00:00While most relationships end after a few months or years, it's almost never due to a lack of...
00:04'love,
00:04but simply because we didn't learn these three things that I wish I had understood much earlier
00:07and which destroy relationships.
00:09The first point is that it's not what we say that destroys relationships, but what
00:12that we don't say.
00:12Those little frustrations you keep to yourself, for fear of starting an argument, that thing that hurt you
00:16but that you never dared to express.
00:18It is the accumulation of unspoken words that eventually explode during an argument that seems trivial.
00:22But at that moment, no one is able to understand why you are reacting so strongly.
00:25Couples who last aren't necessarily those who never argue.
00:27It's those who have the courage to speak directly to each other before the situation deteriorates.
00:31The second important point is respect, but not only from you, but also from your friends, from your
00:35family.
00:36The day your partner finds themselves in a situation where they are being disrespected in front of you
00:40And that you say nothing, that you let it go,
00:41You can be sure that it will break something.
00:43You can have all the disagreements in the world between you, but outside it's you and her against each other
00:47the rest of the world.
00:48And the last point, perhaps the hardest, is to be able to at the end of the day, even when
00:52are you mad,
00:53to put your ego aside, to look at her, to remember why you are with this person.
00:57You can sulk all day, you can be more frustrated than ever,
01:00But there's one rule I try to impose on myself: never go to bed on
01:02a conger eel.
01:03So if there's this person with whom you're trying to build something real right now,
01:07I'm just sharing this message simply to remind him that even if things aren't always perfect between you,
01:10You're ready to do whatever it takes to make it work.
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