00:00Hi, my name's Kay.
00:01Hi, I'm G.
00:03My partner feels more like a dog,
00:05and I feel more like a cat.
00:06Meow.
00:07Today, I'm going to try drinking from a dog bowl
00:10for the first time.
00:11Kay, come get your water.
00:14You look so cute.
00:16I feel like we've really been judged
00:18throughout our relationship
00:20on a lot of different things,
00:21the way we live our life.
00:23We have, like, had death wishes against us.
00:26You know, people think we live a wild life,
00:28but it's just normal to me.
00:30My sister Mia has sent us a letter
00:33to tell us how she feels about our relationship.
00:36When I learned of it, my eyes grew big,
00:37and I fell silent, shocked, and alarmed.
00:42I'm Kay, and this is my partner G.
00:44People judge my relationship
00:46because I feel more like a dog,
00:47and G feels more like a cat.
00:50We basically, we met online.
00:52Yeah, and that was in 2008
00:54during our senior year of high school.
00:56These ones or these ones?
00:59I think ones.
01:01What do you think?
01:02Furry or leather fluffy?
01:04Well, I love the furry ones, you know.
01:06Well, you made them both, so...
01:07I made them both.
01:09G sent me a friend request,
01:11and I liked some pictures
01:14and was like, I like your hat.
01:16So I guess I said something first.
01:19I started socially transitioning when I was 21,
01:23like changing my name
01:25and asking people to call me by different pronouns.
01:28But physically, I started transitioning in 2018.
01:32You thirsty, Kay?
01:34You ready for some water?
01:35Today, I'm gonna try drinking from a dog bowl
01:38for the first time.
01:39Kay, come get your water.
01:46That was really fun.
01:48I definitely felt very doggy.
01:50I saw my reflection in the bowl.
01:52It was unexpected.
01:54Definitely made me feel more in touch
01:56with my dog identity.
01:58Definitely gonna be using the bowl again.
02:00You look so cute.
02:02Hey, pup.
02:04The first year we were together,
02:07we bought a collar and leash.
02:10I guess that was kind of the first time
02:12that I started to feel sort of like a dog.
02:14I love taking photos of each other and together.
02:17It really just helps me, like,
02:19be grounded in my element.
02:21I feel like I've always kind of been a cat.
02:23From a young age, I had a little cat
02:25who, like, basically grew up with me.
02:28Certain things about me are just very cat-like.
02:30We had dogs growing up and also cats,
02:33and I definitely felt more of an affinity with the dogs.
02:36Once we got together, it came out of me more
02:39because certain qualities, like,
02:41the way I feel devoted or, like,
02:43want to, like, be in service or, like,
02:45just want to be near each other
02:47in this sort of, like, companionship way.
02:49Basically, I identify as a black cat
02:51because a black cat is, like,
02:53very misunderstood in society.
02:56I'll bark or sort of, like, growl or whimper,
03:00and G can sort of understand, like,
03:03what I'm meaning in those moments.
03:06I do wear a collar often.
03:08This collar in particular is an actual dog collar.
03:11Mine says, K, my puppy love forever,
03:14and then the back says, if lost, return to G.
03:17And mine just says, G, forever by your side, my love.
03:21My sister Mia has sent us a letter
03:24to tell us how she feels about our relationship,
03:27and I'm nervous to read it.
03:30When we first got together, she was pretty hesitant.
03:34Yeah, it wasn't, like, full onboard support.
03:37I'm not really sure how she feels
03:39about the cat and dog personas.
03:41It's not something I talk to her about.
03:43K and G, at the beginning of your relationship,
03:46I remember you two being young and oh-so-in-love.
03:49K, our mother said it was just a phase,
03:52and even though I saw you happy,
03:54I think I believed that maybe you're dating G
03:57and moving out of state to be with G
03:59as soon as you both graduated high school
04:01was just a symptom of your rebel ways.
04:03With you, I often process things
04:05in terms of trying to protect you,
04:07doing whatever I can to help you be safe and well.
04:10G, it took a while for us to meet,
04:12but when we finally did, it didn't take long
04:14for me to discover that K had found someone special.
04:17I don't know if you know this,
04:18but I was suspicious of your introversion at first.
04:21Over time, I've learned that it's part of your beauty
04:24and part of your reflective, observant, and sensitive ways.
