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First Dates - Season 25 - Episode 04
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00:02Do you feel a bit rusty, Romance?
00:04Yes, very rusty.
00:06Definitely need a WD for our day.
00:09I need some help.
00:10It's hard out there.
00:12I am very single at the moment.
00:15I've run out of swipes.
00:16I've completed Tinder.
00:18In the heart of Britain's most romantic city...
00:22Aloha!
00:23Fred and his team...
00:25This is Captain Fur Potato.
00:27...are matching hopeful singletons.
00:29We're getting married, Merlin.
00:31...in a place where love is always on the menu.
00:35I've got a bit in your finger.
00:36You didn't go that far down the street.
00:40These daters...
00:41You probably think I'm having a poo or something.
00:43...are searching...
00:46...for the one.
00:49Would you chase me around the bedroom?
00:50Absolutely.
00:51Get your coat.
00:52I'm in.
00:53For some, stepping into the unknown...
00:57...can lead to surprising sparks.
01:00I work in the adult industry.
01:02Do you have an office for that?
01:03I have a dungeon.
01:05But finding a connection...
01:07A love story is about to begin.
01:10Shut up!
01:11...isn't always easy.
01:13Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
01:19Help me!
01:21In the end...
01:22Hi.
01:22...it comes down to one...
01:26...big...
01:27...question.
01:28Would you guys like to see each other again?
01:31This isn't at all quick, is it?
01:33This is a First Dates restaurant.
01:48Bonjour.
01:49Bonjour.
01:51Comment ça va?
01:52I love the energy here.
01:53You are the love crew.
01:56Yes, we are.
01:57You know, sometimes our daters...
01:59...they don't actually know what they want...
02:00...even though they tell us what they want.
02:02So, it's up to us to challenge their types.
02:05Too dark and handsome...
02:06...is definitely a bit of me.
02:09My type?
02:10Oh.
02:11Do you want the fantasy version or the real version?
02:15What's your type?
02:16My type?
02:17Brunette.
02:18Slightly shorter than me.
02:20Boxing.
02:21Oh.
02:22What does boxing mean?
02:23Look it up.
02:25Hi.
02:29Come on, son!
02:32We're all good.
02:32Ha!
02:34Bosh.
02:36British Army Sergeant Poole is on a special mission to find love.
02:41How many medals have you actually won?
02:44You won.
02:44We don't win them.
02:45No, we don't win them.
02:46It's not like the Eggers' Spoon Race.
02:51A lot of craft went into them.
02:53It's the British Army.
02:54Don't just hand them out.
02:55So, this one here is Northern Ireland, Iraq, Afghanistan.
02:59I went there, like, twice.
03:01You get deployed here, there and everywhere, you know.
03:04I think that can then put strain on a relationship.
03:08How are you?
03:09Very good.
03:10Yeah, I'm all good.
03:10You're a gentle giant.
03:11Oh, you're even better looking in real life.
03:14Thank you very much.
03:15You've got a ton.
03:16Have you been on holiday?
03:16I'm in the British Army.
03:18So, we're out in...
03:19When I was a poor, a little bit of a Costa del Sunbed.
03:23So...
03:24So, what are you looking for?
03:25Just have that sort of connection, a bit of a spark, you know?
03:28People don't know what they want.
03:29What they think they do, and when they are faced with what they want,
03:32it's like they pedal back.
03:33They're not sure anymore.
03:34I feel like a lot of women nowadays,
03:37they sort of say they want, like, a man's man,
03:39but they don't really want it.
03:40They want someone they can sort of boss about, you know?
03:43I'm going to be a bit cheeky here and get two drinks.
03:45Can I get a muretti and can I get a glass of Prosecco?
03:47And a glass of Prosecco.
03:48Yeah, I'll do these little Prosecco chances.
03:50Double parking.
03:51Double parking.
03:52So, what's your dream girl?
03:53That's the million-dollar question.
03:56Someone who's sort of, like, down-to-earth,
03:58like, don't take themselves, like, too seriously.
04:02Someone who's not too high maintenance.
04:09Ex-girl band member Natalie wants more than just another groupie.
04:14At 17 years old, I was in a group called Times Four.
04:19That's me.
04:20We were on tour with people like Blue, Liberty X,
04:24Atomic Kitten.
04:26I was so thin.
04:27I had abs.
04:34Oh, la, la.
04:36You are taking your time to make your entrance, aren't you?
04:39You are milking it.
04:41Trying my best.
04:42You are so beautiful.
04:43To be honest, try not to fall over, Fred.
04:45The best feeling I think you can have is when you walk into a room and someone's face lights
04:50up.
04:51You know, I want to have that effect on somebody and I want them to do that for me as
04:55well.
04:55So, your date is at the bar.
04:57Oh, okay.
04:57If you look past my shoulder here...
04:59Okay.
05:00It looks like a Viking.
05:01He's just missing an axe.
05:04The thing that I find most sexy is somebody that's tall.
05:08I definitely like to see some beautiful muscles.
05:13I'm really loving Aaron Pierre, who's like Mufasa in The Lion King.
05:20He's way too young for me, but an older version of him would be fabulous.
05:24So, yes, please.
05:28Hello.
05:28How's it going?
05:29Hello, there.
05:30You all right?
05:30How are you?
05:31Nice to meet you.
05:32You all right?
05:33Nice to meet you.
05:33Lovely.
05:34Natalie.
05:37How are you feeling?
05:39It's quite nerve-wracking, isn't it?
05:41Yeah, yeah, definitely.
05:42What do you do?
