you. Oh, that's crazy. I mean that is um, that's just
02:59insecurities really
03:03Insecurities, I mean I got nothing to worry about you and you don't have anything to worry about me
03:06So we don't need to be right on top of each other. So you have that trust. We also don't track each other on our phones
03:13No, that's just that's craziness right there. So
03:17It's more fun. It's more mysterious. We don't know each other's exact steps throughout the day. So why did you want to be married?
03:26Because I love you and
03:28You're my best friend
03:32Yes, and offer me
03:34At the time I was 50 when we met
03:37My kids were in high school
03:39They're girls and they just felt weird saying my mom's boyfriend and I didn't really want a boyfriend
03:44I wasn't interested in being on the market anymore
03:47he was single for 15 years after his divorce and I was single for 10 after my divorce and we
03:52met on Facebook not on the dating part just on Facebook and
03:55We went on one coffee date and never separated. And so we want that that status. We like to wear wedding rings
04:03We like to say husband wife because we take each other seriously and we don't want to be on the market
04:08But yet we weren't in a place with our kids. They still come home from college. They need space and
04:14He's in real estate. It's not a time to sell
04:17He sold his house when it was a good time, but it's not time for me to sell mine right now
04:21But we're building our dream home with double master bedrooms and we'll be living together again
04:26But I wanted you to meet James. He is on tick-tock under mud balls
04:32That's two D's and two L's and you didi be a LLS
04:36Follow James mud balls because he had to start a new account and he needs love and he's awesome
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