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Made In Chelsea: Sam Vanderpump's Story - Season 1 Episode 1
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00:04My name's Sam Vanderpump, and I'm on a TV show called Made in Chelsea.
00:08Thank you all for coming. I thought I'd just say a few words.
00:12What you may not know is I was born with liver disease.
00:16For 28 years, I never let it slow me down.
00:20Racing, skiing, and living life flat out.
00:24But in 2024, everything changed.
00:27I've got end-stage liver disease.
00:31There is no hope of my liver getting better.
00:35Due to my disease, I contracted sepsis and nearly died.
00:39And now the doctors say I need a liver transplant.
00:42When you look at your scans, we know there is evidence of advanced liver disease.
00:48I've had an absolutely fantastic life, but in this situation, the odds are the same for everyone.
00:55We're not talking about if you will need a transplant. We're talking about when you will need a transplant.
00:59What's terrifying is only 1% of deaths are even viable for organ donation.
01:06And then from those 1%, you've got to find the right match.
01:10There's a whole chain of events which needs to happen.
01:14Nothing can really quite contextualise the magnitude of how hard getting a liver transplant is.
01:24Come on, son. Back a little bit more, a little bit more. Last push, last push.
01:27This is one of the scariest times of my life, but I have the amazing support of friends and family.
01:37I'm also about to become a husband and a dad.
01:44My therapist said there's enough to write a book in one of the situations happening, let alone everything that's happening
01:50from my health to baby being born to getting married.
01:55Great novel.
02:07Did you find the wire?
02:09No. Maybe it's in the car.
02:11Huh?
02:12It might be in the car.
02:13Potentially.
02:15I've got liver transplant assessment coming up on the 1st and 2nd on Monday and Tuesday.
02:20So before that happens, we just want to get away.
02:24This is our staycation breathing room.
02:26Staycation.
02:27We're literally just utilising our time, relaxing before shit hits the pharma.
02:33You know actually the steps of what's going to happen on the day?
02:37I just know we've got loads of tests.
02:38All of these different tests to make sure I can do a 12-hour surgery.
02:42I'm going to say do rather than survive.
02:54Up until a year ago, I was perfectly healthy.
02:58You know, I've got a liver disease.
03:00I've known about it since I was four, but it's never affected my life and I've always been told to
03:06live my life absolutely normally like every other individual out there.
03:10Look at this.
03:13And I am living my life.
03:15I'm getting married to the girl of my dreams.
03:18I'm about to have a child with her and that is what's given me strength right now to keep going
03:25and get through this.
03:28Oh, the goats are coming out.
03:31Hello, Goatee.
03:33He's giving him a clean.
03:35That's nice.
03:35That's sweet.
03:36Do you want me to groom you?
03:38I don't need it.
03:39Yeah.
03:40My hair is all over the place.
03:42Trying to clean my hair in the hospital was a nightmare when I was ill last year.
03:48So, after transplant, if I can't shower, I might as well just have a shaved head.
03:53When I got ill last year, it started off with literally just a cold and it snowballed so rapidly and
04:02it's because of my disease that I contracted an infection in my liver.
04:07Sam was extremely sick.
04:09He had sepsis that was affecting other organs.
04:13It was affecting his liver, his kidneys.
04:15Doctors said if he didn't get in that day, there was a chance he wouldn't make it.
04:21It was, I'm ill, and then all of a sudden, oh shit, I'm nearly dying.
04:30You don't need a kick to the liver today.
04:32Oh, look.
04:33Oh, sorry.
04:33Oh, God, no, I think you went around me.
04:36The words they actually used, you're going into organ failure.
04:40That was scary.
04:43And it was, like, that moment that I, like, knew, like, how...
04:47I'm sorry.
04:50I knew, like, how much Sam meant to me and I just hoped that I meant the same, like, to
04:58him.
04:59I think it was definitely a bonding experience for us.
05:07She's got a big kick.
05:12I just think this is probably the most peace we're going to have for a very long time.
05:18It's Monday, Tuesday, assessment.
05:20Transplant assessment.
05:225th or 12th, we find out if I go on the transplant list.
05:27Does it feel like it's coming up soon for you, or not really?
05:31Well, yeah, everything's happening.
05:32I don't think it's, like, any one thing that feels like it's coming up soon.
05:36Everything's just happening at once.
05:41Think I can feel it now.
05:44Wish I could hold it down.
05:47Are you coming around?
05:49Have you just got the one flavour left?
05:52I don't know.
05:53My mum and I have always had a fantastic relationship.
05:56She's always helped me do anything I needed.
05:59And anything she can do, she will do.
06:02I mean, she can't come round just for a cup of coffee.
06:04She has to be doing something.
06:06So that's why she gets jobs, like ironing and cleaning.
06:10But that's her choice, not mine.
06:12Although I don't remember, obviously, what you remember,
06:14I do remember growing up with a very extended tummy.
06:18Yes.
06:19Sam, from day one, had to struggle.
06:23You know, he struggled to stay alive from the minute he was born.
06:27When I was a baby, I was nine weeks premature.