05:43I'm in the British Army.
05:45Okay.
05:45It's good.
05:45I'd say it's probably the best job in the world, but I'm probably a bit biased.
05:50I really enjoy it.
05:50So, does that mean that you're away quite a bit?
05:53Er...
05:55I've duly got away, but it's not for long, long periods, you know?
06:04I bet you've got some stories.
06:07The acts, it's almost like fast food.
06:10Mm.
06:11Right?
06:11It's like people flip through, and they flip through, and they flip through, and they want...
06:16You have to fit into the exact box.
06:19Yeah.
06:20And I think there's a part where you have to be like, you know what?
06:22You have to figure out that sometimes the person that you have envisioned in your mind
06:26is probably not the person you're going to wind up with.
06:29God, yeah.
06:30Right?
06:30Yeah.
06:36Is that... That's a real animal, isn't it?
06:39This is Captain Fur Potato, or Furpy, who is my hearing dog.
06:45Furpy is here with Kerry, a forensic psychologist hoping to find some puppy love.
06:51I've spent 30 years sat in prison cells, eye-to-eye, with really serious offenders, murderers, serial killers.
07:02But going into the first date restaurant, that is something that is completely out of my comfort zone.
07:09Oh, my God.
07:11He is delicious.
07:13How old is he?
07:14He's four now.
07:15He's a Pekingese.
07:16He's a rescue dog, so he's all the way from Belarus.
07:20So I'm guessing that he barks in a Russian accent.
07:24They say find a man that looks at you in the same way that your dog looks at you.
07:28But Furpy just stares at me with his tongue hanging out, so I don't think that's going to work.
07:35What's happening with you and dating?
07:38Nothing, really. It's tumbleweed.
07:41Tumbleweed?
07:41Tumbleweed.
07:42Oh, come off it.
07:43Well, I am a career girl, but also, the last five years, I lost my hearing.
07:51I think it's taken me five years to adapt to it.
07:55So you can lip-read?
07:56I lip-read, yeah, but it's always slightly, slightly dodgy.
08:01This will certainly be the first date since I've been a deaf person.
08:04I read that 75% of users of a dating app would swipe left if the person on the profile
08:12was deaf.
08:13So I've got to admit that I do feel anxious about it.
08:18So tell me, what kind of gentleman are you hoping to meet today?
08:22Some hunky, yet down-to-earth man who is very comfortable in his masculinity.
08:30I always thought that at this stage in my life I would be married.
08:35It would be nice to have holidays with somebody or to go dog-walking with somebody.
08:42He's got to love animals, and it would be wonderful if he wants to leave the world in a better
08:47state than he found it.
08:52Kerry's date is PC Dan.
08:54He's great at finding the bad guys.
08:56He just can't seem to find love.
08:59I'm a response officer, which means 24-7 policing, going to 999 calls every day.
09:10You know, when I field the application form in the age of 20 years old, I wanted to fight crime.
09:15I wanted to run after people.
09:16I wanted to climb fences and get burglars.
09:19I'm like a dinosaur on the front line now.
09:21But the adrenaline you get when you blew light into jobs is still there.
09:25You're walking like a strong man.
09:27Are you a strong man?
09:28How are you then?
09:29I think so.
09:29I've got a strong beard.
09:31There was two sides of me.
09:33Literally, I walked through the door after work, and it is uniform straight off.
09:39Comfies on, cup of tea, biscuits, massive chocolate fan.
09:43Have you been doing much dating recently?
09:45Yeah, I've been quite a lot of online dating.
09:48I would say I've probably been on over 100 dates in the last six years.
09:54I've been catfished a few times, ghosted a few times, and it's very draining.
09:59And where are you in your life now?
10:01What are you looking for?
10:02I'm looking for a partner.
10:04A full-life partner, yeah.
10:05I wonder how some of that can be a best mate.
10:09Hello.
10:10Hi.
10:10Pleased to meet you.
10:11Pleased to meet you.
10:12Good, thank you.
10:13Kerry.
10:13Nice to meet you.
10:14Hi.
10:15How are you?
10:15Not too bad.
10:16So you've got a dog.
10:17I have got a dog, yes.
10:18Wow.
10:19What's this one's name?
10:20This one's name is Furpy.
10:22And what's your name?
10:24My name's Dan.
10:24Hi, Dan.
10:25So, how come you brought your dog along then?
10:29I brought my dog along because I think that if you don't like my dog, then...
10:36It's part of the package.
10:37He's like a teddy bear.
10:38He is like a teddy bear, yes.
10:40I'm loving it.
10:41Does he go everywhere?
10:42Do you like dogs?
10:43Yeah, I do.
10:45Yeah, have you got one?
10:45I haven't.
10:46I haven't.
10:47I've got kids instead.
10:48Right, okay.
10:49They're more expensive and you can't leave them in the back garden, can you?
10:52Yeah, absolutely, yeah.
10:54Well, it's pleased to meet you.
10:55Nice to meet you.
10:56Nice to meet you, too.
11:05So, uh, yeah.
11:07So, fun facts about me, definitely.
11:09Years ago, when I was fresh and young.
11:13Yeah, you are fresh and young still.
11:16Much younger.
11:17Um, I used to be in a girl band.
11:20Did you?
11:21Yeah, when I was, like, 17.
11:22Yeah.
11:23Signed to record label.
11:25Yeah.
11:25And we were off touring around the world.
11:27Was it?
11:28Yeah.
11:28Just did that for a few years.
11:30Loved it.
