00:00 Love can be a double-edged sword.
00:08 Sometimes it makes us feel more alive than we ever thought possible.
00:12 And sometimes it has us at its mercy.
00:15 Sooner or later, we need to evaluate our relationships and let go of people who may be toxic towards
00:21 us.
00:22 The unfortunate truth is that some people are just not ready for relationships and may
00:26 not have your best intentions in mind.
00:29 Understanding that your partner is contributing to your depression is hard to face, especially
00:34 if you desperately want things to work out.
00:37 Here are some signs to watch out for.
00:41 You don't work together towards common goals.
00:45 There's nothing worse than a partner who doesn't support your dreams.
00:49 If someone is holding you back from reaching your goals, it won't be long before you start
00:53 feeling depressed.
00:55 You and your partner may be interested in completely different things, but can still
00:59 be working towards getting promoted, running your first art show, or conquering the next
01:04 wall at your climbing gym.
01:06 If your partner is not goal-oriented like you are, it might feel like your partner is
01:11 forcing you to choose between your relationship and your dreams.
01:17 You can't connect emotionally with your partner.
01:21 One of the best parts of being in a relationship is being vulnerable and being honest with
01:26 your feelings.
01:27 The strongest partners connect with each other on a deep emotional level.
01:32 So when that emotional connection seems muddled or distorted, it leaves both partners feeling
01:38 confused and lost.
01:40 Sometimes people just aren't emotionally compatible.
01:44 If you find that you're much more willing to talk about your feelings than your partner,
01:48 it may cause you to feel dissatisfied and misunderstood.
01:54 Your partner's depression might be contagious.
01:58 Is depression actually contagious?
02:01 Researchers have tried to answer this question, and they've come up with extremely interesting
02:05 results.
02:07 One study looked at a college roommate and found that students started experiencing depressive
02:12 symptoms when a new depressed roommate moved in.
02:16 Another study was done on rats with similar results.
02:21 Depression was induced in a group of rats, and when new, happy rats were introduced to
02:25 the cage, they quickly developed the same depressive symptoms.
02:30 So is it possible to contract your partner's depression?
02:34 According to the research, it seems like a likely possibility.
02:39 The relationship is starting to get abusive.
02:43 Abuse is one of the most obvious causes for depression in relationships.
02:47 It's also much more common than people realize, especially among women.
02:52 A large amount of abuse experienced by women goes unreported.
02:56 It's estimated that between 18 and 36% of women have experienced some form of relationship
03:02 abuse in their lifetimes, and predictably, relationship abuse is one of the most common
03:08 causes of depression.
03:10 This abuse can be physical, emotional, or psychological.
03:15 Regardless of what form, you should look to loved ones outside of your relationship for
03:20 support.
03:21 Remember to appreciate your time, and not rely on your partner for a stronger sense
03:26 of self-worth.
03:27 5.
03:28 A total lack of communication.
03:32 Lack of communication is one of the most common reasons for failed relationships, and if you
03:37 can't communicate with your partner, you might start to feel depressive symptoms as a result.
03:43 Interestingly enough, a recent study showed that poor social skills and depression are
03:49 linked.
03:50 No matter which partner lacks communication skills, the relationship will likely suffer
03:54 as a result, causing depression for one or both partners.
04:00 6.
04:01 Your relationship has evolved and your needs have changed.
04:06 Relationships are filled with magical moments, mostly during the honeymoon phase, and we
04:11 often wish these moments could last forever.
04:14 However, people change, and partners become comfortable.
04:19 As the years go by, you might find yourself in a relationship with a completely different
04:23 person.
04:24 Your partner may have different needs, different priorities, and different expectations.
04:31 This type of evolution in relationships isn't just inevitable, it's healthy.
04:36 Symptoms only arise when our partners can't meet our changing expectations.
04:41 If you begin to grow apart from your partner, that's okay.
04:46 Just because they seemed like a great match in the past doesn't mean that we should hold
04:49 on to someone who aligned with our past values.
04:53 7.
04:55 You feel like you're stuck in the relationship, even though you know it's not working out.
05:00 Okay, so your relationship is making you depressed, so why don't you leave?
05:05 Over the years, researchers have tried to figure out why people stay in unsatisfying
05:10 relationships, and they've come up with some interesting theories.
05:14 Early studies claimed that couples stay together because they thought that they couldn't find
05:18 anyone better, or that they were afraid of the uncertainty of separation.
05:24 But modern researchers believe that it's much more personal.
05:28 One new study suggested that people might stay together because their partner is extremely
05:32 devoted or out of concern for each other's welfare.
05:36 If your partner is saying concerning things such as "I can't live without you" or "you're
05:41 the only good thing in my life", it can put a lot of pressure on you to keep them happy.
05:47 This shouldn't make you feel like you have to accept certain behaviors and mistreatment
05:51 if you're experiencing it.
05:53 Have you experienced any of these relationship issues?
05:56 If so, have they led to depression?
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06:05 Thanks for watching!
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