06:30You know, for the first few years, lived a relatively normal life.
06:33And it was about, when I was about four years of age,
06:36I was at the swimming pool with some friends,
06:38and my mum noticed that my tummy stuck out more than everyone else's.
06:45I said to the doctor, I said, Sam doesn't look right.
06:49And literally, she came over and felt your tummy.
06:53And then that's when you had to go in and have the biopsies
06:57to work out what your disease was.
06:59At the time when Sam was originally diagnosed
07:03was, I suppose, disbelief.
07:06And they couldn't do anything to stop Sam's disease.
07:10It was just monitoring.
07:12And he literally was a ticking time bomb,
07:16like he still is today.
07:18You know, it never affected my life,
07:19and I guess in my head it was never a thing, but I...
07:23My story is totally and utterly different.
07:27That anxiety, that sick thing,
07:29two weeks before every single appointment.
07:32Oh, what are they going to tell us?
07:34No, it didn't affect your life,
07:36but because of what we did
07:39to make sure you lived that life
07:41without it affecting you.
07:44With retrospect, I understand now
07:46that it must have been hard for her to deal with.
07:48With becoming a father myself,
07:50I think I now really understand
07:52what my mum must have gone through
07:53at the time of diagnosis,
07:54all the way up until...
07:56Well, and still feels it today.
07:58I left one light on to tell you
08:01there are two ways this could go
08:06I can turn around
08:08to never come back or ask me...
08:12Hey. Hiya.
08:12I'm about eight minutes away,
08:13but, I mean, you can get the coffee now.
08:16What did you say you wanted?
08:17Americano, dash of milk and two sugars.
08:19Have a water please.
08:21You've got to get a minute guys, bye now.
08:23Bye.
08:24Driving to the hospital, I felt overwhelmed.
08:28The liver transplant assessment day is huge.
08:31I mean, there is a lot of tests,
08:33a lot to go through to find out
08:35whether we can do this transplant.
08:38It's a make or break day.
08:44Welcome to King's Transplant Unit.
08:46My name's Sarah.
08:46Nice to see you.
08:47How are you?
08:48You all right?
08:49Yeah. Yeah?
08:50So, I'm just going to talk through
08:51some transplant related issues
08:53and go through your full history
08:54and then present you to Dr Alavahari.
08:57He specifically looks after assessments.
08:59So, when we talk about you at the listing meeting,
09:02he will present your case
09:03to say this patient needs a transplant
09:05or doesn't need a transplant, okay?
09:07So, once the decision is made,
09:09I will phone you in the afternoon
09:11to let you know the outcome of the discussion.
09:13That's either this Friday or next Friday?
09:14Yeah.
09:15It's crazy hearing I've got to wait
09:17to find out whether I'm even eligible for donation.
09:20I guess it's just the start of the waiting game.
09:24Come on in.
09:25Okay, so this is your cardiopulmonary exercise test.
09:28Yeah.
09:30It's a test where we are going to be measuring your grip stamp.
09:33Give it all you can.
09:35Wow.
09:35I've never seen numbers at that high.
09:37Start pedalling for us now, please.
09:40Thank you very much.
09:41You feel some slight resistance?
09:43Yeah.
09:45It's a little sharp scratch, okay?
09:47You okay?
09:49Yeah?
09:51All done, my darling.
09:52Awesome.
09:55You're doing really well.
09:56You're probably going to start to get some burning in the legs.
09:59Not already.
09:59Come up to five minutes now.
10:01Keep going, keep going.
10:03Well done.
10:04A little bit more for us.
10:05What happens?
10:05When we cut through your tummy, we'll be doing an incision which will be like this.
10:12Come on, Sam.
10:13A little bit more, a little bit more.
10:14Last push, last push.
10:16Keep going, keep going, keep going.
10:19Yeah.
10:20Really good stop there.
10:21Oh, the burn in my head.
10:23Well done.
10:24You did really well there.
10:25That was good.
10:29Well, this is you.
10:30These are your muscles inside, what we call your core muscles.
10:33I can see you keep yourself fit and active.
10:35He's been doing well with somebody with liver disease.
10:37It's really good.
10:38Thank you very much.
10:39So then we come down to your liver, okay?
10:41And it's really quite big and it looks typical.
10:44Huge.
10:44Yeah.
10:45And it's typical for your condition.
10:47That's quite a rare condition.
10:48The darker areas are big lakes of bile because of the abnormality that you've inherited, okay?
10:54So congenital hepatic fibrosis.
10:57The way I would explain it in layman's terms would be a normal liver is a smooth filter, which filters
11:04people's bloods.
11:05My liver isn't smooth.
11:08It's quite bumpy and the fibrosis and it's got a cyst in it and essentially struggling to filter the blood.
11:15And that disease has progressed over 28 years, which has obviously led to the inevitable.
11:22So just to summarise your case, you've obviously known this diagnosis for a long time.
11:26You've had three episodes when you've been hospitalised with cholangitis.
11:30Those are serious complications because some of those infections can really push you from looking like you do now,
11:36where I wouldn't necessarily know you have an end-stage liver disease, to being in hospital with organ failure.