11:32My children know that I was in a band and have seen the videos, but I feel a part of
11:37them
11:37still doesn't believe it's actually me and it's true.
11:40I met my husband when I was 16.
11:43He went through all my girl band days and probably kept me quite sane.
11:49He was amazing.
11:51But sometimes just things don't work out.
11:54I just wasn't happy.
11:56And I chose to be honest and tell him that.
12:00It was one of the hardest decisions and one of the hardest conversations that I've ever
12:06had to have with anyone in my whole life.
12:10Now with my kids, I'm always saying to them, you know, your relationship with your dad's
12:15really important and I always want you to have that.
12:18I think that's why I'm so balanced and happy to this day, because I made the right decision
12:25for me.
12:26I'd love to meet somebody and share my world with them.
12:31Can you say?
12:31Well, I was in a girl band.
12:32I hope I can see you actually.
12:35Was it all correct?
12:37I just mimed.
12:39How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
12:41How old do you think I am?
12:42I think that you're younger than I am.
12:44Okay.
12:46Mid-40s.
12:47Bang on.
12:4845.
12:49What about without the beard?
12:51I'll probably look a bit younger then.
12:52Well, no, I mean, I like the beard.
12:55I think these days it's quite nice to have a beard.
12:57It keeps me nice and warm.
12:58I know.
12:58It seems to be...
12:59Oh, does it?
13:00Okay.
13:00Yeah, I feel the same about my leg hair.
13:04That's a joke, by the way.
13:06Okay.
13:08Sorry.
13:18Hi.
13:20So, his name's Paul.
13:22He's in the army.
13:25Why is he a total geezer?
13:28He's like, yeah, you're right.
13:31Not my normal type.
13:33Guys, I have to say, I did not get Aaron Pierre.
13:37Um...
13:38I don't like the Aaron Pierre.
13:40No.
13:42Oh.
13:50There's your water.
13:51How are we doing with the menu?
13:52Yeah, I'm ready now.
13:53Yeah, me too.
13:54Can I have the gambas pil pil, please?
13:57Yes, you can.
13:57And could I be awkward and say,
14:00is there anything that the chef could throw together for Furpy?
14:08I will find out.
14:10I'll just have the Korean fried chicken, please.
14:12Got it.
14:13That's it.
14:14Thanks so much.
14:18Well, here we are.
14:20I know.
14:21Here's to a first date.
14:24When was the last date you went on?
14:26I've not been on a date for the last...
14:29Certainly not for the last five years.
14:33Yeah.
14:33So, I am the first date you've had within five years?
14:36Yeah, I know.
14:38Oh, that's amazing.
14:39I've just had other priorities, if I'm honest,
14:43and other things that I've been trying to deal with.
14:47Oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh,
14:50Oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul.
14:55Oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul, oh, soul.
14:57Something happening?
14:58Someone's singing.
15:00Oh, right, OK.
15:01Like opera singing.
15:02I couldn't hear anything.
15:05I don't know whether you've noticed.
15:09I'm deaf.
15:12So...
15:13Are you?
15:13Yeah, I'm completely deaf.
15:15What, so you just lip-read?
15:17I'm lip-reading, yeah.
15:18Wow, that's incredible.
15:20Yeah.
15:22So, are you partially deaf?
15:24No, I'm pretty much completely deaf.
15:26Wow.
15:27Why did it happen?
15:28I had what I thought was flu,
15:31and within a few weeks, I couldn't hear anything.
15:34It was horrendous.
15:37It was a shock.
15:39Bang.
15:41I've got to be honest,
15:42I just thought, well,
15:44nobody's going to want to date me.
15:48I'm somehow less...
15:51attractive.
15:53Well, I wouldn't have been able to tell at all that you're deaf.
15:57Yeah.
15:58That's incredible.
15:58Yeah, that's good to know,
15:59cos a lot of people, I think, don't bother to make the effort,
16:03and I don't think they realise that, actually,
16:05it's not as hard as they think.
16:06Well, that's right, yeah,
16:08and that's your proof of that.
16:11The hardest part of losing my hearing
16:13was that I was always a very sociable person,
16:16and so, you know, I would be in restaurants,
16:19I would be in bars,
16:21and those environments now are just, oh, you know, help.
16:25But Furpy, who's my hearing support dog,
16:29he's brilliant for meeting people,
16:31and when people ask me questions about him,
16:35I can lip-read those questions easily,
16:37and I can tune in to them.
16:40Fair play to you.
16:41I think you've been through a lot.
16:42Yeah, sometimes at the end of a hard day,
16:44you need a cuddle, don't you?
16:45Yeah, yeah, you do.
16:47Can definitely recommend dogs for that, though.
16:50Yeah.
16:52Yeah, warm, furry, cosy.
16:55Yeah.
16:55Yeah.
16:56Exactly.
17:01So, have you got any children or anything?
17:04Yeah, I've got a daughter.
17:05Yeah?
17:06Um, she's, like, 14.
17:08OK.
17:09So she's, like, but she don't live, like, anywhere near me.
17:12Oh, OK.
17:12So it's, like...
17:15I was in Afghan the first time.
17:16Yeah.
17:17I missed my daughter's birth, like I weren't now.
17:19Like, I couldn't come back.
17:21I see.
17:23Yeah, that must be tough.
17:25How was your partner at the time about that?
17:29I think she really struggled a bit.
17:31Really struggled a bit, you know?
17:33My dad was in the army as well, you know?
17:35So, um, he was a big guy.
17:37A little bit taller than me, to be fair.
17:38He was, like, six foot six, you know?
