00:00What I did not realize is that oftentimes each one of the forms of these components
00:05deliver very different messaging. So oftentimes you can say something,
00:09but the messaging comes across very different than what you're trying to say.
00:13It would be equivalent to me if I were to look you in the eyes, say you're my spouse,
00:16and I would be like, I love you. Now the words indicated that I love you,
00:24but what did my facial expression, my body language, and my tonality indicate?
00:29That I really didn't love you, that I felt frustrated in having to even tell you.
00:34And oftentimes when we're communicating, there are cross signals and mixed messages
00:38because we haven't effectively learned how to blend these three components together
00:42to resolve issues. And so one of the challenges is that we haven't learned how to effectively
00:48communicate. So a lot of people say, well, we have a sex problem, or we have a financial problem,
00:53or we have a parenting problem, or we have an in-law problem, but what you have is an inability
00:57to effectively communicate. And as a result of that, areas begin to pop up all throughout
01:02your marriage that present problems. But if you could learn how to effectively communicate,
01:07you could resolve probably 90% of all the challenges that you face.
01:11The second thing I had to learn was this.
Comments