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00:03I'm nervous.
00:04I'm gonna take it one step at a time.
00:07In a world saturated with sex...
00:10I'm absolutely petrified.
00:12More young adults than ever are living without it.
00:16The thought of having sex with someone...
00:18...scares me.
00:19It gives me the ick.
00:20I'm missing out.
00:21Terrified.
00:21Nerve-racking.
00:22Gut-wrenching.
00:23Embarrassing.
00:24All I think about is what I'm gonna get wrong.
00:27Can you point to the outer labia?
00:30Nope.
00:33Now...
00:3512 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.
00:39Social media, porn, dating apps.
00:42There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.
00:45Use it by stimulating the area.
00:47They'll be guided by experts.
00:50You see yourself as...
00:52Proposal.
00:52To explore all aspects of intimacy.
00:55And maybe even have sex with a trained therapist.
00:59Do you wanna put a condom on?
01:02Or each other.
01:04Get a room, guys!
01:07I really do need to change the life.
01:10Who will be ready...
01:11Desperate times call for desperate measures.
01:13To go all...
01:15The way.
01:24Morning, Ireland!
01:25Over the past few days on Virgin Island...
01:28I'm slutty Stephanie.
01:30Things got steamy in the seductive phase.
01:33That's not how I thought I would feel.
01:35It feels good.
01:36Marianne got to grips with a naked Andre.
01:38I could do this all day.
01:41Can I give you a spank?
01:42Yes.
01:44Bertie found his voice in the bedroom.
01:46Thanks for asking.
01:47And Callum and Katie's connection deepened.
01:54Now...
01:55As the group enter the climax phase...
01:59Time is running out to fulfill their island ambitions.
02:04It's good.
02:05A lot of people think climax is just about orgasm.
02:09But climax is actually having a peak sexual experience.
02:13Your partner might be stimulating your cleat.
02:15And we want all of them to have their peak sexual experiences in their lives.
02:29After 15 days...
02:31Oh, the last letter.
02:34The group are nearing graduation from Virgin Island.
02:38Let's see what the last phase is.
02:42Prepare for the end of the course as it reaches its climax.
02:48Well, I'm pleased that they took my advice on the pun.
02:53I'm actually quite excited.
02:55This one could be quite a fun one.
02:58A lot of the stuff we've done previously has got me into a confident mood.
03:02Yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
03:04100%.
03:04For me, being on the island, it has had an ending.
03:08It was sex and reaching orgasm.
03:13Twice.
03:14I wonder what we're going to be doing, because it's like, have we not?
03:18I mean, I've already climaxed.
03:23While some of the group have found what they came for...
03:26The final phase.
03:28Others have yet to reach the goals.
03:30It's going to come to an end soon.
03:32I know.
03:34Today has to be possession, sorry.
03:36No.
03:37Climax.
03:38I'm going to get in front of each other and have a wank.
03:44For the final workshop of the retreat...
03:47Callum, are you ready?
03:48Yeah.
03:49So ready.
03:49The experts want the group to realise...
03:52There's actually a literal bed.
03:54..just how far they've come.
03:55Morning, guys.
03:56Morning.
03:56Morning.
03:59All right.
04:01The final phase of the course.
04:03The climax.
04:05Climax is really having this peak experience that you can have in your sex life.
04:10And we want to make sure that you get every tool that you need in order to do that.
04:14Now, if you remember, the very first demo we showed you at the start of the course, pillow talk.
04:21Mm-hmm.
04:22Most of you were like deer in the headlights.
04:26Oh, my God.
04:27Your eyes are so beautiful.
04:29When they first saw the pillow talk demo, they couldn't even look.
04:34They were extremely intimidated.
04:36It's a bit...
04:37Yeah.
04:38So now, with everything you've discovered, it's time to step up and try it yourself.
04:45Okay.
04:46If anyone's keen.
04:47If anyone's keen.
04:48First up, advanced students Alex and Joy.
04:54You look so nice today.
04:56So nice.
04:59Beautiful.
05:01Sexy.
05:02Like, not anything that's sweet.
05:04That's great.
05:05It's important communication here.
05:07You look so sexy today.
