00:00The third thing that I had to learn about communication is that men and women are just
00:04different.
00:05We're wired different, we think different, we process different, we react different,
00:10we communicate different.
00:11In fact, there have been statistics that have suggested that men generally speaking, now
00:16this is general, when you're dealing with relationships you have to speak in generalities,
00:20but it's suggested that men communicate by using 10,000 words per day.
00:26Now think, if a man is working a full-time job and he's at work for eight to 10 hours
00:30a day, he's communicating with his boss, he's communicating with clients, he's communicating
00:35with customers, whomever it may be, and by the time he's gotten home, he's used up almost
00:40all of 10,000 of his words.
00:43Meanwhile, the wife has a job, she works 10 hours a day, and she's used those same 10,000
00:49words, but by the time she gets home, she's got 15,000 more words to use.
00:55Now she's got 15,000 and he's run out, now we wonder why there's so much conflict in
01:01male-female gender relationships because we want the men to talk more, the men want the
01:06women to stop talking because there's a disparity in terms of the words.
01:12And what we've realized is that we're wired differently.
01:14For instance, women love to connect, men love to bond.
01:21Connecting requires talking, connecting requires getting to know, developing a level of intimacy,
01:28having heart-to-heart conversations.
01:30Men love to bond.
01:32When men get together with other men, they don't necessarily have to talk because the
01:36experience that they're enjoying together doesn't always require communication, but
01:40yet they bond it.
01:42And so our natural inclination is to bond with our wives and to connect with our husbands,
01:47and sometimes that creates a disconnect because we're wired differently.
01:52One of the other challenges that we've realized is that oftentimes men are very literal in
01:57their communication and women are feeling-oriented.
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