00:00So, when I was a kid, my mom did this thing for me and my two older brothers called Husbands
00:05in Training.
00:06That's what she called it.
00:07It was a full, like, multiple year curriculum on how to be a better husband.
00:13It covered everything from eating etiquette to chivalry to, like, the ethics of the porn
00:21industry.
00:22Just anything you can think of.
00:25Some of it was too much.
00:27I remember one thing in particular.
00:28It was called the Porn Quiz.
00:29I think I still have it on one of my old laptops.
00:32It was a quiz about the porn industry and it was too much.
00:36But there was a lot of really good stuff in that curriculum.
00:39There were things like what to do if your spouse says something and the information
00:46that they give is wrong.
00:48How to handle it if they say something wrong in public versus in private.
00:53When it is appropriate to correct them and when it isn't.
00:56We talked about consent.
00:58We talked about just the basics of respecting and honoring women and listening to women
01:07and all of the things that really just make you a decent human being.
01:13And then when I was in high school, my dad realized a lot of the things that we were
01:17learning from my mom were things that he was never taught growing up.
01:23And so he decided he also wanted to take Husbands in Training.
01:26So myself, my brothers, and my dad were all learning how to be better men from my mom
01:32through this Husbands in Training course.
01:34And my mom even made certificates of completion that she signed and gave to each of us on
01:43our wedding day.
01:45There are parts of this curriculum that should never see the light of day.
01:49Like the Porn Quiz.
01:52There's a lot in it that I think I will revive to do with my son.
01:57I'm definitely raising my son to understand how consent works and that the necessity for
02:01consent doesn't end when you get married.
02:04That things still need to be consensual.
02:06Identifying when women are in distress or in danger because of other men and when to
02:14intervene and how to appropriately intervene.
02:17Healthy conflict resolution and how to express your feelings in a healthy way and appropriate
02:24ways to respond when someone expresses their feelings to you.
02:28Because I gotta say, my brothers and I, we're all married, and I think all three of our
02:33wives really appreciate the hard work that my mom did trying to raise some decent men.
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