05:10I love your eyes.
05:12You drive me crazy.
05:14That does me all.
05:15Good.
05:18You need your legs on top of me.
05:20What?
05:22I really want to kiss you right now.
05:24Yeah.
05:37It's not just Alex and Joy.
05:39You smell so good.
05:41You're giving me the eyes.
05:42Who are keen to show off their pillow talk prowess.
05:46I can get lost in your eyes.
05:48You can get lost together.
05:50I like that.
05:54Amazing.
05:58But the final exercise will teach the group the ultimate sex tips.
06:02So for your final lesson, we will show you some sex moves.
06:10It's really, really important that they practice with the different sexual positions to be erotically confident.
06:16We've chosen these sex positions because they're the most common.
06:21They're the most common.
06:21Which include one partner on top.
06:25Missionary position.
06:28Also oral sex is really, really important.
06:31And doggy style.
06:34No one's going to be doing wheelbarrow out there.
06:43Do you want to start?
06:45I'll do it.
06:50After a nervy start...
06:51Put this leg between her legs.
06:55Like this?
06:55Bertie has thrown himself into more and more of the exercises.
06:59Good, good. Perfect.
07:01And it's paying off.
07:03Good.
07:04Is this all right?
07:05Yeah, very smooth.
07:07I want to get out from the retreat as much as I can.
07:12But so many people just do it naturally.
07:15They know what they're doing.
07:16They're confident in themselves.
07:18I just want to be that guy.
07:23Do you want to start?
07:24Always.
07:31I feel really proud.
07:33If you had a strap on, it would be a great position for that.
07:36At first they were all hesitant.
07:38I ashamed.
07:40But they have completely supported each other through the whole process.
07:46Yeah!
07:47Do you want a spank?
07:48I'll have a pat.
07:50It's unprecedented.
07:54And for one couple...
07:55You ready?
07:57Oh, go on then.
07:58Don't act like you haven't been doing this in a day bed anyway.
08:02The bond has intensified.
08:04Naughty.
08:06I've always grown up reading, like, sexy stories, even when I was a teenager.
08:11The word virgin means you haven't had sex.
08:16But in my head, I know what I like.
08:20Can it take a second to connect?
08:23I don't really want to be intimate with someone I don't know.
08:26When I build a connection up, I start laughing with them and have a fun time with them.
08:30That's what I want in the future.
08:32Hold her on top of you.
08:33Ready?
08:35Yes!
08:36Perfect!
08:38Change to missionary and connect your purposes together.
08:42Yeah, there you go.
08:43Perfect.
08:44The next one is going down.
08:51You can flip her into doggy self.
08:54Yeah!
08:55Exactly!
09:05How did it feel to do that?
09:07I think, like, doing half these workshops, it just leaves me, like, massively, like, horny all day.
09:13Oh, shit!
09:16Well...
09:16That's great!
09:22Bye!
09:28How do we feel that was our last ever workshop?
09:31Didn't expect that.
09:32There were times when people would say,
09:33I want to do it, but I'm not comfortable doing it with someone in the group.
09:37That was practically my catchphrase at one minute.
09:38Hmm.
09:40The sex positions, like, they were a bit awkward, but when you're in the mood with your partner, it'll all
09:46just flow.
09:47Yeah.
09:51For Callum and Katie...
09:56...as they're near the end of the retreat...
10:00...their mutual affection...
10:01Oh, you're funny. I like you.
10:03...is on full display.
10:06I'm very excited to see a budding romance in this environment.
10:11It's beautiful. People feel the freedom to use the skills and the tools that they're learning in the retreat.
10:17That's actually my dream.
10:19I can bloody feel you on my stomach.
10:21It makes love all the time. Don't worry about it.
10:24It's...
10:24It's quite a hard life.
10:27Literally.
10:29My main focus moving forward is obviously getting closer to Katie, because, like, I'm not being funny, I like her.
10:36Stop teasing yourself.
10:42I've never felt this way with a boy before. I've never been close to a boy before.
10:46But I don't think I know my body at all. And I have literally no experience.
10:52So I think I'm just scared for, like, not knowing what to do.
