The Magic of the Space Between

Calm is a super power. There is magical space in between stimulus and response. Get in the gap!

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00:00And everyone loves to hear about the three-second rule, you know, maybe that's all it takes and we

00:05just over-complicate change and transformation. The three-second rule is essentially,

00:12does this nourish my soul? Before I take any action, before I do anything, anything that normally

00:21harms me, might not work for me, if I have problems with impulse, OCD, ADHD, you name it,

00:30the three-second rule is about stopping, pausing, and getting into the contemplative gap,

00:36just for three seconds or so. Ask yourself, DT NMS, does this nourish my soul? Before taking action,

00:46and that really could be the change that changes everything. When we move from thought straight

00:52into action, our consequences usually don't work for us, but when we have a thought,

00:57feeling and action, so there's a feeling in the middle, even for a split second, that can go from

01:03subconscious to conscious, can take us from body responses of trauma and open the heart, which of

01:10course opens the mind and brings us our power back. Anytime we make a decision from the heart,

01:17we use EQ and IQ together, which in turn creates contemplative intelligence or CQ

01:25up in the prefrontal cortex or the CEO of your brain. We can use the three-second rule to get

01:31into the gap because that's where the magic happens. In between stimulus and response

01:38is a space, as Viktor Frankl used to say, and in that space, we get our power back and it's our

01:45power to choose, and that is the change that changes everything. When you take your power back,

01:52you make thoughts through feelings to positive actions. Those three seconds can be the difference

01:58from acting from a frightened part of personality, one of our masks. We could take a victim position

02:05and respond just too quickly. Use those three seconds to change everything. It is the power

02:13that we find in the gap, so we've got to get into the contemplative gap and create something

02:19special and different. We're all the same, yet some of us create highly positive and successful

02:25results and others of us tend to stay frustrated and stuck. We can use the three-second rule

02:32to just pause enough to find that power to choose and respond in that beautiful power

02:40of being in between the stimulus and response. That's where it is.

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