11:44We're not talking about if you will need a transplant.
11:46We're talking about when you will need a transplant.
11:48This is not going to get better.
11:49It's going to get worse.
11:50Then the issue is how do we get you transplanted in a sensible time and not give you this purgatory
11:56where you're waiting two, three years for a liver.
11:59Well, the fundamental problem in the UK, we don't have enough donor organs to match the number of people who
12:04need a transplant.
12:05Yeah.
12:05So you're always having to work out who are the sickest people who need the organs first.
12:10Younger people with your kind of disease don't tend to score highly.
12:14So what is the solution?
12:16Because obviously what it sounds like at the moment doesn't sound too good.
12:19As a unit, one of the things we're really pushing is a thing called living donor transplantation,
12:24which is taking a portion of a healthy liver from a family member and putting it in you.
12:29The live donation, obviously it's half a liver, right?
12:34Yeah.
12:34But that would regenerate to a full liver.
12:36It's amazing.
12:39Obviously, I've always wanted to do it, but number one, it would be my age, which would stop me doing
12:44it,
12:44because obviously I am very fit and very healthy.
12:46Yeah. I mean, so we, so my responsibility is to you, and ethically I can't get involved in the live
12:52donor site,
12:52but what we do is we'll put you in touch with...
12:55I don't, I don't want to do that.
12:57No.
12:58Not even if we disassess me?
13:00No, no.
13:01When my mum offered to donate her liver, I'm like, in the politest way possible, shut up mum.
13:09He shuts it down, there is no discussion, and obviously,
13:13for me, that's all I want to do is help my son.
13:18Personally, I would say, and this is my, just giving you my opinion,
13:22the best organ that you can ever have is a live donor organ.
13:26Yeah.
13:28Any other questions?
13:34That was a lot to digest.
13:36Yes, I can get a liver transplant, but both roads are horrific.
13:40One road is you go on the transplant waiting list, and I have to probably get ill to go up
13:46the list,
13:47so I can get a donation from a deceased donor,
13:51or I have to be willing to accept an organ from a loved one, a live donation.
13:56It's an impossible dilemma.
14:02Yeah, yeah, yeah. I actually don't know what to say. It's all a bit like...
14:08So what you expected?
14:10I don't know. I don't know what I expected.
14:13I think, mum, I've gone into information overload.
14:17And I think that's why it's going to be important to look at all the options,
14:21like the live donor, like family and friends.
14:23I don't want to do that. If that's something that you would look at,
14:26so that you don't have the anxiety of having to wait.
14:28I don't want to do that. Because I don't want to put my friends or family through that.
14:33But if it's something that you're not asking people for,
14:37that is something people want to do,
14:39I think they should be given the chance to look into it.
14:43The help.
14:43It's not a consideration.
14:50It makes me feel sick.
14:51I don't want to put my friends or family through a liver surgery as well.
14:58I mean, could you imagine?
15:00I go in for a liver transplant,
15:02I wake up and my friends died or my family members died on the table.
15:06I don't think I could live with that.
15:09And I don't want to have to live with that.
15:12Yeah, I don't know. I just...
15:14It's not... I just... yeah.
15:17It's just shit, isn't it?
15:20Oh.
15:38So we've got all the baby furniture from.
15:40And then...
15:42Oh, they've got their Christmas decorations up.
15:44So cute.
15:46Alice and I have been together just over 16 months now.
15:50This is Bacchanalia.
15:51This is where we had our engagement party.
15:58I didn't know that Alice and I would get married.
16:02I hoped from meeting Alice and I thought, she's perfect.
16:08And if I'm lucky enough, she'll be the one I marry.
16:11Things definitely moved fast between Sam and I.
16:14Everything was so right.
16:16It's just a warm sense of knowing,
16:19this is what love is supposed to feel like.
16:22We are both over the moon and both excited to be marrying each other.
16:25But we love that.
16:26Like, that part of it, I'm like super excited for.
16:29But we've got so much other things to deal with at the moment
16:31that I think it is just overshadowing it a bit.
16:33Yeah.
16:37Brilliant.
16:37That is an unbelievable bit of parking, that is.
16:40It looks so pretty.
16:43Hiya.
16:44Hi.
16:46Hi.
16:46Good.
16:48Hi.
16:48Oh, you look amazing.
16:50Stunning.
16:51Look at the red.
16:52I love it.
16:53Wow.
16:54Wow.
16:55Very exciting.
16:56So I take it, this is Alice's band.
16:57Indeed.
16:58Obviously, we're doing yours completely by hand,
17:01especially to fit your ring.
17:03So shiny.
17:04She turned around and she was like,
17:07I'm not that excited to get the wedding.
17:08You have so much going on.
17:10You know, you've got preparations for the baby.
17:12Yeah.
17:12We believe she's only got three months to go.
17:15I don't even think it's three, is it?
17:17Less than three months now.
17:18I wonder if he'll turn up on the due date.
17:21I can't imagine so.
17:22No.
17:23Everyone's been saying early.
17:24Because we were both early as well.
17:26Were you?
17:26Yeah.