10:57Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
11:03As Callum and Katie get closer than ever, the experts want to make sure they're properly prepared.
11:10Katie, she has this budding romance with Callum, which is very sweet.
11:14And I also feel like there's so much more for her to learn around her own body and pleasure.
11:19Yeah, I want this session to be about her starting to step into her womanhood, building some kind of a
11:26relationship with her genitals.
11:28Kat, you're gonna be seeing Callum today, and this is your last session with him.
11:33Yes, we're going to be doing Close Off Erotic Touch.
11:36And I feel like it's a good place stopping him here because he has the skills to go forth and
11:41enjoy with Katie.
11:47I have no sexual history at all. I haven't done anything. I haven't ever had an orgasm.
11:53When I was younger, I thought I would have been married and had kids by now, multiple kids.
11:59Hello, beautiful.
12:01And I feel disappointed in myself that I haven't been able to achieve anything that I wanted to.
12:06So, have you explored your vagina in any way?
12:09No, I haven't.
12:10With time at the retreat running out.
12:12So, what could be motivating about getting to, you know, your genitals?
12:16So, I'm able to tell them exactly what I like already.
12:21Yeah.
12:21Katie's meeting sexological body worker Elil to learn more about pleasure.
12:27Something that can feel really nice is if you have your finger in, or your partner has,
12:32and you kind of might be stimulating your clit at the same time.
12:36Mmm.
12:37I mean, just doing that could feel really nice.
12:40I never went to, like, sex ed at school or anything, so this is, like, totally new to me.
12:45I don't know why I get so uncomfortable over my own body.
12:48Exactly.
12:49While Katie has her very own sex ed lesson...
12:53How's it going?
12:53Me and Katie, we've hit it off a lot.
12:55How's that feeling? Awesome.
12:57Callum is responding well to hands-on therapy with surrogate partner Kat.
13:01What do you feel like you want to do with Katie?
13:03I just want to experience everything that I can in the right way.
13:07I have never touched anyone intimately.
13:09So, when it comes to it, the fear is not knowing anything about it and what to do.
13:13Okay, so we'll start, I'll let you kind of leave.
13:15It's a lot of pressure and, you know, you don't want to have sex with someone if you don't know
13:19how to have sex.
13:20Sex should be something that should be cherished, not something that should just be a quick form of just getting
13:25off.
13:26While you're holding my hand down, start to touch me.
13:31Yeah.
13:34Go slowly up and down.
13:37How does that feel me touching you?
13:39Great.
13:42Yeah.
13:43Like that.
13:48I think I need more boy knowledge.
13:50Okay.
13:51Do you want to explore some dicks?
13:52Let's do it.
13:53So it really changes from a person to a person, but usually the parts that have the most pleasure is
13:59like the head.
14:00So you can kind of like go around.
14:04A little softer.
14:09The balls can feel really nice.
14:12For some it's very sensitive and for some you can really squeeze them.
14:18Yeah, I like that.
14:22You're welcome.
14:23But this has been so good.
14:27It's quite scary because it's just very unknown, but I know what to explore.
14:32So it's going to be fun.
14:34I felt you like really present and like following things.
14:39Genuinely, I can't explain how much you've helped me.
14:42I never thought I'd be at this point ever.
14:44That's amazing.
14:45Like just to do this alone is unbelievable.
14:47You really have all of the tools you need.
14:50Yeah.
14:51It's crazy how much I've changed the person I've actually got closer to Katie.
14:55The heart wants what the heart wants.
15:06It's afternoon on Virgin Island.
15:08This is pretty good.
15:10It's good?
15:11Mmm.
15:12Good.
15:12While Callum and Katie's chemistry is impossible to miss.
15:15Is it fun, Callum?
15:18Yeah, it is.
15:23Marianne has been steadily exploring her own connection with surrogate partner Andre.
15:28What I love about Andre is he has a way of making people feel calm and relaxed and he reads
15:33you very well.
15:34You arrive with boundaries in terms of, I'm just too scared to try something, but now it's more just about
15:40having fun exploring.
15:43Marianne, she's really embracing her sexiness.
15:46She really is glowing and you're going to be having a session with her, Andre, today.
