00:00This is Jessica. She fell in love with Alan. They've been judged by sceptical onlookers.
00:07Yuck.
00:08She could be your daughter and ugh, you know, that kind of stuff.
00:11Not only does Alan share the same age as Jessica's dad, he also shares the same name.
00:17My dad has always been daddy and Alan is Alan.
00:20Today they will finally sit down to discuss what Alan really thinks about his son-in-law.
00:25You call and tell me how you've met this great guy. I said, really? What's his name?
00:29Alan.
00:30How old is he?
00:31He's in his 50s.
00:32I said, you've got daddy issues.
00:34Jessica, what do you want me to wear?
00:37Do you like any of these?
00:38No.
00:39These are not good.
00:41I'm Jessica and this is my partner, Alan.
00:44No.
00:45We're not smoking cigars today.
00:47I am 34.
00:49I'm 62.
00:51These?
00:52No.
00:53People judge our relationship because he has the same name and age as my dad.
01:00I like this one.
01:01Okay.
01:02I think my attraction to Alan grew over time as far as physical attraction, but I was attracted
01:11to everything else immediately.
01:14His success, the way he carried himself, the way he was a host, the way he pursued me immediately.
01:22He was a gentleman.
01:23He used to wear cowboy boots and big cowboy buckles and cowboy hats.
01:31He's not a cowboy, so we don't do that.
01:35But I do have the cowboy buckle still.
01:38We refined his look.
01:41Look at this Christmas shirt that she won't let me wear.
01:46I like to call him a zaddy now.
01:48I think he looks age appropriate and handsome.
01:51The hair dye and the style before was aging him.
01:55Which one?
01:56For talking to my dad, this one.
01:58Okay.
01:59I'll set that there.
02:00I'll go change.
02:01Okay.
02:02We met through a mutual friend.
02:05She invited me to Alan's condo to play darts and we started dating immediately after that.
02:13Cheers.
02:15It was like one of those just complete wow factor.
02:21It overcame me.
02:23I realized Alan had the same name as my dad the first night we met and it was comical,
02:28same spelling, but I didn't realize his age until a few weeks into dating.
02:35My dad is coming over today and I'm interested to see what he has to say about my relationship
02:41with Alan.
02:42Within a month of meeting, he told me he loved me.
02:45So I think he was official right away.
02:50Mm-hmm.
02:51Agree.
02:52Here we are.
02:53Mm-hmm.
02:54Twelve years later.
02:55People laugh when they hear that my dad is Alan and Alan is Alan, but my dad has always
03:00been daddy and Alan is Alan.
03:03Sorry.
03:04Ah, but that's true.
03:05You do because I call him dad.
03:06Yeah.
03:07Well, we have kids.
03:08Yeah, I'm mom and he's dad.
03:10Like, go get dad.
03:11Good to see you.
03:12You too.
03:13How you doing?
03:14How you doing?
03:15Good.
03:16So I remember the first time you called me to tell me how you met this great guy and
03:20you think he's the one.
03:22I said, really?
03:23What's his name?
03:24Alan.
03:25Alan, huh?
03:26How old is he?
03:27Oh, in his 50s.
03:29I said, you got daddy issues.
03:31But it's not true.
03:33No, it's not true.
03:35I don't think he has daddy issues at all.
03:37I looked for a man like you, not, like, I feel like...
03:40It just turned out you're the same age and the same name.
03:44Yeah.
03:45Yeah.
03:46That's pretty damn close.
03:47That's literal.
03:48Did you have any concerns when I told you I was dating Alan?
03:52I mean, I've known you dated older men most of your life.
03:57My only concern ever has been that you're happy.
04:00We were the same age.
04:02There's things we could talk about that we went through similarly in the 70s and 80s.
04:08But now he's dating my daughter.
04:10Yeah.
04:11Right.
04:12So it's kind of...
04:13Well, it's awkward.
04:14It's just awkward.
04:15I had to be at the house to explain it.
04:16Right.
04:17But I was never skeptical.
04:18No.
04:19I never had any belief that you were in it for the wrong reason or he was in it for the
04:22wrong reason.
04:23Never.
04:24Well, everything we have, we build together.
04:26Yeah.
04:27Yeah.
04:28But this has all worked out.
04:29Yeah.
04:30She's happy.
04:31He's semi-happy.
04:32Come on.
04:34And it's all good.
04:37He's very happy.
04:38The age gap.
04:39It was a bigger deal for you.
04:41Yeah.
04:42I struggled with it initially.
04:44And I think I had to ask a couple of times how Jessica felt about that age gap.
04:50Okay.
04:51Ready?
04:52I always say that Alan and I are like the perfect yin-yang.
04:56He's really book smart.
04:58I'm more street smart.
05:00We compliment each other.
05:02I'm teaching him still every day.
05:05Urban dictionary.
05:06Oh, yeah.
05:07We did one yesterday.
05:09I didn't even know what a rave was or all sorts of things.
05:12I had no idea.
05:14I put his reactions to things on the internet.
05:18And he has a little fan base.
05:19People are always like, we need more Alan content.
05:22Like old man content.
05:25Just TikTok.
05:26People said, yuck.
05:29Are you willing to have a child with him?
05:30We already have.
05:31We have an 8-year-old daughter together.
05:33I'm too rude for this comment section.
05:36I mean, I think still people will ask somebody that knows us, like, is that for real?
05:43Does she really love him?
05:45Recently we were on a cruise.
05:47And a group of three ladies saw us dancing and saw me kiss her.
05:52And then when I walked away, they gave me like a hard time about it.
05:56Just basically saying, you know, like she could be your daughter and, you know, that kind of stuff.
06:01So that one got under my skin a little bit more.
06:04People may say things behind our back, but not right to our face normally.
06:08The doubts of people pushed us together.
06:12When people said comments like they'll never last, that only motivated us more to prove them wrong.
06:19We were checking into the hospital to have our daughter.
06:23And the woman at the reception more than once, up to three times, was like, and he's your dad?
06:29And we were like, no, no, no.
06:32Like, how many times do we have to tell you?
06:35He's the dad.
06:37It's definitely like an awful feeling.
06:39Like you're in the wrong place.
06:41You're with the wrong person.
06:42And that's what society believes.
06:46You know, and our thought has always been that, you know, ages doesn't matter.
06:50It's, you know, it's what we believe in.
06:52Here we are.
06:54Twelve years later.
06:56Rolling.
06:57Are you about to nap?
06:58No.
06:59The people that were close to us were very inquisitive or, you know, doubtful that it wouldn't last.
07:07Oh yeah, that she was going to cheat right away and she could never be loyal and blah, blah, blah because of the age gap.
07:13We take pride in our relationship and that we have a great healthy marriage and that it doesn't matter.
07:21We've said from the beginning the only way to prove people wrong is to stay together.
07:26So we really like focus on that and us and not other people.
07:31My whole life has changed since meeting Ellen.
07:35I think we've built each other up over the years and are better together than separate.
07:42And it actually works really well.
07:44Never had that before where I just want to be in her space.
07:48She, you know, is such a good mother.
07:50It helps that she's beautiful.
07:52I love her.
07:53She's awesome.
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