17:39Oh, wow.
17:39So it's, like, um...
17:43Yeah.
17:46Um...
17:48My dad died when I was, like, 12.
17:50So it, like, done me in a little bit.
17:54It didn't hit me till, like, later on in life, you know?
17:56I just sort of, like, blocked it out.
17:59I think it does eat away, yeah?
18:02And I think you've just got that, like, inbuilt thing that you don't, like, showing weakness,
18:05if that makes sense, you know?
18:07Like, even though it's still...
18:08It's still a thing, you know?
18:10But, mm.
18:15Like, if this was a couple of years ago...
18:16You wouldn't have been able to do it.
18:18I wouldn't have even spoke about it.
18:18I think, like, when you don't talk about it, it just eats away a little bit, and then
18:23you just sort of...
18:24You don't deal with it.
18:26Yeah, he's just my world a little bit, you know?
18:28So it's, like, um...
18:30Yeah, my dad was, like, my hero, really.
18:33Just mad, obviously.
18:34I ain't seen him, like, all that time.
18:36I mean, just go through life.
18:37You just sort of think, oh, I wish I had my dad there, do you know what I mean?
18:41Yeah, it's hard, cos I think to myself, like, he's been gone a while, 1995.
18:47Yeah, and he's...
18:48Yeah, yeah, just, er, he does, yeah.
18:51Mm.
18:51That sounds so tough.
18:53So tough.
18:54That is huge.
18:55That is completely life-changing.
18:57Losing a parent, particularly as a male.
19:00Your father is somebody that you need, isn't it?
19:02Yeah, that's sick.
19:03Do you have any siblings?
19:04No.
19:04OK, so it's just you.
19:06Yeah.
19:07Mm.
19:16Oh, it's all right.
19:22So?
19:24He's, like, a real geezer.
19:26Uh-huh.
19:26That wouldn't really be my normal type.
19:28You've got to be open.
19:29Yeah.
19:29And you've got to see where life takes you.
19:31If you were just sticking to one type, you're never going to be successful.
19:34It's never going to work.
19:34100%.
19:35And clearly, that's not been working for me.
19:37Right.
19:37So...
19:38Time to change the approach.
19:39Change the approach.
19:45I think maybe if I got married, it would just go and get married on a beach somewhere.
19:52Mm.
19:53Just go and do it.
19:54That would be lovely.
19:55And what were your weddings like?
19:56Both weddings were the full white wedding.
19:59Really?
20:00The full package?
20:01Yeah.
20:01The full deal?
20:02Wow.
20:02Yeah.
20:03How long have you been single for?
20:04So, I got divorced about six and a half years ago.
20:08So, I've got four daughters.
20:09Four?
20:10Four daughters.
20:11Wow.
20:11Okay.
20:12I think it's really important to reflect when you have a breakdown of a marriage.
20:17I think when we were going through hard times with young children, I am disappointed that
20:22I didn't try harder.
20:23Yeah.
20:24Two marriages, two divorces, two daughters with each wife.
20:29So, the two younger girls, I have half the time.
20:31Yeah.
20:33I suppose not having a partner has made me spend even more time with them.
20:37I've got so much love to give.
20:39I'd love to find that person.
20:41I think you get to that age as well.
20:42I don't know whether you got to this age where you...
20:44I'm probably past that age, whatever that age is.
20:48What, you're 51?
20:49I'm 51, so I'm a good few years older than you.
20:51I'm 46, so...
20:53Yeah.
20:54No, you'd be a toy boy, wouldn't you?
20:56Yeah, you could be my cougar.
20:58Do you reckon?
20:59Yeah, what do you reckon?
21:00Would it work?
21:01I've never really thought of myself as a cougar, to be honest.
21:10So, these...
21:11You have to try his style, right?
21:12Oh, okay.
21:13So, we have a shot of lager.
21:15Okay.
21:16Here we go.
21:17Followed by a shot of Prosecco.
21:19Right.
21:20Chin-chin.
21:24We're not bad.
21:25Cheers.
21:32First time for everything.
21:33Yeah, that's it, yeah.
21:35Wasn't terrible.
21:36Just be falling out on the way out.
21:38Make sure you're there to hold me up.
21:40Don't expect me to hold your handbag, though.
21:42I can't hold a handbag.
21:44No, I can't.
21:46I just can't do it.
21:47Would you hold my bags on holiday?
21:49Depends.
21:50Your suitcase?
21:51No, 100% your suitcase.
21:52But if your beach bag looks too feminine, I can't hold it.
21:57No.
21:58Well, if you stacked it, then, yeah, I'd help you up,
22:00and I'd hold it for about four seconds.
22:02Well, I'll give it back to you.
22:03So, it's like, but...
22:05Right, okay, perfect.
22:06No, because there's rules in this.
22:07Yeah, there is rules.
22:08There is rules.
22:12Do you ever accidentally step on people's handbags?
22:15You know, when they're at the table?
22:16For a hobby?
22:18No, because I'm so cripplingly self-aware that I'm like...
22:21I'm not. I always step on them.
22:28Hi.
22:3146-year-old tea merchant Eric has swapped his native plexus for bath.
22:37Now he's hoping to turn over a new leaf in his dating game.
22:42I've got a fairly dry sense of humor, a bit of sarcasm.
22:46I hear the word sassy a lot.
22:49This is so far outside of my comfort zone.
22:54I don't know if I can do this.
22:57Absolute nervousness.
22:58I will go in a hot mess,
23:00because I don't even know if I know what I'm like on a date.