15:52She's a very curious individual.
15:54She wants to learn about herself.
15:56She's very interested to see if she wants to go even further.
15:59So we'll check in, but there's that potential.
16:04Everyone expects a virgin to be like this horrible ugly thing that hides and has no confidence.
16:10But I'm a very sexual person.
16:15I read a lot of books and I have one fantasy which it's recurring one.
16:20I love the idea of spanking and maybe having that dominance, but I still feel as if I have my
16:27autonomy, I'm good and I'm safe.
16:32Hello.
16:35Though making good progress, Marianne is still setting her own pace with Andre.
16:41How are you doing today?
16:42Doing well. You?
16:43I'm good today, yeah.
16:45Surrogate partner therapy is structured around consent and it's all about their full body understanding that this is their time
16:56and they get to choose.
16:57So today, was there anything that you came in with wanting to try?
17:04Can we try the mutual massage and possibly spanking?
17:12Okay.
17:13So I was like, that's, yeah, I love, I love that.
17:15How did you learn about it? You said, you know?
17:17Books.
17:18Books.
17:18Read a lot of books.
17:19And just take my inspiration from that.
17:21I'm like, cool.
17:22Very cool.
17:22Noted.
17:23You deserve to be happy.
17:24You deserve to feel pleasure and sometimes that can also allow the building in of trust and safety to other
17:32intimate connection that we could potentially share.
17:35To get things started, Andre performs a sensual massage.
17:43It feels so lovely.
17:45Mm-hmm.
17:47I'm glad you're enjoying it.
17:48Mm-hmm.
17:56Next.
17:58Can we do the spanking?
17:59Okay.
18:01Marianne has some ideas of her own.
18:03Put your body over.
18:05Like this?
18:06Mm-hmm.
18:07Yeah.
18:07If you want, you can even lean on it.
18:09How does that feel?
18:10Feels nice.
18:11Okay, good.
18:13Mm-hmm.
18:15I like starting slowly to just feel your skin.
18:18You feel my hand getting familiar with my touch, waking up the skin.
18:26And I usually like working on a number scale, so I get to know how hard you want to be
18:31spanked.
18:33So from zero to five, zero being I didn't feel that at all, five being that's the hardest hit I
18:41can take.
18:42What is that?
18:43That's zero.
18:48How about that?
18:49Mm, two.
18:50It's a two.
18:51Yeah.
18:52So we'll stay with the two.
18:53Mm-hmm.
19:02How does that feel?
19:04Really good.
19:05Really good.
19:06Mm-hmm.
19:13What would feel good to receive in the way of care?
19:18Cuddles.
19:18Mm-hmm.
19:20Okay, let's do that.
19:25Thank you for the spanks.
19:28Oh.
19:30Why don't we go ahead and get dressed?
19:37Okay, Karen.
19:38You're welcome, too.
19:40That was so fun and super fucking hot.
19:45It was nice because I felt really in it and really safe and horny, very, very horny.
19:54When I first came, everything seemed so far away and now it made me confident in what I'm feeling, how
20:00I can communicate it and asking for what I want as well.
20:09Hi.
20:10Hi.
20:10Hi, Marianne.
20:11Welcome back.
20:12Oh, you guys are back on the bed.
20:14Marianne, you've missed so much, brother.
20:16What happened?
20:16Oh, my God.
20:17Why did you think Katie and Calum have gone?
20:19Yay.
20:20On a date?
20:20They're having a special nap.
20:22It's where in your life?
20:23Genuinely, they are.
20:25With their relationship, the talk of the island.
20:28I'm really excited for this connection.
20:30Yeah?
20:30Yep.
20:31Callum and Katie are keen to spend some time alone together.
20:34In order to make sure that everyone feels safe, I wanted to check a little bit about your readiness.
20:39Anything that you feel like it's hard for you to share with each other and you want to use me
20:43to support you in sharing that?
20:45I think I've pretty much told you everything, like, my worries and stuff.
20:48Mm-hmm.
20:48Obviously, I had a lot before coming here, but I've gone through the entire experience.
20:52All them worries and everything that I felt have gone.
