00:00 This is 33-year-old Glenda.
00:03 She fell in love with 68-year-old Roy.
00:07 - My wife is 35 years younger than I am.
00:10 - And when the pair met,
00:11 Roy was dealing with his own battles.
00:14 - We met when I had first been diagnosed
00:16 with prostate cancer.
00:17 I didn't want to take,
00:18 especially a young, attractive woman through that.
00:20 She said no, and her exact words were,
00:22 "I'm kind of a ride-or-die gal."
00:24 - Although Glenda was committing to Roy,
00:27 not everyone was happy about this.
00:29 - Roy's older than my mom.
00:31 My mom is 54 years old,
00:32 so she definitely was not having it.
00:35 - And it's not just family who have their opinions.
00:38 - I get a lot of judgment sometimes being a younger wife.
00:40 When I post a video on TikTok,
00:42 you have a couple of those comments that come in,
00:44 like, "Oh, she's married just for the money.
00:46 "Wait when you start changing diapers."
00:48 His bank account was big.
00:50 - I love you, baby.
00:54 - I love you, too.
00:55 - You're looking good.
00:55 - Yeah.
00:56 - You're looking like a million bucks.
00:57 (Glenda laughs)
00:58 - I'm Roy, I'm 68 years old,
01:00 and this is my lovely, beautiful wife.
01:03 - I am Glenda, I am 33 years old,
01:07 and I did meet Roy when he'd just been diagnosed
01:09 with prostate cancer.
01:10 - The way that we met was professionally through business.
01:13 She reached out to me and wanted to sit down and talk
01:16 because I owned and worked in an insurance company
01:19 and a real estate company,
01:20 and she was doing the same thing.
01:21 So we just wanted to meet and compare notes.
01:23 I realized I was attracted to her immediately.
01:26 After we had our meeting and it started to feel
01:29 a little bit like there was a romantic interest,
01:31 walked outside, she had gotten in her car,
01:34 and I started to get in my car,
01:35 and I thought, "You know, I need to make this very clear
01:37 "what my intentions are."
01:39 So I walked the length of the parking lot,
01:41 tapped on her window, she rolled it down,
01:44 and I said, "I wanna make this very clear
01:46 "that this is my attempt at a first date.
01:49 "I'd like to take you to,"
01:50 and I named a nice restaurant here in Anchorage.
01:52 And I said, "Would you be interested in going?"
01:54 And she said, "Yes, I would."
01:55 So we drove out, we had about a two or three hour
01:58 conversation with a nice dinner,
01:59 and that kinda set the tone for everything.
02:02 So I called that my James Bond moment.
02:05 (dramatic music)
02:06 - The first impression of him was,
02:08 "Wow, he's very funny, he's super confident."
02:11 He just made a joke like, "Oh, am I too old to date you?"
02:13 And I made a joke back and said, "Age is just a number."
02:16 And that's just how we just started
02:18 playing with each other, so I felt good about it.
02:20 - That was when I knew I had a shot
02:22 when she said, "Age is just a number."
02:24 'Cause that's a big number difference.
02:25 - The kind of guys that I'm attracted to,
02:27 to be honest with you, I like guys that are older than me.
02:30 'Cause I feel like they've already lived life,
02:32 they've done all the partying,
02:33 you know, they're just ready to settle down
02:35 or be in a serious relationship.
02:37 And so to me, that's just what I prefer.
02:39 In my culture, I'm from Africa,
02:41 where a man tends to be more older than the wife.
02:44 So to me, the age wasn't really a thing.
02:46 It's like, I know it's a different culture
02:47 than most Western world, and age is a big thing.
02:51 - We've been married for a little over a year.
02:53 So this is called Askago soup.
02:57 It's very spicy.
02:58 Let's see if Roy can handle this.
03:01 - He knows I do not do well with spicy foods,
03:04 and that's not a white boy thing, that's just a Roy thing.
03:07 - This is the soup that's gonna clean you.
03:11 Hmm.
03:14 How do you like the soup?
03:18 - It's good.
03:19 It's definitely, it's definitely spicy.
03:22 - Okay, I need a glass of water, baby, ice water.
03:25 Okay, so that's the snail.
03:26 - Mm, ain't that good?
03:30 It's really good.
03:31 - You gotta chew a lot.
03:33 - Yeah, it's definitely chewy.
03:34 This is the magic soup that's gonna keep Roy
03:39 looking like face, whatever.
03:40 - When I met Glenda, I had just been diagnosed
03:44 with prostate cancer just a short time beforehand.
03:47 There's some questions about, you know,
03:49 your sexuality as a man.
03:51 You know, there's some concern about it.
03:53 I didn't wanna take, especially a young,
03:54 attractive woman, through that.
03:56 She said no, and her exact words were,
03:58 "I'm kind of a ride-or-die gal."
04:00 - I've worked in healthcare for a very long time,
04:02 so it's like anybody that has health conditions
04:05 doesn't mean you're gonna die.
04:06 - So she went through it with me.
04:08 She helped through the whole process
04:09 and helped take care of me.