23:03I mean, it has been over 15 years.
23:07How are you?
23:08You look happy to be here.
23:09It's nice to see you.
23:10I'm happy to be here.
23:11How are you?
23:11I could see your smile from all the way down there.
23:13Where are you from?
23:14You're American, right?
23:15Oh, yeah.
23:15Texas.
23:16Texas?
23:16Oh, I love Texas.
23:18You ready for your date?
23:18I am ready for my date, yes.
23:20All right, man.
23:20Do you want me to take your coat?
23:21Yes, please.
23:22Okay.
23:24Take a seat, man.
23:25All right.
23:25Enjoy your date.
23:28Hello, Ivan.
23:29Hello there.
23:29How are you?
23:30I'm well.
23:31How are you?
23:31What can I get you?
23:32Red wine.
23:33Red wine.
23:34Red, red wine.
23:34Malbec or Cabernet?
23:35Oh, let's go Cab.
23:36Cab, yeah, why not?
23:38Tell me, right, you're here obviously for a date.
23:40What's your type?
23:42My type is just someone that doesn't let me just settle for being me.
23:46And so I need that little bit of a debate, a little bit of a pushback.
23:50You know, don't just give me my way.
23:51Some pokey.
23:52Yeah, that's it.
23:53I need someone who can understand a very fine line between not giving me my way,
24:00but also not depriving me of what I want too much.
24:04And so I need someone that can just keep up with my bad personality.
24:09Hello.
24:12Hoping to breathe new life into his dating game is fertility expert, Stephen.
24:18So I've been single for five years now.
24:20Forty in gay years is basically dead.
24:23You are not even put back onto the shelf.
24:26You're just dead.
24:27I do like to be mentally challenged.
24:30There's someone that you can have a lot of banter with, a lot of laughs, no long delayed silences.
24:39Hello.
24:40Hello.
24:40How are you?
24:41How are you?
24:41Nice to meet you.
24:42Stephen, lovely to meet you.
24:43Nice to meet you too.
24:44Great.
24:45Are you ready for your date?
24:46Yeah, let's do this.
24:47You know he's at the bar.
24:48Is he?
24:49Yeah.
24:49If you look to your right, to the bar there, you can see him.
24:52Oh, okay.
24:52Not bad.
24:53Yeah?
24:53Not bad?
24:54You like what you see?
24:56Shall I take you through?
24:57Of course.
24:57God bless me.
25:00Have fun, guys.
25:01Hi.
25:02Hi, yeah.
25:03Nice to meet you.
25:03Nice to meet you.
25:04Eric.
25:05Nice to meet you.
25:06Nice to meet you.
25:06Oh, nice place.
25:09It is a nice place, yeah.
25:12Hello.
25:12Sorry to interrupt.
25:13Can I get you a drink?
25:14Gin tonic, please?
25:15Gigi, coming up.
25:17Classic.
25:18I know.
25:20Five o'clock someplace.
25:21I'm not knocking it.
25:27Thank you, guys.
25:28If it's okay, we'll just leave the bill in the middle.
25:29Okay.
25:31A little marshmallow on the top for you guys.
25:32Thank you so much.
25:35She seems very genuine and compassionate.
25:38I don't really talk about things, you know.
25:41I just sort of, like, keep them to myself, really.
25:44If she wasn't that genuine, I probably wouldn't have, like, spoke about certain things.
25:49Punching a couple more drinks and don a kebab ting, innit?
25:51Do you know what I mean?
25:54Right, what's this bill saying?
25:55Right, what should we do?
25:57How much?
25:58No, I don't get it.
25:58I'll do it.
25:59It's fine.
26:00Fabulous.
26:00Thank you so much.
26:01No, it's fine.
26:02It's fine.
26:06Would you like to see each other again?
26:09I'd probably say yes.
26:11I'd probably see her again, yeah.
26:14Absolutely agree.
26:15Ha, ha, ha, ha.
26:15Why?
26:16Come on.
26:16Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.
26:18We're on for the kebab ting.
26:19Yeah.
26:20She loves a don a kebab ting.
26:22True gentleman.
26:24All right, go ahead.
26:24We knew that from the start.
26:26Yeah, exactly.
26:27That was, son.
26:29You're really open, really honest, particularly about your past and things that have happened.
26:35That's really attractive to me.
26:37You're a right geezer.
26:38Ha, ha, ha.
26:39So, looking forward to getting to know you a little bit more.
26:42That's really nice, you know.
26:45I'll tell you, come across like a good person, yeah.
26:49That's all right, that's all right.
26:50Ciao, see you later.
26:52Thanks a lot.
26:52Bye.
26:53Okay.
26:53I've never dated anybody in the army before.
26:57Look, really looking forward to seeing the uniform.
27:00That's all I can say about that, really.
27:03Enjoy your drinks and your kebab, yeah?
27:06Thank you so much.
27:08Nice to meet you guys.
27:12No, he's not having that.
27:13Oh, here you go.
27:14Just in time.
27:15Oh, there we go.
27:16He was having a little bit of a taggy there.
27:18Are you ready for your dinner?
27:20Here you go, your napkin.
27:21Oh, wow, that looks amazing.
27:22There you go.
27:27God bless him.
27:29He doesn't like it.
27:34All right.
27:35Are we ready?
27:36Are we ready?
27:37Are you ready?
27:38You go first.
27:39And I'm...
27:40I'm going to have the vegan hanging kebab.
27:43Oh, do I need to specify that I want the properly seasoned fries?
27:49If I find them to not be properly seasoned, they will be worked.