20:57Consent is essential to everything we do at the retreat.
21:02One of the most powerful things is that we teach people to speak their boundaries.
21:08So, when they actually consent, they mean it.
21:12You're both adults.
21:14I always feel like you can say no and say yes.
21:18I'm really proud of seeing both of you really blooming and I'm excited for your developing connection.
21:26You're so cute.
21:30I would love to have a partner.
21:32I would love to have a boyfriend.
21:34I have kindness and patience to offer to someone.
21:40I want to do that and I can't wait to do that one day.
21:45I feel like a genuine connection comes from, you know, meeting someone in person.
21:50I want to see if I can really actually let it happen.
21:56Ooh, fancy.
22:01You ready?
22:02Mm-hmm.
22:03Take your tuck off.
22:04You can take it off.
22:06What begins as foreplay?
22:07That diggles!
22:10Eventually evolves.
22:12You're right.
22:14Ready?
22:17As Callum and Katie take a significant step together.
22:28You feel nice.
22:30Mm-hmm.
22:34Great position.
22:36Okay.
22:37Come on.
22:42Oh, my God.
22:47It's disgusting.
22:54See?
23:05Oh, my God.
23:13That was pretty hot.
23:15Mm-hmm.
23:22When I first arrived on this island,
23:24I was scared and I was shy and so insecure.
23:29I didn't expect to lose my virginity at all,
23:33but I think it was really a natural thing
23:36because I trust Callum so much and it was really good.
23:40I'm just so excited to go back
23:42and show everyone this new version of me.
23:46Such a good nap.
23:47Yeah, yeah, sorry. Very, very good nap, yeah.
23:50We made the experience ours.
23:53We both helped each other a lot
23:55and what a perfect way to end it.
24:08It's the start of the final day on Virgin Island.
24:11Morning, guys. Good morning.
24:14Good morning.
24:15Oh, mushroom. Oh, I like mushrooms.
24:19Do you sleep well, Callum? Mm-hmm.
24:20Bet you did.
24:22Got a lot of muscle pain today.
24:27Melly, do you think you'll fit in my suitcase?
24:30If you give me a little bit of room to breathe...
24:35How are you feeling, Bertie, about the end?
24:36It'll be nice to go back and see my friends and family,
24:39but at the same time, I'm going to miss this.
24:42I feel like it's going to be weird just not being horny every day.
24:44Who says you're not going to be horny every day?
24:46Yeah, that's true.
24:48Ahead of this evening's graduation ceremony,
24:52the experts have set the group one final exercise.
24:55Read this out to us, Tegan.
24:57Now you're at the end of the course,
24:59we want you to write a letter to your past self
25:02to read out in front of the group at this graduation ceremony.
25:08So I've got to think of a bloody speech to say.
25:10I think mine will be quite short, actually.
25:13It's the climax phase.
25:18Realising how far you've come is really emotional.
25:22It's a moment to reflect and help them cement the journey
25:26of their progress and development.
25:28Having made real progress in his previous session,
25:34Bertie's due to meet surrogate partner Kat for the final time.
25:38Bertie was like the real sleeper.
25:39When I first saw him,
25:41he felt like he was going to talk himself out of everything,
25:43and then he talked himself into everything.
25:45And I think he has so much sensuality.
25:48As soon as he gets aroused,
25:50he really surprised me.
25:52He's been so fun to work with.
25:54So we're going to see what he wants to do today
25:56to feel like really complete.
26:02I'm not getting any younger in terms of the dating game.
26:08I just want to try my very best
26:10to do all the things that I want to push myself to do
26:15and to come back telling people
26:18how much of a different person I am
26:20and being able to just feel free.
26:25Good afternoon.
26:27Can I pump?
26:28For the first time,
26:31Kat feels Bertie's ready for the bedroom
26:33and the next step in his sexual education.
26:36So, would you want to try oral?
26:44Um...
26:44It's the nervous excitement, but, uh, yeah.
26:50So...
26:51So...
26:51I'm going to let you practice leading.
26:53Um, okay.
26:54Okay.
27:04Will you take off my shirt?
27:06I thought you'd never ask.
