00:00 Do these old people really have sex with each other?
00:03 Old women?
00:04 Kind of old, like 30.
00:06 Single older women are about as fucked a group as can ever exist.
00:09 They don't know I'm having the best sex of my life.
00:12 Sex is definitely better in my 60s than it was in my 20s.
00:17 In my 20s, I was very insecure.
00:20 It was more a performance.
00:22 I really didn't know what I was doing.
00:24 In my 20s it was always about trying to please.
00:26 Now it's about pleasing myself.
00:28 I cared probably more about what my stomach looked like or what my thighs looked like.
00:33 I don't care about that anymore.
00:35 I had the wrong partners.
00:36 It was just kind of like wham bam.
00:38 I don't even know if I got the thank you ma'am part.
00:40 I no longer feel guilty or insecure about it.
00:44 I reached to this age, I don't care too much what other people think about me.
00:50 Now I'm like, "Meow."
00:51 They get everything wrong about being older.
00:54 The older women portrayed in movies and TV shows were very dowdy.
00:58 Corny and cranky.
00:59 Frumpy, boring, frigid.
01:02 Prudes.
01:03 After menopause, your life is over.
01:05 You're not important anymore.
01:07 I thought that there would be no sex in my later years.
01:10 A 60-year-old back in the 70s was an old woman.
01:14 And now we're just very vibrant and just beginning to enjoy our lives.
01:17 60 is like a reawakening.
01:20 It's rediscovering and understanding who I really am.
01:25 I became a more sexual person after menopause.
01:29 One day, I woke up feeling like a very sexual being.
01:34 And that part of me had been missing for a very long time.
01:38 I don't know where it came from.
01:39 It did happen after I was 60.
01:41 I just started appreciating myself more.
01:45 Older women are really wilder.
01:47 And it's partly because of the freedom that you get from being more contained in your body,
01:53 of having lived in it so long and knowing yourself better.
01:56 Is sex something I feel comfortable to discuss when I'm younger?
02:00 No, never.
02:01 This is the first time I discussed sex with someone other than my husband.
02:06 I was born and raised in China.
02:09 Because of Asian culture, we never talk about sex.
02:13 As I'm getting older, I actually feel my self-confidence is getting higher.
02:18 And I really don't care how people think about me anymore.
02:21 A lot of my girlfriends have much younger men because that's who can keep up with them.
02:27 We are revved up and ready to go.
02:29 My best sexual experience came out of nowhere.
02:32 This man was like Houdini and Gandhi and throw it in with a little Einstein.
02:38 I mean, he just knew everything.
02:40 He was 25 years old.
02:42 He called and I said, "You know, you're too young. I can't date someone so young."
02:45 I really regret that now.
02:47 Who cares how old they are?
02:48 I got a divorce and I was delighted to get that divorce.
02:52 And I was dating like crazy on Tinder.
02:54 I was fucking everybody.
02:55 And I found this dude who was so handsome.
02:59 Let's just say I did rule the roost there, but the kink that went on in our, my bedroom was fantastic.
03:07 And I was more comfortable with pushing it a bit, just much more imagination.
03:13 I recently had a gentleman caller.
03:15 He was very good at what he did.
03:17 But the reason why I believe it was so good was because I was present in my body.
03:22 I was in charge of my own pleasure.
03:25 I'm always willing to let my partner know that's not what I like.
03:29 Moan a little bit. Have fun with it.
03:31 Yes, I like when you're behind me. Do this, do that.
03:36 A good kiss is just as good as a good fuck.
03:40 As I got older, I felt more comfortable experimenting sexually.
03:45 I felt more comfortable with foreplay.
03:48 Foreplay is everything. I mean, I think as you get older, it's mostly foreplay.
03:52 Foreplay in sex is the most important thing.
03:56 Read my lips. I'll do it in braille, any way you want me to communicate it.
04:00 Everything needs to be as organic and natural as possible.
04:05 It's time to get on down with the get down.
04:07 My orgasms now are great because I had my first orgasm at the age of 59.
04:14 Five, nine. Fifty-nine.
04:17 Because I didn't really know what an orgasm was.
04:19 I felt inhibited and I just had these thoughts about my body.
04:23 I was a turn-the-light-off kind of person. I'm not that person anymore.
04:27 Truth be told, I didn't really have that many orgasms when I was younger.
04:30 And now, the sky's the limit.
04:33 My orgasms when I was younger were probably non-existent.
04:37 I learned somewhere that no matter what's happening in between the sheets,
04:42 you're supposed to be like, "Oh yeah, baby."
04:44 I can tell you for sure that if you're watching this and you've ever had sex with me,
04:48 I was faking it. I thought it was rude to, you know, not congratulate you.
04:53 All of that's over.
04:54 I don't even think I knew what it was.
04:56 I was very unclear. Now I'm very clear.
04:59 Orgasm. And we're not leaving the bed until I have an orgasm.
05:04 Toys are fun. They're fun.
05:06 When I was younger, no, I didn't even think of it.
05:08 When I first started having sex, after not having it for a long time,
05:12 my body went through incredible changes that weren't pleasant.
05:15 I didn't understand why I was getting bladder infections like I was.
05:18 I didn't understand why I was bleeding.
05:20 I had to go to the gynecologist and ask her all these questions.
05:23 Finally, I said, "Is it just because I'm having sex again that all this stuff is coming out of my body?"
05:27 And she said, "Oh, absolutely." And she said to me, "Use it or lose it."
05:31 And I didn't realize how important it was to have solo sex and just to keep it up
05:36 so that it doesn't become unattainable again.
05:38 I would say the sexiest thing about me, my breasts.
05:41 Mine are real. And they're big and real. It's amazing.
05:44 I think my smile is sexy.
05:46 I like my body. I like my shape. I have a great personality.
05:49 I feel my shoulders are the sexiest part of my body.
05:52 Do I think my tattoos are sexy? Yes, I think they're sexy.
05:56 What's my favorite part of my body? My legs.
05:59 Because I do lots of yoga and dance.
06:02 Probably my smile. My eyes. Comfortable in my own skin.
06:06 I'm hot as hell.
06:07 I love my gray hair. I love my eyes. I love my face. I love my voice.
06:13 I have great tits. The sexiest part of me are my tits.
06:17 I should have said brains, but I'm sorry.
06:19 We are sex kittens.
06:22 We know what we want, and we are not afraid to ask for it.
06:27 I had no idea that you could have a sexual life at 70.
06:32 It's really, really, really been a wonderful surprise.
06:35 It just gets better with time. It's like wine.
06:38 (gentle music)
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