27:54My red wine does seem precariously low.
27:58Okay, we can't have that.
27:59I'll be right back.
28:00All right.
28:01Perfect.
28:01You're welcome.
28:04Being single's fine.
28:05It's not the same as coming back and having someone else there.
28:09Maybe we had an absolute shit day.
28:11Then just hold me for a second.
28:13Yeah.
28:13Not too many seconds, because then you get off...
28:17Are you not a hugger?
28:19Like, it's good and cute, but it has a finite time span.
28:24And then three minutes later, Big Spoon's arm is asleep.
28:28Oh, it doesn't...
28:29It doesn't work.
28:32Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
28:46It's juicable, juicable.
28:51Harissa jam served with garlic oil.
29:00Maybe she's left.
29:03Maybe you're stuck with me.
29:05What do you reckon?
29:09You have got a lovely soft coat.
29:12Here she is.
29:14Oh, thank you.
29:16It looks quite at home with you.
29:17We've had a little chat.
29:18Have you?
29:19We have.
29:20What did you say?
29:22Oh, that would be telling.
29:23Oh, really?
29:24It's a secret.
29:25Boys chat.
29:26Okay, boys talk.
29:28Boys talk.
29:29Yeah.
29:35Oh, so what's the gay scene like down here then?
29:39Just you, is it?
29:41Yeah, this is it.
29:42I mean, I don't really go out at all.
29:44So how did you get to meet people then?
29:46I mean, I just, I haven't really done anything.
29:48Okay.
29:50So moved here with my partner.
29:54About seven weeks after we arrived, he passed away.
29:59Um, we were together for 12 years.
30:02Um, it was all quite sudden.
30:07We met on Match.com.
30:09Um, I wrote a very snarky little profile, and, and he thought it was fun.
30:15We came to Bath in September of 2020.
30:19For us, this was sort of a path of, right, okay, we're going to do something different.
30:23We're going to leave the States.
30:24Things were great.
30:26And, um, it was November 11th.
30:29Uh, it was Remembrance Day.
30:31And he had a thoracic aneurysm.
30:34And, uh, well, I mean, he passed away in my arms.
30:39I'm single because, sorry, I haven't yet figured out how to respond when people say, oh, I'm sorry.
30:48I was thankful he wasn't alone.
30:50But then at the same time, it's an image that never leaves you.
30:54And it's, it's a gut punch.
30:57That was the last picture we took together here in Bath.
31:02It's life, I guess, you know?
31:05My family was not, we were not the sort of people that shared emotions.
31:09Okay.
31:10My partner, he was very affectionate.
31:13I think that people sometimes think I'm a little cold.
31:18But in fact, I don't mean to be.
31:22I'm a little bit introverted.
31:24But Jason got me.
31:26And he was absolutely my biggest supporter.
31:30I miss love.
31:32I want it.
31:33I think it's time to rip the plaster off.
31:36It's time to get back to the idea of letting someone else come back in.
31:42And so that's it.
31:43I'm sort of in a mode of like, where do I want to go from?
31:47Yeah, it's about just, it really is about just starting again.
31:51Which is absolutely terrifying.
32:01I've not really struggled to understand what you've said.
32:04Not at all.
32:04I've not been having a completely different conversation, have I?
32:07No, no, you've been fantastic.
32:12So, would you like to see each other again?
32:16You first.
32:18I think you're an absolute gentleman.
32:20Thanks.
32:21I don't feel that we've got a romantic spark though.
32:24I agree.
32:25Yeah, that's what I feel.
32:27Yeah, absolutely.
32:28I'm quite happy to split the bill.
32:30No, not at all.
32:31No, I'll get it.
32:33Definitely my treat.
32:35It was a really good way for me to start dating again.
32:40So, thank you for that.
32:42Come on then, dog.
32:43I think it was lovely to meet you as well.
32:45Because you're clearly a strong, driven person.
32:48And that shines through with your positive energy.
32:52And how was your first date with a dog?
32:54It was different.
32:55But it was fine.
32:57He didn't eat the food that the restaurant went and got for him.
33:00No, he didn't, no.
33:01I think that's because it was actual dog food.
33:03Oh, was it?
33:04Yeah, he doesn't eat dog food.
33:06He likes human food.
33:08Yeah.
33:08Talk about a diva dog.
33:16What's the press-up count now?
33:18Remember that?
33:18Yeah, Steelers say...
33:19300.
33:19Steelers say N1.
33:21300 N1.
33:22Every day?
33:22Every day.
33:24I can't, I can't, where's, where's it?
33:26I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't see this.
33:27There we go.
33:28There we go.
33:29There we go.
33:35Dave is a world record-holding powerlifter.
33:41He may know how to pump iron, but his love life is out of shape.
33:45There must be some nice women at the gym.
33:47Of course there are.
33:48I mean, all youngsters, of course.
33:5018-year-olds, great number, wrong way in the hands.
33:53He's got the one in the wrong place.
33:54Let's put it afterwards and then we're all right, then.
34:02Hello, Fred.
34:02How are you, Dave?
34:03Very well indeed, mate.
34:04Nice to meet you.
34:06You're in good shape.
34:07I do a lot of powerlifting.
34:08Come with me, I'll take you to the bar for a day.
34:09Yeah, OK, thanks.
34:11I'm here for fun, love and laughter.
34:13I've got plenty of life in me yet.
34:17So what do you bench?
34:1885 bench and a 150 deadlift.
34:21Wow, you're in top shape.
34:22All right, take a seat.
34:23Money will fix you in me.