27:11Okay, so I want you to just relax
27:13and just notice the sensations, okay?
27:17Yeah, okay.
27:20Hmm.
27:30Do you want to try switching?
27:32Yeah.
27:35Where's...
27:35Where do you like to be?
27:37Um, I would say first just explore.
27:39Just, like, it's new, it's weird.
27:41So, see what it feels like for you
27:43and if you even like it.
27:47It's quite salty, actually.
27:51I'm not sure if, um,
27:53oralwood's going to be for me, but, uh...
27:56Would you like to pivot to do what is for you?
27:59Yeah.
27:59Yeah, let's do that.
28:01Oral experiment over.
28:03That would feel good.
28:04Maybe you can keep doing that.
28:06Bertie leads the way.
28:08I can touch you like this.
28:11Yeah, that's it.
28:13It feels really good.
28:14Yeah.
28:17That's good, good.
28:19Yeah, Bert.
28:21This is so nice.
28:26So fucking sexy.
28:39Didn't go in your hair this time.
28:40I'm very happy.
28:42So that's some progress, mate.
28:46How are you feeling?
28:47I'm feeling super good.
28:49How are you feeling?
28:49I'm feeling amazing.
28:51You've been so good to me on...
28:53We've done our sessions
28:54and some of the things that I've done
28:56I never thought I'd do in a million years
28:58and then you came along
28:59and you honestly mean so much.
29:02You've been so amazing to spend time with.
29:05One more kiss and then get dressed.
29:10Thank you for everything.
29:17This experience that I've had has been nothing short of surreal, fantastic.
29:26I never thought that in such quick succession I'd be able to have my first kiss, touch my first vagina,
29:35make a woman orgasm.
29:39I will never forget Kat and never forget the ups and downs that I've had here.
29:45It's been nothing short of phenomenal.
29:51Fuck me sideways.
29:53That was amazing.
29:54That was a great experience.
29:59As Bertie reaches the end of his surrogate partner therapy,
30:03ahead of her final session with Andre, Marianne meets with clinical therapist Abby.
30:08Hi.
30:09How are you?
30:10Come on in.
30:12To reflect on how far she's come and how far she wants to go.
30:18How's everything been?
30:19It's been good.
30:20Yeah?
30:21I just wanted to like check in, see how your work is going with Andre.
30:25I think everything's been going really well, which has surprised me.
30:29Yeah?
30:29I feel like before when I came in I was like, there's no possible way.
30:32I could see myself like maybe having sex, all these blocks and stuff, but I could see myself doing that
30:39like comfortably.
30:40Yeah.
30:41I still got my one-on-one session today.
30:43And noticing where you're finding your flexibility of like saying, I know how to check in, I know how to
30:50use my voice.
30:51I'm not, yeah, I'm not feeling panicked about anything. I'm feeling very supported.
30:55Take all of that in because you really do deserve everything that you're doing for you.
31:00Marianne is a superstar and a straight A-plus student.
31:06She's really learning in a somatic way how to trust her body.
31:15Being a virgin at 26, I think about six every day, it's just nagging in my ear.
31:21And I think that's because I haven't done it.
31:26Hello.
31:27I want to lose my virginity because I could just get on with my life.
31:31I could just not think about it all the time.
31:36I'm just going to lay out all the possibilities for today.
31:41Continued escalation of kissing, mutual erotic touch, touching breasts, touching genitals, oral pleasure.
31:52It'll sound good, yeah.
31:54And if there is a desire and you feel comfort and you're in your full yes, penetration.
32:09In a final session...
32:11Allowing yourself just a moment.
32:13Think about being able to be in a vulnerable state with someone else.
32:17Marianne has reached a defining moment in the surrogate partner programme.
32:22You can feel nervous, you can feel orgasmic.
32:26I'm going to kiss you.
32:34I'm going to take your shirt now.
32:37Okay.
32:40I'm going to lay you down.
32:46Can I be on top?
32:47Mm.
32:48Mm.
32:51Mm.
32:54Mm.
32:56Mm.
32:57Mm.
32:57Can we try it?
32:57Me being inside you?
33:00Yes, we can.
