00:00Hey guys, my name is Sojourner and I'm going to give you some advice on when you know you're
00:04ready.
00:04I'm talking about all things sexual.
00:06That's what it's like.
00:08My spidey senses are tingling.
00:10Your first kiss, your first sexual experience, your first new sexual experience in a new
00:17relationship regardless of what you've done in the past, everything that encompasses when
00:23you know you're ready for your first time.
00:25I'm sweating.
00:29Just because everyone else is doing it and you want to be ready doesn't mean you're necessarily
00:35ready but that's totally okay.
00:38If you're on the fence, oh I think I should, I don't think I should, I might regret it,
00:43then don't do it.
00:44You're not ready.
00:45Just because you fantasize about something doesn't mean the reality will meet your expectations.
00:49Sex is the chance for you to connect with someone on the deepest level ever.
00:57Physical, mental, spiritual, emotional.
00:59The number one indicator of how you feel is how you feel, so check in with that.
01:04It's really important that engaging in anything sexual needs to be consensual.
01:09That means that you want it and that you give this person permission to do it, right?
01:14So it's beyond just physically having sex.
01:17It's kissing, it's rubbing up on someone, it's even like sending pictures or taking pictures.
01:24Checking with yourself not about just whether you want to have sex, but whether you want
01:28to have sex with that person.
01:30You will know you're ready when you feel wonderful, when you feel absolutely positive about this
01:36person.
01:37You feel respected, your body will let you know, the sparks will fly, you will feel butterflies
01:43in your stomach.
01:45But most of all, you feel really freaking safe.
01:48It won't scare you, you won't feel like you need to run away, and it won't be something
01:51that you feel like you're being forced into.
01:53The moment you don't feel ready, again, do not feel bad about the fact that you need to
01:59just not do it.
02:00You know, and don't let anyone make you feel bad for your choices of not doing something.
02:06If you're a body, you can do whatever you want.
02:08But if you come to a place where you're 100% comfortable, you're 100% confident, you know
02:15deep down in your heart that you are ready, I'm going to break it down for you.
02:18Here's some facts you need to know.
02:20All in all, protect yourself.
02:23Whether that is brushing your teeth and using mouthwash for your first kiss, or if it's a
02:28sexual experience, make sure you have a condom.
02:31Protection is key.
02:32You never want to engage in any sort of sexual activity without proper protection.
02:37Have fun with it, be safe, and enjoy yourself.
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