17:26I was three weeks early.
17:28I was eight.
17:28No, I was nine.
17:29Wow.
17:30That's super early.
17:30He explains a lot.
17:32Yeah, yeah, yeah.
17:33Then you're a survivor.
17:34Oh, there you go.
17:35This is why I have unwavering faith that you'll always be fine.
17:38Yeah.
17:38Because he always has been.
17:39Everyone's got to jump over their hurdles in life, don't they?
17:43I found it harder in the last few years to process the going through the changes in my disease
17:49when I'm an adult.
17:50Because you start to understand things and you understand the changes.
17:53So, I actually envy the ignorance over the situation that my younger self once had.
18:02If you keep on playing, try to be wise.
18:10It's the beauty in the open side.
18:14It's the random high.
18:16I reckon it's been 15 years since I've been here.
18:20It's crazy.
18:22Right House is so special because it was the start of such a big part of our lives.
18:28We go-karted for many, many years and that all started with my dad's obsession for extravagant, over-the-top
18:38things.
18:40Hello.
18:41Mr Vanderpump.
18:42How are you?
18:42Good, thank you.
18:43Look different.
18:44I look a little bit different too.
18:46When you were behind his counter before you were about here.
18:48I remember you guys were here every week when you started here.
18:51We really loved it.
18:52We were obsessed.
18:53I mean, that was dad for you.
18:54He was 100% or 0%.
18:56He was.
18:57Yeah.
18:58My whole childhood was go-karting.
19:01Go round and round.
19:03Weather just like this.
19:04Be absolutely freezing cold.
19:06Get out the go-kart and have flasks of hot chocolate waiting for us and sandwiches.
19:12It was a really, really lovely growing up experience.
19:15And, you know, for the most part of it, it was with my dad.
19:20He was very like me.
19:22He was very ostentatious, very gregarious.
19:25And he was just a very, very big personality.
19:30But for those extreme highs, he also suffered with extreme lows.
19:36Unfortunately, when he had an extreme low, well, he killed himself.
19:45Yeah.
19:48It was two months after my 21st birthday.
19:51I don't think I ever really processed it.
19:55And I know the emotions are there, but I can just feel this wall go up.
20:02And I think that's what happened with my health.
20:04Those emotions are too overwhelming and self-defence.
20:09We're just going to block them out for now.
20:13I guess that's also a horrible thing, right?
20:15He's not here through one of the most difficult times of my life for support.
20:39It's like a movie, isn't it?
20:41When they're waiting for the call.
20:42Yeah, I think you should make us some cookies while we're waiting.
20:48Waiting game now, isn't it?
20:49If I get put on this list today, they said live your life normally.
20:54Go on holiday, you know.
20:55And I will. I'll do that.
20:57But God, if you're declined, I mean, that's just horrific.
21:00I mean, you need a liver transplant, but we're not going to give you one.
21:03And what do you do then?
21:04You want him to be put on the list because then he can get a new liver.
21:08He can just get on with being a husband, being a father.
21:11But, my God, you don't want your son to actually be told,
21:16yes, 100%, you need a liver transplant.
21:20Because that's mind-blowing.
21:22I don't know, there's just this whole array of emotions going through you
21:25and you don't know what your outcome's going to be
21:27and every outcome is scary.
21:29There is no good outcome.
21:35Hello, Sam speaking.
21:37Oh, hi Sam, it's Sarah from King.
21:40Hello.
21:41Hello.
21:42So you were discussed at the listing meeting this morning.
21:45Yeah.
21:46And obviously there was a robust discussion with multiple members of the team
21:50that you'll be put on the transplant waiting list.
21:53Okay.
21:54But remember we talked about broadening your graft options
21:58because we know that your waiting time will be slightly extended
22:01for the variety of reasons that were discussed in clinic.
22:03Yeah.
22:0518 months, I think, is probably most likely, but it could be up to two years.
22:09Now, the question I've got here is if I stay the way I am,
22:12then my score stays low.
22:14So how do I ever end up getting the transplant?
22:17If you're addressing people with a higher score than me,
22:20surely I just would always end up remaining at the bottom
22:23and it's not until I become ill...
22:25No, because days on list is one of the factors as well that's added into the scoring system.
22:30Right.
22:30Right.
22:30Is there a fear from, like, your end that things could get worse, like, within that time that he's on
22:36the list?
22:36Of course there is.
22:37Well, that is always the risk with any patient with liver disease.
22:41Yeah.
22:41Of course.
22:42That's always a risk.
22:43No, they can't tell you that.
22:45Yeah.
22:45That's obviously why we're transplanting is because they think the liver's going to fall off.
22:49They don't know when, but it's going to fall off at any moment.
22:52Again, we're not...
22:53No transplant centre lists patients who don't need a transplant.
22:57Yeah.
22:58You know?
22:58All right.
22:59Thank you, Sarah.
23:00All right.
23:01You take care.
23:02Cheers, Sarah.
23:03Speak soon.
23:04OK.
23:05Bye.
23:05Bye-bye.
23:07Oh.
23:07Wow.
23:08How are you feeling?
23:11Different.