33:03Can I try the condom on?
33:05Yeah.
33:07I'll buy my angel help, okay?
33:11Okay.
33:12Mm-hmm.
33:14So you do a little bit, and then hold that a little bit.
33:22Just like...
33:24Do you like me to push a little bit further into you slowly?
33:29Yeah.
34:05How did that feel?
34:08It's right here.
34:10Did it feel like a milestone?
34:14It felt good and really nice and natural.
34:18Mm-hmm.
34:19Thank you so much for trusting me.
34:23For trusting yourself.
34:26Let's get dressed.
34:32How are you feeling?
34:34Kind of a clear head.
34:35Like, ooh, you know?
34:37Mm-hmm.
34:37In a good way.
34:38Mm-hmm.
34:38Being happy as well.
34:40Okay.
34:41Yeah.
34:41Me too.
34:44Thank you for making me feel safe.
34:46Mm.
34:47It's such a pleasure.
34:55I knew the possibility of having sex was on the table, and so I'm no longer a virgin.
35:02I felt comfortable in my body and safe in my environment, and Andre was incredible, so I wasn't really nervous.
35:09Like, I haven't lost anything, I've just gained something, and I just had pure elation, so I'm very, very lucky
35:18with that.
35:22As a therapeutic part of the course draws to a close, the sun sets on the retreat for the final
35:28time.
35:31Graduation is such an important moment in this group's journey.
35:36It helps them see all the achievements that they've got throughout this process.
35:43All that remains is for everyone to dress up for one last step.
35:47I'm really sad to be saying goodbye.
35:49Yeah.
35:50It's hard.
35:52I'm looking forward to graduation.
35:54It'll be a nice way to celebrate all of the weird and wonderful things we've done on this island.
36:00It's very bittersweet how I'm feeling.
36:03It's been an incredible three weeks.
36:05A few weeks ago, they were complete strangers.
36:09Fire.
36:10Smells nice.
36:11Yeah, they're going to sacrifice us, aren't they?
36:15Hi!
36:18Wow!
36:20Look at you!
36:21Now, together, they have reached the climax of their time on Virgin Island.
36:27It's graduation!
36:29Woo!
36:32We made it!
36:34And we're so proud of you.
36:36Your bravery and your courage is unparalleled.
36:40Earlier today, we asked you to write a letter to your younger self, and now we want you each to
36:47come up and share that.
36:51I want to start.
36:54I want to start.
36:56Arriving as one of the least confident, Ellen now has the courage to step forward with pride.
37:03A letter to my younger self.
37:05Don't listen to them.
37:06It will be hard, but what they say isn't true.
37:09It's okay to look and fancy girls.
37:12You're gay.
37:12It's a thing, and it's okay.
37:14You get to choose the life you lead.
37:17You do you, at your speed.
37:20For goodness sake, go by a vibrator.
37:23Fuck it by two.
37:29And Ellen isn't alone in confronting the way they see themselves.
37:34You may find you like certain things.
37:35Don't be embarrassed.
37:37Don't be afraid to embrace the kinkiest side of life.
37:39Be a sexy viking, not a whining little bitch.
37:42It's important for you to experience cringe, and that's okay because there's growth.
37:46Don't worry about being thicker around the body.
37:49It's more to be grabbed and spanked.
37:54Dear my younger self, you are gay, like super gay.
37:59I promise you, you'll end up actually liking the person you are.
38:02FYI, you'll love being held and cuddling, even if you do deny it to your last breath.
38:10For others, reflection brings a new kindness towards who they are.
38:15Dear baby Alex, you are enough.
38:17You are worthy of love.
38:20Don't ever feel like you never do enough.
38:22You always bring smiles and laughter to everyone around you.
38:25Dear Bertie, in a decade or so's time, you'll be on an intimacy retreat.
38:30Now believe it or not, it's there where you will find more confidence.
38:36I know how hard it has been for you to feel truly safe, appreciated and free.
38:42But trust me, you feel that almost every day now.
38:47Pay no mind to those who try to bring shame into your life.
38:51You will still be a virgin and unmarried at 22, but you still like boys with brown curly hair.
