00:00 and that's where my suspicion kicked in.
00:02 And so I literally was in my hotel room
00:05 and was like, I don't feel right.
00:07 - Hi, I'm Asmina with Narcity.
00:09 How are you both doing today?
00:10 - Hey, good.
00:12 Nice to meet you.
00:13 - Lisa, I'm going to start with you.
00:15 First off, congratulations on the baby news.
00:18 I know it happened a while ago for you,
00:19 but for me it just happened.
00:22 So, you know, when Nicole Shea mentioned you were pregnant,
00:25 like my jaw dropped
00:27 because this has never happened on the show before.
00:30 Tell me, you know, what happened?
00:33 Did you have any suspicions before you found out?
00:36 You know, when did you find out?
00:37 How did that happen?
00:39 - I had no suspicions prior to coming onto the show
00:42 because obviously our lady days were supposed to be
00:47 actually the first week while filming.
00:49 Clearly, mine's did not come.
00:51 And that's where my suspicion kicked in.
00:54 And so I literally was in my hotel room
00:56 and was like, I don't feel right.
00:59 You know, I feel like I'm acting normal.
01:02 I feel overly emotional about things.
01:04 So I took a pregnancy test and here it is.
01:08 - Yeah, and when you told Brian,
01:10 obviously a bit of shock there,
01:13 how has your relationship been affected by, you know,
01:16 the baby and the show and just the overall experience?
01:19 - I will say like initially after leaving the show,
01:24 we were in like a weird place.
01:26 Obviously it took a lot of work, but that's it.
01:30 It took the work, you know,
01:31 two people who were intentionally intentional
01:34 about working on the relationship and we were that.
01:36 And so now we are in a really great space.
01:39 - And Roxanne, moving on to you,
01:41 going into the proposal,
01:42 you said yourself that you weren't sure
01:44 what you were going to say.
01:45 You would, you know, see in that moment,
01:47 what made you, 'cause you were very adamant
01:49 that you weren't ready to get married to Antonio
01:51 from the start.
01:52 What made you say yes?
01:54 - My gut.
01:55 I always go with my gut.
01:56 I think through the whole season,
01:57 what I did is go with my gut with everything with Alex,
02:01 with our fallout through the season,
02:05 to the moment I said yes to Antonio,
02:08 I feel like a woman's gut is the most important thing
02:12 you should listen to.
02:13 And I was like, I'm not gonna make a decision
02:15 until I see him and he asks,
02:16 and whatever I feel in my stomach
02:18 is what I'm gonna go with.
02:20 'Cause I did not know.
02:21 - And this is a question for both of you.
02:24 How has going on the ultimatum sort of maybe affected
02:28 or helped you understand what you're looking for
02:30 in a partner and just what you yourself need as well?
02:34 - I think for me going on here,
02:35 it just made me more aware of what I wanted for sure,
02:40 what things I'm willing to deal with
02:43 and not willing to deal with in regards to my partner.
02:46 And that has helped us because before we never verbalized
02:50 like flat out, like what we like, don't like
02:53 versus after the show is like now we are verbalizing
02:58 like, I don't like this, I don't like this.
03:00 And that helps your relationship move so much smoother.
03:04 And I kind of took that for myself too,
03:07 of like, okay, for myself,
03:08 what do I want for myself out of life?
03:11 And having that come to realization even after the show.
03:15 So that's ways that it has helped us.
03:19 - Real quick, I was just gonna say,
03:21 when you're looking for a partner for me,
03:22 it was take out everything you think should be
03:26 with a partner and just go with what your heart is saying
03:29 and your mind, it goes back to the guy.
03:31 I had, for me, it was take out the checklist
03:34 and with Antonio, it was, he is all these things
03:37 that I need and want.
03:38 And I thought Alex would have maybe
03:42 been all those things truly.
03:44 I mean, you probably saw,
03:45 I was super excited to be with the dude.
03:48 I was.
03:49 And sometimes you just gotta forget
03:50 about everyone else's feelings
03:53 and what everyone else wants for you.
03:54 Just go with what you want for yourself.
03:56 That's it.
03:58 - Brian, I'm gonna start with you.
04:00 So I wanna go back to that conversation
04:03 that you were having with Lisa.
04:05 You know, walk me through that.
04:06 Was the first time you found out actually on camera,
04:09 you know, what was going through your mind
04:10 when you found out?
04:12 - Yeah, that was truly the first time that I found out.
04:14 As you can see my face,
04:15 it was much of a surprise to me, right?
04:18 I didn't know if it was a joke or not,
04:21 but like I said, I knew she wouldn't play around like that.
04:24 But, you know, immediately within the first few seconds,
04:28 I had to make the decision on whether or not,
04:31 you know, this is something that I was willing to accept
04:34 and move forward with.
04:35 But I knew, you know, instantly that she is someone
04:39 that if anyone that I would wanna kind of bring a child
04:42 into this world with.