23:13Yeah.
23:14Exactly what we were expecting.
23:16We knew that was the case.
23:17That's everything I've known.
23:18There's nothing to celebrate.
23:20It's a fucking shit journey, right?
23:23It's crap.
23:24Don't think you can really ever understand your own feelings, let alone articulate how you're
23:30feeling.
23:33Listed from next Wednesday.
23:35It's quite quick, isn't it?
23:37Never really thought you'd be sat here at 28 going, oh, I don't want anything in life.
23:42Just a good liver, please.
23:45So where's my bed going to go?
23:46That's what I want to know.
23:47In here.
23:49We need to get that saucy.
23:50I really don't appreciate the jokes.
23:53When his reactions are that strong and that harsh or somewhat unjustified, I just know
24:00it's bad.
24:19Oh, hello.
24:20Hello, darling.
24:21How are you?
24:22Yeah, I'm good, thank you.
24:23How are you?
24:24I'm okay.
24:25You know, to lose a dad at a young age, you know, you always, you need your parents for
24:30certain reasons.
24:31With my dad, you know, we, we lost a parental figure.
24:36And I think I'm very, very lucky that my aunt wants to take on that role.
24:43You know, that guiding, strong, telling off that probably sometimes we all need.
24:49And I always say she's my father in a wig, which she loves.
24:55Or so I think she does.
24:57Do you have the meeting?
24:59Yeah.
25:00Well, we're active on the transplant list and hopefully a liver in 18 to 24 months time.
25:06Oh, that's better news than I thought.
25:09Yeah.
25:09At the moment we probably speak every day.
25:11My whole call log is just Lisa.
25:15And then if I go down, it's just mum.
25:18Yeah, mum, Lisa, Ollie, Locke and Alice.
25:23If I did unfortunately get unwell, I would be boosted up the list and I would get it quicker.
25:28It's a very strange area you're in.
25:32And you're kind of hopeful for the worst, but also, you know, it's, it's navigating this field and deciding what
25:40types of livers that you would be willing to accept.
25:42When it comes to live.
25:45Live donations.
25:47Yeah.
25:48Yeah.
25:48Yeah.
25:49I mean, actually funny that you bring it up.
25:50If you take a liver off the waiting list, a lot of these livers aren't, you know, they are coming
25:55from elderly people.
25:56They are coming from people in their 50s, 60s, 70s.
25:59Excuse me, elderly people in their 50s.
26:04I'm going to cut you off right now.
26:06Stop that.
26:06Sorry.
26:07Sorry.
26:09Let me, let me, let me, let me retract.
26:12Well, I'm a negative and I'm an old bag.
26:15So that takes me out of it, obviously.
26:17Thank you for your kind words.
26:20So did they talk about investigating with anybody else in the family?
26:24Your mother would give you her left arm.
26:28I mean, I bet your mother would say, I want to be tested.
26:31Mm.
26:32Yeah.
26:33Well.
26:35Mm.
26:36We have to look at that.
26:41Mm.
26:43Obviously everyone wants the best for me.
26:46And everyone just wants me to stay healthy and stay well.
26:50But at times it just becomes a little bit overwhelming.
26:56So under the guidance of your doctor, it's something we have to discuss.
27:02Yeah.
27:03You keep your nose and your head down and you just, you just get on with life.
27:09Take every day as it comes.
27:11All right, darling.
27:12Well, I love you.
27:13Love you.
27:14Love you.
27:14All right.
27:15Please say it with a bit more light.
27:17I know.
27:18Okay.
27:19I love you.
27:21Bye.
27:22Bye.
27:27Oh, God.
27:37Hello.
27:39How are you?
27:40All right.
27:40Good.
27:41We're good.
27:41How are you, mate?
27:42You're right, mate.
27:44I think you're doing your favourite.
27:46It's not your hair.
27:47We're kids.
27:48When was Alison you washed it?
27:50About two weeks ago.
27:51Since I washed it.
27:55It's your bro, yeah?
27:56Yeah.
27:57What's your name, mate?
27:58Yeah.
27:58Jack.
27:58Jack, it's me, Jack.
27:59Nice to meet you.
28:00I was always a nightmare.
28:02I was always the problem child.
28:04My brother was perfection.
28:06Straight A star.
28:09academic gift of a student, and there was me getting kicked out of school.
28:14Have you been prepared for tomorrow?
28:15Er, I think so.
28:18We've actually got to go pick up the rings after this.
28:20I wanted always a very minimalistic gold band and I was about to buy one from the jewellers
28:26and my brother and my mum went, well, we've got Dad's gold band.
28:30That's lovely.
28:31It's sentimental as well.
28:33But what they did to it, the jewellers, they've made it look brand new as well, so look at
28:37that.
28:38Oh my God, that looks like the one ring to rule them all, mate.
28:40Yeah, I know, yeah, yeah, Lord.
28:42That's literally...
28:42You know what, funny enough, I was watching Lord of the Rings last night.
28:45Did you?
28:45Yeah, yeah, yeah.
28:46Love for my precious.
28:47Not for long, mate, because when your other precious comes, that will be the one.