04:10 To me, it was very clear from the beginning
04:12 that this was a very sincere--
04:13 - And we weren't even married then or anything.
04:15 We were just dating, you know.
04:17 Roy's very realistic, and he always says,
04:20 "Honey, there's gonna be a time I'm gonna age faster,
04:23 "and you have a whole life ahead of you."
04:25 So we do have those conversations,
04:26 but I don't ever sit and think,
04:28 "Oh my God, my husband is older.
04:30 "What will I be 10 years from now?"
04:32 I'm just enjoying my husband at this moment every day
04:35 because we have such great life going on right now.
04:38 - Nice, beautiful view.
04:39 - It is very nice view. - Such a nice view.
04:41 - Exercise is important to me
04:43 'cause not only do I wanna extend my life,
04:45 but I wanna extend the quality of my life,
04:47 so I'm trying to stay in good enough condition
04:49 to where I can still stay very active
04:51 as long as I can during my lifetime.
04:53 So I exercise every day.
04:55 - Okay.
04:58 - Don't you worry, I'll get my sunglasses on.
05:01 - My mom had her own opinion.
05:03 Roy's older than my mom.
05:05 My mom is 54 years old,
05:06 so she definitely was not having it.
05:09 For me personally, I don't consult with family.
05:10 It's the opinion would never matter
05:12 whether they say yes or no.
05:14 It's just, "Okay, that's your opinion."
05:15 - Make this work, baby.
05:17 - But as she gets to know Roy,
05:19 she's gotten to know him in our relationship,
05:21 she feels more comfortable now.
05:22 She's happy for us and she just wants me happy.
05:25 The age gap thing to most of my African friends
05:27 wasn't a thing, but it was mostly
05:29 the interracial relationship.
05:31 And they're like, "How is it like dating a white guy,
05:34 especially an older white guy?"
05:35 And I'm like, "What?"
05:36 It's just like being in a relationship
05:38 with any other person.
05:40 - Babe, you can actually pull long hair, see?
05:42 - I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful.
05:45 - When I post a video on TikTok,
05:46 most of the comments, honestly, are positive comments.
05:49 But you have a couple of those ones that come in
05:52 and throw something in there like,
05:53 "Oh, she's married just for the money.
05:55 Wait when you start changing diapers."
05:57 "Bank account must be big."
05:59 "She's just his dinner meal."
06:00 "Is marrying a grandpa an achievement?"
06:03 And I say, "Yeah, he's a sexy grandpa for sure."
06:05 People tend to have all these stereotypes.
06:09 "Oh, she's coming from Africa,
06:10 it must be for a green cat."
06:12 Well, not for a green cat 'cause I already have
06:13 my ex-girlfriend before I met him.
06:15 "Oh, she's there for the money."
06:16 "It's not real, she's gonna be gone."
06:18 Well, if that was the case,
06:20 I could still take money from my account and be gone.
06:22 I'm still you.
06:23 Most of the comments are very positive.
06:25 You know, people saying,
06:25 "Hey, he looks really good for his age."
06:27 "I can't believe he's that age."
06:28 I have girls sending me messages like,
06:30 "Oh my God, does he have a brother?"
06:31 "Can you hook us up with a white guy?"
06:34 - We know that people can have their opinions,
06:37 they can have their judgment,
06:38 'cause of course there's an age gap there.
06:39 We can't change that.
06:40 - Do I wish that we were closer in age,
06:43 that the age gap was smaller?
06:44 Of course I do.
06:45 It creates a much more opportunity
06:47 for longevity in the relationship.
06:49 But I'm comfortable being my age.
06:51 You know, I tell her,
06:52 if something happened to me tomorrow and I passed away,
06:55 I lived a wonderful life.
06:57 And so I'm very happy with where I'm at.
06:59 - And if somebody has an opinion about it,
07:00 of course they should have opinions about it,
07:03 but they should keep it to themselves.
07:05 And even if they put it out there,
07:06 I just don't care 'cause I don't need that validation.
07:08 - Just understand that words are powerful,
07:12 and that if you don't know a lot,
07:14 you might wanna just hold your judgment
07:16 until you learn a lot more.
07:18 - Right now we're going through an IVF journey
07:20 to have a baby.
07:21 - Maybe two.
07:22 - Maybe two kids, so that'll be very exciting.
07:24 - Oh my goodness, now you're gonna have kids.
07:26 Yep, we are.
07:27 That's the life that we chose to live.
07:29 - He's gonna be one of the oldest father alive.
07:31 - Exactly.
07:32 - He's 70 years old by the time we have our kid.
07:34 - I understand I'll be a much older father,
07:37 but hopefully I'll be around as long as I can,
07:39 and I'll be as important as I can in their life.
07:42 I may not be at 80 throwing a baseball with them,
07:45 but I'll find other ways to help them and be a good father.
07:48 She's a remarkable woman on her own, doesn't need me.
07:52 We just enrich each other's lives,
07:53 at least that's how I feel.
07:54 - Yeah, that's how I feel, so.
07:56 (kissing)
07:58 (silence)
08:00 (silence)
08:02 (silence)
08:04 (silence)
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