04:43 And I think, you know, ultimately we had to make
04:46 that decision and that was the one that was best for us.
04:49 - And you mentioned that, you know,
04:50 a baby would obviously complicate things.
04:52 You had just gone through a lot, you know,
04:54 how did the baby impact your relationship
04:57 and just overall, you know, everything?
05:01 - Yeah, I think the thought of it was like conflicting,
05:06 right, because it's like, there's no way we just went
05:10 through this whole experience of the time that we did.
05:13 And there's been, you know, ups and downs, right,
05:16 as you can see, and thinking that it's gonna be easier
05:20 moving forward.
05:21 I think it was actually the opposite.
05:23 Well, not the opposite of easy,
05:25 it was actually the opposite of what I thought.
05:27 You know, afterwards things got easier
05:29 because we kind of looked at it from a clear mind, right,
05:33 being out of the experience at this time to say that like,
05:36 you know, all right, we're gonna focus on the baby,
05:39 but we're gonna also focus on fixing ourselves,
05:43 working on our communication,
05:44 and just working on that trust within each other.
05:47 And it's worked out, it's been going well.
05:49 - Antonio, moving to you and your experience on the show,
05:53 you know, going back to having to make that choice
05:57 on who to choose for the trial marriage,
05:59 you know, obviously that's a tense situation.
06:02 I can only imagine how uncomfortable it is
06:04 hearing your partner talk about how amazing someone else is.
06:08 What was going through your mind
06:09 and what was that experience like having Roxanne,
06:12 you know, choose Alex?
06:14 - I knew she was gonna pick him all along.
06:16 I just knew it.
06:17 I knew what she was looking for.
06:18 And he was pretty much like the polar opposite
06:22 of where I was at at that point in my life.
06:25 You know, successful business owner.
06:27 I mean, more than once he'd already sold
06:29 one of his own businesses
06:30 and he was doing his own thing again.
06:32 And he had this, you know, lifetime of experience
06:34 that she really related with.
06:36 And it was, I was trying to, you know,
06:41 gain that sort of skillset as we got onto the show
06:46 and throughout the show and since after the show.
06:49 So I was pretty scared.
06:52 I was pretty dang scared when I saw
06:55 that she had chosen officially and it all became real.
06:58 - And then going to the proposal,
07:01 you seem somewhat surprised when she said yes,
07:03 what was going through your mind then
07:05 and how has the whole experience
07:07 impacted your relationship moving forward?
07:10 - Yeah, I mean, it's like,
07:12 I can almost really only liken it
07:15 to like when a cop's driving behind you,
07:17 you may not be doing anything wrong
07:18 and you know what the outcome is gonna be,
07:19 but in that moment, you're like,
07:21 oh crap, like what's gonna happen?
07:23 And I think that's kind of what was splayed all over my face.
07:26 And not to mention that the first words out of her mouth
07:29 after I'd said, will you marry me?
07:30 Were, I just want you to be happy.
07:32 So like, I don't know what that meant.
07:35 Like, especially the moment I was like,
07:37 so you're saying without you, I'm gonna be happy
07:39 or what are you saying?
07:41 So, it was nerve wracking for sure.
07:44 Since she has said yes, you know,
07:47 and even before this, before all of this,
07:49 and I've never been more sure that Roxanne is the person
07:52 that I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with.
07:53 And that has since just been confirmed tenfold.
07:57 So life is good.
07:59 I've moved so far in the direction
08:02 that I've been wanting to move in.
08:04 I've become a business owner,
08:06 things are going really well.
08:06 And I just, the future is something
08:09 I've never been more excited for.
08:11 - Well, congratulations on the business
08:13 and on the engagement.
08:14 And just my final question is, you know,
08:17 any regrets from the ultimatum going on the show?
08:19 You know, having that ultimatum,
08:21 either giving it or receiving it.
08:23 What are your thoughts on that?
08:26 - No regrets.
08:26 I mean, like the term I think James and I coined
08:30 was high stakes therapy.
08:33 And I learned a lot about myself.
08:35 It forced me to really hold myself much more accountable.
08:39 So I think I'm a better person for it.
08:41 I think my relationship is stronger for it.
08:43 And I don't regret a thing.
08:45 - Yeah, likewise, I would say the same.
08:48 Definitely on the accountability part,
08:49 I definitely learned a lot about myself,
08:51 like really quickly too.
08:53 And kind of had to kind of make that decision
08:56 of whether or not I was gonna continue being stubborn
08:58 with them all, right?
08:59 Or like, I was gonna be the person for Alisa.
09:03 - Well, thank you so much
09:04 for taking the time to speak with me.
09:05 It was a pleasure speaking with you both
09:07 and I hope you have a great day.
09:08 - Thank you so much. - Thank you.
09:09 - You take care. - You too.
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