28:51Jack, what are your responsibilities tomorrow?
28:53I don't think there are any responsibilities as it's quite a quiet affair, isn't it?
28:58Yeah.
28:59I'm making the music playlist.
29:00Yeah, he's making the music playlist.
29:03Have you done that?
29:04No, I'm going to do it tomorrow morning.
29:07This is why Jack doesn't have any responsibilities.
29:25We're on our way to the registry office.
29:27Are you excited?
29:29Very excited, yes.
29:30Bet you what, mate.
29:31It's a pretty big day.
29:33I'm really busy for you, OK?
29:35All right, well, I'll be there.
29:37Lots of love.
29:37All right.
29:38So let's go now, come on.
29:42Go, go, go, go, go.
29:43It's time, so let's go.
29:45Go, go.
29:46It's time, so let's go.
29:48Go, go.
29:48It's time, so let's go, go, go.
29:49It's time, so let's go now.
29:54You're in front of the race for sure.
29:56Oh.
29:56She's a bit fussy, this supper.
29:58Yeah, the bridge shape.
29:59You're lovely too.
30:00Very James Bortz.
30:00Oh, thank you very much.
30:01Someone said to me in the pub, do you want a martini shake my staff?
30:05Yeah.
30:05Hello. How are you?
30:07I'm not going to bug you.
30:08It's not makeup.
30:11Hello. We'll shake hands.
30:12I've never done that.
30:15Sam, why are you waiting?
30:33Let's go.
30:43Your normal journey is to date, move in, get a dog, get engaged,
30:54and do it all over a few-year period, which would have been, you know, which is lovely.
30:58Ladies and gentlemen, please stand for your bride and her party.
31:02For the reason we've decided to do this smaller wedding sooner, we've got a baby coming.
31:09We want to have the same last name.
31:12You know?
31:16There are other reasons for me as well, obviously.
31:20Plan for the worst, hope for the best.
31:30I was very overwhelmed before the doors opened to me walking down the aisle.
31:34I had a lot of anxiety, a lot of emotions.
31:40And then it was actually seeing his face when he turned around and him smiling.
31:44That made me feel so calm.
31:47That's when I was like, oh, my God, I'm marrying the love of my life.
31:51You can't kiss.
31:52You're not married yet.
31:56It wasn't the vows, it wasn't the rings.
31:59It was the moment that we, like, made eye contact in that room
32:02and I hadn't seen him for 24 hours and he just smiled.
32:06So if I could ask you please to repeat after me.
32:09I'm definitely going to mess this up.
32:11I do solemnly declare.
32:13I do solemnly declare that I know not.
32:17Of any lawful impediment.
32:18Of any lawful impediment.
32:20Why I, Sam.
32:21Why I, Sam.
32:22May not be joined in matrimony.
32:24May a...
32:25What?
32:28May not be joined.
32:30In matrimony.
32:31In matrimony.
32:31To Alice.
32:32Please, finally, Jane.
32:33I do some- estructally declare.
32:35That I know not.
32:36That I know not.
32:38Of any lawful impediment.
32:39That I- of any lawful impediment.
32:43Why I, Alice, may not be joined.
32:45In matrimony.
32:46In matrimony.
32:46In matrimony.
32:47To Sam.
32:47To Sam.
32:49So Sam, do you take Alice to be your lawful wife?
32:52I do.
32:53And that is, do you take Sam to be your lawful husband?
32:56I do.
32:57You are now husband and wife.
33:30It is with my great pleasure
33:32that I get to introduce Mr and Mrs Vanderpump.
33:44I don't think I could be happier today and there's only one reason for that and she's
33:49sat next to me and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
34:04Have you told Sam you've not given back the necklace yet?
34:07It might just happen to go missing.
34:09How much have I missed?
34:10At least 200,000.
34:11It's been so beautiful.
34:13It has been perfect.
34:13It has been so nice.
34:15It's the biggest day of my life so far.
34:25I think it's gone off without a hitch.
34:27Absolutely fantastic.
34:29I don't think I've stopped smiling all day.
34:34I look at Alice like she's my best friend and I feel so happy, so secure and just generally
34:41so happy.
34:42I don't think I could have asked for anything more.
35:05I'm very lucky that I have the support network around me of my family.
35:09But at the end of the day, it is still an extremely lonely journey.
35:16Most people that go through a need for a liver transplant are in their 70s plus.
35:22It's a very rare thing to be a 28-year-old man who needs a liver transplant.
35:30This is a guy who's a similar age to me, who's gone through this journey and showing me he
35:36can do it and if he can do it, why can't I do it?
35:38This is what terrifies me, right, which is the surgery and coming out of that surgery with all these
35:46cannulas in your neck, these drains plugged into you.
35:49I mean, he looks great.
35:50He's doing brilliant and, you know, he's done, he's recorded this whole journey on TikTok.
35:54So what a legend.
35:56I love this guy.
35:57I want to meet him.
35:58Yeah.
35:59Brilliant.
36:07Hello.
36:08How's it going?
36:08You all right?
36:09I'm good, man.
36:10How are you?