34:24Yeah, OK, thanks a bit.
34:25Indeed.
34:25Thanks, Fred.
34:26How are you, sir?
34:26Very well, thank you.
34:27Nice to meet you.
34:28Nice to meet you.
34:28What's your name?
34:29Dave.
34:29Dave.
34:30Welcome, Dave.
34:30And how are you feeling about all of this?
34:33I'm excited.
34:33I don't feel nervous at all.
34:34It's just, it's good fun, isn't it?
34:36I mean, I've been around long enough, haven't I?
34:38You've done any sort of dating of late?
34:40Nothing serious in that sense.
34:42I've been married and divorced and it's cost me a lot of money.
34:45This time around, I'm going for a multimillionaire as an infamaniac.
34:49I don't want the money.
34:50Well, I just want to keep what little money got left on my own, you know?
35:00I've been married before.
35:03I've got the ashes of the two husbands stacked up like Jenga.
35:09I put number two on top of number one and said, just be friends.
35:15Hoping to catch Dave's eye and be more than just friends is Claire.
35:21I've got an actual walk-in wardrobe of hats.
35:26How many hats?
35:28Oh, probably about 40.
35:31You've got 40 hats?
35:35Hello, Claire.
35:36Hello, Fred.
35:37You know, this is not the location for Ascot.
35:42You are super elegant.
35:44Well, I don't normally dress up unless I'm going to Ascot.
35:47Wow.
35:47I'm going to give you the hat.
35:49Oh.
35:49You're going to look after that for me, please.
35:51Yes, I will.
35:52Thanks.
35:54So tell me, what about dating then?
35:56What about men?
35:56I live in the middle of the countryside and there's no option to really meet people.
36:02I would just love to meet somebody who's jolly and fun.
36:06Well, the good thing, you've come to the right place.
36:09Come with me.
36:13I don't believe there's the one.
36:16Having had two.
36:18LAUGHTER
36:21Well, it does look quite nice.
36:23Hello.
36:24Hello.
36:26You're my date, are you?
36:27Yes, my name's Claire.
36:28Claire, I'm Dave.
36:29Hello, Dave.
36:32Hello.
36:33Hello.
36:33Can I get you a drink?
36:34Yes, I was going to have a caipirinha.
36:37I can do you a caipirinha.
36:38Can I do that a thing?
36:38It's a great drink.
36:40Obviously, you're not married now.
36:41I mean, you're divorced or...
36:42Widowed.
36:43Oh, widowed.
36:44Oh, OK.
36:44What are you?
36:45I've been married and divorced three times.
36:48Oh, for goodness.
36:48For goodness sake.
36:50LAUGHTER
36:51LAUGHTER
37:02So, do you get to go back home often, then?
37:06Ah, I have only gone back twice.
37:09Kind of like me, you know, when I go home to Ireland.
37:12So, I go on a farm.
37:14Nearest town is about three miles away.
37:16OK.
37:17So, by about day three, I'm like, yep, time to go back to England again.
37:20Um, I am one of ten.
37:23So, I have four brothers and five sisters.
37:26I was outed by my sister when I was 21.
37:31Um, she put two and two together and went back and told everyone.
37:35So, um...
37:37Yeah, she ripped off the bandage.
37:40Oh.
37:41Yeah.
37:41I think parents are pretty good at figuring it out.
37:44My mother made the comment to me.
37:46We sort of had suspicions.
37:48No-one else redecorates their room that often.
37:50LAUGHTER
37:52Enjoy.
37:55Awesome.
37:56Appreciate it.
37:57Would you like any other drinks?
37:58I'm definitely going to have some wine.
38:00Small, medium or large?
38:02Huge.
38:04A pint.
38:05A pint, then.
38:06Two larges?
38:07Good.
38:08Yeah, then we might as well have a bottle.
38:10Yeah, one.
38:11Awesome.
38:14So, how have you managed to get through three wives?
38:18LAUGHTER
38:21When I got married for the first time, I was a teenager.
38:24You were young, yes.
38:25I got pregnant and we got married.
38:27That's what you did in those days.
38:28Definitely.
38:28And then you took on roles.
38:30Husband role was to create financial stability for the wife and the family.
38:36I didn't think I'd get married and get divorced.
38:38For me, as far as I was concerned, it was for life.
38:41Every time.
38:41I got it wrong.
38:44In business, it's factual and you either achieve it or you don't.
38:47But with a marriage, it's emotional.
38:52I didn't spend enough time on looking after my wives in an emotional sense.
38:59I got a balance wrong, basically.
39:02I've learned from that now.
39:04Can I ask you how old you are?
39:0582.
39:06You're never.
39:08Golly, you look brilliant.
39:09Thank you very much indeed.
39:12I know physically I am the age I am at, but mentally I'm still 20.
39:15You know what I mean?
39:16When you're retired, you've got to find something else to fill that gap.
39:21Went to the gym to keep fit and regularly.
39:22All well done.
39:25So, yes, that's what I did.
39:26And then powerlifting and one thing or another and just kept going and kept me fit.
39:31When I was 70, I got two world records and a European record.
39:45You should have come in wearing a tight T-shirt.
39:56I'm reminiscing on those things.
39:58I like the old films.
39:59Well, they did proper films in those days with a start, a middle and an end.
40:03Nowadays, you have no idea.
40:05Last time I went to the picture, I stood up for the Queen.
40:08Of course.
40:09You've got the boyfriend you just wanted to snuggle next to.
40:12Oh, I know.
40:13Because, of course, you never had anywhere to go.