38:58Love, joy from the future.
39:00P.S. When you get your own money, invest in a short pink wig, just trust me.
39:09For Katie, this journey meant facing the internal voices that had been holding her back.
39:15Katie, I'm so sorry for treating you like shit for so many years.
39:19You deserve so much better.
39:21You really went through so much and are truly so strong.
39:25I'm so proud of you and everything you have achieved.
39:28You are beautiful, so kind and deserve every little bit of love you receive.
39:33Stop letting your anxiety and bullies hold you back in life.
39:36It's so upsetting to see.
39:38Don't let others bring you down or dictate your life.
39:41I love you so much, beautiful girl.
39:54Wow.
39:55Having realised how much they've all changed.
39:58Can I stand up and say a couple of things?
40:00Of course.
40:02Marianne takes a moment to reflect.
40:05I would like to thank you, Celeste and Danielle, for everything.
40:09We love you so much.
40:11And then I will direct my whole attention to Andre.
40:19Thank you for making me feel safe.
40:23And thank you for allowing me to just feel no judgement and enjoy.
40:28So, thank you.
40:30APPLAUSE
40:34After struggling to find his voice, Jason now has the courage to speak.
40:39I know for the first, like, week or two, I was very difficult to work with.
40:43It took a lot for me to kind of, like, speak more about myself and be more emotional.
40:53Thank you, Aisha, as well.
40:55Thank you, Aisha, as well.
40:57Um...
40:58I'm good.
40:59You're good.
41:06I don't...
41:07Um...
41:08Yeah, I'm sorry.
41:12Honestly, I don't really know much in my head, so it's a bit difficult for someone else to figure it
41:16out as well.
41:17Thank you for everything.
41:20APPLAUSE
41:25One by one.
41:27Aalil, you probably provided the biggest breakthrough for me.
41:31The others take their opportunity to give back.
41:33Getting over the pressure, performance anxiety of sex, thank you so much for that.
41:38Brisbane, you've got my heart.
41:40You showed me how to use a strap-on, and that is all I can ask for.
41:47Thank you very much for helping me get over my fears.
41:51You've changed my life.
41:53The empathy that you lead with in every single session has just made me feel so safe and so understood.
42:00All I can say is I'm not a virgin anymore.
42:02Thank you very much.
42:03Thank you, everyone.
42:10Taking things at his own pace is Bertie with the final word.
42:15This has been the most fantastic experience of my entire life.
42:22Some of the workshop activities I thought I'd never be able to do, but that growth was all thanks to
42:28you both.
42:29Kat, you are an amazing person, and I will never forget you.
42:34I would like to thank all of you.
42:37Yes, I know that I'm not the most sociable person, but regardless of that, you still made me feel like
42:43that I was part of you, and you still accepted me for who I was.
42:50And that means so, so much more than you could know.
42:55If someone said to me, would you do this again, in a fucking heartbeat.
43:12The retreat is a huge success beyond anyone's imagination.
43:18It makes me emotional.
43:21It is really beautiful to see how much they got here.
43:25I'm so proud of them.
43:27They are so brave.
43:29Now that they have all of these tools, they're ready to go out into the world and create the lives
43:34and relationships they want for themselves.
43:36I think to myself, my work here is done.
43:41The world is so not ready for me.
43:43Big bad world, I am coming for you.
43:46It's changed me.
43:47I'm so much happier as a person.
43:49I enjoy life again and lost my virginity.
43:53Yay!
43:55I've not graduated anything in my life, so to graduate sex camp is just amazing.
44:04I'm excited to go back to the real world.
44:06I came here really shy and insecure.
44:09I'm leaving really confident, really sure of myself, and no longer a virgin.
44:15The first time that we started to connect in an erotic way, I was like, holy shit.
44:24I feel fantastic.
44:25I didn't go into this island with the intention of having any firsts.
44:30If they happened, they happened.
44:32Well, they did bloody happen.
44:34What an absolute ride I've been on.
44:37You did it.
44:38Congratulations!
44:43You graduated!
44:47Cheers!
44:51We're ready for a great fortune hour.
44:52Cheers to Audrey!
44:54Yay!
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