36:10Chris?
36:10Yeah, I'm Chris.
36:12Spoggy, shall I call you?
36:13Yeah, Spoggy.
36:13But yeah, that's been my nickname since I was, like, about 12 years old, so.
36:18Wicked, wicked.
36:19Nice to meet you, mate.
36:20You too, man.
36:20You too.
36:21How are you doing?
36:22Yeah.
36:23I mean, I think you probably know better than anyone.
36:25That's a hard question right now.
36:27Yeah, it's a difficult one.
36:28The thing is, though, the way I looked at it is, it was very much like an acceptance
36:33of the situation.
36:33Yeah.
36:34And I think this is just because of the length of time.
36:36But in my head, I got to a point where I was like, I'm probably not going to come
36:40out of this.
36:40Wow.
36:41It was like 18 months in total.
36:43You were waiting 18 months?
36:44Yeah.
36:44Wow.
36:45Yeah, 18 months.
36:45Which is what they've sort of said to me, 18 to 24 months.
36:48Yeah.
36:49And it was just, like, getting the call for the transplant.
36:52It was kind of like this moment of, like, just overwhelming emotion.
36:56Transplant, should it go ahead?
36:58Well, at the earliest, it'll probably be tomorrow afternoon.
37:02I just wanted to give you a call tonight, just before you kind of went to bed or anything.
37:07The bit that you don't see on the video that I posted is that after I put the phone
37:12down.
37:12Okay.
37:13Bye.
37:15I mean, Mrs stops the recording.
37:18She sort of stands up off the couch, like, walking towards me.
37:21And you can just see, I could, like, I'm getting goosebumps now.
37:24And she was like, you did it.
37:26You just couldn't kind of believe that this had actually happened.
37:30Like, I'd actually had this call.
37:31The biggest struggle I think I've been having is the fear of the operation.
37:35So, for me, I guess, like, there's a naivety to it.
37:39I'm saying, I'll be fine.
37:40Don't worry.
37:40And me mom and me missus, don't worry.
37:42I'll see you in a couple of hours.
37:44And then as they're putting me to sleep and the drugs are kicking in, I almost had this,
37:49like, Bruce Willis Armageddon moment where my brain just went, oh, you might not see them
37:55again.
37:55Oh, God.
37:58Spoggy's TikTok.
37:59It's hard to watch for me.
38:00It really is.
38:01Imagine this.
38:02Watch a horror movie knowing that that's what you're going to go through.
38:06And I think that's the way you can explain watching Spoggy's footage.
38:11Obviously, yours ended up being a DCD, death by cardiovascular liver, right?
38:16Yeah.
38:16So, but one thing they've been saying to me heavily was a live donation.
38:22And I just wondered if they were that like with you or did that ever come up?
38:26The conversation did come up.
38:28My mom and dad and one or two of me mates were like, I'll get tested.
38:33I was kind of like, maybe a little bit stubborn.
38:38Yeah, same.
38:39And I was like, no.
38:40I was like, this is my illness.
38:43I'm not going to put you at risk.
38:44Yeah.
38:45Same, same.
38:46Just to literally fix me.
38:47I am the one.
38:48How could you ever live with yourself if you wake up and your friends don't?
38:53Yeah, no.
38:53Yeah, same.
38:54I was exactly the same.
38:55Yeah, yeah, yeah.
38:56But look, the thing is, I'll be honest.
38:59Because I know more about it now and I've spoke to people that have been live donors,
39:04I think I probably would explore it.
39:08Interesting.
39:09Now that I know like in terms of like, how safe it is and I've actually spoke to people
39:14that have come through it, I would explore it.
39:18I mean, all the time, you know, all of these little conversations around live donation,
39:23they do have me thinking.
39:26I really appreciate your time, mate, honestly.
39:29But it's nice to hear someone who's gone through a lot of the same stuff I've gone through
39:33and, you know, you can talk to your family and friends and they're there to support you,
39:37but he's actually gone through it.
39:47One thing I don't understand is what we're going to...
39:51Do you dress in full outfits from the beginning or do you just...?
39:55You bring like three small baby grows, one slightly larger one in case...
40:00Should I dress him in a suit as he leaves the hospital?
40:02No, no.
40:04No.
40:05Put him in this one for the first outfit.
40:08Damn.
40:09And you can wear your matching top.
40:12I don't know about that.
40:15Chug.
40:17These are from Ollie and Gareth and this is his first pair of swim shorts.
40:21Very prepared.
40:29Hello!
40:30Hello!
40:33How are you?
40:38Good, thank you.
40:39Come on in.
40:41Thank you for cooking.
40:45Did you enjoy the wedding?
40:47Yeah.
40:47It really was gorgeous.
40:49Did you see that hello swapped off?
40:52That...
40:53Yeah, it's making it look like that's my right hand.
40:55Three million views.
40:57Wow.
40:573.1.
40:58Oh, at least it's just swapped off.
40:59That's funny.
40:59That's funny.
41:00Yeah, it's making it look like that's my right hand.
41:00Ooh!
41:01Ooh!
41:02Ooh!
