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00:17 Why do we love the people we love?
00:20 What is it about our relationship with them
00:22 that makes us care for them so sincerely and profoundly?
00:26 Emotional attraction is a key ingredient
00:28 in what makes our bonds with those around us
00:30 so meaningful and intimate.
00:32 It's what happens when we learn to love someone
00:34 for who they truly are.
00:37 Emotional attraction is a bond that is gradual,
00:40 stable, and intimate,
00:42 and it's more lasting than mere physical attraction.
00:45 With that said, here are eight telltale signs
00:48 of emotional attraction.
00:49 One, you feel understood by them.
00:53 Do you feel at ease when in their presence?
00:56 Do they make you feel comfortable enough to be yourself?
00:59 When you feel understood by someone,
01:01 it's easy to be around them.
01:03 You get along with them so well
01:04 because they share a lot of the same interests,
01:06 experiences, feelings, and opinions as you do.
01:10 With them, things are never forced or awkward,
01:13 but instead, fun, easy, and relaxed.
01:17 And because you're so open and genuine with them,
01:19 you can connect with them on a deeper, more meaningful level.
01:22 Two, you love talking to them.
01:26 Do you have long, late-night conversations
01:27 with this person that you wish would never end?
01:30 Do you lose yourself in the moment,
01:32 laughing and exchanging stories together?
01:34 Enjoying another person's company and conversations
01:37 is a good sign of emotional attraction.
01:40 Whether it's over the phone or in person,
01:43 you deeply enjoy talking to this person.
01:45 No matter how many hours you spend with them,
01:47 you never seem to run out of things to talk about
01:49 because you find them so endlessly fascinating and engaging.
01:54 Three, you admire a lot of their qualities.
01:57 Whether it's their sense of humor,
01:59 their intelligence, their kindness,
02:01 or their many other admirable qualities,
02:04 you can't help but gush about them
02:06 to anyone who's willing to listen.
02:08 You have a lot of respect for them as a person,
02:10 and you make sure they know it.
02:12 You compliment them all the time,
02:14 and you keep finding reasons why they're so great.
02:17 You even appreciate all the little quirks
02:19 and mannerisms that they have,
02:21 like the way they laugh or the way they move,
02:24 because you feel so emotionally attracted to them.
02:27 Four, your values are in sync.
02:30 You share the same values as this person.
02:33 Defined as the fundamental beliefs
02:35 and principles a person upholds,
02:36 our core values shape a lot of our attitudes and world views.
02:41 If you two share the same core values,
02:43 you're able to connect and relate to one another
02:45 in a personal and meaningful way.
02:48 When you find someone whose beliefs and virtues
02:50 align with yours,
02:51 you can't help but gravitate towards them
02:53 and become emotionally invested
02:54 in your relationship with them.
02:57 Five, you care about their opinion.
02:59 You seek out their approval
03:01 and value their opinions of you.
03:03 When you care for their opinion,
03:05 it's because you trust them.
03:06 You strive to take their feelings
03:08 into careful consideration
03:09 because you wanna cultivate the relationship.
03:12 It also shows that you appreciate them for their thoughts,
03:15 ideas, and views,
03:16 rather than just for their looks or their charms.
03:19 Six, you turn to them for advice.
03:23 Asking someone for their advice
03:24 conveys a strong sense of trust
03:26 and solidarity in this person.
03:28 You know that they always have your best interests at heart,
03:31 so you wanna turn to them
03:32 when you're struggling with something.
03:34 You rely on them for a dependable source of comfort,
03:37 understanding, and empathy.
03:39 Seven, you don't get sick of each other.
03:42 Does this person make you happy?
03:44 Do you love and enjoy being around them?
03:46 If the feelings you have for them
03:47 is rooted in emotional attraction,
03:49 no amount of time you spend together
03:50 will ever make you lose interest in them.
03:53 Even after countless conversations and get-togethers,
03:55 you still look forward to spending time with them
03:58 because of how close the two of you are.
04:00 And eight, you can be vulnerable with them.
04:03 Can you let your guard down around them?
04:06 When you have an emotional attraction to someone,
04:08 you're comfortable displaying your emotions around them.
04:10 You feel safe telling them about your personal struggles
04:13 because of how strong your emotional connection is.
04:16 This deep connection has fostered a lot of intimacy,
04:20 love, care, and trust between the two of you.
04:23 Emotional attraction is what makes our relationships endure
04:27 and become more meaningful over time.
04:29 It strengthens our bonds with the people we love.
04:32 Did you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?
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04:44 The references and studies used
04:45 are added in the description below.
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