04:27Although I have an unwavering lens of love
04:30and support for y'all, I'd be lying if I didn't say
04:32that some of your changes have thrown me for a loop.
04:35We started making adult films 12 years ago.
04:39Sometimes being, like, in these personas
04:42is included in our adult content, but not always.
04:46When you started producing adult content,
04:48I had mixed feelings.
04:50Nevertheless, it has been interesting to see
04:52how that side of your life has evolved through your films,
04:55which I have not seen,
04:56but I'm proud of y'all for producing.
04:58When I learned of it, my eyes grew big,
05:00and I fell silent, shocked, and alarmed.
05:03While it doesn't ever arise in my daily conversation,
05:06I'd likely feel a bit awkward if it did.
05:09I tend to click away if I see any risque imagery
05:12or footage on your socials,
05:14and that is pretty much my philosophy.
05:16I feel like we've really been judged
05:18throughout our relationship on a lot of different things,
05:21the way we live our life.
05:23You know, people think we live a wild life,
05:25but it's just normal to me.
05:27People have judged us for just wanting to show
05:30something that people think should be private in the public.
05:33I feel like a lot of people have said things like,
05:36Why do you want to put that out there?
05:38Aren't you ashamed to show yourself in this way?
05:41We do have, like, people who will report our posts
05:44and who will be, like, constantly, like, hating on us,
05:47but most of our network is, like, very supportive of us.
05:50We have, like, had death wishes against us.
05:54That doesn't necessarily feel as much about, like, the judgment,
05:58but there was a level of just, like,
06:01an intense hatred toward us, like,
06:04that was unwarranted.
06:06Being judged by others has definitely motivated me
06:10to just be more of myself and put myself out there,
06:13and, like, for every hater,
06:15we have, like, more than one person showing us support.
06:18When people say hateful things
06:20about something they don't understand,
06:22it is an expression of their own ignorance and fear.
06:25We're going to go to the local dog park today
06:28to run around.
06:30When we've gone for walks,
06:32and that's, like, without the ears,
06:34without the mask, just the leash,
06:36we've definitely gotten people staring at us.
06:39I remember one time a family with a baby in a stroller,
06:42like, shielded their child's eyes from looking at us.
06:46People will ask, like,
06:48can I get on the leash, too?
06:50People will honk their horns.
06:52We usually just laugh.
06:54Regarding the cat-dog persona,
06:56that is probably the least processed thing for me.
06:59I don't think I really understand it.
07:01I don't know much about it
07:03and tend not to want to see anything
07:05that would suggest sexy time with y'all.
07:08As two creatives, I see your expression of yourselves
07:11and your love as part of the long unfolding
07:13of your relationship.
07:15It is unique, like you both are,
07:17and as long as you are happy and feeling whole in who you are,
07:20I am happy for you.
07:22Your resilience, forgiving natures,
07:24and commitment to caring for one another
07:26while honoring yourselves leads me to believe
07:28you both will stay together as long as you both desire,
07:30which I'm under the impression is for the long haul.
07:33With love, Mia.
07:35Yay. Good job.
07:37Thanks.
07:39It definitely made me feel emotional.
07:41It's really touching to, like, receive these words.
07:44It's beautiful to reflect on, like,
07:46not just how, like, much we've grown,
07:48but, like, how much also she's grown.
07:50I feel, like, really, like, touched, you know?
07:53She's so sweet and, like,
07:55it just felt good to be, like, seen
07:58and just, like, held.
08:00I think our relationship works
08:02because we really complement each other.
08:04What I love most about G is
08:06how G is just creative and passionate.
08:10There's a certain level of, like, confidence
08:13and just, like, determination
08:15that I just really respect.
08:17What I love about K is
08:20I can be myself with you,
08:22that you also just make other people
08:24feel comfortable to be themselves.
08:26I think that that's a superpower for sure.
08:29And you're a healer.
08:31You help to heal me.
08:33You help to heal the world.
08:35That's so needed.
08:37What I would say to people
08:39who judge our relationship is
08:41focus on your own self.
08:43If you're gonna focus on me, then that's fine.
08:46You can be a hater.
08:47Like, I welcome it, you know?
08:49But all I'm doing is spreading love.
08:51And I would just hope that you would do the same.
08:55Like, just try to spread love
08:57instead of being hateful.
09:00And just be yourself
09:02because that's really it.
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