41:04Ooh!
41:05Ooh!
41:07Speaking the same language we are.
41:09It's the same mental capacity.
41:11I knew that joke was coming.
41:13It's too easy.
41:14I'm not sure it was a joke.
41:15I set you up.
41:15I set you up for that one.
41:18Do you think we're crazy for ordering a cream couch?
41:21Whitey cream, yeah.
41:22Yeah.
41:23Quite seriously, they will get a pen and do that by the time they're one and a half.
41:27No.
41:28There'll be a baby date and they will not be going in the lounge.
41:30And there won't be loose pens around.
41:31It will be pen time.
41:33We'll have pen time.
41:33I promise you, a child will find a pen.
41:35Like, it's not even a discussion.
41:37You guys don't do it by halves, do you?
41:39It's quite extraordinary.
41:40Yeah.
41:40What?
41:41Oh, let's have a liver transplant.
41:43Let's have a...
41:44Let's have a baby.
41:45It's exhausting.
41:48This looks so good.
41:51I am hungry, greedy and feeding for two.
41:54You know what?
41:55Right now, I'd rather a liver transplant than going through what you're going to go through.
41:59This is not what you were saying the other day when I said I'm really scared to give birth.
42:02You went, I'd rather do that than have a liver transplant.
42:05The surgeons have actually come up to me and said that why wouldn't I consider a live donation?
42:11It's actually the best type and what they would push heavily for is a live donation.
42:17Because, obviously, waiting on a waiting list for two years, I could become seriously ill while waiting.
42:24Also, with a live donation, you ensure that the liver is completely healthy.
42:32But you have to have a full liver.
42:33No.
42:34No.
42:34You can take...
42:35So, with live donations, they can take half or 40% or a slice of someone's liver.
42:41Yeah.
42:41Because the liver regenerates.
42:44Yeah.
42:44And when they say it regenerates, literally, if you slice it in half and you keep your right lobe and
42:49you donate to, let's say, your left lobe,
42:51your liver would regrow pretty much to its full self again inside your body within four to six weeks.
42:57And the lobe you put inside me would also grow to a full liver pretty much within about six weeks.
43:03It's the fastest regenerating, the only regenerating vital organ in the body.
43:08And what's even really amazing about it is it would actually probably regenerate faster than your wound, your scar, would
43:15even heal.
43:16How long is the recovery for the person who donates to live it?
43:19I think three months.
43:20It's no blanket.
43:22It's probably...
43:22It's definitely not the same for everyone, I'm sure.
43:24So, do you know what blood type you are?
43:26Yeah, I'm...
43:28Negative, I think.
43:30Universal.
43:31Yeah, universal, you're the same as me.
43:32Yeah.
43:33You'd be a match for a live donation, technically.
43:38I'll definitely get it tested.
43:40No, I will.
43:42It's such a weird one, I don't want to like...
43:44I was expecting this from our conversation.
43:46I think if Gareth can go and have a test, I think it's worth discussion.
43:54What did you feel about the lunch?
43:56Nice to see them.
43:57Um, lovely lunch, lovely food, lovely company.
44:01How did you feel when Gareth kind of mentioned that he is the same blood type as you and would
44:05get a test?
44:06I think, look, Gareth's got kids.
44:09Um...
44:09I don't want to have to feel...
44:13Like, what I'm going through already is hard enough.
44:18I don't want to feel responsible for now.
44:21This is like my illness, right?
44:23I see how much it affects you that you wouldn't want that, like, pressure or guilt or worry or concern
44:29for someone else or put someone through that.
44:32I can see that really strongly.
44:34But then from my side selfishly as well, it's like, we don't know anything.
44:40Everything's unknown.
44:41We don't know when it's going to happen.
44:42We don't know what's going to happen in that timeframe.
44:44In a way, I just want you to have the best chance as soon as possible.
44:49You know?
44:51It takes the pressure off knowing that we have a bit of control over, like, timeframe and we don't have
44:57to worry as much about things getting worse or whatever.
44:59I don't even know if that makes any sense.
45:04No, it does.
45:06That is the thing that scares me with the time that we've had to think about things.
45:10Don't want you to get any more ill.
45:15I guess, in a way, the optimist in us should just focus on that he is okay now.
45:21But I can't help think we're having a baby.
45:24What if in six months suddenly he's got a really bad infection?
45:29He's not okay.
45:30You know, he has an option here.
45:32And if I didn't push for that and something did go wrong and Duke doesn't have a dad, I would
45:39kick myself.
45:40Like, you've got to...
45:42I do want him to explore it, but then I don't want any added pressure on his shoulders.
45:56Hello!
45:58I did actually contact the dirty centre.
46:00You did?
46:01Yeah.
46:02And relax.
46:03From my point of view, the liver looks good.
46:05Not even a question of, can I do it?
46:07Do I want to do it?
46:09It's, I want to fight to do it.
46:10You look so comfy there on you.
46:12Come in.
46:13Bye.
46:14Bye.
46:15I'm so glad I'm here.
46:18I'm part of it.
46:19I love you, baby.
46:44Bye.
46:45Bye.
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