40:16Go in the back seat and have a bit of kissing a cuddle.
40:20I've booked a trip to Croatia.
40:21It will be my first holiday solo.
40:26Oh, wow.
40:27Proper holiday.
40:28I've never done an actual solo holiday.
40:30Yeah, in my mind, there's that fear of, like, once you go on a holiday by yourself,
40:34I feel like you're sort of committing to being the old person on the cruise ship.
40:40It's always alone.
40:41Just because you go on, like, a holiday by yourself doesn't mean that you're going to die alone.
40:47You are what you want you to be, if that makes sense.
40:55Do you go to a pub?
40:58Not particularly, no.
41:00My husband and I always went to the pub.
41:02How long have you been a widow?
41:04Well, it's about three years.
41:06I've been married before, and he died from cancer, which was very sad.
41:11Oh, dear.
41:12And then Alistair, who I met skiing,
41:15and we just hit it off very well.
41:17And we've been very happy, but he had dementia.
41:20Oh.
41:21And you do lose them a little bit earlier on, you know.
41:24It's just the saddest thing on earth.
41:26I can't explain.
41:28You're so looking forward to doing things,
41:31and then it's just stolen from you.
41:33When you lose a loved one, you never actually get over it, do you?
41:35You just learn to live with it in some respects.
41:37That is totally true.
41:39There's so many things that remind you,
41:41if you're going shopping, and I see you used to like Eccles cakes,
41:44sometimes, if I'm in Tesco's, I have to literally walk away,
41:49because it just makes me too sad.
41:52But I just want things to do.
41:54I mean, sometimes I would absolutely talk to nobody except my chickens.
42:05I hope it's been fantastic.
42:07It has, thank you very much.
42:08Okay, great.
42:09Thank you very much.
42:12Hello.
42:14Shall we go?
42:16Let's make tracks.
42:18You think you want to see each other again?
42:23Oh, come on, go first.
42:24Oh, no, you go first.
42:25Age, age first, you know.
42:27Wow, age before beauty.
42:29That's what you were going to say.
42:30Age before beauty.
42:31Wow.
42:32I held back, though.
42:33Thanks, I appreciate that.
42:35I feel like, I feel like it was a great friendship.
42:38I feel like there was great friendly rapport.
42:40Yeah, I felt like that as well.
42:42Yeah.
42:42Yeah.
42:43Thank you very much.
42:45Thank you for today.
42:46This was a, this was a, it was a big first step for me.
42:49And I did feel very safe.
42:51So thank you.
42:52You're welcome.
42:52And I'm glad that I was able to provide the safeness for you to come back into the dating world.
42:58This is nice.
43:00It is.
43:01Give me a cuddle.
43:02I don't want a cuddle.
43:03It won't last three minutes.
43:05It's a cuddle.
43:06It's a hug.
43:07We'll go for a hug.
43:09That's three seconds.
43:10My arm got tired.
43:11I'm not surprised.
43:14This was about taking the first step.
43:16And, and when I take the second step, I don't know.
43:19But what I do know is that I didn't fall.
43:26Do you have a type?
43:28If you can make me laugh and make me smile, you won me over.
43:32I, here, here.
43:36What are you looking for?
43:38This time round, I'm looking for a millionaires in infamania.
43:41That's what I want.
43:42I said, I'll sell for one out of the two.
43:48He's not my usual type.
43:50He said he wanted a millionaire nymphomaniac.
43:54And I said, well, you'll be halfway there in one of them.
43:58And I said, look, I don't know about the other.
44:04Which one is it?
44:05Well, I've got a few quid.
44:09I'll come back to get your bill in a bit.
44:10No, after all it sounds, hokey-dokey.
44:13You're a darling.
44:14Thank you very much.
44:15Well, it's all for now.
44:16As far as I'm concerned, that's what you do.
44:18I wouldn't want it any other way.
44:20Well, you've passed the test.
44:24That's the way it goes, isn't it?
44:26Do you think they gave us cushions, because we're old people?
44:29Say that again.
44:30Cushions.
44:31Oh, cushions.
44:32Do you wear ear trumpets?
44:33No.
44:34No.
44:34No, no, I just didn't catch what you said.
44:36That's right.
44:38I really was quite surprised he'd had three wives.
44:41I would have thought any of them could have held on to him,
44:44because he was just quite good fun.
44:46You're very fit for your age.
44:54Hello.
44:55Hello, Claire.
44:57Mind the step.
44:59Yeah, mind the step, I've got that.
45:00Do you think you'd like to see someone again?
45:02Well, you're going to see ladies first, aren't you?
45:05That's a normal way, but I don't mind if you'd prefer me to say it first.
45:08I don't have a problem.
45:08Yes, you can say it first.
45:09OK.
45:10Yeah, I'll see you again.
45:13Yes, I'd very much like to see him again.
45:20I haven't had anybody hold my hand in.
45:22Well, there we are.
45:23I'll hold your hand again.
45:24How about that?
45:24Give me your hand in.
45:25There we are.
45:26Holding it.
45:26Lovely.
45:33I know nothing about weights.
45:34No, don't worry.
45:35But the waiter was well impressed.
45:38I lie a lot.
45:39I weigh about it.
45:39I finally found somebody who could make me be true, could make me be blue, or even be glad
45:55just to be sad thinking of you.
46:10Had to be you.
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46:35Lucinda Light and Professor Green need in Brand New Celebs Go Date and starting Monday at
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46:40Before we flirt, we fangirl big time over KSI and Robbie Williams next tonight on TFI Friday
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